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business, three employees and two work trucks.
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Kevin Patrick
Shockingly low, huh?
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Just a little bit of electrician humor.
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Kevin Patrick
Do you get it? I got it.
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Kevin Patrick
and see how much you could save. It feels good to Geico Imagine your life is a house. Not a metaphor, an actual house. 12 rooms. Walk in the front door right now and tell me, how many rooms have you been in this week? Most people pause when I ask that question. Not because they don't understand it, because they do. So I'll go first. For most of my adult life, I lived in two rooms. Maybe two and a half. Maybe the professional room and the material room. In those rooms, I made a lot of money. I mean, a lot. Sadly, I spent it every dollar, chasing the next thing. The next car, the next experience, the next version of what I told myself a successful life was supposed to look like. And for a long time, I called that living. It wasn't living. It was running. And I was running so fast I never noticed the other 10 rooms were dark.
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Narrator/Host
The business world is obsessed with productivity hacks, efficiency models, and the next big framework. And it's all missing the point because the real edge, it's been dismissed as soft, irrelevant, unprofessional. This is the dream dividend where we're done apologizing for putting people before process. And the ROI speaks for itself. Time to break some rules. Here's your host, Kevin Patrick.
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Kevin Patrick
Before I walk you through my rooms, I want to give you something. And that's a set of keys. Matthew Kelly, the mind behind the Dream Manager methodology, spent years studying a single question. What does it actually mean for a human being to become the best version of themselves? Not the most productive version, not the highest earning version, and not the version that looks best from the outside. The best version. The whole version. The version that's fully alive. And what he found was this. Most of us collapse our entire lives into one or two categories, usually the ones the world rewards us for. And then we spend decades wondering why we feel hollow, why the success doesn't land the way we thought it would. And why we're tired in a way that sleep doesn't fix. So he mapped it 12 dream categories. Rooms in the house of a human life. First, we'll start with the physical. What do you want for your body? Your health, your energy, the way you want to move things throughout this world? Second is emotional. That's the quality of your inner love. How do you actually want to feel? Not just function intellectually. What do you want to learn? What ideas still excite you? What are you curious about when nobody's watching? Spiritual. Whatever that means to you, that's your relationship. Something larger than yourself. Psychological is simply your mental health, Your peace. The quiet inside when everything outside is loud. Material is the things that you want. And I'll say this without apology. There is nothing wrong with wanting a beautiful life. The material room matters. We just can't let it be. The only professional is simply the work. What you're building, what you're here to contribute, and financial is the resources that make the building possible creatively. What you want to make or what wants to come through you to this world. Adventure. Where you want to go, what you want to feel. And when was the last time you did something to make you feel alive and legacy? What do you want to leave behind about who you have been? And last but not least is character. Who you are becoming, not who you perform to be who you actually are. 12 rooms. When I first sat with that list alone, no clients, no agenda, I did the honest inventory. Professional room full built. Something real, something I'm proud of. Material room. Well, we'll get to that later. And then I had to look at the other 10. Some of them I hadn't been in for years.
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Kevin Patrick
to save one of them I hadn't been in since I was a child. Today, I'm going to walk you through three of them. The ones that cracked me open, the ones that are still, if I'm honest, works in progress. Because that's the thing about the dream manager that nobody tells you at first. The rooms aren't a destination, they're a practice. Let's start with the Financial Room. So I'm going to tell you something about money and I need you to hear it the right way. Not as a cautionary tale and not as a confession for its own sake, but because I know what I'm about to say is true for more people in this audience than would anyone ever admit it. Listen, I've earned more money in my career than most people will see in three lifetimes. I don't have a lot saved. Let me say that again. I've earned more than most people will ever see and have next to nothing saved for a long time. I couldn't even form that sentence because the cognitive dissonance of it, the gap between what I earned and where I stood, was too painful to look at directly. So I didn't look at it. I just kept earning and kept spending and told myself the next level would be different. It wasn't different because the problem was never the income. The problem was that I had never once sat down and asked myself what the financial room was actually supposed to be for. What was I building toward? Not the answer that sounds good in a meeting. The real answer. The answer at 2 in the morning when the performance is over and it's just me and the truth. I didn't have one. And here's the reason why. I was using the material room to fill something the financial room was supposed to build. Every time there was a distance between me and something uncomfortable, something I didn't want to feel, something I didn't want to face. I bought something. I upgraded something. I moved on to the next thing. It works, by the way, for a while. The material room is very good at creating the feeling of progress without the substance of. Took two things to turn this around, and I'm going to name them both because I think they belong together in the same breath. First was the work of recovery, a daily, unglamorous, sometimes brutal discipline of looking at what you're actually doing and why of learning slowly, imperfectly, at what you are chasing is never going to fill what you're running from. That work saved my life. I say that without drama, because it's Simply true. The second was this framework, the 12 rooms. Because recovery got me honest about what I was doing. The Dream Manager methodology gave me something to do instead. A map for what I actually wanted. Not what I thought I was supposed to want, not what looked right on the outside, what I KP actually wanted the rooms of my life to look like. The Financial Room is still under construction, and I won't pretend otherwise, but for the first time in my life, I know what I'm building it for. And that changes everything about how I show up to build it. What is this all for? In eos, the entrepreneurial operating system, the Vision Traction Organizer asks you to define your 10 year target, your three year picture and your one year plan. The whole architecture assumes you know what you're building toward. What I lived for years was a person running the traction side with extraordinary effectiveness. Executing, earning and producing. While the vision side was essentially blank. The machine was running. It just wasn't pointed at anything that mattered. The Dream Manager conversation is what fills the vision layer, not just the organization for the person inside it. Until you know what the Financial Room is for, the number on the scorecard does not mean a thing. Second is the Legacy room. My legacy has two sides. On one side there's the addiction, the years of it, the wreckage it made, the relationships it tested. And some it broke. The version of myself that I lost and lost badly. And I had to go looking for it in in the dark. So there's that in there. I don't hide it. It's part of what I am leaving behind. Not as a wound to display, but as proof. Proof that you can go down as far as I went and still come back. Proof that the floor, when you finally hit it, can become the foundation on the other side of that room. I never stayed down every time. Picked myself up, dusted myself off, kept going. I don't fully know where that comes from, but I know it's mine now. That refusal to stay on the floor, I've earned it. It's the truest thing in the room. But the people who live in my Legacy room, the ones who were there every single morning when I opened the door, they're not clients. They're not the podcast, they're not any of it. They're my mom and dad. Both of them are gone now. My dad was a Marine. I don't need to say much more than that. If you know, you know. There's a kind of person the Marine Corps makes or maybe reveals. He's disciplined, resolute, and had a certain way of standing in the world that doesn't bend when things get hard. I can see it in myself on the days when I show up for things that cost something. I didn't choose that quality. I inherited it. My mother, on the other hand, was a saint. Not a perfect person, a saint. There's a difference. A saint is someone who loves past the point where most people stop. Who shows up when it's inconvenient and costly and quiet and no one is watching. Who gives in ways that never make the ledger because they were never meant to. That's who she was. I carry both of them with me every day. The Marine spine and the saint's heart. And the knowledge that I did not always honor what they gave me. That's in the Legacy Room, too. How often I fell short. When I first went through the 12 categories with real honesty, not as a facilitator, but as a person. I got to the Legacy Room and thought it was about what I was going to build professionally. The podcast, the platform, clients I served, and the impact that I was going to have on people. All of that matters. But the truest thing in the Legacy Room, the thing that sat in the corner waiting for me to finally look at it, had nothing to do with any of that. My parents were of Irish descent, both of them. My last name is Patrick. My mother's maiden name was McDonald. And guess what? Neither of them ever made it back to Ireland. Life got in the way. They had six kids. Life gets in the way if you let it. And then time passed and then time ran out. They never stood on the land they came from as adults, never got to feel whatever it is you feel when you go back to the place that made the people who made you, in this case, my grandparents. Well, I am thrilled to announce that I am going to Ireland with my wife Kelly, and my sons, Liam and Brendan, on April 1st. Additionally, I'm bringing my parents with me. I have their ashes, and I'm going to carry them to the coast and I'm going to find the right place. I'll know it when I see it. And I'm going to say whatever comes to heart, because I've had a hole in my heart since I lost them, both of them. It's going to be something to the effect of, go, you are free. This is home. That's what I'm going to say. Maybe out loud, maybe to myself, but I'm going to say it. And when I do, when I stand there on the edge of the Atlantic and say those words, that will be the truest moment of my Legacy Room. Not a podcast episode, not a framework, not a business, a son bringing his parents home. That's what the Legacy Room looks like when you're honest enough to go all the way in. Here's what I've learned. You cannot design a legacy from the outside in. You cannot build it out of achievements, however real they are. Legacy is what happens when you finally get honest about who made you and what you're going to do about it. As I said, my parents never made it back to Ireland. EOS asks leadership teams to define their core values. The things so fundamental they're non negotiable. The things that define not just how you work, but who you are. What I know now, after this work, after recovery, after sitting honestly in the Legacy Room, is that my core values didn't come from a whiteboard exercise. They came from a marine and a saint. They came from discipline and love, from resilience and grace. The spine that never broke and the heart that never closed. As an integrator, part of my job is helping organizations find what's actually load bearing. What if you removed it? The whole structure would fail. The Legacy Room is where I find the load bearing walls of my life. Do you know what those are? You. You're building on ground that you haven't fully surveyed. Please. I want to stay with Ireland for a moment longer because what I just told you, that's the legacy story. But there's another story sitting right next to it in a different room. And that's the Adventure Room. For years, most of my adult life, my Adventure Room was empty. Not neglected exactly, just vacant. I walked past it so many times, I stopped noticing the door. I was too busy, too focused, too deep in the professional room and the material room to spend time thinking about where I actually wanted to go, what I actually wanted to experience when I had last done something just because it made me feel alive. Then I sat down with this framework, not as a consultant or a facilitator, as a person. When I got to the Adventure Room, I almost skipped it. I want to stay with that for a second because it matters. The almost skip in my experience working with people through these 12 categories, the room someone almost skips is almost always the most important one. It's not that there's nothing There, it's that there's too much. Something you wanted so badly for so long that you stopped letting yourself want it. Because wanting it and not having it hurt more than just closing the door. Ireland had been sitting in the back of my mind for years. Not just as a promise to my parents, though, it was that, too, because we actually had a trip booked to go and then Covid hit, but as something that I personally, genuinely wanted. I wanted my feet to touch the land. I want to feel the history, and I want that feeling of standing in the place that made the people who made the people who made me right. That's right. The part of my identity I'd been too busy or maybe too scared to go looking for. Dream managers have walked thousands of people through this framework, and the pattern is consistent. Consistent enough that we can say it plainly. The Adventure Room isn't always about adventure. It's about permission. Permission to want something that doesn't have a business case. Permission to go somewhere just because you've always wanted to go. Permission to feel something that isn't on anyone's scorecard. Permission to say out loud to yourself, I want this. Not because it makes me more productive. Not because it serves my brand, because I want it. And that's enough. The people who leave the adventure room blank aren't people who don't want things. They're people who were never given permission to want them. So let me be the dream manager in the room for the moment, because I am. I'm the one that's here. You have permission. Whatever is in that room you've been walking past, the trip you keep postponing, the thing you keep calling impractical, the version of yourself that existed before the world told you to be reasonable. You have permission. Go. You are free. This is home. In EOS, rocks are the most important priorities of the next 90 days. Well, guess what? Ireland is my rock. It's not a business rock. It's a life rock. And one thing that I had to learn, I have to keep learning, is that life rocks and business rocks are not competitors. At least they shouldn't be. They are collaborators. I come back from Ireland after I've stood on that coast and said what I need to say and left what I needed to leave. I feel like I'm going to come back different. Not dramatically different, but still in a way that matters. I feel like I'm going to be a little more whole, a little more settled, a little more the person I'm supposed to be narrating this podcast. The 12 rooms are not a distraction from the work. They're the reason the work is worth doing. Three rooms. The Financial Room taught me that earning and building are not the same thing. That you can be extraordinary at creating money and still be broke in all the ways that matter if you Legacy Room showed me that people who live there aren't always the ones still living. That my parents are more present in who I am than most people I see every day turned out to be the room where everything converged. Where the Legacy Room and the Financial Room and the grief and the recovery and the framework all came together into something simple. And that's a trip. A trip to the coast with a promise for a Tuesday in April. Here's what I'm going to leave you with today. Which room have you been walking past? Not the one that needs the most work. Not the one you already know is empty. The one with the oldest dust in the door. The one you almost skipped when you saw it on the list. The room is not empty because nothing's there. It's closed because opening it costs something. In the last episode, I introduced you to three people who went completely blank when asked, what are your dreams? They weren't broken. They weren't without dreams. They were just people who had been lying in two rooms and and calling it a house. You have 12. And somewhere in the ones you've been avoiding, I promise you this, because I've seen it too many times to doubt it. Somewhere in those rooms, the next version of your life is already waiting. It's been waiting a long time. Let it out. Next week on the Dream Dividend. You have the framework. You know the 12 rooms. But Matthew Kelly's foundational principle goes further than room's. It goes to the organization itself. A company can only become the best version of itself to the extent that its people are becoming better versions of themselves. What happens when a company decides to take that seriously? Not as a tagline, not as a perk, not as a line, the mission statement nobody reads, but as the actual design principle underneath everything they build. Episode three, the best version starts with a number. 400%. It's being built in the rooms we forgot we had. And it's Tuesday.
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Narrator/Host
If this episode made you uncomfortable, good. That means you are paying attention. The future belongs to leaders who stop managing people like assets and start investing in them like humans. See you next time. And remember, dreams aren't frivolous. Ignoring them is.
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