C (6:19)

To an outdoor performance at the Nutcracker. They had a snow cone and then they went insane in the car ride home. And one of the things I try to remind myself when that's happening is that I don't control my kids behavior, especially when they're too far gone like that. But I do control how I respond.

A (6:36)

Right?

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That's stoicism. But it's also what Dr. Becky talks about. Dr. Becky is a clinical psychologist and a best selling author and she founded Good Inside, which is there to give parents practical, actionable tools for handling those everyday challenges with confidence. My wife introduced me to Dr. Becky's books. I love them. I've recommended them a million times. I've had her on the podcast and as it happens, Dr. Becky is hosting two live Q&A events for Good Inside members. I am one of them.

A (7:08)

She signed me up for it about a year and a half ago.

C (7:10)

I've loved it ever since. On December 1st, you can join Dr. Becky for her how not to Raise Assholes event, which is about avoiding entitlement and raising kind, empathetic kids. And on December 15, she's hosting her how not to Lose it over the Holidays event, which I'm sure we could all use. As I said, I'm a big fan of Dr. Becky. She's been a great influence for me as a parent and just as a human being. And Daily Stoic listeners can join for 15% off with code STOIC15. You just gotta head over to goodinside.com to catch the events.

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Today I'm going to give you 10,000 pages that will change your life. These are some of the best. Also some of the longest and biggest books ever written. But they are worth it. I promise you. All right, let's get into it. Here we have the collected works of Ralph Waldo Emerson. My favorite Emerson essay is of course Self Reliance, but I also love his one on compensation. He has this very stoic idea that everything that happens in life has its compensation. What are we going to do about it? How are we going to learn from it? What's it going to demand from us? But of course, famously, as he says, nothing can bring you peace but the triumph of your principles. If you haven't read Emerson, I don't know why what you are doing, let's not only give Emerson a read, but let's read past just self reliance. Of course, Marcus Aurelius's Meditations is the shortest one in the list, but it is the most remarkable. The private thoughts of the most powerful man in the world. Here we have Atlas Shrugged clocking in at a measly 1200 pages. You should read them and then you should grow the fuck up and not be an Ayn Randian. These are ideas that appeal to the ego, that appeal to the selfish part of us. There are some interesting insights for sure, but I think Ayn Rand is someone you read and then you grow out of. This is a wonderful biography. We think of Gandhi mostly in India, but we forget that he invents his principles of non violence. He comes of age as a political strategist, as a lawyer in India. So this is all about Gandhi before he becomes Gandhi as we know him. There's a great line about him in this book that Gandhi goes to Britain and becomes a lawyer and then he goes to South Africa to become the Mahatma. And this is where he's introduced to Tolstoy. This is an amazing book. Absolutely one of my all time favorites. You read the Odyssey because the Odyssey is the key to not just understanding difficulties and trials and the ups and downs of life, which Odysseus of course goes through, but is also the key by which you unlock most of the metaphors, analogies, ideas, plot points, the hero's journey that is so pivotal to all of the rest of Western literature. The Stoics believed you needed to have read both the Odyssey and the Iliad because they were the key to understanding what Stoic philosophy was all about. Another book about the ancient Greeks. This is Steven Pressfield's the Gates of Fire, which is one of my all time favorite novels. I have the mass market paperback here, so we'll call it here at 450 or so pages, just a masterpiece. You should definitely read it. Robert Caro. I have two Robert Caro selections here. So we have the Power Broker, which is a riveting book about the New York City parks commissioner, maybe one of the greatest builders and political tacticians of all time. This book is 1200 or so pages, you'd think it would be boring. Every single page is riveting. It's kind of a mirror of Breaking Bad. Like here you have someone attracted to power, driven by power, but also driven by idealism in principles and. And making a difference at the beginning. And yet something changes in him as he accumulates more and more power. And yet also it is an insight into how we get things done. People who want to do good things need to read this book. People who want to not do bad things need to read this book. Robert Caro is one of the greatest biographers to ever live. The series on Lyndon Johnson is the next one. This is one of the books in this series. I've read all of them. This one's 880 pages. They're all about this length. He hasn't even gotten to Vietnam yet. Hopefully he will finish it in time. If these are the only books you ever read in your life about history, power, politics, you would probably have a better understanding than 99% of the population. But it's not the only thing you should read. You should also read Doris Kearns Goodwin's Team of Rivals about Abraham Lincoln. We see Abraham Lincoln kind of like we do Gandhi as this saint, a man who came out this way fully formed. Of course it wasn't. It was an evolution. And he was a politician, just an effective politician. He was a politician who had principles. And this is largely about Lincoln. During the Civil War, the cabinet he selects, many of which were people who thought they were better than him, people who he disagreed with, people who wanted his job. And yet Lincoln was not only able to save the country, he was able to save the country and make this unwieldy cabinet work. It's one of the great feats of leadership of all time. You should absolutely read this book. If you haven't seen the movie Lincoln, it is based on this book, Ron Chernow's biography of Hamilton. Lin Manuel Miranda reads this book on vacation as a young up and coming songwriter and playwright. And he immediately sees in it what most people had missed, what Ron Chernow famously was able to see. Alexander Hamilton has one of the most incredible and most American lives you could possibly imagine. How does a bastard orphan, son of a whore become a Founding Father? This is an absolutely incredible book and in many ways a cautionary tale. Because as brilliant and talented and inspiring as Alexander Hamilton was, his passions, as the Stoics would have said, his ambition, his drive, his lack of emotional control, his lack of control of himself ultimately leads to his Downfall. There are so many cautionary tales and lessons in here. I read this book in hardcover and then I listened to it in audiobook with my son who's obsessed with the Hamilton musical. It is as good as the play The Warmth of Other Sons Isabella Wilkerson's book on the Great Migration History is not supposed to make you feel good. It's supposed to challenge you. It's supposed to challenge your assumptions. Why do black Americans live in the cities that they live in? What happened during the Jim Crow era? Where did those people go? That's what the Warmth of Other Suns is all about. This reads almost like a giant Russian novel, but it's about America and it's about generations of Americans who fleeing for a better life but not coming from overseas to America, but coming from the deep south to Chicago and California and New York and what they learned, what they overcame, how it changed them and how they changed the country. Absolutely love this book. If you read my book Discipline is Destiny I talk a lot about Queen Elizabeth ii I think is one of the most incredible figures of the 20th century. The world literally remakes itself in her reign. Like half the countries on earth when she died did not exist when she was born or vice versa. I forget. The point is she lived an incredible life and the arc of most of the 20th century and interacted with most incredible people of the 20th century. I am fascinated by the role of the queen or the British monarch because they are both invested with an incredible amount of symbolism and authority and yet they have very little power. Yet much is expected of them. It seems like it would be an easy job. You see in this book that it was actually an incredibly difficult job and it required an incredible amount of restraint and discipline to be able to do it well, which she did for basically longer than anyone. She met literally millions of people. She gave hundreds of thousands of speeches, she gave out hundreds of thousands of awards. She traveled millions of miles on all over the world. Incredible and fascinating book. This book here is one of the most incredible stories in the history of publishing. How does one of America's greatest generals, one of its greatest presidents, end up losing everything? A crooked Wall street operator steals all of his money, he's dying of cancer and he's looking at leaving his family nothing. Talking about, of course, Ulysses S. Grant. Ulysses S. Grant is on the verge of death and Mark Twain, who hated what publishers had done to him, approaches him with effectively a self publishing deal. They work out a publishing venture and Grant rushes to finish these memoirs. He dies just a few Days after they finish and they go on to be one of the best selling memoirs in American history. And I would say one of the best memoirs in American history. It is the arc of an incredible American life. Graduates from West Point, a hero of the Mexican American War, but then he plunges into alcoholism, he makes a number of mistakes, he ends up selling firewood by the side of the road. And yet within a few years, he's not just a general back in the Union army, but he is leading the Union cost to victory in the Civil War. He has a strategic vision, a determination, a perseverance that makes him the right man at the right moment. He and Lincoln manage to to triumph over the Confederacy. And then afterwards, he writes this incredible memoir about his incredible life, which was filled with tragedy and triumphs alike. But it is a brilliant, beautiful book that every American should read. Big epic novel, lots of stoic themes, but it's a novel about human nature. It's a novel about stoicism, It's a novel about race, It's a novel about American history. It's a novel about California. It's a novel about many, many things. It's one of my absolute favorite books, actually. I like this book so much that I read the book that Steinbeck wrote about writing this book. It's called Journal of a Novel. This is just one of the great novels of all time. You should read it and then reread it because you take something new out of it each time. A lot of people not that interested in Queen Elizabeth ii. I get it. Queen Victoria has an even less attractive reputation, but equally worthy of an incredible book. She lived an incredible life through incredible times and was actually a great ruler. Most of the big biographies that I recommend were written by men, but Julia Baird does Queen Victoria an incredible service. It's also about her husband. Just a fascinating book. I loved this. I used it a lot actually, when I was writing. Stillness is the key. This book reads like a novel about an incredible life. Absolutely amazing. What do all of these writers have in common? They were masters, masters of their craft. And then the person they were writing about was a master of something. Which is why I will give you this book, which, you know, compared to some of these others, seems short. But it's still almost 400 pages. This is Robert Greene's mastery. I was a research assistant on this book, which was the treat of my life. Taught me a lot. Robert also published a thousand page transcript. I believe you can get it for free on Amazon of all of the masters he interviewed. So that gets us well above 10,000 pages on these books. If you haven't read them, you are missing out. Should you read all of them? Yes. Can you go wrong by picking any one or a couple of them? No. You cannot read all of these books and all 10,000 pages. Masters writing about masters read these.

A (18:44)

I read a lot.

B (18:44)

It's sort of my job. You can't write without reading. But for almost 15 years now, once a month I send out an email with my favorite book recommendations for that month. Books that I've been reading, books that I've been going through. Books that changed my life, that inspired me, that I think connect to what's.

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Happening in the world.

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And you could sign up right now@ryanholliday.net ReadingList.

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D (19:48)

I'm seeing a pattern here.

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Well, yeah, we're talking about what I.

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Crave, which is anything from am pm.

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