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I don't think it's hard finding good people. I think it's just hard for us to realize that good people can up. Welcome back to the Cheese My corner. I'm your host B. Rivera, your Latina amiga. And go to Cheesmosa for all the cheeseman that actually matters. Latina motherhood, beauty. Navigating life in our 30s and keeping our mental health in check. We're keeping it raw, relatable, and a little spicy. And sometimes we get into some pop culture topics and some reality show tea. I love me some tea. So get comfy because the chisme starts now. Okay, chismosas, we're back. I hope you guys are having a good week. It's the middle of the week already. I feel like once the new year starts, it just kind of just. It's like we're riding a bicycle. Like, just flies by so fast. And here we are. We're like the second. Like, the second week into January already. Like, we're gonna blink our eyes and it's gonna be Valentine's Day. But I also saw something the other day, and it said, I think we have, like, 40 more days left till the sun sets at 7:00'.
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And my little teeny, tiny heart was like, yes, yes, please. I'm so excited for that. I need spring to get here pronto. Yeah, I'm over the cold. I am so over it. I can't do this anymore. But this weekend, we have Vivi's cheer showcase, which I'm so freaking excited about. We actually just got her new uniforms in and all her gear. We got her new book bag, new shoes, new everything. Adam made sure my baby had every little thing that she needed for her new cheer gym season. And I'm just so proud of them and I'm so proud that they're able to like, actually finish out this cheer season and do their thing. And I'm obsessed with the new uniforms. The new colors are red and black, which is amazing too, because matches her hair. So she was like, mom, I feel like this was meant to be. Cuz when she got into her other cheer gym, it was purple and black and she had the purple in her hair. And now that she's red, the new gym is red. So she was like, ma, I feel like this was a sign. Like I was meant to be here. And I was like, girl, you know what? I feel you. I, I, I agree with that. The uniforms look so good and I'm just excited to see this routine and I'm going to be cheering my ass off. Like, I'm ready for cheer life, I'm ready for mom life, and I'm ready for cheer hangovers. Because the cheer hangovers be real. So Sunday, right after that showcase, you're gonna catch me knock the out on the couch because I feel like with all the adrenaline and all the, like, the waking up super early and having to do the hair and the makeup and all these things, like, it's such a rush in the mornings and then you're sitting there all day, especially during competitions. Like, this is the showcase. So it's gonna go by pretty fast. Like we just go watch the routines and we're pretty much done. It's not like a competition, but competitions last hours. Like you're there all day. All freaking day. Oh my God. So I have to update you guys. I did a Huevo Olympia. Like, I did a whole egg cleanse and I usually do them, I try and do them like once a year. I haven't done one since like the beginning of 2025. If you don't know what that is, you can look it up. Look it up on Google, look it up on Tick Tock. Like, it's something that, like, I do, my family does. I do it. Like, it's just, I believe in it and I believe, like, it works and it helps. But I'm not gonna get too much into my. I had to do two, so yeah, I had to do two. But you know what? I'm really glad that I did it. And it wasn't bad. It like wasn't really anything super bad or anything. It was like normal, you know, I got the webs, you know, like people talk about you or gossip about you, whatever. I feel like people do, like everyone does that people gossip all the time about everybody. People probably talking about me right now. I don't. It is like, it's like a normal thing, you know, but it wasn't anything crazy, like people trying to attack you and kill you and like that. Like there wasn't anything so negative like aimed towards me or anything. So I was like, okay, cool, like we're good. But the one thing that really did scare me was on both of the yolks, I had like this red dot on both of them. And that's something signing like your health. And I've been telling my friend, I'm like, I've been, I have to go check on, you know, my health. I have to go, I have to go like get a physical. Like I have to go check myself. There's just things that I know I need to check up on. Like even like my little moles and stuff like that. Like I've been, I've been getting a little worried cuz they're like starting to like raise and I have some that are like getting bigger so I need to go check that. And I'm just, I have like really bad like health anxiety. It's just like if I feel like I'm going to go and then something's going to be wrong with me or I have like no control over what I'm going to find out or anything. Like I'm going to ignore it. Like I am not going to set up a doctor's appointment to go check it out or anything. Like. And I know that sounds bad, but I'm just, I have such bad anxiety around it and like the what ifs. Because my mind immediately goes to the worst case scenario. Like, okay, I'm going to go and they're going to tell me I have this and then this and I have like 30 days to live. Like I don't know why my mind goes to that all the time. And it's the scary. And please tell me, I don't know, please tell me I'm not the only fucking person that feels this way. Because I just, I get the most anxiety when it comes to my health. And I could be good, right? Like there could be absolutely nothing, nothing wrong. Like everything's fine. It's just everything goes smooth and as planned. But I have been holding off like big time. Like I should have made these appointments last year and I didn't. I held off, held off. And even with all the stress and all the, that I went through last year, I should have, like that should have been the first thing I did was take care of my health, and I just left it on the back burner. And I'm really like, ain't nothing y' all could tell me because that I haven't told myself already. Like, I'm really pissed off at myself for doing that, so. I know, I know. I don't know. I think it's just, like, the not being able to be in control of that and not knowing what to expect. So my friend was like, b, you got to go get checked out. Like, I'm not doing this with you no more. Like, this how? Like, Shauna is a real one, I'm telling you. She was like, if you don't. If you don't tell me that you called and, like, made your appointments. She was like, I am going to call your mom and your family myself and tell them that you need to go check. Like, you need to make an appointment. Like, I'm going to tell them that you haven't done it. And I was just like, okay. Like, I'm going to do it. I promise. But she was, like, holding me accountable, you know? Like, she's like, no. Like, this can't be shit. That's, like, getting brushed under the rug. Like, you have to go have. You have to go, you know, check up on yourself and, like, make sure you're good. I don't know what it is, but, like, my right boob has been so sore lately and, like, inflamed, like, more than usual. Like, it's not like, some. Like, okay, when I'm having my period or whatever. You can tell, you know, you can tell, like, when you have your period and you can feel it, but it's something. I don't know. It's. I don't. And I don't know if it's my anxiety and, like, my. I'm just thinking. But I feel, like, it different, you know, I did actually want to get a mammogram done, like, like, two or three years ago, and they told me that I was too young, and, like, I couldn't get it done, but obviously, like, I get them checked out by, like, my doctor, whatever, so I have to go do that just to make sure. But, like, I have my annual, like, gyno appointment coming up with that is not going to be till April. Like, literally, they are pushed back. So I was like, oh, my God, like, now it's gonna take me so long to, like, get it checked out. And I'm just, like, nervous about it. But I'm also a little happy because I'M not, like, in a rush, but I don't know. I'm just. I'm just nervous, y'.
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I'm just. This has been something that's been on my mind, and I think. I don't know. I feel like I'm. I'm fine. But then there's also just that little part of you that's like, what if. You know, Like, I don't know. Like, but don't worry too much about me. Like, I. I did my appointments. Like, everything is. So now it's just about waiting to actually go to the appointments. But, yeah, I'm like, I need to be on top of my health. Like, I really do this year. Like, I can't be around. Like, I. And then I was just thinking about, like, I have to be good for my family. Like, I have to be good for BB Would. Like, if something happened to me, like, I don't know what would become of that girl. Like, I don't know. It scares the out of me. So, yeah, I really needed that little push. And I think doing that cleanse actually helped me a lot because I was like, like. But I still have very sever anxiety lately with that, and I'm just, like, overthinking. So, yeah, that's what I've been going through. I've just been here driving myself crazy. Like, that's what I do. But my mind goes a million miles a minute, and I'm thinking about, that's probably never gonna happen. And I'm driving myself crazy. But it's all good. We're gonna get through it. We're gonna get through it together. So I asked you guys what were some of your goals for the new year? And I shared my goals in the last episode. So I wanted to share some of your guys goals too, because I thought they were great. They're amazing. So my girl Elsa said, I'm giving myself one project a week. I'm cleaning, like, my closet pantry under the sink, just one at a time. And I will say that is the smartest thing that you can do. As someone who cleans a lot and has a lot to clean. I kind of break everything down into sections. And if you don't have, like, a cleaning chart, like a schedule or like a calendar, I guess you can do it too. Go on Canva and just type in, like, cleaning template or, like, cleaning schedule template. And it will really help you with that. Like, it'll help you organize, like, when you're gonna do what, like, what days are set for. Like, you could have Like, a Saturday, you'll do, like, your bathrooms and the bedrooms or whatever. And then, like, Sunday you can do, like, the kitchen and the floors. Like, you know, like, you can really break it down and see, like, what you can do. And then, like, Mondays are, like, for dusting or, like, just cleaning on top, you know, like. Like, fast cleaning, you know? So I highly recommend that. Like, that definitely helps me all the time, but I like that. I like that for you. You don't want to be over one at a time. Mel said to read more. Also to move my body. More workouts, more walks, taking my dogs out for walks. I agree with this. I said this in the last one. I really. I started walking. And also, me and Vivi got roller skates. So we've been going to the roller skating rink. And when I tell you that has been a workout in and of itself. My legs are so sore all the time, but I can feel them getting stronger. So I actually really love that. But walking has been really nice. I don't walk when it's way too cold out, I'll tell you that. But we had, like, a really nice day the other day, and I walked. And also reading more. I was a little upset with myself, too, because last year I only read, like, 12 books. Like, and to me, I was just like. Like, I could do better than that. Like, I know myself. Like, I can read, but there was just so much going. I. I didn't have the. What is it, like, the. The attention span to just sit and be with a book. Like, my mind was just heavy all the time with, like, going on, so I couldn't really concentrate and, like, be in a book and just, like, not think about anything else and just, like, have, like. I like to just get lost in a book and just. That's me. Like, I don't want to think about anything else. Like, I just want to be lost in the book and really enjoy it. That's how I enjoy it. So I was a little upset with myself. But I set a new reading goal this year. I think I set to, like, 65, which I think I can do. I already did, like, five, so I'm proud of myself for that. But let me know what you guys have been reading lately. Right now, I'm reading the last. I think it's the last party. I finished Daisy Jones in the six. I finished El Programa Nacional de Vegas hacer the McDonald's.
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Oh what the fuck did I that I read? I don't even remember the books that I read. Let me check my Fable. I also switched to Fable instead of Goodreads and I actually like it a lot more. Oh, so I finished. If you tell I finished. That's not my name. The Glass Girl. Those were all the books that I've read so far in the new year. And I really, those books all, all were so good, such good books, especially Daisy Jones and the Six. And then people told me that there was a series on Amazon. So I went and watched it and oh my God, I feel like everything that I was feeling and like recreating my head of the characters and stuff was like exactly like the move, like the, the series. It was so crazy to just put everything together and like to see everything. So thank you guys so much for recommending that series to me because I never knew, I didn't even know that they had made something out of the book. And I loved it. Like I loved it. I love reading something and then watching it come to life like in a movie, whatever. I also watched the Housemaid and that was, it was really good. I enjoyed it. But yeah. Cheers Mel. I feel you, girl. More reading. You got this set like a good goal that you know you can do even if it's just one book a month. Like you can get through that, whatever you know you can get through in a month. Just set that goal and you'll be good. Jeanette says focus more on myself, more self care. We can never have enough self care. You know, we always out here caring for everybody else, putting everybody else needs in front of Our own, that it's gotta go. And this goes into like our health too. I feel like when I am in that season of life where everything is coming before myself and I'm not focusing on myself and everything is getting put in the back burner and I'm just like, you know what, I'll take care of this later. I'll take care of this later. That's when I start realizing I'm having like, like my health. I can feel it like not being up to par. It's not as good as it is when I am focusing on myself and giving myself love and self care. So that is very important. And I'm gonna need my, my chismosas to focus on themselves and really baby yourself. Like treat yourself like a newborn baby sometimes. Like we were all babies once. We all needed love, we all needed care, we all need nurturing. Like look at yourself. Like, okay, I was once a baby. Like I still need that love and that care for myself. Someone says to stay alive, Period. Period. Try and make a friend in my hometown. But it's so hard finding good people. You know what I love when people say that they want to make new friends. And I think I'm, I'm someone who, I think I can, I make new, I don't want to say new friends. Like I, I get along with people especially when I first meet them and stuff. I'm very easy going person to get along with. But I don't necessarily, I'm not going to see you as a friend, you know, like to be an friend in my life, like we got to go through some, you know, we got to have some time in, we got to have some experience in, you know, like that's when I'm like, okay, this is, this is a friend. I love when people want to make those connections because I feel like we all need that, you know, like I say this all the time, but we're all here for connection. We all need people who we can rely on and to be there for us and vice versa. So I really hope that you do find a good friend. And I don't think it's hard finding good people because I think even good people can do up, you know, like there's so many good people in this world. But that doesn't mean they're perfect people. They're not gonna make mistakes, they're not gonna not disappoint you. They're not gonna, you're not gonna be happy with them 24 7. And that's actually something that I've had to learn. Like, I've literally had to tell myself, like, I can be a good person and still up. It's like, if you have good intentions and you're not out to hurt people, like, viciously or mal. Intentionally, you know, like, I think that's different. So I think there are good people out there, but you have to just really realize, like, even your good friends, you're gonna have issues with them sometimes, or you're gonna go through things and they're gonna disappoint you. And I think it's just being open and vulnerable to that. I think that part is, like, hard for me, because for me, it's like, once something happens or once you disappoint me, like, it. I feel like, just goes downhill for me. And I don't. I feel like that's also not fair because it's almost like I'm not giving a people. People a chance, you know? And, like, I would want that chance. Like, if I up. I don't want someone to just, like, be like, okay, you're a terrible friend. You're a bad friend. I don't want to be your friend ever again. Like, I'd be like, what the hell? You know? But just overall, like, you have to recognize that people are human friends. Your friends are humans just like you. Like, we're all living this. This. This life. We're all just, you know, trying to stay alive, as she said, and survive. People going through a lot of. And a lot of the times, your friends aren't gonna be open with you on what they're going through. Like, I. I think even your closest of friends. Sometimes, like, people suffer in silence, and they don't want to be a burden, or they don't want to talk to their friends or even their families or other people about what they're going through. Because sometimes you'll just be thinking like, this. This can't be that bad. Or, like, you know, like, I. They probably got their own going on. Like, and I'm very. I fall victim to this. I do this all the time, like, where I don't reach out to family or friends, and I just get through things because I'm like, oh, it's probably not even that big of a deal, you know, And I don't want to burden somebody with it. But we also have to learn that it's. It's okay to ask for help, and it's okay to reach out to our friends who are our friends, who have been there for us and who have continually showed us, you know, like, I'm here for you. Like, I'm gonna. I can carry you through this season the same way you probably carried me through one of my seasons, you know? But, yeah, so I will say, I don't. I don't think it's hard finding good people. I think it's just hard for us to realize that good people can up. Nana said to book more trips, period, because I need to be somewhere with a margarita in hand at the moment right now. Extra sugar on the rim with a little lime. I. I get it. I want to book more trips. I want to do. Me and my friend. Me and Shawna were actually talking about doing another Puerto Rico trip this year. And I'm like, I think that's gonna happen. That's gotta be a go. Joe keeps saying he wants to go on a cruise, and I. I don't know. I. Cruises give me such anxiety after I watched that documentary about the. That happened on the cruise. Like, literally the. On the cruise. I don't know if y' all saw it, but it was devastating, and it was really nasty. I don't feel good about cruises anymore. And Joe has been dying to go on a cruise, and I'm just trying to, like, waver. I'm trying to, like, constantly, like, be like, no, let's go here. Let's go there. Like, we haven't gone here yet. And I feel like he's catching on. He's like, why don't you want. Like, we've always said we wanted to do a cruise. We did a cruise together with. When we. I think we were, like, three years or two years into dating and we did a cruise together, but, girl, I just been dipping and dodging his ass. I've been dipping and dodging. I'm like, I don't want to have this cruise conversation. I just. I don't want to go. Like, I'm about to be like, play sick or something. Like, you can go with the kids, or, like, last minute, be like, oh, my God, I'm sick. Like, I don't know, but we'll see. We'll see what happens. He really wants to go because he's like, we can, you know, go visit, like, so many different islands in, like, one trip, like, instead of just going to one place. And I'm like, I get it, but it's a cruise. Like, I don't know. I don't know. We'll have to see. I'll keep you all updated on that. Jess said, trying to let go and let God do his thing. Learning that I cannot Control everything. This is a really hard thing to let go. Letting go of things is not as easy as it sounds. You know, people are always like, oh, just let it go, and, like, let things just play out. Like, let things just happen. Like, that is hard. It's way harder than people can imagine, especially when you're someone who has anxiety, who has control issues, who has just. Just, like, constantly doubting. It is a very hard pill to swallow. Like, you can't just let things go. Like, it takes a lot of practice, and it takes a lot of, like, self control, and I think that's one thing. A lot of people don't have a lot of self control, especially when it comes to their emotions. It is hard. I don't care what anybody says. That is hard. And it is a journey, and it's not something. It's not a place. It's not a destination that you reach quickly. Sometimes you really got to throw your hands in the air and be like, you know what? It. Like, I can't. I can't control this. It's just gonna have to play out how it's gonna play out, and I'll worry about it then I'll worry about it when I need to worry about it. Giselle said getting back into my crafting hobbies. Oh, my God, girl. Yes. I love this for you because I am such a. I'm. I'm a crafty gal. I love going to Michael's. That is me and baby's favorite store. Like, we're always buying new things there, especially, like, little kits to, like, paint and stuff like that. I have two things that I have to paint right now, actually. And then I most recently bought, like, the little set on Amazon where you can, like, like, bling things out, like, the little rhinestones and stuff, and it comes with the glue and everything. So me and Vivi are just gonna start blinging things out and, like, adding rhinestones to everything that we love. And it just. It looks cute and it. And it's something that we can do together, but we're always crafting. Like, I think I am the happiest when it's like a Sunday. We're chilling here, you know, like, we're just in our jammies, binge watching a show. We're doing crafts. Like, I'm crocheting, and she's coloring. We start making, like, the little pins for the cheer competitions and stuff like that, which they also have kits on Amazon for that. If anyone is a cheer mom, they're amazing. But, yeah, crafting is just Something that I, I need, I need to do it like all the time. I love to paint too. Like, sometimes I'll just grab. I'll just buy some canvases at Michael's and just paint some. Like, sometimes you just need a little. You just need to get out that, that creativity and that. I don't know, I feel like it's also a, like a reason to feel young again. Like, you know, like, I loved doing all these things when I was young, even when I was young, like really, really small, even up to a teenager. Like, these are things that I would just do in my room and like, it would always help me ease my anxiety. So doing those things as an adult I think is so important because I think going into adulthood a lot of people has, have this perception that like, you can't do the same things that you did when you were young or when you were a teenager when you're an adult. Like, people like, talk about girls that like, still love hello Kitty and Pink and are living in their like, feminine era. Like, they don't realize that a lot of us are just trying to like, rewrite our childhood. Some people are just out here trying to rewrite stories that they never had. Reliving, like those nostalgic feelings that once made us so happy. I think people are like, just, oh, they want it so bad. They're longing for that. Because look at the world we live in, you know? Like, everything is so fucked up and so serious and so hectic and everything is like war and fucking hate and hatred. So yeah, I think wanting to have something that brings some type of fucking joy to your life and just clear your mind, even if it's for 30 minutes, an hour, do it, please. Do it. Like, do it for your health. Do it for your mental health. Do it for the little girl in you. But yeah, I'm here for the crafting girlies. Like, we should just do something where we all come together and just do crafts. Like just listen to music and just do crafts. Like whether it's like painting, making bracelets, like just something so girly and cute. Oh my God, I want to do this. I really want to do. And I've been thinking this year I wanted to, I want to focus more on like doing like little events. Like even in like little tiny venues. We get to bond, we get to chit chat and like do girly. Like just we can have crafts and like food and like music and just like that would be so much fun. Like, I love, I love, like that. I love stuff like that. I can even get, like, a little venue in Jersey or something. Like a little somewhere if anyone knows of someone or something. Then I can use, like, a room and we could all just get together and just hang out and chill and, like, maybe we could even do an episode of the podcast. Like, that would be so much fun. I really would love to focus on doing more things like that this year with you guys. So, yeah, let me know what places we should do it, because we're going to do it on the East Coast. Like, we got to do it on the east coast first. That's where I'm from, so it will definitely happen on the East Coast. But I just think that's. I. I don't know. I'm all full of ideas. Angelina said I need to walk more and less hot Cheetos. Did you guys see that? There's, like, a new. I forgot the name of it, but they basically took the red dye out of the hot Cheetos and, like, the Doritos and stuff, and it's in, like, this white bag. I saw it at Walmart the other day, but it basically is supposed to taste the exact same as, like, a flaming hot Cheeto, but it doesn't have the red dye in it. Like, all the bad stuff that we're not supposed to be eating. So I don't know. I have to. I saw it at Walmart and I didn't get it the other day, but now I'm like, oh, maybe I should just try it out on the podcast and see if it really does taste like hot Cheetos. Because I love me some hot Cheetos. And I don't know. For me, I like the red stuff on my fingers. Like, I feel like that would. That's what makes a hot Cheeto. Like, I want. I don't know if that makes me weird, but, like, without it, I'm just like, is this really a hot Cheeto? I don't know. Is that what is. There's, like, a name for that. Like, when you're. I don't know. I guess my mind just correlates that to a flaming hot Cheeto. So I can't picture, like, eating something and not having my hands red and. And having it taste like a flaming hot Cheeto. I don't. It's just weird. I. I don't know. But there is. It's a healthier option. So maybe you don't need to eat less hot Cheetos. Maybe just eat those and that'll be good for you. But also, what the do I Know, like Blanca says, save money and budget. Yes. Girl. I feel like I have been budgeting so much lately. Like, the past couple years, actually, I've been trying to, like, have a budget and set, like, a. A steady amount of, like, okay, what I can spend every month or whatever. I take money out for my retirement account, and then I have Vivi's account, and it's like, so much goes out, and then we have bills, and, like, all of this, like, it's just so much money just constantly going out, out, out, out. So the money that I do make, I also want to invest. So I think also, like, saving, budgeting, but also learning how to invest money, even if it's something small, even it's starting with the smallest amount of money. Girl, I'm telling you, like, you put it into an investment account, like, get some stock. I just bought some stock the other day, too. Like, I had to get some other there because Joe helps me with that because he's good with all that stuff. Like. Like, he's the one that taught me about stocks and bomb. Like, all of these. All of these things. I didn't know anything. I had very bad financial literacy growing up. Like, none of my parents knew what they were doing. No one has, like, retirement accounts or life insurance or all of these things, so I never knew about any of these things. You know, Joe went ahead and he educated himself years ago on all of this stuff, and he's the one that, like, taught me everything I know. And I also just have some, like, really bad anxiety when it comes to my finances because I'm like, okay, I was broke once. I can be broke again. Like, that is hard. But, like, when you grow up like that, like, and it's not even that I grew up broke. Like, it's just, like, my mom was a single parent with two girls, like, living in Newark, New Jersey. Like, we. We didn't have it all, you know, like, she was. Was. We're living paycheck to paycheck every week for years, you know? Like, I. There were times where I didn't want to ask for certain things or I didn't, you know, Like, I had to go get a job and get on my own, you know? Like, there was times where I was literally pawning just to. Like, I pawned one of my guitars one time just so that I could get, like, a pair of sneakers or something that I really wanted because I just felt bad asking my mom for money, you know? Like, I knew she needed it to go to bills. And, like, the really Important to keep a roof over our heads. When you grow up like that, like, you're constantly thinking, like, like you just have a fear when it comes to money. Even when I'm making, like, really good money and I see it coming in and it's, it's steady and it's like growing. I get scared. I still get scared. Like, I'd be like, I still act like I'm broke. Like, I will literally keep walking around and acting and doing, like, I don't got it. But I also, like, try and, you know, like, manifest like, hey, I deserve money. Money flows to me. Like, I'm like that too. But I'm also just a very realistic person. Like, I'm like, I've been there before. I know. I, I, that that could happen to anybody. You could be at the peak of your career. You could be making money, millions of dollars. And we see it all the time. We see it with celebrities, we see with people who all the time who are not smart with their money or put their money even. You can invest and invest in, in wrong places. And that's where you have to be really smart about where you're investing your money and how you're investing your money and who you're speaking to and who your financial advisors are. And it's just a lot. It is so much to think about as an adult, but it, it's scary. It is really scary to think that things can just come crashing down at any moment for literally anyone, especially in this economy. Like, girl, please. Oh. But I also learned, like Joe used to tell me all the time, like, you're saving all this money. Like you have all this money saving your savings account. Like, for what? Like, you just have it just sitting in there. Like, you have to invest this money in something. Yeah. So that's why I was like, oh, like, I really need to get my together. Like, I need to do something with this money so that it can grow. Like, you want it to grow, you want it to grow, grow, grow, grow. That's what you want. So, yeah, the money, the any type of money that you do save, and I'm even the smallest amount, try and figure out where you can invest that money. Lynn Marie says being more present, less social media, more reading. I think that goes for a lot of us. I've been seeing a lot more of that, like the less social media and stuff and being, being more present a lot for sure, because I think we're just getting lost in all, everything social media. But it's also hard because it's like, we want to stay updated and we want to know what's. What's going on in the world around us. And last but not least, Samantha says, be happy and present with what I have and where I am not always wanting more. I love this, and I'm actually glad that we ended with this one. There were so many more other stuff too, but I just kind of chose the ones that I figured I could really talk about and get into. But that is beautiful. And I think once you get to that place where you realize that it's a beautiful thing. It really is. Because I think also, like, I was just on Tick tock the other day, right? And you know how, like, in the new year, everyone was doing, like, that little cake thing? Well, they'll put the candles on the cake and be like, okay, this is what I. I accomplished this, this, this year. And this, this is. And it's like going on and on and on. Like, I was watching that and I was just like, wow, like, that's amazing, you know, But I was kind of comparing my journey to a lot of other people's. Like, oh, my God, you did all of that this year. I think it's so hard to not obviously just be like, play. Play the comparison game or just not comparing the person per se, but just like, the journey, you know, and it's like, holy. You were able to do all of that this year. And I was just literally talking and complaining about what I'm gonna make for dinner, you know, like, that was my life. Like, I just. I didn't feel like doing this year. Well, 20, 25, you know? You know what I mean? But yeah, I was, like, getting down on myself a little bit about that. And then I also have come across. I don't know what the it is on my Tick Tock, but they've been showing me some outlandish. There's this one girl, and she's like, boating across the Atlantic Ocean. And I'm. I'm pretty sure she's doing it for charity because I was, like, reading through the comments and people were asking why she was putting herself through this. Because it's like the video I saw was like, her 28th day out in the ocean, and everyone was like, what the. Like, it. It seems terrible. Why are you doing this? So I'm pretty sure it's like, for charity or. And like, you know, obviously to donate money to something, so that's awesome. And I'm just like, holy. Like, I would never do something like that. Like, I just. I can't I can't picture myself doing something like that. Like that big, you know, like that's a huge deal. Like people are doing these big things and big gestures. And then I also was on, what was it? Mount Everest. Tick tock. Which is girl, did y' all know people are just going to Mount Everest? Like just count. Just climbing that mountain.
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Like, people are just going there. I thought, I did not know people, like so many people were climbing Mount Everest every year. I had no idea. And I also had no idea that you get people keep. Like you're not carrying your own. Like there was a. There was a whole thing. I was going down a whole rabbit hole. But I'm not even going to get into that because it kind of pissed me off. Yeah, like people are climbing Mount Everest. Like in a lot of them. A lot of them. And there's this one girl, I think she's like the youngest girl to ever climb Mount Everest or whatever. And I was just like when I was like 17, 18, I was going to house parties and like making out with people. Like, I just wasn't thinking about climbing Mount Everest. Like, what the. The. But again, that's like me comparing journeys. Like everyone has a different, different mountain. Like, I'm literally just floating on this rock just trying to survive. I'm trying to. I'm just trying to survive motherhood. I'm trying to decide what I want to do next with my life. Someone else's super huge extreme journey does not mean that yours is small. And that's something that I had to be like, okay, I just. Because these people are doing these huge, amazing things, that doesn't make me feel like my journey is meaningless. You know, different lives require different mountains because some people climb mountains, some people boat across the ocean, and some people raise tiny humans. And some people are just, I don't know, going through heartbreak, trying to get through life, heartbroken or changing careers. Some people are just learning how to rest and how to not let burnout take a. No. Take over their lives anymore. But you know what? I can be grateful about life. And then I can still also be like, what's next? You know, like. And I think two things can coexist at once. And I also have to remember and constantly tell myself that not every season is about doing more. Like, there's going to be some seasons where that's just meant to heal, mama. Like, you just need to heal. You need to rest. It's about grounding. It's about dreaming. It's about getting more clarity, you know, just resting. So just because I'm not climbing a mountain right now, Just because you're not climbing a mountain right now doesn't mean that we're not becoming someone new. So if you're out there comparing mountains, comparing journeys, don't do it. Comparison. They. I know this is such, like a cliche quote, but comparison really is the thief of joy. And it'll have you out here thinking, like, you're this small. And that is not the case. You know, if you. I mean, if you really think about it, we're all this small on this big ass rock. Like, we could all like, oh. Sometimes my intrusive thoughts really get in the way of what I'm about to say, because I was literally about to be like, we could all blow up right now. And it's like, girl, relax. Oh, my God, what am I doing? But no, it's true. Like, we're all just on this floating rock in the middle of space. Does that not scare y' all like that? It terrifies me. Speaking of tick tock, I also saw this other thing and I had to talk about it with y' all because I wanted to see what you think about this, because I just think it's iconic. It's the most iconic thing that I have read so far. So there's this girl named Tomorrow, right? And she was saying how, you know, 2026, I'm gonna rebrand. Like, I'm rebranding my life. I'm rebranding Everything. Like, we are here for purpose. In 2026, we're going to find out what it is. And she's talking about, like, I'm getting 365 buttons, one for each day, because I want to do more stuff and I'm scared of time, so I want to be more conscious of it. So this went viral, too. People are like, what? Like, what is 365 buttons? Like, what? What's that? So she says, one for every day. And everyone's like, okay, queen. But, like, what do you mean? Like, what do you mean? Like, you're getting 365 buttons. Like, can you further explain this? And she's there. Everyone's just like, what are you going to do with the buttons? Like, are you going to wear them? Are you gonna. What are you doing with these buttons? And she goes. She's not clarifying at all. Like, she literally says, oh, you know, just. Just to see how quick days pass and just to remind myself that time passes and to just have fun, you know, like, just live life. And people are still like, but what are you doing, though? Like, what are. What are the buttons for, babe? Like, can you expand on that a little bit more? So she goes, hey. So it actually only has to make sense to me to do it, and I don't feel like explaining it to anyone else. And if that is not my mantra, my quote, my literal, like, comeback for everything in 2026, I don't know what is. Like, I just love that so much because I'm always one that says, like, people do. You do not need to explain to nobody. If no one gets it, nobody needs to get it. Like, the only person that needs to understand your is you. Like, she literally was just like, hey, it only has to make sense to me to do it. So you. Like, I don't. It only has to make sense for me to do it. Like, I don't know how else to put it to you guys. Like, I'm just. Just using 365 buttons. Like, I don't need to generate a story for you. That's just what I'm doing. So I was just like, yo, I love that that's my new phrase. Like, it doesn't have to make sense to you. So I think she's. I love Tamara, and I think everyone should just live their life like that. Like, just. You don't have to explain to anybody. Just do what feels right to you. Do what you want to do. And if people want to question you about it and judge you for it just say, hey, that's okay. It doesn't have to make sense to you. Love that. I freaking love that. So with that, I'm going to end this episode. I hope we learned a few things today. You know, like, let's not compare journeys. Let's stay accountable of our goals this year, because we are staying accountable. And also, keep up with your health. Don't be like me. Don't be a. Please don't. And, you know, also, what makes sense to you doesn't need to make sense to anybody else. I think we've covered a lot of base here today, and I'm very, very happy. I love this. I. Let's keep this going. Next week, I'm actually gonna get into his and hers. So I'm gonna tell you guys right now, now, because you need to watch it so we can discuss together if you also read the book. It's the Alice Feeney book. This is now a series on Netflix. You have to watch it. Me and Joe watched it. We finished it. And, like, we finished four episodes in one night. And then we watched the. The next two episodes, like, the next day. And me and him both had both figured it out. Like, we. And I. I never read the book. Like, I never read it, but we had figured it out, like, within, like, the fifth episode. And we weren't even sure. We were like. And I was like. I was like, I feel like this. He was like, yeah, that's what I said. Like, I think so, too. And we. I was just like, okay, let's see. Maybe I don't think we're crazy. Like, I think that's what it is. Because everything else was too obvious, you know, like, who. Who is the person doing this? Who's the killer? Like, it was way too obvious. I knew it. I just knew. I had that gut feeling, and I. I was like, no, it can't be. But at the fifth episode, I knew. I was like, yep, I know. I know. So I'm gonna have you guys catch up, because I want to talk about it, and I don't want anyone to be like, oh, you know, spoiler. This is your spoiler right now. This is my warning right now, because we're gonna get into it. I'm also gonna start watching Tell Me Lies. I think that comes out in, like, I think today, tonight. So I'm gonna start watching that. So we're gonna get caught up in that because that is enough trauma to unpack for. We could talk about that forever. But I really want to get into that. You guys know, I love like TV shows, documentaries like that. We're also going to touch on Desmond Scott and Chrissy because I've been seeing so much about it and I don't want to get too much into like their marriage and stuff. I think more of like the social media part and like things like that, like dissecting stuff like that. But I am very sad. I'm like very sad about that because I just felt I. You know what makes me sad when people divorce is like when they have little kids and stuff like that. And like that makes my heart feel so, so bad. Especially when you're like a couple that's been together for so long, like 16 years. Like I think about that and I put myself in that position and it like hurts my heart. But yeah, we're gonna get into that. No one like bad gossip or anything, like just real life because I feel like the that she's going through right now is so real and I just feel like we have to talk about it. So yeah, those are a few things that we're gonna be discussing next week, amongst other stuff, I'm sure. So that is a wrap on today's Cheese Man. But don't let the conversation stop here. Let's keep it going. Make sure you subscribe on our YouTube where you get to watch the videos. Make sure you leave a review a comment and make sure you follow me, utify me and the podcast Hechisme Corner on Instagram. Until next time, take care of yourselves and remember, there's always room for more chisme here at the Chisme Corner. Hi guys. Love you.
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