Alison Gill (50:03)
Ah, thank you for that submission. Oh, all right. Our final submission comes from anonymous pronouns he and him. And we have a content warning and a trigger warning for mentioning self harm. But this is a hopeful contribution. So this says, Dear Beans Queens, after the election, I was so tired of podcasts dissecting what went wrong. Sorry, Pod Save America. I needed a podcast with some emotional intelligence. About what listeners needed at that moment. Moment and my brother recommended you. Now I listen to you almost daily specifically because you're one of the few podcasts or even newscasts bothering to pay attention to what's happening to trans people. As a trans man, you came out 20 years ago. Please understand that what's happening across our country feels similar to how people were once executed in Salem, Massachusetts, one rock at a time, placed on a person's chest until his or her body finally collapsed under the weight. For anyone listening, here are those rocks. So far, on day one, it was an executive order defining trans people out of existence, claiming there were only two sexes. The most immediate impact of this had been to prevent trans people from obtaining passports which align with their gender identity, essentially imprisoning many trans people from leaving the country. Many have also lost their birth certificates and even marriage certificates because of the State Department, and they refused to return the applications that were already in process. Next came the executive order forcing trans women into men's prisons, an executive order that has been temporarily blocked because a judge found it likely violated the eighth Amendment against cruel and unusual punishment. Even the death penalty doesn't reach eighth Amendment status. That's how cruel this executive order is to trans women. Next was the executive order banning trans people from the military, claiming that even people who have served in active duty combat are unfit for military duty because trans people are are, in Trump's eyes, inherently dishonest and dishonorable by virtue of being trans. Our new DUI hire and Secretary of Defense Pete Hegseth wrote a book calling trans people the t slur and said they have no place in the military. Dishonorable discharges of trans people also means they lose their military pensions. Next came the executive order banning gender care for anyone under 19. Hospitals and gender care clinics around the country immediately began to capitulate for fear of losing funding, leaving parents scrambling to save their children. Four year listeners, please understand that according to the Trevor Project, every time one of these bans goes into place, the suicide rate goes up 72%. So it's not hyperbole to say that while physicians abandon their patients, parents are trying to save their kids lives. Also note the fact this order said 19 year olds and not 18 year olds leaves many observers speculating that he will eventually ban this care for all trans people, even adults. Then there was the ban on trans women in sports, any sport, even chess or darts, which the NCAA buckled to immediately de facto banning the whopping 10 trans athletes in the entire NCAA. Not even enough for a soccer team Simply because they're trans. Period. No other reason. At a recent congressional hearing, Representative Nancy Mace, the lump of carbon and hate who got Sarah McBride and all trans people banned from the restroom of their identities at the Castle Capitol, repeatedly referred to trans people as, quote, unquote, trannies. When her Democratic counterpart asked the Chairperson to counsel Ms. Mace to stop, the Republican chairperson claimed ignorance that that was even a slur. And now we have OMB Director Vaught, who not only plans to keep crushing trans people under the stones of administrative actions, but there's this from ProPublica, quote. Other policies mentioned by Vought dovetail with Trump's plans, such as rolling back transgender rights rights agenda 47. The campaign's policy blueprint calls for revoking President Joe Biden's order expanding gender affirming care for transgender people. Vought uses even more extreme language, decrying the, quote, transgender sewage that's being pumped into our schools and institutions and referring to gender affirming care as chemical castration. Transgender sewage. That's how Vought refers to our lives. The rocks are piling on our chests, and this administration is just getting started. Trans people are now consistently being referred to in subhuman terms the way Hitler referred to Jewish people repeatedly enough until people believed it was true. This administration doesn't just want to eradicate trans people from public life. It wants to eradicate trans people from life, full stop. On a personal note, I spent the first 30 years of my life wanting to die. I spent the last 20 trying to make the most of this gift called life. Life. My work focuses on creating access for people with disabilities. I plant and protect trees. I take care of my neighbors. I married a beautiful woman, and we live in a tiny apartment with our dog. I try to live each day the way my now deceased dad taught me to leave this world a better place than I found it a few nights ago. It all felt like too much. I could feel my heart going cold and my emotions going numb the way they used to. Every time I tried to kill myself when I was growing up, my beautiful wife looked over at me and asked what I was thinking. And I said, do you really want to know? And she said, yes. And after a deep breath, I told her, I'm thinking that if I didn't have you and mom and my brother and my sister and so many friends who love and care about me that I would end my life right now because I don't see a way forward. Trans people are some of the most resilient people I know. We have to be. But we're so incredibly vulnerable. We've done nothing to deserve what's happening to us. We are good, loving people who just want to live authentic lives. Also, we are the canary in the coal mine. No one should be fooled into thinking that once trans people are stamped out, there won't be another scapegoat. Of course there will be. Because this administration can't govern, it will need someone else to blame for their woes and to stoke the culture war being used to cover the actual class war undermining our country. Country for students of history. That's how the Holocaust started. And it didn't end with Jewish people. Anyhow, I want to leave you with three thoughts, Queens thank you for talking about this issue on your podcast, and please keep talking about it. Every time you talk about it, I feel like someone's paying attention and that maybe I won't have to die early or flee my home in order to peacefully live out my days. Number two, listeners, don't underestimate the power of your love and support. Support. Maybe it can't take down an executive order, but it may save the life of someone who needs to know they're not alone and that they're worthy of love and life. And finally, Dana, this one's for you. Personally, we've actually met several times, right around when I began my transition. I'd say we were familiar acquaintances. Many in the community of gay women I knew decided to reject me because they saw me as rejecting womanhood in favor of male privilege. Privilege. It's hard to describe how isolated that made me feel at a really isolating time already. But you in particular, you didn't do that. Every time I saw you, you welcomed me for exactly who I am, and I've never forgotten that kindness. I never had the chance to thank you for that in person, so I'd like to thank you for that. Here. Here's a photo of our sweetest little girl. She's 11 years old, wildly protective of my wife and I when we're out in public, and the biggest cuddle bug when we're on the couch. Her kisses and cuddles and unconditional love are more reasons I know it's not my time to leave this world.