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Yeah, well, yeah, so it's really interesting. And I just want to honor those guys, men and women that taught me. So everything that I know, I learned like everybody else. Right? So it's not like I came up with all this stuff. I was. And this, I just recommend this to all your listeners. Someone said it to me a long time ago. Find people that you want to be like, don't find successful people. Find people that you want to be like that person. The scarcity thing is like, find a successful person. And it's like the best marriage counselor I ever met was the janitor in a church building on Tuesday nights, mopping the floor. I would go and talk to him about marriage when I was newly married, because that guy understood marriage. But he was a janitor. That's not his identity, that's his vocation. Right? We give people identity from vocation. It's a huge, huge mistake. Anyway, so I've learned everything. And then once you learn it, you learn. You take information or ideas and you mix them with your True identity, which is what makes them unique. Otherwise you're just a cover band the rest of your life. You're just imitating some other famous whatever and nobody really likes a cover band. You want your own voice, and that's why you need to know your own identity. And then you learn from everybody that you respect. And so I've learned a lot. And so when, when we got into the, really the first scenario that we were working, it was a pretty significant thing because it was one country, Muslim country, trying to destabilize another one by sending agents into the. Into the other country. They sent 300 agents into this one region to destabilize it. So it's Muslim on Muslim. It's to be a non Muslim and clearly not. Not Arab and come in with my team that were very, you know, white and foreign. The idea is like, that'll. You'll never have an impact in there. You have to go in and either kill everybody or buy everybody. That's how the separation worldview empire works. It either threatens everybody or it pays everybody. That's the only way it can work because it's a scarcity mentality. But in the, in the connected worldview, it doesn't matter. What matters is I'm a human being and they are. And so if you go in with like, okay, these are not animals, even though we call them that all the time and they know it and they act like it or whatever. The thing is, how do I connect with them? How do I, like, make the connection? Because what's motivating them? Fear. Fear. They don't love Islam. They don't. It's all. That is such nonsense. They're afraid. Afraid that they are going to lose. That's what they're afraid of. They're going to lose everything. They're going to lose jobs and freedom. Just like I would be afraid. So when I go in there, what I want to do is make a connection where they realize, wow, this person is here to take away my fear. Like, how is he going to do that with money? Money doesn't take anybody. Fear by arming ourselves. That heightens the fear level on one side or the other. What takes away fear? Love. It's so funny. Back in the early days when we were presenting this to hardcore people, special ops type people, we're going to go in and love them. They're like, oh, my gosh. Our question was back to those folks was, do you think you're winning? Do you think we're winning with notches on our belt and all that stuff. Do you think we're winning? Look, look. Look at the world. Our guys are going into scenarios. We're not only not winning, we're shooting ourselves in the basement in Texas when we get back home. That is not anything to brag about. That is not badass. That's. We're the evil. We couldn't kill it, and now it lives inside of me. And the way we're killing it is by shooting ourselves. Do you want to brag about that? That's my. Always my response to them. Or do you want to win this thing? It's not about beating people. It's about winning people. That's the shit. It's not about law enforcement. It's about serve and protect. That's what's on our car. Serve and protect. We're not doing that. We're just enforcing law, which creates conflict. So when we went in there, in the first incident we worked, we had, there was. There was three of us and 300 of them. They were highly financed. We came in the part of the paradigm we invented. We came in hired by the bad guys. That was one of our smart moves. Like, let's don't come as the foreign guys coming in with us. Foreign policy. You've already got. You got a war already. Let's get hired by the bad guys and have them put us in there. Which took a while to work out, but once we did, that really threw off the opposition. They didn't know what to do. They're like, wow, who brought you guys in here? You guys brought us in here. Muslims brought us in here. That really affected them because then they couldn't just separate from us. Then they're like, oh, so then we start working in there. So we knew we had removed one threat to our being there was by who put us there. So when they kept investigating who was our. Who are we answering to? They would keep coming back to Muslims, and it messed them up. I love that whole strategy of how that worked out. But down in the. In the thing, there was one guy that was their lead dude in the country, and we knew he was the one that we had to connect with. And so I was. I taught in a university that was 98% Islamic. So I had to get really smart in the Quran and all that stuff so I could speak the language, how they saw the world, right? Because their worldview, it's not Quranic, it's separation worldview. So I'm using the Quran to teach connection worldview to the grad students. And he's One of the students, this guy, and he's running the militant group that's being recruited inside the university. And so one day in the class. So the only way I'm going to get this guy to switch is if I can get him in a position. This sounds really funny to you, but when I talk about this, but I needed to have it. I needed to be in a position where I needed to forgive him. Because the person who's in the position to forgive is the one who will win. You think if you come in in the power position, you're going to win. You're not going to win. You're just going to run into the other side's power. But. But if you come in in a position where you end up with the power to forgive because they've done something to you, you now own the room. This is true in negotiating too. The best negotiating couple out there. There, it's a husband and wife. And they do the negotiations called here. Honor, empathize, autonomy and reflection. And she, the wife, they're British. She talks about when they go T Rex, you go, mouse. That's exactly right. If they go T Rex and you go T Rex, you've lost, you're going to lose. Every time they go T Rex, you go, mouse, you have the advantage. That's what you want, right? So I knew that kind of back in those days. So this kid, this student's in my class, he stands and he would interrupt me when I was talking all this stuff that he would never do to a Muslim ever. But he figured since I was not a Muslim, he could just do whatever he wanted. And it was his country, you know, and these are his, his boys. And I'm the foreigner. So he would do that and I would just keep on teaching. One day he stands up in the class and he goes, he goes, do you believe in Jesus? To me? And I said, I do. And he said, do you believe that Jesus was sent by God? I do. Yes, I do. We never hide what we believe. We're not undercover like that. That's a waste of time. And he said, do you. Why do you think God sent Jesus? And I said, why do you think he sent Jesus? Because the Quran says Jesus was sent by God. Why do you think he said? Well, he said. Well, he said, I think you want me to say, because he loves us and we're sinful and he loves us. And Jesus is the demonstration of God's love to us. Isn't that right? Isn't that the right thing? And I start thinking oh, my gosh. He's gonna, like, preach it for me. Like, he's gonna do it, which would be great. And so he gets pretty into, like, pretty accurately talking about, you know, atonement theology. And I said, yeah, that's, in fact, true. And he said, so God. You think God, you. God loves me? Is that what you're saying? I said, yes, he does. And he goes, here's what I think of God's love. And he spits in my face in front of the whole class. When he did that, two of the students jumped up to kill him, because that's because they were going to defend my honor as a professor. And then I pushed him. I pushed him away. The two. I mean, I'm like, I can do that. I can do that by myself. I can kill this guy by myself. I don't need your help. But I knew now I have the advantage. That was all I need there. It was right there. And so I said. I told him, go sit down. And the students were horrified because I had been publicly shamed. They were horrified, and they were like, you better do something right now, or we cannot bear your shame with you. And I. I just walked out of the room. And it was really, really hard for me. It was so hard for me to do it because I knew what those students thought. I knew what I was capable of doing to the guy, and I wanted to. And no one would have questioned me. I mean, that would have been the thing to do. And some of the students later said to me, we can no longer talk to you because you have been dishonored and you have not restored your honor, and we can't. So it was tough. It was hard. And so I was like, stay connected. Stay connected to this guy. Don't separate from him. He's forcing the separation. Don't do it. And so, I mean, it took everything I had thinking about Jesus and the greater mission. This isn't about my reputation. That's scarcity. This is about the whole thing. We all need to win on this one. One of our guys had already. They'd already broken into his house and stabbed him multiple times in front of his little kid, who didn't speak again until he was nine years old. He was already gone. That was one of my teammates. The other one's wife had a nervous breakdown. We were the only ones left. And so I was just. I would go in and try and teach, and no one would listen to me. It was like, gosh, this is awful. And then one night, I'm at my House. And there's knock at the door, open door, and it's him. It's the guy that spit in my face. And I'm like, what do you want? And then, you know, immediately I'm like, gosh, he's alone, and it's nighttime. I could just kill him right now. And he said, can I come in and talk to you? And I'm like. So people would say he's not worthy of your trust. Like, you shouldn't trust him. I'm like, that's right. He's not. Because he's afraid. He's wounded. He lives in a separation worldview. He's doing exactly what he knows how to do to cope with the world that he's in. I'm a threat to him. Us is a threat to him, all of that. He's doing what he was taught to do. And so it's not, do I trust him? It's do I trust God? That's the question. Do I trust God? And how do I know to trust God? Not because I have great trust, but because I've seen God do things like this when I was a cop. On a smaller scale, this is just a lot bigger stakes. But I've watched him do it in the small. Here we are in a bigger state. So I let the guy in. He tells me, hey, I just got nominated for a scholarship in Singapore because he's a really good student. He was. And I said, congratulations. And he said, but I can't afford to get to Singapore to take it. And I said, what are you asking me? And he said, I can't afford. I said. I said, then you ask me a question. Ask me. And he wouldn't. And I said, what about your Muslim Brotherhood? Where. What are. Where are those guys? Why aren't they forking up the money? Do you know why they wouldn't give him money? Separation worldview. Because he's a competitor to him. So it fractured his own group, which it fractures every group. And so I said, ask me. And he said, would you pay my way? He said, singapore. And I said, I wouldn't. I would not. But the Jesus that you spit on, when you spit on me, he would. And because that's who I answer to and not you, I cancel the debt that you owe me for doing that. That's called forgiveness. I cancel the debt. Well, when you say that to a Muslim, that's the most remarkable thing they've ever heard. Like, you're canceling the debt. How are you restoring your honor by canceling your debt? And I went and I gave him the money and I said, I will never take this money back from you. This is a gift. Not from me, from the one you spit on. Gave it to him. He immediately disbanded the group the next day. Immediately. And he said to the group that he was fomenting, he said, if we're ever going to win and be free, we have to do it through forgiveness. And I've never known what forgiveness is until last night. And he told him what he did, which restored my honor a thousand times in the university, more than if I would have killed him. Right. And so from that I learned when you're in the position to forgive, you own the room. You own the room. Forgiveness is not a weak position. It is the power position, the mistake, the scarcity. World separation, worldview makes is when someone offends you, you go, just blow the hell out of them. That's the mistake. Then you lose. You lost. We had a chance. We blew it. So that was early on in my career. And so then as we went into situations, we could work those situations much faster.