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Welcome to the Daily Stoic Podcast, where each day we bring you a Stoic inspired meditation designed to help you find strength and insight and wisdom into everyday life. Each one of these episodes is based on the 2000 year old philosophy that has guided some of history's greatest men and women to help you learn from them, to follow in their example, and to start your day off with a little dose of courage and discipline and justice and wisdom. For more, visit Dailystoic.com how astonished would they be? It was the furthest thing from his mind. In fact, it was the opposite of what he was aiming for or what he valued. The idea that people would one day read his meditations, that it would be studied thousands of years later, was inconceivable to the man writing for himself, a man who believed that posthumous fame was meaningless. And yet, can we imagine he would take some quiet satisfaction in the legacy his words left behind? That the accidental byproduct of his private reflections would be a source of strength and wisdom for millions. It pleases me to think, Marilyn Robinson writes, how astonished old Homer, whoever he was, would be to find his epics on the shelf of such an unimaginable being as myself in the middle of an unrumored continent. Marcus would have been astonished, if not temporarily horrified by the publication of his unedited thoughts, but just as much he would have been astonished by you. The restoration of the Republic, not just in America, but in constitutional democracies around the world. That we have gotten closer, as he hoped we would, to a society of equal laws governed by equality of status and speech, and of rulers who respect the liberties of their subjects. He would appreciate the interconnectedness of today's modern world. He would love that the philosophy that was already ancient in his day has continued and, and remains an ancient yet living philosophy to us today. He would love that people are still passing along Epictetus, just as Rusticus had passed Epictetus to him. It is astonishing, this world we live in, and it is a gift, this philosophical tradition we carry forward, let us be worthy of. Look, I think it takes most of our mental power and willpower just to decide to work out, right? To go, hey, I'm going to do that thing. I don't want to do it. It's going to be hard, but I'm going to do it. So then when you get down to doing it, you don't necessarily have all the energy and focus that you need to, like, do it right. And that's where today's sponsor comes in, because Tonal provides the convenience of a full gym and the guidance of a personal trainer anyt at home with one sleek system. The whole thing is designed to reduce your mental load. Tonal is the ultimate strength training system, helping you focus less on workout planning and more on getting results. 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So what if you're injured and can't climb up without another soldier's help? So what? That's Marcus Aurelius. Meditations 7:7. You know what? I like this quote so much I'm going to give you the Hayes one as well. What is that? It's a 7 7. So let me give you 77 from Hayes. Hayes says don't be ashamed to need help. Like a soldier storming a wall. You have a mission to accomplish. And if you've been wounded and need a comrade to pull you up, so what? Let's grab the Robin Waterfelt one too. See what he says about it. There's no shame in being helped because you've got to do the job you've been set like a soldier storming a city wall. Suppose you had a limp and were unable to scale the battlements on your own, but could do so with someone's assistance, right? So what? That's what he's saying. And the reason I love this quote so much and actually, let me get to the meditations first. No one ever said you were born with all the tools you'd need to solve every problem you'd Face in life. In fact, as a newborn, you were practically helpless. Someone helped you then, and you came to understand that you could ask for help. It's how you knew that you were loved. Well, you are still loved. And you can ask for help from anyone. You don't have to face everything on your own. If you need help, comrade, just ask. Look, the idea here, and why I love this quote so much, is it flies in the face of this stereotype of the emotionless, robotic, superhuman stoic that cannot ask for aid, cannot rely on anyone. That is an island. You are not an island. That's what Marx Aurelius is saying. No, you're part of a phalanx. You're part of a troop, a brigade, a battalion. And you're all in this together, protecting each other, helping each other. And in fact, to not ask for help, to just lay there and to give up, is not just weak, but cowardly, right? You have to be able to ask for help. There's a great book, I've read it to my kids a million times, called the Boy, the Fox, the Horse and the Mole. We sell it at the Painted Porch. If you haven't read it, even as an adult, promise you, you gotta get this book. But anyways, there's a passage in the book, he says asking for help isn't giving up, it's refusing to give up, right? Asking for help isn't weak. It's a sign of strength. You're not afraid of being seen as weak. You're committed. You're unbeatable, right? You. You will not go down without a fight. And you're willing to do anything and everything to keep going, including asking for help. So I don't know what you're going through. I don't know what's going on in your life. I don't know what you're struggling with. But you should not be afraid to ask for help. You should ask for help. Asking for help is important. I talk to my wife about this sometimes, like, or be at a store, and she's just looking all over the place for the thing. And I go, there are people whose job it is to help you. And in fact, by going and asking that Home Depot employee to show you something that's like one box that they don't have to lift, you're giving them purpose and something to do, right? By asking for help, you are giving other people the opportunity to feel and do good. Think about it that way. Like when your friends ask for help, are you like, oh, this fucking guy? No, you're glad, right? When your siblings ask for help like you enjoy the opportunity. So why would you think that other people would judge you or think critically of you or refuse you help? They wouldn't. So don't be afraid to ask for help. Don't be afraid to show weakness or vulnerability. This is a good thing and I hope that you do it. This could be therapy. This could be opening up to a spouse. This could be opening up to a parent, to a loved one, to a friend, could be to a total stranger. Could be just asking for directions when you're lost. Don't be afraid to ask for help. It is not unstoic. And in fact to persist in ignorance or error or uncertainty because you are afraid of looking foolish. Well, that is to miss the point of stoicism. As Epictetus says, if you want to improve, you have to be willing to be seen as foolish. I'm not saying you will look foolish by asking for help, but you have to be get over that fear of what other people will think to ask for and get what you need. So please, please do it. Appreciate all of your support here at Daily Stoic. I'm going to go have some fun on my birthday, so talk to you tomorrow. Hey, it's Ryan. Thank you for listening to the Daily Stoic podcast. I just wanted to say we so appreciate it. We love serving you. It's amazing to us that over 30 million people have downloaded these episodes in the couple years we've been doing it. It's an honor. Please spread the word, tell people about it. And this isn't to sell anything. I just wanted to say thank you. 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