The Brett Cooper Show – Episode 76: "Women Are Wrong About What Men Really Want"

Date: October 15, 2025
Host: Brett Cooper

Episode Overview

In this episode, Brett Cooper addresses viral conversations on social media (primarily X, formerly Twitter) about women’s fears regarding how motherhood affects attractiveness, relationships, and specifically, perceptions of their postpartum bodies. She dissects generational and cultural trends shaping modern attitudes toward marriage, commitment, and body image, pushing back on narratives that suggest men are repulsed by postpartum women or that traditional relationships are doomed. Brett asserts that positive cultural shifts are taking place, encourages women to pursue meaningful commitment, and debunks myths about parental attraction and body changes.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Viral Discourse on Marriage & Commitment

• The Gossip Girl Meme & Hollywood’s Influence (00:45)

  • Brett starts by referencing a viral X (Twitter) post, where a meme from Gossip Girl mocks the idea of marrying and sleeping with just one person for life:

    "Y’all really wanna get married and have sex with the same person for the rest of your life? All capital letters, the audacity, the insanity."

  • Brett notes the post’s huge reach (20 million impressions), tying its popularity to cultural messages young women have received over decades glamorizing promiscuity and undermining commitment.

• Shifting Attitudes Among Pop Culture Icons (04:05)

  • Despite years of hookup culture glorification, prominent female pop stars (Charli XCX, Dua Lipa, Selena Gomez, Taylor Swift) openly celebrate engagement, marriage, and the desire for family.

    "These are extremely, extremely attractive women at the top of their game with huge currency in the sexual marketplace, and they are choosing to very publicly commit themselves to one man..." (05:10)

• Change in Media Consumption (06:30)

  • Shows glorifying casual sex (Sex and the City, Girls) have declined in popularity.
  • Now, women are gravitating toward romantic, commitment-focused shows like "The Summer I Turned Pretty"—even adult women, seeking escapism rooted in nostalgia, romance, and the possibility of "happily ever after."
  • Quoting Elle’s coverage of the phenomenon:

    "The Summer I Turn Pretty is more than a teen drama. It is a time machine, a soft, glittering portal to the versions of ourselves that we used to be..." (08:45)

2. Internet Commentary: Rejection of Hookup Culture

• Viral Post Comments and Societal Reflection (12:45)
  • Brett highlights how the comments surrounding the anti-commitment meme overwhelmingly rejected its premise, with users openly defending monogamy and stability:

    "Why would I want to have sex with different people? That's effing gross."
    "Y’all really want to avoid committing yourself to one person to instead have sex with dozens of strangers till you're like 40 and then be all alone and miserable for the rest of your life? Yeah, ew, that's gross."

3. Debate on Postpartum Bodies and Attractiveness

• Origin of the Postpartum Debate (16:00)

  • Brett introduces another debate fueled by viral posts—women expressing fear that pregnancy will "ruin their bodies" and that men are "disgusted" by postpartum women.
  • She notes that, surprisingly, the harshest critics in these threads were other women, not men.

    "Women are our own harshest critics... Nine times out of 10, it is women who are doing that and not men." (18:40)

• Men's Supportive Responses (19:00)

  • Men’s responses largely debunked the idea that they’re repulsed by postpartum bodies:

    "As a man with three kids, this is nonsensical rage bait."
    "No, we’re not. Lol. Who told you that? Somebody with purple hair?"
    "If the male opinion on female beauty mattered this much in women’s life choices, buccal fat removal would be a crime."
    "Not when it is the mother of our children. And right there is the key point." (20:20)

• Perspective on Body Changes and Relationship Health (22:00)

  • Brett encourages women to seek partners who are supportive, loving, and understanding—acknowledging that both men’s and women’s bodies change over time.

    "All bodies change, whether that is through giving birth, aging, injuries, illness, stress, et cetera. We can only hope that we did our best to marry somebody who will love us and find us attractive and fight for us and encourage us, encourage us to be healthy above all throughout all of that." (25:20)

4. Empowerment, Exceptionalism, and Modern Feminism

• Who Truly Drives Criticism? (18:40, 19:00)
  • Brett contends modern feminism often blames men for oppressive beauty standards, but feels it is more often women who police each other’s appearances and choices.
• Rejecting the "Black Pill" Narrative (27:30)
  • She refuses to succumb to defeatism (“black-pilling”), instead spotlighting men’s supportive responses as evidence for healthier emerging norms around relationships and parenthood.

5. Commitment, Family, and What Women Should Seek

• On Choosing the Right Partner (26:40)
  • Brett cautions women to prioritize partners who will value and support them through all stages of life—not fleetingly attractive men.

    "Is this a man who will take care of you and find you beautiful when you are nine months pregnant? ...uplift you when you are crying?... That is what you should be searching for, not some fleeting pleasure with a different guy every single night." (27:30)

• Final Takeaway on Change, Body Image, and Love (30:15)
  • Brett summarizes with an encouragement:

    "You should not let that stop you from wanting children because of your attachment to your current body. Because, guys, it's gonna change regardless. Like that's just kind of how life works. We just have to get on board and try to take care of it and find a good partner who will love you through all of it." (30:30)

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On the Culture Shift:

  "While it's easy to look at a world of Alex Cooper's and Hollywood promiscuity and hookup culture and just feel impending doom like there is no light at the end of the tunnel, I promise you, it does feel like things are starting to change now." (04:00)

• On Adult Women Consuming YA Romance:

  "They are waiting with bated breath to figure out how a youthful teenage love triangle turns out... But adult women are captivated by this very romantic show." (07:15)

• On Marriage and Parenting:

  "You better be damn sure about the man that you are sleeping with. Because is this a man who will take care of you and find you beautiful when you are 9 months pregnant?... That is what you should be thinking about." (26:50)

Key Timestamps

• 00:45 – Viral Gossip Girl meme/post on X sparks debate on marriage
• 04:05 – Shifting attitudes among Hollywood women toward commitment
• 06:30 – Popular culture moving away from ‘Sex and the City’ style shows
• 08:45 – Elle’s analysis of why adult women crave YA romance
• 12:45 – Social media users overwhelmingly reject anti-commitment stance
• 16:00 – Introduction of postpartum attractiveness debate
• 18:40 – Brett argues women are their own harshest critics
• 19:00–20:20 – Noteworthy supportive comments by men on postpartum bodies
• 22:00 – Real talk about physical changes in relationships
• 25:20 – The beauty of commitment amid aging and body changes
• 26:40–27:30 – You should be seeking a lasting, supportive partnership
• 30:30 – Parting message: You—and your body—are worthy of enduring love

Summary

Brett Cooper’s Episode 76 is a direct, heartfelt examination of the pressures women face around marriage, sex, and their bodies—especially in the context of motherhood. She systematically dismantles viral anxieties about commitment and postpartum attractiveness, offering cultural evidence that mindsets are shifting toward prioritizing healthy, lasting relationships. Through her nuanced critique of both internet discourse and broader generational trends, Brett’s message is both empowering and encouraging: True love and support transcend superficial standards, and real commitment, not superficial hookup culture, is what most people (both women and men) truly seek and find fulfilling.