Lulu Garcia Navarro (3:23)

And we're gonna talk about that. And you can tell just in that moment, you know, the connection, the just looking at each other.

Charlize Theron (3:30)

Well, I couldn't look at her. I was like, I'm not gonna look at you. Like, the first part of the speech, I handled it, like, I was, like, just really excited and shocked, and I was like, do not look at her. Do not look at her. Cause I knew that as soon as I looked at her, I was gonna. I just knew that. Cause it was somewhat of a shared experience. Yeah.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (3:50)

I can see you getting emotional now.

Charlize Theron (3:52)

No, I'm not.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (3:52)

No.

Charlize Theron (3:53)

I don't know what you're talking about. Yeah. Yeah. It's hard not to, because it's so real. You know, I'm a mom now, and I don't have to sacrifice the things like she did. So I know what she did, and I'm very grateful.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (4:09)

I guess, since we started here, we'll talk about the movie, but since we're already talking about your family and where you came from. You grew up in South Africa on a small farm.

Charlize Theron (4:24)

Yeah.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (4:25)

Tell me about what you remember about growing up there and what your life was like.

Charlize Theron (4:33)

I remember very vividly moving to that farm. I was four years old. I remember seeing it. I remember it being. Feeling when I was that age, like, so vast. It really wasn't. It was like 16 acres, but it just felt like this. Like, vast. Cause it had. I think they were growing alfalfa on it, and one side, they were growing corn on it. So it just had this kind of error of. And they had these two big reservoirs on it, and there was this big, big tree. And I don't know what tree it was, but it was kind of like it greeted you as you were driving in. And I have very, very vivid memories of this tree and climbing it and climbing it recklessly barefoot and just feeling. It was like a sense of freedom, for sure.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (5:22)

Were you, like, A tomboy. Were you an athletic child?

Charlize Theron (5:25)

Yeah. No, I definitely, like, liked adventure. And I liked. I was. When I think back now, my every day was filled with kind of imagination. Like, you know, I would go out and go to the garden. I would imagine I was a chef, and I was gonna. It was always. There was always a story attached. You know, the dogs came with me. I was like, Sheena, Queen of the jungle. When I started watching movies, I really kind of like, started interpreting my mov. My everyday life. So, yeah, I loved adventure. I like getting into trouble, too. You know, I like to do things that I knew I wasn't allowed to do, but I was allowed to do so much. Like, you know, crazy.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (6:03)

You had to kind of run wild.

Charlize Theron (6:05)

Yes. Yeah, it was that. I mean, I could take my BMX out and go into, like, the closest little town to go, rent movies. I mean, I would tell my mom, right. But I could do pretty much anything that I wanted to do.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (6:19)

Did that make you independent?

Charlize Theron (6:20)

Yeah.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (6:21)

Growing up, you just felt like you had the run of the world.

Charlize Theron (6:24)

Yeah, I was super independent. I feel like that's not unusual, though. I felt like my friends kind of grew up that way, too. I felt like my independence also had to just come from, like, an emotional place. You know, my house wasn't always stable, and so I was. I felt very responsible to, like, make sure that, like, I was taken care of. Like, there was this kind of thing that by the time I moved out of the house, I knew how to take care of myself on many levels.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (6:54)

Before we get to what was going on inside the house, outside the house is also a lot of instability. I mean, I was looking at your town, and, you know, the mid-1980s in particular were sort of a time of violent uprisings against apartheid that led to a state of emergency in your hometown, Benoni. There was a lot of state repression, resistance. I mean, you were a very young kid, but do you remember any of that? Did that sort of play into how you saw.

Charlize Theron (7:22)

You couldn't avoid it? Violence and turmoil was something that was like everyday life in South Africa. If you got in the car, if I went to the bank with my mom, that was something that you just saw on the side of the roads. And for sure, I saw things that I shouldn't have seen at a very young age concerning violence, because that was just the circumstances. So there was a lot of talk constantly about apartheid. It was a hot topic. Like, you'd go to a barbecue. That's what everybody was talking about. They weren't really Hiding it from the kids.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (7:56)

When you say you saw violence, do you remember anything in particular?

Charlize Theron (7:59)

Yeah, yeah. Oh, yeah, like, vividly. It's like, tough stuff to talk about. I was like, very young. I saw a man burn inside a car on the side of the road. God. And a lot of people pulling over and trying to help and not being able to help. I also then later, you know, I saw what HIV and AIDS was doing. Like, I remember people being wheelbarrowed into our house because they knew my mom would take them to a clinic.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (8:39)

You know, you have spoken a lot about the turbulence outside, but also, as you mentioned, inside your family and your father was an alcoholic. As someone myself who's, you know, dealt with alcohol abuse in our family, it is an incredibly difficult thing, especially for a child to deal with. When did you realize that your own home life was maybe different than other friends of yours?

Charlize Theron (9:06)

That's a good question. Pretty young, I would say. Really young. I have memories from when I was really young seeing. And it scared me, seeing drunk people. But, like, really drunk people. Like people crawling on the floor kind of drunk, you know? Yeah. And it was scary in the beginning, you know. Like, I remember vividly, like, seeing my uncle, like, really drunk. And I was. It was frightening. It was really frightening. But that became so consistent that that was every Friday, Saturday, maybe even every Wednesday. Like, my dad had built this really big bar inside the house. And again, not very unusual. Like, a lot of South Africans have a. Like, they love to kind of create a space in their house where they can drink and barbecue and. Exactly, exactly. But it became kind of the live. Where he lived. It was where you never saw him anywhere else in the house. You always saw him there in the house. And he was very. He was a full blown functioning drunk. But he had moments in his life where he would kind of like go missing. Like, we just wouldn't know where he was. And he would usually kind of return in a state that was pretty severe and that's, you know, it would get messy and loud. And my mom's not a wallflower either, so she wasn't just like sitting and taking it, you know, she was definitely. Yeah. I mean, she made it known that she wasn't happy about his lifestyle. So it caused. Because of both of them. It really caused a lot of, like, verbal abuse. And they also just. Honestly, personally, for me, the worst thing was they would ice each other. They wouldn't talk to each other for, like, there was like a big fight and then they wouldn't talk to each other. For, like, three weeks, and I didn't have siblings. And that house just went silent. It just went totally silent. Like, no one would even say good morning to each other. And, like, I would be so scared to say something. So they would. Like, for three weeks, no one would talk inside the house.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (11:12)

Did you feel like you had to mediate that or you just wanted to not be included in that?

Charlize Theron (11:16)

Yeah, I wouldn't because it's South Africa at that time. When I was raised, it was like children should be seen and not heard. You never said anything ever? Ever? I remember one time saying something to my dad, and it was like, I was made very aware. Like, you just don't do that. It's gotten. It's none of your business.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (11:35)

Was he violent towards you?

Charlize Theron (11:37)

I. I mean, violent. He was scary in a sense. That wasn't. Like, he didn't hit me. He. He didn't throw me against a wall, but he would do things. Like, he would drive drunk and he would drive scary, and they would get into a fight and he would, like, you know. You know, it was a lot of kind of verbal abuse he was taking. He would become violent on things, you know, but he. That was also just a lot of threatening language, you know, that just became normal. It really became normal. And so I never. I never, when I was younger, stepped in when I was around 12. I think I remember my mom, or no, maybe even 13. I remember my mom using the divorce word for the first time. And divorce is just then. Was not. I. I didn't. We didn't know people who were divorced, and my parents weren't religious, but it was just culturally one of those things. Like, you just didn't do that. Like, so that was never kind of even discussed. They had been married for 25 years. And so when she said, like, I think. I think the best thing for us is for me to separate from him. And it doesn't make any sense, but it was so scary because I didn't know what that would look like. And so in a weird way, I was almost talking her back into, like, staying because the alternative felt so foreign to me. But I think she knew and she was trying to figure out ways to. I mean, she sent me to a boarding school specifically because she. She wanted me to get out of the house. She knew that she had to get me out of the house. I mean, it was getting to that point where she was very aware what it was doing to me. It was a combination of all of those things. Just so strange to, you know, because all the Memories are there. And it's not that I don't try and think about it, but it's just weird. You're kind of like going such a linear manner that it becomes almost more clear when you talk about it that way. Because people tend to just isolate it and want to talk about one thing. But it helps to kind of explain that these things build and they build, and it takes years sometimes for things to go as wrong as it did in my house.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (14:03)

The reason I actually wanted to go linear is because you have mentioned in other interviews how everyone focuses on what we're about to talk about, but that everything that came before was actually where the real trauma lay.

Charlize Theron (14:18)

Yeah, I mean, there was definitely curious. Yeah, there was shock because it's, you know, a tremendous thing to happen in anyone's life. I'll just tell the part that we better talk about some fun things after this.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (14:32)

We are going to talk about some fun things.

Charlize Theron (14:34)

All I have to say, like, I

Lulu Garcia Navarro (14:35)

didn't mean to start here. No, no.

Charlize Theron (14:36)

This is where we are. Not at all. Not at all. I was 15 years old, and my mom and I. My mom would do this thing too. Like, she would. She would take me to the movies. And when my. When I was younger, it was the drive in theater. And again, like, when I was older, I realized she was trying to get me out of the house. Out of the house. But we had gone to see a movie and my dad had taken the key to the front. Sad. Not even the front door. The front steel door. Every. Every room in our house had a steel door. So if you got into the front door, the kitchen had a steel door that you had to unlock. Is. That's the kind of violence that we were living in. Nonsensical violence, like, violence that you couldn't reason with. It just. I mean, our country was on the brink of civil war. It was like. It was frightening. So she couldn't get into the first lock. And we always knew where he was. His brother lived a couple of streets away, and if he wasn't home, he was always there drinking and nothing out of the usual. I mean, we went over and they were pretty loaded. And I had to pee really badly. So I ran into the house to get to the toilet. And he took that as me being really rude because I didn't stop and say hello to everybody. Big thing in South Africa, like, the kind of respect that you have to have for elders. And he was in a state where he just kind of like, spiraled. Like, why didn't you stop? Who do you think you are? And this kind of thing started. But anyway, my mom had had a pretty bad couple of weeks with him. And I think he felt like I was kind of going through a stage of not, you know, I wasn't just going to my room anymore. I was maybe getting involved or I would protect her in the sense that I would stand up for her. And I don't. I think it had built, and that's why he was spending so much time with his family. And we left. But you could just tell. I just knew that that was kind of the straw that broke the camel's back for him. I felt it. I felt like something was different. And when we got home, I sat down with my mom and I said, I think you're right. I think you should separate from him. I never imagined that those words would come out of my mouth. But leaving that house, I knew something was just different. She knew it, too. I knew he was mad at me. So eventually, when he decided to come home, I said to her, please tell him I'm asleep. And so I went into my room. I turned my lights off, and because I just didn't. I was scared. And I could always tell, like, my window faced the drive. I could always tell by the way he drove in, like, the level of anger, frustration, or unhappiness. And then the way he drove into that property that night. I can't explain it to you. I just knew something bad was going to happen. She knew it, too. To get to the point, he finally broke into the house. He shot through the steel doors to get into the house, making it very clear that he was going to kill us. His brother was with him as well. And, yeah, we knew it was serious. And so by the time he broke into the first gate, my mom ran to the safe to get her gun. She came into my bedroom. And this is, again, one of those crazy things. The two of us were holding the door with our bodies because there wasn't a lock on it. And he just stepped back and started shooting through the door. And not one bullet hit us. It's insane when you think about it that way. But the verbal. I mean, the messaging was very clear. I'm going to kill you tonight. Tonight it was verbally very, very clear. You think, I can't come into this door? Watch me. And I'm going to go to the safe. I'm going to get the shotgun. Let me show you how I can get through this door. That kind of stuff. Encouragement from the brother and my mom. He had walked to the safe. And my mom pulled the door open while the brother was still standing there. And the brother ran down the hallway and she shot one bullet down the hallway that ricocheted seven times and shot him in the hand. It's stuff you can't explain.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (19:31)

No.

Charlize Theron (19:33)

And then followed my father, who was by then opening the safe to get more weapons out, and she shot him. Unfortunately, not an isolated story. You know, these things are prevalent in a lot of families, homes, and I feel like women really get a very, very unfair shake even in. I feel like in this country. Women who nobody takes it seriously, the situation that they're in. And I don't think anybody took my

Lulu Garcia Navarro (20:06)

mom seriously in advance to this.

Charlize Theron (20:09)

You mean to how bad it was.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (20:11)

Right.

Charlize Theron (20:12)

You know, when you're dealing with a charming drunk, like, who could be very charming and was always looking for buddies to kind of like come join the party. And also a culture that just accepted it, like it was a culture that, that was part of being South African. Like, men drink. I remember my little tiny nephew saying, like, when people were like, what are you gonna do when you grow up? I'm gonna drink. I think that was part of the culture. That's when you become a man. That doesn't help either.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (20:47)

I just wanna say I wasn't going to start here, but because I asked you before the interview if it was okay to talk about it. I guess that's why we've ended up here.

Charlize Theron (20:58)

Yeah. And to be clear, I. I think these things should be talked about, you know, because it makes other people not feel alone. You know, and I feel like I never knew about a story like that. You know, when this happened to us, I thought we were the only people, my mom and I, that this was going on with. And now the two of us look at it. I've had therapy around this. She's had. She's also just. She's a tough broad. So part of her is just like, it's part of my life. It's not who I am. I'm way more interesting than this. And, oh, is she more interesting than that. So I know she won't mind this. So, yeah, it's a good way to, I think, make people not feel alone. And, you know, I'm not haunted by any of this stuff anymore.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (21:43)

And in fact, you've become a campaigner to prevent gender based violence. I mean, you've made it an important issue for you and you've been very clear that that trauma does not define you. Yeah, it does though, as you mentioned. Find you and Your mother, though, and your story. How would you say it changed your relationship to her, that moment?

Charlize Theron (22:03)

It's a very good question, because it did. It really did change our relationship. We were always very close. We felt like a team. But that night changed it. Because in retrospect, like, once I got out of the shock of it, I realized that she saved my life, which is a big thing. Oh, goodness.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (22:25)

It's the ultimate sacrifice a mother can give.

Charlize Theron (22:28)

Yeah. And then also the aftermath of, like, she picked right up. Like, she. This is, I think, such a testament to her strength. Because the next morning, she sent me to school. She was just like, you're gonna move on. Not necessarily the healthiest thing, but it worked for us. She wanted me to forget about it. She didn't want me to, like, sit in it. We didn't have therapists around. It wasn't like she was gonna say, like, go see a therapist. We just didn't have access to those things. So in her head, the best therapy was, we gotta move on. We can't, like, sit in this.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (23:07)

And did you. I mean, in the sense that. Did you, like, lock it away?

Charlize Theron (23:09)

I did, yeah. Because there was a lot of shame kind of surrounding it as well. Because I felt like everybody knew how bad it was. Nobody stepped in to help, but everybody knew. And then there was like. And, like, I feel like kids had this kind of attitude towards me. Like, even though their parents were in the same boat, I knew so many of them and their parents to be alcoholics. There was this kind of energy that was like, oh, well, yours is, like, really bad. Like, that happened, you know, not being aware that they were moments away from having the same experience.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (23:50)

Do you think it branded, like, you felt like they judged you and it kind of separated you from them?

Charlize Theron (23:54)

Yes. And I. Actually. There was only one time I became violent. And it was a girl had kind of, like, taunted me with it. And she was kind of walking around telling everybody how she had seen my dad drunk. And, you know, this was something that was super sensitive to me. Cause he would show up at school events really drunk, and it was really embarrassing. And not that a child. I mean, I know this now, but not that a child should ever take that on. That has nothing to do with you. But when you don't know that, you make it very personal. I always felt like I had to make excuses for him. I always had to, like, tell some story to soften the edges a little bit. And I think I did try to sweep it under the rug, because I also. I hated People feeling sorry for me. I hated it. I almost feel like that was the worst thing was like that now for the rest of my life, people are going to feel sorry for me. So for the first couple of years, for as long as I could, I would have told this story that he died in a car accident and that it happened then three years earlier. I couldn't tell it to my school friends. But by the time I left South Africa, that's the story I told because I just. I didn't want to, like, have people. I didn't want. Pity made me so uncomfortable.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (25:15)

So you end up leaving South Africa.

Charlize Theron (25:17)

Yeah.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (25:18)

And you're young.

Charlize Theron (25:22)

Yeah. I had just turned 16, which is amazing.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (25:25)

And you go to model initially in Italy. And I just wonder what it was like to be that person at 16 with everything that had happened.

Charlize Theron (25:38)

It was amazing. Really. It was amazing because it was. I wasn't expecting that escapism.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (25:43)

Oh, okay.

Charlize Theron (25:44)

I could escape. The only thing that was really, really hard for me was knowing that I was leaving my mom behind. But she was the one that said, you have to go. Like, you have to go. You got go. Get out of here. Go and make a life for yourself. There's nothing for you here right now.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (26:05)

What was it like once you got that opportunity and you were out in the world, sort of living it at 16?

Charlize Theron (26:12)

Yeah, I.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (26:13)

Did you feel equipped?

Charlize Theron (26:14)

Yeah, I was so equipped. I mean, I knew how to take care of myself. That's just something my mom instilled in me. My lifestyle instilled in me, My country did. Like, you just, you know how to take care of yourself, you know how to cook. And even in our school, they teach you how to sew. I mean, I know more than my kids will ever know as adults, you know, about taking care of myself. And I also had this real drive that I wanted to do it on my own terms. Like, I didn't want to go out there. She had given me a credit card. But I was so determined to do this on my own and to not fail because I didn't want to go back. I didn't want to go back. So I was running from a lot of stuff and I was happy to escape it.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (26:56)

And you come to America and you're a dancer and you're studying at the Joffrey Ballet and. And you have a pretty serious injury

Charlize Theron (27:07)

or it was a built up.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (27:09)

A built up thing that you just sort of ended up not being able to dance anymore.

Charlize Theron (27:13)

Yeah, yeah. It was like a consistent injury that showed up my knees. I was Too tall to be a dancer. And by the time I got to Joffrey, I was mainly taking class. I think I was in full denial because I didn't have another plan. I really didn't have a plan for anything after that.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (27:31)

It must have been scary.

Charlize Theron (27:32)

That was when it got scary. Yeah. I went into, like, my first depression. I lived in somebody's basement. I was renting a room in this basement. It didn't have any windows. And I just remember it was, like, really cold winter, and I was living in darkness, like, complete darkness. And my mom came over. She was really worried about me. And I'll never forget it. We sat on, like, this crappy couch that was covered with a blanket because it was so disgusting. And we both had a pint of ice cream, and we were just eating ice cream. And she just said. She just said, like, you love movies. You were always watching movies. Always. That's all you did as a kid. You watched movies. And then when you started dancing, she's like, news flash. You were not a great dancer, but you were the best actor. Like, you would go on stage and you could tell the story. She's like, you know how to do that?

Lulu Garcia Navarro (28:30)

And you had not thought about that?

Charlize Theron (28:32)

No, no. I didn't even know how you went about it. I had no idea how you went about it, and neither did she. I mean, it was like, I'll buy the ticket. You'll go to Hollywood. And we got the ticket. And I was like, oh, it doesn't say Hollywood, it says Los Angeles. I mean, that is how naive we were.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (28:51)

I was thinking a lot about how much you'd experience from 15 to 18, which is this period in which this all happens. You have this traumatic event. You go to Italy, then you go to New York. You don't know what you're gonna do. Then you come to la, you get discovered. You'd lost a career. You'd found a career. Maybe. I mean, most people experience that in one lifetime. Did you feel that. That already at. By the age of 18, you'd sort of gone through this enormous change?

Charlize Theron (29:23)

I just remember excitement. I really, like. Once I got, like, out of my dark hole. There's something about your naivete that makes you not think about the alternative. Well, for me, anyway, I should speak for myself, but I think that's true

Lulu Garcia Navarro (29:44)

of young people generally.

Charlize Theron (29:45)

You just think, like, anything's possible and nothing bad's gonna. And not to you. You know, you just. You think you're invincible. And I had big dreams and I had this kind of Clock ticking. Because I didn't want to go back. So I was constantly kind of like, like a hustler. But I felt very. I just remember those years very fondly. I was excited. I had found this, like, really great group of friends, and I was going out and dance. These were all things that I didn't grow up with. You know, in South Africa, you don't go to a club. Like, you don't go, like, during. I mean, we had. I don't think. I don't want to. Like, some South African's gonna be like, that's not true. But my experience was that there wasn't, like, concerts. I didn't go to concerts. And I think even there were boycotts.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (30:34)

Right, so.

Charlize Theron (30:35)

Yes, exactly. Sanctions kind of like, stopped that. But even prior to the sanctions, and I think even if there were, my mom would never let me go because you'd hear of, like, crowd bombings and things like that.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (30:47)

So this was the first time you were able to really be young.

Charlize Theron (30:49)

Yes, yes, yes.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (30:51)

So, in fact, the opposite of what

Charlize Theron (30:52)

I thought, No, I was, like, dancing until the sun came up. And then I would go to auditions and be great. Like, I was like. I had no sleep. I functioned on no sleep. I ate terribly because that's what I could afford. But I was so happy. I was so happy.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (31:10)

So this brings me, actually to your new movie, because you've been doing a lot of tough roles lately, and you are what I consider to be our modern day action hero. Oh, do you consider yourself to be an action hero?

Charlize Theron (31:29)

I don't know about the hero part.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (31:32)

My words. I'm making a kind of obvious assumption considering where we've started, but I've heard you just say words like independent, self sufficient, you know, wanting to do things your own way. And it. To me, there's just like a very clear through line to this version of your career.

Charlize Theron (31:52)

Yeah.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (31:53)

Why was that something that you were attracted to?

Charlize Theron (31:57)

So I had had little moments in movies where I had to do, like, an action scene. You know, it was like stunt people would come in and it would be like, oh, we're gonna like. There was like a big fight scene that I had in Two Days in the Valley, my first movie that I ever did. But I made the connection pretty quickly to my dance career. And the thing that my mom said was in that moment became very clear to me. The fact that I'm a natural storyteller. And if I have to do it through my body, I'll do it through my body. If I can do it through my Mouth. I'll do it through my mouth. And I had missed telling story through my body.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (32:34)

You know, you said in a recent interview, I have surgery after every movie. You said you wanted to get to the fun stuff. And so I just have to bring this up before we talk a little bit more about this, because I actually looked into it.

Charlize Theron (32:50)

Oh, boy.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (32:51)

Our whole team did. And we were just. We went down a rabbit hole after this new movie. Apex, you got elbow surgery.

Charlize Theron (32:59)

Two elbow revision. Yeah, one. And a revision surgery.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (33:03)

You also fractured a toe.

Charlize Theron (33:05)

Yeah.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (33:05)

Please fill me in on the stuff that we've missed. While making the Old Guard, you filmed through injuries and got three surgeries on your left arm afterwards.

Charlize Theron (33:13)

Yeah.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (33:13)

Is that right? Okay. Making Atomic Blonde, you cracked two teeth and got root canals.

Charlize Theron (33:18)

Yeah, my teeth were replaced fully.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (33:21)

Fully.

Charlize Theron (33:22)

Not my whole. I have all my own teeth. Even though some people don't believe that I took care of my teeth. Two in the back. They had to just. They had to remove them, they were so crushed.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (33:33)

Hmm. I'll also say that one of the ones that I left off is that you spent five days in the hospital after laughing too hard, watching Borat. I didn't quite understand. Was that, like a hernia that you got, like.

Charlize Theron (33:46)

So I had herniated a disc in my neck making a movie. I landed on my neck, and it was a really severe injury.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (33:53)

Oh, my gosh.

Charlize Theron (33:54)

I was moments away from being paralyzed. It was actually that bad. I landed on a concrete floor on my neck.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (34:00)

What movie was this on?

Charlize Theron (34:01)

Aeon Flux.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (34:02)

Oh, God.

Charlize Theron (34:03)

And they had to shut the movie down. And I had an injury that everybody was hoping my body could heal after. I mean, I was on bed rest and doing pt. But they were hoping that the disc. I was young enough and the disc is really soft up there, that my body would absorb it. And so they didn't want to just do surgery straight away. And I think it was a big mistake because I suffered for eight years and had chronic pain. Chronic pain. And my neck was. That disc sat so close to all of my nerves that if I did anything wrong with it, anything it didn't like, it would just sit on nerves, and I would just be locked. Locked for weeks. And I lived my life like that for eight years. And so the Borat thing is funny because I laughed so hard that I locked. I locked that disc into the nerves, and it was actually really bad. I had to, like.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (34:57)

Yeah, I was supposed to say, it's not a funny story. That's a horrible story.

Charlize Theron (34:59)

It's a funny story. Now, I mean, we still laugh about it, but I had to, like, get flown, like on a private plane that night and came back to la and when I had my first baby, I just said to the doctor, I want to have the surgery because I just don't want to live in this place where I have a child and I can't pick her up because my neck is out. And so I kind of like, it was the best thing I ever did.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (35:25)

I know a lot of people who've lived with chronic pain and it's really debilitating and really hard to think about anything else. What was it like for you?

Charlize Theron (35:36)

It was horrible. It's horrible as it's constant fear of, like, I don't know if I should do that. And I'm like in the prime of my life. And then it became so acute. Like, I would just get out of the shower and reach for a towel and it would lock and I would be in bed for five days not being able to move. I think I was so worn down by the end of the eight years that if they weren't going to do it, I was going to, like, go to a country and get it done where they would allow it to happen. I was that desperate. I was also, you know, I shared with my doctor because I was on a lot of opioids and things like that. I was about to ask, and you would think with my dad as well, like, the worry of addiction. Thank God I don't have an issue with addiction and that I didn't become addicted to. But I think back now and I just go, like, that was just so irresponsible in a weird way with myself. The fact that I was just thinking, I can kind of. I would be able to control this somehow.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (36:38)

You know, if that were my reality, I would then probably not want to throw myself and become an action star. I would want to protect myself from. From injury and those kinds of issues. Why do you think you went in the opposite direction?

Charlize Theron (36:55)

I think I wasn't going to let anything take away from my life. There's a spirit about me that. And I think some of it maybe has to do with the fact that I experienced so much death early on. I'm very aware that time runs out really quickly and that time can run out as soon as I walk out of this building. I can cross the street and it's done. I'm so hyper aware of that. I live my life every single day like that. If I lay in bed one day, I'm like, I am missing a day in my life, but I was never gonna be. I didn't wanna live, like, a safe life because of that. I mean, I do live a very safe life. I'm not a reckless person. I think people think I am, but I'm not a reckless. I get scared. I'm not reckless, but I don't wanna. I wanna. If I get to be on my deathbed one day, I wanna say I did everything that I really wanted to do. Um.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (37:48)

Let's talk about Apex. Yeah,

Charlize Theron (37:51)

no, I'm not. I don't know what you're talking about. Let's talk about Apex.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (37:54)

Tell me, actually, before I move on, what made you emotional?

Charlize Theron (38:00)

Because life is so valuable, and I think, like, life is so beautiful. Stop it. No, this is not in the interview. You are not putting this in the interview. It's so sappy and stupid.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (38:14)

It's not.

Charlize Theron (38:14)

It's so stupid. It's really stupid.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (38:16)

But. But this is. But I feel like I'm getting. I'm getting the real you, which is a person who still doesn't want to, like, be in touch with their emotions.

Charlize Theron (38:25)

It's so funny because people are always like. They think I'm a tough bitch. You know? Like, I think a lot of people think I'm, like, very cold because I come across as, like, self. Like, I can take care of myself. Like, I don't need, like. And I'm also. I'm sometimes a little brash. And I think people take that as. She's so tough. Like, she's so cold. And it's the complete opposite. My kids are so embarrassed by me because I will cry at the drop of a hat. My kids are always like, stop crying. So I have access. And I think it's not to be like. But I think it's why I'm okay at acting. I can go. I can go to those places very easily. As. As you can tell, I get. I have, like, an ability to really feel deeply sometimes. Like, you know, it's not nice, but it works for my job and it. And it works in my life. Like, I really. I appreciate. I do appreciate things. And I'm not perfect at that every day, but I aim for that, definitely. Okay.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (39:28)

We keep on losing. Going in a different direction, which I have enjoyed. But I want to talk about the movie. In this new movie, you play a mountain climber who ends up being chased through the Australian jungle.

Charlize Theron (39:40)

Rock climber.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (39:41)

Rock climber.

Charlize Theron (39:42)

Do your research.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (39:43)

Thank you.

Charlize Theron (39:43)

Seriously. Oh, my God.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (39:46)

But I'm wondering about the mental challenges of doing movies like that. I mean, what are they for you? Because it's not just a physical game, it's a mental game.

Charlize Theron (39:53)

Dance. Dance is probably one of the hardest things I ever did. Dancers are superheroes. What dancers put their bodies through in complete silence.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (40:08)

Sorry. Timothee Chalamet.

Charlize Theron (40:09)

Oh, boy. I hope I run into him one day. Yeah, I feel like that was a very reckless comment on an art form. Two art forms that we need to lift up constantly. Because, yes, they do have a hard time, but in about 10 years, I think AI is going to be able to do Timothy's job, but it will not be able to replace a person on a stage dancing live. And we shouldn't shit on other art forms. How about we start with that? I think that it's one of the most disciplined things that I've ever done. It taught me discipline, it taught me structure, it taught me hard work, it taught me to be tough. It's borderline abusive. I mean, I remember having to dance with. I had. So there were several times that I had blood infections from blisters that just never healed. And you don't get a day off. Yeah. I mean, I'm literally talking about bleeding through your shoes. And that's something that you have to, like, practice every single day. You practice it every single day. If you're a dancer at that level, you mean you practice the mindset.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (41:14)

The mindset of just.

Charlize Theron (41:15)

You don't give up and there's no other option. Like, you're going and you keep going.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (41:21)

I was just wondering what you think about being a woman in an action role. Because in this particular film, the tension doesn't only come from the thrills. And I don't want to give too much away. And, you know, you in sort of physical extremes, it also comes through you as a woman, feeling threatened, as many women feel threatened by the circumstances around you, whether they're men who are actually wishing you ill or is a wild animal gonna come and overp empower you? Do you think female action heroes get dramatic tension or need to get dramatic tension from other sources than men?

Charlize Theron (42:00)

For sure, yeah. I think it's hard for some men to understand that when we go down into a parking garage, it's one of the most fright. I mean, for me, it is like, especially at night, I get a horrible feeling in one of those deep parking garages and underground parking lot lots. I mean, I'm constantly looking over my shoulder and then I'm trying to get into my car as quick as possible. I don't know how many men think about that. We just have a different mindset, for sure. I think we have to. And that's what makes us interesting, and that's what makes us, I think, interesting. Action stars or action subjects. You know, I think we attack action differently. You know, we can't fight like men, but that doesn't mean we can't fight. So our tagline on Atomic Blonde was always, fight like a girl. Because that's good. That's good. Fight like a girl. It's different. I don't ever aspire to go into these movies trying to, like, outdo, you know, the male counterpart. Like, I was sitting opposite Taryn, and I was like, he was working out. So I was like, there's no way you would totally overpower me. Like, if we were exactly Taran Edgerton, I was like, you would totally overpower me. So we have to figure out other things. Maybe under certain circumstances, by element of surprise, I could do it. But I'm a bit of a Stigler for reality. When I make movies, I want to know that you can really do something. I'm always on everybody's back. Can that happen? But what would happen? I want to see that happen. Because I don't believe that. Because I love movies, because I believe it. Like, I want to go in there and believe it. So I like kind of attacking action movies in that sense that I want to make something that feels very realistic. I'm not playing superheroes.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (43:53)

In 2017. I interviewed David Leitch, who directed you in Atomic Blonde, and something he said to me was that, indeed, it's different to fight as a woman. And he is obviously someone whose background is in being a stuntman.

Charlize Theron (44:08)

Yeah.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (44:09)

And he said it's not about punching with brute force, but it's about using leverage. It's just a different way to engage in physical conflict. Can you fight in real life? Are you someone who now feels like you could take someone down?

Charlize Theron (44:25)

I mean, how many times do we think about that, Lulu? I don't think about, can I take people down? But I always think I do if

Lulu Garcia Navarro (44:32)

I'm in a dark parking lot.

Charlize Theron (44:33)

So there's that part of my brain

Lulu Garcia Navarro (44:35)

that's about defending yourself.

Charlize Theron (44:36)

Yes. And I also think, just given my history, I'm hyper aware, like, of those things. Little things, like fight with your elbows, your elbow. Oh, weirdly. See, that's maybe why my elbows are so busted. We're getting to some stuff here, but in general, we have a lot of force in our elbows, and we can swing really hard from our elbows, not so much from Our wrists. So, you know, coming forward with your finger. Yeah. But your, this is a full force arm move and it can take somebody down if you hit it in the right way. I feel like I'm scrappy. I'm scrappy and I'm a survivor. And I feel like sometimes that's the thing that sets you apart from actual skill. You know, I think there are people that would probably take somebody down way better than I can, but if my life depended on it, I'm gonna bet on me.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (45:31)

All right, well, we're gonna speak again, but thank you for your honesty and also for engaging with me. I really appreciate it.

Charlize Theron (45:39)

Oh, my gosh, you're so welcome. And talk to you. Soon

Lulu Garcia Navarro (45:45)

after the break, I talked to Charlize again.

Charlize Theron (45:47)

I do worry sometimes that I love having conversation and then, you know, I go home and I'm like, oh, I share too much. I didn't have to go into that detail. Why did I say that?

Lulu Garcia Navarro (46:12)

Hi, New York Times.

Charlize Theron (46:14)

I would be very interested in having separate logins for a shared subscription.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (46:19)

I'm 35 years old. I still share my parents New York Times subscription.

Charlize Theron (46:24)

I think if my teenagers who would have their own logins, we could share articles. It doesn't let us play the same games as each other.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (46:31)

I play the stoku.

Charlize Theron (46:32)

I do the crossword. I do the spelling bee. I do the wordle. Please help. Having our own accounts would be amazing. My mom could save her own recipes. My friends could save their recipes.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (46:43)

I want to get the weekly newsletter, but they seem to always go to my husband and then he doesn't forward them to me. We both love cooking.

Charlize Theron (46:49)

I'm a 30 minute and under dinner girly. My boyfriend is very elaborate. I think him having his own profile would be great. We love the New York Times and we would love to love it individually. Listeners, we heard you introducing the New York Times family subscription. One subscription, up to four separate logins for anyone in your life. Find out more@nytimes.com family.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (47:23)

Hi.

Charlize Theron (47:24)

Hi.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (47:25)

I was thinking about everything that we've talked about in our first conversation about the independence that you found at an early age and then the tough characters you've played and the physical challenges that you've taken on to play them. And I know from other interviews that you've given that you've really not wanted your story to ever be distilled to its most simplistic version. And I really don't want to do that here. So I'm wondering, when you think about your career, what connections have you made? Between your life and the choices that you've made and your career writ large.

Charlize Theron (47:58)

First of all, thank you for saying that. I think it's like, I do worry sometimes that I love having conversation, and then, you know, I go home and I'm like, oh, I share too much. I didn't have to go into that detail. Why did I say that?

Lulu Garcia Navarro (48:15)

The stakes are really high for someone like you. I get it.

Charlize Theron (48:18)

I appreciate you saying that. I feel like when we were talking, I was thinking about this yesterday when we were talking. And by the way, your conversation is so natural, so I want to thank you for that, too. And it made me think about things that I haven't thought about in a while. But I had a thought that I don't feel like we talked about, and that is that, you know, the opposite is so true of my life and of South Africa, the country that I grew up in. And I think we covered the hardship, but I really, truly feel blessed that I came from there, that I was born there, that I have that soil and my bones. I feel like I'm from there. I feel like I share something with the people of South Africa. And the reason I do is because they're the most resilient, beautiful people that you will ever meet. And they've been through all this hardship, but they have literally come out on the other side with hope. And it's when I go there, that's the most incredible thing to see. Yes, there are a lot of things that need to get fixed, but the heart of that country is so unbelievably beautiful on every level. It's truly the most beautiful country that I've ever been to, and I've been lucky enough to travel a lot. And it's a place filled with joy. And so I just wanted to kind of talk a little bit about that, because that is such an important part of the one side that we covered yesterday. It's not all doom and gloom, you know, and we got into a place

Lulu Garcia Navarro (49:49)

sometimes that's the way it goes.

Charlize Theron (49:51)

But that's why this is good, because you kind of get to reflect, right? And that doesn't happen usually in interviews. So I'm grateful for that.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (50:01)

So I know in our first interview, we talked a lot about your personal life, so I want to talk about some of your work. You founded a production company in 2003, and that was long before female actors, at least, were sort of doing that, were taking that kind of ownership. Why did you think it was important to have that kind of power behind the scenes? Too.

Charlize Theron (50:25)

You know, I've reflected on this a lot. I think I've always kind of jumped to a simple answer, which was, I wanted to produce. Felt like I was interested in moviemaking. Like, the whole thing, the whole part of it, the development part of it. And that is true. But, you know, if I had to be really honest, I feel like there was a constant fear that I didn't have control over my own work. And especially when you're young. It happened when I made Monster. I remember the people who financed it just thinking we were making such a different movie, and they were really upset with us, with me and Patty Jenkins. And I think that if we didn't have any kind of producing power over that movie, it would have been a completely different movie. It would not have been the movie that Monster is today. And it made me realize that it is good to sometimes have a little bit of that control where you can say, listen, we start this road together, and we're gonna finish this road together. But we told you what road we're going on when we started, you know, and standing up for that and to protect that.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (51:39)

You know, it's funny because when you made Monster, you and Patty Jenkins, and it's obviously a very pivotal part of your own story, of how you had this vision and really kind of created it, but there is something about it was you and another woman who did that. So when I'm hearing you say, like, it wouldn't have been made in the same way, what do you mean exactly?

Charlize Theron (51:58)

I think I'm assuming here, obviously, a lot of these people are not around anymore and can't speak for themselves. The feeling that I got and Patty and I discussed was that I think they thought that they were going to get some kind of a. More of a sexy version with me and Christina Ricci. I think they were really leaning on kind of that relationship part, and I think they were not expecting. And I honestly don't think they had done a lot of research on Eileen. I think they read the script, I was attached, and they just kind of said yes to financing it. But if you really do your research, it's pretty. I mean, you don't have to explain it. You know, you can look at all the documentaries out there on her, and why. Why would you not try and kind of go for the truth? I don't know if they thought that I would just kind of be me, maybe, because I'd never done anything like that. So I think that was maybe another part, too. They didn't think I was gonna do the full transformation. I remember when I started getting gaining weight and we went to one of the producers, threw a party for us, and we went to his house and I very, like, just jokingly, I was like, oh, my God, I have a donut. And I was like squishing my stomach and showing this lady in front of me. And it turned out it was his wife. And I just remember her face. And she was like, I'm not gonna say the guy's name, but she was like, john, like, you should come see this. Like, this kind of concern just came over her. And I think that was maybe the first sign. But when they started seeing the first dailies, I remember they were just like, you're, you don't look that great. You're not smiling, you're not friendly. I mean, it was evident that they really were not very happy with the movie that we were making.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (53:44)

I mean, some of your most well known roles are about transforming right into real people. Monster. It won you an Oscar. And then you also played Megyn Kelly in the movie Bombshell, and you were nominated for that role too. What is the difference between creating a character versus playing someone who already exists in the world?

Charlize Theron (54:05)

That's such a good question, because I don't know if I have the answer yet. I feel I don't know how to play Eileen without looking like Eileen. Like, I don't, I don't think I'm the actor that you should hire for that. I also don't think I'm the actor you should put in the, in Bombshell to play Megyn Kelly. Because if I looked like this, like me, and maybe attempted, like, her cadence, I just, I don't know what that is. Like, I would look at the monitor and just kind of feel like it's missing, like something's wrong. Right. I don't know how to do it. So I think it's kind of like a necessity for me now when I play non, you know, fictional characters, I don't have to kind of obey by that. Right. But there are moments where you read something and you kind of feel like there's a physicality that you think is maybe necessary to, to your director. You start thinking about things that can help you not be you. Right. I, I, I'm always trying to just not look like I'm crossing a street. Like me when I'm making a movie. I'm always like, am I opening this door? And is it like Charlize is showing up? It's hard. You know, I've made many movies. People know who I am. And you don't want to start overusing it in a way where it feels like you're just becoming caricatures, you know? So it takes a lot of thought and a lot of collaboration to kind of figure out what that is, what the balance is. And that's why I started. I don't really truly know the answer yet.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (55:45)

You know, I've talked to actors and they sometimes say that there's like a little key that unlocks something for them. You know, whether it's putting on a wig or figuring out the way they walk or just something that opens up a character. Do you have something like that for you?

Charlize Theron (56:01)

For me, I wish I could reshoot the first three weeks of every movie I make.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (56:07)

Is that true?

Charlize Theron (56:08)

Yes. I feel like the first three weeks, I am not. I am. I'm scared. I'm still thinking. I'm overthinking. I'm. I'm doing it and it passes. But I am not in that flow that you hear actors talk about or athletes, that. That moment where you're not thinking about anything, you're just in it. Yeah, three weeks. That's usually so. I tried to shoot stupid things for, like, as long as I can. And then you just have to put your big girl panties on and do it. Like.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (56:41)

Speaking of big girl panties. Mad Fury Road is, of course, one of your most well known roles, and it was famously grueling to film. My colleague Kyle Buchanan wrote an oral history of the movie that brought to light, you know, how tough the set was, the filming conditions, the dynamics with your co star Tom Hardy, the director George Miller. But one of the things that I found most interesting was how you described your relationship with the female actors on the set, including Riley Keough and Zoe Kravitz. You said in that interview that they turned to you as someone who could problem solve for them. And I'm wondering what that kind of looked like.

Charlize Theron (57:20)

It was tough. You know, it's an environment that's really hard. It was. We were in a desert for six months, and I think mentally it really challenged all of us. It really did. And these poor girls were in. They were wearing bandages and it was so cold. And I remember Abby Lee one day just turning blue. And I just. I was with the rig, was just driving, and I was like, like, stop. Like, everybody stop. And like, trying to take like, some of my. I think I tried to take my pants off or something to like, put pants on her at least. Like, things like that. That I think was just kind of, you know, I had just become a mom. My first kid was, like, I think two months old, and I think I was just in, like, hyper mom state, too. You know, I loved all of those girls, and I felt like. I felt like I was somewhat responsible for them because I was of another generation. And, like, I knew what it was like to sometimes not feel like you had a voice. I also want to add, they were all bad bitches. Like, honestly, they were really strong, capable curls. Like, they were not wallflowers. So I just want to say that as well, they didn't need saving.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (58:35)

All right, last few questions. Looking ahead, you're going to be in the next Christopher Nolan film, the Odyssey.

Charlize Theron (58:43)

I was literally on that movie for, like, 4 Brad. It was so quick. But they were amazing breaths. To have Chris Nolan say, I would like to meet you for my next movie is like, do we even need to meet? Because I'm in. Whatever it is, I'll do it. And, yeah, I just spent the last five days with him, and it was tremendous. Really, really tremendous to just kind of see a director of that caliber work and also to see my friend Matt Damon, like, have this part. It's like the part of a lifetime and what he put himself through and how hard he worked. So it was a lovely five days.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (59:25)

You're gonna be playing the witch Cersei. I mean, what can we expect?

Charlize Theron (59:28)

I don't play her.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (59:30)

You don't? What do you play?

Charlize Theron (59:31)

I just gave you some insight. I'm not gonna tell you, but there you have insight. Now you know that it's not her. Everybody thinks it's her, but it's her.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (59:39)

Everyone thinks it's her. Oh, my goodness. Okay. Any injuries, though, on the set?

Charlize Theron (59:44)

No, no. No injuries. No. I came out alive and well. Yes.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (59:50)

All right, Charlize Theron. Thank you so much. This has been. It's been wonderful.

Charlize Theron (59:56)

Thank you. The same here. It's definitely been wonderful. It's very rare to have conversations like this, so thank.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (60:11)

That's Charlize Theron. Apex starts streaming on Netflix April 24th. To watch this interview and many others, you can subscribe to our YouTube channel@YouTube.com the Interview Podcast. This conversation was produced by Seth Kelly. It was edited by Allison Benedict, mixing by Sophia Landman. Original music by Dan Powell, Alicia Ba Itup and Marion Lozano. Photography by Devonielle Gabriel. The rest of the team is Priya Matthew, Wyatt, Orme, Paola Neudorf, Joe Bill Munoz, Amy Marino, Kathleen o' Brien, and Brooke Minters. Our executive producer is Alison Benedict. Next week David talks with actor and comedian Bob Odenkirk.

Charlize Theron (60:51)

Anybody should write their memoir when they get around 50. And you may see what I saw.

Lulu Garcia Navarro (60:57)

We're like, this guy's like a. And we all are, but this guy's like a broken torch. I'm Lulu Garcia Navarro, and this is the interview from the New York Times.

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