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The Chisme Corner with Vee Rivera
Choosing Yourself: Divorce, Infertility, and Postpartum with Britney Del Sol
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V
La Brega is back. This season, we're spending time with the people and symbols that represent Puerto Rico.
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Brittany Del Sol
We're proud boricuas.
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V
And what does that mean? And we are still in the fight. We're telling stories about champions from a place worth fighting for. Stories that will inspire you no matter where you're from. Wow. This is La Brega Campeones. Listen early and ad free with Futuro
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plus a KFC tale in the pursuit of flavor.
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V
The greatest insult the Colonel ever suffered
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was being served a wrap that was
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Brittany Del Sol
just a snack by a friend.
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V
So he took two crispy tenders, lettuce,
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tomatoes, and pepper mayo and wrapped them in a soft tortilla. It wasn't a snack. It was a meal. He called it a twister and never
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V
called that friend again.
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V
Classic or with bacon. Also try it spicy. It's finger licking good.
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Brittany Del Sol
That's the key too. It's like, you really have to remember, like, it's a mind game. And if you kind of sit in it, I think that's good for a little bit. But there comes a point where no one's gonna come pull you out.
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V
All right. Cheese Mosas. I am here. Here with my very good friend, Brittany Del Sol. That's your whole. That's your full name, right?
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah. Well, you know what? That's my, like, Internet name. I feel like I did that, like, in middle school. Yeah. Fun fact, really sad fact. I did that in middle school, and I just kept it ever since. And I feel like now it actually works because, you know, I do vlogs. Well, so you guys know who I am. I do vlogs, and I started doing them, like, for my corporate life. And. And girl, people trying to Google me, they're trying to find my LinkedIn. But because. Because I don't have, like, my legal name on there, sometimes they can't find it. But yeah, that's what I use on the Internet.
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V
So isn't that, like. So you use, like. It's called a suit. A pseudonym, right, or something?
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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V
Like authors, I think. I think, yeah. What's. What's that? Author Freda McFadden she uses.
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Brittany Del Sol
Oh, really?
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V
Yeah, like, that's not her.
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Brittany Del Sol
That's crazy.
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V
I think I would do the. I. I mean, honestly, V is like my nickname. Like, people don't know my full name. Like, obviously you can Google me and it'll probably come up, but most of the time, people have no idea what my real name is.
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Brittany Del Sol
Dang. That's crazy. I didn't know that either.
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V
Yeah. Like, people think my name is just V, and I'm like, no, just V. Just V. But anyways, for anyone who doesn't know who you are, I want you to just give a little background, like, to how you started. I know you're an influencer, but I also love that you're a corporate bestie as well. So you kind of have, like, the best of both worlds. And I'm so intrigued. And I think when I started following you on Instagram, I just loved your story. Like, I was just like, you're so relatable. Like, you're so. It felt like very, very much like big sister energy. And I think obviously it translates to your audience because they feel the same way. Like, everybody loves you. So I was like, I have to have her on.
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Brittany Del Sol
That is so nice. I'm like, keep going, keep going.
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V
Like, yes, girl, give it to me.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yes, girl. Yes.
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V
Yes.
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Brittany Del Sol
No. But I. Thank you so much. But I started doing videos, I feel like, years ago, but it was just for fun. Like, you know, when you doubt yourself for a really long time, you kind of, like, put up this Persona when you hit record. And I feel like for a long time, that was kind of me. So it was hard to kind of gain an audience because you're just trying to do what everybody else is doing. But when I actually started to be like, you know what? I'm just gonna fully be myself. I'm gonna talk to the camera like it's one of my girls, you know, and just kind of vlog my daily life, because I was looking at my life like it was boring. But honestly, I had a lot going on. I have a corporate job, and so during that time, I was kind of going into the office, and I was going through a lot of infertility, so I was sharing that journey, too. So the doctors ended up telling me, like, you probably can have kids because your uterus is fine, but your fallopian tubes are, like, genetically. Like, they're just. It is what it is. They are how they are. And you probably can't have a baby naturally. So if you want to have a baby, you're probably going to have to go through ivf. So they're going to put, like, the. The fertile egg into your uterus and kind of just see if it attaches and grows. So I was thinking, like, dang, if I want to have a baby, it's going to be a really long journey. It's going to be expensive. And I started to like, self reflect and look at the relationship that I was in at the time because I was married. I got married really young and I got married for the wrong reasons because I honestly just wanted to rush and settle down and have a baby and be a mom. And it wasn't really, like, I wasn't really enjoying my partner. I wasn't really enjoying, like, my youth. I feel like I grew up really fast, so I just wanted to rush it and I felt like that would maybe bring me happiness in some way. And so I messed up. How old are you right now? I'm 30. I just turned 30.
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V
Oh, okay.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah.
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V
And I feel like how long were you and your partner together before you got married?
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Brittany Del Sol
Probably like set. Well, we were together probably like four years and then got married and then together probably like another four years.
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V
So were you guys like high school sweethearts?
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Brittany Del Sol
No, actually, we met after high school. He was like, honestly, probably like three or four years older than me. We kind of just met through like a mutual friend that I had at work. And I feel like even then, like, that's what I always say, like, when you know, you know, and sometimes you question yourself as a woman and you're kind of like, no. Well, he's really nice, like, even if you don't feel that spark. And I feel like I didn't. And I, like I said, just wanted to rush everything. So you know what? He's nice. Like, we get along. We have like a good friendship. Like, this is it. Like, this is endgame. And I kept kind of with that train of thought. And when they told me I couldn't get pregnant, I feel like that really was a step back for me to realize, like, do I want to pay all this money and do all this? Like, am I doing it for the right reasons? Like, you go through a lot of self reflection during that period. And I feel like I was like, I don't. I feel like I can't picture myself having a baby with this person even after everything that I've gone through. And I kind of just was like, it was like an epiphany, I feel like. And I realized I needed a divorce. Yeah.
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V
So is it something that, like, it's not something that you, like, pinpointed and was like, okay, this is, this is like, it wasn't one thing. Like, it was kind of just like gradually, like over time.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah. Yeah.
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V
I've been seeing a lot more like divorce content on online. I think people are so much more open about talking about it because it was so taboo before, but now, yeah, like, women. Women are speaking out and they're like, you know, like, I've been feeling this way for X amount of time. And, you know, I decided I'm gonna get up and pack my bags and I'm like, good for you.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah, yeah. No, no one's taking anymore. And people are realizing, like, life is really short, especially women. Sometimes we have this mentality of, like, I need to settle down. I need now, and I need to just like, these are the steps. And I feel like it's some. For some of us, it's, like, ingrained. Especially, like, in the Hispanic culture, It's ingrained in your head like you're getting old. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. So I even me having my daughter at 29, I felt like, oh, my God, I'm so old because, you know, crazy. Isn't that crazy? And it's like. And now I look at it and I'm like, oh, my God, I feel like a teenage girl. But yeah, like.
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V
Like at the same time.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah, just a girl. But I feel like at the same time, like, with, like, what you see in our culture and stuff, I'm like, dang, I'm having kids, like, later in life and it's not, you know. But yeah, I feel like it was like, over time, things that I started to see and realized, like, we're friends. And I think sometimes as a woman, you get caught up in the friendship. But there was no, like, spark. There's no, like, passion. There's no, like, you know, like, that fire that I feel like I needed.
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V
I definitely feel you. And I feel like it's. I saw something the other day. I think she was like a divorce coach or something. I have a lot of relationship stuff, like, random shit that pops up.
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Brittany Del Sol
Me too.
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V
It's always so interesting, like psychiatrists and, like, relationship coaches and stuff. But she said something along the lines of, like, women are divorcing, like, the good guy, like, not necessarily the guy who. He's not abusive. He's not a bad overall guy. He doesn't raise his voice. Like, you guys don't argue. But it's just not. It's. It's. It's not the. The thing that you thought it was going to be like. It's not the best situation that you feel.
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Brittany Del Sol
That is so true. Yeah.
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V
And I was like, wow, that's so interesting that, like, because people are always like. I feel like, especially in Hispanic culture, a lot of women settle and they're just like, yes. Oh, I'M with someone and he hasn't cheated on me. He doesn't hit me. He doesn't, you know, like, but people accept like the bare minimum and yeah, bare minimum to other people. Like it's like that's not what everyone wants to be in a relationship.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yes. And that's such a good point because I feel like in the moment you feel like you need a reason other than I'm just not completely happy with this person. Like you feel like you need a reason to justify people look at you like you're crazy.
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V
Like, why did you leave such a good man? Like, yeah, and it's like, yeah, but you don't know everything that I like. I have to be the one to hold the mental load. I think that's a big. Especially moms and stuff. Like we carry such of like the mental load and it just, it gets really draining if you don't have a partner who's helping you and like taking that weight off your shoulders.
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Brittany Del Sol
Welcome to Survivor 50.
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I wanted one more shot to play
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V
the game that I fell in love
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Brittany Del Sol
with 25 years ago. I want to win against the best of the best. I chickened out at the final tribal.
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V
Season 50.
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Brittany Del Sol
It's an honor.
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V
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Brittany Del Sol
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah, 100 and then you. When you start to feel like you're somebody's mom and it feels a little too far gone, it's like, do I even want it? Like, I can't. There's no coming back, you know, like you can't go back and change that. Once it's set in, it's set in.
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V
Yeah. Once you get the ick from someone, like I think that would give me the ick. Like if I'm acting, if I have
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Brittany Del Sol
to act like your mother tell you
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V
to do Certain things. And like, I. I'm not doing that.
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Brittany Del Sol
And that's part of the struggle I feel like, that I went through. Because when I made the decision and I started to, like, tell my family and stuff, like, what was happening, some of them were obviously very supportive, like, yeah, whatever you want to do. Like, you know, I'm glad you made the decision to make yourself happy. But then I feel like some of the older people, like, in my family were kind of like, well, what happened? Like, also kind of looking for a reason. Like, oh, really? Seem so nice.
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V
Like something.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah, they need to pinpoint something. And I feel like if, like, anybody else is going through that, you don't need a reason other than I. Not 100% happy. And, you know, if you feel like you're going to be happier alone, happier looking for somebody else, like, that's the only reason that you need. Because at the beginning, I did get a little bit of shit from my family. But then over time, they were happy for me. They saw, like, how much happier I was. I started to come back into myself. And then fast forward, I met Tommy and we kind of flourished into this beautiful relationship. And I feel like they were like,
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V
like, wow, like how this was meant to happen then.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yes. Yeah. And if I hadn't trusted my gut and kind of left that situation when I left it, like, in God's timing, I don't know that my life would look the way that it looks now.
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V
Yeah, for sure. And you know what, Going back to what we were talking about too, like, I think people are always, you know how people are always like, oh, the grass isn't always greener on the other side. And like, you have to, you have to water like, where you're. But it's like sometimes it's like beating a dead. People are beating dead.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah. Like, over and over and over again.
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V
So I'm like, I, I on one hand do believe that, like, yes, the grass is greener where you water it for sure. But I'm also the type of. That's like, if a girl is unhappy, I'm gonna 100 support her and be like, move on.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah. Yes. Yeah. And I think that's a good point because it' Nobody knows your situation but you. So if you feel like there's a chance that you might regret it because you have like, like, you know, you are in love with them or you have a lot of history with them, I really think take some time to do therapy, like, if you have the resources, do different options to see if you can water that grass. And if it's like, girl, I've been watering this grass forever and she's dead, she's not coming back alive, then at least then, you know, like, I tried everything I could.
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V
Exactly. And then they say. They say, like, women check out. I think, like, months before. Like, they know. And I. I've. I've seen it with my own eyes. Like, I've seen women be in relationships, and they have been checked out for months, sometimes even, like, years, you know? So, yeah, they finally are able to let go. And sometimes it's harder. Sometimes people have it easier than others. Like, as far as finances and, you know, you just never know what someone's going through. But I do feel like women kind of know and they just. They check out and you can tell.
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Brittany Del Sol
No, that is such a good point, because I feel like also my friends were kind of checking on me. Like, girl, are you okay? Like, you don't look like you're going through it the way you should be going through it.
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V
Exactly. And it's like. Because I kind of already went through it. Like, I went through this months ago. I went through the actual. The. The heartbreak and all this. And then from then on, it's kind of just like, okay, what's the plan? Like, what am I. What am I. What am I about to do?
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Brittany Del Sol
Exactly. Honestly kind of feels. Yeah, I honestly kind of felt like a release. And I was kind of like. Like, I feel like I can kind of, like, let it go. And when I let it go, I'm, like, calling my friends, like, hey, girl, you want to go out? Like, what are you doing tomorrow?
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V
And she's like, outside.
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Brittany Del Sol
Are you okay? Yeah. I was like, girl, pack it up.
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V
We're going on vacation for real. As soon as we go through anything, like, huge in our lives, we gotta have a girls night. Like, I think they say, like, every. I think it's like, every 20 to 21 days. Like, we should be having girls nights because it. Yeah, a lot with, like, our mental health.
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Brittany Del Sol
And I'm like, no, it does.
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V
So did you guys. So when you guys divorced, was it more on your end or was it, like, mutual? Like, how was it for you guys?
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Brittany Del Sol
It was definitely more me. Like, and I think that that's also the thing. Like, as a woman, you can feel like I've been voicing this to you for months. Like, maybe even a couple of years now. Like, different things that I feel like I need in a relationship. A man, from what I've learned, will always act surprised. So he was kind of like, what? Like, blindsided, like deer in the headlights. Like, what are you talking about? Like, I have no idea this was coming. And it's like, yes, you did. So, yeah, you know, conversations about this. Endless conversations. Yes. Yeah. And his initial reaction was, like, really begging me to keep trying. But the, like, key to that was he was kind of saying, like, well, what am I going to do? Because I was the one that's like the breadwinner at the time and like, you know, I'm the one that has everything in my name. And so he was kind of like, what am I gonna do?
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V
Like, which is honestly one of the. I'd be like, if we're really looking at it this way, this is one of the reasons why this is not really working. I have the mental load of everything. Like, ask me what you're gonna do. You're a grown ass.
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Brittany Del Sol
100. Yeah, I want a divorce. And you're like, what do I do?
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V
But, yeah, like, boy, figure it the out. Like, yes, men. You know what it is? Men don't. Men don't build houses anymore. They don't do things like, where are the men that, like, are doing things?
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Brittany Del Sol
Exactly. We need to. They need to get better outside. Yeah. Yes. And I. I feel like that was like a key point for me where I was like, damn. Like, not only is it like, you're okay kind of like living off of me, essentially, like, you're kind of okay, but even now you're kind of like, seeing the situation not for like, our future, everything we've built together, like, you know, like, it wasn't coming from that perspective. It was coming from, like, it's going to be real inconvenient now. Like, thanks a lot. And I was kind of. Yeah, very selfish perspective. And it kind of made me feel like, like, used a little bit. And so I was kind of like that. I feel like that made it easier too, because that was my sign to not feel bad. Because it's like, throughout our relationship, I feel like I'm very much a giver. And it's like I kind of gave a lot. And then when I'm telling you, like, I can't, you know it. And your reaction is like, what. What the hell am I supposed to do?
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V
I was kind of like, okay, yeah, I would have been throw. I would have been so thrown off by that, like, bro.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yes. Well, and especially because he has, like, two loving parents. Like, he always said, like, I had no trauma. Like, I don't. I don't know when people have trauma. Like, I'M I'm lucky. I never have any. And I'm like, yeah, that's great. But then it's like, you know, if you have a man where his mom's wiped his ass from the moment he was born until he's like, 30 something years old, that's why they. They're not outside building houses and they don't know how to, you know, like, where's the.
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V
Where's the character development? Like, yes.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah. It's like, I love that for you. You got no trauma, but at the same time, it's like, that's kind of why you are the way you are.
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V
You know, sometimes I feel like trauma and going through things really does, like, build character. And not that I would wish trauma on people, but you can tell people who have not really been through so much in their life compared to people who haven't. I think it also goes to show to, like, the people who were raised off of, like, love versus, like, survival. Like, it's so interesting to me to, like, meet different people and kind of, like, get a feel of where they come from, because it's like, holy. Like, most of us are just, like, surviving, growing up, and then there's other people out there that were just, like, didn't have that trauma and didn't have to, like, go through all of the things that we went through. And it was purely love and light. And it's like, how does.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah, Yeah. I feel like they have a totally different view of the world than, like, other people who've actually gone through things do. And I feel like that was also, like, a point of, like, contention, where it was like, he's kind of like, well, you're the one that has all this trauma, and you don't want to be that person in the relationship where everything gets blamed on you. Because I'm so sorry. I've gone through things, you know, like, my bad.
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V
I have trauma. Like, at least I'm working on it.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah.
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V
That's wild. So now you met. I. I know. It was when I first started following you. I think that's when you started dating the barber. And you would call. Yeah, like, the barber.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yes.
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V
So how did you guys meet? How did that come about?
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Brittany Del Sol
Well, we actually met on Instagram. So, like, I'm sure, you know, like, we get so many dms, like, just, like, having a platform. But for me personally, it's usually so many women. And if it's men, it's like, men that you're not interested in, you know? And so I try to go through my DMs, like, as much as I can. And I remember that day, I was kind of going through them, and I saw a guy, because I can see his little picture, and I was like, let me see. And he was like, just really nice. Really, like. Like, just had, like, a nice gentleman aspect. And especially coming from what I had just been with for a long time. And then also, like, being in the dating scene for a little bit, it was like a breath of fresh air. But I also took it with a grain of salt because I was like, like, he's. He's just trying to. He's trying to.
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V
It's just like, a random in my DMs.
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Brittany Del Sol
Like, yeah, it was like a random. My DMs. But then when I went to his profile, he was a barber, and, like, he had clients. I was like, okay, he's like a real person, you know? Yeah. And he was basically like, you know, I'd really love to take you out. Like, are free this day, this time. Like, and then I'll go to your city, blah, blah, blah. And I was like, yeah, sure, whatever. And then I was like, you know what? I'm gonna put myself out there, and I'm just gonna do it. Like, the worst that could happen is it's like, a couple free drinks, and, you know, I get out of the house, like, you know.
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V
Yeah. I get, like, a free dinner out of it. Like, fun.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yes. I get a free dinner. Like, you know, whatever happens, I get a cutesy drink, cute outfit, you know, whatever. And so I agreed to it. And so we went, and he picked a really nice restaurant. I was living in Woodland Hills at the time, so for my Woodland Hills girls, it's called Casalina. It's a really cute, like, nice restaurant. And so he picked that place. And I was like, okay, good points.
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V
It's a good choice, you know?
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah. So I pulled up there. Whatever. Then, long story short, we had dinner, and it was so nice. Like, we actually grew up in the same small town and, like, never met each other, even though we're, like, two years apart. And he kind of was telling me his story and, like, how we were talking about, like, how trauma really builds character. He's been through a lot, and I keep telling him, like, he needs to, like, write a book or, like, have his own podcast or something to, like, really speak his story, because he's just been through so much. And we're talking about that. We're talking about, like, my stuff growing up, and, like, the conversation got really deep, and Then he was.
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V
Do you feel like that was a lot different than when.
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Brittany Del Sol
What? Yes.
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V
Like, did you guys get.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah.
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V
Or not really?
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Brittany Del Sol
No, I feel like that happened kind of over time. But like I said, like, even with, like, my ex husband, it wasn't like a spark work. Like, there wasn't really. Like, when I saw him, I wasn't like, oh, like, I like him, you
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V
know, as to, like, the barber. You guys just hit it off.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yes. Yeah. Like, instantly there was like a connection that I feel like it was like, attraction, but it was also, like, weird. Like how they say, like, kind of like magnetic, almost, like. And not to be all like, you know, book talk or whatever, but that's the vibe. Like, it was very. Like, I feel like we kind of just like connected and it was like something that I never really felt before. And so we hung out. We, like, ended up hanging out really late that night, and we kind of were just like, inseparable ever since.
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V
That is so cute. I love that. I really do. That really, that gives Booktok. For real?
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah. No, literally. Especially because that's. I feel like now I'm like, damn. That's why they say that because when you're single, they're like, your person's gonna come when you least expect it. You hate hearing that when you're single or you've been through stuff, you're like.
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V
You're like, girl, shut up.
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Brittany Del Sol
Everybody says that, but it's like, how. How is that gonna happen? But for me, it really did happen. Like, I wasn't looking for anything serious or anybody, and it kind of just fell into my lap.
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V
That's crazy. So how long after were you. You already went through your divorce. Like, how long after that?
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Brittany Del Sol
Honestly, it was probably like we had kind of been separated for maybe like a year, but, like, officially divorced. Maybe, like a few months.
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V
Okay.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah. And that was my thing, too. I was kind of like, oh, is he gonna get scared off? You know, like, is he gonna get scared off? But he's actually divorced, too. Yeah. Yeah. So on our first date, I was kind of like, you know my story, right? Like, you went through my videos? And he was like, yeah. I was like, okay. Just so you know, like, I'm recently divorced. And he was like, yeah. I want to tell you, like, yeah. He's like, I'm divorced too. And I was like, okay. Like, you could relate. Yeah.
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V
You guys seem like you guys had so much in common.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah. Yeah. That's awesome.
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V
So you balance influencing and then you also work a corporate job. So I kind of want to get into that a little more too because I know there's a lot.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah. Listen.
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V
Who are in the corporate world. I like to call them my corporate baddies.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yes, A lot of corporate baddies.
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V
Yes. So what is that like juggling that? Like, how does that look behind the scenes for you? And do you ever feel pressured to just take one route?
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah, I do. I feel like, I feel like I. When I got into the corporate world, I do wholesale insurance, so insurance for properties. So like it could be like a schedule of like a bunch of hotels or something. So I'll do like an insurance policy for if like a fire, water damage or something happens to those hotels. Like just to kind of. So people know what I do. But I only found out about that industry because my aunt works at a similar company and she had a friend that works at the company I work at now. So I was also like, I got an associate's degree in math and science and then I was kind of like, what do I do? Like, I was jumping around, I was working at restaurants and then I was working at like little offices and stuff to get experience and I kind of just felt like I was floating in the world. And I think that's where a lot of people who DM me and want to know about corporate life are in the exact same spot. Like, you're like, how do I get a job that is like sustainable, that pays me enough to like have a decent living because I'm a mom and I have kids? Like, how do I kind of get there? I. That's why I like to say what I do. Because I feel like if people really Google that and kind of look into it, it's like the insurance industry is really good if you're like in the right area. But it is hard in the sense that like you. I deal with a lot of clients and so it's like very front facing. So I gotta like be on the phone all the time and like you gotta be okay with like, it's Friday night and I gotta send some emails. I gotta work. Like, it's very much like not a clock in, clock out job. So because of that, for me it's been hard because everything that I built up so I can make what I make at my job, social media kind of gave me that in like the blink of an eye. And I was like, damn. And so fast. And I was kind of like, I am dedicated to my job because I've worked so hard to do it. But ever since I had my daughter who's Six months. She just turned six months. I feel like I'm more like my mindset has shifted, and I'm kind of like. Like, even if I have some sort of, like, commitment or feeling towards my job, I'm kind of gonna do whatever will put me closer to her and whatever will set her up the best in life, you know? So right now I'm doing both, which I feel like it hasn't been that hard because I can work from home right now, but I'm like, if they start to kind of make me go into the office, I feel like that's where a lot of people struggle. Like, you get out of maternity leave, and then you got to go back to work, and you're kind of like, do I want to? Like, is there anything else that I can do to not. And because I have the social media, it is very tempting to just be like, you know what? I'm gonna just do that.
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V
I get that, girl. I think it's just. I think it's just hard overall because it's like, you work so hard to get to your position, and you don't.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah, I don't.
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V
I don't know how I would feel, too. I think I would do the same thing you're doing. Like, I wouldn't be able to say,
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Brittany Del Sol
yeah, I feel like I'm kind of, like, trying to push it as much as I can, and then if it gets to the point where, like, I can't bend anymore and I feel like I'm gonna snap, then I probably will just do the social media, because I think, like, longevity, it seems more sustainable, and I think that, like, you have to kind of be really involved, and I feel like that's something maybe you can speak on, too, because I feel like you've been in the public eye from what I saw, like, a really long time, and it's like, you have still a certain relevance where people love you and they love your content, and it's because they love you as a person, because I think you show who you are, and if you let that fall for months or a couple years, I feel like people kind of forget, you know, Like.
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V
Yeah.
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Brittany Del Sol
So for me, I'm, like, fighting to stay relevant, and I feel like if I let my corporate job get in the middle of that, then this is all. It can go away, you know?
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V
Like, it can go away fast. Well, I feel like you do such. You do. Like I said, even in the beginning, I think you do such a great job at social media. So I feel like even if you did like stick to just that you're. I'm a thousand percent sure you're gonna be fine. Like, you have such a loyal audience and you're just, you're true to yourself and a lot of people can relate to your story. And even with your divorce and infertility, like, there's so many women that go through these things and there's so many women who are not outspoken about it as much, you know, like, yeah, I think I just started seeing women and start talking even about infertility. Like, I have a follower. Well, I have someone that I follow that she just opened up about her journey and she's been on it for like two, three years. And I'm like, it's hard to get to that place where you are comfortable opening up because it's almost like sometimes I talk and I, I feel like it's just, everything is just out to the void when that. But yeah, so like it's, it's, it's weird. It's like a weird relationship because everyone is watching me, but I don't, I
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Brittany Del Sol
can't see anyone who's. It's like a one way mirror.
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Commercial/Announcer
Yeah.
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V
And it's really weird. So I, and I'm like, do you ever struggle with like the per. Like setting boundaries as far as like influencing and keeping things for you and keeping things like private, but then also being open with your audience as well? Especially because like what you said, being in the corporate and like people googling
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Brittany Del Sol
you and stuff like that? Yeah, I think that in the beginning it was very easy because like you said, I was kind of like, girl, no one's watching me. Like, I'm just gonna say whatever. Yeah, it was easier. And then now you start to see like that there's a lot of people watching or a lot of people. Like, I will get like 99 loving, supportive messages, but then that one message that will bother me for like a year, I'm like thinking about it all the time. Yeah. Why do you care about that one message? Like, just forget it and it will stick to me. Like, so that part has made it a little bit harder. Like as my audience kind of continues to grow, I feel like it's a little harder to want to share things, especially because you can't control the way that people think. So I feel like I'm very much like, yeah, exactly. So it's kind of like, you know, even with postpartum, I feel like I'm, I'm on the fence if I want to share a lot about it. But the Postpartum depression for me has been really bad. Like, it's just been a lot of, like, not recognizing who I am and kind of going through things. Like, to give you an example, like, Tommy has two sons from a previous marriage, and because the relationship with his ex is not good, Like, I feel like I've tried to, like, be friends and. And, like, have a friendship. Like, I'm very much like, hey, girl. Like, you don't want to be friends. Like, you don't want to.
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V
Yeah. Like, let's just kind of make happy family.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yes. I'm like, come on. Like, you know, like, it was a long time ago. Like, let's move on. Like, our kids are siblings. Like, and I kind of want it to be that. And she's very much like, I have no interest in being your friend. I don't want to be your friend. I don't really want anything to do with you. And that's hard for me because I'm like. I don't know. I feel like I want to live in a world where everything is, like, you know, copacetic and stuff. And so it's hard when someone's telling you. Yeah. And it's hard when someone.
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V
I have been through this. I've been through this, and I know the feeling. You just want peace.
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Brittany Del Sol
Like, you just, like, peace for everybody. Yeah. And then it's like, when someone's committed to, like, not liking you, but they don't even want to take the time to get to know you. Like, they just don't like you because of their trauma and what they're dealing with. It's like. It's, like, been hard for me to kind of remove myself and be like, okay, it has nothing to do with me. It's just that, you know, and, like, accept the situation for what it is. So I feel like there's that aspect. And then, honestly, like, with me having Capri, I never thought that I was gonna have a baby. And me and Tommy, I wanted to
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V
get into, like, your IP situation and everything, too, so we can go into this.
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Brittany Del Sol
So I kind of was under the impression, like, if I want to have a baby, I'm gonna have to really prepare for it. I'm gonna have to do ivf. I'm gonna have to save money. Like, multiple doctors kind of told me the same thing. And so when I met Tommy, I wasn't really the most careful, and neither was he. And so. Because to me, it wasn't even a thought. It was like, there's no way. Like, I had been like, Just unprotected for years and nothing ever happened. And he got tested too, and his sperm was fine. So I was like, no. Everyone was just like, no, it's you, it's you, it's you. So I was like, okay, whatever. So then I got with Tommy and then literally like two, almost three months into our relationship, I get pregnant and I was like, no way. Like, I didn't even want to do
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Commercial/Announcer
it because I was like the greatest to ever play the game. Return to finish what they started.
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Brittany Del Sol
Welcome to Survivor 50.
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Commercial/Announcer
I wanted one more shot to play
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V
the game that I fell in love
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Brittany Del Sol
with 25 years ago. I want to win against the best of the best. I chickened out in the final tribal.
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V
Season 50. It's an honor.
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Commercial/Announcer
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V
I've got some unfinished business.
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Commercial/Announcer
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V
I have more to play for.
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Brittany Del Sol
This time bigger than ever.
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Brittany Del Sol
Well, he was like. He was like, you should take it. Like, I just have a feeling. Blah, blah, blah. We went to a concert and I had passed out and I've never passed out in my life.
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V
Oh my God.
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Brittany Del Sol
And yeah, so he goes, yeah, I think you're pregnant. And I go, what does that have to do with me? I was like, he's crazy. Yeah.
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V
What does that do with me Pregnant?
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah. But he, like, just. It was like, I have a gut feeling. And I was like, this poor guy, like, he doesn't realize my body.
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V
He don't even know that.
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Brittany Del Sol
He didn't even know. But I was like, whatever. And then so he kept bugging me for like days to take the test. And I was like, whatever, fine, I'll take it. And I took it and I started like, vacuuming. And then I went to the bathroom and I'm so grateful that in the moment I was like, okay, just in case it is positive, I'm just gonna record it, like, just in case so that I have it.
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V
Yeah.
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Brittany Del Sol
And it was. And I was in actual Disbelief. I was like, crazy. There's no way.
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V
I feel like I would be just like, wow. It was. I don't want to say this in the wrong way. I'm trying to, like, word it carefully, but, like, you know how you were with the wrong person, and maybe that's why.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah.
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V
It was.
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Brittany Del Sol
Wasn't happening. Yeah. Yes. And some people are afraid to say that because there are people in situations that have that situation going on, and it's not a one size fits all. But I do think that if you're in that situation, like, your body reacts.
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V
Trauma. I mean, well, yeah, trauma, stress. Like, anything you're going through. Like, there's so many people out there that are like, oh, I left my husband and I don't have any sickness anymore. Like, their sickness.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yes.
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V
Or, like, body, like, just totally subsides. And I believe in that. Like, I truly believe that what.
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Brittany Del Sol
What you're going through and who.
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V
The. The energy, the person that you're with, that rubs onto you.
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Brittany Del Sol
100. Yeah. Yes. The stress of your environment really will affect your body. And I think that it's like, that's part of it. For me, personally, I do think that was the case. I think I wasn't with the right person. I think, like, my body knew. And if you're religious, I think that God knew. Like, you're not. That. That's not the person that you're supposed to be with.
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V
It's almost like your body was rejecting.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah. No. 1,000%. Yeah. And so I was kind of like, when I saw it and it was positive, a lot of things rushed through my brain. Like, me and Tommy were very fresh in our relationship. So that was also running through my head. Like, it was fear of that. It was also fear of, like, can I really get attached to this? Because you instantly feel, like, attached. Like, I was like, oh, my God. Like, I was vaping at that time. I was, like, drinking, and I was like, I need to stop immediately. Like, you instantly feel like a protection for your baby. And so I was kind of, like, scared to get attached attached. Because I didn't know. Like, obviously it was early on, so I didn't know, like, if it was going to be a healthy pregnancy, if it was even going to continue to happen. Like, there was a lot of fear. And in that moment, and I look back at the video and it makes me sad because thankfully everything turned out well. But in the moment, I was just so scared. Like, I was scared of for like, 100 million reasons. But. Yeah. But thankfully, in the end, like, You. You know, your mom, you gotta just go through the process, and as scared as you are, you gotta just wake up and do it. And thankfully, it all worked out, and it was good, But. Yeah. But anyway, the postpartum that I was talking about was, like, hard because I never knew that I was gonna have her. So when I met Tommy and he had his two boys, I felt really attached to them because I felt like, you know, if me and Tommy are together, then I kind of get this family that I never thought I was gonna have. Like, I get to have kids when I never thought I was gonna have kids. And so a lot of that, me having to distance myself because there are certain boundaries feel like were put on me. You know, I kind of was, like. It was hard. So I feel like a lot of that has been really hard. And it's hard to want to be, like, a mom to these kids when I'm not their mom and they have a mom and they love her, and she's great.
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V
You know, it's like this imaginary line almost that, like, you can't cross it, and then you can't be too behind it. Like, it's.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yes.
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V
It's so weird. Like, you can't do too much, but then you also have to, like, stay in your lane and stay in your place.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah.
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V
What the do I do? Like, yeah.
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Brittany Del Sol
And then it's like, you're coming from such a good place that honestly. Honestly, part of me started to get really, like. Like, I don't want to say bitter, because I feel like that's the wrong word. Like, never towards the kids, but just, like, fine. Like, I'm. I can never do the right thing. So it's like, you know what? I'm just gonna kind of remove myself. I'm not gonna do anything. Yeah. And so then that caused a little bit of contention between me and Tommy because he felt like, well, you're not putting in an effort, like, to come hang out with me and boys. And I'm kind of like, well, I feel like it's better for me to just be out. So that caused a lot of arguments between us for a long time. And. And honestly, the only thing that kind of has fixed that recently is that we kind of went into therapy, and I kind of, like, saw a lot of things that I was going through that made me act the way that I acted and a lot of things that he's going through. And so a lot of times, like, on the Internet, I feel like people are like, oh, like, mom and dad. Like, you Guys look so perfect and all this stuff, and it's like, no. Like, we've had a lot of arguments. Like, there's a lot of very important, sensitive things that. Yeah, it's real life. And I think that it's very, like, damaging for people to put out this image that their relationship is perfect because that's all we see online. And then when you start to struggle and I'm like, dang, we have to go to therapy, like, our relationship must be shit. And it's like, no, I think it's just the mature thing to do because I have been through a lot and he has been through a lot, and we've been through a lot together, and our life changed in the blink of an eye, and we love each other and we're doing our best, but. But sometimes it does make you feel away, you know?
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V
And so the therapy guys are. Yeah. I think it's beautiful that you guys started therapy. I always tell, now that I'm married and have been with my partner for a long time, I always tell people I wish that we did therapy before we got married. Like, and I. I'm.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah.
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V
An advocate for that. Like, I think they don't. I don't think there needs to be anything wrong in your relationship. And I think it's still okay for you guys to.
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Brittany Del Sol
Exactly.
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V
Like.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah. Yeah. I think it's, like, preventing.
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V
Yes, exactly. No, I think so many women can relate to that, especially step parents. Because I've been in. I've been in that situation for.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah.
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V
So many times, too. And it's just hard. Like. So I think anyone can relate to what you're feeling, and I don't think it's. Yeah, it's not a wrong feeling, you know, Like, I think it's just a lot of the times we don't. Especially if you.
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Brittany Del Sol
You.
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V
I mean, most of us have never been in a situation like that before. We're just experiencing that in a new relationship or whoever. You're dealing with children from a previous marriage or relationship. So it's like you're kind of figuring it out. You have to figure everything out on your own. Like, there's no.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yes.
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V
There's no rule book. There's no guidebook for it. Like, it's. It's. It's so weird. Like.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah.
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V
And it's very.
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Brittany Del Sol
So weird.
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V
Very. It feels very.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yes.
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V
When you're in that position.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah.
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V
A lot of. I don't know about you, but I don't have anyone in my life that's like a step parent or Any, like. Yeah. Gone through anything that I've been through ever. So it's like, I have to eat that and I can't really talk to.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah.
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V
They can't relate. So it's like. Yeah, I've just gone through things by myself. And it's like. It's like.
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Brittany Del Sol
That's so real.
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V
Yeah. Like, I don't know if I'm doing anything right. Like, at all.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yes. Well. And then I feel like that's so real, because when you don't. Number one, a lot of people don't talk about it, especially on the Internet. Like, I feel like people think, like, I can't talk about that. People are going to take it the wrong way. And that's what I think. Like, I'm like, sometimes there's times where I want to talk about, like, how I'm feeling and, like, how hard it is to be a step parent. Like, what about it makes it hard? And I get a little scared because I feel like people are like, me, too. I'm number one to, like, protect children and stuff. So a lot of people kind of, like, will make it about the kids, and it never has anything to do with them. It's more so about, like, navigating it, because, like you said, there is no rule book and navigating it with a whole nother woman who sometimes doesn't want to, like, accept you kind of that way. And so it's hard. And I think.
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V
And then your partner, too, like, it's.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah.
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V
So many different, like, aspects of it.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah. Because then there's. There's certain boundaries that you want to set. And even though you're kind of, like, coming into it, it's still like, well, I'm coming into it, but I still have a right to set certain boundaries because.
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V
Yeah. For my.
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Brittany Del Sol
In any relationship. Yeah. In any relationship, you have the right to, but especially one where, you know, they're. They're essentially connected to somebody else. And so for me, that was hard. It was kind of like, I want to set boundaries, but is it my place? Like, there's a lot of stuff that you question, like, like, am I allowed to do this? Am I not? And it's like, everybody's situation is so unique and so different. So it's hard. But especially, like, what you said, like, there's nobody in my family that I can, like, look to to get advice, because there's nobody that I know. Yeah. Like, not even friends that I know that have been through it. And usually the response that I get when I try to, like, Open up. They're like, well, you knew we had kids when you got with him. Well, you knew that he had kids. You knew what you were getting into.
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V
But if you think I'm like, bro, if you think about it, everybody got kids now. Like, I feel like whoever anyone gets with, like, everybody got kids.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yes.
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V
So it's like, Exactly. Everybody's got a situation at one point.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah, exactly. And that's why I feel like that's such a good. Like, do not comment about other people's situation, because you never know. You can be in that situation.
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V
You will be that same in that position. Yes, I've learned that too. I've learned that too. Cuz I trust me.
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Brittany Del Sol
I be.
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V
I. I'm a Virgo. So, like, my face will say it all. Like, I'll be like, couldn't be me. But then it becomes me, and I'm like, okay, I get it. I get it.
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Brittany Del Sol
I know exactly. Okay. I know I'm a Scorpio. And I feel like life be humbling me because I'll be over here. Like, that could never be me.
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V
My husband's a Scorpio, so I know how y' all roll, but I love it.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yes. We be talking until it's about us. We're like. Like, oh,
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V
that's so funny. I'm the same way, girl.
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Brittany Del Sol
I'm the same way.
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V
So going back to, like, your divorce and everything, what is something that you feel like you've learned about yourself after going through that?
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Brittany Del Sol
I think that I'm a lot stronger than I give myself credit for because I'm very sensitive. Like, even though I'm a Scorpio, like, I. I mean, I don't really know a lot, but I don't know if that's. That's the. The narrative. But I'm very emotional. I'm very sensitive. I'm very, like, wear my heart on my sleeve. Like. Like you said, like, my face will show it if I'm upset or if I'm sad or whatever. Like, I can't really hide it. And for a long time, like, if I'm mad, I start crying. If I'm sad, I start crying. If I'm happy, I start crying. And for a long time, I felt like that was, like, a weakness. And I think going through hard, like, especially as an adult, like. Like learning to, like, you know what? I gotta choose me. And I'm not gonna apologize for it. There's people that are gonna be mad. Some of my family might be mad. His family's gonna hate me. He's probably gonna hate me. Like, I can't put so much value on what other people think about me. I have to put value on what I think about me. You know, like, if I can go to sleep at night and know that I'm doing the right decision, that I'm not doing anything with malice. I'm not, like, being a bad person. Like, I think that's, like, the number one. So, yeah, I feel like that's the one thing that I really learned is, like, you can't put value on yourself because of what other people think about you, whether it's good or bad. Because sometimes, especially being in the public eye, you have all these people hyping you up, and it feels really good, and it can be a little bit addicting. So it's kind of like, you know what? Like, people are hyping me up, and I love it.
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V
But sometimes you gotta down back to life. Like, I always. I'm like, yeah, I gotta bring myself back to life a little bit, and it's okay to be confident and, like. Because I feel like also, like, so it does bring you some type of confidence, you know? Like, yeah, why wouldn't it? Like, of course it does. But, yeah, you also have to, like, have that validation in yourself. Like, it's like, okay, all these people were telling me this. I need to believe this in me.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah, exactly.
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V
That's like. And that's a journey, you know? Like, that's a journey. I think that's us as.
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Brittany Del Sol
As.
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V
Even as women. And just now, even you're becoming a mom. And, you know, you were talking about how, like, you, you know, going through postpartum, you feel like you're kind of, like, losing yourself.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah.
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V
I will say, like, I went through the worst postpartum. And that's kind of one of the reasons why I always said I want to be one and done. Because I don't want to go through it again. Like, as much as I love my daughter and I love being a mom, I am so much more scared of going through what I went through and losing myself again that I always said, like, I don't ever want to put myself through that.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah, it's scary.
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V
It's so scary. And they say, I think, like, you just start to gain who you are, like, a sense of self back five or six years after you have. And I'm like, that is a long time.
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Brittany Del Sol
Like, crazy.
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V
It's crazy. And I look back and I'm like, that is exactly what my journey was because I had my daughter at 24. Like, I was so young. My frontal lobe wasn't even developed yet. I got pregnant. I moved to a whole nother state. I got married. Like, I did all of these things at once. And it wasn't until I hit, like, 30 that I started to actually feel like myself again. And by then I feel like I had changed so much. Like, I feel like I'm just like a totally different person. And it's not a bad thing. Like, I think I've. I'm looking back and I'm like, wow. Like, I think I kind of had to go through all of this stuff to, like, grow. But then I look back and I'm like, I feel bad and I feel sad for, like, the girl before, you know? Like, I felt. I felt like I was so, like, just going through it. Like, I was so alone. I felt like I was never gonna get out of that. Like that.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah.
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V
And like, that hole. Yeah, I felt like I was in a hole.
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Brittany Del Sol
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V
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Brittany Del Sol
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V
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Brittany Del Sol
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V
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Brittany Del Sol
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Brittany Del Sol
And there's so much guilt, too, because you're like, I'm supposed to be the happiest I've ever been in my life. And in a way I am. But at the same time, like, why do I feel like shit all the time? And it really is like, people, I feel like, especially women who go through it need to talk more because anytime I talk about, like, a little glimpse of it, so many people are like, oh, my God, me too. Oh, my God, me too. Oh, my God, me too. And me going through it for, like, these Past few months, I've felt very, like you said, like, very alone and a little guilty because I'm like, I love her so much. Like, it has nothing to do with her. It's like my actual hormones and my body. And, like, even my therapist told me, like, because I was telling her, like, I don't know why I keep snapping at Tommy. Like, if it's like. If it's like, I'm, like, blaming it on my hormones and.
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V
Well, he's your safe space.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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V
You know how they say, like, kids act out in front. Like, it's usually in front of the moms. I saw something the other day, and it was like, when kids act, like, act out or like, they, you know, it's because they're. They feel safe. With you, they wouldn't feel safe. Yeah. With anybody else. So I think maybe Tommy. And I'm the same way, like, with my husband. Like, yeah, I can be a. Like, I know, and I'll feel so guilty about it. But.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah. Then later you're like, yeah.
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V
You're like, damn, I'm have to give it. I'm have to do something. Something, because I'm have to make it up.
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Brittany Del Sol
I'm sorry,
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V
but it's like when you're with this person all the time, unfortunately. Yeah, they do. They're the ones that. That are going to get that side of you the most because.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah. I feel like you just feel.
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V
You feel safe, and I. It probably sounds crazy, but I think it's just human nature. Like, it's just who we're most comfortable just being our true authentic self with. And in that moment. Yeah. That's who the we are. That's who we're being.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah. In the moment, I'm irritated. Yeah.
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V
And you're gonna. You're gonna know it.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah. And someone needs to hear about it. And you're the only one here.
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V
Exactly. So you gotta eat that. And, like.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah.
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V
But it is what it is. Like, I think we just. Women go through so much, and it's like, I'm like, we couldn't ever possibly sit down and tell a man exactly what we're going through and have them fully understand.
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Brittany Del Sol
No, they would never know.
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Brittany Del Sol
They would never know. And I think because they don't go through the hormonal changes that we do, it's like their brain can't really comprehend, like, what it is or, like, how extreme it is. They're kind of just like, yeah, I get it.
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V
Yeah.
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Brittany Del Sol
They're like, I don't think you do
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V
yeah, no, you never fully will. Will understand it, and it's like, you can have the most amazing, supportive partner, and still you're gonna feel those things. Things, you know.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah. Yeah, exactly.
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V
Going through infertility and everything. Do you feel like that affected the way you viewed, like, your body or, like, womanhood at all?
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah, I think for a long time as I was going through it, I fell into a really bad depression because I felt like this is the one thing in my head. I'm like, this is the one thing my body's supposed to be built to do. You feel like your body is working against you, and you feel like you're doing everything to, like, make the, like, put your ducks in a row and make everything perfect and time things and take things and. And, like, use, like, strips and, like, you're literally using every tool under the sun that you're. That's out there, and it still doesn't work. You feel a lot of resentment. And honestly, I started to get a lot of resentment, like, even scrolling. And that's why I know, like, if. If when I announced my pregnancy, I lost a lot of followers, and I don't blame that on them. Like, I kind of knew that was gonna happen, because when you're going through it and you follow people who are also going through it, and then they come out and they're like, oh, I'm pregnant. Part of you.
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V
I didn't think about that for you. I'm like, why did people unfollow you? It was because of, like, your relationship or something. But no, I'm right. I didn't think about that.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah, a lot of people are like, I'm so. And I got some messages like, that, like, I'm so happy for you, but it just is, like, very triggering for me. So, like, I'm gonna have to circle back and. And follow you later, you know, And I.
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V
And I get that. I think I. I can understand why women would feel like that, too. And sometimes you have to. Especially on the Internet. Sometimes you have to, like, distance yourself from followers who you feel like you're.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah.
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V
Maybe not relating to in the moment or, you know, you're gonna be triggered by. And that's totally okay.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah, exactly.
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V
If you want to come back later, then come back later. But.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah. Yeah, but I get that.
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V
I know, but that's so sad. Like, I'm sorry you had to go through that. That. Because that's like. It's like. Like, you feel like you're sharing such a. Yeah. Amazing thing in your life. But Then you also feel guilty because you're like. Like, now the community that I had and, like, started because of my infertility, like, they're just. They don't want to.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah, yeah. I know that there's a portion of them that are probably, like, very triggered or a little upset because, like, when you're going through it, you do feel a little bit of resentment. Like, why her, not me? Like, and then especially for me, like, they were like, oh, like. Like, you need to take these medications and you need to do this, you need to do that, you do this, you need to do that. Then there's other people that are like, oh, I wasn't even planning for this baby, and I got pregnant again. And you're kind of like. You know, people who've never gone through it don't hear it, and it's not their responsibility to, like, trigger warning everybody. Like, it's just like an internal thing that you go through. Like, if you've been through it where you're like, damn. Like, that's. That's crazy that it's so easy for other people. And it's, like, not easy for me, you know? But, yeah, I feel like I kind of, like, hated my. My body for a long time because I was like. But honestly, if you're going through it and you feel like that that's totally valid and totally normal, but you have to remember that maybe it's just not the right time. And you don't want to hear that in the moment. Because I used to hate. Like, my mom would tell me, like, it'll happen when it's time. And I'm like, you're like, I don't even know what you're talking about. Like, you're like, you can be forever. Like, shut up. But then, like, then when it happened, I was like, oh, thank God it happened when it happened with the person that it happened with. Like, there's just so many details that I sense afterwards. Yeah. Like, I couldn't have painted a more perfect picture, you know, that's.
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V
Well, I'm so glad your daughter is so gorgeous. So how has motherhood been? Like, is it anything that you thought? Like, what's anything you thought it would be? Like, is it harder? Is it a lot easier at this age? Like, do you think it's going to get harder? Like, what is motherhood looking like for you right now?
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah, I feel like in the beginning, maybe because it was, like, my adrenaline and stuff, but it was very. The newborn stage for me was very easy. And I do have an easy baby. So she will just, like, eat, go to sleep, eat, go to sleep. And I'm like, oh, yeah.
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V
I feel like at that time, that's, like, all they do. So it's like, this is a breeze.
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Brittany Del Sol
They wake up, they eat, they go to sleep, and she's, like, sleeping 85% of the day. So it was so easy. So I was like, oh, my God, this is great. Like, this is amazing. And then from, like, three to six months now, it's probably been maybe, like, three to five months. It's been the hardest because she's more aware of the world and she wants to interact, but she can't play independently, obviously, like, with toys and stuff. And she really thrives, obviously, on, like. Like, communication. So it's like, sometimes I have to just hold her and talk to her. And then if she gets bored, okay, let's try this toy. And then she'll get bored, and then we'll try something else, and then she gets bored, and then we read a book. And, like, so even though she's so small, she wants a, like, entertainment. And, girl, in the beginning, yeah, at, like, four months, I, like, had. I was watching a Disney movie or something, and she got so into it, and so I let her. And then I was like, oh, cool. I can get, like, 15 minutes of, like, being able to clean or whatever, because she'll just sit there and watch the movie. And then I get on reels, and I got all this, like, stuff in me that's like, you're gonna mess up her brain. And they shouldn't have. And I was like, no. And part of me is like, that's not real. She'll be fine. And now I cannot let it go. Like, I can't get out of my head. So now I literally don't let her watch anything.
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V
That is so crazy. And, you know, I always think, like, if I had my daughter around this time, like, in this. Where we are in social media versus when I did back then, I don't know what I would do. I think I would feel the same way you felt. Like, I would be triggered by everything. I would feel guilty or, like, am I doing this right? What am I doing wrong? Because what the. Like, my daughter was growing Mickey Mouse clubhouse in the morning, right? We would play, and I would. I. I. I'm a person that, like, I have the TV on all the time because it's.
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Brittany Del Sol
I think I know.
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V
Yeah. Like, that's just, like, background noise. I can't. I can't be in, like, a place where it's just quiet. Like, I can't. I just can't do it. I need to have something I've always grew up with. My dad was a DJ growing up, so I always grew up around loud music in my house. Yeah, I always grew up around loud music. Like, just music and sounds, everything around me. So now that's how I am. Like, I have to have a tv. I actually like when I think. Like, when I moved into this house, I told Joe that I didn't want a TV in the bedroom, which was a huge step for me. Girl, that was a huge thing I grew up with. I would fall asleep to, like, like, TV and stuff. So I was like, I feel like. I feel like my brain gets over stimulated. And I was like, I don't want to be overstimulated in my bedroom. Like, so that was a big step for me. But other than that, I always have things going on. So, like, when Vivi was little, I would always have the TV on for her. And it's. Yeah, it's funny because she never. She wouldn't, like, be so into it, but it's just something that was always there. And then people look down right now and they talk about it, and they're like, oh, you can't expose them to this, this, and that and this. And I'm like, I hate to be one of those people, but I'm like, we were all exposed to that. We're fine, we're okay, but we're all pretty smart. Like, we're like, I don't think there's anything completely wrong with us, but I don't.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah, I don't know.
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V
I think. I think everything is just within moderation, you know?
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Brittany Del Sol
Like, yeah, you could.
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V
There could be two. You could do too much of something, and then you could also have too little of something. That's for everything, right? Even they say drinking too much water is unhealthy.
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Brittany Del Sol
And it's like, I know. Yeah, exactly.
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V
Like, what the hell?
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Brittany Del Sol
Like, you.
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V
Yeah, everything.
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Brittany Del Sol
You can never do anything right.
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V
Yeah. There's always a downfall and, like, some to something. So I'm just like, just do what makes you feel good. Like, I always tell people, whatever's good for you and your family, you don't ever have to explain that to anybody else. Like.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah, exactly. Yeah. And exactly. And I feel like that's such a good point because I'm like. I'm scared to be like. Like, showing her the tv, like, sit her in front of it, like, because I have it on all the time, too. So I'll, like, sit her away from it and then, like, have her play toys and stuff. Or, like, girl, yesterday I had to get my eyelashes done, and I was like, she's gonna have with me, because Tommy wasn't going to get home one time, and I brought her, and I was like, I'm bringing the iPad, and we're gonna have Miss Rachel. And it worked because she hasn't watched TV in, like, months. So she was, like, glued to it for, like, the whole hour.
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V
And I was like, I wish I had Miss Rachel. When Bibi was little, we had this thing. There was this show on Netflix called Word Party. I don't know if they still have it on, but she was obsessed with that show. It's like, these four little cute characters. Yeah. I don't know if it's still on Netflix, maybe Check. But it was the most adorable show. And my daughter was so obsessed with that. Like, and that was, like, something that I always. I'm. I always remember it. And I'm like, I'm gonna. Now, when she's older, if she's, like, pissing me off or she's, like, getting on my nerves, I'd be like, I'm gonna go put word party on for you. Like, and she. She laughs. Like, she's like, shut up. I'm like, I'm gonna put word party on for you. Like, you need to go take a minute.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah. You're like, you need have time out with some word party.
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V
Yeah. So we laugh about it, but she was, like, so obsessed with that show.
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Brittany Del Sol
But I'm like, oh, I wish I
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V
had, like, a Ms. Rachel. I love the news, like, Bluey and stuff. I feel like Bluey is such a cute show for kids.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah, I know.
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V
Can learn anything from Bluey. Like, no matter what age.
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Brittany Del Sol
Exactly. Yeah, I know. I feel like the kids shows that they have now are really cute. That's why I'm like, you know what? In moderation, I feel like. But there are people that mom shame the hell. Like, if you say, oh, I don't want to have any screen time, they're like, so you think you're better than me? And then you have people that. If you're like, oh, no, I do screen time, I don't care. They're like, so you just don't give a about your daughter? Like, yeah, it's like, that's kind of.
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V
Yeah. I always was very particular about the kind of mom friends I had around me. Like, I never wanted to felt judged for any of my decisions that I made as far as parenting. And if I did ever feel even like, judgment consistently like I was, I would completely distance myself. Like, we obviously were. We have complete. Sometimes when you do have completely different parenting styles from people, you just know it's not. It's not going to work out. Like, we're not going to be.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah, it's not going to work.
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V
Yeah. Like, I have to have someone that has like a similar style and all the, the mom friends that I have, we all are very similar with the style. Like, and all of our kids are 100% respectful. They respect us, they love us, they're very, well, babes. Like, it's balance, you know, like, and they still have screen time and have iPads, but they're very well rounded children, you know.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah. And that's the most important part, I think, is raising like a respectful. That's like my goal for her too, is like, to be respectful to, like, know how to navigate the world, to be confident, you know, like, to believe in herself. Like, I'm not thinking like, oh, I want to make sure that she, like, you know, knows how to spell this at this age. Like, you know, it's kind of like if you think about the values that you want to instill in your daughter, it's like things that are way more important and way more important for her, like, to navigate through life. Life. But yeah, say my. My best friends, I've been best friends with them since high school, so like over like a decade. And they both have daughters and so it's same. Very similar. Like her. My other friend came and her daughter was here and she was like, well, I need to put on Netflix because she's. Yeah, I was like, you go, girl.
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V
Yeah, yeah. Like, we gotta have that mutual understanding, you know? And I'm like, I don't. I'm not someone that judges moms on, like, anything that. I've seen both sides, you know, Like, I've. I've been the person that was like, oh, I'm never gonna have my child do this. And then, yes, you become that person that happens. And you're like, you need 10 or 15 minutes just to freaking get your mind right and to not go crazy. So, yeah, that Netflix and that iPad is gonna come in handy at one point. Like, it. It just is what it is. And I, Yeah, I have no shame or. And I don't shame any parent that does that because I think at the end of the day, we also have to think about our mental health.
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Brittany Del Sol
And it's like, like, you need to have some sanity too. And I think that's the key message is like, don't be talking shit and don't be saying, I would never, because life will humble you real quick.
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V
Yeah. And a lot of parents don't have that privilege to just sit on the floor and play and interact with their children all day, every day.
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Brittany Del Sol
Who can do that? Exactly.
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V
Honestly, it's not realistic, you know?
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Brittany Del Sol
No. And it's a lot. It's a lot. Even with her, like, even like her wake windows and stuff. I'm like.
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V
Yeah. Did she go through like sleep regression at all?
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah, she's kind of like going through another one right now. It was. It did happen like around four months. How they say where she. She's always been a really good sleeper though. Like, she'll sleep like all throughout the night. So she'll sleep from like 8:00pm to like 6:00am, you know. And so now recently. Yeah, so now recently she. She wakes up a couple times, but it's usually just to eat, eat, and then she'll go back to sleep. So it's like, it's good that she's not full blown awake. And this girl is getting so big that like, for a while me and Tommy would rock her to sleep. She's like, don't touch me. Like, I'll pick her up and try to rock her and she's like, oh. Like, she's like stretching to get up.
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V
She want to be free.
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Brittany Del Sol
She's like, lay me down and give me my bottle. Like, why are you picking me up? Like, she'll get mad.
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V
She's gonna be very independent.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yes. No, she's very independent. Even right now. Like, I feel like she like wants me to, like, like, I'm telling you, she's like the queen. She's like, she'll get her toy and then throw it and then be like, like, girl, you gonna pick it up or what? And so happy she runs the house, dude. It's crazy. Yeah.
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V
So how is. How is like your relationship now is. Do you feel like it's different now that you guys have a kid together? Like, do you guys live together at all?
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah, yeah, yeah. We own a house together, actually.
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V
Oh, nice. I love that. So, like, how. How is his journey, do you think, with like having a family now with you? Like, how do you think that's been different for him versus, like what he had his situation before?
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah, well, he. He kind of was like telling me too, like, this is like his first experience, like one. He feels like it's very unique because he has A daughter, like, because he has two sons, so he's never had a daughter before. So he's sharing that. Like, that's really special. And being like a postpartum mom, your brain starts to feel like he already went through all this before. Like, it doesn't feel special and you really get in your head about it. But I think that part really has, like, helped me too, where I'm like, no, this is special for both of us, you know? But his relationship was, like, very toxic with his ex for kind of like, it feels like the full duration of when they were together. So with his first son, he actually enlisted in the army. So when his son was born, he was, like, gone for, like, six months. So he never got to experience, like, the beginnings, like, when he was a really small baby, so he didn't really get that. And then his other son was born, and he had to be, like, in the NICU for a while. And then him and his ex or whatever weren't, like, getting along, so he wasn't really, like, allowed to kind of be there as much. So he. This is kind of like the first time that he's really been like, immersed and involved. And so I think that it's kind of like, it was nice for me too, like, as a, like, being postpartum, because it felt like we, like, shared something together that was special, you know?
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V
Yeah, for sure. Because I think I kind of went through that too, where it's like, I was like, well, he went through this before. Like, he had a son before already, so it's like. But I think the. When we had our daughter, it was so many years after, I feel like he kind of was like, learning again.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah. Yeah.
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V
Also, he. He had a baby at, like, 17, so he was, like, really young. Wow. And then so now as a grown, like, adult and like a grown ass man, I was like, is this different? Like, is it a different. He's like, yeah, it's. It's totally different, you know?
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah.
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V
Together we were like, you know, we don't know. So he's like, yeah, it's like, so different. But I was like, it's just. It's so crazy how you can have, like, two. You have, like, two totally different experiences as far as, like.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah, exactly.
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V
Like, it's crazy.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah. Yeah. And I feel like for me, it really, like, got in my head too. Like, in the beginning, I feel like being postpartum where I'm like, this. I'm experiencing this for the first time, but he's not. So, like, made me Feel some type of way. And I feel like that's what my therapist was saying, like. Yeah. Where she was like, you have these feelings. So the hormones are not, like, making feelings out of nowhere. She's like, but you have these feelings, and the hormones are just amplifying them, and they're making them, like, more painful and more, like, more angry and things like that. So I feel like. Like, that was something that was hard for me in the beginning because I'm like. I feel like I'm in it alone. Like, I'm experiencing it. But you've already gone through this. And until I really, like, understood, like, how it was for him, like, when his other kids were small, I was like, no, we are, like, in it together, and it is very, like, unique. And, you know, it is special now together.
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V
So you guys are making it. You know, you're making it special. You're making it what you want it to be. Now.
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Brittany Del Sol
Now. Yeah. Yeah, exactly.
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V
So what are some things that you're doing to, like, kind of get through your postpartum? Because I feel like anyone listening to this, like, maybe they can, you know, they can relate and they can probably, you know, get some. Get some tips from you and, like, see, like, get. We gotta get. Sometimes we gotta get ourselves out of. Out of that. So what are you.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah, I feel like that's the key, too. It's like, you really have to remember, like, it's a mind game, and if you kind of sit in it, I think that's good for a little bit. But there comes a point where no one's gonna come pull you out. Like, you have to just get up and pull yourself out. Like, even me for a while. I was like, okay, I need to, like, take a break as far as, like, making content and even working so much. Like, I was like, I need to take a break. And a lot of that scares me because it's like, I don't want to stop working because I feel like that's, like. It scares me to stop working.
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V
Yeah. So it's such a huge part of, like, your life and, like, yeah. What you've worked.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah. So then it's like you feel scared to stop working, and then you also feel scared to just keep doing it and not show up authentically. So, yeah, I feel like the best thing that I've been doing is kind of, like, doing things for myself again. Like, you know, having, like, a girls dinner, like, going out with my friends, or, like, spending money on getting some clothes, you know, like, because I'm like, oh, Like, I don't want to. Like, I got postpartum body still. I need to, like, you know, work on that. But it's like, you know what? You still deserve to feel good in where you're at right now. And so it's like buying some clothes, getting ready in the morning, like, getting my hair done, getting my lashes done. Like, kind of just doing things for you and not feeling guilty. And it's not going to happen immediately, but, like, you gotta, over time be like, you know? Yeah. I'm like, because if Tommy wants to go to the bar to watch the football game with his friends, he's not like, oh, my God, but I'm gonna leave my daughter home. Like, he knows that she's safe with me, you know?
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V
Exactly.
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Brittany Del Sol
So it's like, I'm gonna have the same feeling. Yeah. So I was like. So I was like, you know what? I need to change my mindset. And I had a dinner with my friend, and I was like, bye. Like, I got all kids.
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V
Like, where are you going?
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Brittany Del Sol
I was like, I'm gonna have a girl's dinner.
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V
Like, bye.
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Brittany Del Sol
Love you. See you later. Even though in my head I was
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V
like, is she gonna.
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Brittany Del Sol
But I was like, no, I need to, like, get out of that.
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V
Is like, what's that sound? Is like, bye, Sophia. See you later, Sophia.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yes, that was me. I was like, that was you.
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V
Bye, Sophia.
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Brittany Del Sol
See you later.
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V
That is so funny. So for women listening who are in a waiting season, whether it's love, babies, or just healing, what would you tell them?
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Brittany Del Sol
I think trust yourself and put yourself out there. I think that you'd be surprised. A lot of times we're kind of just like, waiting for something to happen to us. But it's like, if you're go to work, come home, and I'm just always doing that. If you need that time to focus on yourself and, like, really heal and grow from things that you're going through, I think do it. But like I said with the postpartum, like, there comes a point where you have to put yourself out there. Like, go out with your friends. Go. Or even if you don't want to, go out with them, go to places that you make you happy. If you love to read, like me and V were talking about reading. If you love to read, like, go to a coffee shop, go to a library. Like, if you live in a cool city, you'd be surprised, like, what cool little places they have. Like, they have, like, coffee shop libraries, or, like, you know, even at a local bookstore that I have That I shop at. They have, like, a weekly, like, book club so you can, like, go and meet people. Like, so put yourself out there and don't have the intention of, like, I'm only doing this because I got to meet people and I want to see if I find, like, my person. I think just do what makes you happy for yourself, and I genuinely do think that things will align and your person will find you. But you can't be stuck in the house, girl.
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V
I know.
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Brittany Del Sol
You can't be stuck in the house all the time.
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V
Yeah. And I think it just going out there, you find like a. You find your village of, like, moms, too. Like, if you don't have, yeah, mom friends or anything like that. Like, just putting yourself out there and, like, finding like, a little village that's, like, outside your everyday, like, normal life. Like, I think that's so important, especially as women. So I love that. I think we talked about so many important, amazing things, and I hope anyone can take at least something from this episode. But I thank you so much for coming on and, like, opening up about your journey.
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Brittany Del Sol
Thank you.
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V
Had such a good time. We have to do this again. I'm actually really excited because we haven't met before, like, in person, but now we're on the.
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Brittany Del Sol
The same age.
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V
We're under the same agency.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yes.
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V
Whenever they do the. I think they're planning, like, the retreat soon.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yeah.
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V
I'm hoping we go to, like, Mexico or something.
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Brittany Del Sol
I know. That's what I was thinking, too. If we go, you guys, the. The content is going to be crazy because I feel like so many of the girls there are, like, it's just so. Like, all the girls are very similar. Like, we all love to dress up. We love to just hang out, have some, like. Yeah. Just so much fun.
- [71:26]
V
Nothing but baddies on the roster. Like, I swear, I was just like, I need. I was like, I need to be a part of this team because I love everybody.
- [71:34]
Brittany Del Sol
I know. Yeah, everybody's so great. We're all, like, similar vibes and, like, some moms, too, where it's like, even Crystal, like, I love that she's a mom, too. And I feel like that also really inspires me to, like, I could be a mom and I could still be a baddie. Because sometimes you're like, I can't wear that. I'm a mom. Like, I can't do that. I'm a mom.
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V
It's like, like, girl, we get a little judge. We get too judgmental ourselves and, like, what we expect, like, the Everyone to think about us as, like, moms.
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Brittany Del Sol
And I'm like, yeah, exactly.
- [72:00]
V
That's what I always preach to my followers too. I'm like, yo, like, you are some bad. Like, I'm a mom first, but I'm a bad immediately after. Like, yeah, and you are, too. Like, you got to remember that. Like, why y' all think we got pregnant in the first place? Like, you're a Betty.
- [72:15]
Brittany Del Sol
Don't look like I wasn't out there,
- [72:19]
V
but, yeah, I'm so excited, and I. I can't wait to, like, be in person and we can. We can actually, like, hang out and, like, drink, have a little margarita together.
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Brittany Del Sol
Yes. Have a little something. I know. The last retreat, I was pregnant. That's why I was like, this time, girl, I'm not gonna be.
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V
I know. That's why I'm like, I'm glad we didn't have ourselves a drink and have, like, a good time.
- [72:39]
Brittany Del Sol
I had so much fun. Thank you so much for having me, V. Yeah, of course.
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V
Tell everyone where they can find you, like, your socials and stuff.
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Brittany Del Sol
My pseudonym. Is that what we called it?
- [72:50]
V
Yeah, it's fake name.
- [72:53]
Brittany Del Sol
My fake name is Britney Del Sol. I do corporate content. I'm on YouTube, Tik Tok, Instagram, and I might re. Relaunch my podcast. I was supposed to do it a little bit ago, and that did not happen. So maybe we'll have my girl be.
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V
Yes, I'll be so. I'll be so happy. Happy to. Maybe we could do it on the retreat. Like, we could swap, like, episode here and then do one for you. Because I love doing it in person moment.
- [73:19]
Brittany Del Sol
Yes.
- [73:20]
V
That would be so fun. Yeah, that would be a vibe. All right, guys, so I hope you guys enjoyed the episode, and we'll talk to you soon. Bye.
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Brittany Del Sol
Bye.