Negro, Thou Art Loosed

Wed Mar 11 2026

This week on #TheFriendZone, we explore the psychology of time - why years feel longer when we’re young and why adulthood can make life blur together. We reflect on school vs adult life and discuss how creating new memories, learning skills and trying new experiences can help life feel fuller.

Transcript

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Fran (1:29)

To the friends my name is Dustin. I'm Franchesa, also known as K Friend.

Asante (1:34)

Hey, my name is Asante. This is the friend zone. Let's start the show

Fran (1:43)

because look at the end of the day people do what the you allow. This is a child and I ain't got time for that.

Dustin Ross (1:49)

Damn, that's right. And this person we about to talk about today, this is a child and I ain't got time for that shit. I seen some disrespectful ass shit slide across my timeline this morning. Now I'm already stressed out coming off of a high stress two days, okay? And so I'm kind of in the mood of everything's pissing me off. So I was scrolling online which probably was the wrong thing to be doing at that time. And I seen something that literally just burned my biscuit. So I don't know if you know who Timothy Chalamet is. You know who that is. First of all, he stole his name because that's Michael Jackson. Why is your name spelled like the way Michael Jackson say. He'll say.

Summary

The Friend Zone Podcast – “Negro, Thou Art Loosed”

Episode Date: March 11, 2026
Hosts: Dustin Ross, Hey Fran Hey (Franchesca), Asante
Network: Loud Speakers Network

Episode Overview

In this vibrant, laughter-filled episode, Asante leads the conversation with a timely, reflective theme: how our perception of time shifts as we grow older, and how to reclaim joy, novelty, and meaning in everyday life—especially during heavy global and personal times. The trio weaves in their trademark wit and camaraderie as they share stories about adulthood, DMV drama, career pivots, listener responses, wellness nudges, and the importance of making new memories to slow down life’s relentless pace.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Opening Riff & Celebrity Commentary

Timestamp: 01:29–07:06

The episode kicks off with Dustin venting about Timothy Chalamet’s recent interview slighting opera and ballet as “dead art forms.”
- Dustin: “Opera is an incredibly classic, incredibly difficult art form. You can’t sing opera. You barely can act, Timothy.” (04:35)
- Fran: “That’s not a theater kid talking.” (04:07)
- The group gently roasts Chalamet’s physicality and his name, connecting it to Michael Jackson’s famous “Hee-hee.”

2. Catch-Ups: Personal Wins & Listener Interactions

Timestamp: 07:06–23:56

Dustin reveals he finally acquired some coveted purple apparel.
Asante and Fran share aspirations in car shopping, hinting at an upcoming car episode.
Black Business Highlight: Gold(e) wellness brand by Trinity Mouzan Wofford – noted for its accessible superfood blends and clean skincare. (09:05)
- Asante: “Gold’s mission is to create wellness, make it feel simple, accessible and joyful, proving that healthy living doesn’t have to be complicated or exclusive.”
Listener feedback covers the last episode’s discussions on Lilith, gender, and biblical mythology, K-Pop hiatus culture, and protein alternatives like bison.
- Fran: “If any of you eat bison and have figured out how to make it taste good, let us know.” (22:56)
Dustin gives props to Twitter user @kbird2k for defending Spectacular of Pretty Ricky, flipping the typical Black excellence narrative.

3. Theme Introduction: Why Does Time Move Faster as We Age?

Timestamp: 30:36–50:03

Asante: “When the world feels uncertain, you start asking yourself questions: what am I actually doing with my time? Who am I spending it with? What actually matters?” (31:45)
Reflects on birthdays as markers for self-reflection.
The group recalls how, as children, time felt slower—summer breaks seemed endless, and returning to school signified true “new years.”
- Dustin: “Going back to school, the new school year felt like you was a whole new fucking person.” (34:03)
Adult routines make years blur and pass quickly, especially as life becomes more structured.

4. The Science & Subjective Experience of Time

Timestamp: 40:42–50:03

Asante references psychologist theories: our brains record time based on new memories and experiences.
- Asante: “When we become adults, life becomes routine […] when the brain isn’t storing as many new experiences, that’s when time starts to compress.” (41:13)
Fran describes her mother’s advice—adding "pollution" (a random disruption) to shake up routine.
The hosts discuss the “10% rule”: At age 10, a year is 10% of your life; at 40, a year is only 2.5%, thus seeming shorter.
Dustin and Fran both recount stages of life where time felt either painfully slow (personal trauma, unhappy jobs) or suddenly accelerated (adult responsibilities).

5. DMV Triumphs, Car Talk, and Trying New Things

Timestamp: 60:59–84:22

Asante details his ordeal obtaining a driver’s license in North Carolina, including DMV struggles, insurance hassles, and the “joy” of passing the driving test (with support from Amber).
- Asante: “This is why we use this podcast to connect with our community… recommend good things to do with time.”
- Fran and Dustin share their new driving experiences, especially late-blooming driver’s milestones and state-by-state quirks.
The segment evolves into a reflection on adult milestones, new skills, and growth.
- Dustin: “Growing cars now. Negro, thou art loosed.” (81:47)
- Fran: “My whole life right now is very new. I’m a new woman—right. I’m in Oregon, driving, living in a house…” (87:06)

6. How to Slow Down Time & Re-energize Your Life

Timestamp: 84:26–97:25

Dustin discusses starting stand-up comedy as a new adult pursuit: “You seen the [comedy] show from the beginning to like the progression later. You seen the difference, didn’t you?” (85:47)
Fran shares how building a sustainable lifestyle, driving, and changing her environment has revitalized her sense of self and time.
Advice on combating bitterness and embracing optimism in later life.
- Fran: “I just didn’t want to be a hardened person. I cannot be a hardened person that mistreats people and most importantly, that mistreats myself.” (92:11)
Everyday ways to reclaim novelty and meaning: learning new skills, changing routines, even small rituals (like painting nails).
- Asante: “Start small—paint your nails, move on up to something as big as getting your driver’s license if you ain’t got it. That brought me so much joy.” (98:19)
- Fran: “My mom calls it pollution... Just have something you can work on and fix later.” (42:39)

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

Dustin (re: Timothy Chalamet): “You play. You do one play... and now you’re sitting on this stage pontificating, okay? And talking shit about opera and ballet. Two of the most classic... art forms. You didn’t set your Jiminy Cricket looking ass up on this stage...” (05:20)
Asante: “I just feel like there are those main holidays, whether they birthdays, holidays, you know, family dates, breakups... markers that come up for us every year.” (35:53)
Fran: “When you’re going through things that are stressful and annoying... you kind of start to feel things slow down for sure.” (57:09)

Important Timestamps

01:29 – Main hosts check-in & Timothy Chalamet discussion
07:06 – Purple jacket update, car talk, Gold(e) business highlight
11:04 – Listener mailbag: Lilith, feminism, K-Pop
19:14 – Bison meat talk, wellness food trends
24:41 – Twitter praise for Black excellence, live show reminder
30:36 – Main theme introduction (Time & Life Reflection)
40:42 – Childhood vs. Adult time perception; role of novelty
49:56 – Advice on slowing down time, creating meaning
60:59 – Asante’s DMV ordeal & success
84:22 – Latest pivots: driving, comedy, farm life, personal reinvention
97:25 – Small joys, nail painting, reclaiming personal routines

Segments Breakdown

Wellness (104:39)

Gentle “nudge” to get outside, embrace spring, and make plans as the seasons shift.
- Fran: “Get outside, call your friends, move your body… start something new.”

Music Man (115:17)

News: Coverage of the Rihanna home shooting incident—serious reflection on celebrity safety and mental health.
- Dustin: “She lucky she alive... Rihanna and them lucky they alive. But that crazy ass heifer is lucky that she’s alive because people get shot and killed by security over like that.”
Songs of the week: New tracks from Lakeyah (“HNIC”), Sophia Li (“Who’s Better”), Maddie Zahm, A Boogie wit da Hoodie ft. Mariah the Scientist (“Secrets”), Rick Ross ft. DeLo (“Maybach Music 5”), Ty Dolla $ign and Leon Thomas, Baby Keem ft. Too Short, and a throwback from Starship (“Nothing’s Gonna Stop Us Now”).

TV Land (137:40)

Real Housewives of Atlanta—Pinky Cole cast announcement, RHOA and Potomac updates.
Broadway News: Kandi Burruss, Taraji P. Henson to star in upcoming productions.
Jennifer Hudson Show renewed; Sherry Shepherd’s show’s uncertain fate; Brandi looks on press run.
Recaps: The Traitors, Married to Medicine reunion fashion, Love and Marriage: Huntsville (Melody’s departure), Belle Collective.

Closing Vibes

The hosts urge listeners to:
- Make new memories to slow down time.
- Try something novel—no matter how small.
- Purge old things to make room for the season’s energy.
- Protect your peace and mental wealth during turbulent times.
Asante: “Maybe the secret to a full life isn’t trying to stop time, but creating enough meaningful moments that time doesn’t slip by unnoticed.” (100:29)

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