← Everything Is Energy with Cathy Heller
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Kathy Heller
2026 is not asking you to set yet another goal. It's asking you, who are you finally willing to be. What we're doing here is the part that most people avoid the decision. The part where you stop pushing your real life to someday and realize that it's now. I just led an intention setting workshop all about raising your standards, about committing to what you're available for this year and what you're not available for. No more vague promises, no more dragging old patterns into a new calendar year. In this one hour workshop, I'm going to help you choose a clear embodied intention for your year, understand why past intentions never stick, set standards that you're actually going to keep, get honest about what you're no longer available for, and learn how to follow through all year without forcing. This is not just motivation, it's actually recalibration. This is the kind of workshop where your energy cleans up, your boundaries solidify, and you stop negotiating with your true self. You don't need another sign. You don't need to keep waiting for something. You don't need to keep postponing the life that's calling you. It's time. It's time to step into the life that's always been yours. You can watch the full replay of this intention setting workshop@kathyheller.com replay this one hour will change 2026 for the better. Hey guys, it's Kathy Heller.
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Workshop Participant or Host Assistant
Welcome back to the Kathy Heller Podcast.
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Kathy Heller
I hope you had a beautiful weekend. We've been having such an incredible time celebrating Hanukkah. It's been so special. I love being with the girls and doing different things with them. And of course it was so devastating what happened with the Hanukkah celebration in Australia. Unbelievably sad. But you know, the rabbi said, our actual local rabbi, he actually grew up in Sydney and he was talking about Hanukkah and why, even though it's an eight day holiday, we don't light eight candles every single night of the eight days we actually light one and then the second night we light two and on and on until the eighth day when we light all eight lights. And he said it's because our job is to always bring more light to the world. And so that is just such an incredible thing for every soul to think about that what we celebrate is being in this world, what a blessing it is to be here. And that each of us, our job is to always add more light. And I just thought I would share that with you. So in honor of all of the people around the world who could use more light let us do that. So speaking of that, I recently, just last week I did a workshop and it was all about how are we going to set intentions and set ourself up to have the most beautiful 2026? This workshop was so fun to do and I really felt like it was extremely powerful. I felt like things really clicked into place. It's not just cute to do like New Year's resolutions. It's not just a vibe to have a night where you say, oh, here's what I wanna do. Like January feels amazing and then by February you kind of just forget it all. It's our lives and we have these incredible dreams on layaway and we have this incredible potential. And we know on some level that, that we don't self honor by putting off the things that actually matter to us. And living lives where we don't feel a hundred percent aligned, we don't feel like we're actually waking up every day living the life that we were designed to live. And so I hosted this workshop where we got really clear on what are you no longer available for and who do you want to commit to be in 2026? And you're going to get to hear some of this today. We got really honest about who have we all been and what have we been tolerating and what is the version of us that actually is over it. Like we don't want to continue the same patterns. And then we really are going to get into today deciding what is it.
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Workshop Participant or Host Assistant
Going to look like, what are we.
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Kathy Heller
Going to commit to for 2026? Number not someday, not somewhere in the future, but now. There's a person that you know you are. There's a version of you. It's the version of you who says yes to really what feels right in your soul. This version of you no longer negotiates. She just knows what's a full body. Yes. And she knows the way she's supposed to move through the day. And she knows the way she's supposed to bring energy into a room. And she knows what she expects from herself and from life. Because the truth is the life that we want to be living, it's not that it needs a vision board. It needs you to actually assume the identity of your most powerful self. Your peace follows your boundaries, your standards. Everything in your life, whatever it is, your health, your wealth, it all is responding to whatever is the standard that you set for yourself and the energy and the resonance. And so everything in our life is a result of who We've committed to be. And when this really lands, there's just something that shifts. And when we really get this, then all of a sudden, we just start moving differently, we start choosing differently, and life meets us in a new way. So that's the energy that I'm in right now. And this workshop, it was just very precise. It was the kind of thing that gives you clarity, that settles in your nervous system, and you can start to feel that 2026 is inevitable. This level of beauty, this level of grace, this level of ease. So if you're done feeling like you're in a loop where every year is a little bit of Groundhog Day, then this is a must. Listen, this is going to feel so worth it. And you might even want to get out a pen and paper and take some notes and do some of the exercises with us that you're setting up your year in the way that it's really intentional. And I hope that it helps you choose. Instead of feeling like your old habits are in charge, I hope that you feel like the best part of you gets to be in charge this new year. So let's dive in.
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Workshop Participant or Host Assistant
Here we go. Let's start the party. Who is excited? You are here because you want next year to be the best year ever. You want next year to feel like everything that you knew was already an escrow for you is landing in your life. Yes. Let's do it. So I am certain that everything that you have been desiring, you get to have. Oh, my goodness, what a fun way to start a zoom call and hear that. But it is the truth. There's a reason why you desire all of those expansive, beautiful things that you just keep thinking about. Whether it's the way you want to step into better relationships, whether it's a better relationship with yourself, whether it's your health, whether it's your monetary goals. All of that comes from the part of you that actually knows your potential, and it has a high standard for your life. And what we're going to do today is we're going to crack the code so you actually have the year that you want to have. Now, most people, they spend some time thinking about this, right? They go into the new year with some level of, here's what I desire to create. And typically, what do people do? They'll join the gym. They'll. They'll get new sneakers. They'll buy an outfit from Lululemon. They're like, let's go. My health matters. And by January 17, they drop the ball, right? Or they Decide this year I'm going to step up in my career. I'm going to come out the gate of the new year just really ready to uplevel my business or go for a different position. And somewhere, three, four weeks in, things start to get off track. Now why do you think that is? Why do you think that people have the best of intentions but they don't actually get the outcome that they desire? Why do you think it is that we make all these New Year's resolutions? We have the party, we do the toast, we tell our friends, we write it in our journal. But then life often feels like Groundhog Day. We often feel like have the exact same reality repeat itself in different ways. Okay, so here's what you're saying. You're saying because it is a pattern, because we're out of alignment, because of fear, because we revert back, because of our self worth, because goals are too big, we need discipline and commitment, because they haven't changed their mindset, because the same is comfortable, because they're trying hard to make it happen. Okay, so all of these things are true, right? You guys are. You're on to me. No, you're good at this stuff. But the main thing here has to do with your identity. Because the bigger question, what do I need to do? Is usually the question that people ask, what do I need to do? And the question actually is who do I need to be? So write that down. Who do I need to be? And what we're going to do today is choose, make a choice about what that identity is that you are going to do. What commit to. Because when you focus on the question of who do I choose to be? You commit to that level of standard. You commit to operating from that place. And when you operate from this place of self integrity, when you operate from a place of being self referenced, and we'll talk about what all of this means, you then can follow through on what it is that you do need to do. Right? If anybody read James Clear's book on atomic habits, it's a best selling book. A lot of people have read it. I had him on my podcast. We talked about the habits. All of the habits are out there. People know what high achieving habits are. You don't really have to go very far. You could go to your chat GPT, you can go to YouTube, you can go to the bookstore, you could figure out instantly, right? Within a few seconds you could get the information on what you need to do to be healthier, wealthier, have better sex, have better kids, all Those things. It's not that you're lacking the information on what to do. It has to do with being programmed, being familiar with a low standard in terms of what you tolerate and in terms of your own operating system. And so when James and I talked about this on the show, I said, what's the most important habit? And the most important habit has to do with all things related to you and how you understand your own identity. Because when you believe and you choose to be a person who says, I am a healthy person, then you're not going to pick up a pack of cigarettes. You don't need to be told it's your identity. You will be congruent with that identity. So intention, setting, it's not just like a cute thing. It's not just like, oh, it's cute, it's a vibe. We'll set an intention. At the end of the day, we each have these lives waiting for us in escrow. And they're beautiful, right? And they're expansive and they allow you to be like in your power. Showing up every day, enjoying the day, slowing down, not rushing, not proving, walking into a room not like you need something, but that you're there to give something, right? Not only that, you have all of these dreams on layaway that you want to fulfill. So it might be time to fully commit, not hope, not wish, but commit to the truth of your identity, to who you really want and know you were designed to be. When we do that, that's when setting intentions will actually stick. So today we're going to go through a few exercises, going to have you get out a pen and paper, and we're going to begin to move the kaleidoscope so that we actually see through a different lens as a different operator from within, that we change the version of ourself who we've been pretending to be. It's not even you. The things that are keeping you from your desired life and outcome are the things you don't even want to be doing. There are parts of your identity that aren't even essential to your essence. They're things that you. You added in along the way for survival, right? We all have these ways in which from the age of 0 to 12, we learn behaviors that we thought would help us to get through whatever it is we were going through. And so stepping into the truth of your identity is not. Let me just make sure you hear me. It is not about becoming someone new. It's actually about becoming who you really are. It's actually about being true to yourself. It's actually about committing to what's actually the truth, committing to the highest version of your own authentic self. This is not about taking on a new personality or a new Persona. This is about peeling away what's never really been you, what doesn't serve you, things that you picked up that keep you from really being sovereign to your truth, moving through life from wholeness, from the part of you that is actually who you are. So I'm really excited to do all this with you and do. Just because it's going to be even more helpful for you. What we're going to do starting January 1st, and at the end of this, you can join us January 1st for 14 days, every single day of the the new year, I'm going to show up with you and we're going to take what we do today and we're going to embody that. So at the end of this, you can join that. It's only 26 bucks. It's a great way to start your year. I highly, highly recommend that you will embody this because it's so easy for us to get right back into familiar patterns. Like right now, I wear Invisalign, and when I take my Invisalign off, which I did this morning, my teeth move back every time. Right. And it is just. It's a practice that we have to commit to being in alignment. So we will talk about that at the end. But this workshop is designed for you to leave here feeling really good and having really solid understanding and really solid intentions. So this workshop stands on its own. Even if you don't join us in January, I'm so, I'm so happy for you that you're here. And I feel like you're going to be like, that was such a valuable use of my time. And it's free, so enjoy it. And if you're joining us late, you can always watch Replay and go back to whatever you missed or I highly recommend watching it again. Nps. I happen to have these on my desk. My book, I highly recommend. These are both on sale on Amazon. And I highly recommend that you read that because that is going to, again, anchor you deeper into this work. Okay, let's dive in right now. Okay. So the first thing I actually want to do with you, we're going to do an exercise, but the first thing that we're going to do is have you close your eyes. We're going to do a quick two minute meditation, a two minute visualization to anchor this in. Why? Because words don't teach because we learn through experiential moments. And so it's one thing for me to talk to you, and hopefully you're like, Kathy's kind of bubbly and pretty inspiring. I hope so. Right. But the real truth of it is that you have it within you. And the more that I can help you find the tuning fork that allows you to go deep inside the experience of what I'm saying for yourself, it'll actually start to stick. So I want you to close your eyes, close your eyes for a moment and take a few deep breaths. Okay. We literally forget to breathe. So if you want to just feel yourself breathing, put your hand on your belly, feel your belly fill up as you breathe in. We're going to do this three times. Three luscious, indulgent, gorgeous, grateful, beautiful present breaths. Here we go. Breathing in. Breathing in again. Breathing in to the world within you, the truth within you, the power within you, and breathing out everything that feels like noise, everything that's not you. One more time. Breathing into the essence of you, your soul, the part of you that is connected to God, connected to the divine feeling, into going deeper inside of your own being, arriving at your own door. Now just place one hand on your heart and just allow everything to melt away besides this moment right now. I give you permission to be right here, fully in this moment. There's nothing right now for you to rush to do other than be right here in this moment, taking this moment for yourself to find center, to find equanimity. That is the best gift you could give to the world around you, is to deepen your attention and and experience in this moment. There's nothing to fix, nowhere to go. Good. Now, with every breath, you're allowing your whole nervous system to settle. You're allowing your shoulders to drop. You're allowing your jaw to unflench. Okay, now here we go. I want you to imagine that you are standing at the threshold of 20, 26. And as you stand at this threshold, you look over this threshold and you just see this expansive, beautiful reality. It's shimmering. It is filled with unlimited, infinite potential and possibility and calling you in to the most magnetic, scrumptious, fulfilling, beautifully inflow life. And I want you to just feel yourself, not rushing into it, not bracing for something, but arriving. And just feel yourself at this threshold. And notice who you become when you stand at this threshold, committed to the truth within you, to the authentic power within you, to the love within you, to the part of you that is a vehicle for light, for wisdom, for compassion, standing Here with equanimity and wholeness. Notice the way this version of your identity that it feels. How do you hold yourself? Notice the way your body feels when you're not pushing and you're not proving and you are trusting divine guidance and you are trusting divine timing and you are available for the mystical, the synchronicity and you become the tuning fork and reality is rearranging around you because you are so resonant. This version of you is committed to the highest standard of being. She moves through her days with clarity, with certainty that she's always being led to the right place at the right time. She listens to her intuition without negotiating it. She's grounded and receptive and self referenced. Feel what it's like to live from this place, to make decisions from this part of you. To say yes when it's a full body, yes, to say no without an explanation. Notice how your whole being responds when you choose this identity. What relaxes, what steadies. Let this feeling settle into your body and gently say to yourself, I choose to walk into 2026 from this place, Inflow, sovereign, connected, having a conversation with the Divine, deeply rooted and grounded. Take one more breath and when you're ready, blink your eyes open and just tell me in the chat, how does that feel? You could use a word, you could say it in a few words. What just came through? Easy, delicious, relaxed, peaceful, amazing, great. Now part of it is and part of the reason why we do in our community, a morning practice and part of the reason I will be doing that with you every morning for 14 days, it's starting in January, is because change your morning, change your life. We have so much research around setting, intention and I've used these words self referenced already today, several times. What it means is instead of the tail wagging the dog, which is how most people feel their days go, it's like life is pulling them rather than moving from center from sovereignty. Most of the time what makes us feel bad, stressed, chaotic, is not being self referenced, is constantly being plugged in and externally focused and operating from the old identity, the identity that we built at six or seven or eight years old that was all about needing to over function. And when we're unconscious and we keep operating from that old identity, life doesn't feel delicious. We don't find the wholeness within us. We are looking outside of ourselves and then constantly reacting and constantly put into a fight or flight response, looking at the notifications on our phones, trying to manage all the energy around us all the time. When the fact of the matter is when we plug into what is centered within us, we actually create more resonance around us. If we ever wanted to have an impact on the world around us, it actually happens by being connected to the sovereignty, the wisdom, the peace within us. And all day long if we want to have greater results and outcomes, it's about the resonance, it's about going deeper into the power within, within us, not in the mind, right? But within us is the wisdom, the compassion, the creativity, the inspiration, the desire with a capital D for what we actually came here to create. And so we need to be self referenced and we need to commit, make a commitment to a higher standard of being that instead of just happening through every day and oh, oh, I didn't get around to my walk. Oh, I didn't get around to drinking enough water. Oh, I didn't get around to some quiet time to journal or read or meditate. No, it comes from low self worth. When we are out of self integrity, we have to be in a position where we choose the identity of the woman who actually has integrity with herself. So one way that we're going to do this is by choosing, okay, we're going to choose a word for this year and people sometimes do this, but I'm going to give you a little teaching around it to make it even more helpful and more sticky in a good way so it actually sticks. So let's do this exercise first and then we'll move on to the next one. So when it comes to choosing a word, okay, this is not just a cute like pinterest word. This is a word you're going to choose that is like a regulatory word. And what I mean is you want to choose a word that actually brings about when you have it, when you say it, when you're reminded of it. And we can come up with the word and then we can think about where you can put this word, right? You could have it on your wallpaper, on your phone, as a reminder. You could put it on a sticky note under the visor of your car so that you can like look at it before you get in the car and drive off every day. You could keep it next to your bed. But whatever this word is going to be, we want the word that you choose not just to be aspirational, but instructional meaning a word that when you say actually brings your body into a feeling of regulation. Okay? So examples are grounded, steady, rooted, open, available, and a word. It's not that this word is magic, but it's a cue. It tells Your nervous system, how to respond instead of reacting. And it will help you when life pulls you into old patterns, which that will happen. This is something that your brain, because your brain loves simplicity. It's a reminder, right? That one word is a shortcut back to the identity that you're choosing. So that's why I say the word should be instructional rather than aspirational. Do you guys get the distinction in that? So examples would be, if I want to choose the word abundance, an instructional word might be, instead of abundance, grounded. Because again, if I feel grounded, I'm in wholeness, which is what manifests abundance. If I chose the word successful, maybe the word that's instructional is actually available. Right? I am available for whatever the most beautiful opportunities are. And I feel that in my body, as an instruction, move into receptivity. That's what being available is. If I wanted to have ease this year, maybe the word that's instructional would be steady. Where can I find in myself the part of me that feels steady? So take out your pen and paper. I see that you're already choosing words, which is phenomenal. Those might very well be the words you chose. But let me just have you answer a couple journal prompts so we can see if we can help you find a word. Okay, so write down this sentence and fill in the blank. What word makes my body exhale? When you think of a word. I've said several today already that maybe are helpful. Like for me, the word sovereign. That's actually my word for 2026, because I've been saying it a lot this year. And that word is very instructional for me. It's like sovereignty means coming into what's true for me and operating from the part of me that is sovereign. Not people pleasing, not trying so hard to over function and manage the room. Moving into sovereignty. So what word makes your body exhale? Just take a moment, write that down. I'm going to give you three prompts and then we're going to see if we can find some words. I love these words. Rooted, peaceful, anchored, beautiful words. Receptive. One of my favorite words. My whole book is about reception. Okay, here's the next prompt. When I'm overwhelmed, what quality brings me back to myself? When you're feeling overwhelmed, what quality brings you back to yourself? One of my favorite words is equanimity. Because it's being with what is. And there is a part of me that can be with whatever it is. Just sit beside the river without judgment. Just notice the joy, the grief, the beauty. Just being beside this beautiful human experience that is very grounding for me, having an equanimity practice and just being available for presence. I'm going to give you one more. Awe is a beautiful one. Just having awe and reverence. Because what that really signifies in Dr. Lisa Miller's work talks about this. The brain literally looks different when we have awe. When we have awe, we call that like a spiritual brain, right? A brain that has wonder for what is bigger than us. Our brain actually moves into a much more coherent place because we get out of fight orf flight and we move into awe, right? We can't be in a state of awe and wonder and feeling connected to the greatness of this universe and at the same time be in anxiety. Those two, they can't actually happen at the same time. So awe is beautiful. Let me give you one more. What word describes the version of you who follows through brave, freedom, audacity, curious, fearless, strong, integrity. I love the word integrity. I love the word congruent. I love the word committed because. And those of you in our community heard me say this this week, whether we want to acknowledge or not, we're all committed to something. And whether we are committed to getting our steps in or we're committed to sitting on the couch eating Doritos, we're all committed. Whether we're committed to doing things halfway, that's still a commitment. And there is a way in which our lack of commitment to our high standards is complete self abandonment. And it's not cute. There's nothing cute about year after year realizing you've been committed to self abandonment. Really hear that? Because most of, if not all the women in my life either have been overcoming this or are still in this, but this is, it's like a phenomenon. And what this moment is about and why you're here is because there is a awareness in you that it really hurts you, that you continue to self abandon, to put yourself last on the priority list, to stay committed to not putting yourself as a priority. And we can't just go into the new year saying, well, I hope that I'll follow through with that. It's not a hope, it's not cute. It's an absolute necessity for you to have the peace, the joy, the fulfillment, the leadership, the business you want. All of that is on the other side of committing to no longer be externally referenced, but to choose a different operator from within. Okay, what I want you to do now is I want you to look at the prompts and whatever words you just put on the page and circle a Word, not five words, one word that feels like it gets you right into alignment. Pick a word and if it's the word you already said before, that's fine too. And remember, these are words that should feel like instruction. They move you back into the part of you. Good. I love it. Embodiment. That's a really good instructional word. Expansive. Rooted. Devoted. Committed. Power. Ease. Okay, how good does this feel? First of all, I'm so excited. Like this is pretty major. It's actually pretty major that we did that work walking from the place we walked from to find this word. Because it's not just a cute word. Like I said, it's not just a pinterest word. It's coming back to you like waves onto the beach and back to continuously remind you to come back to the truth of who you are so life doesn't pull you. Instead you are sovereign, you are directed, you are intentional. And then you get the outcomes that are meant for you. Okay, so the next thing that we're going to do is we're going to work a little bit with the identity that we're now really building. Right? We're building the model in terms of the identity that we are going to step into. We're going to identify this identity, step into it, embody it, and then operate from this place. Okay? So I want you to take your pen and paper and I want you to draw a line down the middle. And before we go into this, I just want to say that goals collapse. Goals collapse when they're built on an expired identity. So identity really is answering the question of who am I moving as whether people are watching or not. Higher identity, it's not that it's louder, it's actually quieter because it's coming from the calmer, more self reference place. This part of you is in receptive mode, which means it's less forcing and it comes more from the magnetism of the resonance within you. So I want you to think about, and by the way, you put a line down the center of the page, turn the page over for a second, we're going to come back to that. I want you to think about this just for a minute in terms of this past year because now we're really getting, we're really becoming more awake and we're really looking at this under a microscope. But I want you to look at this last year and answer this prompt. Who was I being when things worked easily this last year? Thinking about your identity, who were you being when things worked easily? Right. Was there anything you can Think of this year that actually worked. Whether it was how you showed up as a parent or how you showed up in your business, or how you showed up in your love life, or how you showed up with your health, who were you being when things worked well, right? I had a lot of things go well this last year because I also had basically an old ego death this year. And I really and truly said goodbye to the parts of me that were really self abandoning. And as a result of choosing to be more in integrity, so many things happened, right? I stopped drinking alcohol completely in June. I lost 26 pounds, not even thinking I would. I thought I was going to lose like 10. Okay. I started taking care of my health. I moved. I created a sanctuary in my backyard, which I had wanted to do for years, where every single morning I have my place where I go and I. It's non negotiable for me to have this space where my phone never enters this space. It is really and truly the happiest place on earth for me. Okay? It's not Disneyland. It's this place in my backyard. I told my husband that our marriage needed to end as it was because I was not really showing up or feeling that the dynamic served either of us. And I changed things with my kids. I pulled my kids out of competitive private schools and moved them into playing tennis and taking private art lessons and getting really good solid tutoring because I was no longer willing to just keep operating from this old identity that keeps up with the Joneses. So we did a lot of things differently this year. But it all came and it all stuck because I chose a new identity. And by the way, throughout my life, I've continued to get the outcomes that I want by making big identity changes. So when things worked for you this last year, there were things that worked. Who were you being when it worked? Were you the version of you who was honest? Were you the version of you who was being authentic? Were you the version of you who was letting go of guilt? We just got this T shirt and I think. I think it's from redone. Is that a retrofit? I don't know what the name. I'll find the brand, but it basically says, like, I'm not available for guilt. And that was a big thing for me this year is like, I'm not available for guilt because guilt is a killer. Like, I'm just gonna live from what feels truthful and loving. And love would do this and love would say this and love would fire this person and love would move and Love would tell this teacher that, no, I don't care if my kids get straight A's because I don't care about them getting into competitive colleges. I just want them to have mental health. That's what I said to her dean. He's like, how do we get her to all A's? And I was like, we have different goals. I want her to be okay. I want her to go to sleep at night feeling like she's a really beautifully well adjusted, happy person. So we're done actually. We're actually done, right? So love doesn't have guilt because it just comes from the truth and lets everybody else be responsible for their own reactions. Okay, so who are you being when things work easily? Next question is, this is kind of going to go the other way because we need to be able to have awareness. Mindfulness works because mindfulness is awareness. And when we are aware, guess what happens? We change, right? If I told you that you're gonna walk into my house and I said, oh, just be aware, you know, there's a box from FedEx right in front of the door. You won't trip over the box because I'm telling you to be aware of it, right? But if I don't tell you, you might trip over the box, right? Mindfulness works because we become radically aware. So the next question is to bring you into awareness because the more aware you are, even if you don't like seeing it, when you can't unsee it, you'll actually make a different choice. So the next question is, who were you being when things felt the opposite of good? When they felt heavy and sticky, when you felt stuck? Who were you being? Were you over functioning? Were you people pleasing? Were you not giving yourself permission to say or do whatever it is that you needed to do? Panicked? Who were you being? Were you the kind of person who was having a slow morning or were you rushed all the time? Were you improving mode? Were you outside of yourself? Rather than making sure that being grounded in your own well being is the number one priority, that you have to be the best version of you every single day. So before we turn the paper back over, the last question is, and I see a lot of really good answers, right? I was out of my body. I was keeping up, I was rushing. I was a kite in the wind. I love that as a way of, right? You don't want to be a kite in the wind. We're just being blown all different directions, right? And so often we experience ourselves and other people like that. And you can Just tell, oh my God, this person scrolled their phone all day. You can just feel it on them. Or oh my gosh, this person just got into it. They just got into all the circus around them. Rather than moving from what is actually needing your biggest attention. What's on your heart, what's your one macro move? Today the world is going to throw you so much stuff. Maybe the most important thing is not the shiny thing you post on Instagram. It's having quality time with one of your kids that really needs your attention. Maybe the most important thing on your day is getting quiet time to have white space on the calendar so you can just have your creativity be your muse because it needs your attention, right? You getting to have your mornings back, whether it's five or 10 minutes. And research shows this. I was actually so excited last night because one of our favorites from Dancing with the Stars, she reposted this thing I wrote about mornings. I wrote this thing about how research shows that how you spend the first 10 to 20 minutes of your morning, it's called emotional priming, and you basically copy paste all day long. The state of being that you begin your day with. Now, if you know that, if you know that that has real research significance. Why would you spend the first 10 to 20 minutes of your day doing anything other than feeling plugged into and connected to your soul? Your truth, Journaling, meditating, talking to God, taking a walk, taking off your shoes, putting your feet in the earth, whatever it is that you have to do. Why would you decide to stay committed? Waking up every day, scrolling your phone, looking at all the toxicity, whatever it is, responding to a text from your sister, getting into stuff with work. 10 to 20 minutes. First 10 to 20 minutes of your day, where's that going to get you by 3:00'? Clock? And now let's say you do that every single day. How many weeks go by, how many months go by before you go, wait a minute, it's me living my life, but I'm not living it. I'm being pulled like a kite in the wind. Which is why, and all of you in our community, because everyone, our membership is going to do it with us anyway. We're going to start January 1st, every single day together. And those of you who are feeling like this might be a good idea, I think it's kathyheller.com 2026. And you can have an insurance policy that you're going to begin those 14 days with me. Now, if you say to yourself, but I might be traveling and I don't know what time she's going to be on Zoom, going to create a private podcast just for those replays. So whether you do it with me live, which it will be every single day, going from the 1st to the 14th, or you listen as soon as it gets put into the pod private podcast, you will know that is me every single day, starting my year, embodying this identity. Okay, cool. So I can't wait to see you guys. I see some people like, I'm already signed up. Great. It's going to be great. It's worth $26. And by the way, the price goes up once it's January 1st, so get it now because it's only 26 bucks to do it and it's so worth it. There's no even amount of value you can put on this kind of conversation and this kind of practice and getting this practice to be king, to be queen in your day is everything. Everything. Okay, now let's go. We're going to turn the page over. We're going to do another exercise. So the first thing I want you to do is we're going to just take a moment before we do this exercise. So close your eyes, hand on heart, breathe into the body. We are moving into the higher identity that feels calmer, that does not rush, that does not live on the gasoline of proving itself. This part of you is self reference and sovereign. And I want to invite you into the version of you who can find wholeness, who can really drop in and trust yourself and therefore trust that this year will be magical because all you've really been looking for is this peace within you. And when you can trust yourself to keep coming back and spending time here, you can then trust in this year that it will be different, that it won't be a repeat of Groundhog Day. I want you to just notice what begins to relax when you choose to turn the radio dial within you to this station. What relaxes when you choose receptivity? What expands? What possibilities start to become a possibility? Just feel the steadiness in this. And I want you to just ask yourself, what would become available if I didn't go into this year rushing and proving, but I went into this year from internal well being, equanimity and high standards around what I allow my experience to be every day non negotiables around how I spend my morning? What would become available this year? What does receptivity require me to stop doing? What does this version of me require me to stop doing? What does peace require me to stop doing? Okay, when you're ready, you're going to open your eyes, you're going to turn your page to where it says you have like that thing down the middle. Okay? And so on one part of the page, on the left side, I want you to write the old operator. This is the old version of you, the version of you that you were when you get into that old state of being. And on the right side, you're going to write the 2026 version. Okay? 2026 operator, 2026 identity. So left side, right side. On the left side of the page, I want you to look at this old version and I really want you to be honest without any judgment because the more we're aware, the more we won't just bump right into it. Okay? On the left side, these are the things I want you to answer. Number one, how does she decide? Does she make decisions from guilt? Does she make decisions from people pleasing? Does she make decisions from impressing, being rushed? How does she decide? Write that down. I'm going to give you a few prompts. This old identity, what has she been available for? If you're being honest, you're being aware, if you're being mindful, which means to pay attention without judgment, what has she been available for? Has she been available to get into the circus around her, get into other people's issues? Has she been available for being really busy all the time, just constantly feeling like day gets away from her? Has she been available for scrolling the phone and not having a high standard about what she's consuming content wise? Has she been available to skip her morning routine? Has she been available to shrink in conversations? Has she been available to operate her business from a place of wanting to be liked? Like what has she been available for? So, so far, on the left side of the page we have this old version of you, the old operator. We wrote down how does she decide things? How does she make decisions? And we wrote down what has she been available for? And now I want you to do one more, which is how does she treat her own energy? Does she manage it? Does she make sure, just like her phone is charged, that she's charged? Does she think about that? Energy is life force and she only has a certain amount, so is she giving too much energy away? How does she treat her own energy? And you start to see as you go through these prompts, the level of lack of, of self worth, the lack of self integrity and where we have been practicing self abandonment. Now, on the right side of the page, I want you to write down the 2026 identity. The truth. When we get into this part of your identity that you've been really feeling into during this workshop, how did she decide? How does she make decisions? Does she make decisions from love? What would love say? What would love do? Does she make decisions from probability or possibility? Does she make decisions from what she trusts in? Does she make decisions from her divine assignment or who other people tell her she has to be? How does she decide the 2026 identity, which is really you? And how does she receive? Is she receptive? Is she available? Does she feel willing to be in overflow, to have life surprise and delight her? Someone gives her a compliment, she says, thank you. I received that. Someone pays for her lunch. Thank you so much. I received that. Someone offers her to do this beautiful career move, and she says, absolutely, I'll be there. How does she receive? How receptive is she? How does she begin her days? Does she tap into her intuition and receive that download? Or does she constantly look outside of her for answers? So on this side of the page, we have how does she decide? How does she receive? And the last one is, what is she no longer available for? What is this identity? The truth of you, the part of you that is calling yourself up into your full integrity? What is she no longer available for? So what we're realizing is. And there's a beautiful quote from Rumi, right? It says, what you seek is seeking you. But what you seek is seeking you doesn't mean that you're waiting. It means that when you declare who you are, life reorganizes around you. When you declare who you are, life reorganizes to meet that standard. You might want to write down that phrase, when you declare who you are, life reorganizes to meet that standard. So when we step into this identity, certain options disappear. When you step into this identity, old patterns lose their grip. When you step into this identity, clarity replaces the chaos. Because think about it. Everything in our life, all the results, how healthy, how wealthy, all the things that are happening in our life, those outcomes are the results of an identity. Why? Because every single day, the identity that we operate from, the place that we're operating from, decides how we think and how we feel and how we think and how we feel, decides what behavior, what action we take and how we think and how we feel. And therefore, what we do about it becomes our life. So when we roll it back and instead of saying, I'm just going to make a list of what I need to do, and instead we say, I'm going to look at who do I need to be? Because when I move into this place. Can you even start to feel in this conversation today? When you operate from a different part of your being, you don't think and feel the way you think and feel when you operate from the unconscious. When you're in the unconscious, old operator, you're like unconsciously just moving into reactive mode. I have to impress. I have to prove, I have to rush. I have to over perform. I have to over function. So that makes you think and feel a certain way, right? Which then makes you do certain things and it gets you that same Groundhog Day hamster wheel result. When you operate from and move from a different identity and you operate from. Wait a minute. What matters most is what is the actual truth in here? What does love know? What is my soul reminding me to remember? What am I downloading from God? What is my divine assignment then? Maybe, right, because you start to think and feel differently, you're going to do differently because that's the part of you that says, I don't need to be liked. I need to be authentic. I need to be truthful. Is it loving to give your kids everything that they ask for? It's actually not loving at all. What's loving is not to need them to like you, but to be the most coherent, resonant, wise part of yourself. Same thing in your business. Same thing in your relationships, right? Is it loving to allow the people in your life to just keep sabotaging themselves and you're just available to keep holding it and holding it? Or does the loving friend say, hey, this is the truth. This is what love would tell you. This is the mirror, okay? And that's what I know to be the truth. Right? Does the loving friend just allow you to keep pulling the covers over your eyes? Or does that person come in, open up the shades and say, we're going hiking. And the person says, no, I don't want to. And then they go on the hike and they say, thank you. Thank you for reminding me that I have greatness in me. So when we operate from this old pattern, we wind up getting the results that we do not intend. Okay, so is that starting to become clear? So when you raise your standard and you commit to a different identity, certain old probabilities disappear and in exchange, there's new possibility, right? Because the version of you who has the health and the wealth and the relationships that are in escrow for you, they belong to this new identity. Because this old identity is not a match for Those things, she's energetically not in wholeness. And how do we manifest and manifest the things that are most delicious, not from a state of lack, but from a state of being, in wholeness. And really what we're wanting to manifest is enjoying our own company, is the feeling of inner peace. And when we have that inner peace, we become the miracle. Not just because we feel the peace, but we become like a radio that is constantly a portal for love, for inspiration, for resonance. It lights up everyone that we'll meet all day long and pulls them into their capacity for their own level of alignment. So I want you, as we're sort of closing out this day, first of all, I want you to really consider taking the first two weeks of January and committing to do this practice with me. It's kathyheller.com2026. It's $26. And it means that every single day for the first 14 days, we're not going to think about this. This is your insurance policy. You're going to embody this. And whether you can show up, live with me or you will listen to the private podcast that you will get just because you're in this, you will set the intention by changing your identity this year. And then it will actually start to be embodied. So that 2026 is not just a cute moment, it's actually the year that you start to allow what is actually an escrow for you to be the match. The version of you that is actually who you've always meant to be. Okay, so I want you to write this down. Imagine that you are writing this and it's December 31st, next year. So imagine that it's December 31st, 2026. And I want you to write this down. Fill in the end of the sentence. 2026 was the best year ever because I. Dot, dot, dot. Completed. Because you what? How did you show up? How did you treat your own energy? What did you stop tolerating? What did you allow yourself to receive? Who did you choose to be? 2026 was the best year ever. Because I. Fill in the blank. Why? Because you chose to be what? Because you chose to operate from what Energy? Because you chose what level of a standard? Because you stopped tolerating what? Because you chose to spend your mornings in sovereignty. Because you made a commitment to no longer self abandon. I would love you to save this in a folder somewhere or save it on the notes in your phone. 2026 was the best ever, because. And I'd love for you to open it and read it on December 31st. So I'd love to see what you wrote. Because I became myself and stopped settling, because I stopped choosing obligation over joy and committed to my creative explorations. Because I took a page from you, Kathy. It was the best year because each day I remembered I was someone. Some of the ones I chose to operate from sovereignty and led for my embodied self. How good does this feel? So now I hope, and I don't just hope, but I believe that today there was a breakthrough. There was a shift, there was a remembering, there was a reckoning, there was an awareness. Great. So that's clarity. Clarity is awesome. Now we have to embody it. And how does a little kid learn the ABCs? Through repetition. Right? We actually have to commit to repeating and embodying what this clarity just pointed you towards. And then it gets so good. So this was just the appetizer. What we're going to do starting January 1st is I'm going to meet with you every single day for 14 days and we are going to start to peel away the onion. Okay? So not only now do you have this, who do I want to be, but we're going to go deeper into from this place of being in alignment. What are the tools that you can now utilize to build on this, to manifest the most incredible energy within you? I want you to know every morning. And we're not going to do it all right this moment because we're signing off. But you know, we, we have these energy centers with us in the Far east. They call them the chakras, Kabbalah calls them the sphero. They're actually the same centers, right? Third eye chakra, crown chakra, there's throat chakra. I want you to know how to tap in and turn on all of that within you. So every day, not only are you self referenced, like it's a thought, but you actually are self referenced from an embodied place where you feel what is your gut intuition want you to remember today? What is your throat chakra telling you to say today? What is your third eye telling you to perceive today? What is your crown chakra want you to allow life to bless you with today. We don't get the fullness, the totality of what kind of radio we actually really are. And so this was just the appetizer. This was just the beginning of stepping into who do I want to be and really getting that clear, right? That clear signal, that clear intention of I want to do 20, 26 from a different place. I want to be different because I want to be me. Once we have that, I want to show you right through the tools, the spiritual tools, the mindfulness tools, every single day, how to build upon this so that every day you're turning your radio where there's no static, you can just hear the broadcast. And then all the things that are already hidden in plain sight, the levels of health, the levels of wealth, the levels of opportunities that are already here in this infinite field, already here, hidden in plain sight, become revealed to you, because you become the version of you who can receive it. You become the version of you who can receive it. So if you're going to join us for our January challenge, I highly recommend inviting one or two friends, because what did James Clear tell me? The identity of who we are gets poured into concrete. We become the identity, who we are, by who, the people we spend the most time around. So if we spend time around people who honor their own health, we will, too. If we spend time around people who take care of, of what their standards look like, we will also have high standards. If we spend time around people who are available to kind of not commit and dabble and not actually step up into the power within them, the authenticity within them, they're constantly arguing for their limitations, we will actually become that. So I highly recommend you to tell a friend, say, go to kathyheller.com2026 and do this with a friend this year and have an accountability buddy. Not only will I be there every single day, but you will have yourself and the person who you already spend the most time with and say, we're doing this year differently, highly recommend that you do it. Obviously, you can also gift it to a friend. It's only 26 bucks. And part of the reason why we have you pay to do things like this is because when you have sunk cost, you'll actually show up. When we get a free T shirt at the Lakers game, we often don't value it. But when we pay to have a trainer meeting us at the gym, we usually don't miss the workout because we paid to have the trainer, and we don't want to be out of integrity. So there is a method to the madness. Okay, so we are going to send you all the instructions, all the things, and by the way, as soon as you sign up, there's also other videos of me teaching a master class on morning practice and so many beautiful things that will help you start to get excited. And your friends can also get in on that and watch it. But I'm excited to see you stepping into this version of you And I'm just going to read you what I wrote yesterday as we're closing on Instagram. I said most people don't fail at their goals. They fail at being honest about who they're willing to be. An intention is not just a cute thing. It's not something you casually declare and forget by February 1st. It's a standard. It's a line in the sand. It's the calm, unapologetic decision to stop making promises from an exp identity and start moving as the woman who fully steps into your power. When you set the intention. You're not just wishing that the year will be different. You're not just. You're not just wishing. You are deciding how you show up. And from deciding how you show up, everything reorganizes. When you change the identity and you change the intention, the year has no choice but to rise to meet you, right? Because the part most people skip is that they want a different year without becoming a different woman. They make goals from their old habits. They plan from pressure. They make promises from fear. And they wonder why the year feels familiar. 2026 doesn't need more effort. It needs a higher standard. It needs a clearer, resonant identity. Intention is decisive. It's the moment you stop asking for permission from your past and start moving as the woman who trusts your inner authority. This is what we're doing together, okay? It's not some manifesting fluff. It's not over planning for no reason. It's real alignment. It's clear standards. It's a vision that actually holds. Okay? So if you're there for that, I will be there. I will meet you there New Year's morning. I will meet you there. I will meet you for the version of you who is available for possibility. I will meet you for the version of you who's available to have what is an escrow for you and to feel sovereign in your life. I will meet you there. And if you can't be with us live in the mornings, we will be sending it to you as a private podcast so you can listen to it every single day. And the first several mornings, January, like 1st through 11th or 12th, whatever it is, I'll be going live. It'll just be 15 minute, quick, quick little sessions the last few days. It'll be an hour each day. That way, whether you're traveling or you're in holiday mode, you can kind of ease in. And then it's going to be hourong sessions the last week so you don't have to feel so much FOMO. Like, you're so behind. Who's in? Go to Kathy.com2026. I hope that you will take that word that we came up with today and use it to bring you back as an instruction from God, an instruction from the divine, instruction from the part of you that doesn't want to go back to sleep and put that word next to your desk, put that word next to your bed, put that word on the visor of your car so that you are reminded of who you're choosing to be this year in 2026, so that these goals and these intentions are not just cute, but we actually follow through, because you deserve it. I had so much fun with you guys today, and I'm so excited because in just a couple of weeks, we'll be meeting and beginning our year this way, which will no doubt change your year. Change your own morning, change your life, change your own identity, change your whole life. I can't wait to watch it happen and see the results. Love you guys so much.
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Kathy Heller
Okay, well, I loved hosting that workshop, and I hope that you really got something out of that. And remember, if you want to implement and you want to go deeper with me, I'm going to be doing 14 days. Starting January 1st. We are going to go further into what are all the different quadrants, all the different verticals. There's your health, there's your relationships, there's your wealth.
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Workshop Participant or Host Assistant
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Kathy Heller
All the different things that actually fill up your cup. We are going to start to talk about what kinds of habits, what are the intentions, and what are the best practices so that whatever you set as an intention actually sticks. We're gonna be meeting together for 14 days. We're gonna be doing these beautiful, quick morning practices. If you change your morning, you change your life. If you can find just 10, 15 minutes in the morning to really come home to that sanctuary within you, to just click into that radio station, that frequency, that dial, where you find your intuition. Life is going to just be so much more spectacular than you can even imagine. This challenge is gonna be really, really worth it. You can sign up@kathyhiller.com challenge. Okay, for this episode today, here are the takeaways. Number one, make a choice about what identity you will commit to. When you focus on the question of who do I choose to be? You commit to that level of standard. You commit to operating from that place. Number two, it's time to fully commit. Not hope, not wish, but commit to the truth of your identity, to who you really want to be and know you were designed to be that. When you do that, that's when setting intentions actually stick. Number three, it's not about becoming someone new. It's actually about becoming who you really are. It's about really being true to yourself. This is about peeling away what's never really been you and committing to the highest version of your own authentic self. Number four, when we plug into the center within, we create more resonance around us. Creating an impact on the world around us actually happens by being connected to the sovereignty, the wisdom, the peace within us. Number five, your word for 2026 is not just aspirational, but but instructional. It brings your body into a place of ease and regulation. It's a cue and a reminder. It's a shortcut back to the identity that you're choosing. Number six, it's an absolute necessity for you to have the peace, the joy, the fulfillment, the leadership, the business you want. All of that is on the other side of committing to no longer being externally referenced, but to choose a different operator from within. Number seven, when you declare who you are, life reorganizes around you to meet that standard. And when you raise your standard and commit to a different identity, certain old probabilities disappear. And in exchange, there's a new possibility. Number eight. When we have inner peace, we become the miracle. We become like a radio. There is constantly a portal within you for love, for inspiration, for resonance. It lights up everyone that will ever meet you and. And pulls them into their own capacity for this higher level of alignment. Thank you so much for listening. I know that we're all celebrating the holidays right now and things are so busy, so I really appreciate you and I appreciate that you're here. We have great episodes that are coming on the way, so make sure that you follow along at Apple Podcasts or Spotify or wherever you listen. And if anything resonated with you today, send this episode to somebody. Share it with someone. Maybe it will change their year, maybe it will change their life. And if you haven't left us a review, go ahead and leave one. I love reading them. I'm going to read one right now. So here's one that we got recently. It says, wonderful podcast, amazing. So much great information, positivity on blast. It pushes one to be a better human service, compassion, being receptive to an abundant life. Thank you so much. That is so nice. I love reading these. So you can leave us a review if you haven't already and you might just hear me read it on a future episode. And one last time, I want you to know I'm doing this 14 day New Year's challenge, starting, of course, January 1st. For anyone who's saying, oh my gosh, I just want to finally just fully feel that my life matches the life that I've been dreaming of, we are going to be doing a practice every single morning. I'm going to be showing you how this actually could work. And if you take the time in the morning and I'll be doing it with you, and you start your year this way, your whole year is going to change, change your morning, change your life. Come and see what it does. It's worth it, right? To start a habit like this. You can join me. Go to kathyheller.comchallenge. i love you so much. I hope you have such beautiful holidays and I'll talk to you again soon.