In today's episode, Heather sits down with John Lowry, lawyer, negotiation coach, and author of Negotiation Made Simple, to uncover what it really takes to become a confident, effective negotiator. John's experience as a professor at Pepperdine University's renowned Straus Institute for Dispute Resolution, CEO of The Lowry Group, and consultant to major organizations gives him a unique lens into the psychology and strategy behind every great deal. Together, Heather and John explore how mastering negotiation isn't just about tactics; it's about managing yourself, understanding others, and learning to balance ambition with empathy. In this episode, you'll learn:

The Inner Negotiation – Why the first and most important negotiation happens inside your own mind and how managing your emotions, fears, and self-talk determines your success.
Cooperation vs. Competition – How to know when to lean into collaboration and when to assert your position with strength and clarity.
The Power of Patience – Why "you often pay for the time you save" and how slowing down the process helps you make better, more strategic decisions.
Axelrod's Four Steps to Effective Negotiation – Start cooperatively, respond in kind, forgive, and be clear. John and Heather unpack how these steps build trust and drive results.
The Ambition + Empathy Equation – What Harvard research reveals about top dealmakers and how combining drive with understanding gives you a competitive edge.
Real-World Lessons – Insights from John's work with executives, mediators, and organizations on how to use negotiation to build healthier relationships and stronger outcomes.

In this episode: [00:00] Meet John Lowry – Lawyer, author, and negotiation expert [02:46] The first negotiation: managing yourself [06:17] When to cooperate and when to compete [10:47] Getting comfortable with uncertainty [14:49] Why patience pays in negotiation [18:00] Recognizing signals vs. words [22:14] Forgiveness and cooperation in business [26:29] Collaboration vs. cooperation explained [31:12] Building trust through clarity [35:20] Ambition and empathy, the twin pillars of great dealmakers Resources & Links: 📘 Book: Negotiation Made Simple by John Lowry 🎙️ Podcast: Negotiation Made Simple Podcast 🌐 The Lowry Group: lowrygroup.net

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