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Thaddeus Bullard
This is the Ed Mylan Show.
Ed Mylett
All right, welcome back to the show, everybody. Well, today I thought I had the deepest voice in all of podcasting. But I think you're about to hear a deeper one. We were just joking about that off camera. My guest today, I have wanted to talk to for a long time after seeing him speak and obviously I've watched him on TV for so many years. Most of you know him as Titus O'Neill, but I know him as an all time we hall of Famer. He's a philanthropist, he's an author of a book that we're going to talk about today. And one of the most incredible stories you will ever hear in your life, you're about to hear right now. In the next hour, I'm going to spend with Thaddeus Bullard. So, Thaddeus, welcome to the show, my friend. Good to have you.
Thaddeus Bullard
Thanks for having me, man. Yeah, I'm glad I beat you in something in the endorse to having the deepest voice on the podcast.
Ed Mylett
Well, I've also stood next to you and I'm a pretty big dude, but it's not even close. You've beat me at a lot of different things. This is one of the biggest men and strongest men you will ever meet in your life. And we might as well get into it. It's a perfect segue because I can't, I want to get right into your story because it's, it's, frankly, it's a inspiring and it's like out of a movie. It's, in fact, it'll be a movie. So I got to ask you about this. So I've watched you forever. You know, you and I both talked off camera. I have a lot of friends in the WWE. I've had many of the wrestlers on Stephanie McMahon's been on Kristen Proudy, worked there for a long time as one of my dearest friends. And I did not know your story. And so it required tremendous internal strength to become who you are, not just the external physical strength you've had. So would you tell us kind of the. Your whole story is incredible. But you know where I'm going with this about fatherhood, which is going to be a major topic of today's show, Fatherhood in life. But talk about your own journey and learning about how you were even conceived because it's just, it's just shocking.
Thaddeus Bullard
Yeah. So I, I'm the product of a sexual assault. My mother was raped at 11 years old. Had me at the age of 12. She was driven from St. Augustine, Florida, which is up by where you are in Ponteville, down to Boynton Beach, Florida, to have an abortion. And she jumped out of the car. And months later, I was born. And life was very difficult for me in a lot of different ways. My mother was a very young mother trying to raise kids, working, and I didn't realize this, and a lot of things that were, you know, kind of unrealistic to think about growing up as a kid. But then once I started writing my first book, which, you know, is there's no such thing as a bad kid, those words are uttered to me at 12 years old, I went to a place not too far away from. From St. Augustine and called Live Oak, Florida. And there I went to the Florida Sheriff Boys Ranch. And that place changed my life. And more importantly, a conversation at 12 years old when I was essentially destined to go back home to Boynton beach, where, you know, there's me and my mom had a horrible relationship as a kid. And I say all the time I hated my mom for greater part of my young adult life until, you know, my mother came up. You know, the conversation happened with Patrick Minogue, who was the Youth Ranch director at the time. I had just signed a contract that I wouldn't get into another fight. And 30 minutes later, I got into another fight, and the decision had been made that I would be sent home to Boynton Beach, Florida. And Patrick Mano called me into the room and he. He. I had my head down, and he said, you know, the decision's been made for you to be sent home. As, you know, you signed a contract that you wouldn't get into any more fights. And, you know, here we are. He said, I'm going to ask you a question, and I want you to give me an honest answer. He said, why do you think you get into trouble all the time? And I had my head down and I said, I don't know, man. I'm just a bad kid. And he said, lift your head up. He said, there's no such thing as a bad kid. And I looked at him and I said, how can you say that? You know, I've been told I'll be dead or in jail by the time I was 16. I'll never graduate from high school, which at that point, no one in my family had graduated from high school. I'll never go to college. I'm too uncoordinated to play sports. The list went on and on and on. And he said that he's not going to give me the answer because he truly believes that I'm going to turn things around and I'm going to figure out the answer for myself in the meantime, I want to tell you something and I want you to believe it. He said, I love you and I believe in you. And a lot of people had told me that they loved me at that point and then turned around and abused me, beat me, curse me, et cetera. Nobody had ever told me that they believed in me in any regards. I was never going to be, I was never going to do. I was very insufficient to so many people at that time and insignificant to a lot of people at that time.
Ed Mylett
There's a lot so far to unpack. So first off, guys, the book that he has is called Wrestling with Fatherhood. The new book, you need to go get it. It's not just about being a dad, it's about being a leader, being a human being, being a compassionate person who makes a difference. But I want to go back because it's your story. But for about 2 million people right now, they just heard it. What in the world did he just say? So let's go, let's just unpack this just for a second. Did you hear what he said? Everyone, his mother, he's conceived from basically a sexual assault of an 11 year old and his mom's a 12 year old mother. But there's a little part of that that hasn't come out yet that I want you to talk about. You did not know that the better part of your childhood, this didn't come out till later. So I want you to imagine this. There's this precious little boy who is the product of a sexual assault, was going to be aborted, sideways relationship. His mother was a child trying to raise him. And you were raised with all this turmoil which we're going to go back to, especially the, the boys ranch that you went to because we're going to meet in the middle on something there. But how old were you when you finally found this out? And what was that like? That had to be a moment of shock to hear this and obviously wondering why you weren't told sooner.
Thaddeus Bullard
Yeah, I was told at 17 years old at the boys ranch. I essentially didn't end up getting sent home. Uh, Mr. Minogue said, I'm gonna go against the wishes of a lot of people and it's gonna probably gonna piss a lot of people off. But I believe I love you and I believe in you and I think that you're gonna turn things around. And I ended up supposedly was gonna stay there for 18 months and I stayed there for five years. Not because I was bad, but because it was the best place for me to learn and Grow. I went from being an under underserved kid, underperforming kid, to being one of the top high school players in the country. And my mom came up. I'm 17 years old. She came up. Normally with the youth ranches, they try to keep the parents and the kids kind of separate, except for around holidays, simply because while the kids are getting help at the youth ranch, so are the parents getting counseling and et cetera. So that when they both come back together, they both have a better understanding of how to have a better parent child relationship. And so my mom came up. We were sitting in Mr. Minogue's office, and it was Mr. Minogue, Patrick Bouchard. And my mother. And I remember her holding back tears, and she said, I wanted to share something with you. And she said, you know, Charles isn't your dad. And Charles is a guy that I knew he wasn't my dad, but he was trying, you know. And me and my brothers, I have three younger brothers. And they all. My three younger brothers have the same father, but a different father than me. I kind of grew up with their dad, but I didn't have much respect for him as a father and as a man because of the stuff that I witnessed at home. But Charles was, you know, someone that my dad had. My mom had dated for a bit, but I never felt like he was my dad. And she said, you know, I was raped. And that's how you came into this world. I remember just being silent for at least like 30 seconds because I'm like, I'm shocked. Yeah. My mom asked me how I was feeling, and I'm kind of reliving it now as I'm speaking about it. And I asked her, was she okay? She said, I'll be okay. She said, are you okay? And then I said, no, not really. Do you know who it was? And she said, yes, I know who it was. Would you like to meet him? And I said, no, because I'd probably kill him. And at that moment, you know, I'm 17 years old. I'm at the top of the world. I'm an honor roll student. I'm one of the top players in the country. I could go to any school in the country. And I get hit with this news. And as I tell people all the time, you know, growing up, I hated my mom for a lot of reasons. Once she disclosed how I came into this world, all that hate that I had towards my mom instantly turned into love because I realized that my mom was a kid trying to raise kids. And even till this day, I understand because of that conversation at 17 years old, my drive and my passion for so many things, like especially with youth, is through the roof simply because number one, I was one of these kids that I'm trying to help serve. But number two, my mom never got a chance to go to a prom. She never got a chance to walk across the high school graduation stage. My mom never did a lot of things that 11, 12, 13, 14, 15 year old kid should have the opportunity to do. And it really shaped my, my mindset when it comes to kids in general. And people know that know me, you know, I help a lot of people, but kids are definitely, they're everything to me. My kids, your kids, everybody's kids. Simply because as a kid, as an 8 year old kid, the things that I had to endure and see, then realize as I got older and a late teen that my mom, the things that I even as bad as the things that I had to endure at 11 years old, I never had to deal with what my mom had to deal with.
Ed Mylett
You're helping people on a lot of levels right now and but one of them, as a child myself of some dysfunction, let's just say that with my dad and drugs and alcohol, people ask me often, you know, how are you able to forgive your dad? When my dad earned it, my dad got sober. But even prior to that, you know, those of you that have been harmed by somebody, maybe give them grace, even if it's invisible grace, and you can't tell them because you don't know what, what they've gone through. And for them to be acting out towards you the way they are, they're a child of God too. Something's happened to them. Hurt people, hurt people. And in our lives, it's really important that we give people grace. I mean, who would have imagined that this precious little girl at 11 years old is violated that bad. You from that moment on, you almost can't judge and assess somebody's behavior. From that point, I can't even imagine what that's like to lose your childhood like that. So everybody just pick that one part of the story apart. I want to ask you a couple things about all of this before we even shift because there's, there's going to be a bunch of lessons about life, guys, not just fatherhood here today, but I want to jump back on, on something that you said earlier because it's part of the work that I do, by the way, just to meet in the middle with you just because we've got to know each other. A little bit recently. My first job that I spent most of my career with young was I worked at a boys camp. Your story reminds me of my boys. My boys were all actually removed from their families from sexual assaults or their parents were incarcerated or or dead. So it's interesting that the two of us end up here today together to help some people. So, hey guys, I want to jump in here for a second and talk about change and growth. And you know, by the way, it's no secret how people get ahead in life or how they grow. And also taking a look at the future. If you want to change your future, you got to change the things you're doing. If you continue to do the same things, you're probably going to produce the same results. But if you get into a new environment where you're learning new things and you're around other people that are growth oriented, you're much more likely to do that yourself. And that's why I love Growth Day. Write this down for a second. Growthday.com forward/ed my friend Brendan Burchard has created the most incredible personal development and business app that I've ever seen in my life. Everything from goal setting software to personal accountability journaling courses. Thousands of dollars worth of courses in there as well. I create content in there on Mondays where I contribute as do a whole bunch of other influencers like the Avengers of influencers and business minds in there. It's the Netflix for high achievers or people that want to be high achievers. So go check it out. My friend Brennan's made it very affordable, very easy to get involved. Growthday.comed that's growthday.com forward slash ed this.
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Thaddeus Bullard
I think it really for me comes down to my relationship with God. And I think everybody has their interpretation or their own relationship with God. I was introduced to the church as a youth. I went to church all the time. But I never really understood a lot of things in regards to relationships with Christ. Because even in the church, things are manipulated. The Bible's manipulated. People are, in my opinion, you know, kind of feel like they. They walk out of there convicted every Sunday if they're dealing with certain things or whatever. And I know that there are a lot of believers that live throughout the globe, but I don't think there are a lot of people of faith. What's the difference? To me, you know, people of faith move on action. They. They move with love. They move with obedience. And obedience is greater than sacrifice. I learned that at a very young age that sometimes what we feel like we're sacrificing when it comes to God, there is no sacrifice because he has already told us in Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the thoughts that I have for you are thoughts of great Things, you know, and a great ending. And so I don't need all the details to move on what God's told me to do. And before, even as a kid, you know, it was that I love you and I believe in you message that stuck with me so much. Because as you said before, a lot of people don't really get told that they are believed in or that people have faith in them. And if I say I have faith in God, then I can't respond to world issues the same way everybody else does. I can't be far right or far left when it comes to politics. I can't be far right or far left when it comes to religion. I can't be far right or far left when it comes to sexual orientation or any of that stuff. Because for me, so many people invested in me when they had nothing to gain in return from all different walks and all different backgrounds that I have no fight or skin in the game when it comes to, like, being anything less than a great human being. And I think when people know that you believe in them and that you believe in what they can do, it gives them a strength and a courage to go out and try something that they normally wouldn't try. Your testimony? My testimony, like, sometimes I think even for me, at a certain point in my life, I was kind of hesitant to tell my story because I didn't want to be viewed a certain way that I was weak, you know, but I'm vulnerable to the obedience of God. I. I have submitted, you know, like, I don't have to be perfect. Nobody in this world has to be perfect at anything. We all serve a perfect will, and per. Or God has a perfect will and a purpose for all of us. I got empowered by knowing that this homeless guy at 13 years old telling me that God's going to use you in a mighty way. And at that time, I was on a football field and I'm walking and I, yeah, I said, well, man, yeah, I want to go to the NFL. I want to make a lot of money so I can help a lot of people. And he said, no, it has nothing to do with the NFL. It has everything to do with you. For a guy that's essentially homeless for some people, they look at that situation as hopeless for me. A couple of weeks later, I come to ask him, how did you end up in this situation? And he said, if I told you I. I was the CEO of a Fortune 500 company, I had a big home, a yacht, a beautiful family, would you believe me? And I Said I would have no choice, like if that's what you told me. And he said that's exactly what my life used to be. But drugs, alcohol and gambling ripped me away from my family. And you know, as I think about like how believing in someone, I believe that this guy who spoke life into me at a time in which I didn't know him, he didn't know me, I ended up speaking life into him as well as, as well as asking one of my teammates who dad was a very successful businessman in trying to help him not only get reintroduced to the church because his, my teammate wanted me to go to his church all the time, but he was Catholic and I didn't know that. And he had always, you know, he'd always wanted to get back and go to church. And so since I had this invitation to go to church, you know, I asked if I could invite, you know, this gentleman to church. And next thing you know he's going from going to church to now working for my teammate's dad, to getting back on his feet, to being reconnected with his wife. Although they, she had moved on and got married, he hadn't seen his kids in like three years. God used me at 13 years old to help this person that told me that God is going to do use me for mighty things.
Ed Mylett
Let me ask you a question, the belief thing, everybody, I want to just put a bow on that. If you ask the average person, hey, who's loved you in your life, I bet that you could name 10, 12, 15 different people that have loved you, Grandma, grandpa, coaches, you know, your sisters, your brothers. But if I asked you who's believed in you, I bet that list is shorter. And when you believe in somebody, you are you fit on one hand in their life more than likely where they really feel your belief. And that is a deep difference you make as a father, as a mother, as a friend. I'm not just a friend of my friends. I let them know I believe in them and then I let them know why I believe in them as a leader in business. And I just want you all just to just take that one piece of this away. Here's a big question for you brother. By the way, remember this, this man goes on to be dominant college football player at University of Florida, ends up eventually in the wwe. He's a Hall of Famer in the wwe. So imagine this, one of the great all time hall of famers in the WWE was conceived in a sexual assault of an 11 year old girl. Now what can you accomplish in Your life, if that's where this man comes from. He's talking about church. He doesn't just walk the walk. He's actually in the studio at his church right now as we're talking. So the other thing, people literally, they fall down, they don't know what the heck they're going to do, right? And, and getting up is its own story. And like, I'm gonna let you take the floor on this because it's one of my all time favorite stories. Like when I was prepping for the interview and talking to our mutual friend at wwe, I'm like, I gotta ask him about this slip and fallen story. So you gotta tell them this and give us, give us kind of like tie it together with what it means. This is crazy.
Thaddeus Bullard
Yeah. So we're in Saudi Arabia. First time we're in Saudi Arabia. We just signed this huge deal with them to bring our entertain over to Saudi Arabia. And it's the greatest Royal Rumble. And we have legends, the Undertaker. We have so many people that are coming in for this show. And it comes up to my time to run out to the ring and I had all the things that I was going to do in my head and I run full speed down and I slide right underneath the ring, fall, slip and fall in front of millions of people under the ring. And I get under the ring and I'm like, oh, you know, like I can make a decision at a point. Do I just make it look like it, it was planned and I stay under there or I come back out and just kind of go through everything and, and, and I did and come back to the back and everybody first and foremost asked me was I okay, am I hurt or whatever? And I said, no, I'm good. And I looked over at Vince McMahon and I said, I get a T shirt, right? And he said, absolutely. And you know, they, they ran. We ran with that for so many things. I made SportsCenter not top 10. I was ahead of Tom Brady who stumbled and bumbled and you know, his way into a run as well. So I tell people this all the time. Like there are folks that, you know, they stub their toe and nobody sees it. You know, they fall down and nobody sees it. Millions of people saw me slide underneath the ring. It was hilarious to so many. I thank God that I'm still here. I thank God that I have every moving organ in my body, but it's kind of the on brand with my life, you know, where I've had to fall down, get back up, fall down, get Back up and not only get back up, but get back up with a smile. And I think for any listener out there, there are going to be times that you got to. You're going to fall down. It's embarrassing, you know, and people are going to make fun of you. But at the end of the day, it's how you continue to move forward and how you capitalize off of that, that fall. So good, brother. Yeah.
Ed Mylett
We're showing a clip of it on the YouTube right now so people can see it. But hey, if you ever wanted the ultimate life metaphor of you're going to fall down and you got to get back up, it's what this dude did in Saudi Arabia was awesome. Thank you for telling him. This is so good.
Thaddeus Bullard
Yes, sir.
Ed Mylett
But here's what didn't happen to you, and I want to know. I want you to help a couple million people right now with this. How did you not make that? Your identity? In other words, for most people, brother, they. A trauma in their life becomes like a stamp. That's who I am. I'm the victim. I'm the underdog. I'm always. I'm not this smart. I'm not that. My family's that. And they end up with an identity from a trauma. If anybody in the world had an excuse or a reason, and maybe even for a while, you did do that. How does somebody get past their old story? Right? How do they do that? How did you do that?
Thaddeus Bullard
Well, first and foremost, I think it's a decision that needs to be made that we all have a chance to make every single day. I do this twins exercise with young kids where I basically have a twin A and a twin B. They both come from the exact same background, you know, abused background. Their father was an alcoholic. They got into the foster system. One foster parent, one went to one foster care parent, another went to another foster care family, and one just continuously gets in trouble, goes to jail. We actually had to bail him out for the actual exercise of, you know, these kids getting a chance to interview these two twins. They can ask them whatever they want, but they got to be respectful to both sides. One, the other twin goes off to be this highly successful, great father, great husband, etc. They both come from the same exact environment. And the kids ask at the end of the. The. The exercise, you know, why do you think you ended up where you ended up? And they both simultaneously say, well, with a father like mine, I had no other choice. So it is a decision at the end of the day, and sometimes our help comes from a source that we would never imagine it coming from. And some people accept that help and they try to use it and recover and go from it. And then some choose to stay in that space. And, you know, I shared this on the Pivot podcast. You know, I went through a very deep depression when I got divorced for so many different reasons. Yeah, the loss of the relationship was one thing, but how I grew up, you know, I took a great sense of pride in winning. I've won in every single thing that I've done in life. I've never been on a losing team. And the most important aspect of me is my family. And I lost my family. And I beat myself up for that for quite some time, to the point where I was like, you know, I got me a vasectomy. I'm not having any more kids. I never wanted to have kids outside of wedlock. I grew up in that, you know, and, and I grew up around that. And so I never thought I would be married again. I, you know, I just went again. I, I kind of minimized every single aspect of myself as a man. And there's a building up process to, to do that. And I think my relationship with, with, with Christ and, and, and just really diving into the Word and kind of rediscovering who I am as a person, realizing that I don't have to be perfect, realizing that God chose 12 of the most imperfect people in the Bible to be disciples. You know what I'm saying? And, and they were chosen disciples. The folks that he sat around the table with for the Last Supper were the worst of the worst. And so I look at, you know, when we go back to this word belief, and that is like a pivotal word and action to me. Like, I, you have to believe in yourself. You have to believe in God. Whatever God that is you serve. It could be Allah. It can be, I serve Christ. Somebody else may serve Allah. Another person may serve Buddha. Other people may say, you know, that they believe in something else. And that's fine with me. You know, I just think that at the end of the day, whatever faith you have, it should lead you to be a better person. It should have lead you to be able to understand who you are as a person so that you can go out and equip other people. I think the greatest gift that we can give to one another, especially as men, is great discipleship and women too, when you have the ability to grab people from different walks of life in the places that they may not necessarily be at your level. And you can disciple them to greater and they can get higher levels than you. But it's. It's. It's really a decision at the end of the day of saying, hey, this happened to me. This is how I grew up. This is the way I came into this world. These are the things that I had to endure. But I'm not the only person that was brought into this world via rape. But I also, as I say this all the time, I try to use every platform to say this, because I'm not. I'm not really wanting to talk about pro life, pro choice. I just know that my mom made a decision that ultimately was very difficult for her to make, and our life was difficult. But don't point and look at me and say, well, look how he turned out just based on my circumstance of how I came into the world, because I am an anomaly. Everybody that comes into this world like this does not turn out successful. But I can say that everybody that has tragedy or trauma in their life of any sort has the ability to make things better simply by the switch of a mindset. And however you go about shifting that mindset, whether it's a spiritual shift, whether it's working with a mental health and wellness coach, whether it's just, you know, diving deeper into dealing with your own traumas and your own insecurities, becoming more vulnerable so that you can be more open to all the change that. The positive change that can be reactionary in your life because of the actions that you took. All of a sudden, you become this insignificant figure in your mind to this very significant figure to other people. And that's. That's where I'm at in life. Like, I'm not trying to be successful. You're Ed or. I mean, you got a couple million people watching this podcast all the time. You have been very successful as a speaker, very successful as a businessman, and you still have that trauma that you. I. I'm sure that's right. Sometimes wants to rear its ugly head and you have to, you know, you have to address it and make a decision. Am I going to allow this to put me in a space when I got all these people around me depending on me? Or am I going to look this son of a in the eye and tell them, you know, I know you're. I know. I know the enemy's plan is to seek to kill and destroy. Yeah. And you haven't done it up to this point. I won't let you allow you to do it.
Ed Mylett
Now, I was thinking about the people in my life when you were talking. So making me a little bit emotional because God sent some people into my life that believed in me. And for some reason, as you were just talking, I. Obviously you had these men at the camp that made a huge difference in your life. Right? I mean, obviously they were, they were huge influences. I don't know why I want to ask you about this, but I do, because it's just coming up.
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Thaddeus Bullard
So Charles Blaylock is the person that essentially kind of took me in as a Father figure. He was the first African American to be superintendent in two different counties in the state of Florida. He was a FAMU grad. He was a former athlete, and he had three kids himself. Two daughters and a son. I played with his son Chuck on the football team at Suwanee High School. Chuck's a little. Couple years older than I am, and I was walking down the hallways at Suwanee High School, my ninth grade year, and he's this towering figure. Big dude comes in, I'm palming a basketball. I'm walking down the hallway pommeling a basketball, and he comes up and he bumps me. And he looks at me and he says, do you think you could beat me in a fight? And I said, what do you mean? You know, he looked at me and he said, do you think you could beat me in a fight? And I don't know who this guy is at the time. And I'm like, you know, I don't know. I don't know what your deal is, but, you know, I don't think I can beat you. And you're a grown man. It's like, well, you're gonna have to fight me if you don't want to turn your life around, because I heard that you're a great kid, and I'm gonna be attached to your hip.
Ed Mylett
Wow.
Thaddeus Bullard
From now into until eternity. And he absolutely was. I mean, and this is the superintendent of schools. You know, my first, you know, experience with HBCU football was with him at famu. You know, he would take me to homecoming every year. He allowed me to stay at his house on the weekends, which was kind of like a new tester program for the youth ranch because we all had to stay on campus. And he's the only person of two people in my life that I call Dad. I still call him dad to this day. That's awesome. He's also, I would say, the proponent of me being a father to my daughter, who I adopted a few years ago. Yeah. Yeah. So. Yeah. So my. My daughter. Her mother was having. Her mother's a very close friend of mine. Carries a very close friend of mine. And she was having some health issues. I won't go into depth about those. And, you know, she didn't. She asked me, you know, could you just check on if things don't go well with. With. With this procedure I'm getting ready to have? And I said, well, what's going to happen with her if things don't work out? You know, Because Leah's like, at this point, one of the top basketball players in the state. And her mom's from Canada. And she said, well, she'll probably have to go back, you know, home, because that's where all my family is. And I said, well, what if I adopted her? And she looked at me and she said, what? And I said, yeah, I've always wanted to have a daughter. I'm not physically able to have any more children. Vasectomy 2012 is my Bible verse, personal Bible verse. And I. I said, you know, if I had a daughter, you know, Leah. And I've known Leah since she was seven years old. Her and my kid, my two sons, they've known each other, played with each other. She's been to my house numerous times. And I said, well, let me check with my boys first to make sure they would be okay with this, and talk with TJ and Titus. And they were more than happy to welcome her into the family. And incredible. I. I remember FaceTiming or calling back, and my daughter Leah says, you know, you know, why are you doing this for me? And I said, because I've always wanted a daughter. And I. If I had a daughter, you would be everything that I want. And a young lady. And she said, well, you know I'm gay, right? And I said, I don't give a if you purple with streamers flying out of your eyes. I'm not here to make you be a certain way. I'm here to help you be the best version of yourself. And at the end of the day, the biggest and only requirement for you and this family is to be a great human being. And, you know, we started going on this journey, and her last name is my last name now. And my gosh. Prospering in college. She's at Oakland University playing basketball at Oakland University on scholarship, full scholarship. And I'm extremely proud of her. I'm extremely proud of my. My oldest son and my youngest son. My oldest son plays football at the University of Central Florida, and my youngest son, Titus, plays at the University of Florida, my alma mater. And so when I look. And when you go back to this entire question of belief and what does belief do? Well, belief helps you break generational curses. Belief helps you be the human being that other people never thought you could be. Belief helps you and positions you for success that you never could have imagined. If you tell me that I would be in the WWE hall of Fame as a Warrior Award recipient as a kid, I watched it every Monday. My mom and my grandmother used to fight every Monday night about me staying up late My grandmother loved wrestling, and so she always won that argument. And I, you know, because it was a school night, I say this all the time, but my kids saved my life at a time in which I was the most depressed I felt the least as a man. The worst thing I felt like you could ever go through in life was a divorce. My sons gave me a reason to live, and I'm forever grateful to have them in my life and to have them as my sons. I'm extremely proud of them. I'm extremely grateful for them. I'm extremely grateful for my daughter, who has given me a completely different perspective on raising women and having a daughter as a child. As a parent, I enjoy the fact that I can have conversations with my boys now. And I've always been able to have open lines of communication. But, like, at this point now in our life, like, I can. My boys have always been able to talk to me about any and everything. And I think that parents need to. When they're explaining to their children why they should not be doing something, don't give them this bull answer of because I said so, and then get pissed off when two months later or three years later, you got to get them out of rehab or you got to bail them out of jail or you got to go to a funeral. Because if you would have answered the questions that they had when you told them not to do something, not to be somewhere, not to hang out with certain people, you give them a reason why. You give them an explanation as to why. While they may not agree with it, they don't have to search somewhere else for that answer.
Ed Mylett
I just thinking about your story. I was just thinking, I don't know if everyone's hearing this, but this. This man was conceived the way he is and then ends up being someone who adopts this little girl. By the way, he's being humble, but he was named Mega dad of the Year. He was named Celebrity Father of the Year. And when I talk to my friends at the WWE and I know the people that really know in the wwe, and I said, hey, give me the list of the three people. I've asked this all the time, like, they're the best human beings, you know, his name came up to me for years and years and years, and what I was seeing was this just, like, phenomenal athlete. I had no idea about your story then. I didn't have any idea until right now that you ended up adopting this little girl and how important fatherhood is to you and being a leader is to you. It's Just sometimes I do the show, brother, and I'm like, I am just not nearly as good a person as some people. And I don't say there was any false sense of humility. Just like, you're such a remarkable man. And when God. When I. When I first look at you, I'm like, okay, God gave him a gift. It's clearly his athletic ability and his physique. And not knowing that, yeah, it's one of your gifts. But your real gift is your heart. Your real gift is your resiliency and your toughness to overcome the adversity that you've been through. Can I ask you how your relationship is with your mom now?
Thaddeus Bullard
My relationship with my mom now is 10,000 times better than it was before. You know, we still have our challenges, but at the end of the day, my mom made a sacrifice, a very courageous sacrifice that I'll forever be indebted to her for. I have frustrations with my mom just like any other person has frustrations with their parents when it comes to, you know, addressing your health or, you know, the way you talk to me sometimes, this and that, like, I'm 47 years old now. You're not going to talk to me like I'm a kid anymore. You know what I'm saying? But at the end of the day, that's my mother, and I will always love her and honor her as my mother. And I think a lot of people have strained relationships with their parents or with their children. And I will tell you this. After losing my brother, my younger brother a couple of years ago to. He actually passed away up near you in Jacksonville from having a seizure. Fell, bumped his head. My mom actually was the person that found him dead. So you can only imagine the trauma that she was already dealing with, with what she experienced as a kid, and then to have to endure seeing her own, one of her own sons pass away before her and being the one that found him dead. My mom's been through a lot, and my relationship with my mom is, in my opinion, no different than any. But, I mean, some people have a greater relationship. Some people have a relationship that's okay. My relationship is built on the respect that. Not like, once my mom told me how I was conceived at 17 years old, any opportunity for me to hate my mom like I did as a kid went completely out of the window. I love my mom. She is one of the greatest human beings that you'll ever meet. She has her traumas and her issues, just like I have mine and you have yours. And Other people have theirs. But at the end of the day, you only get one mother and you only get one father. The Bible says to honor thy parents. I will always honor my mom. I don't always have to agree with her. She doesn't have to always agree with me, but I will always honor her. Especially knowing how what she endured to bring me into this world and all the people she said, all the folks that told her not to have me, she can look them in their face with pride and a big F you because you try to tell. You try to kill something and take something away from this world. And I've helped raise millions of dollars, helped hundreds of kids go to college. I got a public school that bears my name on it. All that started with the decision that my mom made at 12 years old.
Ed Mylett
By the way, you have honored your mom, by the way, in major, major ways. You said earlier, I just want to stop and say something to you. I really admire you. Someone. I know that brother. I really admire you.
Thaddeus Bullard
I admire you, too.
Ed Mylett
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Thaddeus Bullard
Right.
Ed Mylett
Whether that be a relationship or your first sport or a business or something's failed, you had, and I say this with respect because I want to know how you've done it. You had football end, and this is someone who was destined for the NFL, great football player. But that dream didn't end the way you thought. Right. You had your marriage not end the way that you would have hoped it would have ended. And then obviously, as we age as a wrestler, that transition is a transition as well. So you've had really three different times, at least that I know of. And I'm sure there are more where a dream is coming to an end and you got to remake yourself again. You got to find your new way. There's a lot of people that find themselves, or almost everyone will find themselves in that position at some time. How have you done that? How did you turn football into the wwe, adopting a little girl and being father of the year by multiple standards and multiple play. How did you do that? How do you overcome a dream ending?
Thaddeus Bullard
You know, where some people look at things as failure? I've had enough failure in my life that I have to realize that this is not failure. Like, at the end of the day, I still was able to do something that many people were not able to do. So now I just have to transition and pivot to what's next for me and Eric. A lot of people have these five year plans and these 10 year plans, you know, these New Year's resolutions, man, honestly, I just submitted to what God has planned for me. I couldn't have written or told you anything on a vision board. That's happened to me. The people that I've met. I couldn't have envisioned this, me being on this podcast. It just. We all come to a point in life where somebody's gonna like, you know, my high school coach told me something that I, I will never forget. He said, everybody gets fired from something at some point and we all, at the end of the day, we all gonna get fired. What you get fired from, whether it's a relationship, whether it's a job, you know what, regardless of what it is, we're all gonna get fired at some point. But there's a promotion on the other side. And that promotion isn't necessarily something that you might necessarily have dreamed of. It's something that God had in store for you long before you even got fired. And because of my faith, I understand that like anything that I vision that God gives me a vision for is going to come to pass. But you Got to be real careful with who you. I mean, you know this for being in business. You got to be very careful with who you tell what you're getting ready to do. Because all the doubters come, the thieves come. They try to steal your idea and make it their own. So true. The. The naysayers like all these negative things that will cause you to, like, not move towards what God has shown you. And in a process of recovery, there's always. Whether you're recovering, I've never had to recover from drugs or alcohol, but there's always this time of detox, and there's always this time of, like, silence and no movement. And then you get to a point where if you're used to being busy and you're traveling and you're doing this and that, and then all of a sudden you got to get put down. People that have surgeries have to go through this process, too. When you go from getting up, working out, running and all this stuff, and then to having to just rest anytime you got a reset in life, learn how to rest. Because that's where you learn how to have peace. When you're hectic and you don't have. You have this imbalanced life where you're trying to manage family, manage your job, manage your career, do this vision, do that vision, help this person, help that person. All these things, you don't have time to rest, or you don't take time to rest. Eventually, even if you have reached the highest of your high, you won't be at peace because you haven't learned how to rest. And so anybody that's going through a transition in life, understand that part of winning in life is what you think is losing. You're actually winning. It's giving you a chance to rebuild, rethink, reimagine who you are, what you are, so that the next thing you go into, you take the skill sets that you learned, the experiences that you, you. You endured, that you took, and even the people that were beneficial in your life and that you develop great relationships with, guess what? They go get fired, too. Gosh, you know, there's. Guess who might be the person that hires them. And I'm not talking about from a financial standpoint. I'm talking about, guess who they're going to have to talk to about making that transition to another field? You.
Ed Mylett
You.
Thaddeus Bullard
Because you did it. And they.
Ed Mylett
By the way, I've asked that question before, and no one's ever answered that way. And you're right. I've watched too many people in the relationship ends, get right back into other one with no rest, no reflection, no recovery, right back up into something else. And sometimes there's, you know, God's. Puts you in that position for you to learn something. And if you don't take the time to learn the lesson and heal and, and come back stronger, you just break down again. You're very right about that. No one's ever answered it that way on the show. And after about 54 years on Earth, I could tell you that you're right about that. I agree with you on it. Let me ask you another question. Has nothing to do with fatherhood. By the way, guys, the book. Let me just take you through some of the stuff in here. A bad kid or a misunderstood one. Finding purpose through sports. The power of a mentor's belief. Becoming the father I never had. These are chapters in the book. It is so good. Go get the book. It's not just about fatherhood. It could be motherhood, it could be being a leader. I want to ask you a question because you're just on the inside of something. Most people may not know this. The WWE is one of the most competitive environments on the planet. To become, to have any heat in the wwe, to be well known is very rare. And then to keep heat for a long time, you're talking about, you know, a few handful of people ever. And you're one of them. So you have been to the top of the top. You're one of the top football players in the world when you were playing. And then you've been to the top of the wwe and the wwe, we're talking about very few spots there. And everybody's good in Division 1 college football. All these dudes can play. Everybody like your son that's going to University of Florida, these dudes can play. They're all the best player on their high school team. The wwe, to get to there from all of the smaller federations and stuff to get there, everybody's good. What is the thing or things that separate the ones who don't last from the ones who do? What is the thing? What you, you've watched it. I'm sure you watch guys get in the wwe. Like this dude's stardom, he's going to have heat forever. He's going to get a belt, he's got everything. And they don't end up making it long term. They had short term heat, short term success. And then you've seen the ones that have lasted, like yourself and others. What's the difference between the people that Win long term. And the ones who don't at anything, their attitude.
Thaddeus Bullard
And that's in anything in life, your attitude. And anytime you think you're bigger than the company, or you're bigger than the team, or you're bigger than the relationship, you're gonna lose and it won't last. And I would say that in any aspect in life, and I tell folks all the time, if you it for anybody that worked, if you work in WWE for three years or more, you can go anywhere in the world and go be successful. Because for 52 weeks a year, you're on the road in different countries, different states, traveling in between shows four or five nights a week, three to five nights a week, whatever it may be. And you have to perform in front of people, whether it's a crowd of 10,000, 20,000, 85,000, you got to perform the same night in, night out, live television, and you pick up and you go again. The other part is it's a very, I mean, very few people go to the top and stay at the top. That's right. And so you gotta like a lot of guys that I saw that came in, they got that push right away and next thing you know, they're already a champion. And then they started believing the hype, not realizing, like, guys, we can make this spoon the WWE champion tomorrow and tell a whole story around it and these people will believe in this spoon. I mean, R Truth has some people believing in an imaginary character called Lil Jimmy. And they were responding to an imaginary character as if it was a real person. You know what I'm saying? And that's entertainment, that's production value. But the attitude I remember hearing time and time again, treat everyone, the CEO to the janitor, with the same respect. And I think a lot of folks get so caught up in their own hype that now they actually start believing. Well, yeah, I'm the, I'm the CEO, I'm the vice president or I'm this or I'm that. I'm better than this person. No, you're not. You just got an opportunity. And there's a lot of people watching to see how you respond in that spot. And when you respond a certain way that's beneficial to the company, then people trust you, but then you respond seemingly selfishly for yourself. It's not going to end well.
Ed Mylett
I totally agree with you on that, by the way. I'm thinking about business and all the people that I've seen do that and fan out. You said earlier, if I'm being too personal you said earlier that when she asked you if you wanted to know who dad was, your birth father, you said no. Did that ever change throughout your life? And you decided to at least know who he was.
Thaddeus Bullard
I'm just being transparent here. One of the last disagreements I had with my mother was because I asked her about trying to. I just needed a name, you know, I didn't want her to go down memory lane. I just. To me, I've been harboring hate for a man that I've never met, and I forgave him. But I know. I know in my heart that I have siblings out there. I have nephews and nieces out there, and I'm tired of going to the doctor and filling out these forms. And, you know, it's. What's the family history on the dad's side? What's the family history on the mom's side? I have. I have two sons myself, biological sons myself, that I want to know. Like, hey, cancer runs in my family, on my dad's side or not in my mom. You know, my mom, my grandmother passed away from cancer in 1995. And I don't know if that was something that this continuously happened in my family on my mom's side. But for me, it's three things, you know, and it's. It really. Around the time that I was releasing this, my. My recent book, Wrestling with Fatherhood, My Greatest Journey to my greatest title dad, I was getting ready to throw this Father's Day event here in Tampa, which was amazing, and God had laid on my spirit to just start seeking. And then I did the 23andMe, and I started asking some relatives that are in St. Augustine just some questions. I mean, I do have a desire to. I'm almost positive he's probably deceased now, but I am, you know, in that healing process to. Because I don't know the whole story. I don't know much of anything outside of what I've been told by my mom. And then my grandmother's not here anymore, so she can't tell me things from a different perspective. I didn't find out until after she was gone how I was conceived. So there are a lot of questions that I have that I don't want to prod and poke my mom for, because it's going to open her up to traumas that maybe she hadn't addressed yet. So this is a journey that I would tell anyone. Like, hey, if you have some quite. I mean, it's not unlikely for folks to get to a certain point in their life. Especially those that come from adopted backgrounds to kind of want to know where they came from. And I think everybody should know if they can, where they came from. And it's not a matter of, you know, rehearsing bad history. It's really trying to know your roots and know, like, you know, some pride points. I'm looking for some pride points. Even though this guy, you know, essentially did what I feel like is the worst of the worst to, you know, like, to anyone. I'm not a perfect man. And I learned about forgiveness years ago, and I learned about God's grace and mercy years ago. I live in it. I live in his. His grace is sufficient. I live it every single day. And I want any of your listeners that have kind of ran from a historical trauma, especially when it comes to your parents and, and, you know, things that might have happened when you were a kid. I mean, your dad was an alcoholic. You're not the only one that had an alcoholic father. Amen. There are other folks out there that, you know, I mean, but you also ended up learning to love your dad in a different way. And I think that people need to go on that journey to make them a better person and have them get a better understanding because they're going to end up ministering to somebody at some point. Good about that very trauma and our test turn into testimonies when we actually take actions with our mess, because our mess becomes our message. It comes, becomes part of who we are, what we are. And I want to continue to be the best vessel I can possibly be, be the most vulnerable and transparent vessel I can possibly be. It's not about Democrat or Republican, black, white, Asian, Christian, Muslim. It doesn't matter to me. Like, be a great human being. And in order for me to be a greater human being, being centered with who I am, knowing who I am, when I walk in a room, nobody's going to tell me who I am, who I'm not, and what I can't do. And it's not an arrogance, it's a confidence that I, this firmly rooted in God made me and brought me to this place for a reason. If I wasn't supposed to be in this room, the door would have been shut in my face a time ago. But, boy, when you get in that room, once you start, you know, I. I remember President Obama said it on the Pivot podcast. Once you get into certain rooms, you start talking to some of these people in certain rooms, you realize, like, they ain't really all that, you know what I'm saying? You know that Ed, He.
Ed Mylett
I nodded so hard when I heard that clip from him. I'm like, that is the biggest truth ever. You get in these rooms, you're like, this is not what I thought. These are just human beings.
Thaddeus Bullard
That's it.
Ed Mylett
With their own flaws and their own frailties. Let me say one thing to you. I hope you find out who your father was. I really do. And I'm sure there's some, like, you said, story there. But you know what the great news is, brother? Your kids know who their father is, and they come from a great father. And. And the great thing I love about you is they not only know who the earthly father is, but you're making sure they know who their heavenly father is. And we all have that one, and we can all find sufficient grace and love and belief from him. Today was like an extraordinary conversation. And the whole time you're talking, I'm like, this is going to be a movie. I'm just glad he was on my show first, because this story is going to be a movie. And those WD fans, just Google him. You'll figure it out. Just Google him. And if you're watching this, you seen it. But this humble man that you've heard, who does not have a bone of arrogance in him, by the way, is just like an Adonis physically. So when you hear this humility, just realize this is a strong, big man. And I think it takes a lot to be this vulnerable and this authentic and this open like you've been today, brother. And it's made me fall in love with you even more. So I just want to thank you for being here today. The hour flew by. It was like an extraordinary hour of my life, and I know it was for everybody else. So thank you for being here.
Thaddeus Bullard
I appreciate the opportunity, man. And I definitely don't want to leave here without thanking you for not only this opportunity for myself, but just providing a platform for so many people to grow in so many ways. Grow in thought, grow in understanding, and grow, and most importantly, in how to be the best human being you could possibly be. You have guests on here that have different perspectives and different outlooks on life, but we all come with the same purpose. And the purpose is on this podcast, to educate, to inspire, and to hopefully entertain in some senses, because it is entertaining to know that a guy that slid underneath the ring, his true backstory is not just sliding underneath the ring. It was just. There's a. There's a story behind it. My, my. I tell folks all the time that what I do for a living is one thing, but who I am for a living will forever continue to be growing. And I think that if people looked at that, to your point of the question of when people have to reset and restart, like that job or that relationship that you lost, those things aren't who you were for a living. Those things, you know, that's what you did at that point in your life. Now it's time to move on and do something different. And this podcast gives people an out and understanding and you pull it out. And I appreciate you pulling it out. Very easy to talk to and very free flowing to give people a space that can be vulnerable and open about who they are. And I don't have all the answers. You don't have all the answers, but that's why you have a. That's why you have a podcast and I don't. So you can get everybody that got all the answers, or at least some nuggets.
Ed Mylett
Yeah, well, let's be very clear. All that growing, all that helping, all that contributing was you today, not me. I just got to sit here and listen and go along for the ride. And man, what a great conversation. Geez, I cannot wait for my kids to hear this one. That's the first thing I'm thinking of right now. So thank you, Thaddeus. I still think of you as Titus, but thank you. And go grab Wrestling with Fatherhood, everybody. That's the book you want to get your hands on right now. If you're a parent or a leader, go get this book. It'll. It'll make a difference for you, just like today's podcast is. All right, everybody. God bless you, Max Out.
Thaddeus Bullard
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Podcast Summary: "How to Rewrite Your Story and Overcome Life’s Hardest Challenges w/ Titus O’Neil"
Episode Details:
In this powerful episode of The Ed Mylett Show, host Ed Mylett welcomes Thaddeus Bullard, widely recognized as WWE Hall of Famer Titus O’Neil. The conversation delves deep into Thaddeus's transformative journey from a tumultuous childhood marked by trauma to becoming a celebrated athlete, philanthropist, and devoted father. Throughout the hour, listeners gain insight into the resilience, faith, and belief that propelled Thaddeus to overcome immense challenges and rewrite his life story.
Thaddeus begins by sharing the harrowing truth about his conception—a result of his 11-year-old mother's sexual assault. At merely 12 years old, his mother faced unimaginable trauma, leading her to seek an abortion. However, she ultimately decided against it, resulting in Thaddeus's birth.
The weight of this revelation frames much of Thaddeus's early life struggles and his complex relationship with his mother.
Thaddeus recounts his time at the Florida Sheriff Boys Ranch in Live Oak, Florida, a pivotal period that shifted his trajectory. After multiple altercations, he was on the brink of being sent home to Boynton Beach, a move that would have derailed his burgeoning potential.
This encounter with Patrick Minogue, the Youth Ranch director, instilled in him a newfound sense of self-worth and belief in his ability to change.
At 17, a profound revelation from his mother reshaped Thaddeus's perception of her. Learning that his birth was a result of her trauma and not a choice she desired led him to transform his resentment into deep love and understanding.
This newfound empathy fueled his passion to support and uplift underserved youth, driven by his desire to prevent others from experiencing similar hardships.
Thaddeus's dedication and hard work propelled him to become one of the top high school football players nationally and later a dominant figure in the WWE. His athletic prowess was complemented by his unwavering commitment to personal growth and leadership.
This mentality guided him through setbacks, such as his memorable slip during a WWE event in Saudi Arabia, reinforcing his belief in resilience and continuous forward movement.
A recurring theme in the conversation is the profound impact of belief—both in oneself and others. Thaddeus emphasizes that expressing belief can empower individuals to surpass their perceived limitations.
His relationship with God and his faith played a crucial role in shaping this belief system, teaching him to move beyond judgment and embrace understanding and support.
Thaddeus shares the emotional journey of adopting his daughter, Leah, a decision born out of compassion and a longing to experience fatherhood fully. His commitment to being an exceptional father contrasts poignantly with his own upbringing, highlighting his dedication to breaking generational cycles of trauma.
Leah's integration into his family underscores the transformative power of love and intentionality in parenting.
Thaddeus discusses the inevitable nature of life’s transitions—whether in careers, relationships, or personal aspirations. He reframes setbacks not as failures but as opportunities for growth and redirection.
His approach encourages embracing change, learning from experiences, and leveraging them to forge new paths aligned with his higher purpose.
Thaddeus reflects on his evolving relationship with his mother, acknowledging ongoing challenges while maintaining profound respect and love. The tragic loss of his younger brother further deepened his empathy and understanding of his mother's enduring strength.
This reconciliation exemplifies the healing power of honest communication and mutual respect, even amidst profound grief and loss.
Throughout the episode, Thaddeus imparts invaluable lessons on resilience, the significance of mindset shifts, and the importance of continuous personal development. He underscores that true strength lies not just in physical prowess but in the ability to adapt, overcome adversity, and inspire others.
His narrative serves as a compelling testament to the human spirit's capacity to endure, evolve, and excel despite formidable odds.
Ed Mylett wraps up the conversation by lauding Thaddeus Bullard's authenticity, vulnerability, and unwavering commitment to personal and communal growth. He emphasizes the transformative impact of Thaddeus's story, urging listeners to embrace their own journeys of self-discovery and empowerment.
The episode concludes with a heartfelt appreciation for Thaddeus's contributions and a strong endorsement of his book, Wrestling with Fatherhood, encouraging parents and leaders alike to seek inspiration and practical guidance from his experiences.
Thaddeus Bullard [04:09]:
“I’m the product of a sexual assault. My mother was raped at 11 years old... months later, I was born.”
Thaddeus Bullard [08:41]:
“Once she disclosed how I came into this world, all that hate that I had towards my mom instantly turned into love.”
Thaddeus Bullard [18:15]:
“When people know that you believe in them and that you believe in what they can do, it gives them strength and courage to try something they normally wouldn't.”
Thaddeus Bullard [36:45]:
“I asked, 'What if I adopted her?'... She says, 'What?' And I said, 'Yeah, I've always wanted to have a daughter.'”
Thaddeus Bullard [28:06]:
“Everybody that comes into this world like this does not turn out successful. But I can say that everybody that has tragedy or trauma in their life of any sort has the ability to make things better simply by the switch of a mindset.”
Ed Mylett [67:17]:
“This is such a phenomenal man. His real gift is his heart. His real gift is his resiliency and your toughness to overcome the adversity that you've been through.”
Overcoming Trauma: Thaddeus's story underscores the possibility of overcoming early-life trauma through support, belief, and personal resilience.
The Power of Belief: Expressing genuine belief in others can empower them to surpass their perceived limitations, fostering growth and success.
Importance of Mentorship: Positive mentorship, as exemplified by Patrick Minogue, plays a crucial role in redirecting individuals toward productive and fulfilling paths.
Transformative Fatherhood: Embracing fatherhood, especially through adoption, can be a powerful means of healing and giving back, breaking generational cycles of trauma.
Resilience in the Face of Setbacks: Viewing setbacks as opportunities for growth rather than failures fosters continuous personal development and success.
Healing Relationships: Open and honest communication enables healing and strengthening of strained relationships, even in the face of profound loss and grief.
This episode offers a compelling narrative of resilience, faith, and transformation. Thaddeus Bullard's journey serves as an inspiring blueprint for anyone grappling with life's hardest challenges, illustrating that with the right mindset and support, one can rewrite their story and achieve greatness.