The Chisme Corner with Vee Rivera

Episode: Non-Negotiables in My 30s

Date: April 3, 2026
Host: Vee Rivera (Sonoro)

Overview

In this heartfelt and unfiltered episode, Vee Rivera explores the concept of "non-negotiables" she’s established in her 30s. With her signature blend of candor, humor, and cultural context, Vee shares the lessons learned through personal struggles, growth, and shifting relationships. The conversation covers boundaries, friendship, motherhood, self-respect, mental health, privacy, and more—laying out what she now absolutely will not compromise on as she moves through this stage of her life. For anyone navigating a period of change, especially millennial women and Latina moms, this episode serves as a relatable blueprint for self-preservation and growth.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

Catching Up: Family, Motherhood, and Life Lately

• Weather and Spring Plans: Vee chats about the bizarre 83-degree Delaware weather, prepping for spring with her kids’ break approaching.
• School Decisions: She's excited about potentially enrolling her daughter in a charter school, balancing this with thoughts of homeschooling. (01:10–03:20)
• Spring Shopping & Traditions: Shares her love for outlet shopping trips and prepping for Easter, including egg-dyeing and managing a messy backyard. (04:15–05:45)
• Friendship and Long-Distance Besties: Vee reflects on missing her best friend Maria, the importance of genuine girl time, and supporting each other through life's hardships.

  “If any of you have a best friend and you guys are long distance, it is the biggest heartbreak ever…sometimes you just need your best friend.” (06:35)

• Mother-Daughter Bonding: Discusses carving out quality time with her daughter despite busy schedules, after-school programs, homework, and their shared love of roller skating. (07:20–08:23)

Main Theme: Non-Negotiables in My 30s

1. Peace Over Proving a Point

• Vee declares her peace is her top priority, above arguing or proving herself to anyone.

  “My peace is always going to be my top priority over proving a point at this point. I don't feel like I need to prove myself or prove a point to anybody.” (09:35)

• Letting go of relationships where she feels misunderstood or disrespected.

2. Setting Boundaries Without Guilt

• She explains that history or longevity in relationships doesn’t entitle anyone to unrestricted access.

  “I don't owe access to anyone just because we have history.” (11:15)

• Addresses how people sometimes resist or guilt-trip those who set boundaries, but she chooses self-respect regardless of others’ reactions.

  “You don't have to agree with the boundary…I'm grown and mature enough to just take myself out of the equation.” (14:39)

• Emphasizes removing herself from spaces where her boundaries aren’t respected.

3. No More One-Sided Relationships

• Rejects always being the one to reach out, plan, or emotionally support others without reciprocation.

  “I just have to meet people where they meet me and I can't be mad about it…everyone goes through seasons of life.” (15:30)

• Reflects on needing to release invisible expectations of others and stop putting people on pedestals they never asked to be on.

4. Being Selective with Access

• She’s become highly selective about who gets her vulnerability, time, and love.

  “Not everyone deserves your vulnerability. Not everyone deserves your time…just because you know me or you think you know me.” (18:55)

• Warns about “monitoring spirits”—people who simply want to observe your life for their own reasons.

5. Trusting Intuition

• Talks about always listening to her “gut” and how ignoring intuition led to repeated mistakes.

  “My gut will tell me how I feel way before my heart or my brain does…your body keeps the score.” (21:05)

• No longer needs outside proof if her intuition signals something is off.

6. Valuing Privacy as a Luxury

• Differentiates between secrecy and privacy, defending her right to keep parts of her life away from public (and even family) scrutiny.

  “Not everything needs to be a post or a story…there’s a big difference between being secretive and being private.” (25:00)

• Calls privacy a luxury, crucial for her own happiness and security.

7. Non-Negotiable: Mental Health

• Rest, therapy, prayer, boundaries, and joy top her priorities.

  “Anything that triggers your mental health…you have every right to get rid of that thing or person, whatever. Because at the end of the day, your mental health is not an option.” (28:20)

• Recounts periods when she hit rock bottom, reinforcing her firm boundaries now to maintain wellness.
• Closes this segment with an invitation for listeners to share their own non-negotiables and swap ideas with her. (29:45)

Memorable Quotes & Moments

• “I am on this earth for such a small amount of time. If I'm not giggling, laughing, dilly dallying, enjoying life, smiling, having fun, laughing till my stomach hurts. I don't want it.”
  — Vee Rivera (00:42 and 27:49)

• “I'm not about to go back and forth with nobody. Not at the big age of 34. I will blink my eyes twice, look you up and down and walk away so fast.”
  — Vee Rivera (10:45)

• “You don't owe anyone access just because you have history. And not everyone around you is always going to understand your boundaries…and that's not your problem.”
  — Vee Rivera (11:33)

• “People just want to, like, know things about you or just have that access and just be close to you just because. It's so weird. Not up in here.” — Vee Rivera (19:45)

Timestamps for Important Segments

• [01:10–03:20] — School decisions, spring plans, and parenting updates
• [06:35] — Reflecting on long-distance friendships
• [08:23–09:35] — Transition into non-negotiables and lessons learned from life changes
• [09:35–14:39] — Peace over proving points and setting healthy boundaries
• [15:30–18:55] — Approaching relationships and expectations with maturity
• [18:55–23:45] — Selectivity about access, trusting intuition, and protecting energy
• [25:00–27:49] — The value of privacy and quiet joys
• [28:20–29:45] — Mental health as a non-negotiable and choosing yourself

Closing & Next Episode Preview

• Vee hints that her next episode will focus on intentional parenting, especially in the context of being a Latina mom—teasing a deep dive for listeners who relate.
• She invites feedback and anecdotes from listeners about their own non-negotiables, encouraging an ongoing, interactive conversation.
• Quick updates about her content on YouTube, emphasizing her love for the supportive community there.

Final Thoughts

This episode is equal parts manifesto and love letter: Vee Rivera lays bare the hard-won conclusions of her 30s about what she’ll protect, honor, and never let slide again. It’s a practical, emotional, and culture-rooted guide for anyone searching for clarity and courage to live life on their own terms, with unapologetic joy and self-respect.