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There's four characters for the most part. You could show up as in 20 years. There's four characters. Most people show up in their lives as I'll give you who they think they are. Number one person they show up as in 20 years is invisible. They're invisible. No one knows them. No one knows anything they've achieved. No one's kept a record of their life. And I'm not talking about big things, I'm talking about small things. It's that kind phone call that you make in the morning to a friend you haven't talked to in a long time. You're no longer invisible to them. It's that helping somebody in need when no one will see you doing it, when it's an invisible gesture, you're no longer invisible because you're making deposits in this other self. You're making deposits in this dream version of you. You are reaping what you sow. But many people show up in their lives. Their entire life is invisible. That's one person you could show up as. Ask yourself, am I willing to let whatever I'm going through right now, or whatever going on in the world, what's ever going on in the economy, whatever going on in my mind, what's ever going on in my family, caused me to show up 20 years from now, invisibly, no one knows me. I've made no difference in other people's lives. Is that what you were born to do? Is that that glimpse of the dream in your life? Absolutely not. Remind you of something you were born to do, Something great with your life. I am no different than you. No man or woman is different than you were the child of the same God. We were all born to do something great with our lives in big ways. Big. And in what most people think are small ways. These quiet gestures you do every day for other people that the rest of the world doesn't see on Instagram and it doesn't get you on YouTube and it doesn't get a million views, but you're not invisible to them. You were not born to be invisible. Second person you could show up as in 20 years is a victim. You could have this story in 20 years. I was a victim. Victim of people. A victim of my life, a victim of my circumstances. A victim. A victim. A victim. And if you believe that about yourself and you keep moving towards those thoughts, you will surely repeat them. And you will show up 20 years in your life and as an example to your family, people who believed in you, your children, your grandchildren, your parents, your grandparents, your ancestors, you will show up in 20 years as a victim. Something tells me that's not what you were born to be. Something tells me you were born to do something great. And you are not a victim. And you're going to rise above. And the fact that you rose above whatever you have to rise above, that divorce, that setback, that lack of education, that whatever, that marginalized group, that setback, that bankruptcy, that bad decision you've made, you're gonna have one heck of a story, and you are not gonna be a victim. And you're gonna inspire a bunch of people who are invisible, who feel like victims, aren't you? That's the power of what you're going through. What if you were given this because there's an other self of you that's even greater than most people could imagine? Remember, the extent to what you have to overcome is the degree of who that other self is. The extent to what you have to overcome is in direct correlation to the degree of that other self. So the more you overcome, the greater that other self is. Third person you could show up as is a hero, and that's a pretty good thing. You show up people. You're not invisible, you're not a victim. People know you. You got whatever it is. You got the great body, you got the great relationship, you got the big jet, you got the money. You show up as a hero. Many people in life aspire to be the hero of their story. So you're always telling ourselves a story about our lives, aren't we? We're the lead character in the story of our lives. And so many people keep telling the story from the past, and they repeat that story because they move towards it, or they tell the story of the victim or the story of the invisible, and they repeat this character over and over again. But then a lot of people start to tell the story of the hero. I'm going to be a hero. I'm going to win. I'm going to make something great with my life. And that's a powerful time in our lives. And a lot of people can get there. You see them on social media, see them on television, you see them at your church, you see them in your community. You see them as the coach, you see them as the teacher. They become a hero in their life. You could show up as a hero, and that's a darn good life. And it's an option you could pursue. See, a lot of times in families, when you look at families that have won in your life, you go, man, that family's rich. You see this house living on, these people living on the beach, or they're traveling sierra. So you go, man, who are these people? You just remember this. Happy and successful families, Rich families. Eventually they came from someone who wasn't rich, who wasn't happy. All people that you see that are rich, happy or successful, eventually there's someone way back in their family who wasn't. And then the one showed up. The one person shows up in the family says, nope, I'm the hero. I'm the one. I change our family tree forever. I make my family proud of me. I change our generational wealth, I change our emotions. I Change the example. People in our family are going to want to be like me. I'm the one. And guys, I'll tell you, in my family, I'm the damn one. And you know what? Not only about getting rich, not only about making a difference, but people in my family now think differently than they used to think. They don't think the same like they used to. They think bigger thoughts. They think about serving people. They think about making a difference. They believe their life can be great. Because I refuse to be invisible. I refuse to be a victim. Yeah, I'm the son of an alcoholic. Yeah, I had a difficult upbringing. Yeah, nobody knew my family. Yeah, we weren't rich. Yeah, not a lot of education in my family. Yeah, well, I'm not invisible. And. Well, I'm not a victim. And I became a hero in my family. And so can you. You could be the one. You can be the one. When you start hitting that wall, you start thinking, no, I'm the one. I'm the one who doesn't quit. I'm the one who doesn't give in. I'm the one who keeps growing. I'm the one who keeps dreaming. When everyone thinks I'm crazy, I'm the one. And you hold on to that being the one. You become the hero. That's an amazing life. You change your family tree forever. It's not the wealth, although it is. It's not the options and the choices. It's the memories. It's the moments. It's the contribution. But most importantly, it's the identity of your family. They don't think the same anymore. They got different thoughts. They operate differently. Their view of the world is different. Who they think they can become is different. Because of your example. See, I'll give you the fourth one in a minute. But let me tell you, there's really. There's four stages of people in. In. In life. There's the people that are just kind of, you know, they're just going through life unaware, not concerned. Then there's people who become motivational. Motivational people achieve things. They play to motives. Motives like get a car. You know, if you do this, you get a car, you get a house, you get money, you get a body. Motivational people are awesome. The level beyond that, though, is inspirational. Inspirational people move people like I hope I'm doing with you today. The root of inspiration is to be in spirit. To move people spiritually, to touch their heart, to move their emotions, to lend yourself. To move them with their higher other self. Not just their motives of Stuff, but things in spirit, making a difference in people's lives. Inspirational people are very, very rare. See, most people are that dead stage. They just drift through life. Then there's a very small percentage that are motivated people and they achieve things and they have a good life. Much smaller group is inspirational or they inspire, they move people. You can't feel it. You just. It's an energy you feel. You can't describe it, but you feel it. It's inspirational. And then there's a really small group that's reserved for the highest level, which is aspirational people. Aspirational people aren't just motivational or inspirational. They're aspirational, meaning that you want to be and aspire to be like them. Those are the people that change the world. The people that change the world aren't motivational. They're not quite inspirational anymore. They've moved past that. They do motivate, they do inspire, but they aspire. People aspire to be like them. That's who I want to be like. That's who I want to act like. That's the kind of person I want to be. And I would challenge you to move through these stages. If you're not motivated, become motivational and inspirational and eventually aspirational. And when you become the one for your family, when you become the hero, which is level three, you've moved into an aspirational space in your life. And then the fourth level is awesome, and that's called servant leader. And that's when you get to a point in your life where you're no longer invisible. You've moved all kinds of people in their dreams. You've become the hero for your family. And then you determine you want to dedicate your life in the service of other people exclusively. You want to aspire, inspire and aspire people to be like you. And this is where I would challenge you to want to move, become an aspirational person, and eventually become a servant leader in your life. That's the highest level of the other self. So these are all the things that I wanted to share with you today in moving towards them. And the last thing I want to share with you is this. I want you to remember something. All your dreams are buried in the deep end of the pool of your life. They're in the deep end. See, when I was a little guy, I don't know, it shows me. When I was a little boy, I couldn't swim. I was a terrible swimmer. And I would show up to, like, team events, no joke, with a big Life preserver on. I'm not kidding you. I watch picture Little Eddie Mylett, 8, 9 years old. I would show up with a life preserver on, like a full blown life preserver in the shallow end of the pool. Everyone's like, who is this kid? What is wrong with him? They're all in the deep end playing and swimming. And I'm in the shallow end floating around with this life preserver on. And then I remember telling my mom, this is embarrassing. I'm showing up to these parties and I'm the only with this orange life preserver on. And she goes, well, we can get you some floaties. And I'm telling you, I'm eight, nine years old and now I'm wearing floaties. You know those arm floaties. I'm in the shallow end of the pool, floating around with floaties on. Can you picture this? I got these floaties on in the shallow end of the pool, just floating along while all my teammates and my friends are playing in the deep end, having a great time looking back, going, I don't know what's wrong with little Eddie. My lap. And I was so frustrated, I couldn't learn to swim. And finally my, my dad's brother, my Uncle Mike, visited from the east coast. And I said, uncle Mike, we're at the pool. I said, I can't. He goes, what are you doing with these floaties on? My gosh, you're nine years old. What is wrong with you? I said, uncle Mike, I can't swim. I'm afraid to swim. And he goes, you really. He goes, you want to learn to swim? I said, yeah. And he grabs me, Whoop. Throws me in the deep end of the pool with nothing on. Throws me. And he goes, swim. I don't know how to swim. He goes, just swim, swim. And I'm struggling to swim. He goes, you got this. And I'm not jumping in to save you, so you better swim. And you know what? I figured a way to get to the side of the pool. And he goes, now stop it. I ain't throwing you any floaties. Swim to the other side of the pool. And I'm doing this little doggy paddle kicking. I'm kind of going underwater. And he's. I'm sure he would have got me, but I wasn't sure then he was going to get me. And I made it just to the side of the pool, not the other end of the pool, just the side. Like a ten foot swim. Because now swim back. Now swim back. And I started to make it and started to move. And I'm like, well. And he goes, now I'll get in and teach you how to swim. Swim. Now I'll teach you how to correctly swim. And lo and behold, at the next party, I'm in the deep end. See, you want a mentor. You want someone to show up. You want people in your life to teach you. You got to jump in the deep end. You got to take the floaties off of your life, all your dreams. Why didn't I want to go in the deep end? It was dangerous. It was rough. There was criticism there. I could drown. So I stayed and played it safe in the shallow end for years until I was literally thrown into the deep end. And once I was in the deep end, I wasn't prepared for it, but I found a way. And once I was in there trying my butt off to swim, to survive, that's when the mentor showed up. That's when he jumped in to help me learn how to swim. And so if you're sitting there today in the life, you got to take the floaties off of your life, and you got to jump in the deep end of the pool, because at the bottom of that deep end is where all your dreams are buried. That's where that hero is buried. That's where that servant leader is buried. That's where that person everyone aspires to be is buried. And so that's why I started out by telling you today, success requires no damn apologies, and failure permits no alibis. And so once I jumped in and I had no alibi, he threw me in, and I had to find my way to the side of the pool. That's when the mentor showed up. That's when the coaching showed up. So my challenge to you today is to jump in the deep end, to take the floaties off in your life. You're not going to drown. You will evolve. You will innovate, you will create. You will find a way. You cannot quit. You cannot give in. And all your dreams are in that deep end of the pool. Stay in the deep end, keep swimming, keep swinging, keep trying, keep evolving. And outlast the temporary. These things that you're going through in the shallow end are temporary. And if you'll get into the deep end, you will find that you can outlast them. And on the other side of that are where all your dreams are. So I want to challenge you. Take the floaties off, get in the deep end. And I was going to remind you of something. You were born to do something great with your Life. Yes, you. Yeah, you on the treadmill. Yeah, you driving. Yeah, you there with your kids. Yeah, you, you precious soul. I do this show for you. I wrote my book for you. I do everything I do on social media for you. I'm here to help you. I'm here to help you swim. I'm here to help you make the things happen in the deep end of your life. All those emotions you want are in the deep end, but you got to jump in. You got to jump in and swim with me. And if you do that, I'm here for you. And if you think I can help, if today helped you, would you please share this? I have a feeling the world needs to know what we're talking about here, so go to the power of1more.com. Every week on the show, I promise you I'm going to bring you people that can change your life in different areas of your life. They're going to help you max out every area of your life. But you got to be in the deep end if we're going to make this thing happen. All right, y' all, please share the show. I want to challenge you to do something great with your life and know that I'm always here for you and I hope you're here for each other as servant leaders, as heroes, as aspirational and inspirational people. We need more of you in the world. You want these world problems to start to diminish and go away. We need more servant leaders. We need more inspirational leaders. We need more people we aspire to be like. And we need more people helping each other in the deep end of the pool of their lives with their dreams. And we all come together and do something awesome. We were all born by the same God. We're the children of the same God. We deserve the greatest lives we were born to have. It's a preview of your dreams. All right, God bless you all. This is the Ed Milan show.
