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Hello, Finney. You're dead. Dead is just a word, Mr. Grabber. He came to me in my dream. What do you think happens when you die in a dream? It's time to find out. Ethan Hawke. I'm not afraid of you. You should. Today's episode is a love letter to motherhood to all my mamas. The beauty, the heartbreak and the healing that comes with watching your baby grow. Welcome to the Chisman corner. I'm your host, Vi Rivera, your Latina amiga. And go to chismosa for all the chisme that actually matters. Latina motherhood, beauty, navigating life in your 30s and keeping our mental health in check. We're keeping it raw, relatable and a little spicy. We'll also be getting into pop culture topics and the best reality show tea because usage. I love me some tea. So get comfy because the cheeseman starts now. Oh my God. Guys. Welcome back to another episode. It has been a whirlwind of a week. Well, last week was a whirlwind of a week. I'm just getting into this week. It's Monday for me. But last week, oh my God, I feel like I was just running around like a chicken with its head cut off because I had so many things going on. I had baby's birthday party. I also had a photo shoot, like a really big photo shoot that I did. So. So I'm going to talk about some of these things and give you guys the tea because it was just really cool. Like it was, it was actually really awesome. So I met, I met this other influencer. Her name is Mari. I met her on, I think I met her on Instagram. We just like started following each other and we just were talking so much on Instagram and then eventually we like exchanged numbers and we talk like every day, right? Like we talk so much. That is my like, I feel like we're like cousins. I really do. I feel like she's like my long lost Borica cousin. And I also the fact that she's in the influencer space, like we're always, you know, giving each other advice and helping each other out and things like that, which I really love. Cuz I feel like that's very few and far between. Especially in this industry. People can be really like, oh, you know, I don't want to help you cuz I don't want you to do better than me type. So that's why I don't really even talk to a lot of people in this space. But the people that I do me I feel video have been really genuine, and those are the people that I really like to, you know, learn from and grow with and stuff. So she's definitely one of those people and shout out to her because she. She has a brand called 1989. It's like a Shades brand, and she's got, like, some of the dopest shades I've ever seen. Honestly, it's so unique, so different. She's got really nice style. She's like a fashion girly, you know. So she was, like, telling me about this shoot that she really wanted to do, and she was like, hey, I really want you to be a part of it. She was giving me the whole vision and telling me how she wanted it to be, and I was just like, this is dope. Like, I was envisioning everything with her, and I was like, we can do this. Like, we can bring this to life. So we ended up going to this little beach in Melford, which is like 20 minutes away from me here in Delaware, in Dover, Delaware. And I'd never been to this beach before. Like, I just heard about it and I heard that it's really nice. Like, I know other people have done shoots there and stuff like that too. So go. I was like, yeah, let's go there. So we all met up over there. It was me, her, her husband, and her son Levi. He was there with us too. But her husband is like a photographer. He's like a street photographer. And he also shoots weddings and stuff. Like, amazing work. And she also shoots pictures, too. Like, she. She does everything. Like, she is, like the designer. She is the creative director, the photographer. Like, she was doing everything. So we go. And. And I don't. I don't want to give too much of, like, what was going on during the photo shoot, because I actually want to bring her. She's going to come on the podcast and we're going to talk about it, because, bitch, there was so. I feel like there was so much going on, but also nothing at all. So, like, what I mean by that is when we got there, there was nobody there, right? The only people that are actually there are the people who are taking their boats out. Like, people aren't there at this time to, like, be on the beach or whatever. There was, like, no one really there when we got there, but then there was this lady with her dog. And all of a sudden she wanted to be right next, like, literally right where we were shooting at, she decided to go laid, put a blanket down, and be with her dog. Literally, like a couple Feet away. Like she was right there in the mix of everything. And it's like the beach is so long. Like go somewhere else. Like it was just so annoying. Like she wasn't bothering us. But it was like, bro. Like it was just weird, right? So that was one and then another one. Like there was another. There was a whole thing. Like someone got proposed to while we were there. Like it. It was so crazy. Meanwhile, me and Mari are there. We're looking like little putas. We have bikinis on with fur coats, mink fur coats. We're giving mob wife 2.0. We are dressed to the nines, looking like we coming straight out of Vogue. And like when I tell you, it was just so. Like the people that were there was just. It was a story for everyone that that was there. And I was telling her, I was like, I feel like there was so much going on, but also nothing at all. Because there was went on the beach. But the people that did come, they left a everlasting impression on us. Like it was just so funny. We were cracking up the whole time. And then there's a se. I had just told her the story about how when I was little, I hate seagulls. Like, I used to be traumatized by seagulls. Cuz I was on the beach when I was little and a seagull came and took a hot dog right out of my hand. Like I was in the middle of eating the hot dog and it just flew and took it right out of my hand. So I was just like, oh my God. Like I was so traumatized from that. And I hated those birds when I was little. Like I was terrified of them. And then I told her, I was like, well, I grew up and I realized, like I could fight back. So. So she was cracking up. I was like, I'm not scared to fight one of these birds, but tell me why. Not even like 20 minutes later, one of those seagulls came and stole her son's little bag of cereal right out of his hand. And I was like, we were crack. Well, we were. We were shooting on top of these rocks. And let me tell you something. The little. The place that we were at had all these little cat. They were like little cactus balls. Like they had these little thorns in them and they hurt so bad. So we had to be careful where we were walking because I had them stuck in my. They were getting stuck to our skin. And I had to like take one out of my. My finger. Like I had one in my leg. Like it was so bad. It was like dodging landmines. Almost like that's how it felt. Because we didn't want to get spiked by these little things or even step on one because oh my God, if you step on one, like it's. It's over with. So once we were on the rocks, it's hard to come down because we need someone to like bring us our shoes because we were like barefoot. So we would need her husband to like bring us our shoes so that we could walk off the rocks. Because if we walk off barefoot, we're gonna get, you know, we're gonna get one of those little things in our feet. So we're on the rock. Like we were shooting and everything. And that's when the whole thing happened with her son and the seagull. So her husband goes, going to come for him, whatever. And then obviously he's a street photographer, right? So he gets like random pictures like that and stuff. He's like going up to him to come for him and then he goes and turns. Next turns to the seagull and just starts taking pictures of the seagull. And we, we were dying laughing. Like I. We caught the whole thing because she had her camera up and you caught the whole reaction to us when we saw the seagull come and take his food to when he was going and started taking pictures of it. Like it was so funny. Like all we did was laugh. We just laughed that whole time. It was, it was such a fun experience. Like I would do it a million times over and I just missed it so much. Cuz, y' all know before I met Joe, I was like, I used to model for one of my friends clothing brands. Like I really wanted to start. I really wanted to pursue and like continue doing modeling and stuff like that. And that was, that was one of the reasons why they hit me up to like do Joe's music video and stuff. Cuz I was already getting into that. I did a lot of other things after I got with Joe and stuff and I had some projects and things like that. But once I, I think once I moved and once I had Vivi, it was just not a priority to me anymore and I just went into like full blown mom mode and I was just a housewife basically and just trying to get our life together here. Like I feel like I definitely, like I put that on the back burner and I wish I didn't because I really do love modeling. I love creating different concepts and like looks and ideas. Like I. It just, it brings me. It's Almost like an adrenaline rush for me. Like, I just. I love it. I really do. And then just waiting to see the pictures and seeing how good they come out. Like, it's just such an experience from start to finish, and it's just so much fun. So it was really nice that she asked me to do, you know, that photo shoot with her. And I was, like, so honored. And it was our first time meeting each other and hanging out. And it was like, if I known her for years, like, I swear it was like. That's why I'm saying, like, she feels like my cousin or like family, because I feel like I. It wasn't awkward. Like, we had. We were eye to eye on so many things. Like, we had a lot of ideas to give each other. And I was like, this is so nice. Like, it was just so nice to meet her and to vibe like that. And then my mom and dad came down from Jersey on Friday, and BB had like, half a day of school, so she was able to hang out with them all day, which was nice. So we threw the BB's emotional world tour birthday party. And it was all, like, emo themed. I had all her friends up in this. Oh, my God. It was. It was a lot. It was a lot. I literally said to myself, I was like, I am never throwing up at the party in my house ever again. Like, I'm not doing that. Not. Not for her to invite all her friends and everything. Like, it was insane. They were coming down here. Like, they were in my basement, in my little. In my studio. I was like, y' all gotta go upstairs. Like, get the but. And then they were going into her room, and I was like, baby, like, can we just leave it to, like, play outside? Play on the trampoline. Go outside. Go ride some bikes. Like, go the outside. They had so much fun. Like, even I had a lot of fun. Like, there was so much. Like, I had so much stuff for them to do. I had brought out. I brought out, like, the huge Jenga, like, the big ones, like, the big block Jengas. I had, like, a little bracelet making station for them. I had their merch bag. So, like, I did merch instead of, like, party favors. I did a little merch station. And they each got a shirt that said Life Show VV's emotional world tour on it. It was really cute. They got candy, they got croc charms. There was little mochis in there. They each got tattoos. Like, we were all tatted up. I still got my tattoo on right now. It says sad. Do y' all see it. I'm gonna zoom in on it. But it says sad. I had another one on my hand that said still emo. But, yeah, everyone was, like, all tatted up, and I was. I don't care. Y' all going home tatted up. Because we all tatted up right now. But it was so, so much fun. And we even play musical chairs. Like, we. If I haven't played musical chairs in years. And whoever was the winner, like, I gave them each, like, $5 and stuff. So it was nice. Like, we had such. It was a really nice time. Bibi was like, this was, like, the best day ever. Like, she was so thankful. She kept, like, hugging me. She was like, mom, this was, like, so good. And then the parents text me the next day, and they were like, these girls, like, they can't stop talking about the party. Like, they had so much fun. And I was like, oh, my God, that makes me so happy, because I will not be throwing another birthday party until she's, like, 15, 16. So whatever she wants to do, I don't think. I don't know if she's gonna want to do, like, a quince. I think. I don't know. I'm probably gonna do the same thing my mom did for me. Like, my mom gave me, my sister, each options. Like, she was like, do you either want to have a sweet 16 or you want to go on a vacation? But, like, the vacation wasn't our choice. Like, it wasn't like, oh, we're going to Mexico, the Bahamas. No, it was like, you're going to Florida with your grandparents. So I was like, no. Like, I don't. I don't want to do. I don't want to do that. Like, I don't want to go to Florida and hang out with my parents for vacation. So I chose to party. My sister went, and she, you know, chose a vacation. But I threw. I wanted a party, so I had. My mom gave me, like, a sweet 16. Like, I said I wanted a sweet 16, so I did a sweet 16. And, oh, my God, that caused so much drama, too, because I didn't have my dad walk me or put my shoe on or anything. Like, my dad was not a part of the C16 at all. And that was, like, the beginning of the end of our relationship. I feel like that was when he was like, I disown you. Like, you're not my daughter anymore. Like, he was so pissed off at the fact that I wanted my stepfather to put my heel my heels on, because, you know, when you Change from, like, your shoes to your heels. You're becoming a woman. Whatever. Whatever. So I wanted Shorty to do it. I was like, no, I want Shorty to do it. Like, you haven't really been there for me, so. Oh, my God. It caused. It was chaos. He had his brother come. Like, my uncle came, and he was, like, taunting everyone outside of my. Outside of the door, and, like, why can't. Why can't I come in? And we're like, you're not invited. Like, it was. It was insane. But that's. That's a story for another day. But. But yeah, so the party was, like, the ultimate success. But when I tell you guys, I had. I had, like, an emotional breakdown, like, the morning of Vivi's birthday. And this was actually the first birthday she's had in a long time that landed on a Saturday. And that was her actual party, because normally her birthday is, like, on the weekday, and then her party's on a weekend. So it's like, during the weekday, you know, it's chill and, like, we celebrate her or whatever. But then the party comes after, and this was. Like, everything was all together. Like, it was her birthday, her actual birthday and the party. And I don't know, I was just like. I woke up, and she had told me she wanted a big spread. Like, she wanted a big fruit spread. Because I was like, what do you want for breakfast tomorrow? Like, I'm gonna. You know, I want to. I want to go in for you. Like, it's your birthday. Whatever you want. And she said she wanted a big spread of fruit. And then she also wanted the ghost pancakes that I make her, and she wanted whipped cream. And I was just like, okay. So I had to wake up in the morning, go to Safeway, get a little fruit tray, and I got, like, everything ready, and then I put, like, her big gift bag on the table, and I brought her these really cute, colorful flowers with the balloons and everything. And so she came downstairs and saw everything, and she ate her breakfast. And while she was eating her breakfast, like, I put her music on, like, her little punk rock music and stuff. And the song from Paramore, the only exception, came on. And I don't know if you ever heard that song, but that song is so just, like, the melody and the. Like, the beat of it, like, the whole. It's. It's gor. It's such a beautiful song. And it made me so emotional that I had to step out, like, because I didn't want her to see me crying. Like, I was hugging her so tight and then I just like started bawling so I had to like go and I went to like my screened in porch and I just started bawling, crying. Like I just could not hold it back anymore. And I was just, oh, I feel like I'm going to cry right now. Cuz I'm just like. It made me so emotional just to look at her and think of the fact that she's 10 years old. I feel like I'm grieving like her baby years and it's such a weird feeling. I don't know, I feel like 10 is just like hitting this invisible milestone. It's like that weird in between where she's not a baby anymore but she's also not a teen yet. You know, she's just like in that middle, I guess she's, she's a little tween. She's a little. She's always going to be my baby in my eyes. But I know that she's growing up, you know, and it's just that in between stage where you see them literally growing right in front of you and I was just thinking like, wow, like motherhood really is like a blur. Like it just feels like a fucking big ass blur. And it's like one minute you're packing snacks and you're picking out their little hair bows and then the next minute everything's changing. Like I feel like I'm going into her room and it's like. Do you know, do you know that that part in Toy Story when he starts growing up and little by little like he had the Buzz Lightyear bedspread and all that stuff and, and he was like taking Woody's place basically. So everything went from Woody to Buzz Lightyear. That's how I feel. Like I feel like everything's going from baby and like pink and unicorns and rainbows to now everything is like she's throwing up Stranger Things posters and Olivia Rodrigo and Sabrina Carpenter and it's like she's becoming a little teen, a little preteen. And that's exactly how I felt like just like if I was watching that Toy Story movie. And that's how I feel with her. Like her little cute lip balms that we used to buy, little Smuckers lip balms are now turning into elf lip oils and lip glosses. And it's just, it's so crazy to see how she's growing literally right before my eyes. She's just becoming so independent and she's just so like she's forming her own little Style. Like, she would always ask me, hey, like, can you help me pick out an outfit? And things like that. And now it's like, she's already picked out an outfit. She's got everything that she wants laid out for what she's gonna wear for school. And I'm like, oh. Like, I'm looking at the fits, and I'm like, oh, my God. Like, this is cute. Like, you put this together. Really cute. And she's forming her own little style, and I'm just like, I'm so impressed. And I'm so. I'm also just so inspired by her. Like, I just. Just the little things that she puts together, I'm like, I wouldn't have thought of that, or it's just really cute. And it's almost like I just. I feel like she's stepping into her own little version of girlhood. And it makes me so proud. And it also just gives me, like, this sense of nostalgia because I remember that. Like, I remember stepping into my girlhood and how. How it makes you feel. It makes you feel independent and strong and confident. And that's what I get from her. Like, I look at her, and that's all I see right now. And I'm sad, like. September 5th, 2025. Wiednan Kennedy for McDonald's. AD ID MCWK047325 a spot title 2025 DD Monopoly. Get your bag. Gcmeng audio 30. 30 seconds radio full mix. Mr. Monopoly here. Monopoly is back at McDonald's. Register in the McDonald's app so you're ready to get your bag. Two ways for a chance to get your bag. Physical peels with select items and digital peels with others. To get your bag, play Monopoly at McDonald's. No purchase necessary. See rolls@playmcd.com for full details and amoe.play@mcd.com to play without purchase. Ends November 23, but bonus plans November 2. Monopoly is a registered trademark of Hasbro. Copyright McDonald's. I realized, like, every little moment, every bedtime story, every little baby shoe, every bow, every mommy. Watch this. Like, all of that is just becoming a memory now. Oh, my God. I told myself that I wouldn't cry on this episode. I'm so sorry, y'. All. I'm. Oh, I'm gonna get my life together, okay? And then I was just thinking, like, I'm. I was just, like, realizing a majority of her childhood is. Has passed. Like, it's 10 years, you know, like, and I'm like, damn, thinking how many summers I have. Like, what the most, like, eight summers until she probably goes to college or heads out of or leaves the house. I don't know. But then also realizing 10 isn't the end of her childhood. It really is just the start of a new, deeper bond for the two of us. And I had to think of it as, like, I'm not losing my baby girl. It's just meeting the incredible young person that I helped shape. And it's like, Felice has healed so much of my inner child without even trying to. Like, every time she just, like, hugs me for no reason or just last night, she was like, mom, like, I want to hang out with you. Like, let's do something at night. And she does that all the time. Like, she always tells me, mom, let's hang out. I want to hang out, like, right before bed and stuff. So that's how we spend our time. Like, every night before bed, I'm hanging out with her, and we're doing things together. We were just playing Pac man last night. And so it's nights like that, and then it's times where I look at her and I'm like, wow, she's so confident in who she is. Like. Like, I feel like I grew up craving the softness and the attentiveness, and I get to give that to her. And it's almost like I'm, like, re parenting myself through it, if that makes sense. And she's just. She's so kind, and she just cares about every single person around her. Like, she loves and cares so deeply for her family. Like, family is everything to her. Like, I feel like I have definitely instilled, like, family means, you know, the world to you, because that's just the dynamic that she's used to. Like, she sees my family and how close we are, and they're so involved with her. Like, so involved. Like, I'm so grateful that she has grandparents who are so involved in her life. Like, I didn't have my grandparents on my dad's side, really. Like, they weren't so involved with me. And, like, the times that I did see them, it was very much just like, I didn't feel like I had much of a connection with them or, like, a relationship with them. Like, I would just see them, and it was like, hi. Hey. Like, we'll catch up. But I never felt like they even tried to have a relationship with me. And on my mom's side, Like, I had a relationship with my grandma. I had a relationship. Well, I still do. I have a relationship with my grandma, and I had A relationship with my grandfather. He passed a couple years ago, but I used to go to their house all the time and everything. And, like, it makes me so happy that, like, she has grandparents that are there for her and, like, know what she likes and, like, actually not just there. Don't just show up just to show up to an event and just to show your face, you know? Like, they actually know her. They know what she likes. They hang out with her. Like, she is constantly asking for my stepfather. Like, she loves Chori so much and. And my mom, like, she will give up anything to, like, hang out with them. Like, she genuinely likes to hang out with them and just be with them. So I think she's a very, very lucky girl, you know, like, she has very involved parents on my side, and, you know, she's got Janet on Joe's side, too, and they all just love her a lot. But, yeah, I'm just, like, grieving the baby years, like, so hardcore. And let me. Let me. Let me tell you something. Like, let me just explain something because I get this so much. People are always like, well, why don't you. Why don you have another one? Like, someone was like, oh, I don't understand why you and Joe never had another one. And it's like, you don't have to understand, period. Like, my uterus has nothing to do with you. I made a decision a long time ago that I didn't want to have another one, and I'm at peace with that. Like, so when people are constantly, like, have another one, or. Or trying to, like, make me feel guilty because I only have one, I feel like society forgets that motherhood is not a one size fits all. September 5, 2025, widen and Kennedy for McDonald's. Ad id mcwk047325 a spot title 2025 dd Monopoly, get your bag. Gcmeng audio 30, 30 seconds radio full mix. Mr. Monopoly here. Monopoly is back at McDonald's. Register in the McDonald's app so you're ready to get your bag. Two ways to peel for a chance to get your bag. Physical peels with select items and digital peels with others. To get your bag, play Monopoly at McDonald's. No purchase necessary. 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It comes from someone deciding, today I'll start. Don't wait for someone else to bring change today. Start your fundraiser in just minutes@gofundme.com that's gofundme.com to start your fundraiser. Gofundme.com this is a commercial message brought to you by GoFundMe. Some of us are truly meant to pour everything into one child. And that's just as valid, that's just as beautiful, and that's just as complete as any version of motherhood. And it doesn't mean that I love my daughter any less or that I'm missing something. Like, I'm confident with our little world as it is. And that's truly just more than enough for me. That is more than enough for me. My daughter is not missing out on anything. She truly is not like, trust me, that girl, the way the attention she gets, the love she gets, the childhood that she's growing up into, where she can just be a child and she's safe. She has a home where she's safe and she's secure and there's not madness going on around her. I'm okay with that. I'm okay with pouring everything into her. So if you're listening right now and you're a one and done two like me and you ever felt guilty for being done, let it go. Let that go. And don't let other people make you feel guilty for the decisions that you're making. When it comes to you and your family and your uterus, you can love where you are and still miss what's passed. Like, two things can coexist. Two things can be true at once. You can feel both peace and you can feel nostalgia. Like, that's what I'm feeling right now. That's what I felt all weekend. And both are real and they're very sacred. Emotions, and it's human. It's normal. Like, there's people who have really huge families, and there's people who have small families. Like, I grew up in a small. Like, it's funny because people are always like, oh, give her another. Give her a sibling, and give her sister and all this stuff. And it's like, I have plenty of siblings. Like, I have, like, all together, six siblings, and I only have a relationship with one one. So it's like, having siblings isn't even a, like, positive thing that you're gonna even grow up and have these relationships with them, you know? So it's like. So it's weird when people, like. Like, push that on to other people, because it's like, I can sit here and say, I have, like, six sims. I don't ask me about any one of them. I don't have a relationship. I don't really know anything about any of them, aside from my sister, because I actually had that relationship with her growing up. But it is what it is. So it's not a guarantee that you're even gonna have all these siblings for your kids. And who knows? Like, I know people in my family. Like, I have aunts that. I have my TIAs that they were beefing. They don't. They weren't talking for, like, mad long. Like, it's this. It's always. It's. It's always something that can happen. Like, it's always some happening. I always just think it's so weird when people, like, shove that down my throat and, like, are constantly, like, have another one. Have another one. Have another one. Like, I'm good. I'm so happy. And also, I don't want to start over. I. I like my life right now. Like, I love the fact that I don't have to worry so much about Vivi. Like, she's pretty much independent. Like, when she goes to my sister's house, like, she knows how to pack her own bag. Like, she knows what she needs. Like. Like, she. That girl. She does. She can do so much on her own right now. And I'm able to, like, really. I was able to, like, really start pouring into me. And, like, I feel like I'm starting to figure out things about me and things that I like and picking up hobbies and. I don't know. It's, like, the perfect balance for all of us, because then I get to be happy and I get to have my cup full, and then I also get to pour into my family and into Vivi. Like, I get to pour so much of myself and so much of, like, what I've always wanted into Vivi, you know? But, yeah, Chismosas, if you are going through this right now, let me know. I know a lot of you that listen are moms, and to one and. And to the ones that aren't, maybe you can relate this to, like, your nieces and your nephews, because I am also really, really close to my niece. Like, I look at my niece, like, my daughter, and you know what's funny? I was an aunt way before I was a mom, you know, Like, I was auntie first, and there's just something about being an auntie that hits so different. Like, and it's a different kind of love from, like, your kids, but also the same. Like, I don't know how to describe it. Like, it's just, like, I look at them and I'm like, I will do anything for them, the same way I would do anything for, you know, for my actual kids. So it's like, I learned so much about being a mom through my niece and, like, actually being a girl mom. Like, I feel like I had time to practice being a girl mom on my niece, and she was always such a diva, even when she was a baby. But having those first experiences with, like, your nieces and nephews is so special. Like, it really is. So if you guys can relate to that, too, girl, I get it. Like, I totally understand. I feel like I have the best of both worlds. Like, I'm able to be an aunt, and my niece calls me, like, her rich auntie. Like, she just is so funny. And me and her have so much in common. Like, we're always going to. To Ulta, and we're going makeup shopping, and I take her to Target, and, you know, we have these little dates, and I'm always with her and be like, if y'. All. If y' all see my Instagram, you know, that I. Those girls are always attached to my hip. Like, they want to do everything with me, and I love it. Like, I would not have my life any other way. I get to watch them grow up together. But then I also know, like, I'm a role model to them, you know? Like, and this is why I do the things I do and I am the way I am because I have these two little ones, girls, like, these girls looking up to me. So I don't ever want to come out of character or do things where they see and they think that it's okay or, you know, like, I don't blast on social media. Or do, you know, Like, I don't ever want them to think that things like that are okay, because I tell them all the time, like, those things are not okay. I genuinely have two girlies looking up to me and following my every move. Like, y' all don't understand. Like, they look at everything I do. And my niece has social media, too, so she sees everything, you know? So, yeah, I hope a lot of you guys can relate to this. I know I had so many people DMing me on Instagram. Like, girl, I feel this. Like, my daughter just turned 10 or my son just turned 10, and it's like. I don't know. It's like, what is it about 10? Like, it's. It's such a wild number to think about. Like, they finally hit that. Those double digits, and we're just, like, fall freaking the out. I have so much more that I want to talk about about motherhood and my relationship with BB But I'm gonna save that for next week because she will be on the podcast next week. I know y' all love y' all some baby. I have not podcasted with my girl in so long. The last time we podcasted was, like, probably, like, four year, three, four years ago, I think, or something. And everyone just, like, felt y' all fell in love with her. Like, she's. She's such a character, and she's still very animated like that, still very much into Stranger Things, so we'll be able to talk about so many things. I think my niece wants to come on, too, but I want to do, like, a solo episode with Vivi, and then maybe I'll do, like, another episode with Ali, too, but they've been dying. They've been like, we want to go on your podcast. Like, I want to go on your podcast. So I'm like, all right, I'm going to give it to them. So you guys will get to. You will get to know the two girlies that literally I share so much of my life with and so much of my time with. Like, I'm with these girls so much more than probably anyone. More than my own husband, honestly. So I'm really, really excited for that. If you guys have any questions for Vivi or you or there's anything that you guys want to know, you guys can email at the CheeseMakeCornerPod gmail.com and send in any of your chisme that you want me to talk about. Oh, speaking of Cheeseman, have y' all saw the girlies going at it on Twitter? Have y' all saw the whole Cardi B and Nicki Minaj thing. Like, I was sitting there like, I couldn't believe I just. Number one. I couldn't believe that the beef sparked up again after like, what, six, seven years? It's like, bro, like, get over. Like, I don't think I could be with someone that long. Like, I just. At that point, I don't even think about you. I honestly feel like it has a lot to do with their fan bases too. Like, they're. Nikki's fan base is like a cult. Like, I, I really do. I'm that person that feels like fan bases are so toxic and they can become like, cult. Like, like, well, where, like, you won't have a. You won't even have a problem with someone, but people like, the fan bases will like, pit you against each other. It's so weird. And I hate that. Like, I would. I could never deal with some like that. I think Nikki is. And listen, let me tell you something. I was a Nikki fan, like, a barb. So I was barbed down. Like, and I know I keep saying was, like, I'm. I'm hoping she could change her ways because I don't know, I do have a soft spot for Nikki because I feel like she's so nostalgic. Like, she's so iconic and legendary. Like, she don't even gotta do nothing. Like, her, her work just speaks for itself. All of her accolades, like, everything that she's ever worked for, she has worked her ass off for and, like, has gotten her to where she is today. Like, I feel like she's one of those people that. It's like, you're always going to be that. Like, what more do you want? Like, you're always going to be the one on top, you know, like, everyone looks at you like that. I think she just is letting get to her head or, like, I don't know what the is going on. Like, where are the people around her? Like, telling her, like, this is not okay. Like, you should not be online spewing hate and just saying disgusting viral things about somebody's child and children. Like, that's disgusting. Like, it's just. It gave me such a bad taste in my mouth and like, this whole beef between them has gone on for so long. But I love Cardi's new album. Like, I was so happy when it came out and I did not think it was going to spark this type of controversy. Like, I think Nikki is really bothered because Cardi really is doing things, doing numbers. And people like Cardi and you know what the thing about Cardi is that she's relatable. Like, so many people love her because she's relatable and she's funny and she talks about her life in a way where it's like, it's my life, so, like, I'm gonna. I gotta deal with it. Like, it is what it is. Like, that's her attitude and she's hilarious. Like, she's just funny and she's just a very down to earth chill. And that's what people like. Like, she's so New York, but she's also just very relatable to a lot of people. I feel like Nikki gets a little intimidated sometimes and it's like, she doesn't need to be. Like, I think they're in two totally different. They're two totally different types of artists, you know, like, they're two very different rappers. Like, there's space for both of them. Like, there's clearly a fan base for both of them. So the fact that they're still arguing after all this time is like really crazy to me. You know, the whole talking about each other's kids and like, she started getting really dark and I just felt so, like, ashamed. Like, I was like, this is where we come to, like, as women and as two very known women in the industry that both are so successful and have done so much and I don't know, it just made me really sad. Like, I rocked with both of them for so long. Nikki, I don't know, I feel like I just been like, whatever about her. I love Cardi. I've always really loved Cardi. I feel like I can. Like I said, like, she's very relatable and I just, I love Cardi. Like, I just love her. It would make me so happy if they could just stop the. And just collab. Like, imagine them like coming out on a song together or just collabing and like doing something together. Like, it would be so dope. But it's like, nah, they. They gotta let all this dumb get in the way and it's just so annoying. But. But sometimes I feel like Nicki Minaj talks and I don't know what the she's talking about. Like, I don't really. I feel like she talks in like another language that only her fan base understands sometimes. And I'm like, I don't. I don't know what she's talking about. And this is. I don't want. Like, this is not shade to Nikki. Like, I'm telling you, I grew up A barb, like, but it's just obviously I can like her music and still listen to her and. And like, not. Not like the things that she does online and the. That she says, like, it's just. It's really weird. Y' all gotta let me know what you think about that whole situation. I know it happened last week and it's. It was a little crazy, but let me know, y' all cheese man on that. Okay, guess what time it is. It's Chisme Confessions time. First and foremost, I want to congratulate you on the Chisme corner. I've been a Day one supporter, and so here for this new chapter. This is a long one, so let me tell you about my fake friend story. We'll call her C. C and I were tight from middle school all the way through high school. After graduation, we drifted, but we always kept in touch through Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, all of it. My mom even loved her. Now my kid's father will call him Ace. He also has C on all his socials. At first, I brushed it off because we all went to school together and had mutual friends. But looking back, that was red flag number one. Fast forward to 2021. About a year before Ace and I officially broke up. Things between us were already really bad. One day I decided to check his Facebook messages and boom. Among multiple other women, there was my friend, quote unquote, C. So I immediately went to their conversation and scrolled all the way back and saw their messages went as far back as 2014-2016. Mind you, I had my first daughter with ACE in 2016, and what do I see? Them literally talking about me. Ace was saying he didn't want me to keep the pregnancy. And see, this so called friend was laughing and agreeing with him, like, are you me? And the whole time, C was acting like my biggest supporter on the outside. She never missed my Instagram stories. She would comment on anything I posted about him. And when Ace and I got engaged, she even congratulated me, all while secretly stabbing me in the back. It gets worse. I eventually found out she was pregnant around the same time I was. And then she named her daughter the exact same name as mine, same spelling and everything. Like, who does that Ace named our daughter? I didn't. When I confronted Ace about all of it, he swore it was nothing, quote unquote quote. He said they never had sex, but admitted that she went down on him once when he gave her a ride home from work back in the day, quote unquote like, I'M really supposed to believe that at all. So, yeah, C has been blocked for years now, Ace. Unfortunately, I can't block because we co parent. And honestly, that's the part people don't talk about enough. What it's like trying to heal from someone while also having to raise kids with them. It's exhausting. Especially as I have a ton more crazy stories. Oh, my God. Well, first of all, ain't that's how I feel about this story and the guy, too. He ain't either. But you are right. I think a lot of people really don't talk about healing from someone while also trying to raise kids with them. Like, that's got to be the hardest thing ever, because I feel like even when if I met at Joe, even if we had an argument or anything, like. Like, it is so hard for me to even, like, go on and, like, have conversations with him about Vivi or anything like that, like, while I'm mad at him. And that's not even that I'm like, not with him. Like, that's just me being mad at him, you know? So it's just like, I don't even want to look at you. I don't even want to talk to you. Like, it's like that type. So I can't even imagine. Like, I really can't imagine. And then also, like, you kind of got backstabbed, like, twice. Like, you got backstabbed by your partner who I'm sure you thought you were gonna be with for, oh, you know, maybe the rest of your life for a long time. And then this girl that said that she was your friend, like, really sucks when you have friends that you grew up with and then they turn out to be, like, a total piece of or they do things to you that's like, I would never do that to you. Like, what the are you thinking? I know you say that you guys, like, drifted a little bit, but you guys also kept in touch through social media and things like that, which is kind of like, I think that's how a lot of friendships are now. Like, I think I have so many people on Instagram and Facebook and stuff that I keep up with people on there. It's just so much easier. I don't really text or call everyone. Like, I think people really do a majority of their communication on social media, which is crazy to think about. But also, like, I want to know what made you decide to, like, check his Facebook messages randomly? Like, I don't know. I just feel like you set yourself up when you do like, that, especially because y' all will. Y' all were already broken up and things like that. So at that point, I just wouldn't even want to check anything. Like, I would just, like, I would just spare my own feelings. It's like, at that point, I wouldn't have even wanted to know that he was around With. With your friend. With my friend. Like, I just. I. I don't even want to know. Like, if we're broken up, whatever. I. I don't want to know. Like, what I don't know will not kill me because, honestly, this just added to your hurt. I feel like this whole story just sucks. There's, like, there's so many layers to this, because in my mind, I'm like, if she didn't text, if she didn't check. If you didn't check the Facebook messages, it would have spared your feelings. Like, you wouldn't have gone through all this, but then you also wouldn't have known how shady of a friend C is. So I'm kind of glad you did, but this was shitty all around, and I'm really sorry that this happened to you. So C got pregnant around the same time that you were. And is it his daughter? Like, I want to know if this is his daughter, because you didn't really specify if that was his daughter. I don't know, girl. I'm glad she is blocked. You don't need that or any of her energy in your life, Ace. Unfortunately, yeah, you cannot block him from your life, but the best thing you can do is just try and have an amicable relationship with him. Like, this man is not your problem anymore, and you're blessed. Think of it like that. Like, you are blessed that you found all of this out, because imagine if you did it, and then who knows if you guys would have been broken up, and then maybe you would have taken him back or you guys would have tried to work things out. Like, so at the end of the day, it is a good thing that, you know, you did read those Facebook messages. So you know what? I'm here for it. I'm here for it. Let me know if any of you guys have gone through your significant other's Facebook messages, dms, anything like that. And if you ever found some really crazy in there, let me know. Email us. She's my cornerpod Gmail dot com. And we will be back with a lot more Cheeseman confessions. Hopefully. I got some juicy ones in here, girl. But. Okay, guys, that's a wrap on today's Chisme, but don't Let the conversation stop here. Let's keep it going. Make sure to subscribe on our YouTube where you get to watch the podcast every Thursday. Leave a review and follow me on my socials at. Beautify me until next time. Take care of yourselves and remember, there's always room for more Chisme here at the chisme corner. Bye, September 5th, 2025, widen and Kennedy for McDonald's ad id MCWK047325 a spot title 2025 dd Monopoly get your bag gcmeng audio 30/32 radio full mix Mr. Monopoly here. Monopoly is back at McDonald's. Register in the McDonald's app so you're ready to get your bag. 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