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Welcome to the daily Stoic podcast, designed to help bring those four key Stoic virtues, courage, discipline, justice and wisdom into the real world. It should be the easiest book in the world to read. It's only, depending on the translation, a couple hundred pages, which are made up of short passages, making it easy to read in small increments. It's written in a straightforward and accessible style, without any complex philosophical jargon. Unlike most books, there's no pretense, no performance, no intent to impress an audience. It's filled with topics that are universal and relevant. Dealing with tough times, being nice to people, waking up and getting to work, even when you'd rather stay under the warm blankets. And yet, so many people struggle with and get frustrated by Marcus Aurelius Meditations. And they have, ever since it was first discovered after the emperor's death nearly 2,000 years ago. 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Might and this is from this week's entry in the daily stoic journal. 366 days of writing and reflection on the art of living by yours truly. We call people who dwell on what might go wrong pessimists. Some even think that bad thoughts attract bad events. The Stoics found this all to be nonsense. In fact, they had a practice, pre meditatio malorum, premeditation of evils that specifically encouraged musing on the so called worst case scenario. Marcus would begin his day thinking about all the ugliness he would see on display in court, not for the purpose of working himself up, but precisely the opposite to calm and focus himself, to be prepared to act in the proper way rather than just to react. Seneca, too, practiced meditating in advance, not only on what normally happens, but on what could happen. Epictetus went as far as to imagine losing a loved one every time he would kiss them. The Stoics believed that all we have is on loan from fortune, and that negative visualization helps increase our awareness of the unexpected. So don't shy away from this in your thoughts. Then we have two quotes today from Marcus Aurelius and from Seneca. When you arise in the morning, tell yourself I will encounter busybodies, ingrates, egomaniacs, liars, the jealous and cranks. They are all stricken with these afflictions because they don't know the difference between good and evil. Because I have understood the beauty of good and the ugliness of evil. I know that the wrongdoers are still akin to me and that none can do me harm or implicate me in ugliness. Nor can I be angry at my relatives and hate them, for we are made for cooperation Before I get to the Seneca quote, I would say that the many first times I read this quote, especially when I read it young, I focused on that first part where you list just how awful and frustrating everyone will be. And I think that's sort of the rudimentary understanding is like, look, don't go into the world all rosy eyed and bushy tailed or you're going to get your heart stomped on, right? You got to be aware, you got to be prepared. Marx really says don't go expecting Plato's Republic, but it's really the second part of that that's hit me more. Right. Why is he doing that exercise? It's so when he's hit by it. When he's hit by a cheat or a liar or a person who is messing around on their spouse, or when sees somebody do something wrong, he's not surprised by it. It doesn't make him bitter, and it doesn't make him write off all of humanity as a whole. You know, he says, because I know better. I know that the wrongdoers are still akin to me. And he says, and none can do me hard or implicate me in ugliness, nor can I be angry at my relatives or hate them. That's something I've been working on. It's like I was just dealing with someone who I really care about, and they're just, you know, being, you know, not safe or smart or who I know them to be. And I wanted to unload on them, and I had to go, no, I care about this person. I should have prepared for this. I shouldn't have built them up in my head. They're a human being. They have flaws. They do the wrong thing sometimes. I'm not going to cast them out of my heart or out of my life for what they've done. And then this goes into the second Seneca quote. Being unexpected adds to the weight of a disaster. And being a surprise has never failed to increase a person's pain. For that reason, nothing should ever be unexpected by us. Our minds should be sent out in advance to all the things. And we shouldn't just consider the normal course of things. But what could actually happen? For is there anything in life that fortune won't knock off? A tie horse if it pleases her. I have the prima malorum coin here on my desk, and I just look at it. I go, look, look. Murphy's Law is real, man. Things can go sideways fast. You know, Seneca says, the only unforgivable thing for a general to say is, I did not think it would happen. So, of course, positive visualization is thinking of all the good things that can happen. You can succeed, you can break through, you can make it. If it's humanly possible, know you can do it. Marcus says, at the same time, the law of attraction is not real. If you think about negative things, you don't attract negative things. You actually make yourself more prepared to wrestle with and deal with and conquer those difficult things. And that is why we do our premeditatio Malorum. That is why we think of all the things that can happen. That's why we meditate on the people we're likely to meet, so that they can't drag us down, they can't implicate us in ugliness, and they can't make us unhappy. Hey, it's Ryan. 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