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Mindset Matters – Episode #182 – Mind Shui: How to Clear Mental Clutter and Reset Your Life
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Patrick O.
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Stephanie Hanlon
Welcome to this episode of the Everyday Millionaire Mindset Matters podcast, where I'm joined by my wife, Olympic mental performance coach Stephanie Hanlon. Francie. In these episodes, Stephanie and I have a conversation about the different aspects of what we refer to as Mindset Matters because we believe that for those who are awake, we are living in and through the most impactful time in history. Your view of the world is the filter for how you will experience the evolution and changing dynamics of it. Our intention is to provide you with ideas, nutritious food for thought, and some tools that you can use to help you in being your greatest self and living your best life. Listen in. Enjoy.
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Patrick O.
So, Stephanie, here we are. We're back. We are.
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Francie
Hi, hon.
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Patrick O.
So I don't know if anybody noticed, we did a throwback Thursday. So we were away. We're in Arizona. We took a mental health break and ended up doing a whole bunch of really cool work, some with a couple of cool people. We're in Arizona. In Sedona. Sedona Vortex.
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Francie
Right. It was so incredible. I. I really get that there's an energy shift there. It was really, really special.
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Patrick O.
Yeah. Weather was fantastic and it turned out to be a really nice break. I cleared my calendar and then. Really, I did. We did. No. Did I do any work? I don't think I did much at all during the week in terms of work. We were just really checked out. How about you? I was anyways. How about you?
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Francie
I don't think I was checked out. I just really had made it kind of like a sacred space. I wanted to be really present. I did one meeting, a zoom meeting outside, which was super cool. But the rest of the time we were just really present with our coaches. It was very intense, one on one, you know, two on one. We had basically moved into a house in kind of nowheresville, Sedona, and it was amazing.
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Patrick O.
Yeah, that's right, too. JG and I shot a rein it in while I was in Sedona, so it was fantastic. Okay, so what do you want to talk about? Where do you think? What was your big takeaway for the week? We spent a week with Lady J.B. owen and her husband Peter, and it was. I got a ton. What about you? What'd you get out of it?
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Francie
Yeah, well, it was beyond cool. It was like really. I think I really needed it. I needed a reset. I needed some sort of kind of regrounding in who we are, what we're doing. You know, there's so much happened in the last four to five years that we've just been on, I think on whether it's overdrive or autopilot or just full on redlining on a couple of different things. So many things changed in our businesses and our personal lives and I think it was a really good time just to just stop, you know, get regrounded in what it is that, you know, what we're doing and who we are.
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Patrick O.
Yeah, 100% and important. You know, like when you think about what we do in the world of supporting, in my case, supporting or doing my best to support a community and coaching and you're doing the same. You know, we got to kind of walk our talk and that is that we are the center of our universe. It is imperative that we look after ourselves in order to have the energy, the insights, the creativity to look after those that are in our life. You know, whether it be friends, family, our community, our clients. Ultimately, it's really important that we re. Plug in, if you will, have a bit of a reset, although I think that word gets a little overused these days, but, you know, really kind of reset and come back fired up, inspired, which I know I am. I am fired up. And of course we get home from a great vacation and then, you know, life hits me square in the face with a cast iron. Oh, gosh.
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Francie
Oh, man, I felt so bad today. Is that you were full on, head to the office, you know, and full on fight fires.
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Patrick O.
Fight fires. I was a firefighter all day banking crap. Oh man, it just ate my lunch. Anyways, end of the day we came out, I got outside, I got some fresh air, I got some sun, I remembered to just breathe. I listened to a couple of great podcasts that got me cleared up again and feeling pretty good. So we've talked a lot about us. So, you know, we should get on some kind of topic here. So. No, you, I never did, you know. Hold it, hold it. What did you get? Let's, let's use some of your lesson. My lessons as a bit of an inspiration for the, for the podcast today. What did you get?
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Francie
Oh my gosh, I got. How important? Just stopping and putting my feet in the dirt. Going hiking. We went to a really cool thing called the Birthing Cave. We went to something called the Wash. And I just realized that, you know, as much as we know and we think we, we got this handled, there's so much out there in the world that we don't know and that we can just step into and, and really learn and be present to things that, you know, neither of us have a Clue. Right. And if we're going to continue to do this work, which I want to keep doing and keep sharing our gifts with the world, is that we do need to plug in. We need. I need to put my feet in the dirt. I need to be able to, you know, connect with you. I mean, we danced. It was really fun. And we had. We ate every day. We ate healthy meals. We were outside. We connected with nature. We walked a lot. It was really special.
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Patrick O.
Yeah. Walked in the beautiful red earth. So it was pretty fantastic. And I think that, you know, when I consider there's a couple things that you said, you know, we don't know, and we don't know what we don't know. When you think about your clients, your skaters, you know, one of the things that I am. When you created the school, you and Patch Marie created the school, it was the realization that, skaters, if you're the best in the country and you're the best in Canada, the best in Britain, the best in the usa, doesn't matter if you're the best in any one of those countries. As an example, what's your benchmark? How do you know how you're doing? So what you guys said, well, why don't we bring everybody together, train all these countries together? Seemed like a wild idea, given that they were going to compete against each other. But then they had a benchmark outside of their bubble. They had a benchmark of other countries, best in the world. And all of a sudden, they could see, oh, I got to jump a little higher, work a little harder, do a bit better. So they trained. So the point is, is that they have a benchmark someplace to aspire to achieve, or maybe a little bit of a fire lit under their butts to get to work or work a little harder on days that they don't want. So I find that I have the same issue when I'm training. And that's, you know, one. I go, dude, like, I don't know where's my benchmark for being 66 plus years old? And, you know, he, of course, always laughs at me and goes, you know, you're in a whole upper percentile. And I go, great. I literally don't know that. And I'm. I don't know that I'm asking that from a place of ego. I'm more asking it because I want to make sure that am I pushing myself to what would be considered pushing myself at this point in my age? Anyways, long story short. Yes. Now, this is all a big, long, you know, winded conversation about our week with our coaches. We don't know in terms of coaching and in our own development, not in our coaching, but in our. Our own personal development. Individually and as a couple, we have no benchmark. Yeah, we have people go, you guys, how do you do that as a couple? You guys are amazing. And that's all cool. I mean, I take the compliment, but that's somebody that, you know, maybe you've worked with or we've coached or, you know, it was. I don't know. It's just not a good benchmark in my world. Although it's very flattering, it's not a good benchmark. We're with a couple people that take benchmarks in terms of who they have worked with and they have a, you know, they have a deck, a definite relatedness. So they can say, no, we worked with X, Y, Z, and they're not even in your ballpark of their own development. Know, they're still struggling to get to where you guys are in your understanding of yourselves and how you operate as a couple. So for me, that was very confidence boosting. Okay, we're on the right path.
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Francie
Hearing that and just knowing that we're still doing the work, we're still figuring stuff out. We're still, you know, there's still some things we're operating on top of. You know, there was some things in the last five years that, you know, we weren't complete around conversations, didn't fully get, I don't know, had or fully fleshed out. And this week gave us the opportunity to do that. And you know what I think about when we do our shift program or when we work with teams or couples or even individuals, is that that time and that energy and that space to just be, you know, with yourself and deal with the things that are going on in your life without all the TikTok and without all the stuff that's going on around in the news and all the, you know, all the shit that's happening in the world. And for us, we just put a pause on it and just entered the conversation and hung out with each other and we laughed, we cried, we talked.
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Patrick O.
We had big, big, big conversations.
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Francie
Big conversations. Well, some of the things that we were able to experience, for example, was the labyrinth. And a labyrinth is something that I've experienced in Japan and China and different things where you walk around and you think about something and then you unwind and just. Just do this whole routine of things that just forces your mind to be quiet. That was really interesting. And then There was, of course, the hot tub, and then there was, you know, the walking that we did in the desert. And I think things like seeing, you know, cacti and things that were going on, wildlife that were happening, and just taking us out of our normal day to day was really, really important.
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Patrick O.
It was the last journaling. I actually painted for the first time. Watercolor.
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Francie
You're amazing. You're a good painter.
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Patrick O.
Oh, yeah, I am. I'm unbelievable. Okay, so then I invented a word, but I want to. So let me give you a context for that word because it's important, and so I'm getting used to it. Okay. So the whole conversation was, you know, we often talk about mindset, but we look at what we're doing with the Everyday Millionaire podcast, and the realization is that, you know, often my guests are talking about, you know, a lot of the success that they gained and the stories that they share were their experiences. You know, they're talking about how they did it in terms of the minutia of how they operate their business. But they share stories of their journey, and then they share stories of their own development and their lessons learned along the way. And when we talk about mindset, you start to pick up on nuances and the language words people choose, I. E. How I spoke this week and what I learned about some of my bad habits of certain words that I use. I don't even call it bad habits. Lack of awareness around those words. Anyways, we get to this point where we're having this whole conversation, and in my meditation and vision for what I came to, I started to realize that I had come across the word feng shui. You remember what feng shui is?
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Francie
Yes, of course. We've had a couple of different people come in and help us, like, change the energy in our room and put furniture in different places in our house.
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Patrick O.
So it's all about that. It's all about energy. So feng shui, you know, if you give it a basic kind of thought process, is it brings balance and clarity and energy to physical spaces. And I'm thinking to myself, well, really, it's when we think about mindset and when we break it down into the seven areas of life, and when we're having conversations with people, you know, we come to this conclusion that clarity equals velocity. And having clarity allows you to gain momentum, enhance velocity, because there's nothing in your way. Clarity, you're clearing the way. And that then got into my mind about energy, and I'm thinking feng shui, and that really we need to feng Shui our minds. So I thought, gosh, that'd be kind of a cool metaphor or analogy or term, which would be mindset feng shui. I thought, that's pretty cool, right? You know, you reorganize your brain, you gain the clarity, you get stuff out of the way, you perhaps collapse some old traumas, all the things that we operate on top of. You become aware of ego. You organize all those thought processes in your head. You following so far?
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Francie
Oh, yeah, totally. Like mindset feng shui.
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Patrick O.
I love that mindset feng shui. It was really cool. And I thought, gosh, that's kind of a cool term. And then I'm expressing that to the crew, and what I tripped over was a word called mind shui.
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Francie
I know. No, let me just back that up. So you were talking really, really fast and you were saying, okay, mindset feng shui. And all of a sudden you went, main shui. And I went, ooh, that's it. That's what it is.
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Patrick O.
It's main shui, mind shui. It is so true. So anyways, that's my word, because really what that's going to do is going to bring that same balance and clarity and energy to our mental space. So that's the point of it, is to encapsulate the work that we do and the conversations that we have. A lot of that is to create and set up your mind, your brain, for how it fires. Call it mind shui. It brings the attentional alignment, if you will, to, you know, to life, to how we think, you know, realigning our beliefs or creating that kind of energetic flow, you know, right through all seven areas of our life. So I'm, you know, I'm working on it. I'm kind of working through it, but I'm starting to like, it makes sense to me. And that's all that really matters.
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Francie
I know, right? I like it a lot because when you think about it, when, you know, we had somebody come in and rearrange some of the stuff in our house so that there was energy and in. When it comes to abundance or finances or clarity, you know, in different areas of your home. But when you think about your mind, like, there's still clutter up here. So I look at my office and I think, okay, it's better than it was before, but it's still clutter. And what's up here in our brain is like, there's. If there's clutter, there's not clarity. And if there's not clarity, there's not decision making. Velocity. And so how cool would it be to have an opportunity to just look at all seven areas of life and the mental capacity that we have? And mind shui. It, like, really be mindful as to how we're going to think, how we're going to put our thought processes together, how we're going to use our language and be mindful around that. I just thought that was brilliant. I thought, you know, mind shui is. If anything came out of this week in Sedona, it was mind shui.
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Patrick O.
I was at the breakthrough of genius. But, like, really in my. In my mind, it makes total sense because, you know, so many people are just blocked by their circumstances. We'll call that their fears and their circumstances. There's a lot of internal clutter. You know, whether it's unprocessed emotions because we've been angry at somebody forever, or we've been in love with somebody who doesn't know they love us. Whatever the story is, what I'm saying is, is that there's all these unprocessed emotions and there's a lot of old beliefs, old traumas, there's misaligned, call them habits and routines. And so my whole thought process with, you know, when you think about feng shui, mindset, the whole thing is that once your environment is set up, energy flows. And so to me, when I think about, you know, water, if it, you know, it flows the path of least resistance. And I think energy is that way too it in our life, you know, energy flows the path of least resistant. But if you're all. If your mindset's all messed or cluttered, you're going to get really stuck. So mind you, or mai shui, I should say, it's going to, you know, the intent it is to clear the mental clutter.
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Francie
Yeah. And, you know, it'll eventually roll off the tongue like mai shui, like you made up a word. I mean, eventually that's going to get into the culture and the subculture. And the nomenclature of our world is that, you know, when we think about it, we can be in charge of how we organize our thoughts and how we organize our mind. And I look at the athletes that I work with is that they really understand the compartmentalization of the thought processes. And, you know, when I walk back and think of all the things that I've done over the years, it's that I, you know, I might have been doing mine shui and not even knowing it.
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Patrick O.
Well, now I've. In my brain, I've got a whole program I'm going to put together around mind Shui. So Morika.
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Francie
I'll take it.
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Patrick O.
It'll be lots of fun. And what else? I got back to my meditation. I got back to some things that I've been stepping over. Did some amazing journaling and really kind of cleared the space in my head.
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Francie
Yeah. And there was some weird, like, coughing thing that we both had. I mean, how weird was that? Right? Like we're not sick. And all of a sudden we had this coughing thing going on. I don't know if it's chemtrails or. Or what was going on.
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Patrick O.
I'm sure that's what it is.
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Francie
I'm sure that's what it was.
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Patrick O.
Yeah. Especially in Arizona. But it reminded me of. We have the same issue with when we are. Because we spend. When we go home to Alberta all the time it's a little bit dry. And I think that's part. The biggest part of it is the dryness that we're not used to. I think maybe. I don't know, because like you say, we're not. It's not like we're. We feel bad, we feel great.
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Francie
No, I think it's also being aware too, right. That when we're going into different climates and different climate zones is that we have to take. I mean, we've probably drank between the four of us, like five flats of water. Like, it was just. It was crazy how dry it is down there. So being mindful of that and making sure that we were, you know, you know, taking care of our hydration and our nutrition and, you know, it was fun. You know, we didn't drink any wine. There was no drinking. There was no nothing all week. It was so grounding. Like nothing pulled us out of what we were focused on there to do, which was to commit to our relationship. Yeah, it was really fun.
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Patrick O.
We really just submersed ourselves in it, didn't we? And I think that was what, you know, I mean, JB and Peter held amazing space for us. They are brilliant at listening and kind of pulling some really cool stuff out in a really neat way. And I really felt looked after the whole week. So it's good. I'm in a real nice feeling, good buzz. I've got some clarity myself, which is going to represent velocity and, you know, came up with my word. I'm early commitment to writing a book within the everyday millionaire space. Got two on my mind. So we'll give that probably a year. But I'm thinking that I'm going to take that on. I Think there's a lot there to talk about and to share with listeners. Create community. Keep building the community within the Everyday Millionaire and Mindset Matters. And that will continue to be what we do going forward and growing that brand. So stay tuned, folks. You know, we're. We're going to do some cool stuff. Got some big plans for the Everyday Millionaire and Mindset Matters podcast and the work that Stephanie and I are doing. Kind of cool.
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Francie
It's really cool. And I'm excited that, you know, before we got to Arizona, you're like, I don't got a book in me. There's no way I've got a book in me. And all of a sudden we get home and you're like, I got two books in me.
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Patrick O.
Oh, yeah.
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Francie
That was so fun.
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Patrick O.
I know. Okay, so what else are we going to talk about? What do you want to hit on? Anything else? The World is Changing continues. We were a little bit dialed out of any kind of news for the week. That was a nice break. We came back, the world was still here. The sun continues to come up. Gold prices continue to go up. Shit continues to hit the fan. Consumer confidence continues to be beat up. You know, it's hard to find something really promising economically, but when we look in our world and the fact that a lot of what we got going on are first world problems, as annoying as they are and frightening and confusing as they can be for many, there's still a lot to be grateful for. That's kind of one of my takes on it. What's your. What's your thoughts on that, man?
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Francie
I have to agree is that, you know, it really, we were pretty much, like I said earlier, we were redlining when we left. It's like, how are we going to keep doing this? What are we going to do? I mean, honestly, the economy is out of control. There's an election coming up. Know, people are like, all of a sudden, you know, orange man bad. And all the Canadians are worried about what is happening in the US Instead of taking care of what's happening in our own country. So there was a lot that I was super concerned about and really fired up about. And I thinking, well, what can I control in that? And I can't control any of that. All I do is control my perception and what's going on for me and how we can take care of our little corner of the world and be grounded in the truth. And the truth is that the politics are going to be the politics. You know what? And we're going to have to make the decisions that are going to happen, you know, once this election in Canada, you know, fleshes out, I just really hope. I'm just hoping and praying that people are not wanting the same outcome as we've had the last 10 years. And that while I can hope.
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Patrick O.
Yeah, I mean, it's a big election coming up. I think, really, when I think of. For me, I know that it was a nice break given the fact that I'm always knee deep or neck deep in what's going on economically, just by the nature of what I do within the real estate investment network. And even when I'm speaking, it does bring me down. It kind of bums me out. It's always looking at the dark side of everything. But having the path within that, knowing that within that path lies the opportunity and why it's so important that we understand what's going on economically. So without taking it on to your point, what can you control? We really can't control very much at all other than how we view the world. So perspective is reality. So change your perspective, Change your reality. It's not meant to be cliche. And that is really the case, though, is it's important that we change our perspective, which is what we did this past week. And I think that also allowed us the space to kind of relax, get clear, shed a little bit of weight that we didn't need to be carrying in terms of our mental. Because when we look at what's going on in the world, let's face is messy out there. Here's my visual for it. Remember the old pinball machines?
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Francie
Yeah. Ding, ding, ding, ding, ding, ding.
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Patrick O.
The ball bouncing all over. And then every so often you get like a double ball and a quadruple ball and all of a sudden there's four balls going. They're just all over, getting all excited. And then you hit the side or you shake the machine and it tilts.
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Francie
Yeah, tilt.
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Patrick O.
And then everything shuts down. Well, I'm hoping right now that, you know, somebody doesn't tilt the machine because it'll tell you there's at least four different of those steel balls bouncing all over the place and stuff, making a hell of a mess. And a lot of distractions. Just a lot of drama, you know, just a lot of distractions. And I'm not getting caught up in it. Very, very little, by the way. I look at the data and that's it. I don't get thrown off on what's somebody's ranting about on Twitter or on YouTube. So that's kind of where my head is at these days. So Canada is like a giant pinball machine. I just hope somebody doesn't shake it.
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Francie
Yeah, it's really something. You know, when you look at our, our beautiful country and our, you know, our resources and the things that we could be bringing to the world and just how we're being suppressed on a couple of different levels and it makes me really sad that people are not maybe considering what we have to bring to the world as a country. You know, we're the largest landmass, I think second largest in the world with the least population. And we're not, we have zero effect, you know, on global warming or whatever they're calling climate change these days. And people are getting distracted and pulled out and orange man bad and thinking of all the elbows up or whatever, all that stuff is something. Just come back home. Just think of the gratitude and where we live and look around you and look at how much prosperity we've had in the past and how much gratitude that I have for living in, I swear to the best country in the world. And regardless of what's happening in the political climate, if you take the time to be grateful to what we do have and what we can do and go down the street and support your local grocery and support buy eg from the local kid and you know, just do what you can do to take care of yourself, you know, don't do this whole, you know, buy Canada because us are. I mean. No, just think about it for a second.
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Patrick O.
Okay. Well, I don't think I have a really an opinion on any of that, to be honest with you. Yeah, I know what you do, but I don't, I don't, you know, my opinion is nobody else's business at this point. I think the reality of it is we've all got opinions. You know, as you said what you said, I heard every word and I thought, you're right, but you're a boomer. Go have that conversation with a 35 year old or a 25 year old or even a 40 year old. And no, they're not looking at it through the same lens you are. So I think we have to be very cautious in our views of the world. And that's what I'm trying to be is cautious. Because like you, I can have an opinion and I certainly will express a political opinion. But I think that before I speak in terms of how I see the world compared to how 35 year old sees the world, it's a very controversial topic right now given the politics, because.
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Francie
Yeah, I get that, hon, I get that. But I also, I also see that whether the demographic is the 30 year old, the 40 year old, a 50 year old, is that they're also targeting, you know, the marketing towards that. And I think we have to be mindful of what we're listening to and how we're showing up and who we're, who are showing up as. And I want to be able to hear the 20 year olds, the 30 year olds, the 40 year olds, because they have different issues than we do, like are the 20 and 30 year olds ever going to be able to afford a house? You know, is, is that ever going to be a thing going forward? Or are they going to be living in their parents basement and you know, working three or four jobs or, I don't know, living in the metaverse. We have things that are going on in our life that we can set the trajectory so that maybe, just maybe the people coming after us aren't going to be struggling the way that, you know, it's being set up right now. So I just want to be mindful of that. I don't want to be ignorant to it. I don't want to be disrespectful of the generations that are coming behind us. But I also know that as boomers, you know, we've been blamed for a lot of the things that are happening right now. And I don't think it's, you know, it's not ours to take on. I think it's ours to continue to contribute and to make a stand for, you know, really helping the people coming behind us become successful and at least have some sort of future. And if the, if the current, you know, political climate isn't going to set that up, then at least we can in our little corner of the world.
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Patrick O.
So as we wind down, here's my thoughts on all what you just said. A little feng shui, a little mindset feng shui or a little mind shui. And you'll get that all handled and put together. Together. That's what I got to say about that. It's always about how we view the world, how we look after ourselves, mentally, emotionally, physically, in all areas of our life. That's all I got. Thanks, Stephanie.
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Francie
That was fun, hon.
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Stephanie Hanlon
Ladies and gentlemen, thank you for listening. If you found value in the podcast, please take the time to rate and review and share with others. Share with your friends. Friends as it is my goal to always improve and to provide the highest value for you, the listener. If you have any comments, suggestions or questions you'd like answered, please email me@ceoraincanada.com that's ceors eincanada.com I look forward to hearing from you. And until next time, Patrick O.