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Episode Title: You Can't Self-Care Your Way Out of a Toxic Workplace
Host: John Jantsch
Guest: Amy Leneker, leadership consultant, speaker, and author of "Cheers to Monday"
Release Date: January 15, 2026
Episode Overview
In this episode, John Jantsch welcomes Amy Leneker to discuss her new book, Cheers to Monday: The Surprisingly Simple Method to Lead and Live with Less Stress and More Joy. The conversation centers around workplace stress, why self-care alone isn't enough to fix toxic environments, and what leaders, teams, and organizations can do to foster joy and reduce stress at work. Amy provides actionable frameworks, candid personal insights, and practical advice for business leaders, managers, and teams seeking to move beyond "busy and burned out" to a culture of meaningful well-being.
Key Discussion Points and Insights
Amy’s Journey: From Workaholic to Workplace Joy Advocate
- Burnout as a Turning Point:
Amy describes her own story of intense overwork followed by a dramatic burnout, leading her to rethink her approach to work-life balance.“I didn’t realize it until I burnt out and I burned out in a really horrible, epic way.” (02:06, Amy)
- Relatability of Overwork:
She positions herself as a "recovering workaholic," acknowledging the universal pull to overwork—especially in leadership roles.
Understanding Stress: Good, Bad, and Overwhelming
- Eustress vs. Distress:
Not all stress is negative; a moderate level (eustress) can boost performance, but chronic or excessive stress (distress) leads to burnout and lowered performance.“There are good types of stress... but that's not always what people are experiencing at work.” (03:14, Amy)
- Recognizing Hidden Stress:
Many leaders and team members don’t realize the level of stress they're under until it’s alleviated.
Transforming Workplace Stress: The Three-Step Method
Amy presents the framework from her book for tackling workplace stress:
- See It:
Identify and name all sources of stress in your work environment. - Sort It:
Categorize stressors into five actionable types to determine the right intervention. - Solve It:
Use a decision matrix to map each stressor to a practical next step, avoiding analysis paralysis.
“Most people think all work stress is the same, but it's not. So we sort it... you can actually do something with.” (04:06, Amy)
Stress and Teams: Collective Responsibility Over Individual Fixes
- It Takes a Village:
Amy emphasizes that workplace stress is a systemic and group issue, not simply an individual one.“Stress is not an individual problem. It can’t be solved by one person doing something differently. It really is a group effort.” (07:00, Amy)
- Inclusive Action Items:
Her book provides tailored actions for leaders, team members, and organizations, making it a tool for shared action.
Addressing Pushback: Time and “Touchy-Feely” Barriers
- Common Resistance:
Organizations often claim lack of time or dismiss mental health as "too touchy feely." - Reality Check:
Amy notes that by the time leaders seek her out, stress has usually reached a crisis, eroding performance and profitability.
Joy vs. Toxic Positivity
- The Dangers of Forced Positivity:
Amy distinguishes authentic “joy strategy” from toxic positivity, which actually raises stress and worsens culture.“Toxic positivity grossly increases stress in organizations... The two things are night and day as far as I'm concerned.” (08:54, Amy)
The Role of Culture, Trust, and Change Readiness
- Systemic Stress and “Dream Jobs”:
Amy warns that unhealthy workplace systems create “system stress” impossible to overcome individually.- She shares an anecdote of a client in her "dream job" that was, in reality, toxic.
- Trust as a Foundation:
Real culture change starts with trust.“If they're not willing to do work on trust, then I decline the engagement because I cannot do work on stress if I can't do work on trust.” (11:39, Amy)
HR, Self-Care, and Breaking the Blame Cycle
- HR’s Role:
HR must ensure fairness and equity, but cannot be the sole owners of stress management.“You cannot self-care your way out of a toxic work environment.” (13:16, Amy)
- Self-Care Isn’t Enough:
Perks like yoga or free massages are helpful, but superficial if systemic issues remain.
Practical Advice for Leaders
- The Stress Ruler Tool:
Amy suggests regular “stress check-ins” by mentally rating your stress on a 0–10 scale.“Just check in—how challenging is my stress?... that little moment of awareness... is priceless.” (14:40, Amy)
- Track the Metrics:
Stress reduction leads to lower absenteeism, higher productivity, and better engagement—improvements visible to leadership and measurable in ROI. - ROI Reality:
Positive change is usually noticed by others in the organization, sparking a ripple effect.
Generational Attitudes Toward Work and Joy
- Changing Expectations:
Differences exist between generations regarding joy at work—older generations saw work as duty, younger ones expect fulfillment.- Leaders are encouraged to test, not assume, what each team member values.
“My dad never expected to feel joy... not just a day at work. He said, ‘I never thought I would feel joy a minute at work.’” (17:25, Amy)
Work-Life Harmony, Not Balance
- Reframing the Goal:
Amy prefers “work-life harmony,” customizing the integration of professional and personal priorities to current life circumstances.“There is no way to achieve work life balance. It just ends up in shame and blame and guilt and judgment. Work life harmony is really different.” (20:12, Amy)
Small Businesses, Entrepreneurs & Universal Application
- Every Team, Every Size:
Amy asserts that these frameworks are equally valid for small businesses, solo entrepreneurs, and families.“The skills are exactly the same, whether you're in a boardroom at work or whether you're at happy hour with a friend or at the dinner table with your family.” (20:54, Amy)
Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments
| Speaker | Quote | Timestamp | |--------------|---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------|-----------| | Amy Leneker | "You cannot self-care your way out of a toxic work environment." | 13:16 | | Amy Leneker | “Toxic positivity grossly increases stress in organizations... it actually makes them worse.” | 08:54 | | Amy Leneker | “Stress is not an individual problem. It can’t be solved by one person doing something differently.” | 07:00 | | Amy Leneker | “If they're not willing to do work on trust, then I decline the engagement because I cannot do work on stress if I can't do work on trust.” | 11:39 | | Amy Leneker | "Just check in—how challenging is my stress? ... that little moment of awareness ... is priceless." | 14:40 | | Amy Leneker | "There is no way to achieve work life balance. It just ends up in shame and blame and guilt and judgment. Work life harmony is really different." | 20:12 | | John Jantsch | “So when you... start talking about mental health and stress and joy, what's the most common pushback?” | 07:33 |
Segment Timestamps
- Amy’s Story & Introduction to Workaholism: 01:54 – 03:14
- Understanding Different Types of Stress: 03:14 – 04:06
- The Three-Step Method for Transforming Stress: 03:57 – 04:43
- How Teams Can Tackle Stress Together: 05:54 – 07:05
- Organizational Pushback & Urgency: 07:33 – 08:43
- Joy vs. Toxic Positivity: 08:54 – 09:40
- Changing Workplace Culture & Systemic Barriers: 09:40 – 11:19
- Trust as a Foundation for Change: 11:36 – 12:04
- HR & The Limits of Self-Care: 13:16 – 14:24
- Practical Stress Awareness Tool: 14:40 – 15:24
- Proving ROI of Reducing Stress: 15:24 – 16:41
- Generational Differences in Work Expectations: 16:41 – 18:46
- Work-Life Harmony, Not Balance: 20:02 – 20:42
- Relevance to Small Businesses: 20:54 – 21:44
Further Resources & How to Connect
- Amy's Website: amyleneker.com
- Cheers to Monday (Book): Available everywhere March 24, 2026
This episode is a must-listen for leaders and team members at all levels who recognize that stress management requires more than meditation apps and wellness perks—it's about culture, trust, and a systemic approach to joy at work.