Dr. John DeLoney (24:57)
But, but you guys using your dues, hey, we're going to throw two less keg parties. And I know you can't call them keg parties. You have to call them gatherings or dance parties and whatever. I know that. But we're going to throw two less parties and we're going to take that 5,000 bucks and we're going to put it towards. If you all need to go see a counselor, we're going to cover the first three sessions for free or we're going to pay half the price wherever it is. Okay. And that way they can go and they can talk to somebody, to a licensed professional. We're going to help out there. That would be amazing. And it would probably, if you, if you initiated that with your, if you asked for some seed money from your national chapter, that would probably get you national recognition because that'd be a new way to handle this problem. But that's. And I'd go knock on doors with local therapists and see if they would show up. And, and then y' all need to have hard, hard conversations internally about you're just not going to accept this kind of behavior at our events and our parties. And if you want to be a part of this group, then great. And otherwise you can leave. And I know that's a financial commitment to you guys because people will leave and you want to lose a lot of chapter members, but it also is just about saying, hey, we're gonna just take a stand on this thing because we're tired of 19 year olds going bananas. And it will also challenge you guys to come up with cool, fun stuff to do that's outside the box. That's just a blast that people may not have thought of before, but is there ways to have fun without just being super unhealthy all the time? So, man, I love, love, love that you're asking this question. What I want you to do is think in terms of action steps instead of ceremonial steps. We have the mental health chair. What is that? That a stupid. That's just going. Somebody's going to put that on their resume. Dumb. Not doing that. That's gone. We dissolved that. We've actually created a fund. If you want to go see a counselor, we will ask no questions. We will send a check over to that person, to the counselor for you on your behalf. We'll write the check, send it over. I'm not going to give you cash. I'm going to send it directly to them, or we've given them 5,000 bucks on retainer. Any of y' all can go use that. You can go see this counseling group. And by the way, if your therapists aren't good, I want you guys to work with the inter fraternity council that all of Creek life is going to petition the university to hire more therapists because we need some more help around here. So there's, there's activist things you can do, there is practical things you can do. And you can also say, hey, we're just, we're just going to go dry. And I know we're going to get beat up and everybody's going to make fun of us and the old guard's going to be like, I can't believe. I know. But we're just going to stop the, the madness because we're watching our brothers just fall apart in front of us and we want to be about building each other up. So, great, great question, Chris. Thanks for caring about people. And if you're listening to this thinking, oh, God, fraternities, um, think about the groups that you inhabit and where can you reduce friction? Where can you actually implement real things in real life? And where can you just say, hey, as for us in this group, we're not going to be a part of this anymore. Thanks for the call, Chris. I'm really, really grateful for you. We come back, talk to a dad who is wrestling with how moving is going to impact his family. This show is sponsored by Better Help. Everyone is talking about therapy, therapy, therapy these days. 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