What QTR Taught Me About Time, Peace, and Power - THE ED MYLETT SHOW

Podcast Summary: The Ed Mylett Show – "What QTR Taught Me About Time, Peace, and Power"

Release Date: May 22, 2025

Introduction

In this heartfelt and introspective episode of The Ed Mylett Show, host Ed Mylett delves deep into the concept of QTR—an acronym he defines as Quality Time Remaining. Drawing from personal experiences and conversations with a circle of successful men, Ed explores the finite nature of time and the importance of intentionally creating meaningful moments. This episode serves as a motivational guide, urging listeners to prioritize what truly matters in their lives.

Understanding QTR: Quality Time Remaining

Ed introduces the term QTR, explaining its significance in evaluating how we spend our remaining time on Earth. At 54 years old, Ed reflects on the unpredictability of life and the limited number of meaningful moments we possess.

Defining QTR: "Quality time remaining. See, I'm 54 years old now... it's about quality time remaining, like healthy living. It could be two years, it could be 20 years." ([10:45])

Ed emphasizes that life isn't just about the quantity of time but the quality of experiences and relationships we cultivate.

The Impact of a Growth-Based Environment

Ed shares his appreciation for Growth Day, an app created by Brendan Burchard, which fosters a growth-oriented community. Although promotional segments are present in the transcript, the core message reinforces the importance of being in environments that spur personal and professional growth.

Growth Day Endorsement: "And I'm honored that he asked me to be a part of it as well and contribute on a weekly basis." ([02:30])

Personal Reflections and Life Lessons

Ed opens up about his personal health challenges, including a heart attack at 33, which significantly altered his perspective on quality time.

Health Challenges: "When I was 30, nobody told me that in three years you'd have a heart attack, which I did when I was 33." ([15:20])

These experiences underline the unpredictability of life and the importance of cherishing each moment.

QTR Moments: Celebrating Life's Highlights

Ed discusses how he and his group of financially successful men use group texts to share QTR moments—photos and stories that capture significant experiences, from hunting trips to family moments.

Sharing QTR Moments: "We take these pictures and say QTR. And it's just a moment of quality time reminding everybody else in the group that we're on a clock that's ticking." ([18:10])

He highlights the importance of being intentional in creating and sharing these moments, rather than passively letting life's moments slip away.

Intentional Living: Prioritizing What Matters

A central theme of the episode is living intentionally by prioritizing important over urgent tasks. Ed warns against getting bogged down by the hustle culture that often leads to neglecting meaningful relationships and personal fulfillment.

Prioritizing Important Over Urgent: "Urgency steals from importance if you're not intentional." ([35:50])

Ed encourages listeners to focus on connections, purpose, and dreams, asserting that intentionality leads to a more fulfilling life.

Creating a QTR Mindset

Ed advocates for adopting a QTR mindset, where individuals live as if their time is precious and limited. He challenges listeners to consider how they would spend their time if they only had a few years left.

QTR Mindset: "Live like your time matters, because it does." ([42:15])

By integrating QTR into daily life, Ed believes individuals can enhance their ability to contribute and grow while still cherishing meaningful moments.

Legacy Thinking: Building Lasting Memories

Ed touches on the concept of legacy, urging listeners, especially those in their 20s and 30s, to think about the experiences and memories they wish to leave behind.

Legacy Building: "Young QTR thinking pushes you towards legacy building rather than life drifting." ([50:30])

He emphasizes that intentional legacy thinking prevents life from drifting aimlessly and ensures that one's actions today create meaningful memories for the future.

Savoring the Present: Being Fully Present

Using analogies like expiring milk and the final moments of a vacation or concert, Ed illustrates the importance of being present and savoring each moment.

Being Present: "Imagine your life was a gallon of milk with an expiration date... would you just leave it on the counter wasting away? Or would you savor it while it's still good?" ([58:45])

This metaphor underscores the urgency to embrace and fully experience life's moments before they pass.

Practical Steps to Implement QTR

Ed provides actionable steps for listeners to incorporate QTR into their lives:

One Day Test: Choose a day within the next two weeks to live intentionally, focusing on meaningful interactions and activities. ("What if you just picked one day in the next two weeks to intentionally live as if QTR was precious?" [1:05:10])
Create a QTR List: Instead of a traditional bucket list, curate a list of quality moments and experiences you want to achieve. ("Create a QTR list instead of a bucket list." [1:10:20])

Final Thoughts and Encouragement

Ed concludes the episode by reiterating the importance of balancing ambition with quality time. He shares personal anecdotes about cherished memories with his family and achievements, highlighting that true fulfillment comes from both personal success and meaningful relationships.

Balancing Ambition and Quality Time: "I want to become the highest expression of yourself... but I don't want you to do that at the expense of quality time." ([1:25:35])

Ed encourages listeners to embrace both their goals and the moments that make life meaningful, ensuring a well-rounded and fulfilling existence.

Conclusion

In "What QTR Taught Me About Time, Peace, and Power," Ed Mylett delivers a compelling message about the finite nature of time and the necessity of living intentionally. By introducing the concept of Quality Time Remaining, Ed provides a framework for listeners to prioritize meaningful experiences and relationships, ultimately fostering a more balanced and fulfilling life. This episode serves as a powerful reminder to cherish each moment and create lasting memories amidst the pursuit of personal and professional growth.

Notable Quotes

"Quality time remaining. See, I'm 54 years old now... it's about quality time remaining, like healthy living." ([10:45])
"Urgency steals from importance if you're not intentional." ([35:50])
"Live like your time matters, because it does." ([42:15])
"Imagine your life was a gallon of milk with an expiration date... would you just leave it on the counter wasting away? Or would you savor it while it's still good?" ([58:45])

Transcript

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So, hey, guys, listen. We're all trying to get more productive and the question is, how do you find a way to get an edge? I'm a big believer that if you're getting mentoring or you're in an environment that causes growth, a growth based environment, that you're much more likely to grow and you're going to grow faster. And that's why I love Growth Day. Growth Day is an app that my friend Brendan Burchard has created that I'm a big fan of. Write this down growthday.com forward/ed. So if you want to be more productive, by the way, he's asked me, I post videos in there every single Monday that gets your day off to the right start. Got about $5,000, $10,000 worth of courses that are in there that come with the app. Also, some of the top influencers in the world are all posting content in there on a regular basis, like having the avengers of personal development and business in one app. And I'm honored that he asked me to be a part of it as well and contribute on a weekly basis. And I do. So go over there and get signed up. You're going to get a free tuition, free voucher to go to an event with Brendan and myself and a bunch of other influencers as well. So you get a free event out of it also. So go to growthday.com forward/ed. That's growthday.com ed. Summer's here and Nordstrom has everything you need for your best dress season ever. From beach days and weddings to weekend getaways in your everyday wardrobe, discover stylish options under $100 from tons of your favorite brands like Mango Skims, Princess Polly, and madewell. It's easy, too, with free shipping and free returns in store order pickup and more. Shop today in stores online@nordstrom.com or downlo the Nordstrom app. This is the Ed Milet Show. All right, welcome back to the show, everybody. So this week's podcast is a special one for me because I'm going to talk to you about something I've been talking to many of my friends about now for a little bit over a year. I'm going to give you a term, QTR. You heard that before. My guess is 99% of you are not. But here's what QTR stands for, @ least in my world. Quality time remaining. See, I'm, I'm 54 years old now and I'm on a group text with a bunch of guys that are somewhere between 45 and 75 years old. And most of these guys, I'll let you in on the inside, are very financially successful men. And we have this group text that we keep sending one another about QTR moments. And I'm in one group that's a little small group of just two or three, four guys. But I'm on another one that includes about 30 dudes. And it just happens to be all men that were on this group text because it was a trip we were all going on, and it turned into this QTR concept, quality time remaining. And it's something that I have been having on my mind now for quite a while that I wish was on my mind when I was younger. But I want to ask you that, you know, I'm evaluating in my life right now, like, how much quality time remaining do I have on this earth in this life at 54 years old? You know, quite frankly, I don't know how long that is. It could be, you know, it could be 20 years. I'm not talking about how long, how long I'm going to live. I'm talking about quality time remaining, like healthy living. It could be two years, it could be 20 years. You know, life isn't infinite. We all have a limited number of sunsets, limited number of conversations, limited number of hugs and chances in our life. And I don't think life is just. It's not just about how much time you have left, but it's about how we choose to live it. Whether you're young or you're old, by the way, I know some of you that are younger listening to this. Han is this Korean philosopher. He has this quote. He says young people, they're too alive to die and too dead to live. What he means by that is the rush, the hustle culture that we all live in, which serves us in many ways and that I'm a part of to some extent, but that so many of them are. They're so young, they're not going to die. They're alive, but they're too dead to live. They're too focused on the future. They're scrambling. They're on their phone, they're watching tv. They got work. They got this meeting, they got another thing. They got this, they got that, and they don't live. So let me give you an example of what I mean by that. All of you listening to this, I want you to think about the quality time you have remaining. See, if you're 30 years old right now, I'm 54, but I want to talk to you about quality Time when I was 30 years old, nobody told me that in three years you'd have a heart attack, which I did when I was 33. So that kind of affected my view of quality time. Huh. No one would tell you that when you're 30, you think you're young and you have a ton of quality time left. Well, that heart attack had gone another way, I wouldn't have had it. And it did affect my life. It didn't tell me that I'd have about 18 more years left with my dad, that I'd have 18 more years of quality time remaining with my dad, and then that would be it. That's when I was 30 years old. They didn't tell me that I'd have eight more years before I'd have my first bout of cancer. They didn't tell me that. They didn't tell me that I'd have 20 years left with a good back before my L3 L4 would compress. My point that I'm making to you is quality time remaining. You may not know. And what we do on these group texts, and it's really affected me is when. When one of us is doing something cool, they send a photo, whether he's, you know, hunting in Montana or golfing on a great golf course or sitting on a beach in the Caribbean, or sitting with their granddaughter on their lap or at church doing something really, really special. But we take these pictures and say qtr. And it's just a moment of quality time reminding everybody else in the group that we're on a clock that's ticking. And each of us send these pictures. With the exception of me, I've never posted one. I am probably the wealthiest of that group, yet I've never sent a photo into the group. I think I'm the only one who's not done that in the big group. And it made me really reflect on my birthday recently. Like, when am I going to start having those memories and those photos? And I better hurry up, because I know at 30, I didn't think in three years something was going to happen in my heart, or 20 years, my back would basically get destroyed, or I'd only have 18 more with my dad. I want you to really think about that today. And it's a good thing to begin to live intentionally. Maybe you should start that group text with your crowd, no matter what age you are. Qtr. Picture of you at the concert, picture of you skiing, picture of you making a great speech, Picture of you accomplishing one of your goals. Picture of you doing the things of your dreams. You know what I'm talking about. The things that feel right in your heart. Not the things you got to do, you're in a hurry to do, you're busy to do, you're supposed to do. That's not what I'm talking about. You know exactly what I mean. Those highlights of your life type moments. I remember when I was young and we would go out to dinner as a family. Every time we were done, little Bella would get out of her seat. This is by what time she was three all the way till she was or a young woman, she would get out of her seat, she'd come over and sit on Daddy's lap, give me a kiss, and we would just talk for a second while the family was talking. It was just a chance for me and her. That's a QTR moment, right? I. I've been to World Series games and Super Bowls. Those are QTR moments. But so was going to Max's Little League game or watching Bella play softball, right? Certain things I've been able to do when I've spoken on stages, that's a QTR moment. But you know what I mean. The things of your heart, of your dreams that you think you're going to get around to doing or you will do, but you don't do very much. Start your QTR text, start your QTR list, at least with yourself. Maybe there's two of you, maybe there's one of you. And start creating more quality time remaining moments. Because I don't care how old you are, you've got limited time left and time flies and as you get older, it goes faster. See, that's what QTR means, quality time remaining. It's a good reminder to know that this ends. There's a good reminder to know that we're on the clock. We forget as we get busy and we hustle and we meet and we do stuff and we climb the ladders that we don't even know why we're still climbing, and we should climb them. There's different views at different ladders at different heights of life. You know, to the extent that you want to do really cool things, it does require resources, but most cool things in life require none. And we miss most of those in the thought that someday we'll get around to them. Here's what I want a lot of them. I've lived a life where I've had a few biggies, but I want a lot of them. I want a lot of them. I think God wants you to have A lot of them. If I were praying for you, of course I want you to have more money, but I'd much rather you have magic moments, incredible memories, and if you don't get intentional about it, your day will get away from you and then your week will, and then the month and oh my gosh, it was a year and I had two QTR moments. Oh, my gosh. I've been on this group text now for a couple years. I've not posted one. And by the way, I'm. I've had some. I just. They weren't in there, but I don't have as many as these other guys because they're intentional about it. Some of them are very wealthy. Some of them are pretty wealthy, I'll be honest. But the fact of the matter is they're all intentional about that part of their life. We're intentional about our goals, aren't we? We're intentional about making more money. We're intentional about our health. We're intentional about X, Y and Z. But are we intentional about quality time remaining the moments of our life, the memories of our life? Think that through for your life right now. If your life ended right now, did you have all the quality moments you deserve? Did you give them to your family? All of the quality moments your children, your spouse, your grandchildren, your brothers and sisters, your parents, your friends have deserved? Have you created those quality time remaining moments, those quality times, to the abundance and the amount and to the depths of that? You deserve that. They deserve that you were designed to have. Or are you just frigging busy? Are you just gonna look? I believe in delayed gratification, but you can take that to an extreme like I have. And then you're in your 50s and you're like, well, is it time now? How about now? Right? And I believe in the service of other people in a deep way, but not at the expense of everything else in your life. And I have sort of OD'd on the service of other people in my life. I'm evaluating everything. I'm evaluating how much speaking I'm going to do. I'm evaluating this, what I'm doing with you right now. Quality time remaining. I'm enjoying making this contribution. But there's a beach out there that I haven't been on in a couple months. There's some golf courses calling my name. There's some horses that need to be ridden. Both those things require my back to get a little bit better. There's some places around the world I'd like to see and you know what? I'd like to just sit for a few days alone and do nothing. You know what I'm talking about? So that's qtr everybody. Here's the deal with the news. I just don't think you know what's true. If you really listen to one sort of a channel and you lean a particular way, they're going to feed you all the things that you already believe, right? If you go to the other channel, everybody's the bad guy there and you're going to hear all the news there. Everything has spin today. It's really difficult. I'll listen to a story like, oh my gosh, they're completely doing this. Then you hear the backstory on another channel. You're like, wait a minute, that's totally not true. Everywhere we look, there's spin in the news. It's unbelievable. So if you want to be more aware of where your news is coming from, welcome to Ground News. It helps cut through all the spin and clutter and noise. Ground News gathers related articles from around the world in one place with context about the source's political leaning, reliability and ownership. Go to groundnews.com mylet today they get 40% off the ground News Vantage plan and get access to all of their news analysis features. That's ground news.com for 40% off the ground News Vantage plan for a limited time only. Ground DownNews.com MyLet this message is sponsored by Greenlight. So I gotta tell you something. I love when technology revolutionizes an old industry. I also think one of the tragedies of education is that our kids get out of school. They know a lot about history and algebra and all these other things. They don't know how to budget. They don't understand the value of money, the value of work. And that's why I love Green Light. Listen to this. Green Light is a debit card and money app made for families. It helps kids learn how to save, invest and spend wisely. Parents can send money, keep an eye on what they're spending. Meanwhile, kids build money habits and confidence and skills at the same time. You can also do a thing for chores, a recurring one for that. I wish my kids had this when they were young. But they did have me. And as they got older, I made sure they had these skills, understood the value of money, budgeting, etc. It's easy, it's convenient. It's a great way for parents to raise financially smart and responsible kids. Start your risk free Green Light trial today at greenlight.comed, that's greenlight.com/ed to get started. Greenlight.comed number two, you need to recognize that time is a non renewable resource. Stop treating it like it's renewable. Money, possessions, status, all replaceable. Time is not. So if you're spending time in a relationship right now, that is toxic or doesn't serve you, doesn't fulfill you, doesn't give you quality time, it's the wrong place. Get out. Stop spending time in it or change it or change them right. You cannot get time back. Don't spend another minute, another second in a life that you don't love, that you're not working towards, that you don't deserve. You deserve a great life. And by the way, when I'm on that group text, I'm like, I'm so proud of these guys. Yeah, he got another one. Yeah, he went deer hunting. Yeah, he played this golf course, man. He took a morning swim in his pool. Quality time remaining. You know, just send that picture. Picture that with your friends, right? One guy just last week, grandson and granddaughter on his lap. Quality time remain. They're just at a park. I'm like, yeah, man, that's awesome. And I'm so proud of these guys because they could be doing all kinds of other things and distract their lives. One of the first interviews I did, I remember the young man's name. One of the first podcasts I was ever on. This young man told me the story about his father had worked very hard all of his life, really hard, and sacrificed everything. And I believe he was in his late 50s and he had retired. He sent an email out to everybody on the Friday I've retired, I finally done it. And I believe as the story went, he was leaving on Monday to go on his first real vacation ever, a real one, over to Europe. And everyone was chiming in on the email. You go, congratulations, you've worked so hard, you've earned it. Etc, etc, and he died on Saturday. He never got to it. He just worked himself into the grave. This has become part of our culture. It's celebrated. It's not right. I'm going to be one of the first people to tell you, by the way, I've been sharing with a few of the top people in personal development who you know and who shows you watch. Maybe like mine, hopefully you watch mine first and most. And I've been telling them this and they get emotional. The people that I've shared this with, that, you know, I've said, hey, I'm getting on this qtr tip and here's what it is. And they're like, which, please talk about it more. Please write a book about it. Please. Now, by the way, once this podcast is out, somebody's going to copy it. Like to do all of my work, which is fine because more people will hear it, but I am going to write about it. I'm going to take a deep dive into it, but I want to give it to you on the podcast today first, before it starts getting copied. Number three. Prioritize the important over the urgent. Often we waste time on urgent emails, errands, scrolling on our phone, and neglect the truly important things. Connection, purpose, dreams. Remember this. Urgency steals from importance if you're not intentional. Urgency steals from importance. If you're not intentional, it will rob you of the important being urgent. And the reason it matters to be intentional about this is you're more powerful than you think you are. When you're intentional about something, you end up getting it. And so making QTR an intention of yours will automatically open up a space that didn't exist beforehand. This is really critical. When you're intentional about something you got to do at work, by and large you get it done. When you're intentional about wanting to get your body changed, by and large, you get it done. Intentions matter. And when you get really intentional about something, eventually you make it to come to pass. So I want to challenge you, be intentional about qtr. If you don't do that, your life will just go back to normal. And it's very easy to do. Many of you would say to me, man, I've had a qtr. It was like eight Sundays ago, I was riding a bike or, right? It's not expensive. A lot of it's not expensive. It's taking in a moment. It's taking in a moment, but it's being intentional about creating it. These things aren't going to just fall in your lap. I think that's what we think. I can be intentional about my goals, intentional about making money, intentional about getting my body in shape, intentional about living a long time, intentional about my relationships. But the quality moments, they just sort of show up. They just sort of happen. They'll come along. No, that's why there's so few of them. That's why there's only a handful. But when you get intentional about it and you do that repetitiously over a year period of time, you have a QTR list, right? And you start really thinking about this more show up. And guess what? More qtr, better life, less QTR Worse life, period. I don't know if more money gives you a better life. Probably, but not always, right? I don't know if being in shape gives you a better life. Probably, but not for sure. More quality moments in your life. Better life. An abundance of moments like that. Better life. Waiting for them to show up. Not so smart yet. That's what we do. We've all been trained in program to be intentional about goals, dreams, purpose, relationship, body, diet, nutrition, whatever it might be, and maybe even our piece. But not quality time. Not those moments. By the way, number four, I advocate that you create a QTR mindset. It's always risky when you put this out on a podcast because it can be mistaken to some extent or you know, someone will get ahead of you on it. And I just want to say something to you. Live like your time matters, because it does. Ask yourself this question. If I only had five years left, would I be spending today this way? I think that should be a filter you look at every day. There are days of our life that require hard stuff and difficult stuff. But can I just say something to you? And I've contributed this as well. There's no shortage of people saying this on the Internet. You got to do the hard things. You got to do the hard things. You got to do the hard things. You got to grind. You got to go. But we. There's no shortage of that. Now, was I one of the first people to start teaching it because I'm old? Yes. But there's no shortage of people. Some say it intensity, some say with profanity, some say it kind. But they're all saying the same thing. So I'd like to be a voice that says, yes, you do need to climb. Because I want you to become the highest expression of yourself. I want you to meet who you're capable of becoming. But I don't want you to do that at the expense of quality time. I believe you can do both. I believe there's nuance to life. There's a middle error, may not make a great Instagram clip, may not be a great sound bite, may not be a great quote. But the truth is life has lived in that space. That's difficult to explain. And I believe you can climb because I have friends who have done it. And impact and grow and meet the man or woman you're capable of. At the same time, create memories as you go. And actually those moments of quality time will actually enhance your ability to contribute, enhance your ability to grow and climb. Number five, adapt some legacy thinking. What experiences Memories and impact do you want to leave behind? That's easy for you that are in your 40s, 50s, 60s, and 70s to do. But those of you in your 20s and 30s, can I give you some insight? I was thinking about what I wanted to leave behind in my legacy in my 20s, which is why I've built a big one. And if you're not thinking about that right now, you just go in day to day. I'll figure it out. Listen to certain influencers. You're. You're so young at 20 or 30. What are you talking about? Right? There's a ton of multi millionaires in their 20s. Now there's this thing called a smartphone. You can start a business. There's all kinds of things you could do. Tell LeBron James he needed to wait. Tell Kobe Bryant, tell Mark Zuckerberg, tell Mark Cuban we could keep going on. Tell Donald Trump. Tell Barack Obama. Tell her you want. These people did a lot in their life. Young QTR thinking pushes you towards legacy building rather than life drifting. So you can be working really, really hard and making some leaps and you're drifting through your life. In fact, I believe there's a lot of you listening to me right now that are growing and you are accomplishing and you are achieving. And yet you know you're drifting. It's a drift towards nowhere because you don't have the other part of your life. Intentional. Your goals are intentional. Your climb is intentional. Your ambitions are intentional. But the QTR part of your life is not intentional. And what you're doing is. You're just drifting towards a finish line that never finishes, that you can't even explain. You're in some big hurry to get someplace you can't even define. But I can tell you what you think it is. I think you think that you are hurrying to get to the QTR part of your life. If I just do enough of this, then I'll get quality time, quality memories, amazing moments. So I'll sacrifice all of them now. You don't have to sacrifice all of them. Trust me. Everything becomes a pattern. Everything becomes addicting. Everything becomes an obsession. If you're going to be great, you have to be obsessed to be great. And if you're not careful, you can wake up at 54 and you've never posted a picture in the group of qtr. And yet you are the wealthiest and most well known in that group. I don't want that for you. Which is why I share my story with you. Hey, it's Ed Mylett. Let me share Something powerful with you. You know, in uncertain times, the smartest people I know protect what they've built. That includes my father in law by the way, who've been buying gold for a number of years up until his passing. And it paid off for him every single time that he did it. And I'm licensed so I can't tell you where to put your money and I would never do that. But I can tell you this. He bought it because gold is timeless. And that's why most of the smart people I know have bought gold. It's real. It doesn't vanish when the market takes a hit. And right now, many smart people I know are investing their money in gold and silver as part of their retirement plan and their future planning. That's why Advantage Gold is a part of our program now. And what I love about what they're doing is they're giving away a free gold and silver investor kit that walks you through exactly how to get started. Text wind 85545 to get your free kit. That's win to 85545. Don't wait for the next crash. Be the one who's ready. Protect, prepare and prosper. Message and data rates may apply. Performance varies. Always consult your financial and tax professional. Here's an analogy for you expiring milk. Imagine your life was a gallon of milk with an expiration date printed on the side. You just can't see it. You know it's going to expire, but you do not know when. Would you just leave it on the counter wasting away? Or would you savor it while it's still good? What I'm saying to you is there's an expiration date on your life. You're as young and as healthy as you are probably ever going to be right now. The milk of your life tastes better right now than it ever will. Savor it while it's still good. Trust me. I'm giving you such good counsel. By the way, you can also think about the event countdown. Think about how you act like in the very beginning of a concert you've gone to how excited you are in that moment. Or even at the very end of a concert, right? Or the final scenes of a vacation. You know, you ever been on that beach? You're on your vacation, it's the last night and you just. You soak it all in, don't you? The view, the saltwater, the amazing place you are, the people around you. The last night of a vacation, you just kind of soak it all in, don't you, you know that moment or the end of a concert you're at and you just kind of soak it in, like, wow, right? You become incredibly present in those moments. What if you lived your life on the regular that way? Like the regular habit you had was the end of the vacation type. Soaking things in and presence. Not all the time. Because what makes vacation special is it's not all the time. It's a distinguishing moment, a distinction between the norm. But it should be more of the time. I love the contrast of life. I love working really hard. But I do love the vacation part that I've been robbing myself of forever soaking it in. Too many of you go, well, Ed, you're more extreme on that than me. So mine's not that bad. No. Just because I'm really bad at it doesn't mean you're also not bad at it. Just maybe quite as crazy as I am, right? It can be better. Buddha said, the trouble is you think you have time. No matter what age you are, you think you have time. Give yourself this. The one day test. What if you just picked one day in the next two weeks to intentionally live as if QTR was precious? Call someone and have a deep conversation. Write the letter to somebody, take the walk, say the hard thing. Just pick a day, one day in the next two weeks and go. This is gonna be a quality time day. Right. Doesn't need to be the whole day, but you're intentional about it. See how you feel with that deep conversation, that long walk you've taken, the letter you wanted to write, the beginning of the book you're going to start, that you've always said you were going to read or write. Say that thing to somebody you've been sitting on for a while that you love them and you've been afraid to tell them or you're mad at them and you've been carrying a burden that you want to let go of. Let me have another thing to do, which I just did. Create a QTR list instead of a bucket list. What's your QTR essentials list? What moments or experiences do you want to make sure happen while they still can and start to list them? I started to do this. I got excited about my. It's not a bucket list, it's a QTR list. And some of them are. So your bucket list is like big things. QTR can be little moments. I had one last night. I had one last night. Sun was setting, smoking my cigar, watching the Celtics beat the Orlando Magic. And I literally designed that. I looked at the schedule. I said I'm give myself a qtr me alone. It was one of my moments in the yard watching my celtics win sunset and smoking it. Edmundo Dantes Condi 54, 2011 I think they only made a thousand boxes of these things. Oh so good. That was a qtr moment. I probably should have screenshot of that and sent it to the guys. In fact I need to next time I do it guys. Texas coming when you know your time is limited and it is every second becomes sacred. Start to live today like it's worth one day. All of us will wish for more time today. You have it. Spend it like it matters because it does. All of us on some level want more quality time. And that time is running out. I will just tell you that it's not always just running out on you. It's running out on the people that you love. My mom sent me a birthday card for my birthday yesterday. I love her so much. And my mom sent me a card. She wrote this wonderful note with a hundred dollars in it. Every birthday, my mom sends me a hundred dollars. It used to be when I was younger it was $20. When I was really young, it was a dollar. But now my mom sends me a hundred bucks and she knows, you know, my financial status. But I called her and we talked for a little bit and I thought to myself, I hope my mom lives another 30 years. But I'm gonna soak in this conversation. I don't know how many more quality time remaining I have with my mom on the phone or in person. And that's not just with my mom. That's with anybody that you love in your life. Lily and Daisy and Rose, my little Pomeranians. Well, Rose is a baby, but Lily and Daisy are. They're getting up there. I can't even imagine if something happens to them. But I only have so much quality time remaining with my little palmies. That may sound soft, but it just makes me savor the moment a little bit more. You know, I don't just pet them with my head up. I pet them and I look in their eyes. Just taking the moment a little more. A little deeper maybe. That's corny. You know, I do enough content on here about achievement and kicking butt and getting in shape and making your dreams happen and being intense. And I've spent most of my life as a very, very intense guy. And I like that guy. But he's also an obstacle to the peaceful guy. That intense guy achieves a lot, helps a lot of people, and I Like him, I'm very familiar with him. I've lived with intense ed mylet most of my. But that guy doesn't have a lot of quality remements. And in the time I have remaining, whether that's two years, two weeks or a hundred years, I need to have another person exist that creates those memories, that quality time. The people around me deserve it. The people around you deserve it. And I wanted to share this with you today because I'm going to do more work on qtr. I'm going to write about it, I'm going to talk about it, I'm going to create more strategies, I'm going to create content around it that's going to help you at every area of your life. And by the way, some of the great quality times of my life have been my achievements. Those were quality moments, quality times I've shared with the people I achieved it with. There's nothing better than winning in business and looking around the room with your teammates going, man, we did it. We did something awesome. We made history. Nobody thought we could do this thing and we're doing it. That's a quality time right? And I want more of those remaining. I'm not saying achievement is not quality time, but sometimes the pursuit and the day to day of doing it can rob us from the moments that could be. But believe me when I tell you, when you make me flash through the quality moments of my life, some of them are business, some of them are tremendous achievements with people I believe in and I love. Some of them are moments with my family like that as well. Where, man, we did it. Our family's awesome. We overcame it. We've changed our family, we've changed our bloodline forever. No one's ever gonna have their thumb on the mylets. I'm the one. All of that matters. But so does the other stuff. So does soaking in that sunset and breathing in that salt water on the last day of vacation. And you don't have to be in front of the ocean in Hawaii to give yourself that time or that moment or that quality of experience. The quality of experience is you being fully present and being intentional about making it a magic moment and a memory. See, I think our live is not about necessarily all the minutes we live, but it's a handful of memories and moments that we hold on to. If I asked you about your life right now, you would flash to a handful of moments that were special. The birth of your children, the day you got married, the day you graduated college. A magic moment with the person you're intimate with, or something special in your life that happened with another person, or a sunset you took in, or a vacation you're on, or a place you saw, or something you experienced, or a concert you went to, or an athletic event you were there for. Except it shouldn't just be a handful. And some of them cost nothing. Like Bella climbing into Daddy's lap and us just talking up close and her giving me a kiss on the cheek. Doesn't cost anything. They don't have to cost money. Qtr my friends, start talking about it, start texting it to each other. You better share this episode because it could change people's lives. To change your life, man. It might change the world if we get enough of this out there. God bless you. This is the Ed Milan Show.