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Oh what the fuck did I that I read? I don't even remember the books that I read. Let me check my Fable. I also switched to Fable instead of Goodreads and I actually like it a lot more. Oh, so I finished. If you tell I finished. That's not my name. The Glass Girl. Those were all the books that I've read so far in the new year. And I really, those books all, all were so good, such good books, especially Daisy Jones and the Six. And then people told me that there was a series on Amazon. So I went and watched it and oh my God, I feel like everything that I was feeling and like recreating my head of the characters and stuff was like exactly like the move, like the, the series. It was so crazy to just put everything together and like to see everything. So thank you guys so much for recommending that series to me because I never knew, I didn't even know that they had made something out of the book. And I loved it. Like I loved it. I love reading something and then watching it come to life like in a movie, whatever. I also watched the Housemaid and that was, it was really good. I enjoyed it. But yeah. Cheers Mel. I feel you, girl. More reading. You got this set like a good goal that you know you can do even if it's just one book a month. Like you can get through that, whatever you know you can get through in a month. Just set that goal and you'll be good. Jeanette says focus more on myself, more self care. We can never have enough self care. You know, we always out here caring for everybody else, putting everybody else needs in front of Our own, that it's gotta go. And this goes into like our health too. I feel like when I am in that season of life where everything is coming before myself and I'm not focusing on myself and everything is getting put in the back burner and I'm just like, you know what, I'll take care of this later. I'll take care of this later. That's when I start realizing I'm having like, like my health. I can feel it like not being up to par. It's not as good as it is when I am focusing on myself and giving myself love and self care. So that is very important. And I'm gonna need my, my chismosas to focus on themselves and really baby yourself. Like treat yourself like a newborn baby sometimes. Like we were all babies once. We all needed love, we all needed care, we all need nurturing. Like look at yourself. Like, okay, I was once a baby. Like I still need that love and that care for myself. Someone says to stay alive, Period. Period. Try and make a friend in my hometown. But it's so hard finding good people. You know what I love when people say that they want to make new friends. And I think I'm, I'm someone who, I think I can, I make new, I don't want to say new friends. Like I, I get along with people especially when I first meet them and stuff. I'm very easy going person to get along with. But I don't necessarily, I'm not going to see you as a friend, you know, like to be an friend in my life, like we got to go through some, you know, we got to have some time in, we got to have some experience in, you know, like that's when I'm like, okay, this is, this is a friend. I love when people want to make those connections because I feel like we all need that, you know, like I say this all the time, but we're all here for connection. We all need people who we can rely on and to be there for us and vice versa. So I really hope that you do find a good friend. And I don't think it's hard finding good people because I think even good people can do up, you know, like there's so many good people in this world. But that doesn't mean they're perfect people. They're not gonna make mistakes, they're not gonna not disappoint you. They're not gonna, you're not gonna be happy with them 24 7. And that's actually something that I've had to learn. Like, I've literally had to tell myself, like, I can be a good person and still up. It's like, if you have good intentions and you're not out to hurt people, like, viciously or mal. Intentionally, you know, like, I think that's different. So I think there are good people out there, but you have to just really realize, like, even your good friends, you're gonna have issues with them sometimes, or you're gonna go through things and they're gonna disappoint you. And I think it's just being open and vulnerable to that. I think that part is, like, hard for me, because for me, it's like, once something happens or once you disappoint me, like, it. I feel like, just goes downhill for me. And I don't. I feel like that's also not fair because it's almost like I'm not giving a people. People a chance, you know? And, like, I would want that chance. Like, if I up. I don't want someone to just, like, be like, okay, you're a terrible friend. You're a bad friend. I don't want to be your friend ever again. Like, I'd be like, what the hell? You know? But just overall, like, you have to recognize that people are human friends. Your friends are humans just like you. Like, we're all living this. This. This life. We're all just, you know, trying to stay alive, as she said, and survive. People going through a lot of. And a lot of the times, your friends aren't gonna be open with you on what they're going through. Like, I. I think even your closest of friends. Sometimes, like, people suffer in silence, and they don't want to be a burden, or they don't want to talk to their friends or even their families or other people about what they're going through. Because sometimes you'll just be thinking like, this. This can't be that bad. Or, like, you know, like, I. They probably got their own going on. Like, and I'm very. I fall victim to this. I do this all the time, like, where I don't reach out to family or friends, and I just get through things because I'm like, oh, it's probably not even that big of a deal, you know, And I don't want to burden somebody with it. But we also have to learn that it's. It's okay to ask for help, and it's okay to reach out to our friends who are our friends, who have been there for us and who have continually showed us, you know, like, I'm here for you. Like, I'm gonna. I can carry you through this season the same way you probably carried me through one of my seasons, you know? But, yeah, so I will say, I don't. I don't think it's hard finding good people. I think it's just hard for us to realize that good people can up. Nana said to book more trips, period, because I need to be somewhere with a margarita in hand at the moment right now. Extra sugar on the rim with a little lime. I. I get it. I want to book more trips. I want to do. Me and my friend. Me and Shawna were actually talking about doing another Puerto Rico trip this year. And I'm like, I think that's gonna happen. That's gotta be a go. Joe keeps saying he wants to go on a cruise, and I. I don't know. I. Cruises give me such anxiety after I watched that documentary about the. That happened on the cruise. Like, literally the. On the cruise. I don't know if y' all saw it, but it was devastating, and it was really nasty. I don't feel good about cruises anymore. And Joe has been dying to go on a cruise, and I'm just trying to, like, waver. I'm trying to, like, constantly, like, be like, no, let's go here. Let's go there. Like, we haven't gone here yet. And I feel like he's catching on. He's like, why don't you want. Like, we've always said we wanted to do a cruise. We did a cruise together with. When we. I think we were, like, three years or two years into dating and we did a cruise together, but, girl, I just been dipping and dodging his ass. I've been dipping and dodging. I'm like, I don't want to have this cruise conversation. I just. I don't want to go. Like, I'm about to be like, play sick or something. Like, you can go with the kids, or, like, last minute, be like, oh, my God, I'm sick. Like, I don't know, but we'll see. We'll see what happens. He really wants to go because he's like, we can, you know, go visit, like, so many different islands in, like, one trip, like, instead of just going to one place. And I'm like, I get it, but it's a cruise. Like, I don't know. I don't know. We'll have to see. I'll keep you all updated on that. Jess said, trying to let go and let God do his thing. Learning that I cannot Control everything. This is a really hard thing to let go. Letting go of things is not as easy as it sounds. You know, people are always like, oh, just let it go, and, like, let things just play out. Like, let things just happen. Like, that is hard. It's way harder than people can imagine, especially when you're someone who has anxiety, who has control issues, who has just. Just, like, constantly doubting. It is a very hard pill to swallow. Like, you can't just let things go. Like, it takes a lot of practice, and it takes a lot of, like, self control, and I think that's one thing. A lot of people don't have a lot of self control, especially when it comes to their emotions. It is hard. I don't care what anybody says. That is hard. And it is a journey, and it's not something. It's not a place. It's not a destination that you reach quickly. Sometimes you really got to throw your hands in the air and be like, you know what? It. Like, I can't. I can't control this. It's just gonna have to play out how it's gonna play out, and I'll worry about it then I'll worry about it when I need to worry about it. Giselle said getting back into my crafting hobbies. Oh, my God, girl. Yes. I love this for you because I am such a. I'm. I'm a crafty gal. I love going to Michael's. That is me and baby's favorite store. Like, we're always buying new things there, especially, like, little kits to, like, paint and stuff like that. I have two things that I have to paint right now, actually. And then I most recently bought, like, the little set on Amazon where you can, like, like, bling things out, like, the little rhinestones and stuff, and it comes with the glue and everything. So me and Vivi are just gonna start blinging things out and, like, adding rhinestones to everything that we love. And it just. It looks cute and it. And it's something that we can do together, but we're always crafting. Like, I think I am the happiest when it's like a Sunday. We're chilling here, you know, like, we're just in our jammies, binge watching a show. We're doing crafts. Like, I'm crocheting, and she's coloring. We start making, like, the little pins for the cheer competitions and stuff like that, which they also have kits on Amazon for that. If anyone is a cheer mom, they're amazing. But, yeah, crafting is just Something that I, I need, I need to do it like all the time. I love to paint too. Like, sometimes I'll just grab. I'll just buy some canvases at Michael's and just paint some. Like, sometimes you just need a little. You just need to get out that, that creativity and that. I don't know, I feel like it's also a, like a reason to feel young again. Like, you know, like, I loved doing all these things when I was young, even when I was young, like really, really small, even up to a teenager. Like, these are things that I would just do in my room and like, it would always help me ease my anxiety. So doing those things as an adult I think is so important because I think going into adulthood a lot of people has, have this perception that like, you can't do the same things that you did when you were young or when you were a teenager when you're an adult. Like, people like, talk about girls that like, still love hello Kitty and Pink and are living in their like, feminine era. Like, they don't realize that a lot of us are just trying to like, rewrite our childhood. Some people are just out here trying to rewrite stories that they never had. Reliving, like those nostalgic feelings that once made us so happy. I think people are like, just, oh, they want it so bad. They're longing for that. Because look at the world we live in, you know? Like, everything is so fucked up and so serious and so hectic and everything is like war and fucking hate and hatred. So yeah, I think wanting to have something that brings some type of fucking joy to your life and just clear your mind, even if it's for 30 minutes, an hour, do it, please. Do it. Like, do it for your health. Do it for your mental health. Do it for the little girl in you. But yeah, I'm here for the crafting girlies. Like, we should just do something where we all come together and just do crafts. Like just listen to music and just do crafts. Like whether it's like painting, making bracelets, like just something so girly and cute. Oh my God, I want to do this. I really want to do. And I've been thinking this year I wanted to, I want to focus more on like doing like little events. Like even in like little tiny venues. We get to bond, we get to chit chat and like do girly. Like just we can have crafts and like food and like music and just like that would be so much fun. Like, I love, I love, like that. I love stuff like that. I can even get, like, a little venue in Jersey or something. Like a little somewhere if anyone knows of someone or something. Then I can use, like, a room and we could all just get together and just hang out and chill and, like, maybe we could even do an episode of the podcast. Like, that would be so much fun. I really would love to focus on doing more things like that this year with you guys. So, yeah, let me know what places we should do it, because we're going to do it on the East Coast. Like, we got to do it on the east coast first. That's where I'm from, so it will definitely happen on the East Coast. But I just think that's. I. I don't know. I'm all full of ideas. Angelina said I need to walk more and less hot Cheetos. Did you guys see that? There's, like, a new. I forgot the name of it, but they basically took the red dye out of the hot Cheetos and, like, the Doritos and stuff, and it's in, like, this white bag. I saw it at Walmart the other day, but it basically is supposed to taste the exact same as, like, a flaming hot Cheeto, but it doesn't have the red dye in it. Like, all the bad stuff that we're not supposed to be eating. So I don't know. I have to. I saw it at Walmart and I didn't get it the other day, but now I'm like, oh, maybe I should just try it out on the podcast and see if it really does taste like hot Cheetos. Because I love me some hot Cheetos. And I don't know. For me, I like the red stuff on my fingers. Like, I feel like that would. That's what makes a hot Cheeto. Like, I want. I don't know if that makes me weird, but, like, without it, I'm just like, is this really a hot Cheeto? I don't know. Is that what is. There's, like, a name for that. Like, when you're. I don't know. I guess my mind just correlates that to a flaming hot Cheeto. So I can't picture, like, eating something and not having my hands red and. And having it taste like a flaming hot Cheeto. I don't. It's just weird. I. I don't know. But there is. It's a healthier option. So maybe you don't need to eat less hot Cheetos. Maybe just eat those and that'll be good for you. But also, what the do I Know, like Blanca says, save money and budget. Yes. Girl. I feel like I have been budgeting so much lately. Like, the past couple years, actually, I've been trying to, like, have a budget and set, like, a. A steady amount of, like, okay, what I can spend every month or whatever. I take money out for my retirement account, and then I have Vivi's account, and it's like, so much goes out, and then we have bills, and, like, all of this, like, it's just so much money just constantly going out, out, out, out. So the money that I do make, I also want to invest. So I think also, like, saving, budgeting, but also learning how to invest money, even if it's something small, even it's starting with the smallest amount of money. Girl, I'm telling you, like, you put it into an investment account, like, get some stock. I just bought some stock the other day, too. Like, I had to get some other there because Joe helps me with that because he's good with all that stuff. Like. Like, he's the one that taught me about stocks and bomb. Like, all of these. All of these things. I didn't know anything. I had very bad financial literacy growing up. Like, none of my parents knew what they were doing. No one has, like, retirement accounts or life insurance or all of these things, so I never knew about any of these things. You know, Joe went ahead and he educated himself years ago on all of this stuff, and he's the one that, like, taught me everything I know. And I also just have some, like, really bad anxiety when it comes to my finances because I'm like, okay, I was broke once. I can be broke again. Like, that is hard. But, like, when you grow up like that, like, and it's not even that I grew up broke. Like, it's just, like, my mom was a single parent with two girls, like, living in Newark, New Jersey. Like, we. We didn't have it all, you know, like, she was. Was. We're living paycheck to paycheck every week for years, you know? Like, I. There were times where I didn't want to ask for certain things or I didn't, you know, Like, I had to go get a job and get on my own, you know? Like, there was times where I was literally pawning just to. Like, I pawned one of my guitars one time just so that I could get, like, a pair of sneakers or something that I really wanted because I just felt bad asking my mom for money, you know? Like, I knew she needed it to go to bills. And, like, the really Important to keep a roof over our heads. When you grow up like that, like, you're constantly thinking, like, like you just have a fear when it comes to money. Even when I'm making, like, really good money and I see it coming in and it's, it's steady and it's like growing. I get scared. I still get scared. Like, I'd be like, I still act like I'm broke. Like, I will literally keep walking around and acting and doing, like, I don't got it. But I also, like, try and, you know, like, manifest like, hey, I deserve money. Money flows to me. Like, I'm like that too. But I'm also just a very realistic person. Like, I'm like, I've been there before. I know. I, I, that that could happen to anybody. You could be at the peak of your career. You could be making money, millions of dollars. And we see it all the time. We see it with celebrities, we see with people who all the time who are not smart with their money or put their money even. You can invest and invest in, in wrong places. And that's where you have to be really smart about where you're investing your money and how you're investing your money and who you're speaking to and who your financial advisors are. And it's just a lot. It is so much to think about as an adult, but it, it's scary. It is really scary to think that things can just come crashing down at any moment for literally anyone, especially in this economy. Like, girl, please. Oh. But I also learned, like Joe used to tell me all the time, like, you're saving all this money. Like you have all this money saving your savings account. Like, for what? Like, you just have it just sitting in there. Like, you have to invest this money in something. Yeah. So that's why I was like, oh, like, I really need to get my together. Like, I need to do something with this money so that it can grow. Like, you want it to grow, you want it to grow, grow, grow, grow. That's what you want. So, yeah, the money, the any type of money that you do save, and I'm even the smallest amount, try and figure out where you can invest that money. Lynn Marie says being more present, less social media, more reading. I think that goes for a lot of us. I've been seeing a lot more of that, like the less social media and stuff and being, being more present a lot for sure, because I think we're just getting lost in all, everything social media. But it's also hard because it's like, we want to stay updated and we want to know what's. What's going on in the world around us. And last but not least, Samantha says, be happy and present with what I have and where I am not always wanting more. I love this, and I'm actually glad that we ended with this one. There were so many more other stuff too, but I just kind of chose the ones that I figured I could really talk about and get into. But that is beautiful. And I think once you get to that place where you realize that it's a beautiful thing. It really is. Because I think also, like, I was just on Tick tock the other day, right? And you know how, like, in the new year, everyone was doing, like, that little cake thing? Well, they'll put the candles on the cake and be like, okay, this is what I. I accomplished this, this, this year. And this, this is. And it's like going on and on and on. Like, I was watching that and I was just like, wow, like, that's amazing, you know, But I was kind of comparing my journey to a lot of other people's. Like, oh, my God, you did all of that this year. I think it's so hard to not obviously just be like, play. Play the comparison game or just not comparing the person per se, but just like, the journey, you know, and it's like, holy. You were able to do all of that this year. And I was just literally talking and complaining about what I'm gonna make for dinner, you know, like, that was my life. Like, I just. I didn't feel like doing this year. Well, 20, 25, you know? You know what I mean? But yeah, I was, like, getting down on myself a little bit about that. And then I also have come across. I don't know what the it is on my Tick Tock, but they've been showing me some outlandish. There's this one girl, and she's like, boating across the Atlantic Ocean. And I'm. I'm pretty sure she's doing it for charity because I was, like, reading through the comments and people were asking why she was putting herself through this. Because it's like the video I saw was like, her 28th day out in the ocean, and everyone was like, what the. Like, it. It seems terrible. Why are you doing this? So I'm pretty sure it's like, for charity or. And like, you know, obviously to donate money to something, so that's awesome. And I'm just like, holy. Like, I would never do something like that. Like, I just. I can't I can't picture myself doing something like that. Like that big, you know, like that's a huge deal. Like people are doing these big things and big gestures. And then I also was on, what was it? Mount Everest. Tick tock. Which is girl, did y' all know people are just going to Mount Everest? Like just count. Just climbing that mountain.
