Dr. John DeLoney (53:48)
It's also important for your kids to learn how to manage boredom, sadness, and all those things that are just a natural part of being alive. But by and large, the research tells me families get a better version of both parents when both parents have friends outside the home, have experiences outside the home, have relationships outside the home too. So go make it happen. You're a move brother. Today's your independence day. Go get some friends. Go do fun crazy stuff. Don't carry your kids frustrations or annoyances or tears and shove them in your chest and call that guilt. That's not what that is. That's just kids loving their dad being kids. It's supposed to be that way. And then feel all your feelings and go have the time of your life. And don't break your leg snowboarding. That'll make this call really sad at the end. Appreciate you, brother. We'll be right back. Two things my listeners care about are sleeping well and healthy kids. 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The 50% off beam's dream Powder with my discount code Deloney. Go to shop s h o p shop beam.com DeLoney and use code DeLoney at checkout. That's shop beam b a m dot com DeLoney and use code DeLoney for up to 50% off their dream powder. All right, we are back. Hey listen, I talk to so many of you every day who are frustrated with the state of your marriage. You like the person you married and you want it to be better. And you'll look at each other and just get right back in the same dance over and over and over again. I've been hearing this for years since I've been doing the show and sitting with people behind closed doors. And so here's the deal. The path forward is almost never a big firework show. It's a thousand microhabits, a bunch of tiny little things that you do day in and day out. Yes, they're boring sometimes or they're pretty awesome, but it's just the constant doing over and over again, and it's hard to know where to start. So me and my friends created the Together app. It's on your phone, and you know how much I don't like apps. This one is actually awesome and helps you start small and gives you simple activities that you can do for yourself and for your spouse every day. These are microhabits for your marriage. It's. It's incredible, dude. Your marriage is built in, in the small, everyday moments, and this shows you how to do it. It's six bucks a month. I know everyone's out there struggling financially. I got you six bucks a month. Your marriage is worth it, I promise you. Click the link in the show notes or search together in the app store and you Android people. I'm working on it. I'm working on it. Relax, relax. It's coming. But if you got an iPhone, go to the Together app in the app store. All right, Alex, something cool happened today. What's. What's up? Yeah, Maddie said something awesome happened. After listening to your show, it is apparent that so many issues adults face today stem from insecurities in their childhood. So I started doing something with my four year old daughter. It's called FaceTime. Once a day I yell facetime, and she comes running and puts her face in my hands. I get down on her level, look in her eyes and hold her face and say, I love you and I'm proud of you. You are beautiful, you are brave and you are capable. I will continue to do this as long as she is under my roof and for any, any other future kids as well. Thank you for all you do. That's awesome. I've talked before in the past on, man, you can get kind of nerdy. But physiologically, kids, all of us have a lot of nerve endings in our face. There's something powerful about somebody touching our face and how it, what it does to your nervous system. But doing that with your kids, especially getting down on their eye level, we forget. Adults forget that we're humongous to a 4 year old, right? Or to a 6 year old or even to a 10 year old. We're huge. And so getting down on their eye level holding their face and looking them directly in the eye. Even if they, like, flinch or they look away, they're like, oh, stop, dad. Stop telling your kids. So proud of you, and I love you. What that does is it sets the table for when you have to have challenging conversations, when you have to have accountability conversations, when you have to say, hey, in this house, we don't do that. You've already built a firm foundation, so they know that that challenge is coming from a place of not criticism and anger, but from a place of love and connection. So it just sets the stage for their entire life. So good call. What was her name? Maddie. Maddie. You're changing your family tree, and that's amazing, everybody. And by the way, my kid, now my son, he's taller than me. Still try my best to stand up on my tippy toes, man, he loves looking down on his old man. And I do the same thing with even my older kids. Constantly put your kids h heads. Constantly put your hands on their face and tell them that you love them. Look them in the eyes. It'll change everything. Bye.
