← The Chisme Corner with Vee Rivera
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Liberty, Liberty. Liberty, Liberty. And the fact that people are so comfortable in our own families to, like, comment on other people's bodies. Don't even get me started. Like, grown ass adults felt comfortable talking about children. Welcome back to the Chisme Corner. I'm your host V. Rivera, your Latina amiga. And go to Chismosa for all the chisme that actually matters. Latina motherhood, beauty, navigating life in your 30s and keeping our mental health in check. We're keeping it raw, relatable, and a little spicy. We'll also be getting into pop culture topics and some reality show tea. I love me some tea. So get comfy because the Chisme starts now. Oh, my God. It's been a whirlwind of a week. Last weekend maybe came up with a fever randomly. Like, she never gets sick, but when she does, it goes away pretty fast. So I was just like, all right, we got a little fever going on. I was out with my friend Liz. Girl, we was out. We was drinking margaritas. I was living my best life. And then Joe texts me, and he's like, I'm not trying to worry you. I'm just letting you know baby came home from cheer and she's got a little fever. And I was just like. So immediately, like, you go into mom mode. Like, I can't be out if I'm out, and you text me and something's wrong with Vivi or whatever. Even though Joe got it. Like, I never have to worry about him. He's not a babysitter. Like, he's literally a dad, so I never have to worry about her. Not Being good. But I just feel guilty. Like the mom guilt will eat me the up if I'm not physically the one there too while she's sick. Because I feel like she's gonna be like, mom. Like, I want mom, you know, like she's always usually like that. So I ended up just going home like right after that. Like 10 minutes after I got that text. And then, yeah, she had a fever for like a day. And we had him as drums. We had a miss cheer. Like it was so much. And then like two days ago, she wakes up and her eye is like shut, like completely shut. And I'm like, like, what the is this now? Like, what is this? Because it never ends, right? There's always something. Joe ends up taking her to the eye doctor because I was working and doing a lot of stuff that day. And I'm texting him, I'm like, what's going on? Like, what is it? He's like, it's just allergies. Like, he's like, that's. She gave her a freaking eye drop. And we've been using it for like two days and it already went away because her eye was so red. Like, it was just red and it was just like so swollen. And then the next day it was like both eyes and I was just like, oh. But the drops helped so much. So I was like, oh my God. But I was like, oh, I hate that she's having to experience allergies because I know how allergies are. If, you know, if you have allergies, you know that that is no joke. Like it's the worst. Like waking up with freaking was going to say sweaty eyeballs. Like waking up with just drippy ass eyeballs and a drippy nose. And it sucks. Cuz sometimes I can't even do my makeup because my eye will just be leaking like all day. Like it's just. And it's usually just like my left eye, like this one eye. And it bothers the out of me. But yeah, so been dealing with sickness and all that. And this weekend I was like, you know what? I'm going to lock the in on Saturday, girl. So like, if y' all listening to this today, on a Friday, tomorrow, if y' all don't hear from me, you don't see me on socials. It's because I'm cleaning the out of my house. Like, girl, I am cleaning everything. I gotta clean my refrigerator, I gotta clean my oven, I gotta clean my baseboards, I gotta clean out my closet, I gotta clean out everything. Everything. Is getting a deep ass clean. I still haven't like changed out my clothes, like my spring clothes and my winter clothes and all that. So I'm gonna be doing that. So let me know if y' all gonna be in your spring cleaning era too, because listen, I clean my house like every weekend. I would say, like every week I'm doing like a dusting, mopping situation. Every other week I'm doing like a. More like a deeper clean. So I would say every two weeks I do a deep, deep, deep clean. But I keep the house like good throughout the week, you know, so it's like a, you know, it's like a routine that I got going. And me and Joe, like, we divide like things that we're doing every week, like whenever we clean and stuff. So he already knows what he does and I know do what I do, like, cuz I just feel like I'm the best when it comes to sweeping and mopping. So I ain't letting nobody else do that except for me. I think my friends wanted to go out Saturday night, but I was like, no. Like, I'm not even. Nope. I already know I'm gonna be tired. Like, I'm probably not gonna finish till like 8 o' clock at night with all the that I have to do. I'm also gonna clean like my backyard up a little bit. I'm also gonna clean my screened in porch, cuz y' all know I love my screened in porch. Girl. Like, I'm there every freaking day. I'm like just chilling in my back porch. Like I love it so much. So tis the season and I'm. I'm just gonna be cleaning my ass off. So I'll be Mrs. Clean this week. And then I just booked Virginia beach because we have to go back in like two weeks because Bibi has her last competition and I'm just kind of like, oh, thank God. Like, I'm over it. Like, this cheer season was a lot. Like, y' all know we. We don't went through a lot and it's just been crazy. So I'm registering her for some tumbling sessions, some extra tumbling before we go to Virginia beach. Because she really. She's like, we better get first place. Like, I just. I want to win. So. Yeah, we got that. And that's the weekend of Mother's Day. So I'm excited to like, spend the weekend there with Joe and Vivi and yeah, that'll be like my Mother's Day weekend, basically. Like, that's what I'm doing is I'M gonna be a cheer mom. Like that. It is what it is, but we'll have some fun. And I'm trying to think of any other, I'm trying to think of like any other updates that I've got going on this week. Not really. We're going roller skating later on tonight. So we go like every Thursday now. Cuz Joe, Joe met a friend and like his family, you know how crazy this is. Like we went roller skating not long ago and this guy just randomly went up to Joe and started talking and like Joe, Joe was like, yo, like that dude is like living the same life I'm living. Like it's so crazy. He was like, everything he was saying, I was like, damn. Like I went through that too. Or like I can relate to this. And I was like, isn't that so cool? Like when you just meet a friend and like you just can relate and you're like, like, that's dope. And he was like, yeah, because he don't really have any friends out here like that. Like Joe has like his same group of friends and that's it. Like he don't really make friends like that. So it's very rare. But yeah. So his fan, like his wife is also. I don't know if she's Puerto Rican or she's like like Colombian, I don't remember. But Joe was like, he was saying how his wife like, like they've been together for, for years. Like they have their kids together and stuff too and she's five two, like short, just like me. Like looks like, like it's so crazy. Like we basically have, we have like a lot in common and we also very rarely meet like other Hispanics out here. So whenever I see someone who's like Puerto Rican or Hispanic, I'm like, oh, we need to like make friends with them, you know. Joe's been like on his little like workout journey and stuff and he has been like losing weight and stuff. So the guy, there was another guy there and he's like huge. Yo, he's like six feet tall. Like big though. Not big, but like he looked, he's very like muscular. And he be going in like I'm telling you, like he could skate his ass off. So the guy was telling us like, oh, you know, he, he was here like a little bit before me. Like he only started going like for a year now. Like he's like, I just come with my kids and we just hang out like every Thursday, whatever. And then I just started coming and like I lost weight and it's just like a. Like something that I do for, like, my mental health. And Joe was like, oh, that's really dope. So he was like, yeah, that other guy, like, that other dude, he was. He came like, a little bit after me or. I don't know if it was before or after, but that guy, he used, he. Like, none of them knew how to skate, like, at all. And they're like pros. Like, when I'm telling you, like, they just be. They be out there, like, killing it, and I'm like, that's. That's what I want to do. Like, I want to learn how to, like, roller skate really, really good. But yeah, they, like, lost hella weight doing it. And it's like their hobby. Like, it's their sport, but it's also like their workout. So now we go, like, every Thursday, you know, like, he has his kids there and his family, and then it's so. It's like, really cool. I'm excited to see, like, because it's such a good workout. I'm excited to see, like, how it transforms our bodies and, like, how we skate and stuff. But, yeah, so we made some new friends, and I'm really. I'm really happy about that because I feel like we need married friends, you know? Like, we don't really. We have some married friends, but they're all, like, in Jersey and, like, they have kids and shit, and like, they're all super busy as it is. So, like, it's hard enough to, like, link up with friends and people who you live nearby. So, like, to even be able to see them is like, never. Like, we barely ever see them, so it sucks. So, like, I was like, I want to focus this year. Like, us just like, you know, meeting new people and like, you know, you have to, like, open up your. Your horizons to, like, different people and different things. So. So, yeah, I'm happy about that. And roller skating has been so much fun, but. Oh, God. There was something that I really wanted to talk about. And I know it's a sensitive topic. I know weight. And just even because of, I guess, the world that we're in right now, like, I feel like everyone is glorifying, like, weight loss and weight loss products and GLP ones. And I just want to make it very clear, like, I have absolutely nothing against people who take GLP ones. Ozempic, whatever. Like, girl, do what you got to do. Girl. Guy, I don't care, like, if that is what makes you feel good about yourself, your body, your health. Like, yeah, do it, you know, I'm gonna. I'm talking about my experience. Like, this is my experience. So I want to talk about it and share it with you guys because I feel like, you know, there's probably people out there who can relate, but I don't want it. I don't want people to take it the wrong way or be like. I feel like there's always going to be one person who tries to switch your words or make it seem like you're saying something you're not. So I'm going to just let it be known right here. Like, no, this ain't that and that ain't this. I'm talking about strictly my experience and what I'm going through right now, you know, So I. Since I was young, like, I've always, always, always it's been hard for me to gain weight. Like, I've never been someone who, like, even if I try, like, I swear, like, even just like sticking to a routine and like eating protein and also, like, it's just so hard for me to gain. And that's. It's something that I've always been a little self conscious about because I want to, you know, Like, I've always wanted to gain weight or I'm like, damn. I feel like I would, I would feel better about myself if I was a little bit. If I had a little more weight on me. Like, that's how I always used to feel. And like, for a lot of my life I felt like that. So the other day I had a doctor appointment, I had a gyno appointment, I got my pap smear done and all this shit. And you know how they have to like, check your weight before you go in, whatever. So I don't know. I was, I was expecting to see the same way. I'm not gonna say my weight on here because honestly, that's nobody's fucking business. Nobody needs to like, know your weight or anything. So I wasn't really, like paying much attention to that. I'm like, okay, like, it's just a normal thing. I'm just gonna go on, check my weight, whatever. Like, whatever. Tell me why I go on that scale. And I look and I gained 12 pounds. I was like, yeah, like, yeah, because you. It was, it's been hard. Like, it is so hard for me to see a jump in numbers in my weight and to be where I want to be, you know? So I, I saw that I gained weight and I was just like, I felt excited and I felt happy for myself, you know, Like I was Just like, yeah, like, yeah, when I tell you that made my day because it was like a relief. Like, it really was. It was like, oh, my God, like, I reached this little goal and I was like, finally, you know, like, cheat. Like, damn. Like, I'm really happy about this. I was like, kind of realizing how weird it sounds out loud because we are, like, where we are in the world right now. We've completely seen the rise of weight loss culture and GLP1s and everything within the past, you know, year, two years. I don't even know how long it's been already. But people think being small or being in a smaller body means that that automatically means you're healthy. And that's not always true, you know, but yeah, it just feels weird to talk about because I feel like everywhere you turn and everywhere you go, everyone's. It's all talk about, you know, people losing and then shrinking. And I'm over here like, well, I'm trying to. I'm. I want to gain. Like, I'm over here, like, where the gains at. Like my dream body isn't about being smaller or being small in general. It's about being healthy and it's about being stronger. Like, I want to be strong. I want to be strong. So my goal right now, I want to build muscle. I want to tone. I want to get stronger also, like, discipline. I feel like I've been really starting habits for myself that equate to discipline. Like, you guys see that I've been making my bed, like, now every day. I don't miss. Like, I make my bed every day. And then now I'm starting to work out, like, because I just listen, everyone. Everyone deserves to just truly feel good in their own body. But I also feel like, you know, there's space for conversations like mine too, even though they're not really talked about as often or as. Nor or as normal, you know, but at the end of the day, I think all of us are just trying to feel good in our bodies. It doesn't look the same for everyone. So if you're someone like me who's listening to this and you're like, oh, finally, like someone. Something that I can relate to because I go through this too. You're not alone. Like, it has been a journey. And I think, like, you can be proud of your progress, you know, you can be. So be proud of it too, because that's what it is. It is progress for you and it's your goals, you know, feeling like you have to explain it first and like, over explain it to people because you feel like people just aren't going to get it or they're going to look at you. Like, the one thing I always get is like, girl, you're so lucky. Or I wish that was my problem, you know? And it's like, that's why I don't share stuff like that with people because I just hate that I don't want to hear that back, you know? And it's like, okay, I hear you. But that doesn't always mean that I feel my best, you know, that doesn't mean that someone feels their best. And if we want to get into it even deeper, I'm Puerto Rican, right? When you're growing up and you're like not the ideal size of what you know, your grandparents, your parents, whatever it may be, like what they look at, they're going to comment about it. And like I've had, I never had my mom or anything comment about it, but I've had like other people say things. I've been called flakita, like all my life. Or you know, if you're bigger you get called gordita. Or you know, like it's like they give you a nickname based on your biggest insecurity or not even insecurity, something that maybe you're just self conscious about and it sticks with you forever. And I'm just like, can we not, like, can we just fucking not do this to our kids? Like, I hate that shit. Like, I hate it so much. And then growing up with it and growing up around it, like, you can see how much it like takes someone's spark away. And then growing up you realize it did just that. Like it'll take their spark away. Like, especially if it's said to them often. You know, it can be something that you become obsessive about. Like it can become a problem. Like sometimes I'm like, I love my culture. Like, I love being Latina, I love being Puerto Rican. But sometimes I look at and the way like we grew up or the way the things that we were exposed to and like the way older people around us like functioned and like put their on us. And sometimes I hate it. Like, sometimes I'm like, I hate this about the culture. Like, I hate that we had to go through this and I hate that people have to go through this. You know, as a, as, as kids, like as children. Like, it's so much. But this one thing in particular, like always really pissed me off. Like, I just didn't. I don't like it. Like, I Hate it. Like, imagine if us as adults now grown up. Like you see someone and you like immediately think to give them a name based on their insecurity. Like imagine calling a grown ass woman flakita right now. Like, it's just, I don't know, it's just weird. So why would you do it to a child? And the fact that people are so comfortable in our own families to like comment on other people's bodies. Don't even get me started. Like grown ass adults felt comfortable talking about children. Why, why was that normal? Like, why was that ever normalized? Why was that ever a thing? You're either to this or to that. Like you're too skinny or you, you got too much weight on you or like it's like you're never enough. Like what you want me to be? What, what do you, what do you want? Because you ain't over there sitting perfect either. Like they be having the most, the most about themselves. Divorce 10 times. Like it's like, yo, you really trying to project basically onto a child. Like that's what it's giving. Like, I hope this isn't still. I mean, I'm pretty sure this is probably still going on in a lot of Hispanic households within and within the community in general. But we need to fix that. We need to dead it completely. You need to nip that in the bud. Like that should not be a thing. Commenting on kids bodies and making them feel a certain way at a certain age. Like it's sick. Like it really is. Like that's like mental abuse, you know? Especially if you don't know what they're going through, you don't know what they're going through health wise. If you're not the parent and you're not the one that has to like deal with it and like taking them to those doctor appointments, like you don't have a say as far as I'm concerned. Don't say you don't know anything about what anyone, anyone's got going on or their health or anything. But I'm telling you, I'm telling you that sticks. Like you remember it, you remember who told you it, you remember how it made you feel, you remember where you were in the moment. Like it sticks with you so, so hard. And then you just become way more aware of your body at a very young age. And I truly don't think that people realize the impact because it's so normalized for people. Oh, it's jokes and it's nicknames and it's just funny. Like lighten up. Like, we, you know, we love you. Like, it's not. Yeah, but that's not funny and it's not a joke. So. Yeah, so now I'm here as an adult and I've all. I've just trying to build my body in a healthy way. I'm trying to like unlearn certain thoughts and certain things that have been instilled in me for a very long time. I really just want to focus on strength and not, not just appearance, you know, so whether you're trying to lose weight, gain weight, or just feel better in your body, your journey is valid, your goals are valid. And just remember, your body is not a joke. It's not commentary, it's not a topic of conversation. Maybe that's the real conversation we should be having. Like, not just talking about what we want our bodies to look like, but how we talk about them in our homes to our kids. Like you. You have to be very mindful about how you talk about your body and most importantly, like how we talk about ourselves. The power of the tongue is so real. And I tell people this all the time. Like what you're thinking of yourself and what you're saying to yourself on a daily basis really matters and it can really affect how you look at yourself and how you feel about yourself. This is, I just printed out like a whole like affirmations thing that I really, really love. And it's not even based on like anything appearance wise or like physically, but just speaking life and love into myself. That in general is important. So if you guys want, I can post it for you guys or if you just DM me or anything and I can send it to you because I feel like what we think about ourselves, you know, that's the most important. So saying these affirmations every day and reminding yourself like, I'm beautiful, I'm strong, I'm ambitious, I'm. I'm that, like, I really am. I make things happen. I'm. I can reach my goals. Like, I can do what I put my mind to, you know, like little things like that, really. And like preaching that and saying it, just not even thinking it, Saying that out loud every day makes such a difference. So I'm gonna. The one that I have, it was like a full moon. My friend actually sent it to me. It was like a, a new moon affirmations thing because we had the New Moon on April 17, so I'm always very in tune with the moon. So these are some of the. I loved it. Like I absolutely loved it. And I even told. I was like, thank you so much for sending me this because I am printing this out and I'm it in, like, my office space, like, where I sit down and work and everything so I can remind myself to look at this and read it out loud every day. So it says, a divine new beginning written in the stars for you and I. Oh, I love it so much. So it starts with self. Love. It says, I am enough. I am worthy. I choose me always.
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I attract deep, healthy and loyal love. I give and receive love freely. Abundance. I am open to unlimited abundance. I receive in expected and unexpected ways. Success. I am capable, focused and unstoppable. I create success on my own terms. Healing. I release what no longer serves me. Period. I choose peace, growth, and wholeness. Purpose. I am aligned with my purpose. I trust my path and follow my soul. Intuition. I trust my intuition. I listen within. I make choices that feel aligned. Growth. I embrace change and welcome new beginnings. I become the best. I become the best version of myself. And then it says, I am ready. I am open. I am aligned. I welcome everything meant for me. And I just love that I was like, I have to share this with everybody because I just think it's dope as. And just saying those things out loud every day, like, oh, that's just gonna make you just feel so good. Like, it sounds stupid because you're just like. Like, you're just reading something off of a paper. Like, But I'm telling you, like, one day you'll be going through something or you're just. Something will be happening in the day and you can read it and see it and, like, you feel the words deeper. Like, when you say it, you can feel it. Like, one time I was, like, really going through something. I have this thing in my office where it's like, canvases. Like, it's supposed to be like, decor, but it has, like, cute, like, affirmations. Like, it has a few on there. And I started, like, looking at it and I was going through it and I started crying. Like, I just really started crying because in that moment, like, it hit so deep and I felt it. Like, I could feel the power of the words. I don't know what it was, but I'm telling you that, like, it changed my whole perspective. Because that day, moving forward, I was like, oh. Like, this is. This is. This is real. Like, this is strength. Like, this really does impact me. So imagine the things that you hear daily or see or even read that are negative. Like, think about how that affects you. It affects Your mental health, it affects you, your, your even like your physical, like how you feel. Like there's stuff that I, sometimes I scroll and I'm seeing and I'm looking at it on the Internet and I just. Oh it just makes me feel uneasy or it just makes me feel like ugh. Like I just, I don't align with that. I don't even want to hear about that. I don't want to listen to it. Like it's just like there's just things that you start feeling very unaligned with and you're like this is not something I even want to hear about. Like I don't even want to think about this. Like this is not it, you know. But yeah, I don't know if that comes with age. I mean it's got to come with age or something. But you just start, you being, you start being really mindful about the things that you're taking in. Not even just physically, but mentally. Like not just being aware of what you're putting into your body like food wise or anything like that, but like mentally what you're putting into your mind and your soul. Cuz it's going to live there and it's going to stay there. And the body carries so much everything that we're around every day and that we're taking in. Like it's heavy, it can get really heavy. And sometimes you're carrying that's not even just yours. Like, like it's not your stuff that you're carrying. It's a lot of other people's too. Yeah, this got a little deep but this is something that I think was really important and something that just I, I wanted to talk about. You know, I like to talk about the real on here. Even if it's uncomfortable or you know, it's something that you don't really hear. Often we just real and we be going through real, you know, and you gotta have your homie, your homegirl to talk about with. So you guys are not only my cheese mosas, you're my homegirls. So I was like, this is something that I think is, is truly worth talking about. And I hope you guys know how deeply beautiful y' all are. Like down to your core. Like of course you're gonna have people out there that talk about you that probably think you're a terrible person. You did this, you did that. Like I had to let go of so much in the past few years of like there's gonna be people that hate you for no reason. There's gonna be People that don't with you for no reason. There's gonna be people that. Or maybe they do have a reason. Whatever that has not. As long as you are working on yourself every day and you're becoming better than the person you were yesterday. Like, people hate you. They don't. They don't with you, and they don't even know the newer version of you. They probably haven't spoken to you in like two, three, four years. Like, they don't know. You just know that you can become a better version of yourself every day. Every day you can do something to better yourself. You don't have to just be one version of yourself throughout your life. And I talked about this on my Instagram too. Like, I love the fact that, like, being a woman, I can evolve and I can be a million different things. Bitch, if I realized today, like, I don't want to be this girl anymore, I can start changing my whole life tomorrow. Like, I can be some. I can just start doing things totally different. I can level the fuck up and, like, it's a beautiful thing. It really is. So don't think about the opinions of other people that. That things that you can't control. Your only concern should be you bettering yourself and being as beautiful as you can be. Not only on the outside. I'm talking about the inside. You want to. That's what you want to be. Just be a good person. That's it. But, yeah, that's all I've been focusing on is just like, bettering myself all around. Like, as a woman, as a wife, as a mom. And better my routines, better my habits, better everything. What's that sound on Tick Tock? That. It was like, it was from the Papa John's commercial when, you know, it's like, better sauce, better pizza, better ingredients, like Papa John's. And then they made it a sound on Tick Tock and it's like, better. Better clothes, better fits. Like, better. Like, that's basically what it is. Like, everything better, everything better. That's it. But yeah, guys, that's a wrap on today's Chisme, but don't let the conversation stop here. Make sure you subscribe to our YouTube and you can watch the videos on there. Make sure you leave a review on the podcast apps and keep tuning in every Friday here at the Cheeseman Corner. Make sure you follow me on View to find me as well. Until next time, take care of yourselves. And remember, there's always room for more chisme here at the Chisme Corner. I love y' all. Bye.
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