The Chisme Corner with Vee Rivera

Episode: Breaking Cycles: The 30s Glow Up Era
Date: October 1, 2025
Host: Vee Rivera
Podcast by: Sonoro

Episode Overview

This episode of The Chisme Corner focuses on “breaking cycles” in your 30s and beyond—a movement from old habits, survival mindsets, and generational patterns towards intentional living, healing, self-prioritization, and personal glow-ups. Vee Rivera candidly reflects on her own journey, sharing stories from her recent anniversary, her daughter’s upcoming birthday, and relatable struggles as a Latina navigating motherhood, culture, and identity. Throughout, Vee offers actionable mindset shifts for listeners looking to grow and glow at any age.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Anniversary Reflections & The Joy of Reconnection

[03:30–09:30]

• Vee kicks off in a particularly happy mood after celebrating her 7th wedding anniversary—a rare weekend alone with her husband, Joe.

• She talks about the joy of experiencing new things together (from comedy shows to trying Mexican food for the first time).

• Quote:

  • "That's my twin, okay? Like, we are locked in for life. For real. For real." [02:10]

• On the importance of relationship maintenance:

  • "It is so crucial to just have one on one time and to just keep getting to know each other because we're constantly changing and evolving." [10:55]

• Encourages listeners to "keep dating your partner," noting it's vital for long-term happiness—even at home with simple games or a movie.

2. Culture Shifts and Generational Humor

[09:30–13:30]

• Vee humorously compares her going-out days to Gen Z's ultra-comfy style.
  • "They all look like they're just out here walking their dogs...In the club." [11:25]
• Observes how once "putting it all on" was part of the fun—and now, "stepping out" looks different.
• The generational gap is tangible, but she views it with amusement and fondness.

3. Simple Pleasures as Markers of Thriving

[14:30–16:50]

• Vee revels in attending a taco festival with Joe—a testament to her philosophy that thriving is found in small, joyful moments.

  • "This is the key to my heart. A taco festival. This is why we've been married as long as we've been married." [14:50]

• Relates how prioritizing these small joys represents part of her own “glow up.”

4. Updates on Life & Beauty Glow Ups

[18:30–21:45]

• Shares her excitement over perfecting her makeup routine and connecting with listeners on beauty topics.
• Invites followers to request episodes about skincare, makeup, and products best suited for 30s skin.
  • "You guys have been like, what? Like, we need a tutorial… this look slays. I do have a video on this look coming soon." [19:40]

5. Motherhood Milestones: Vivi’s 10th Birthday

[21:45–25:30]

• Prepping for daughter Vivi’s milestone birthday and the emotional weight of "double digits."
• Describes plans for a unique, emo-themed "World Tour" party, complete with merch table and custom t-shirts.

6. The Main Theme: Breaking Cycles in Your 30s+

[25:30–57:45] Vee delves into how real growth happens when we challenge inherited patterns and mindsets. She breaks down the transformative shifts she’s experienced (and still working on):

a. From People Pleasing to Self-Prioritization

• "No is a full answer. Sis, that was a full...No is a complete sentence." [27:30]
• Shares her lifelong journey with people-pleasing, rooted in family dynamics (dealing with a volatile parent).
• Emphasizes practice: saying no gets easier and is necessary for well-being.

b. From Seeking Validation to Self-Acceptance

• Importance of disengaging from needing approval, especially in a social-media-driven world.
• "Do you like who you're becoming? Stop looking at what everybody else got going on." [31:30]
• Shares honestly about the fine line influencers walk between engagement and self-worth.

c. From Survival Mode to Thriving

• Advocates for intentionally "romanticizing" daily life, not just focusing on big moments.
• "It really is the little things in life that brings you joy." [36:25]
• Choosing joy and comfort, reframing obligations into privileges (e.g., “I get to cook” vs "I have to cook").
• Highlights the app "Me" (for recipe organization) as a tool helping her enjoy cooking.

d. From Overthinking to Taking Action

• Calls out her “Virgo-coded” habit of analysis paralysis.
  • "Stop being a little pendeja about everything..." [42:40]
  • Encourages listeners to "just do it"—action leads to alignment.

e. From Holding Grudges to Releasing for Peace

• "Protecting your peace is essential at this point. It's not optional." [45:00]
• Letting go isn’t about excusing others, but about freeing oneself from draining emotional baggage.

f. Setting Boundaries Without Guilt

• Recognizes that boundaries can make you feel like "the villain," especially as a recovering people pleaser.
  • "If you got to be the villain in somebody's story because you have to protect yourself, think about it like—they were never respecting you to begin with." [50:05]
• The only ones who get mad are those benefitting from your lack of boundaries.

g. Letting Go of Generational Conditioning

• Spotlights unhealthy norms in Latino households and vows not to pass them down.
  • "I'm not passing that down to my kids…this is going to end here." [53:10]

h. From Fear of Failure to Embracing Growth

• Explains that “failure” is not an endpoint but feedback or a reroute.
• Cites closing her boutique as an example—realizing it wasn’t failure, but redirection and a valuable learning experience.
  • "The faster you fail, the faster you learn, the faster you evolve." [56:25]
• "I want to be the healthiest version of me that I can be." [57:40]

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• "You can't control everyone else around you. You can only control you." [57:30]
• "Do you like who you're becoming? And if not, what do you think you need to do to change?" [58:10]
• "This is your sign to keep dating your partner and looking for that one on one time." [12:05]

Timestamps of Key Segments

• 03:30: Vee's happy mood and anniversary story begins
• 10:55: Relationship advice—importance of reconnecting with your partner
• 11:25: Generational clash: Going-out fashion then vs. now
• 14:50: Thriving in simple pleasures—taco festival date
• 19:40: Glow up: perfecting the 30s makeup routine
• 21:45: Milestone birthday plans for Vivi
• 25:30: Core theme begins: breaking cycles in the 30s
• 27:30: No is a full sentence—on people pleasing
• 31:30: Move from seeking validation to self-acceptance
• 36:25: Romanticizing daily joys—living intentionally
• 42:40: From overthinking to action (“Virgo-coded” struggles)
• 45:00: Peace over grudges
• 50:05: Boundaries without guilt
• 53:10: Generational patterns in Latino families
• 56:25: Embracing failure as growth
• 57:40: Summary—intentionally evolving, breaking cycles

Listener Engagement

• Vee closes by asking listeners:
  • "What cycles are you breaking? What mindset shifts are you working on?" [58:10]
• Encourages sharing via IG or YouTube for collective support and continual chisme.

Final Thoughts

This episode is an inspiring, relatable, and often humorous guide to personal growth in the “30s Glow Up Era.” Vee Rivera seamlessly blends stories from her own life with hard-won wisdom, making the themes of breaking cycles and intentional living feel accessible and necessary. Through practical mindset shifts and honest storytelling, she empowers listeners to prioritize themselves, set boundaries, and trust in their own evolution—reminding us, "Aqui no hay filters!"