← The Chisme Corner with Vee Rivera
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Hello, Cheese Mosas. Welcome back to the Cheesemake Corner. I'm letting y' all know right now, I have no video for this because I got out of therapy today, and my face is so swollen. Like, I've just been. I've been crying. I feel like therapy is so good. It's been so amazing. I love therapy. I recommend it. 100 for you personally, your relationship, anything, anything. Therapy really helps, especially when they take your insurance. Like, finally found a therapist that takes the insurance that we have. And it's a blessing because, yeah, therapy can be a lot. But I swear, like, I feel. It's like, I feel lighter, but I also feel heavier at the same time. And I had a session today, and I just been going through it, I think, just, like, mentally and just with, like, my career mostly and, like, what I want to do. Like, you ever just look at your life and you're like, what do I. Where do I see myself in a year? Where do I see myself in two years? Where I see myself doing in five years? Like, is this what I want to be doing? Or do I want to elevate? Like, do I want to try something else? Like, I think it's so normal for us to have all those questions. And we are in the year of the fire horse. And I think I. I'm pretty sure I talked about this in the beginning of the year. Like, in January, where there were so many changes and so many things happening and everything was feeling a lot better. Like, I felt more aligned and I Was like, okay, I know where I'm going and I know where I'm taking this, but I feel like I've been pushed back again and I hate that feeling. But know I'm a Virgo, so I'm very, I feel like I'm not 100% like type A, but I'm very much like I have a lot of type A traits. I feel like slowly over the years I've been more lenient and I've been a little more carefree and I'm like, you know what, let me just go with the flow and see like where life takes me, whatever. But at my core I'm a planner, I'm an organizer. I'm someone who likes to have a plan. I'm someone who likes to know what my life is going to look like and like what I'm going to be doing. Like I feel like it just, I was talking to my therapist about it and I was just like she, because she was asking me, she's like, have you been like this, is this how you are? Like is this your characteristic trait? Like is this who you are? And she was like 100%, I get it. And she was like, you just kind of have been like surviving in that mode your whole life. So. Yeah, when you're not in that mode or you feel like you, you're not on Go Go go. Because right now I feel like I'm at like I feel like I'm at a standstill or like I'm just not. I don't want to say I'm not happy but obviously I'm just like I feel like I want more. Like I want, yeah, my whole purpose. I feel like I don't ever want to lose my purpose in life and like what I want to do and I feel like my purpose right now is not exactly what I feel like I'm fulfilling. It's not something that I like feel confident about. And I told her, she was like, what do you feel like your purpose is like in life? Like what do like that looks like to you? And I love when she asks questions. Cuz I like I feel like people, you don't get asked questions about yourself and your personality enough and sometimes it's better when you hear these questions cuz you start to dig deeper within yourself and you start to really understand yourself more and like the changes you need to make and you know just how to grow. So I was just telling her like okay, like I feel like even at a very young age I always just like to uplift other people around me. Like, I love seeing people happy. Like I really do. I love to be happy. And in the space that I created, I feel like I just always want women to feel inspired. Like, inspired to be their best selves and to feel confident and to know that like you're not alone in feel in doing those things. And like it's okay to be a mom and then still crave all these other things to still want a career. I still want to do things for yourself. Like I, honestly, when I first started my Instagram, I feel like that fulfilled my purpose so much. Cuz I was going through so much. Like I was, I had postpartum like a, I had no friends, I had nobody, like nobody real around me to just like really form a connection with that could understand me on that level. So I felt very alone and creating this community and like having women be like, I see you and I feel you and I'm going through the same thing. Like that really uplifted me and it helped me in more ways than anyone can ever imagine. And that's why I've kept this, this community for so long. And I've tried. I always just try to like literally just feed its soul and like make it feel good and, and comforting and a safe split. A safe. I just always want to create a safe space for women. That's just, I, that's my purpose. Like, that's what I told her. I said I feel like my purpose is just to make people feel good because I've been in the other side where I don't feel good about myself or I feel these things and I feel lost. Lost is life and I lose my purpose and I don't know what I'm here for. Like what the am I doing, you know? And I feel like it really like I want to help other women not feel that way because I don't ever want to feel that way, you know, and it's the ebbs and flows of life. But this is the first time that I felt it really deeply. And I'm like, I just want to be doing more, you know, more outside of social media. I want to make deep connections with women. And so I'm, I'm working on something right now where I can still implement my social media and I don't have to abandon my social media completely and my community and everything that I've created so far, but, but still fulfill what I actually want to do. But I, you know, I was just opening up there and telling her everything that I feel like sometimes I'M scared to do, and I'm scared to take the jump because you don't. I don't. It's not a plan for me, you know, Like, I don't have a plan. Like, I don't know what's gonna happen. And you know what she told me? She was like, you know, you're in a. A point in your life where you're recalibrating. You know, like, think of it like that. Like, it's not comfortable. It's. It's annoying. Like, it's. It's. You know, you gotta make tweaks and changes and. But that's life like this. It's gonna happen every so often, you know, but this is your state of. You're just recalibrating. And maybe this isn't the time for you to be go, go, go. Maybe this is the time for you to just sit back and take it all in and kind of let go of that. Oh, I need to have a plan, and I need to know what's going on in five years and let go of that a little bit. Let go of that control and let. Let some of the answers come to me for once. Like, let some of those. Those creative juices or those answers just come to find me. Because she told me, she was like, you've been in this space before, right? And you've gone through it, right? Like, just let things happen sometimes. Like, let it happen to you because it's happening for you as well. And she brought up that, you know, she knows someone and. And they go running, like, five miles every day. And it's. To get out of, you know, the hustle and bustle and to get out of that space where she's just, you know, thinking about work all the time and things like that. And she asked her, she said, on your run, when you're running those five miles, do you know what. What kind of flower. What kind of flowers are you seeing? Like, what. What's on the trail? And she couldn't tell her. She didn't know. She was like, I don't know. I'm just like. So you're just running with. No, you're just running to run and then end it, and that's it. Like, you're not enjoying the path, you're not taking in the nature, you're not taking in the journey. Like, everything that's around you. And that really got to me. And I was just like, wow. Like, I feel like that is the story of my life sometimes. Like, I don't stop to smell the Roses. I don't stop to see the flowers. I don't stop. And as much as I try to, like, I, I. I'm. I try to enjoy life as much as I can and, and have new hobbies. And sometimes when you're just on Go, go, go, like, you're just tunnel vision. And that's what she told me. She's like, you're just tunnel vision, and you're not seeing the bigger picture. You know, there's so many other things, like, so many other stops along the way that you could be making and watching and growing from. And, you know, like, that will help you rather than you just running, running, running towards a destination that you don't even know where you're running to. And I was just like, yeah, that's. That makes a lot of sense. Like, you know, it's okay. It's. It's like almost like I was given permission to just slow. And she was like, you know what? You'd be surprised how many people are going through what you're going through right now, you know, career changes or just feeling like, what is my purpose? And she's like, just know, like, you're not alone. I just also started talking about when I get in that headspace, I do get. I get very, like, in a shell. Like, so I'm like a shell of myself. And I don't want to communicate with anybody. I don't want to jump on stories. I don't want to talk to anybody. I don't want to be on social media. I want. I kind of just want to get through it myself and get my thoughts on together myself before I even talk to anyone. So in doing that, I kind of. My partner suffers like Joe suffers because he knows something's going on with me, you know, but in his mind, he's like, what am I doing wrong? What am I. Am I doing anything? Like. And then he's trying to talk to me and be there for me, and I'm pushing him away. Like, I'm not letting him, you know, Like, I'm just like, no. Like, let me figure this out on my own. Like, and that's not what that should be. And she's like, you have to let him in. You have to let people in. And I told her, I'm like, it's hard for me because I feel like when you've been betrayed by somebody or even if you've been through things, like, people like, you don't trust people, like, you've been through so many situations where you just can't trust people anymore. You. It really affects your whole mentality, like, your whole way of life. Like, even the people who never done anything to you, who are there for you all the time. Like, my husband, he's. There's never been a time where I've needed him, and he's not been there and he's not helped me, you know, But I push people away, and I just don't know how to not be like that. And I told her, I said, it's so hard for me to. When I go through something because it affects every area of my life. It affects me personally, affects me, like, how I show up for people. I even told her, I said, I have serious mom guilt right now because I feel like I'm just nagging. Bibi nagging, baby, you did this and did it, like. And I can see in her face that she's just like, this isn't how she is, you know, like, this isn't mom. I feel like I'm snappy and I'm like, being literally like a. And I'm just like. I told her. I'm like, I have such mom guilt over that because it really does show up in every. I. It up my mood, it up my appetite, it up everything, like. And I don't know how to not be like that. Like, how do you stop letting one little. One thing, one aspect of your life that's like, stressing you out, not affect everything else? Like, I don't know how people can, like, compart. What is it like, compartmentalize, basically. Like, it shows up for me in every way. And I told her also, I was like, you know, it's hard for me also because I'm someone that, like, when I talk about things, like, if I talk about things to Joe, he's a fixer. And I think so many people can relate to this, at least. I know a lot of people in relationships have said, like, they're. Your partner just wants to help you, you know, and it's not. They're not doing anything wrong. But his thing to anything is like, the minute I been to him or saying it's like, okay, I'm gonna help you. I'm gonna do this for you. What do you need? And I'm just like, sometimes that's very overwhelming for me, and I don't need the help. You know something? I don't want you to fix my problems. I just want you to listen. And I just want to cry, and I just want to vent, and I just want to hug you. And that's it. She was like, that's so understandable. You know? Like, you just want to be heard. You don't want to have someone fix your problems right then and there. And she was like, so. Because some. Because, like, I will go a day. I will go, like, 24 hours, even, like, two days, where I'm just, like, not really talking. Like, I'm just, like, in my zone. Like, I don't know how to explain it. It's so weird. Like, I'll just, like, shut the world out, bro. And it's not normal. It's not healthy, you know? And it's not making my husband feel any better. It's not making anyone around me feel any better. And it's weird because, like, I don't do it with Vivi. I think it's because I know she needs. We're her parents, so she depends on us. But I know Job doesn't depend on me for, like, that. Like, he's not a child. I don't have to, like, take care of him. But Vivi, I have to. I have to show up for her, and I have to do these things. And so it's like, I can. I can, like, put on a brave face for that and, like, do what I have to do and be good and take her to cheer and take her and all these things. But then, you know, like, I don't want to talk to Joe about it, because I don't. I don't want the help. I just want to have my thoughts and not have someone else's thoughts. And then it overwhelmed me, or I just be, like, even more confused. You know, we made it a thing where, like, now he's not like, I'm just. I can just go up to him, and the cue will be like, I'm just gonna, like, hug him. Like, just hug him. And he knows. Okay, she doesn't want to talk right now. She doesn't want to talk about this. She just wants my emo. Like, she just needs that emotional connection. That's what she needs right now. And when I'm ready to talk, I will come to him and talk also. Still, like, reassuring him, like, you didn't do anything wrong. You're like, it's nothing that you've done wrong or anything. But I don't want a plan right in place right now. I don't want. You know, I don't want you to save me right now or, like, to have to think. You have to go out of your way to do these like this for me. And it's Like, I just want to be held right now. I just want to be hugged on. And I was like, wow. I was like. I didn't really think about it like that, but I'm like, yeah, that is what I need. Like, that's. That's kind of why I hold back sometimes. And I don't talk to people, and. Because people are always so easy to, like. It's not even just him. It's like, so I don't. Everyone's like, oh, well, you need to do this. And it's like, I don't. I don't want to hear that, because I just want to vent about it. I just want to, like. I just want someone to be like, you know what, girl? You're gonna be all right. You're gonna be fine. You. I got you. Like, that's it. So, yeah, these past few days, that's where I've been. Like, I've just kind of been cooped up, and I've been, like, in a little shell and trying to, like, write everything down. Like, every thought that's come to me about, like, what I want, what I see myself, what my purpose is, like, what I want to leave for my daughter, like, what I want to. What I want her to see me accomplish and, like, things like that. And. And like I said before, I'm not. I don't want people to be. To think I'm just gonna, like, come delete my. All my socials, and you're never gonna hear from me again. That's. That's not how that's ever gonna work. But I think just intertwining everything in a way where it's comfortable for me, and I can do both. Where I'm going right now, I'm really excited, and I feel like it's gonna fulfill me in more ways than I can imagine. And I will still be here for you guys, and you will still hear from me, and I still want to pour into this community as much of you as you guys have poured into me. Like, I never take it for granted, and I never. I never not notice. I never not notice the messages and the DMS and everything. And. But, you know, on a positive note, I think one of the things that I've learned, especially this year, like, in the past couple years, is just to still enjoy my life when I'm going through the hard times. Even though my problems do affect me and it causes me to, like, kind of shut down a little bit, I still try to do things that I enjoy. You know, like, I have my little Hobbies, and I do my things, and I want to go out and try something new. So I do. I try to just make it a priority to not live in that hard time and, like, still. Still enjoy life to the fullest because we only have one life, and it's. It seems like it's just flying by and problems are always going to be there. They're never going to not be there. We're. I'm constantly. When I think I got one thing figured out, there's another problem that comes up, and that's life. Like, that is a constant. Problems are always be there. I can't let that steal my joy, and I can't let that steal the good moments and the good times from me. But I feel like this time of my life has really forced me to, like, outgrow older versions of myself. And I can't stop myself from growing. Like, I have to outgrow these versions of myself because there is something bigger at the end of it. And I keep telling myself that because I can feel it. I don't know, it's like an. I don't know if it's like an intuition thing or what. Like. But every time I do feel this feeling, I have something greater waiting for me or I have better things aligned for me, and I can feel it in my soul. Like, genuinely, like, feels fully connected to myself and everything around me and everyone around me. And I feel like that's where I'm getting to, you know, like, there's. And so I keep reminding myself there's something bigger than this. And then I saw this quote, and I love that. Now, my Instagram, I've. I interact with a lot of things that make me feel good and speak positivity into me because I need that. Like, that's. That's where I'm at right now, and I need that more than ever. So that's the type of content I'm engaging with a lot more. And I saw this quote, and it says, the energy you surround yourself with, the people you allow access to you, and the environments you linger in will indefinitely determine the way you experience and perceive life. It is your responsibility to constantly evaluate whether your surroundings are inspiring you to become a better person or requiring you to dim your light. And I read it, and I was just like, oh, t. Like, that is so true. Because the way I'm experiencing life and the things that I'm thinking about now that I forced myself to, like, grow out of certain situations and environments, like, it's not something I was thinking about. A couple years ago, five years ago, like, thinking about my purpose and, like, how I want to show up in the world is not something I was thinking about now. That's how I'm, like, perceiving the world and perceiving everything around me is like, I just want to. I want to feel good, and I want to make other people feel good. Like, I don't want to leave, like, negativity in this world, and, like, we have so much of that already. I don't want to be someone that's associated with that. I truly want to, like, live a life where I feel like I'm making a difference or I'm helping people. And I don't know, maybe I. Maybe I wasn't. I wasn't thinking about those things before, but it is something that I think about now. And it could be an age thing. It could be so. It's so many different factors, but it definitely is, like, the environment that I'm in now and all the people that I surround myself with and having the mentality and being around people who just constantly want to better themselves has helped me in trying to better myself. I have realized that I've been stuck in a lot of patterns and a lot of cycles, and I've been making excuses for myself and being like, oh, like, that's just me. That's how I am. I'm never gonna change. Like, that's my character. That's my. No, like, that's an excuse. So having to, like, really come to terms with that is hard. Like, it's like you're looking at yourself in a mirror. And a lot on. Honestly, the people who are around you and people, your friends, everyone, like, who you surround yourself with, that's like a reflection of you. Oh, my God. And then I looked at my horoscope, and this is what it said. It said, the quote, unquote ride you are on with a new venture might be tumultuous at times. Virgo. That's probably not what you wanted to hear, because you would much prefer a far smoother, more predictable experience, too on point. Even so, there is so much you can enjoy about what is to come, and so much you can gain from it. You can gain wisdom, insight, and the joy of eventual success as you wind your way through this emotional experience. Do not deprive yourself of that. Let yourself feel it. Like, that was literally what I was feeling yesterday to a T. Like, I was like, I have to let myself feel this. I have to let myself go through this, through these emotions, like, whatever it is that I'm feeling. And I told my therapist, I was like. I just. She was like, how do you feel? Like, how do you feel right now? And I was like, I feel lost. Like, I just feel lost. And so when I saw that, I was just like, you know what? I have to. Let me just feel it. I have to let myself feel it, you know? And she kind of, like, validated that for me today. So sorry if this was, like, a huge rant on, like, therapy and stuff, but when I go through these things, I just feel like I'm not the only one. Like, I feel like there's probably so many other people that are going through it, too, and, like, need that reassurance of, like, you're not alone. I definitely need that right now. But also, if you guys don't see me as. As active on social media, I would say this weekend or even going into next week. You know why? Because I'm just. I'm just focusing on myself, and I know things will work out in the end. I know it because I'm someone that, no matter what it takes, I'm gonna go get it. You know? Like, I. If it. If I know that is what is going to make me happier, better, like, more fulfilled. I'm going to go after it no matter what. But, yeah, I think I'm. I'm a little overwhelmed today, especially after the session. My mind is going, like, million miles a minute. And, you know, the mom guilt has really been eating my ass. Like, it's been eating me alive. And I know I'm not doing anything wrong. Like, I'm gonna give you guys, like, two examples because. And they're not even huge things, but this is how I know I'm in. But, like, with the mindset I'm in, little. The littlest things are setting me off, trying to teach baby responsibility and not forgetting things. And I'm telling you, that girl. I don't know if y' all let me know if this is a kid thing, but her memory is, like, shot. Like, she. She does not. She forgets things a lot. I can tell her something, and she'll just, like, forget it the next minute. Like. And I'm like, I don't know if she just got ADH ADHD like me, and we just. It's just. You know, a diva has distractions. That's what I like to call it now. A diva has distractions. That's our adhd. And she's a. She definitely is a diva, and she gets distracted very easily. So I was like, I don't know if it's just that or what, but, like, I tell her all the time, like, you know, you gotta put. She has a closet where she needs to put her shoes away. I. The one thing I hate is walking into a room and there's, like, shoes scattered on the floor. First of all, that's a safety hazard. If I come up in here and I break my neck because I trip on one of your little Crocs, like, I'm going to be very upset. But also, like, it's just. It's sloppy. Like, you know, like, just put your shoes where they go. I feel like it's simple things, you know, And I. I struggle between, like, knowing, like, she's a kid, like, she's 10 years old, but also she needs to have. Like, she needs to have us guide her to become a responsible adult. Like, I'm not just raising a child here that's going to be a child for the rest of their lives. Like, I'm raising someone to be an adult in the real world and someone who's going to be living on their own in the future. And, you know, you may have a spouse. Like, if you have a boyfriend or girlfriend, you'll be living with them. Like, you know, like, clean up after yourself. Like, that's it. I will say, baby is a little. She's not. She's. Okay. She does not mind clutter, and I'm very opposite, but I try and keep that in mind. Like, the clutter. The things that are cluttered to me sometimes are not the same clutter to other people. So I. I genuinely understand that. But, yeah, the. The whole shoes on the floor. Like, I was like, girl, you got. You got what? Four pairs of shoes on this floor? Like, if you don't get this in the closet. And then what else happened? Like, she lost her earrings. So, like, we had this whole thing where I bought her these hello Kitty earrings for Christmas, and she lost that pair. We don't know what happened to it. And I was like, you know what? She was very. She was very distraught that time. And I can tell the difference of when Vivi loses something, and she's like. Like, this is my fault. Like, I'm. I lost it. Like, I know I put it somewhere. I. Like, I had it, and I wasn't like, it's on me. Like, because she won't say anything. She'll just have that. That look, and it's like. Like, that guilty face, you know? But this. She was genuinely, like, distraught over it. Like, she would. Those are she was like, oh, my God, those are my favorite pair of. Of. Of earrings. Like, I don't know what happened. Like, I had them at the gym, and like, now I can't find them and all this. So she was very distraught and bad because I was just like, okay. Like, this wasn't like, when we lose things, and it's like, okay. Like, I know I should have been more responsible. Like, she genuinely was like, I don't know where. Like, what happened to them? So I felt really bad, and I bought her another pair. And I was like, I'm not gonna buy another pair if you lose these ones. Like, I'm not doing it. These are the last pair of these hello, kitties that you're gonna get. I got them on Amazon. But still, that's not the point. I was like, you need to be responsible with your things. Like, you know, I'm not gonna just. You lose something. I'm not gonna buy it for you again just because, you know, I have the money to. I'm not gonna do that. It's. It's like, oops, Consequences of your own actions, you know? Like, you lose something, you're not responsible with it. Like, that's on you. Boo. So that's kind of how I function. But then it's also hard because I have my other. That other side of me that's like, well, she's 10 years old, dude. Like, she's gonna lose, you know? Like. But it's like, where is the line? Like, where do I draw that line where it's like, this is becoming, like, a little ridiculous? I don't want to raise her to be irresponsible. I don't want her to be lazy. I don't want her to be like, there's so many things that I'm just. I think about when it goes to my parenting. And my therapist was like, you know what? She's like, you. I can say you're a very intentional parent. Like, you can tell. You guys are just intentional parents. Imperfect, but intentional. And I was like, yes, that's exactly what it is. Like, I know I'm not perfect, but I try my best to be intentional when I parent. And then also today, I'm going to pack her lunch and notice I can't find her lunchbox. And usually she'll bring it down and she unpacks it when she gets home and puts it back in the closet so that we can make. I can make her lunch or Joe makes her lunch, whoever it is. That day I couldn't find it So I go upstairs. I'm like, maybe she left it in her room by mistake. She forgot to put it in the closet. So I look for. I can go in her room, don't find it. And I'm like, baby, where's your lunchbox? She's like, she stays quiet for me. How long? I'm like, you left it at school, didn't you? Mm, I think I left it at school. Okay, so now you're gonna have school lunch, you know, like, she was like, oh, well, I have. I have my old lunchbox you can use. I said, nope, I'm not packing you a lunch today. You bring your lunchbox every day, you know, like, you weren't responsible for your lunchbox. And we've been having these back to back to back. Like, it's not like this is a one off thing. You know? Like, there have been times where this has happened. So I'm like, no. Whenever you decide to leave your lunch at school the next day, you're gonna have to just settle for school lunch. Whatever they're giving you. You're not starving, you're not doing. But these are. This is what happens, you know, like, in the real world. If I leave my lunchbox at home, I'm. I'm not even eating. I was like, I'm not gonna have you bring another lunchbox to school. Well, so you can leave that one too. And then you got two lunch boxes that are. That are lost. No. So I was like, you bring the other one back from back home, and then I'll pack you your lunch tomorrow. And I think that was a fair. I think that's fair. I think that was more than fair. But I also feel like, because so many things have been happening back to back, and I've just been in this space. I'm just like, I feel like a complete. And I feel like I'm nagging. And I feel like. And that's not the relationship we have. Like, I feel like she's just probably sick of me. And it's like, whatever, because I'm the parent, but still. Like, I know in the back of my mind, I'm like, I'm going through something, and I feel like I'm. Maybe I am making these issues bigger than it is. I don't know. But I just feel bad because I can see in her face, like, when she's, like, upset or she feels like she's upsetting me or she's disappointing me, and I don't ever want her to feel that way, you know, but it's Also like, damn, girl, just pick up these shoes. Like, just don't forget your lunchbox. I find these Damn earrings. Like, 30 earrings, girl. Yeah, I don't know. I just been. And I told. I was like, I had the biggest. Like, I just have such mom guilt, and that happens to me so much, and it eats me up alive. Like, I just want to, like, grab her and be like, I'm sorry. I'm sorry that I'm being so, like, crazy about all these things, but I don't know. I feel like. I think I'm gonna go when she goes to. I have to drop her off to cheer practice today, and I think I'm gonna go to five below and get, like, a. A little, like, I think I'm just gonna get, like, a dry erase, nice marker board, and write down all the things that we've been having issues with. Like, so. The pudding, like, and just make it into, like, a chore list for her to go over every day, because it's not anything crazy. They're literally gonna take, like, five seconds out of her day. So, like, in the morning, like, make sure you floss, you know? Like, that's something that I constantly have to be on top of her every day and then just put in also, like, make sure, like, your shoes are put away. Make sure you put the. Your lunchbox in the thing. Like, you know, like, these little things. Because I feel like if she sees it, she'll read it, and she knows it's there, and she can't say, like, okay, I didn't. Out of sight, out of mind, you know? Because I understand that sometimes if I don't see things or if I'm not, like, thinking about it, I'm not gonna do it, you know? But for me, I'm like, this is gonna be a way that she can see it, and every day you go over it and check it off, and if you're good, you do everything fine. Like, you're good. So she'll be able to stay on track like that, and we hopefully won't have these same issues occurring over and over. Like, hopefully the. The. The board will help with all of those things. And I'm like, I only got one kid. I can't imagine, like, how the. How the. Do people do this with, like, multiple kids? Like, I'm just. I don't want to do this. It makes me not have the energy to do anything, like, at all. Anything at all. Like, I haven't been wanting to cook this week. I haven't been. And then I Don't like ordering out during the week. Like, we cook. Me and Joe, like, I cook Mondays, Wednesdays, and then he cooks Tuesdays, Thursdays, and then Fridays we order out. Saturday we'll just cook whatever we have. Like, if we have leftovers or if we have Stu already, you know, in our deep freezer. Like, we'll make pizzas, we'll make like, whatever, like, throughout the week day. Like, I do not want to eat out. Like, I, like, I want cooked me. I want them to have cooked food, cooked meals throughout, you know, because this is when they're having school and they have activities outside of of of school and all this stuff. So it's like, you want a home cooked meal and I want a home cooked meal, so we stick to that schedule. But I literally text. I was like, I'm not cooking today. Like, I'm just gonna. I do not have it in me. And he was like, say no more. Don't worry about it. I'm gonna. I'm gonna get Chick fil a for us. He bought like a 30 pack, like the huge thing of nuggets and everything. And I was just like, oh, it's important to have a partner who. And I don't even like to call it picking up the slack because there's always going to be. There's never. I don't think anything is ever 50, 50. I think you're always gonna put in what you feel is 100 of what you can put in at that time. Like, and that was the only thing I could give at that time. Like, I'm like, I can. I can order something that's about as good as I can do right now. I'm not. I feel I'm not. I'm not cooking. There's going to be times where I show up at 10 and he's got to be on 90, and there's an invite versa. And we understand that about each other and we don't let it build resentment or, you know, we don't let it affect us or be mad at the other person and that. Like, you know, you build that in your relationship and stuff. But I'm glad, like, I don't have to worry about stuff like that. But so it does make the load feel a little easier. Yeah, that's just. I guess that's a little life update. I'm gonna. I mean, I. I hope anyone can relate to this and just know, like, don't let the bad days or the bad moments or the bad seasons in your life, because this is just a season and that's what my therapist told me. This is a season. Don't let that affect and take your joy and, you know, stop and smell the roses and look at the flowers. There's something bigger at the end of this. There has to be. Like, there. There's something bigger at the end of this. And I know it's hard, like, oh, my God, we got so much going on in the world. They've been talking about Ebola. This vibe is breaking out. And we got this. The. The hantavirus. But this cruise, like, I. I feel like I get rage baited so easily on the Internet, too. And, like, on social media. Like, girl, I'd be so worried. I'd be in here. I'd be here just breaking out in hives. Like, that's how. That's how deep I be, like, stressed over the. That goes on in this world. There is so much. It is so much. And just know, like, one day at a time. Like, we gotta just take this one day at a time, bro. And not let it break you. Don't let it break you. I'm keeping hope over here, but, yeah, I might be a little. I might be a little in my shell. Don't worry about me. Just know that's my Virgo ass doing my Virgo things. But thank you guys for listening. I hope you guys enjoy your weekend. It is Labor Day weekend. The weather's gonna be terrible here, but I hope you guys enjoy. And I'll see you guys next week. Bye.
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