← The Chisme Corner with Vee Rivera
The Chisme Corner with Vee Rivera
Building Better Habits, Big Decisions & Reality TV Toxicity
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I can't defend you anymore. Like, I just can't. Like, I can't be a fan. I can't really defend you because it's like it's the same at this point. It's a pattern and it's. It's toxic. Welcome back to the chismet corner. I'm your host V. Rivera, your favorite Latina amiga. And your go to chismosa for all the chisme that actually matters. Latina motherhood, beauty navigating life in her 30s and keeping our mental health in check. We're keeping it raw, relatable, and a little spicy. We'll also be getting into pop culture topics from time to time. And some reality show tea. I love me some tea. So get comfy, y', all, because the chisme starts now. Hello? Is it me you're looking for? Yes, I know y' all looking for me. I'm sorry. I'm so sorry. Okay, let me just tell y', all, number one, I am trying to move the show to maybe like Thursday or Friday because Wednesday's launching. On Wednesdays just don't work for me anymore. I don't know if you guys saw my YouTube video that I posted about changing agencies and stuff like that, but that has really had a huge effect on me lately in the best way possible. The best way possible. I can't complain. Like, life has been so good. But like, ever since change agencies, I've been so busy. I've been working with so many brands and making content for them in general takes a long time. Y' all know I'm a one women show. I edit my own, I come up with my own, you know, creative direction, whatever. My own content, everything is on me. And then also have to create my Own content on the side and also keep up with every single social media. And I think I'm actually going to get on Snapchat because everyone was telling me that I need to get on Snapchat and I just had a webinar with my agent agency on someone who taught us like basically everything, like how to hop on Snapchat, how to use it, like how to really be able to like monetize it and stuff. So I'm probably gonna go on there and I feel like it's so much fun. I used to love Snapchat so I'm excited to get back on, but that's neither here or there. Like overall life has just been crazy hectic over here for me. If you're watching this on YouTube too, you can see I have my own little office space now. Girl thing I, I needed a little space cuz I don't know if it's like the age or what it is, but I can't even. I feel like I can't work on like this small Mac laptop that I have anymore. Like look at the difference between this screen and this screen. Like girl, it's such a big difference. So now I'm able to work on like this. Me and Joe went to Walmart and got me like this cute little desk and then I got this little monitor and it just makes a whole big difference in how I work. Especially because I'm like editing videos and like making graphics and like making designs and stuff. So I have to like really pay attention to detail and look, be able to like really see things. And it's just, I don't know, my eyesight gets worse and worse as I age too. So I just needed a big ass screen. So we got this monitor at Walmart too. I think it was like 150 bucks. 160, something like that. And then got this little cheap, small little desk. Well, I won't say cheap, I'll say affordable. It's not cheap. But yeah. And then everything else I got on Amazon, I got this cute like let's listen to this. Oh, that's the best sound ever. Like I freaking love that sound. Got a new keyboard, got a cute little mouse. Like I got everything here in my little desk so I'm able to work and I'm just loving it. Like I kind of made my little guest room into my content room now because nobody ever uses my guest room, girl. Like I barely be having people over here or whatever. So many little things that I did in the guest room just really transformed it and the lighting in here is so good. So I just been creating all my lifestyle content, like makeup content, everything in here. And then I still have my studio downstairs. That's just for, like, when I have guests for the podcast. And we also have the gym down there, but I haven't really been using it because it's been so cold. So Joe was like, why didn't you tell me? Like, I would have put heat down there. I'll do whatever you need me to do, but, like, you need to use it. We made it, and you don't really use it. And I was just like, I know. I don't know. I just really love the vibes in my guest room. Like, I just. Having this room to work in just makes such a big difference when you have natural lighting and everything just is such a vibe to me. Like, I just love it. Like, I find myself being more creative. Like, it really is, like, what you surround yourself with and who you surround yourself with, because that will get your creative juices flowing. Like I always say, like, your environment really does have. It could have a good effect on you, or it can have a. A negative effect on you. Like, it really does change how you work and how you move and how you go about your day. But, yeah, I'm sorry I didn't put out a new episode last week, but I'm trying to figure out still. Like, I want to change days and stuff. They still haven't gotten back to me on it, but it just will help me a lot more to push back a day or two, because I kind of already created a flow in the beginning of the week. But, yeah, I know it probably doesn't. Y' all probably don't think it makes a difference, but it truly does. Like, having that one or two days, like, pushed, like, towards, like, the end of the week. It's like, the beginning of the week. I don't want to be scrambling to, like, make an episode or do an episode, you know? So Wednesday is just, like, too close to home for me, and I don't work on the weekends, girl. So. But yeah, I'm back. I promise we're gonna have new episodes every week. I'm just trying to work out a new day, but I was like, let me update everyone on what I've been like. I feel like there's so much updates, too. I don't know if you guys have seen on my Instagram. I was telling you guys how, okay, Vivi goes to public school down here in Delaware. And let me just start off by saying Delaware is Delaware ranks really low as far as education. I think we're, like, in the 40s between all 50 states. Like, it's embarrassing. That's really bad. It's really bad. So let's keep that in mind. I never really used to have much of a problem with, like, Vivi's learning and stuff like that. Like, the teachers were always. Have always been really amazing, but for some reason, this year, she started at a new school because they kind of changed up where her school is now. So now she's in, like, a bigger school. There's more grades. They kind of changed the old school she was at the elementary school into, like, a daycare facility. So all the kids are in this new, big school. And I just feel like it's all over the place. Like, it is all over the place. Like, and I know. I know I. I. Y' all know I support teachers 100%. Like, I know what it's like to have to deal with all these kids. Like, I used to be a daycare teacher, and I know that that's different from an actual teacher, but you are still responsible for these kids at the end of the day. And I know it's been harder and harder for teachers to just even show up. Like, I just know between the. The disrespect, like, everything, like, you just feel. You probably feel so worn out and so underappreciated. I just feel like. I just feel like Vivi is at a place where she. She's, like, bored. She's getting really bored at school. And one of the classes that she does have, there's always a substitute. And I don't know what. I don't know why or, like, what's going on. There's got to be, like, personal issues, whatever. But it's gotten to the point where it's, like, it's a lot. And so it kind of backs them up. Like, it really backs them up. And it's not like, one or two times. Like, this has been consistently. Like, every week there's been substitutes. So I'm like, damn, there's got to be, like, a teacher shortage or whatever. But. And then I heard that this is, like, all over. Like, people were dming me. Like, this is a nationwide thing as far as teachers and having substitutes and everything. Like, and to me, I'm like, even if you miss a few days, even if. If Vivi was to miss one or two days of school, she's already backed up. Like, she's gonna miss out on a lot of lessons. A lot. Like, I Don't even like her missing school for that point. She doesn't even like missing school because she'll be like, mom, I'm gonna have so much work when I have to go back. Like, I'm gonna have to play catch up. So I can't imagine when a teacher's absent, it kind of plays that same role, you know? Like, it's like, okay, the kids are probably going to be backed up unless the. Unless the substitute is teaching it. But I feel like it's. It's different. A lot of these substitutes, sometimes they're just going in there. They're not really doing much, at least from what I've heard. It's not. It's kind of one of those free for alls. Like, we get to just work on our laptops, and that's it. Vivi already feels like she is a little behind to the point where she's teaching herself. Like, she taught herself multiplication and division way before they even started in her school. And they're, like, learning. They're doing all that stuff now. Like, she's still. They're kind of done with it. But before, she was, like, ready to learn that stuff already, you know, like, she was bored of just addition and subtraction. Like, she wanted to challenge herself, so she saw herself. And I just feel like I've been more. I've been telling Joe the other day, I was like, I'm seeing a lot more homeschooling stuff pop up. And I know people have so many opinions on homeschooling. Like, and for me, it's not. It's not political or anything. I know someone came to me and was, like, saying how people who are, like, I guess, like, super woke or something, like, they put their kids in home school, and there's, like, this big stigma. And I was like, I don't. That's not anything. I don't. I've never heard of that about that. But I've also never done a ton of research on homeschool. But for me, a lot of people that I know that put their kids in homeschooling is more. Because they want to have more control of their kids schedule throughout the day and make sure that they're actually focusing on the things that they should be learning. And it also gives people more, like, flexibility. Like, I really do feel like it. It is. It's a lot to be able to, like, homeschool your kids from school, because you got to be super consist. But there's a lot of positives, you know? So I was talking about how I've been looking into it. And I told Joe, I was like, have you ever thought, like, maybe, you know, maybe we could, like, homeschool vivi or something, at least until high school? Because I'm not doing homeschool in high school. I'm not doing it. I feel like by then I would definitely, like, I want her to be in a really, really good high school where she can learn different trades. Like, I know. And when I went to high school, we had, like, four different classes where we were able to try out our freshman year, like, what it is that we really wanted to study and focus on. And then that was what we did for the next three years. So I want her to be able to, like, you know, still at least be in high school. But for now, I'm like, I feel like we could, you know, make our own curriculum for her here and have her, you know, work on the computer. Not as much, because I also feel like the kids are on these lab. They're on these computers, these Chromebooks, whatever, so much throughout the day, and I'm just like, I want her to learn. I want her to write. I want her to learn how to write paragraphs and. And stories and, like, you know, like, some. Some kids not bv. I'm not saying she can't write a damn summary or, like, a sentence or a paragraph. That's not what I'm saying. But there are some kids out there that struggle. Like, they've been struggling with writing out a story. If you ask, like, hey, how many sentences are in a paragraph? They probably don't know. Like, and these are such. Like, I. I feel like these are the main things that I remember from English class and reading and writing. Like, that was one of my favorite subjects. Like, I loved. Loved writing. And I'm just like, this is. These are things that I want her to. I want her to work in workbooks and, like, be able to, like, really practice writing. I don't want her to just solely be on a Chromebook all the time. Like, it really bothers me. Like, I just. I genuinely don't like it. And I know this is, like, become a thing for, like, all. A lot of schools. Like, they work through the Chromebooks and stuff, but it's like, we gotta bring back, like, these kids gotta learn how to write. They gotta learn how to write cursive. They gotta. They need to learn how to write a damn signature. Like, how are we gonna able. How are we gonna teach these kids how to. Like, we have to be able to do that. And I know, of course you can teach them at home. Like, I even got a cursive workbook for Vivi at home. Like, anything as far as that. I make sure she has here to practice, too. Because the minute I heard that they weren't even teaching kids the cursive in school, I was like, no, you're. You learning cursive. Like, I just don't play that. Like, I feel like I love writing incursive. So I was like, I want my daughter to learn cursive. But, yeah, I think there's just been a lot things that I. A lot of more things that I've just been questioning. Or I'm like, you know, like, would this be the best thing for her? I'm. I don't know. I really don't know. And I'm not saying I'm 100. Yeah, I'm homeschooling her. Like, I'm still very much, like, Eileen left and then I lean right. Like, I'm just very much, like, in between. Like, I don't really know what to do. I'm thinking maybe I want to look at another school. So there is another school in mind that I have. I don't know if she will be able to immediately get in there for next year, but if. Honestly, if she doesn't, we are looking into. Probably looking into our options for homeschooling. And I asked you guys for your opinions, and you guys, when I tell you, like, 99 of my DMs were positive, I swear to you, like, I'm not even lying. Like, everyone was just saying so many great things, and I'm going to actually make a YouTube video on all the DMs that I got. I did get some where people were like, you know, we tried it out, and it just wasn't for us. But there were. It wasn't so bad, you know, like, they were just in situations where they had to put them back in school. But a lot of people were like, if I could do it, I would. And the people who are doing school homeschooling just love it. A lot of them were saying how, you know, they get to have slower mornings with their kids and, you know, they're able to, like, be done with, like, actual work by, like, one. And then they're able to do, you know, other things, like trips and, like, having actual experiences outside of a classroom. Because that's something that I was, like, really thinking about, too. Like, Bibi really does excel, and she thrives when she's not just sitting down in like, one space for too long. Like, she needs to. Like, she's like a butterfly, I always say. Like, she needs to, like, fly and she needs to spread those wings, you know? Like, she's very much like me. I went to one of the best charter schools in New Jersey, and it was very intense. And they were very, like, we had to have specific test scores. Like, we can. We could not up. I only had, like, July off. We were back in school by August, like, August. And we still did weekends at school preparing for testing. Like, that's how hard they were on us. And I love. I'm not gonna. Like, I loved that school. Like, I feel like they really prepared me for a lot of things, but I also, like, kind of resented it. So, I don't know, it's like, really weird for me. Like, I don't want Bibi to be so overwhelmed with school that she hates it. But I also know that she can do so much more. Like, I know she's made to do more and she's meant to do more. And she's just like a little ball of knowledge. Like, she loves to learn. Like, she's just like Joe in that sense where like, any new thing that she hears about something, she wants to look it up and, like, learn more about it. And that's exactly how her dad is. Like, Joe knows you could talk about. You could bring up the smallest little subject and he will know everything about it. And I'm just like, what the fuck? Like, so I love that about him because then I learn new things, you know, so it's really cool. But that's just how she is. And I'm just like, I feel like I have a friend that she just put her. Her child in homeschooling and they do so many different things. Like, she's like doing instruments and stuff and she's learning, like, sewing and she's like, they go on trips to, like, the museums. She takes her to Washington, D.C. like, there's so many good things about it and that's learning, you know, like opening up your experiences and outside of just four walls and a Chromebook, like, they're getting so much different experience and, you know, learning about history and learning about things that were actually gonna do in the. In the real world and stuff, like those hands on experiences. And a lot of. A lot of people were like, saying, how, you know, what about the social part of it? Like, do you. I don't want her to. Like, what if she gets, like, really socially awkward? And I'm like, vivi, Socially awkward. Like, that's one of the things that I'm, like, least worried about, really, because Vivi, yeah, she loves her friends in school, but we actually brought it up to her, and immediately I was like, would you be interested in being homeschooled? Yes. Like, she was like, yes. Like, she was like, I would love to be homeschooled. And I was like, but you wouldn't miss your friends. Like, I was trying to bring out. I was trying to see if there was. If she would see, like, a downfall to it. And she was like, no. And I was like, what? She was like, well, she's like, not that I won't miss them, but she's like, I just feel like I would still see them, you know? Like, I know you'd still. She's like, I still. I have play dates with my friends outside of school, so I can still do that. And she was like. And I have, like, my cheer. And like, Vivi does stuff outside of school, too, you know, so she doesn't really. And she makes friends wherever. Like, I swear we go to the park and she'll make, like, 10 friends there. And I'm like, I've never had an issue with her being socially awkward or anything like that. And I am aware, like, I don't want to take that away. Away from her. So I heard that there are, like, other. I think people were saying a co op. Like, you could find other co ops, and apparently there's a ton in Delaware. Like, you kind of have to find your tribe, you know, but there's a lot of homeschoolers out there, and they bring the kids together and they do things together, whether it's like one or once or twice a week, which I was like, that's already more play dates than she does now. Like, we don't really do play dates like that unless we're getting invited to, like, a birthday party, whatever, because she has competitive cheer, and then she does drums, and then she's doing, like, this. This one program after school, Girls on the run. But that girl's exhausted, like, on the weekends. We kind of just want to chill. And, you know, she hangs out with us. Because I want to hang out with my daughter on the weekends. I don't really see her throughout the weekday, so we don't really do a lot of play dates, you know, So I was like, I don't. I feel like even just implementing one or two days out of the week with, like, other homeschoolers, that's, like, more than enough, you know, But Yeah, we would have to find, like, people that we like and, like, people that we can, like, resonate with and get along with, because that's also another thing. Like, you know, people can be really weird with stuff sometimes, so we just gotta find our tribe if we do it. But that's something that I'm not really worried about. I'm really not worried about it. And B Says she's not worried about it, so. But I do understand. I definitely understand, like, people's concerns about that. And I also feel like homeschooling still has this old. Like, when people hear homeschooling, they think, oh, my God. Like, you're like, oh, freak. You know? Like, it's like, from Mean Girls, where it's like, oh, my God. Like, you homeschool jungle freak. Like, and I told Bebe that I was like, oh, my God, if you're homeschooled, you're gonna be, like, a homeschool jungle freak. And she was like, yeah. Like, we were just dying laughing, because I don't feel like that's the thing anymore, because there's so many different ways to go about homeschooling. Like, it's not just, oh, my God, they're just. They're at home, and that's it. They don't see the outside world. Like, I feel like people look at that as, like, oh, my God, you're homeschooled. You're home all day. You're not doing anything. You're not in the outside world. And it's like, for me, I feel like I've heard the complete opposite. I've heard so many people are like, we're closer to other people. Like, they're saying that their kids have been even more open to making friends, and they've just kind of blossomed into different people. And I'm like, that is so nice to hear. That's really cool. Because there is this stigma around homeschooling where it's like, kids become like, a shell of themselves or they just don't even know how to communicate with people outside of their home. And I'm like, that's just not. I don't feel like that's been the thing for a long time. I also, like, people were telling me that you can kind of do. Like, I guess there's schools, like, virtual schools that you can put them in where they can take classes throughout the week. Like, on that. Like, it's classes, and there's teachers that they have some. Someone else even told me that there was, like, kids in those classrooms. That they hop on with weekly, whatever, but it's only, like, you can pick, like, two or three times a week where they're, like, on the computer, whatever, for, like, an hour or two. Like, it depends. I don't know. It's just. It depends on what you choose as far as the curriculum. But this is what people were telling me. You, like, have them do classes online, if anything, and then you can also have, like, your own curriculum where, you know, they're doing work from, like, a workbook. You can make, like, your own whole curriculum, or you can have, like, there's free ones available that you can get, or there's websites where, you know, they give you all of the stuff, like, all the materials that you can just print out and they can, like, work on it. So I was like, I feel like that's something I would be wanting to do. Like, something 50, 50. Like, she could still work on a computer. I just don't want her doing that all day, you know? So I really like that you can kind of just do whatever works and you can figure out, like, their personal learning, because in a school that you can't, you know, and it's. And it's really hard because there's so many kids in a classroom these days, and everyone has a different learning speed or, like, pace. Like, I don't know how to explain it, but, like, obviously everyone learns at their own pace. Vivi tells me that there's times where people will get stuck on something, and, like, sometimes the teachers will take so long because they have to stay stuck on that one thing for, you know, sometimes it takes a little longer. Sometimes the kids have to catch up. Or even if Vivi's having problems, sometimes she says she feels bad because it's like, if I'm stuck on something, I feel like, you know, they have to help me with it until I'm able to move forward. And that's with all the kids, you know? Like, you don't want anyone being behind you want to make sure everyone is catching up on the lessons, and everyone understands and actually knows what they're doing before you move forward with something else. So I totally understand that. But it also. It drags things out, you know? Like, she'll be like, sometimes we'll be stuck on something for, like, a few days. And it's like, we shouldn't be on this for this long, you know? And I'm like, well, that's just how it is. Like, everyone's learning at their own speed. Like, not everyone's gonna get everything Right off the bat, like there's things that, you know, you struggle with and other, other kids are probably, it's probably a breeze for them and vice versa. But I think that that's why like homeschooling really works too because it's like she can go on her own pace and you know, really if she's learning things super fast, which she is, she's a very fast learner. I can just keep moving on up and moving on up and keep just filling her brain with as much as I can. And a lot of people were saying, you know, like when you are doing that and you're in your own speed and you have your own curriculum and they're learning the way they should be learning and they're up, they're caught up and, and sometimes they're like advancing kind of like they're able to do things in a different grade level or like go up. Then they're able to graduate earlier and stuff too. So I was like, wow, like there's been a lot of people seeing me like yeah, my, my child graduated a year early or you know, like it's been amazing. And I'm just like, wow, like that's so cool. And I also think of the part where like I'm probably going to be traveling a lot more soon, like to LA and stuff. Cuz my agency we get, I get so mad because girl, we get so many, we get invited to so many things. Like when I tell you so many things, but usually you, they tell me like two days before the event. Like it's usually like because it's made for people who like already live there. So it's like if I decide I want to go, then you can just go. But we, we get some things in New York. But that's still, I still need a few days notice for that because that's a drive for me and I would have to book a hotel and stuff, you know. But la, oh girl, we get invited to so many things and I get fomo. Like I'm just like, I want to go, I just want to hop on a plane and go. But it needs to be worth my while, you know. So I actually have some. I want to probably go in August and I will probably be taking Phoebe with me because I'm able to like visit some headquarters for like different brands, like makeup brands and stuff. So I was like, how cute if she came with me, but if I did that more she'd be able to like actually do that with me and like experience work with me and like be able to, to experience like these, these brand events and things like that. Like, how cool would that be to have just my baby girl with me, working with me and then she's still, she's not missing out on school cuz she can work wherever, she can do her work from wherever I am, you know. So the whole traveling thing and not worrying about taking them out of school and stuff and like, because me and Joe, we want to travel. Like that is our whole, that's our always been. Our whole thing is like the whole reason why we have all these rental properties and stuff is because by the time we are old, everything is going to be paying for itself. Mortgages will be paid off and that is just going to be money that we use towards whatever we got to pay in bills and traveling. Like that's all we want to do is just travel around the freaking world. So girl, I can't wait. I can't wait to all these mortgages on these houses is paid off. I think we have like 16, 17 rentals properties right now. And it's a lot. It is a lot. Like it's a lot. But in the future it's gonna be so worth it. But yeah, we just want to travel and I want, I just want Vivi to have the best experiences, you know. So yeah, we are definitely. That is something that we have been talking about. Like I have been doing so much research. There are a lot of states that actually give, like they'll, they'll help out and like supply you with things for homeschooling and things like that. Or you can get tax write off. I know for. In some places, but unfortunately for Delaware, you can't like you. If you're homeschooling, like, it's basically like you're on your own. Like you gotta, you, it's on you. Like you gotta pay for everything, whatever. And I, I figured, like, I didn't even think that they would have programs or like, you know, things where they'll help you. And like, you know, if I guess if people set up schools in their houses, like you know how some people set it up as a school. But that's not something that I really want to do. So I would just have to buy like the books and like if I have to pay for a program, whatever, but I'm willing to do that. Like I'm okay with that. That's not something that I was like really super worried about. Would have been nice to like, you know, have some, some help. But in Delaware they just, they really don't but, yeah, I'm doing so much research, so if there's anything that you guys know, if you're listening on the podcast and maybe you missed when I was talking about it before, I. I'm looking for all the. All the tea, whether it's negative, positive. Let me know any of your experiences, because it's definitely something that I'm still looking into. So, yeah, that's been a really big thing that we've been going through and talking about lately. What else? I'm trying to see if there's any other updates, like, life updates. It's been. Life has just been so good. Like, I feel like, oh, I've been making my bed. I know this is probably so weird. We're like, why are you talking about this? Nobody cares. But this is my seventh day of making my bed. And when I tell y', all, I never. I never used to make my bed because I feel like it's just one of those things where I'm like, nobody's ever in my room. Nobody's gonna see this shit. Even when I was little, I didn't really make my bed. Like, I would just. I just have it in my head, like, I'm gonna get back in this anyway, so why make it? But I was like, you know what? It's not even about the making the bed. And, like, yeah, it's nice to have a made bed. It's just about the building the habits, you know? Like, I want to start creating and building healthier habits in my life. So if I know I can do this, like, literally, I'm just keep telling myself, damn, I'm on day seven. Like, I' really good. Like, Joe doesn't even have to remind me, and I'm keeping up with it. Today he even told me. He's like, okay, I'm so proud of you. Like, you really. You've been making the bed. And I'm like, yeah. Like, I'll be making the bed. Like, I'm just so happy. So I'm like, okay. I know it takes, like, 21 days to actually create a habit. And I feel like, honestly, I'm already in there. Like, I think it took me seven days because I'm already waking up in the morning, and I'm just immediately thinking, okay, I'm gonna make the bed. Like, that's one of the first things that I think think of. So, yeah, I'm like, if I can do this, I can do anything else. Like, I can start little by little. Like, this is the plan is to just start Implementing once I'm done with that. And I'm like, okay, I'm making my bed. Like, this is a habit now. I don't have to worry about holding myself accountable because this is something that I wake up and I actually do every day. I don't even have to second guess it. Like, I'm just gonna do it. So once I have that down pack, I want to start another habit, like something else, you know, like maybe meal prepping or something, like setting a day every Sunday or something where I prep my lunch for the week because I don't want to be using doordash all the time. Also, I'm sorry, guys. I know that the audio does not match, like the last 20 minutes, but my Tascam completely died and I did not notice. So I wanted to make sure that I put that footage and I wasn't gonna like, re record because I feel like it was so much information, especially as far as the home homeschooling and stuff. So I was like, girl, I am not re recording that because I'm not even gonna remember. So I just took the audio from my camera, which is not that great, but I still wanted to like, get that the rest of what I was talking about in there. So I'm so sorry. I hate. I know I hate when the audio doesn't match up, but a lot of technical issues lately and I've been. It's been really me up. But we gonna have the content one way or another. I really don't care. But yeah, so we're implementing all these different routines, rituals, whatever you want to call it, all positive over here. Because I feel like in the beginning of the year, I was a little. I was a little lost. I didn't really know what I really wanted to focus on this year, but now I feel like everything is slowly coming together. Like, March has been so amazing in so many ways. And I've just been having so many different, like, such a different outlook on life. And I just been so focused. Like, I'm so focused on what I want and what I want to do and like every everything, like, outside of that, like, is just noise. Like, I don't even care. Like, I really don't give a Like, I don't give a about anything else Excite. Except for what I have going on in my family and my life and my goals. Like, and I love it here. Like, I love it. And I truly feel like I'm 34 years old now and I'm about to hit that 35 mark, and I feel like, after that, it's just like you're slowly approaching into your 40s and stuff. And that's like, everyone knows those are like your don't give a years. I think I'm approaching those years a lot earlier. Like, I've just been so focused on actually setting my goals and creating them little by little. And I'm working on some other things right now that I'm so excited about. And it's to help people literally make money from content creation and, like, try and, you know, guide them in the right direction. Because I feel like I've been doing this for so long and I have so much knowledge to give and I know so much about the field and just doing this, like, every day and working with all these different brands and people and what they look for. And so I kind of want to give what I know and like, my experience to other people. Whether it's like, stay at home moms who just want to make extra cash, like, whatever that may be. Like, I just want to help bitches. Like, I just want to help you bitches. So content creation is like, such a good way to make money. Like, people don't realize. Like, Facebook and stuff like that. Starting on those little platforms, you get monetized so fast. And even if you're getting like 50, 100 bucks a month, like, that can help with something, you know, and then you just be consistent and you keep growing. So, yeah, that is something that I'm going to be introducing soon. So I'm, like, working on that. I'm trying to think of anything else that's been new in life. We've all seen, like, the whole. The lives of Mormon wives, whatever. The secret lives of Mormon wives. That whole that happened with Taylor, Frankie, Paul and Dakota, like, it's been, oh, my God, number one Bachelorette new. Like, I'm just gonna say, like, bachelor knew. And I talked about this on my stories. Like, last week, they knew what the they were signing up for. Like, why this was not new news either. Like, this was all public in 2023. That video wasn't public, but everything was written in the police report. Like, she even talked on podcasts and stuff about the incident. You know, allegedly she did say that the chair did not hit her daughter or whatever. I don't know how much of that I believe because I feel like that cry that you could tell, you know how kids have different cries, you could tell that that cry was a cry of pain. Like, I. I just felt like you could tell. But allegedly, you know, she said that that did not happen. But. And I remember that from a podcast that she did. But, yeah, it's just been so, like, to me, like, I'm just like, abc. Y' all knew. Y' all knew who she was. Like, y' all been. Knew that this has been going on like, it's been toxic forever. And y' all still decided to cast this woman. So now, like, pulling the. The whole show. They pulled the Bachelorette show and trying to kind of, like, save face is stupid to me. Like, to me, it's like, just air the. Air it. Like, air it. Everyone's seen everything already. Y'. All already. You. She was already charged with DB Charges and everything before all of this, and you guys still hired her. So show me the show. I want to see the. I want to see. And I always say, like, Taylor, Frankie Paul is. She's a great reality star. I think she is a great reality star. Do I think she is off the walls and needs a ton of therapy? Yes. And I do not think the Bachelorette or a dating show was the right way to go. I wish she had friends around her that were just like, you need to stop. Stop with this, man. Like, where are the. The friends who, like, actually hold you accountable and look you dead in your eye and say, no. Like, you do not need to be going on a show. You need to be scheduling two to three hours of therapy a week. Like, that's what she really needed. But instead, everyone's like, oh, this is going to be great for her and she's gonna move on. None of that happened because she ended up went to go to right when she got back home. Like, it's just crazy to me. Like, I feel like everyone. And everyone's always just like, oh, she's such a great person and she's gonna learn from this. And she's when. Because the patterns keep continuing, you know, And I do understand that people are trauma bonded, whatever. Like, people love to throw around these words, too. Like, oh, they're trauma bonded. A lot of y' all don't even know what the. Y' all are talking about. No one should be throwing a chair at anybody, period. It's just crazy to me. It is so crazy. But do I think she's a great reality star? And I would have loved to see that. That show. Yes. Yes, I absolutely. I did want to see it. I'm not gonna sit here and lie. I wanted them to air that because she's great tv. Unfortunately, that's what they look for. And it's so sad. And I feel like, this has now been such a huge downfall for her. I'm scared that she's gonna spiral and, like, just really go off the walls. Like, I really don't want that for her. Obviously, we want the best. Any woman involved in any, like. Any woman. I'm always gonna have, like, a soft spot because we're women, you know, like, we're mothers. We go through this, but she needs to just leave this man alone completely. She should have done it a long time ago. And I think she's got people around her that know that it makes for great tv, and that's why they just be. They just kind of just shrug it off, and that's what it is. And when you have yes men and people around you like that, like, you're never gonna get any better, and you're never gonna see, like, really, really see the wrongs that you're doing because no one's holding you accountable. But, yeah, I do. I do feel like, you know, obviously she's an adult, and she needs to, like, she is responsible for her own actions. But I do think when you mix reality TV and all this other in there, like, everyone obviously around is just like, this is gonna get us views, and the show's probably gonna definitely have another season now thanks to her. There's never really much going on besides, like, the drama and all the. From Taylor. So, like I said, it's great reality show tv, but in real life, I want her to get help. Like, I really do. Like, I feel like she could be. I feel like all. She could also be doing so much. Like, I feel like I look at all the other girls, and they've got a lot going for them. Like, I think Layla just signed to, like, an agency, and Jesse's like, she's always been boss. Like, Jesse is one of my faves. Like, I actually really with her, and I love her. She's got her own hair business. Her. Her hair empire, basically. And she's been had that, honestly, even before the. But you know, Michaela or. Who is it? One of the girls. I get them mixed up, but she's got, like, the book and everything. Like, I feel like they're doing so many great things. And Whitney, like, look at Whitney. Like, she's really. That girl is a star. Like, Whitney, I. I went from completely. I could not stand her and Demi together. Like, I couldn't stand them at all. And then now she's like, I'm like, I'm so happy for her. Like, I'm like, I just want the best for this girl, like, I feel like she was so transparent about. Yeah, I'm coming back to the show because I want to do Dancing with With the Stars. Yeah. Who gives a. Like, everyone is here for opportunities, you know? Like, they're all doing that so they can get opportunities. She was just being real about it. But I just. I love that she's on Broadway. Like, I think that shows, like, made for her, so I'm so happy for her and her family and Jen. I mean, I don't. She gets on my nerves. But whatever she did, Dancing with the Stars, my whole point is they all. They're all doing things that they love and, like, kind of just putting them in, like, better lights, too. Like, it makes them look so good and accomplished and. And then I just feel like Taylor's just stuck in, like, this cycle. Like, she just keeps doing the same over and over. And then when you. Like, when you're rooting for someone and you keep seeing it and the downfall. The downfall, and you keep. It's going and it's going and it's going, and then you're just like. Like, I can't even. I can't defend you anymore. Like, I just can't. Like, I can't be a fan. I can't really defend you because it's, like, it's the same at this point. It's a pattern, and it's. It's. It's toxic. Oh, and I didn't even talk about Miranda. Miranda's, like, one of my faves now. Like, I feel like. I feel like that girl should have been Bachelorette. Like, I really do. I wish they would have. I wish they would have casted her. Like, I feel like no one has got, like, done so dirty aside from Miranda. Like, that poor girl, she must have such major trust issues. And Chase should 100% regret, and I hope he regrets it till the day that he dies. I hope that he regrets losing Miranda and doing the. That he's done. But that girl, like, she's been done dirty by Taylor, her own best friend. Because, did y' all hear that? That girl. What is her name? Shania? Whatever. She. She with Taylor's baby daddy. And then now it's out there that she had a threesome with Chase and that other girl. Some other girl, one of her. One of Miranda's friends. And I'm like, why do these people just keep doing Miranda dirty like this? Like, and why are people still messing with Dakota and Chase? Like, are they men in Utah? Like, it's just so weird. The tea has been crazy. And then Jesse announced that she's getting divorced from her husband, which we're all like, thank God. Like, please just leave his ass in the dust. Like, can dad talk? Not be a thing. She was on call her daddy. And I totally agree. Like, the whole influencing thing. And, like, men, leave it to us. Like, please. Like, I'm just so tired of seeing these men everywhere. Like, this is. This is for the girlies. This is mom talk. Like, this is Secret Lives of Mormon wives. I don't want to see these men on my screen. Like, I'm so tired of them, but here they are. I will. I will say Chase is really funny, and he's actually hilarious on social media, too. I don't completely hate him, I will say, but I do think. I hope he regrets every day. I hope he knows he fumbled. Like, he has to know. And just knowing that he knows that is enough punishment for me for him. Like, he knows he fumbled. So whatever. But the rest, I don't really. I just don't really want to see them. And, yeah, if you guys saw the Call Her Daddy interview, like, there was so much. She talked about so much, apparently, like, Jordan, she called the escort company and has proof that he was, like, getting escorts and, like, having orgies and all this. Like, it is so bizarre. You have to go watch that interview. And I feel so bad because she did talk about how she was kind of in, like, a. Like, in a mentally, like, emotionally abusive relationship. And that he admitted in therapy that, like, he knows that he drew. Like, has Drew driven her to this point? So he's very much aware and he does it anyway. But, yeah, I'm glad that my girl just was like, okay, like, I'm done. And then apparently they had talked. This was the really up part, was that apparently they talked about it, and they both agreed, okay, we're gonna separate. Like, we're gonna get divorced, whatever. And they were going to talk to their kids first. This little Willy Wonka, he goes and files first because he knew, like, he wanted to get the upper hand. He wanted to get his story out there first. And called tmz, and then TMZ texted Jesse. That's how she found out she was getting a divorce. A text message from tmz. Oh, you gotta. You gotta be one strong soldier to go through that. Like, I. Because I literally, I. I can't even tell y' all what I would do that I would be so mad to find out that your partner filed for divorce through text when you already had a plan in place. And then now the whole thing, the whole, the whole Internet is talking about it. Everybody knows. And you guys didn't even get to talk to your kids about it when he's got a 13 year old or 13 or 14 year old daughter that probably saw it too. And it was just probably blindsided. Like, they were all blindsided. Jesse was definitely blindsided. So I'm like, he is just. He's not a man. Like, in my eyes, he's just a little boy. Like, you're scum. It just sucks. It's like, can you imagine being married to someone for so long, you have this life with them and then they just go and like, completely do you so dirty. What was it that Erica Mina said on Love and Hip Hop? You can't even trust the man that you're sleeping with. Like, that is crazy as a woman to have to think about going through something like that. So I hope Jesse, I hope she gets every little thing that she deserves in this life because I love her. But yeah, that interview was really good. I've been watching a lot of Call Her Daddy lately. She's been having really good people on the podcast. She had Hillary Duff on, I think before that too. And that was a really good interview. And it's funny because I don't really listen to podcasts. Like, I know y' all probably think I'm crazy because I have a podcast and I'm considered a podcast or whatever, but I don't really sit and listen to podcasts. I don't watch them. I don't do anything but Call Her Daddy. I will sit down and watch. She gets me all the time. I feel like she is so on it with the guests. Like, girl, she does not skip a beat. She is. She is on it all the time. But yeah, that has been almost impossible to even just turn away from because it's been all over my for you page, all over Tick Tock, all over Instagram. Like I said, I assure you, if you don't know who these Mormon wives are, you know them now. Also, I finished that whole season, the newest season, in like a day when I tell you that was wild. Like, I feel like the seasons just get more and more interesting. It was just. It's so crazy. Like, the whole time I was just like, oh, God, like, why are you doing that? Like, the decisions that Taylor was making and like, oh, my God, the whole. The whole season was just so crazy. But really worth worth watching if you like the. The drama. But yeah, guys, I don't have a lot of time to add another topic on this week, but next week I really want to talk about non negotiables in my 30s and intentional parenting because this is something that a lot of you said you were looking forward to me talking about when I brought up topics. So those are the two things we're going to be focusing on next week. So I hope to see you guys again next week. It will be on Wednesday for now until unless I do get a date change, I will let you guys know. I will update you on here and on the Instagram as well. But right now it is going to be coming out on Wednesdays. This one is just on a Friday because I still wanted to put out an episode this week. But yeah, next week will be we'll be back on Wednesday and I hope you guys have a great rest of your week and I'll talk to you soon. Bye. Informal. 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