The Embattled Housewife

Summary

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The Friend Zone

Episode: The Embattled Housewife
Release Date: February 26, 2025
Hosts: Dustin Ross, Hey Fran Hey (Francesca), Assanté
Main Themes: Community, Relationships & Representation, Pop Culture Hot Topics, Resilience in Adulthood

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Overview

This episode dives into a blend of pop culture controversies, community spotlighting, and real-life lessons in adulting. The hosts discuss viral incidents around race and social media, challenges facing Black-owned businesses, polyamory and parenting in the public eye, and personal stories about navigating insurance hassles and the importance of community support. The episode is peppered with signature humor and unfiltered insight, while the hosts keep things grounded in their ethos of mental health, wellness, and the realities of Black life.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Viral Controversy: Robert Griffin III’s TikTok

• Discussion:
  The hosts open with an in-depth breakdown of Robert Griffin III's controversial and racially insensitive TikTok video, where he and his white wife played on harmful Black stereotypes.

  • Dustin sharply critiques Griffin for perpetuating stereotypes and "trivializing Blackness," noting his history and hypocrisy (“running from your Blackness all this time following these white women into these relationships and controversies.” — Dustin, [08:13]).
  • The discussion moves beyond the interracial aspect, focusing on how self-deprecation and racial humor can reinforce negative views, especially in front of white audiences.

  Notable Quotes:

  • “You’ve been running from your Blackness all this time… Stop playing in our face like that and get off TikTok.” — Dustin ([08:13])
  • “When you start to fetishize it and make it rooted in just some sort of… weird obsession with that dynamic… you look stupid.” — Dustin ([09:45])

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2. Community Uplift: Black Business Highlight – Chubby Chicks Cafe (Philadelphia)

• Spotlight: Chubby Chicks Cafe, a new Black-owned restaurant in Philly, is being targeted by racist neighbors (dead rats, harassment, false claims). The hosts praise the social media and real-life outpouring of support.
• Dustin: Calls for tangible community support, including catching the perpetrators (“If you've been waiting to beat somebody the fuck up, try to catch them people putting that shit in front of our sister's doorstep.” — [28:49])
• Fran: Highlights the encouragement from both Black and non-Black patrons and the importance of cross-racial solidarity without letting white voices dominate Black spaces.

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3. Listener/Community Engagement

• Extensive recap of last week's conversation about life “rug pulls” with hundreds of listener responses on various platforms.
• Powerful personal stories from listeners about car accidents and insurance woes, revealing how common these struggles are and their disproportionate impact (“This shit is like almost every single person that commented… my car got totaled by a drunk driver. My car got totaled by my neighbor.” — Fran [38:10]).
• The hosts reflect on the lesson of "always get the right insurance (Gap, uninsured motorist, etc.)" stressed by both insurance pros in the audience and those who’ve lived through the mess.

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4. Hot Topics Panel

• Polyamory & Neo’s Parenting:

  • Background: Neo (the singer) is public with his multiple “girlfriends,” all living with his children, and is casual (perhaps too much so) about explaining this to his very young kids.
  • Debate: Hosts weigh the ethics and practicalities of exposing children to unconventional relationships, highlighting the difference between private life and public display.
  • Nuance: The real issue raised is Neo's hypocrisy—as someone vocally against affirming trans kids' identities—while subjecting his kids to public, adult-oriented relationship choices.

  Notable Quotes:

  • “You can't be that ‘I'm raising five boys and two girls’ and you've got four women in front of their faces. So let's talk about that.” — Dustin ([63:18])
  • “People can try to say she sounds like Nicki Minaj all they want…but that's an original concept album…That is cohesive, sonically, that feels fresh and new and original.” — Dustin on Doechii ([171:05])

• Jamal Bryant vs The White House “Coons”:

  • Celebrated for his courage after a thinly-veiled threat from the Trump White House; Bryant claps back from the pulpit, emphasizing that activism means standing up, not bending under political pressure ([73:00]).
  • Hosts agree: When Black leaders show up for the community, they should be supported regardless of their past.

  Quote:

  • “You gotta give it up for JB, because Pastor Bryant went down without one cuss word. That’s how I know I’ll have a successful second act as a pastor.” — Dustin ([77:54])

• Reality TV Reality Check: Married to Medicine

  • The always-messy quad-King-Dr. G-Sweet Tea drama; Phaedra’s (in)authenticity, Apollo’s surprise trip, and the difference between supporting a partner and getting played on camera.
  • The conversation veers into how real-life emotional abuse and bad relationship modeling get overlooked under the pretense of entertainment. Sweet Tea’s situation is used as a teachable moment: “Cut your losses. You're young. She can literally do this again with a much better man.” — Fran ([105:32]).

• Dr. Heavenly’s Offensive “Real Man” Comments

  • Called out for associating “real men” only with straight, cisgender men and publicly apologizing after social media backlash. The hosts critique her apology as disingenuous (“It wasn't mistaken. No, it was what you said…” — Fran [111:10])
  • Caution viewers not to start a “gay men vs straight men” war online—it’s about recognizing and rejecting outdated, harmful views, even from “fan favorite” personalities.

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5. Media & Music Debates

• Rolling Stone’s "50 Terrible Songs on Great Albums":
  • Hosts blast the inclusion of Michael Jackson’s “Lady In My Life” as a "bad song," exposing the persistent disconnect between Black music appreciation and mainstream (often white) music criticism.
  • Jermaine Dupri’s response is highlighted as an example of necessary pushback ([116:50]).
• Jess Hilarious Not Knowing Roberta Flack:
  • The generational/cultural gaps in Black music knowledge—how and why this happens and why it matters.
• Joy Reid’s Show Cancelled on MSNBC:
  • The hosts unpack the implications of corporate/media purges of Black voices post-2025 election, with Rachel Maddow naming the racism outright and Don Lemon clapping back at Megyn Kelly’s anti-Black gloating ([128:22]).

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6. Wellness Segment: Surviving Insurance Hell through Community

• Fran shares: Real-life lessons from navigating a totaled car—the "fine print" of insurances, the unexpected generosity of others, and gratitude for the community (on- and offline) offering help.
• Key Takeaways:
  • Get GAP insurance, document all maintenance and customizations, and, above all, be kind—your network matters most when the unexpected happens.
  • “You gotta look out for each other.” — Fran ([131:06])
  • Small gestures of kindness and connection can ripple into life-saving support when you least expect it (“People are showing up for us and showing us, yes, there’s fucked up people, but there’s also people left that are here for you.” — Fran [148:58])

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7. Music & TV Segments

• Music:
  • Shout outs to Blackpink’s Lisa and Jennie crossing into Western pop; new offerings from Doechii, Money Long, Coco Jones (with mixed reviews), and a “comfort” playlist of classic 90s hip hop (Mobb Deep, Outkast, Goody Mob).
• TV:
  • Married to Medicine and Real Housewives of Potomac reunions dissected for drama and fashion.
  • New Black daytime soap, Beyond the Gates, on CBS spotlighted for community support and big talent.

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Notable Quotes & Timestamps

• Dustin on Robert Griffin III: “Stop making jokes about racial shit and Black shit when you are a ran...You’ve been running from your Blackness all this time following these white women into these relationships and controversies.” ([08:13])

• Fran on Polyamory and Kids: “When you start to fetishize it and...make it rooted in just some sort of weird obsession with that dynamic...you look stupid as fuck.” ([09:45])

• Dustin on Hypocrisy: “You can't be that ‘I'm raising five boys and two girls’ and you've got four women in front of their faces. So let's talk about that.” ([63:18])

• Pastor Jamal Bryant (clip via Dustin): “These runaway slaves hiding in the White House gonna throw my picture up thinking I’m gonna be afraid... I ain’t ever scared. In case you forgot, I'm from the west side of Baltimore.” ([76:40])

• Fran on navigating insurance: “It’s a lot of scammy shit...like, I’m paying for insurance, but I need another insurance for that insurance?” ([41:36])

• Assanté, on Fran’s resilience: “You’re prepared from every angle, even you’re insulated. You don’t even see it, you don’t even understand it sometimes...Maybe they are to prepare us for other things…” ([151:03])

• Fran on community: "People are showing up for us and showing us, yes, there’s fucked up people...but there’s also people left that are here for you." ([148:58])

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Timestamps of Important Segments

• [02:30-09:11] RGIII TikTok and Race in Social Media
• [24:39-31:32] Chubby Chicks Cafe & Community Support
• [33:10-41:36] Listener Letters: Car Trauma, Insurance, and Life Lessons
• [49:32-71:23] Hot Topics: Neo’s Polyamory, Kids, & Hypocrisy
• [73:00-84:17] Jamal Bryant, Trump’s Black History Month Stunt, and Standing Up
• [86:04-101:31] Married to Medicine Drama, Phaedra’s Exit, Sweet Tea’s Situation, Dr. Heavenly’s Comments
• [116:50-126:12] Rolling Stone Debate, Music Journalism, Generational Gaps, Joy Reid’s Show Ending, Don Lemon vs. Megyn Kelly
• [131:06-152:43] Wellness Segment: Car Totaled, Community Support, Insurance Gems
• [156:08-172:55] Music Segment: Blackpink, Doechii, Coco Jones, Playlist
• [191:37-194:22] TV Segment: Potomac Reunion, Beyond the Gates (CBS Black Soap)

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Tone & Style

The conversation is warm, candid, and playful, with moments of righteous anger, deep empathy, and sharp wit. The hosts are unapologetically Black and deeply community-minded but equally comfortable holding each other and public figures accountable. The tone swings from belly-laugh humor (“Damn the boat. Let’s drink the chicken today and drive the boat”) ([48:36]), to serious reflection without losing the thread of joy or radical honesty.

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Final Thoughts

This episode embodies what The Friend Zone does best: blending relevant pop culture critique, mental health and wellness, and real Black-life challenges, all through the lens of friendship and community. Whether dissecting hypocritical celebrities, cheering for Black women under attack, or supporting each other’s hard-won adult lessons, the hosts leave listeners informed, entertained, and feeling less alone.

Transcript

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Welcome to the Friends. My name is Dustin.

[A]

I'm Francesca, also known as. Hey, friend.

[C]

Hey.

[B]

My name is Asante. This is the friend zone.

[A]

And this ain't no shit that I brought to the table.

[B]

You did in what you posted.

[A]

What you posted. I'm getting so sick of you not taking accountability or responsibility for your words, brother.

[C]

That's right. And I use the term brother lightly, okay? I almost shout out to Spiller Boy TV on YouTube, James Caldwell, friend of the show, right? I almost used his clip this week. Them spices in your teeth because they applied. They applied in this case as well. Now, I don't know if y' all seen, but there's a former NFL quarterback, he was a Heisman Trophy winner named Robert Griffin iii, who just went viral essentially for posting a very tone deaf racial joke on TikTok, right? Oh, God, he's got a white wife. And in the TikTok video, the caption reads, when you accidentally take melanin instead of melatonin to fall asleep. And in the video, his white wife is in a pink, like, tank top and she takes a gummy and lays down. And then the camera cuts to him and in the same tank top, jumping up like he just woke up. These are the people for those who are watching.

[B]

I thought I didn't know where we were about to go. It was worse. No, no, not the. Oh, oh, no, no, no, no.

[C]

Okay. No. So that was for those of you who are watching on Patreon. You just saw a visual. 2025, y', all, in 2025. Now, when I saw that, not only was I pissed because he was doing. You got to be careful as a black person when you're about black stuff. That you don't perpetuate racist stereotypes by bucking your eyes and exaggerating your, your bottom lip and, you know, things like that. And he did them both with his white wife in this video right now. You love who you want to love. Yeah, you love who you want to love. I guys, you know what I'm saying? So I'm the last ever, you know what I'm saying, to ever judge that. But let's get back into his history a little bit so we can understand and not, not misinterpret the intention here because he is a boot licking, shoe shining, tap dancer.

[A]

There's a pattern.

[C]

Duck Bill Coon. That's what he is. And this is an example of him trivializing blackness in ways that he has done previously. So let's go. He went to high school in Caparis Cove. C O P P E R S Cove, Texas. And that's by Waco, Texas. So, you know, he'd been around crazy people. Now this is also his second white wife. Okay. He, he is, he was born in 1990. This is his second white wife. The first white woman that he was married to. Her name was Rebecca Litter Coat. And I've never heard a wider name than Litter Coat in my life. L I D D I C O A T Litakoat.

[B]

That's a white.

[C]

Now we talking about white. That was his first white wife. They had a baby. He left her, got with the new one. Great. Whatever her name is, Greta or some. He played football, professional football in D.C. okay, for the Commanders, Cleveland for the Browns and Baltimore for the Ravens. Now, D.C. cleveland and Baltimore are three of the. What cities in America? Blackest. Those are three of the blackest cities you can be in in America. So it ain't like he don't know what's going on.

[A]

Right?

[C]

Also previously, according to the Daily Mail, there was a, a dust up on Twitter with him because he had posted a tweet saying about black men support black women and with his very public history, because remember, he was a popular footballer and he saw a lot of attention. He's working in sports media now and he's been profiled and platformed in sports so people know who he is that follow his personal life. He posted a tweet saying something about black men supporting black women. And I told you, he's on his second wife. Wife. And so he. People question that, well, hey, what fucking black women do you support? He posted a picture of his four daughters who happened to be biracial. And people Started to question the blackness. The validity of his sentiment being that he used his biracial daughters to purport his support of black women, which I don't see anything wrong with because those are black little children. But people took issue with that. You know, the spectrum of blackness is something that is highly questioned. And. And it is the subject of a lot of scuttlebutt. Okay. But they tore his ass up, per the context of this conversation we having today. And he started going in about, oh, well, how y' all can't tell me which. It's the same. All these black women telling my black daughters, they ain't black. Y' all black women be the first ones. It was like a whole thing. So there's that history. Then if we dial back just a little bit further than that. There was another moment where he was on. He. I told you. He works in sports commentary. He was working for ESPN at the time, a rising star on the network. And he was on Monday Night Countdown. And he used jigaboos. No, on screen. Here's the quote. They were discussing the Philadelphia Eagles beating the Giants, and he's called out the critics of Jalen Hurts right now. Up until this, I'm on his side. I agree. Unfair criticism of Jalen Hurts.

[A]

His.

[C]

He says, people said that Jalen Hurts couldn't get it done. People said that Jalen Hurts couldn't get it done. He said he could not break from the pocket. He's not the quarterback of the future. I think he proved all those jigaboos wrong. That's what he said. Now, we all know the historical context of the word jigaboo. We know that that is a racial slur used against black people. I don't think the majority of the criticism coming towards Jalen Hurts and his deservingness of his success was from a black audience. Do you. Y' all don't even with football like that. And y' all know that the majority of the audience of the NFL is all white. That's why we had. Hello. Have we not heard of Colin Kaepernick and the kneeling controversy? Did you not see the backlash for Beyonce's performance, for Kendrick's performance? The NFL and its audience of viewers is not a black space. So why are you referring to these people as jigaboos? You knew what you were doing. He then tried to clean it up, saying afterwards, he made a tweet, which was his favorite thing to do, saying, yo, definitely need to clarify this. This is not what I meant to say. Was trying to say Those bugaboos in reference to haters and doubters who even still nobody say bugaboo but Destiny's Child. And they not even a group no more. So what are you like. What are you talking about? So this is a who literally toes the line of being anti black. And this is just more bullshit from him that fights in that lane and falls in that lap. Don't be misled.

[A]

He said not try to get my DC reference right.

[C]

Like what? And thought it was gonna fly.

[A]

Oh no.

[C]

Well, let me tell you something, Robert F. Griffin. I'm gonna start calling you Sparkle. You know why? Because you thought that was gonna fly. But just like she said in that movie, sister can't fly on one wing and neither can your argument Sparkle. So watch your goddamn mouth. You know what I'm saying? And stop making jokes about racial shit and black shit when you are a ran. Just the same way you ran down that field as a quarterback and handled your business. You've been running from your blackness all this time following these white women into these relationships and controversies. So stop playing in our face like that and sign get off a tick tock, go pick up a ball. Talk about a ball. Yeah, I'm sorry I had to introduce. Yeah, but at least you know, he ain't. And with that being said, welcome to the Friend zone. Your weekly looking all things mental health, mental wellness and mental health. Who. Because who in the hell wants to hear what Robert Griffin III has to say about blackness?

[A]

Robert Griffin iii.

[B]

You know, social media is such an interesting place because it's not nice. He's not the only person that does things like that. Like with all the challenges that happen with, you know, like the black woman or black wife effect and stuff like that. It's just very interesting to see how or why people decide to share those experiences.

[C]

I hate it. And I. I'm a person for real. I do not give a fuck about no interracial relationship. I think you can love and date whoever the you want to love and date. And I stand on that like King. I stand on business.

[A]

But adults.

[C]

But. But this. When you start to fetishize it and make and. And bastardize it and, and make it rooted in just some sort of. I don't just weird obsession with that dynamic of your relationship. To me that's some weird. That's weird as. And you look stupid as bucking your eyes and jumping up in the bed in a twin set tank top pretending to be your white wife because she took melanin instead of melatonin.

[A]

What And I bet it was her idea.

[B]

You know it was her idea.

[A]

I know.

[B]

Because she saw it on.

[C]

She saw it on Tik Tok.

[A]

I know she did.

[B]

They're doing this on Mom Talk.

[C]

What do they call the T? Never mind. Let me stop before we get canceled because I don't want to go too far. I save it for the stage on March 17 at City Winery, New York. Baby, we sold out. How about that? That's right. Thank you. Eternally grateful. Eternally grateful. But that's what I'm gonna tell them good dirty jokes. So. Yeah, anyway, that's that. Hey, friend. Hey, Asante, how you doing? What's going on?

[A]

Before we jump in, please remind people, even though it's sold out and obvious they can't get tickets at this point, but just still remind people that may have missed last week's episode. Episode was happening.

[C]

Well, I'm so grateful and thank you for the space, friend. I am having my first one man comedy show. It's a long form stand up. Set here in New York City on March 17th on St. Patrick's Day. And the show has a connection to that date. That's why it's special and it's intentional. But yeah, I'm doing it with the good folks at City Winery here in New York City. We started, we put the tickets on sale and five days later, really less than five days. Four and a half. Because it was in the middle of the night when they put the thing up. Okay. In like four and a half days, we sold it out. And I could not be more grateful and thankful that everybody was coming to support and laugh. So really excited about this. I'm ready to grow this branch. Yeah, it's time to grow this branch of the tree. And so I'm very, very grateful for it. And that's where I'm gonna be talking the nasty up that I can't talk on other platforms, you know what I'm saying? Because you came and see it. So I'm very excited. Yes, I'm very, very excited. So first of, it'll be more stuff coming, but I'm grateful for this moment. So thank you very much.

[B]

Congratulations. Yeah, right.

[A]

How are your weekends? What did y' all get up to?

[B]

Weekend was great.

[A]

I the pause as well, because the.

[B]

Music thing, I don't want to. I'm never going to partake. So I give you a bounce mix.

[C]

Let's do a bounce mix.

[B]

Okay. Well, I was gaming this weekend and I'm actually a really good gamer.

[A]

Were you gaming at home or like you went to a place. Oh, I'm sorry.

[B]

I went at home.

[A]

Okay. Okay.

[B]

I ain't go to no place to play no video games.

[C]

So, you know, we got the game at home.

[B]

I mean, there are. I mean, there might be a scene. I just don't know. But no, I've been. I've been really good at Fortnite. Like, it's a new season. So the way that some games make money, Fortnite in particular, they have the game in seasons and you can buy season passes and whatnot. Changes every season. Okay, so actually in Fortnite, because it's actually been interesting to learn all of this, there are a bunch of different games in the bitch, right? So one of the particular games that I play, there's a. A pass you can buy, and you can buy the past monthly, or you can just buy, you know, just the one time, whatever. But every season that they change the game, like the season that they added Snoop Dogg and Ice Spice and Eminem, they'll like, add characters and skins and all that bullshit to play. But it's just really cool to, like, get on, kill people, stress out, listen to music. I was listening to the Drake party album all weekend. Listening, playing the game, killing the game. And I was like, damn. I actually can, like, multitask. Like, it's one thing when you, like, just playing the game and, like, you kind of are good at it, but it's another thing when you're good at it while you're listening to music and you're texting and smoking and, like, it's like a vibe. It's like, oh, shit. I can actually, like, do this shit. Because for a while I was like, am I aged out of that realm? Is this actually too stressful for me? But no, it was relaxing and it was cool. So I had a good time just being a nerd this weekend.

[C]

And you worked and paid for it. Yes.

[B]

Hell, yeah.

[C]

So you're not too old? I'm grown.

[B]

And I had to pay for that. And I remember waiting in line for that PS5 when the came out, I was like. And it was out for already, like, a year at that point. I was like, the fact that I have to go wait in line for this a. A year later is insane. And I did it.

[C]

I don't even smoke cigarettes, but I feel like if I was waiting in line for some, like, that I would smoke a cigarette. You know what I'm saying? I would. And just definitely happen. Look around.

[B]

And it was cold. I definitely needed a pack.

[C]

Yeah.

[B]

You know, But Yeah, that was my weekend. How about you guys? What were you up to, Dustin?

[A]

You first.

[C]

Oh, I. I had a great weekend. So one of my best friends and a dear mentor professionally, that look a police and ambulance celebrating them. One of my dear friends and collaborators, Ray Warren, who owns Warren Marketing and Media, he celebrated his fifth. You remember Ray? Ray celebrated his 50th birthday and the sixth anniversary of his company over the weekend with a beautiful party I told him he had. It was at the Moxie at this like lounge. Okay. And when we pulled up, there was literally like up lighting and huge pictures of him all over the walls outside, on the outside of the. Of the Moxie Hotel downtown. So I told that he had a. A Super Sweet 50.

[B]

You remember the Super Sweet 1650?

[C]

Because it was like that. I'm talking about hell yeah. Good singers. Kate coming out with all these spark. It was the whole thing. So shout out to him. But I did that.

[B]

Congratulations, Ray. 50 years. That's amazing.

[C]

I also want to give a shout out to my friend James, who is the executive. One of the executive directors in the mayor's office recently appointed. And he had a beautiful gala on Thursday this week for the young man's initiative for the mayor's office. Great event. Beautiful. And he's going to do some great things over there. So shout out to James Stratford in the mayor's office. So I was listening. That was a man of society this week, this weekend. You know what I'm saying? I was shaking hands and doing all that kind of shit. So it was great. What about you?

[A]

Friends love you.

[C]

Right?

[A]

We love Ray, you know, life and life. So it's just a lot of paperwork, phone calls and just figuring things out. Obviously, I'll give some more updates later. But it's just, you know, adulting. How about we say that it's. It's a big month to adult. So I just been going through the motions of that. But, you know.

[C]

I hear you.

[A]

Yeah. Just. Yeah, I did go to church.

[C]

Okay.

[A]

Which was actually really, really nice. My partner goes to church every Sunday. And because I've been so overwhelmed, I've actually. And funny enough, this was before this whole thing happened with the car. I had started going to Bible study in church with him. Really just out of curiosity because I've seen the impact it's had on him and I just was like, you know what? I want to check it out and see. I had gone maybe a couple years back when he first started. And honestly I didn't connect with the pastor. It just, you know, Some pastors just don't have the oil. I hate to say that.

[C]

They just read from, like, real talk, Kim, she ain't got the oil.

[A]

They read from it. He's very kind, very nice man. So I understand why he had people coming, because he just seemed like a good man, and that is important as well.

[C]

Nice house, no furniture on the inside.

[A]

But they got a new one. And so that's why I was like, well, let me see the new one. You know, because what I was explaining to my partner, I can't just go to church to go. Like, I have to feel something. I have to, like, feel moved. Like, otherwise, I'll just.

[B]

You gotta make sense.

[A]

And I went, and y', all, the new pastor is phenomenal. He feels like home. Like, the way he talks, everything he says hits. I cried the first day. So that's how I knew. I was like, okay. And I was like, I'm. I think I'm gonna start pulling up with you. Of course, my partner was like, over the moon. He's been waiting for years. So that feels nice to have that to go to, now that I'm experiencing some things.

[C]

You ain't your boaz.

[A]

And, yeah, I know Maya is. Don't play shout out to shameless Maya. You know, she don't play about her church and Jesus. And so I was telling her, you know, we were catching up, and she was checking in on me, and she was like, you know, it was the devil that had that car coming at you because you're doing good and you're going to church and you're getting closer to God, and there's always someone trying to throw that off. I said, amen. Amen. Maya.

[C]

You know, she live in the countryside of Sweden. At night, when she prays, she can see life on the tree. Like, it's like. It's like a projector. Your prayers are projectors out there. Shout out to my Maya and Max. You know, I'm a huge fan. Everybody know I'm a huge fan of their YouTube channel, Maxim Living. I think they just moved.

[A]

They did.

[C]

I think they got a new house. Yeah, because.

[B]

And they.

[C]

The way they did it at the end, it was like a cliffhanger. And I was like. I was like, they got a new house.

[A]

They did. They got a couple months ago, and they've been working on it. You know, Maya is, like, one of the most talented people I know. Like, she can do anything, literally anything. She can build anything. She's just phenomenal. And what she's doing with this new house it's just, I'm so excited. Saga got like the dream bedroom that a little girl can possibly have, like with Maya, like painted, you know. Oh, I can't wait. Shows more. I know. It's just I'm happy for Saga because it's like this is so good for her and to also see her mom just be such a supreme being. So shout out to Maya, Max and Saga, I love you.

[C]

And Jackie.

[A]

And Jackie. How can we forget?

[C]

And Max, Paris and Maya's mama too. Hey brother. I feel like I know the family from watching this.

[A]

That's so cute to me. But anyways, that was my weekend. Just, just hanging in there, right? Any announcements y' all want to get into before we jump in? Jump in.

[B]

Yes. It is Wednesday, February 26th when this episode is being released. If you are a Patreon member, don't forget that the Wind down is tonight at 8:00pm Eastern Standard Time. If you're not a patreon member, that's patreon.com the Friend Zone podcast where we will be talking for an hour with all of the good people that have signed up to hear us and partake. Lechat is a great place to be. If you don't know, you go no. 8pm Eastern Standard Time patreon.com friendzone podcast join us.

[A]

Amen to that. We will see you guys there.

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[A]

Let's jump into the black business. Highlight I don't know if y' all got tagged or seen the viral videos of a cafe in Philadelphia by the name of Chubby Chicks Cafe.

[C]

Yes.

[A]

You saw this?

[C]

Yeah. Mean ass neighbors. Let's hit that ass up.

[A]

Okay, so it's on Walnut street in Center City, Philadelphia. It just opened literally December of 2024. The description of the place, when I looked it up, it says it's a casual cafe offering breakfast, brunch and lunch, including lobster and waffles in a cozy setting. The owner, Shakira Turner, was recently on the news. She claims that neighbors to the restaurant are leaving dead rats on her doorstep, complaining to the landlord that her business doesn't belong in the prestigious neighborhood. Residents have also complained that she's playing music until 2am Even though the restaurant is only open till 3pm which is. I don't know how that works. They've also complained that she. Oh, and she did state that she offers karaoke. Yes. So are they hearing music? Yes. But is it till 2am? No. That's not even possible. It's not open. They even claim that her and her staff hang out on the roofs of the building until 2am and making all kinds of false claims to essentially drive her and her business away. She says that her bathroom was also deliberately flooded and they've left food at the back door of the restaurant. Y' all already know that's gonna bring all kind of arm. Yeah, for rats and cats and God knows what else be hanging out in the alleyway. Someone in the neighborhood, she says, finding out that she apparently has not taken out any loans to open up the location. They asked her how she was able to do that and if it was her quote unquote drug dealer baby daddy.

[C]

Wow.

[A]

Philadelphia based content creator who's actually the one that put this out there for all of us to know. Dr. Afia. She's a, like I said, affiliate based content creator. She's the one that posted a video of Turner's plight and asked patrons to support the restaurant. When I did my research, all of this was via6abc.com it's their Action News. That's where she was interviewed. So if you want to check out more information, if you want to check out their Instagram so you can go to the restaurant, support, donate, even. Just leave her some love and some comments. The IG is at Chubby Chicks 1111 and I wanted to highlight her because that's awful. She hasn't even been open what a full three months yet and already dealing, already having to be in the news for being trying to be driven away. And that sucks.

[C]

It's sad and it's ridiculous and it's fueled by nothing but hate. And it sounds to me like the work of one person, one to two people. People. I very seriously doubt that there's an alcohol. We're talking about Walnut street in Philly. If you've. If you're in person, Walnut street is like downtown in that area. It's in a very walkable area of town where there are lots of other businesses, like, akin to her business model. Her business is function. Right? So this is a cute business. Very cute. When I watched, did you see all that branding she had on, like, all the glasses and napkins and plates and everything? You could tell that she had really put a lot of work into this. And money. They're hating on our sister, and we need to go up there and support her. And they won't say this, but I. I will. Survey of the restaurant Philadelphia. If you in Philadelphia and you have access that, make sure you walk past her. If you got to walk past that block, walk past her spot and just see if you can catch one of them putting up some rats. I don't care if you go buy a lemonade, you know what I'm saying? Just go get something, go up there, spend some time in there and try to catch them dirty bastards that are with her leaving garbage and rats and. Because that's something that the cameras can catch, right? And. And ass that you can beat. So you can. You know what I'm saying? If you've been waiting to steal off on a here's your license, you got to listen to the lessons from God and things sometimes. If you've been waiting to beat somebody the up, don't try to catch them people putting that shit in front of our sister's doorstep. You know what I'm saying? Philadelphia, we need you.

[A]

Yeah. And I. And I love this because like I've been saying, this theme of community has been in the ether super heavy as of late, I feel. And it's nice to see this content creator who put the, you know, put the video out and just seeing the outpouring of love. Because I went on the chubby chick's Instagram and even she, the owner, Shakira, was like, oh, my God, like, y' all have not been playing about me. She's even had to kind of let people know I'm one person. We're a small staff. Like, thank you for the outpouring. But, like, we are trying our best because apparently people are showing up.

[C]

Okay. And send Keith Lee ass up there. Keith Lee, you go up there. Keith Lee, go to Chubby Chicks and Handle that. That's what we need to do. Somebody get this shit to Keith Lee.

[A]

Right.

[B]

I would just want to add shout out to. I know this is going to sound crazy because it's Black History Month, but this is unfortunately need. Because of the climate. Shout out to the white people that also decided to frequent Chubby Chicks because some of their videos are going viral. Unakin to the earlier social media. We were talking about the top of this episode. This is when white people are necessary, right?

[C]

Give it up for white people.

[B]

White people are necessary to go into these establishments that are often seen as too black. Because you see some of these people going to these restaurants and they're saying, oh, it's too black, or it's this or it's that. I saw some white gay man. He was up in Chubby Chicks. He was giving his rundown of how good the food was. He was like, oh, her best friend. Oh, this is her best friend working the bar. I'm gonna leave her a big tip. Blah, blah. I don't know how true any of it is that he did that, but he better have stood on.

[C]

At least he did.

[B]

Okay? He was up in there because sometimes black people, yes, we need to do it for ourselves and each other, but white people listening, that be up in our spaces. Y' all need to help out, too.

[C]

That's right.

[A]

It's okay.

[B]

Okay, y'.

[C]

All.

[B]

Y' all can do the work. Okay.

[A]

All right. Well, I just wanted to put that out there because like I said, this was a very unfortunate story and a lot of you were tagging us. So of course I looked into it and was like, all right, let's use our platform to highlight chubby chicks on Walnut street in Philadelphia.

[C]

Definitely, you know who need to go up there? The baddies.

[B]

I'm even gonna say some.

[C]

The baddies.

[B]

That's in the baddies up there. That's literally the wrong people.

[C]

Send them back there and let them. Let them stake it out for.

[B]

So they could be fighting at 12 in the afternoon. Like, see?

[A]

Let's jump into the recap segment. So last week's episode title assigned meaning. We talked about the challenging rug pull moments of life and whether or not we assign deeper meaning to them. Of course, those of you listening had a lot to say. Who stood out to you? Asante.

[B]

Shout out to everybody. A lot of y' all had a lot to say.

[A]

It was a lot of comments, right? Can I just also add, one of you left us a tweet saying, I left my comment on Spotify and my Brain was like, oh, my God. We never look at the comments on Spotify. So I go to Spotify. Do you know there was like 40 plus? Like, I just felt so, like, like, I'm so sorry. We're gonna start new Monica know that.

[B]

You could get comments from.

[A]

Did you see that? I did know that because one of our listeners actually told me that like months ago and I mentioned it on the show. But my brain, because I'm not used to going on Spotify, hasn't clicked that in yet. But I'm going to because the comments. There's a lot. Literally every episode has tons and tons.

[B]

I mean, I found. I found the. The episode. I don't see the comments.

[A]

No, if you click it, it should show up like immediately right under the episode.

[B]

See all episodes more. So it's like this.

[A]

I don't know. It's there. I saw it. But definitely we'll start tapping into that research. Yeah. To. To highlight you guys.

[C]

We've acquired land. We've acquired land.

[A]

Who's talk to you? Sante, Would you find out there?

[B]

I would like to shout out in the Indigo with a bunch of O's at the end of their name. Indigo says Fran. Literally hearing your story gave me ptsd. Let me start saying thank you, God, or thank God you and your partner weren't in the car when it happened. My incident happened in November 2024. You couldn't tell me that wasn't going to be my 13th reason. Because 2024 was a rough year for me. My car was parked along with others in a parking lot and a guy came flying down a road and that was 25 miles per hour and hit a total of five cars.

[C]

Oh my God.

[B]

Totaled two of them. I want to emphasize them being parked. And he landed at my vehicle caving in the entire left back side. He alleged that his vehicle lost traction and wasn't drinking, only to find out later that that was a lie. When you had five angry black women outside ready to beat his ass. He came with whatever lie to make it sound good. He also did not have insurance, which made my situation even more difficult at first. But luckily I had uninsured by motorist coverage and was able to get my car repaired. 10k. 10k worth of damages. Man. Do not let that lady off easily. Get your insurance involved and get you an even nicer whip. Shout out to Indigo. A lot of people were sharing their car stories.

[A]

I know. And it was terrifying.

[B]

I know I didn't really want to read a car story, but I only had access to SoundCloud. I mean, yeah, SoundCloud at the time. So I just want to at least highlight somebody, unfortunately that was going through that because luckily I don't have a car. But I do hear you all and want to just pray for you all. There was a fire in my building. Did I tell y' all this last week or no, no, this is not funny. At 1. Okay. At 1:30 in the morning, and thank God I was up. The building fire alarm goes off, and I'm thinking, this is not the smoke detector. This is the building fire alarm. So I started gathering some shit. Like, I literally just was like. I was like, okay, because friend, we had talked about the survivalist pack and all that. So at this point, I'm panicking because I was like, we didn't talked about it. I got some ready, but I like, it's cold outside. I still wasn't ready. So at this point, I'm failing the test. I'm let you know right now I failed the test. But after about 10 minutes, I finally make my way outside with a backpack. And all my neighbors was outside. But long story short, because I'm not gonna go through the whole night. Long story short, the parking garage caught fire. Further details had not been revealed as to what the origins of this were, but from what the Citizen app had told me, a BMW was on fire and some other cars caught on fire.

[A]

What the.

[B]

In the garage. So I think two levels got messed up of cars. So now everybody's having to park on the street.

[A]

What is happening that's so mortifying?

[B]

So imagine your just on a parking deck and you thinking your is fine because that's.

[A]

And you sleep because it's one something. In the morning, you.

[B]

That alarm went off. That alarm. I was outside for almost an hour and a half, and that was going on for almost two, three hours. I was so, like, I couldn't get my life together. But I also, at the same time was able to, you know, go back to my, you know, unit, be good. Imagine you standing outside dealing with all that, and, you know, they finally turn the alarm off, but your car is still up, and you got to go to work, you know, in a few hours. So I just. I pray for all the people with the car and for all the people that have to go through motorist issues and insurance.

[A]

I just had to grow up too fast. I've only been driving a year. Yeah, it hasn't even been a year. April makes a year that I've been driving, driving, like, by myself in my car. Like for real. For real. So I said, I'm like, dang, I grew up too fast. Because some people would tell me, you know, this is something they went into like years in and you know, but at least whatever. It's life, right? It's unfortunate, but your story actually ties into a comment I was gonna read this week. Are you done with your comments?

[B]

Yes, friend. What did you find out there?

[A]

So shady. Nay in the I love the name like already our gated community said Fran, I had a similar experience when my car was so set on fire.

[B]

Oh hell no.

[A]

By a neighbor's boyfriend during a domestic dispute in July of 2022 and it was 4th of July weekend. She says, I know you feel violated and confused, but there is always a lesson. After I got over wanting to beat ass, I was able to pay off some credit cards while I drove my 5k car that my granddad bought me for a few few years. Shout out to your grandpa. I'm happy to report that I bought myself a 2025 Nissan truck for Valentine's Day of this year.

[C]

Come on.

[A]

And she says, P.S. always purchase Gap insurance. Insurance is such a scam. And that's the thing. A lot of the comments, it's kind of blew my mind how common that's.

[C]

Kind of shit was.

[A]

This shit is like almost every single person that commented on Patreon and on Twitter and my DMs and emails was like, my car got totaled by a drunk driver. My car got totaled by my neighbor. Like what are people doing out here? And. And the worst part is a lot of the stories people share, they were in the hole. Like one girl said she had to come out of pocket $12,000. Someone else said their car got destroyed and because they were not in a financial position to buy a new one, they haven't had a car in years.

[C]

Y God damn.

[A]

Like life altering ramifications for an accident that you had nothing to do with. That's so fucked up to me and I'm learning so much through this process of how much these companies don't give a fuck. It don't matter what kind of car you got, how much you've been put in towards it, whether you own it, if you got all the bells and whistles in your insurance, they treat you crazy.

[B]

Yep.

[A]

Like I had this feature on my insurance where it's like the rental car feature. So if anything happens, you go and get your rental. Do you know, I went, I go get my rental. In my mind I'm like, thank the Lord. At least I'LL have this for now. And, you know, my insurance will cover it. Do you know? Because they totaled it out. They were like, oh, you guys send the rental back. Because we already, like, said it's total. I'm like, bro, it hasn't even been a week. Like, and then I'm like, but I'm paying this. And you said, I have it up to 30 days, up to 1500 dollars, up to $50 a day. Oh, yeah. But because we are. Basically. Because they assigned. What's the word?

[C]

Because the case is closed, right?

[A]

Investigation, essentially. We're done. Like, we not just gonna be paying for you to be in a rental. That's crazy.

[C]

Until I get my check cut and until everything is settled, you, I will be in my rentals.

[A]

But the crazy thing is, everything is not settled. They just said it's closed because they, like, it's totaled, but it's not even settled. We haven't settled on an amount. They haven't paid me out. I haven't even gotten a new car. Like, I'm like, yo, that's crazy. Mind you, this is a feature I'm paying for.

[C]

Well, now, you know, you can audit as you one thing about it, as you have experienced all these events, you can audit your insurance from here on out and, like, really assess what you're paying for, what you don't need to pay for anymore.

[A]

And that's the one thing that I learned. Like, I was like, I'm here paying the rental thing, thinking that that's gonna buy me some time, but now when I see how they treat you, fuck that. I'm not paying for that. You know what I'm saying? Like, it really is a learning lesson, and I am gonna use my wellness segment to share some of the lessons I've learned. Because I. By the grace of God, a lot of you have blessed me with gems, like, things that have been so useful in this case. And a lot of y' all are insurance adjusters, but, like, you're. As a career. And y', all, like, hit me and were like, here's a list of shit to say. Like, it was so great. Like, when I tell you, I know.

[C]

Thank you, y'.

[A]

All, the community was not playing. And even outside of that, just people that dealt with this and could kind of just share with me, like, their experiences and things that they learned. In hindsight, you know, that I use.

[C]

In real time makes it easier a little.

[A]

It really does. Because I'm. I'm out of my scope here. Like, this is just not a world that I know. And you know, it's just. It's a lot of scammy shit. Like, even the Gap insurance, we'll talk about that too. But to me, that's such a scam. Like, so I'm paying for insurance, but I need another insurance for that insurance. And even the comment you just read Asante, luckily she had uninsured motorist insurance, so she has to cover insurance for someone else that don't have insurance. Like, what the hell?

[C]

Only reason I know about underinsured motorist claims is because I got into a car accident and I had to sue somebody. And that's what we sued against and were able to give. You know what I'm saying? That's one of the ways he was able to get something from that. So. But you wouldn't have known that if that bitch wouldn't have hit your car and if I wouldn't have gotten the accident I got into, I wouldn't. We wouldn't know this stuff.

[A]

And that's sad. That's the sad truth. Like, my eyes is open now. I was a driver to shit that I just was not aware of, truth be told. So we'll get into all of that. I'm like, what else do we do in the intro? My brain. Oh, yeah. So that's it.

[B]

Dustin.

[A]

Dustin Ross. What did you find in the Twitter street?

[C]

So I was in the Twitter sheets. Twitter streets.

[B]

Excuse me.

[C]

Shout out to Texas Southern University, right? Oh, and their students. Daythen, I believe, is how you pronounce his first name, Thigpen, who was teaching the students at Texas Southern University how to do the countdown run by Beyonce. Shout out to the Twitter account our hermitage, and it says not Beyonce, but violence. And it's basically a Beyonce Stan account, but they posted the video clip of that choir singing it and it was gorgeous. I also would like to shout out Jocelyn Hernandez and I'll close it.

[B]

Wow.

[C]

Oh, believe it or not, the bear herself. I would like to. I would like. Okay, there's another adjective in there, but I would like to. Actually a noun. But I would like to congratulate her. She did a collaboration with Telfar to promote her new single, I like the way you are, which she also calls disco shoes for some reason, but I love that song. And I love the fact that Telfire Global did a collab.

[A]

Didn't it make sense?

[C]

Yeah, it made perfect sense.

[A]

Like, when you watch it, you're like, this makes. Makes sense. I don't know what universe this is.

[C]

But it was to promote their new. I think it's called the dumpling bag, right friend?

[A]

Yeah, so it's cute. I thought it made complete sense.

[C]

Me too. So shout out to them. I thought that was cool. We talk. We could talk when they do dumb dirty but you can lift a up too. So I just, you know, I'm saying congratulations Jocelyn. I think that's dope.

[A]

That's so awesome. And shout out to telfar. They always know what's going on out here. I did want to read one more that I thought was funny in the gated community. Danielle P Said, I listened to this episode this morning and a few hours later my friend is texting me about a nice gentleman she just met and why is it the man from the black business of the week? She said. That is crazy. Shout out does putting his business all out of I love it.

[C]

I mean look, that's so somebody.

[A]

Yeah, Shout out to you Daniel.

[C]

Wow. Shout out to him.

[A]

That means that we can jump into this week's episode.

[C]

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[A]

We got what Neo got going on.

[C]

I'm so glad you said that because his baby mama is so sick of his shenanigans. So let's talk about it now. It's no secret that Neo, as of the past couple years, has been in a very public poly relationship with three, and sometimes three, and other times four girlfriends that all cohabitate. It's a commune. What was it? I guess a collective. A collective.

[B]

A collective. The Neo collective. I like that.

[A]

That's actually modern and cute.

[C]

Well, he's got it and it is modern, but his baby mama, Sade, does not think it's cute. So let's talk about it recently, according to Essence Magazine, Neo, we know that he's 45 and he currently has four girlfriends, like we said. And he's been transparent about that poly nature of his relationships and who these women are with his children. We know Neo has multiple children. He has children with Crystal Renee. Crystal Smith is. Her name is.

[A]

I'm thinking of Crystal. While you're saying Sade, I realize that is not okay.

[C]

So Sade was the. She was the woman who was pregnant at the same time that Crystal was pregnant. Neo was cheating on Crystal with Sade, basically. And she's been very public about. Yeah. Apologizing to Crystal and all this other stuff. She has the Sade girl, but apparently. So. So that happened. And she has two children with Neo. Well, apparently Neil's been on a press tour talking to the media about different things, different projects, and people have been asking him about his very public poly relationship. He takes pictures with all the girlfriends at once. It's very. He's very upfront with it. And they were asking him about, you know, his kids, you know, how does. How do his kids feel about that or whatever. And Neil said that he doesn't try to hide it. You know, he said it's like, hey, this is daddy's girlfriend. This is the quote. And so is that. And so is that. And so is that. Okay. That's what he said. He went on to say that, you know, he quote, he said in quote, she's gonna make you some cereal. She's gonna cook lunch, and she's gonna wash your clothes, and it's all good. That's how he said. He explains this to his children. So before we go a step further and get Sade, his baby's mama, take on what he said, how do y' all feel about that? And with the poly. The. The poly relationship being so upfront and in display of his children, this conversation is more the fact that he's in a poly relationship. To me, that's his choice. And just because it's foreign to us, there's no right or wrong, you know, meter there. Right. That's just what they've chosen to do. The question comes in to him putting this on display and. And being descriptive of the relationship between him and these multiple women in front of his young children. These children are not teenage children. These are young little kids, all under, I'll say the age of what, 10? Under the age.

[A]

Oh, wow.

[C]

Yeah.

[A]

His children are under the age of 10.

[C]

Well, the two that he has with my Yeta. Remember Myetta, Sean, him were. They were engaged for many, many nine to 2013. They have two children. But then he has smaller children with Crystal, and then he has even smaller children with Sade. And so those are the children that he was. Because if you think about what he said, she'll cook you lunch. That's daddy's girlfriend. That's. That's the type of language. Small children. Right. So how do you all feel about exposing that relationship to these children in such a upfront and bold way? What do you guys think about that?

[A]

Okay, so this is a tricky one. It's like a minefield. I. I think we're adults. Everyone should live how they live. As long as everyone is consenting, then who are we to say anything about a configuration that multiple adults have decided works for them? That's fat. Especially because clearly this is what he wants. I'd rather him do that than to be with one woman and lie to her under the guise of monogamy and marriage and then have three other girlfriends anyways, which is what most people do.

[C]

Right?

[A]

So shout out to him for living out loud. Hopefully he's respecting those three or four women. And really, because sometimes people will get into these configurations and still lie, which is the weirdest thing to me. It's like they don't know what they want. They just out here playing around with.

[C]

People literally have no reason to lie.

[A]

No, like, no reason to lie. It's like. And they still do it. A lot of women that I know that have been in these relationships, it's like these motherfuckers, which is greedy, and they think. Here's the part they think that this has to do with, oh, you get more sex, you get more. This was actually a lot of work. That's three or four times the communication that now you have to have. Think of how hard it is to communicate with Your one partner. One. One person. The amount of work that it takes for you to get a baseline in your home or now you have to triple that. And do it well if you want.

[B]

Everyone, because you're dealing with three different individuals.

[A]

And then they got to work together. So it's not just you and. And this person, but you this person, and then them together. And so the fact that he is not. So kids in the mix frame, throw kids. And then he's describing it so casually like, she's gonna make your breakfast, she's gonna make your lunch. That's what's making me cringe more than anything. And he can do what he wants. But it sounds so surface because this to me is a lot more work. There's a lot more depth. And those being his descriptors is making me side eye this whole thing. He's also an entertainer, so I'm like, let me remember that people will also do shit just to do shit. What do the kids say now? I'm gonna do it for the plot.

[B]

Do it for the plot. What is that? What old boy say from what's to show? Y' all watch. I. I see the plot.

[A]

Yeah, right. And it feels very that. So those are my thoughts on this, Tay.

[B]

Okay, so I know the question isn't about the poly thing. And the poly thing I don't even have an issue with. So even though that's not a question I just want to put out there, I don't have an issue with poly at all. I actually think it's cool if you are doing it right. If everyone, like friend was saying, is consenting and weighted, then that's dope. What I will say is it's complicated because like, you're saying Dustin and what you want the answer or what you want answered is you're throwing parenting into the mix. So you and I know it's difficult. There's usually a process when a parent is dating one person or there should be some sort of process when a parent is dating one person and the time frame for them to take them around other children, whatnot, neos. Just all around configurations, plurally are just all complicated. Like he's got multiple baby mamas. I don't know if they're all in the same cities. Different cities. I mean, either way that's messed up or odd.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

And now you add in three other women to the mix with that I just take. And you have your whole career. Like, I just feel like I don't know if you're carefully or appropriately spending your time Fruitfully with the people that you love and care about. But if you are respectfully and appropriately marrying those worlds together, however that looks, because I don't know what that looks like, then I can't knock you for it. I just feel like it's a difficult. It seems like it'd be a difficult task. It just seems like very complicated territory. And I can see why the. I could see why what's her name? Sade. I could see why Sade would take issue with this. I could even see if the other baby mamas will take issue with it, because it's like, you know, you can have your girlfriends, but have them over there off the side. When you have your kids, you know, come meet them over here, whatever. Until I guess we've met your poly girlfriends and decided that they're responsible enough to, you know, deal with my kids, I. I don't know. Like, it's. It's a complicated situation. I just feel like everybody's grown. Everybody should be able to say, yeah, this is weird, and be able to say, but this is the road map of, you know, what it is. Maybe not to the public, hopefully. I just prayerfully for the kids and all the parties involved, hopefully behind closed doors, they're doing the right thing. If they're not Sade, I hope you heard, and somebody makes some adjustments, whether that's Neo God doing it for him or the girls or whoever, I don't know. I don't know how I would juggle it all. That's why it's hard for me to feel like, like. Like what? You got three women, but you got all these kids. Outside of going to perform and making record, making albums and, you know, doing studio sessions and like, it's just. It's too much. But he rich for a reason. And if he wants to spend his money that way and his energy that way, then kudos to him again. I just hope he's doing it appropriate.

[C]

Really.

[A]

Yeah. You know, I remember I dated someone who always had this idea, right, of having multiple women. And I remember we would talk about it because I was in my 20s, you know, your 20s, you're kind of more open. At least I should speak for myself. But you're just like, let's see what's going on. What are you interested in?

[B]

Right? And what that look like.

[A]

Yeah. So he was like, this is what I would. And I really liked him. So I was like, okay, let's see, let's see what that looked like. He was terrible at it. And in my mind, I'm like, well, you need to figure this out if this is what you want to do. Like, this seems like fun for you, but that's just. That's not how this works. And. And it. A lot of it had to do with that. His. He had a parent, his dad had multiple women, and he had his wife, but then he had his girlfriend, and then he had, like, a third one that would, like, come to play. I don't know. It was the configuration that clearly he grew up watching, and it was normalized.

[B]

And dynamic he wanted to recreate, and.

[A]

I think it's a dynamic he wanted to recreate. Now, this is touchy territory because we have to be cautious about assuming that something that was modeled means that now the kid, you know, because they can say the same. You know, people try to use that excuse for gay relationships. Oh, now your son's gonna want a man. So that's very delicate territory.

[B]

Right.

[A]

But my thing at the end of the day is more so investigating. Why is this an interest more than anything? Because with the person that I was dating, he's one of those that was still lying, still unsure of how to communicate properly. And I was like, you have a lot to figure out before you can step into these waters, you know? And later, as an. Like an older man, he did come to me and tell me, like, that was such an important time in his life because he thought he wanted something and realized that he was not equipped. It was really just like a man wanting more than he could chew, essentially. And the conversation about kids, I'm like, that's tricky. I really don't know what the answer is, right, Of. Of modeling these configurations in front of kids.

[B]

Right?

[C]

So so many layers here. Right?

[A]

Right.

[C]

As far as my opinion is concerned, number one, the. The. The gay thing in comparison to the poly thing is a little bit different to me, because exposure, like, if kids see a healthy. You know what I'm saying? I'm not talking about being exposed to sex. I'm talking about being exposed to two of dynamics of the same gender in a relationship, right? That dynamic, they leave your house where it's normal, right. They leave your house, and then to everybody else, it's bad. Right. In the pot. In a. In a. In a heterosexual polyamorous relationship, right. The relationship itself is not deemed bad, but the dynamic of multiple people in the relationship is deemed a choice that people perceive as bad.

[A]

Right?

[C]

So it's a little bit more normal, and it's also a little bit more likely to be mimicked in that case, because it's not abnormal in its nature. As opposed to you fags, you know what I'm saying? If you're doing that, you get what I'm saying? You're just, you're just a freaky if you, you know what I'm saying, Doing that. So there's a like a higher probability of the pattern being replicated as you just spoke about, you know what I'm saying?

[A]

Yeah.

[C]

Because gay kids see straight people kiss on TV their whole entire life, you know what I'm saying? And, and you got some gold star. Gays don't even know what it looks like. So, so there's that layer, right? Then as a person, like I said, who is gay, you know what I'm saying? I'm not going to multi word it. I'm not assuming gender alone. Sex. I'm a gay, okay? I have made it a practice and a fundamental principle of, of my character, of who I am to be non judgmental of things like that. Right. It's not my place as, as long as things are healthy and efficient and that's it. And positive for people. Who gives a. How you getting your thing off? Right? So I don't give a damn that they're in a poly relationship as long as you're not having sex in front of kids and doing physical nasty stuff that is inappropriate for children to see. Do your thing. You know what I'm saying? I could care less who you get with. The reason that I am choosing not to give that same grace to Neo is for the following quote that he issued now back in 2023, in August of 2023, Neo made some transphobic comments about parenting and gender identity. Right. Neil was one of those. He was one of those people, one.

[B]

Of those people who said that he.

[C]

Would not support a child not identifying with the gender that they were assigned with at birth. He wasn't supporting that. You know, he was all in the middle of that conversation with very loud voice, vocal opinions. He was one of those people who misunderstood a child having a transgender identity with some sort of confirmation of a surgical, you know, medical proceed all physically altering procedure being taking place, which is illegal and cannot be done. Right. We need to dispel that. When people talk about kids being trans, it does not mean that they're going to get their dicks cut off or they're going to vagina sewed up and get a new dick in place. That's not what's happening. These kids are simply being understood to have that identity as trans people and they are giving care that will support that and so that they can't transition and being affirmed with information. Right. This is not a medical chemical situation. So. But he was one of those people that hears that sound bite and runs with it, right? And he took off on it. You know, I, I don't support that. All that other. Right. He was very loud about it. He came forward with an apology, right? Then the next day doubled down on what he said and said, I quote, I need y' all to hear this from the horse's mouth, not the publicist computer. I do not apologize for having an opinion on this matter. I'm a 43 year old heterosexual man raising five boys and two girls, okay? That's my reality. Now, if my opinion offended somebody, yeah, sure, I apologize for you being offended because that wasn't my intention. However, I'm entitled to feel how I feel. You're entitled to feel how you feel. I ain't asked nobody to follow me. I ain't asked nobody to agree with me. He disagreed with, on the Gloria Velez podcast, he disagreed with the idea and she did too, disagreed with the idea of supporting a transgender child's identity and allowing them to seek gender affirming care. Here's his quote. He said, if your little boy comes to you and says, daddy, I want to be a girl, you just let him rock with that. Neil said on the podcast, if you let this five year old boy decide to eat candy all day, he's gonna do that. When did it become a good idea to let a 5 year old, let a 6 year old, let a 12 year old make a life changing decision for theyself? He can't drive a car yet, but he can decide his sex. So let's talk about the hypocrisy, let's talk about the, the misinformation. Let's talk about the fallacies in which he spoke and of which he spoke with. Let's talk about all that because you can't be that. I'm raising five boys and two girls and you're four women in front of their faces. So let's talk about that. Because them two girls you raising, they seeing that. Them boys and five boys you raising, they're seeing that. But that's okay because that's what you want to do. You got them making lunches and sandwiches and all that. But the idea that children who have a transgender identity can be supported through affirming care, mind you again, non surgical, non medical related care, we're talking about affirming care things to empower them and make them feel like regular people that they are and go out into the world as whole beings.

[A]

Right?

[C]

And you dispelling with therapy, right, you're against that, but you want to flaunt. And him and his girlfriends take very physically into a provocative pictures. They always kissing and grabbing ass and all that, and all of that's okay. So for me, that's the parallel that I take Umbridge and issue with Neo. You're already a ugly, and so the fact that you have decided to now be ugly on the inside as well, I take issue with. So, no, I'm not gonna cape for you to, you know, flaunt your harem of women in front of these children and be allowed to. To be. To. To be unscathed or not spoken of and not interpreted and not broken down and analyzed and assessed. No, you got to deal with all that. Let the people talk. Let freedom ring out of the mouths of the people. That's what you get because you spoke up and then came back and doubled down on it because you that if you mad, I ain't asked you to follow me. Well, guess what, Neo, we have followed you, and we followed you right on into this polyamorous relationship, and now you got to stand on the trial in the court of public opinion for and all that. It's so funny how the conversation is drawn directly back to children. Okay. Which is the heel that he chose to die on in the first place with misinformation during that transgender debate at that time. So I just thought it was uncanny, you know what I'm saying? Hit it, Cheska Lee. I never thought the leopards would eat my face.

[B]

You know what I'm saying?

[C]

Okay. So I just thought that was interesting. Any closing thoughts on Neo before we move on, y'? All?

[A]

Not at all.

[B]

I'm with Sade.

[A]

Right?

[C]

Oh, let's talk about that. I'm glad you said that, because. Let's talk about what Sade said, because she went the off. She went on.

[A]

What's her concern exactly? What is it that. What's being modeled in front of the.

[C]

Kids, exposing the kids. That's what she said. Her quote is she said that Neil was weird for how he's moving. She made it clear that she's not playing about what her kids see. She said, quote, this is all posted to her where y'? All? Her Instagram. She said, quote, as soon as y'. All. As soon as the sirens. Let me say the quote.

[B]

Well, it's funny that you say it's on Instagram and you talked about Following Neo. Neo not asking for follows post. Neo, I don't follow your ass and I haven't followed your ass. I think I'm gonna follow shot because like I was saying before, if there is actually issue to be taken up with the mothers and there's concern to be raised and raise them. So that's why I said, I'm with her.

[C]

So she posted her Instagram. She said, she posted the interview of him on Ricky Smiley when he was speaking about it. She posted on her Instagram story and said, and did not tell your corny ass not to have that going on in front of my kids. To do that cornball on your own time. She said, and poly relationships aren't five plus girlfriends. They party with you every night just so you can pick up more girls to hook up with. She said, that is what you call an open relationship. She said, you're a wannabe boyfriend pimp trick. You like the gfe, which means girlfriend experience. She said, stop disrespecting Polly. She said, there's nothing exclusive about what you got going on, weirdo. That's what she said. She's been going.

[A]

That was the concern I raised. Like, is this just some. What was that crew back in the day with all the girls?

[C]

Oh, what's the guy's name? I know exactly. Ted's Angels.

[A]

Angels. Or like, are you really connecting with these women and it just happens to be multiple? Like, that's my question. But he don't seem to be talking.

[B]

About that part is he's not and I don't know him, but he's not taking his parenting duty seriously. If he was. That's why I said before, like, if this was an actual poly formation, then he needs to keep this separate until they've met the mothers and they've decided, like, all right, you know what? Y' all can keep making y' all sandwiches and. Because when y' all be in the house, y' all do be fully clothed and playing games and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. But all we see is y' all hoes kissing, y' all having y' all kiss after kiss and butt smacking like that on the Internet. So that's why I'm like, I. I don't have it for you, Neo. Goodbye.

[A]

And it wouldn't be any different in a relationship with one person. Like most parents I know don't bring people around their kids like that. Not until is locked in, you know what I mean? Where they're like, this is a person that should be around my kids because they're going to continuously be around my kids. And that's a very sacred responsibility to do that. And so that's my concern more than anything is like, is just this, is this a rotating door of women? Is it the same? Like, what are the kids experiencing? What are they?

[C]

Since it's so much about the kids. The children, Right. I'll never forget. It was a girl that auditioned for one of the early seasons of American Idol. Remember when they would show all the bad auditions? Her name was Juanita Barber and she sang this song called what about the Children. And in her exit interview, interview, she's like, I'm singing to America and I'm asking them, what about the children? Shout out to you, I need a barber wherever you are. And if you're an American Idol fan, you remember that. Watch them come up in the comments. But what about the children? My thing is keep it standing, stand on it, make it about the kids all the time. It's not just about the kids when it comes to gay and trans. Stand on it. Neo be the same. That was raising five boys, two girls.

[A]

Activism.

[C]

Otherwise, like that song you had. You can go on girl. Next on the docket we have pastor Jamal Bryant. Now.

[A]

Oh.

[C]

Now we all know that Jamal Bryant has a what we will call a checkered past. Right. His personal choice.

[A]

I don't know much about about him. I only know Giselle.

[C]

I mean, I felt like he was a next appropriate topic since we were talking about men with lots of children by lots of different women. Right. I felt like he made sense in succession. Speak about next. So. But this time we're not talking about Jamal Bryant for something that he didn't do. Right. This time we're talking about him for something that he, he did do. Right.

[A]

Okay. Okay.

[C]

We all know that Donald Trump won, unfortunately, the office of the President of the United States and he had a last minute ass Black History Month event at the White House where he invited people like Angela Stanton, people like Kodak, Kodak Black.

[A]

Wow.

[C]

Did Kodak go these, these were the people, see, these were the people that he invited to be a part of the White House Black History Month celebration. In addition to that pack of black people that can't dance and go to white hair stylists and barbers that have been at every Republican thing. You see them at everything. Dancing the Owens of the world. Yeah, you see all of them and it's the same faces. I don't know none of their names because they're miscellaneous to me, but they this them same people. So they were in the White House. Celebrate. The guy that was sitting on the plane in the Joe Biden shirt or whatever and Trump shirt him. All the. They was all in there, right? So they had a celebratory moment or whatever where it was like, yeah. And Cash Patel got confirmed. Oh, they screaming, celebrating, and they was like, we gonna get them. Get their ass. We gonna get everybody. Or whatever. And one of the things that they did, somebody in the group was holding up a picture of Jamal Bryant, a cardboard picture of Jamal Bryant's face like a cutout, and holding it up in the air as if suggesting that Cash Patel would go after him and get him in some way. We all know that about to fill in the gap for you, there's a huge, huge part of Project 2025 that was focused on silencing criticism of the Trump administration and any extension of it. Right. And so people have been touting Cash Patel's confirmation as ed leader of the FBI, director of the FBI, to be that manifesting itself. Right. They're saying that he's going to go after anybody who in the press who speaks negatively about Donald Trump or anything like that. And we know that throughout this whole election cycle, throughout the whole election cycle and even, even as current events have taken place that, you know, kind of occupied the lens of social justice. Jamal Bryant has been upfront and vocal about things, speaking on the correct side of the issue. So that happened. Well, of course, I don't know why they thought that that thinly veiled threat would shake him in some way to be silent or, you know, take his voice away in some matter. I'm going to show you guys what Jamal Bryant had to say in response to his video. Man, this clip is a little over a minute long, so it's going to be a lengthy run, but worth the listen. This is the video footage of him speaking in the pulpit about the coons that held his picture up. So here is the video footage of what he had to say. Praying for me all week. You've been nervous all week. But I ain't afraid of the spooks that sat at the door. Oh, these runaway slaves hiding in the White House gonna throw my picture up thinking that I'm gonna be a afraid if you got real carriage. Don't show my picture. Show the picture of the one that fired the black joint chief of staff from the military. If you gonna show a picture, show a picture of the CEO of Target, Walmart, McDonald's in Amazon, that does not recognize black doctors dollars of black business. If you're Gonna put up a picture, put up a picture of the state legislators in Florida that abandoned black books. If you gonna put up a picture, put up the picture of the one who is stealing classified information from the IRS and Social Security. If you gonna put up a picture, put up a picture of those that don't want your mama to pay $35 for insulin and your child to pay $35 for inhaler. If you gonna put up a picture, put up a picture of those that are jailing children and separating families. I ain't ever scared. In case you forgot, I'm from the west side of Baltimore. That's right. That's right. That's right. You gotta give it up. Give it up for jb. Give it up for jb okay? Because Pastor Brian go down without one cuss word. That's how I know I'll have a successful second act as a pastor. I told you, when I turn 65, I'm gonna be up in that pull up. But anyway, I thought that was poignant because right now is the time, right? Oh, yeah. We need voices. We need people who are unafraid of these threats. They are. Fear mongering is a huge tactic that's being used by this administration to silence voices, pieces of truth. Right.

[A]

And it works.

[C]

And it works because who wants to go through the right.

[A]

Yeah.

[C]

But sometimes when you have people that listen to you, no matter how large or small the audience, it's your responsibility to lead them to the truth in some sort of way. And that was inspirational not only to all those that were in the audience at New Birth that day, but to everybody else who saw it. So what are Yalls thoughts on? On, first of all, the coons in the White House holding up his picture, what that means in connection to them aligning it with the confirmation of Cash Patel as the director of the FBI. And what are your thoughts about what Pastor Brian had to say in the pulpit at New Birth to them in the White House?

[A]

Well, shout out to his bravery, first of all, because one thing we do know is that when you are opposing a government, they'll make sure to that you're going to suffer for it. We might not see how it could be financial, it could be physical, it could be, God knows, digital. There's so many ways to suppress people and censor them. We're seeing it on smaller scales just with our search engines on tick tock and what's coming up and what's no longer coming up, other countries telling us the things that we can't see. And do Americans know that y' all are at war with Canada? Do y' all know that we're protesting and we literally have no access. Success. And so the. Is very real. And so for him to put himself out there like that and basically tell them, you're not gonna scare me into.

[C]

Not saying leadership ain't it.

[A]

That is. I mean, that's bravery in this new world. And so shout out to him. I don't know much about him. This low key is. Is an introduction for me to him. I know of him through Giselle and the show and their kids. But shout out to him. I don't know his checkered past. As you say.

[C]

Oh, baby.

[A]

Oh, I don't want to know. But as for this speech, he did that and it was phenomenal. Honestly inspiring, because I think a lot of us are going to be facing similar crossroads, especially being vocal and visible and in media. And so shout out to the ones that are leading the charge.

[C]

Hell yeah.

[B]

Yeah, friend. I know that you're not familiar with a lot of Pastor Brian's former aggressions, I guess, if you will, I'm.

[C]

Transgressions.

[B]

Transgressions. All right, perfect. Thank you. But this is a situation where people have to put those to the side. And not speaking to you because you don't know, but for the people that.

[C]

Are listening, got nothing to move.

[B]

Right. But because I directed it to you because you don't know, but there are.

[A]

People that probably say even a broke clock. Right. Twice a day.

[B]

Okay. But I feel like a lot of people are going to bring some of those to the Internet or use that as a thing and a tool. And I just want to encourage the people that uplift this to. To do that. Like when people speak up and they speak out the right thing and they're on the right side, we have to continue to empower them. Like Dustin, how you've highlighted this clip here, we have to continue to just. I don't want to say bandwagon, because that's actually terrible, but we really have to, like, help with these numbers. Unfortunately, we are in a time where shit is unbelievably bad and it's getting worse whether people want to see it or not. And it's. It is fear mongering to just keep saying, oh, sucks. So when someone is getting up there and saying, well, does suck, and they told me I can't do xyz, but it's. Guess we both ain't. Because your ass and you're supposed to be up in the White House anyway. Until you other that's up in there thinking that that shit's cute. It ain't cute. I think it's super dope that he's done this. And it's moving to know that in 2025, people are still doing some, like, cool.

[C]

Everybody ain't just amazing. And black church leaders, we all know that when it comes black church and. And politics, they shaking hands. You know what I'm saying? They definitely. Y' all know it. And so it's good to see somebody in the black church saying what needs to be said. That's real too out bootlicking to savor some sort of salvage some sort of relationship. But what we are going to talk about with Pastor Jamal Bryant is the fact that he was on his elphaba at his most recent wedding to Dr. Ken Turner.

[B]

Wow.

[C]

Did you see that? Y' all see. Did y' all see the wedding pictures?

[B]

No.

[C]

But when they checked the group message. Message. Check the groove message. And look at what I just sent y'. All. If you can share the screen. I don't know, but he just married Dr. Carrie Turner.

[A]

I like it.

[C]

He was on his elphaba and she was on her Galinda. Okay.

[A]

I like it.

[C]

Oh, she's Galenda.

[A]

Oh, they look great. I like it.

[C]

Shout out to my friend Shannon. Shannon since an incredible stylist, a creative director, who said, why is she holding leaves? You know, he said, why is she holding leaves? Look at her bouquet. Now for those on Patreon, you can see. Currently we're looking at images from the wedding of Pastor Jamal Bryant and his wife, Dr. Carrie Turner. She's in a pink jewel jumpsuit. She's in a pink jewel jumpsuit with a long tool train. And she looks like Elvis. She also. He is wearing. He's wearing a green brocade suit with multiple, you know, jewels. He's in green, she's in pink. And it looks like she's saying the battle cry from Defying Gravity because her mouth is open. That's what she's saying.

[A]

This is their wedding outfit. Like, they got married in this.

[C]

That's what they wore. Wow, Cool. On his elphaba. And if you look closely, the do look like Cynthia Erivo. So he did. Now he looked like her. She don't look like him.

[A]

The part. The part that's confusing me is who the hell was thinking of Jamal Bryant Enough to cut. To do a cutout. Take it to the White House. That's the part that confused me. Unless I'm just not realizing, darling, you're dealing with people.

[C]

You know what I'm dealing with. Those people, those coons that were at that White House are the type of people who will attach themselves to something that they disagree with or didn't like and follow it and. And turn it into a more than what it is. Okay, these are.

[A]

You may have just said something that one person just took the heart that deeply that they were like missing a White House. Wow.

[C]

There you go. So that's it for Pastor Jamal Bryant. It was a 95. Good report, you know what I'm saying? From us on him this week. But I just thought that was something you guys needed to know. And speaking of things that people need to know, divorce isn't that big a deal.

[A]

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[B]

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[A]

No one does. She does.

[B]

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[C]

And you had sex with my wife, so maybe. I don't know.

[B]

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[A]

Splitsville.

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[C]

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Two, seriously, it's $15 a month. Three, no big contracts.

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[C]

Which way should we go with this? Because we got a couple things. Let's do it. We're gonna move Mary to Medicine to the main conversation this week because we need such a deeper dive. And some things have taken place that our audience, we love y', all, you know, in the gated community and we love y' all that listen to the friend zone. And so they've been wanting our feedback on some something connected to the show Married to Medicine. So we'll just lump all of that into this part of the show.

[B]

I do have opinions and thoughts already.

[C]

So the first thing I want to talk about in this most recent episode, there was a huge bra verbal brawl on the beach no one actually got physical. But Quad Webs new partner of two years, King, he's an entrepreneur in Atlanta. Very handsome, very charismatic, very well mannered. You know what I'm saying? He did have a moment with her ex husband, Dr. G, on the beach because Dr. G provoked and antagonized him to a point where he wanted to whoop his ass.

[A]

So that's what poo's ass?

[B]

Because Dr. G wouldn't stop talking about how he was like, yeah, I was telling her. What was he saying?

[C]

Dr. G was. Dr. G started an uncomfortable conversation with King on the beach when the men in general were convening to talk about how they were welcoming the new. There's some new players on the. On the season. Right. Some new people in the cast this season. Dr. Mimi's husband Steve, which I love that couple. Yeah, they're great. Ex football player. Right. You have them. Dr. G is. Is in his second year back with the group. Quad now has her partner. This is his first year with the cast. But Herman, him and Quad have been together for two years, so he's very well aware of her relationships among the cast. Yeah, right. So all the men were talking, saying that, you know, you know, we were not all the men, I should say. Cecil and Eugene were saying, you know, we welcome you guys to the. The group. We're happy to have you guys with us. Things are going great. King says thank you all for welcoming me to the group. I really appreciate all the grace you guys have given me. It's great to get to know everybody. Dr. G speaks up because this is the next. The next day, after a blow up between him and Quad when Car got drunk and was basically kind of trolling him and Leticia or whatever.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

Starting some. And then Dr. G and his new wife Leticia ended up getting into an argument as an offshoot of that. So Dr. G was in his feelings, but King had literally done and said nothing to him in any disrespectful, aggressive way. Nothing like he was being a straight up gentleman. Dr. G gets on the. On the beach and starts antagonizing him. I wouldn't recommend to you. There's no disrespect. I just, you know, I. We got a lot of past history between us, and she was out of control yesterday. I like what she said, but it ain't you. I don't want to disrespect you. It ain't nothing like that. All I said. And so King said, okay, you know, well, no disrespect. I received that, you know, he was. He was like, I just. You know, I. I didn't. Basically, he just pieced it up, right? Dr. G says, yeah. I mean, all I said was, she got a big mouth. King said. And then. Then all the other guys, Cecil, Eugene, everybody is like. And King was like, yo, you said that to her yesterday.

[A]

Yeah.

[C]

And like, he said, yeah. So King was like, yo, you. I didn't hear that yesterday. I'm gonna need you to apologize to her or whatever. Dr. G gets up off his seat, walks up to him. Trust me, I wasn't trying to start nothing. Because I would say something to you if I. If I was trying to start some. I didn't say nothing to her. That's it. Walked up on them, basically. And all the guys are like, what the is going on? Because King's energy was not even in the confrontational space.

[A]

Not provoking, okay?

[C]

At all. So this happens. Long story short, King tells Dr. G, yo, now that I know that you said that to her, don't say nothing else to her. I don't give a what she say to you. You want to address her, you address me. And you owe her an apology for disrespecting her yesterday. You know what I'm saying? Dr. G refused to do it and told King, I know how you are because I know how your girl is. And all this other. And then King just kind of blacked out and snapped and took his shirt off and ran down on Dr. G. Dr. G was backing that ass up and running down the beach. It was a whole thing.

[A]

This is embarrassing.

[B]

Phaedra started speaking in tongues.

[C]

That's where I'm going with this. So hold on. Okay, that's where we going.

[B]

Okay, let me back real quick then, friend. What I loved in this scene, though, was that King, he was so even tempered that entire time, but he was standing on business. On the fact that, like, when he was started coming at him, obviously he was standing on business. Quiet can say whatever she wants. You don't say nothing. It don't matter what she said. You don't say nothing. And I love that part, because, yes, Quiet still gonna have her feelings. She's gonna have her moments. But the thing that Dr. G keeps missing, and it's not about being a man, but it's about you just having some form of self control. And he's a therapist. He has no self control.

[A]

Therapist. He is a therapist, y'. All.

[C]

So as they try to diffuse the situation, King and Quad are speaking to each other. She's calming him down. Dr. G is being consoled by two members, two male members of the crew. I can't remember who Phaedra is trying. Phaedra and Dr. Contessa and Dr. Mimi, one of the new friends of the show, are trying to calm Leticia, sweetie, Dr. G's wife, down because she was trying to run towards the conflict and get involved. Yeah, yeah. Because she has no place on this show. She's just a loose can.

[A]

She needs the scene.

[C]

She don't know what to do. Right. But it's not even coming from a place of. It's the weirdest thing because it's not coming from a place of thirstiness necessarily with her. She just is so stupid that she doesn't know what to do, like in the scenes. And so, like, it just. It's the weirdest thing. But so as they're trying to console Sweet Tea Phaedra, okay, Who is a part of the show. Well, she recently departed, but this was her second season of a part of the cast of Married to Medicine. Phaedra, they're on the beach. She's wearing a thong bikini, two piece with a net cover up over it, right? Ass cheeks all out. Phaedra starts speaking in tongues to Leticia. She's like having a meltdown. Now, this is probably five minutes off of a confrontation between Phaedra and her ex husband, Apollo and his new wife, Shereen, where Phaedra is telling Shireen, first of all, my name ain't Fey. Fei, you bad billing on the beach at the same time in the same scenario.

[A]

I need to watch this episode.

[C]

What do you guys think about Phaedra speaking in tongues on the beach? It.

[A]

Can you. Okay, can you just rewind? Why was she speaking in tongues on the beach? Like what?

[C]

She was trying to calm Dr. G's new wife down because she. Right. Frasier starts speaking in tongues. Immediately the camera cuts to Apollo seeing her speaking in tongues and telling Dr. Simone and them. I've been knowing Phasia since 1997. I ain't never seen no like that. Talking about her speaking in time.

[A]

And why is Apollo and his wife on the show?

[C]

Dr. Heavenly invited them on the trip. Apollo was at the reunion last year. He was.

[A]

Oh, this is a mess. What was your question?

[C]

What do y' all think about Phaedra speaking in tongues to calm Leticia down at that time in a thong bikini with her ass cheeks out, straight after cussing somebody out. What do y' all think about that?

[A]

I feel like you have to answer Asante. I feel completely out of my depth.

[C]

In this one, which is an answer.

[B]

First of all, let me just say, because also, it is still Black History Month. I love the fabric of the Merit to Medicine franchise. I love how the last episode, Simone was just celebrating the eight doctors on the only sandbar in the world that had eight black doctors on it. Right. That's literally what she said in the episode before this. One friend. And then we come to this episode where this beach blowout is happening and things are so dramatic that Sweet Tea is being hugged up on and speaking in tongues only for Simone and Jackie to be on the side. As confused as I was because I didn't know how we got there. And then when they were showing the confessionals, I. I was just glad that everybody felt as odd as I did, because I know that I'm not the churchiest of the bunch. So I just felt like it was out of place. And I'm just. I was just super happy that I was not out of place in thinking that. Yes, I was not alone in thinking.

[C]

Because Phaedra. That's why it's Phaedra.

[B]

Well, I've never bought into. I've never bought into Phaedra's, like, churchy act, ever. I. I've. I've seen it as her, like, character. Like, she's like a caricature, and she's put it on herself. Like, she just decided, like, okay, like, my Persona is, like, people love how Southern I could be, so I'm gonna amp it up. Like, seeing the pictures of, like, what she used to look like to how she looks now. She has money now she's able to play with some things and live, like, how she wants to, and I think that's cool. I just wish he was more transparent or more upfront or I wish there was a different side of age that I could really get into, but I can't.

[C]

Like a real one?

[B]

Yeah, like a real something. Some. Anything real. Like, even watching her mom, I always think it's so funny. The scene of her mama just randomly enjoying jelly or peach preserves on the couch, talking about, yes, scrumptious or whatever the they was eating. That was just a real scene because they was just two women enjoying the simple things in life. Some food. But then you see Phaedra just talking about, oh, yeah, you know, this is my date.

[A]

I ain't know.

[B]

And it's like, girl, your day is your man's. Your ex husband's homeboy that hangs, that they hang out on a regular basis.

[C]

But you didn't expect Dr. Heavenly to connect the Dots and be able to invite Apollo and his wife who also has a very close personal relationship with this guy. She. Here's what happens. Let me clear you, let me clue you in.

[A]

Oh yeah, go ahead.

[C]

Phaedra is a part of this cast. Phaedra refuses to give any real actual details or view into her personal life. We've never seen her with a real man that she's actually dating. Apollo can't even come into her.

[A]

You mean on this show?

[C]

On this show on Married to Medicine. But we, we remember Married to Medicine was her return to tell us television we have. This is the only glimpse into. So we haven't. She has been given an opportunity to display those things and not done it right until now. She's full time cast on this show. Refuses. All she does is have an opinion on what's going on with everybody else. Instigate conflicts that are pre existing, you know what I'm saying? Before she arrived and make faces. She did. And she refuses to even go into detail and conversation with these women. Girl, she retreats. I'm not going to talk about that. That's what she says. So the general consensus is that she really don't want to work, you know what I'm saying? Or do nothing or getting nothing that's really going on in her life. That's why Dr. Heavenly invited Apollo to come on the trip because Phaedra was bringing a man on the trip that she met at a speed dating event that Sweet Tea threw. Later on we find out that Phaedra invited him to come to the speed dating event. Event. Okay. And so Phaedra set the whole thing up. The guy that she chose to come set up Come on the event and then they went on a date on camera and now he's who she's dating at the time he comes on the couple's trip with her. How convenient, right? It was all a setup. It's not real. When Apollo and them come on the trip, they like Phaedra told me she was going to feed Speed Day with Sha. Like that's my boy. Like he be at our house on holiday. Shereen was like, we together on holidays all the time. She was. And when Shireen arrived and saw Shake on the trip, she was like, Sheck is the guy that Phaedra brought with him. She was like, what are you doing? What you doing here? Hey, why are you here? Like familiar. Everybody knew Shake and everybody knew the jig was up. So Heavenly inviting Apollo on the trip trip uncovered the fact that Phaedra basically brought this man on the show to fill his space and had already set it up before the speed thing. I mean, he wasn't just some random guy that she met there.

[A]

So Heavenly was being messy, but it.

[C]

Worked because what she uncovered was actually the truth. It wasn't just messy for the sake of no you and she mess.

[B]

Because she. Because she said Phaedra knew Phaedra was setting all of this up. But Phaedra was also. She also was clued in on the setup. Heavenly hit her up, up and was like, yo, so do you mind if I invite Apollo and Shereen? Well, you know, Apollo and his new wife or whatever. And Phaedra was like, let it be a surprise.

[C]

Apollo not his wife. Because remember, Apollo said his wife wasn't coming.

[B]

Oh, yeah.

[C]

Brought his wife at that last minute. And when, when, when Heavenly. When Heavenly told Phaedra that Apollo was coming, this was after she had introduced old boy to the group at the speed dining event, after she's gone on a date with him on camera. So it was too late. She started realizing, like her jig was up.

[A]

How does she explain that? Or did she not?

[C]

She refused to. She says she tells Apollo why we are not married. We've been divorced for seven years. Why are you so worried about who I'm dating? It's none of your business. And they start arguing. There's never any progress in the dialogue because that will expose.

[A]

Because she deflects.

[C]

Yeah, there you go. So she deflects and then she's a lawyer and then leave a bad one. Never won a case. And then leaves. Leaves the trip. So that's why Apollo and Shireen, Apollo and Apollo coming on the trip was bad enough because he was able to uncover the fact that Phaedra already knew shack and all that. And that shick, she knew Shake because he was friends with Apollo. Then she went, when the producers asked her about it and her confessional, she says, I mean, he told me he knew Apollo from the club. Who don't know, somebody from the club. She tried to minimize and downplay everything. You are cold busted. And then the added layer, the added layer of Shereen made it even worse because independent of Apollo, she has a personal friendship with Shay and has known him for many, multiple years. She starts immediately telling all the ladies because think about it, she hates Phaedra. So she starts telling all the ladies on the cast, like, I don't know why she brought Sha. He's everybody's man in Atlanta. I've been knowing him for years. He's our friend. She Knows he's friends with us. So they totally blew up Phaedra's fake relationship that she purported to the show and to the producers and everybody else as if it was a real thing. Tried to, at least. And what did Phaedra do? Left the show. She was already in contract for her return to the Real Housewives of Atlanta, so she was ready to get out of this show. And that's how. That's how she left.

[B]

Which good riddance. I just hope she doesn't take more to rhoa.

[C]

So there's that. Now moving on from Phaedra. Right, Because I told you, it's many layers. In Married to Medicine, there was a conversation between Dr. G, Quad's ex husband, and his new wife, Sweet Tea, after the blow up that took place in Key West. If you've been watching Married to Medicine for years and you know that Quad has long exposed the fact that there was physical violence, emotional abuse, verbal abuse that took place in the marriage that she had with Dr. G. Right. They've both been arrested. There's a public record of arrest for this. For you nosy people that go too far with stuff and need that to substantiate this, it exists. Then they both had a sit down on one of the Married to Medicine reunions where they went. It was just them and Andy on the stage and they went into detail and were both accusing each other of violent acts and stuff. So there was lots of trauma in their relationship that took place. One of the things Quiet was very. One of the things that Quiet was very vocal about was the way the verbal abuse, the. The way that he treated her, the way that he tried to manipulate her because she was younger than him. Those very real tactics that people use in relationships like that. And earlier last season, we saw Sweet tea, who was Dr. G's new wife, when. When she was just getting to know Dr. Heavenly and thinking they was friends. She told Heavenly Choir was right about some stuff because he do think he do talk to me crazy. Basically. She alluded to that this week on the show after they left Key West. Mind you, he flipped out on Sweet Tea and Key West. It was totally misdirected anger because he was really mad about Quiet being here with this new man. Which is crazy because last season Dr. G and his new wife came on the show for the sole purpose of being there to antagonize Quad. And she went through an entire season, now that she got an actual real relationship that she was in at the time and still didn't put it in. Yalls face because she wanted to make sure it was solid before it got on tv.

[A]

Right.

[C]

So now that she's here with that, you all don't know what to do and you're losing your minds. So he blows up on her there at the. At Key west, on camera, has a hot mic moment where he's belittling her. They get back to the States, they're in Atlanta, and they're on camera having a conversation where he's belittling her, telling her, you know what? You are very naive. You are so naive. Why would you think you could go to toe to toe with a man talking about her running toward his confrontation on the beach? Because she wanted to support him and protect him in the conversation.

[A]

He's mad at her for that.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

Telling her she can't go at no man. And she's so immature. This is what he said.

[B]

It was going to be a brawl to the death.

[C]

This is what I mean when I say she's dumb, she's so immature that when he tells her, you can't be going up there to get nobody against no man. She's a military vet. She tells him, well, I'm combat trained. Instead of saying, I wasn't going over there to fight him, I was going over there to protect you and stop you all from fighting each other and get in between you. She starts going back and forth with him about her being combat trained and that being, you know, know, a safety net for her to be in physical conflict with a man. That's not even what y' all are discussing at this tape, Right? So then he takes that.

[A]

You're not reading through the text.

[C]

So he takes that, flips it into a whole thing, has a temper tantrum at the table, gets up, storms off, goes up the steps, still berating her, still in a tirade, goes into the room, slams the door, still miked. She gets up, goes into the room. We now are looking at their bedroom doors, but hearing on the hard mic, on the hot mic, I told you, I told you, don't say nothing else about it. And you immature, you know, just really berating her or whatever. What do y' all think you should do in that situation where this person has already been accused of these behaviors? You've taken up that cross to bear and defended this person unnecessarily when it wasn't even on you. And now Chescalia is singing again because the leopards are eating your face. You know what I'm saying?

[A]

Cut your losses.

[B]

Yeah, sweet tea, gotta get out of there.

[A]

You're young. She can literally do this again with a much better man.

[C]

Like, don't drive that Mini Cooper. She's in her 30s.

[A]

That's still super young.

[C]

Like, very young. Very young. If she's still figuring it out, right?

[A]

Yeah. Especially if there's no progress, you know, because people may have their shit and we all kind of have been there where we. We decide which cross we want to bear because we love someone. But there's some crosses that if time after time you're not seeing a shift progress and interest in, you know, in. In this thing being different, then now cut your right.

[B]

Right.

[C]

She gotta go. So while she's sitting up and rapping in her press interviews. Did you see. I know she's embarrassed about that rap.

[A]

No, no, I haven't heard it. But didn't she reach out to him on something? Like, I could do you better than.

[C]

Yeah, I can give you what you want.

[A]

That's.

[B]

So they're doing ivf.

[C]

So she was a fan of the show. She was a fan of the show.

[A]

And this is what she got. She literally got what she. What she asked for. Like, and to be honest, life lessons.

[B]

I think that she does need to cut her losses. Sweet T, you've been on television.

[C]

You're in Atlanta now.

[B]

You can do with it what you will. You don't have to stay on this show. That man is not worth it. Girl, I am so sorry that you are in a situation where you feel like you got to prove to some other people some bs. You have got to do what is right for you and what is healthy. And being in that household with that gentleman is not where it's at, girl. You see, unfortunately, you do see why quad left. But the light at the end of the tunnel is. You see what quad has now. Now, you can't have what she has now, but you can go get your own.

[A]

Yeah. So reminder. Things can get better, girl.

[C]

Or you can. You can get shake the spirit of trying to mimic somebody else and figure out who the you are and what the you need.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

What I'm saying, look, we're trying to run up behind with somebody else. Got you relationship with a. That talk like this. That's hard.

[A]

No idea. And that's friend.

[B]

I wish you would have seen the scene. It was bad. It was real bad.

[C]

I hated it.

[A]

I hate triggered. I've been there.

[B]

The way he was talking to her behind closed doors and how mean he was and how calm she was being and how she was like. You're upset. I understand. You Know, he's a therapist. He's just. And the way she was friend. The way that sweet tea. Sweet tea.

[A]

More emotional regulation than someone that I was floored. Does this for a living.

[B]

And the. He was saying back to her while she. While he was acting like that.

[C]

So that happened. And in addition to stupid that people did on another medicine as well. Week Dr. Heavenly has been running her mouth on the Internet talking about the.

[A]

Show in her closet.

[C]

She was in her closet talking about the show. And here's what she had to say when she was describing her understanding of Quad's partner, King, wanting to address Dr. G for saying to quiet that she had a big mouth and she needed to be quiet. Here's what Dr. Heavenly had to say.

[B]

But it is.

[A]

So when you have a conversation with somebody and somebody gets upset and it goes to the left. Most men, real men. Not gay men. Not, not, not men. You know what I'm saying? The guys. That is kind of soft. But real men are gonna feel like. You know what I mean? Straight men are gonna feel like, if you tell my wife to shut the up, I'm gonna have a problem with it. I mean, that's just.

[C]

It is. So that's what Dr. Heavy.

[B]

Hold on.

[A]

Did she say not gay men, not bitch men.

[C]

That's what she said, friend. That's what she said, you know, because.

[B]

She was talking about straight men.

[C]

That's what she said, friend. Now, of course, you already know the entire Internet was on her ass for that. Right? Because as a person who literally sits up next to Funky Da, that's very.

[A]

They're like, close.

[C]

As a person who set up with Carlos King for months using his Internet real estate to build up yours, you know what I'm saying? As a person who always is attaching yourself to other black gay men and gay men in general, as a person who literally works with Andy Cohen, you know what I'm saying? Like, this is. This is really how you feel. But my thing is. And you know, I love Dr. Heavenly on the show. You know what I'm saying? I love her on that show. I think she makes me laugh a lot of times. She's right. I love the friends she's been to. Dr. Jackie and Quad. I like a lot about her on that show. Show. But I don't like this ugly right here. And so neither did a lot of other people. And they tore her ass up about that online. And so she definitely apologized in her apology. Here's what she had to say.

[A]

I'm just emotional right now because. And Again and again. Let me apologize for what I said before. You know, you know, I made a lot of people feel uncomfortable by something I did, and it was mistaken. And I want to say I apologize. It was an ignorant statement I made about, you know, being a real man, you know, whatever. I want to apologize for that again and again. Y' all know if y' all know me, y' all know I didn't mean anything by it, but it doesn't take away from somebody. I might have hurt their feelings. So I will apologize for that again and again and again. I was wrong. That was ignorant statement, and I recant that whole thing.

[C]

So she apologized. Right. But it just. That triggers me personally.

[A]

It wasn't mistaken. Mistaken, no, it was what you said, but. Right. And I don't get why people don't. I'd almost rather her admit that that's how she feels. And she. You know when people do that thing where they're like, I hear you.

[C]

Yeah, yeah.

[A]

As annoying as that is, it's like just stands on what you said, that that's how you feel, and that you need to have some introspection on why that's how you feel. But then you also work with gay men. You are friends with gay men. They're part of your life. But secretly or not secretly, because she said it, you know, she needs to.

[C]

Work with one more so her hair can look right now. Also, that's why she looked like Gunna.

[A]

Terrible.

[C]

Oh, my God, Dr. Heavenly, you look like Gunna. That's all you got for it?

[B]

I didn't even watch the apology video because we've seen that was a good apology. I mean, we've seen her apologize a million times on Married to Medicine and not mean it. So for me, it was like, girl, I already know you mean that, and I'm not giving you no pass. Honestly, I don't care enough about her to berate her for it or call for her job. I just look at her as like, oh, you're another one of those. And I hated the fact that I'm not trying to cape for her because unfortunately, she did say something super dumb. So. And it was triggering for a plethora of reasons. Like, friend, if someone ever even said to you stfu, I would fight. Like, like, doesn't matter who, what, when, where, why we scrapping? Because who the do you think you are? And what the are you talking about? Yeah, and I'm not no man. Or whatever the she decided to group gay people with and all that. There are straight men that are Men, I guess. So it's like this. You trying to understand what you're not. What you're not gonna do.

[C]

What you're not gonna do is use these comments to now create another discourse online of who's tougher, gay man or straight man. And now it is gay man and straight man arguing with each other, going back and forth about right bad. We're not doing that. It's not getting that far. You cut that off right there at the root. You was Wrong as hell, Dr. Heavenly. What you said was inaccurate. That is how you feel, and we see you for exactly who you are on that issue. Now, I'm not going to conflate it with her behavior on the show and. And what I feel about how she exists on that show, because the two have nothing to do with each other. I'm not lumping nothing together. What I'm saying is I see her for exactly who she is when it comes to the way that she sees me. I see it and I understand it now. And I think that it's a very antiquated view. I think that it is very out of touch with reality. I think that it's just false. Okay? Gay men are not, as a record label, staff and crew, weak and. And feeble and afraid of physical conflict and physical violence. We are not. And that's all that needs to be said. I don't. We don't have to prove nothing to her because Dr. Heavenly is old. She won't. She won't even.

[A]

But she's also a mean girl. Like, let's be real here. We find that funny because of her laugh, laugh. And sometimes the mean people, it's easy to find them funny. But when you really look at it, she is a cruel person. Things that come out her mouth, the way that she treats her friendships, I find her funny, yes. But I also can step back and be like, she is extremely horrible on that show. Like you said, she's apologizing every other episode for something that she said or done repeatedly. And it's never a thing of, like, oh, you know, that came out the. The wrong way. It's like. No, it's very much what she says very directly. But then she kind of has to, like, walk it back because this is a career. You know what I mean? It's that type of. And I just don't get it.

[B]

I don't even think she walks it back because of the career. I went. Just because it's so disingenuous. Like, let me actually not get into another reason why her Attention is a different type of bad. What I will say, I. Because I was going to say earlier, I'm not trying to cape for Heavenly. I do want to continue the trend of leave the kids out of it. You know, Heavenly is still, you know, it's still a two parent household where they are both successful and they are raising kids and they're trying to do the best they can for their kids. Now their views are not always going to be, you know, we know people growing up where we're like, damn, this is, you know, this old head is wrong. As you know, some of these kids, they know and can look at their parents and know that their parents are terrible or trash or wrong too. They have to live with them and look at at them every day, but also be thankful that they are given a roof. So please leave the children out of it.

[A]

Oh, they're being brought in online.

[B]

Yes.

[C]

Look at, look at what I just sent you and don't say a word. Look at what I just sent the group message. Don't show it to the screen, just read it. I want to just read it.

[A]

Oh.

[B]

I've already seen that.

[A]

Oh my God. No, the last four words and the.

[C]

The punctuation mark at the end.

[A]

The last four words.

[C]

Okay, so that being said now. Wow, we got time for one more story and I'm. But I'm gonna run through two. Okay. Because they just, they both have to be done really quickly. Did y' all see Jermaine Dupree's comments about the Rolling Stone article and the Michael Jackson record in R B music? Okay, long story short, Rolling Stone released an article and the title of the article was 50 terrible songs that are On Great Albums. Right?

[B]

What the.

[C]

And we put in the handle. We putting it. You see this right here? That's a handle. And we finna put a handle on this because I want to know, I want y' all to know who wrote it. There was a writer named Andy Green. G, R, E, E, N E. You know them people with the E at the end, the green, you. Anyway, he wrote this article and said if Michael Jackson had just capped off Thriller with track eight instead of track nine, he would have created one of the most flawless works in music history. But for reasons that are hard to fathom, he tacked the lady in My Life onto the end. Now you know I love the lady in My Life by Michael Jackson. So I'm already like, what the you trying to say? I'll continue, he said. And it wasn't an easy process. Quote, Quincy wasn't satisfied with my work. This is what he's Michael J. Jackson was reported as saying about that song. Quincy wasn't satisfied with my work on that song, even after literally dozens of takes. Finally he took me aside late one session and told me he wanted me to beg. That's what he said. He wanted me to go back into the studio and literally beg for it. So I went back in and had them turn off the studio lights and close the curtain between the studio and the control room so I wouldn't feel self conscious. Michael did this is goes back to what Andy Green wrote. He said he did deliver a strong vocal, but it's in service of a song that has no business on the same album as Billie Jean, Beat It, Human Nature, Thriller, and want to be starting Something. Now, I know your last name is Green, but you have got to be white because everybody that I know, everybody that I know loves the lady in my life. By my that's one of the most beautiful. It's perfect. So Jermaine Dupree, okay, he chimed in on Twitter and he said the first word being like of his tweet is crazy because he was wrong. He wrote like this is the reason R B music. That's what the wrote. That's what he wrote. His legs were swinging. He was sitting at a dining room table. Little white socks and then bobby socks and penny loafers don't do JD like that. Yeah. And he was swinging. He said like this is the reason RB music no longer gets the love that it's supposed to. The Grammys don't televise the categories. And then one of our longest lasting music publications, Rolling Stone print some like this. Who whoever Eva, whoever wrote this needs to be. Needs to be thrown out the building like Eddie Murphy and Beverly Hills. That's what Jermaine Dupree said. Now what are y' all thinking about? Obviously this is a journalist who he must he did his research because he quoted Michael Jackson talking about this Thriller, studio sessions and the creative process behind lady in My Life. So you've done some sort of research on this. Why don't you understand? And why aren't you able to interpret as a music journalist the value of lady in my life on this album? To me, that translates as someone who is unqualified. What do y' all think about these music journalists being unqualified but still speaking on and coming to determination so harsh like this saying the song has no place on that album, it don't belong and all of that. Like just panning the song that Means so much to people like us. What do y' all think about that shit? What y' all got to say about this? Andy Green?

[A]

I think it's weird that one person gets to decide. You know what I mean? Like, that's the part that's throwing me off. This is his literal opinion, and he has the right to have it. But this should be a blog post.

[C]

He do have the right, but he wrong.

[A]

It can't be a definitive list because you are one person. And culturally, I'm assuming this is a white man. You know, like, he's not. He's not privy to the impact that certain songs are gonna happen.

[C]

He can't even skate backwards. That's a song. Everybody know when they come on at the skating rink, you go backwards. Everybody knows that. So you know what I'm saying? I'm pissed the off. How you feel, Asante.

[B]

I mean, he had to meet a deadline and he had to put a bunch of stuff in there. Maybe he was AI. I don't know. Like, this is. Again, this is an op Ed. Like he. Some people. People don't always get it right. Like. And I just feel like they don't.

[C]

And that goes into my next point. Then we're gonna go to the very last story they talked about. First of all, rest in peace. To the legend and icon Roberta Flack.

[A]

Rest in peace. What a life.

[C]

Much to music. Right? Right. She was teaching and. And. And teaching them students and went on to sing and see fame and wrote some of the most beautiful songs ever. Sang some of the most beautiful songs of all. Of all time. And these are songs that cross every line that existed. These songs cross the lines of genre across the. Everyone loved these songs. Right? They crossed those lines. Well, they were discussing it on the Breakfast Club. Shout out to Lauren LaRosa. I worked with her yesterday. Had a great experience. I love. I've all told you I love her on that show. It translates. She's the newest. Yeah.

[A]

Okay. Yeah.

[C]

She filled in while Just Hilarious was out, but now she's. She's still appearing on the show. And thank God for that because she adds so much to the show. So they were talking about it and Just Hilarious said that she didn't know that Killing Me Softly was Roberta Flack song. She only thought it was the Fugees. And I tried hard not to judge that. But it's such a classic song that people. I know that that's a Roberta Flack song that the Fugees remade. I just know that I don't think everybody should know that. But I think everybody should know that. Especially if. Especially if you sit in your ass on the Breakfast Club every day talking about everything else. Why the. Jess, hilarious is one of the blackest people I've ever seen in my life. You know what I'm saying? She's a black person. And black people know about Roberta Flack. They know about that. They know about Pebo Bryson. They know about that. Well, I'm assuming she's from Baltimore and she's just hilarious.

[A]

Everyone's family was a music family.

[C]

What was her mama listening to?

[A]

I know people that people had broken.

[B]

Families, you know what I'm saying?

[A]

But not even that. But it's more so like, not everyone's mom was playing records or talking to them about music. I know some people that don't know shit about music beyond what they're listening to now on Spotify. Like, they don't have that. Our parents.

[C]

Me, too. But just talking about gay people. So I want to be mean, not.

[A]

You having an ulterior motive.

[B]

We got to the root early.

[A]

And on that note, let's move on.

[C]

To the next story. Unless y' all got some mean to say, too. Okay, okay. Well, let's just go on down the street now. The final story that I have. That was funny. The final story I have. Shout out to Joy Reid now. Joy Reid.

[A]

Oh, I heard about her show.

[C]

Joy Reid has had some ups and downs in the media. Said some things I've agreed with, said some things I've disagreed with. But the one thing that her and I can agree on is the fact that there's a place for her in the media landscape. She's a qualified, talented, brilliant journalist, brilliant political commentator, and we need her now more than ever. We also know that once this new administration took office, there's. The media world has been turned on its head, essentially. Right. There's been threats of retaliation of some sort. If you're critical of President Trump and his, you know, his. There's been. All that kind of stuff is going on, and we've actually seen people losing their jobs in media who have been notoriously, publicly critical of Donald Trump and his cronies. So Joy Reid show, the readout, which he's hosted for five years on msnbc, aired his final episode yesterday. Right. People have been very upset about this show being canceled. It's being replaced by a panel show with Simone Sanders and Michael Steele and a couple other people or whatever. And, you know, that's just what it is, Right? And there's a couple other shows that are being canceled and removed from the discontinued on msnbc. Rachel Maddow was very publicly upfront and critical of this and she called it for what it was. She said, we have two non white hosts on the network and both of I find it problematic. She said it indefensible that those are the two programs that are being discontinued. She's like, I won't defend it and it is what it is. It's racism. Rachel mad. I'll stand on.

[A]

I thought you were gonna say Rachel mad. I was canceled. I was like, oh, oh, no, honey.

[C]

She still can buy a new pair of tiva sandals. She still got a Tiva sandal budget.

[A]

Anyway, she don't play. Damn.

[C]

So that happened. And of course, people who. People who. And just to be clear, the new show that is going to be anchoring in Joy Reid's former 7pm slot is going to be. It's going to be hosted by Simone Sanders Townsend, Michael Steele and Alicia Menendez. Okay, so that's coming.

[A]

Oh, Alicia.

[C]

And so Menendez. Joy Reed. Right. Shout out to her. Joy Reading.

[A]

What happens when you get put on a show that you're replacing someone? Like, I don't. That's a tough.

[C]

The audience might hate you, thankfully, but.

[A]

Even outside of the audience, it's more so like how I. Like, how would I feel? You know what I mean, doing that to somebody. I almost feel like I wouldn't be able to take it. I'm not gonna lie to you.

[C]

You could walk it. Well, that's the beauty of, you know, how this game goes. But now we're talking about millions and millions of dollars at stake and it's.

[A]

No, I get it. This is prime time. Yeah. So it's a big, big decision. Holy.

[C]

So that happened. Joy Reid, people rallied around her. She had a huge outpouring of support yesterday when the last show aired. She stood on business in her show and was very much, this is what was going on. This is what we need to do to resist. It was just what people needed and she had her held up. Held up high. We know Joy Reed will go on to find success in non traditional media for sure. So, you know, she'll do her thing. Well, of course, Megan Kelly's. Oh, God, her boy band face ass. You know what I'm saying? She of course has something to say because she's long been critical of anything that's not white. And so she hated Joy Reid. So she, Megan Kelly posted on Twitter that Joy Reid was the absolute worst person on television. And she said, she said, remember when Joy Reid laughingly mocked white women tears as pathetic and offensive to her. Who's crying now, Joy? And she said she blasted NBC for letting it go on this long. Now we know that Megan Kelly, she co hosted her. She hosted her own show on NBC from 2017 to 2018, and she was actually fired from her show for controversy and doing and saying things that she shouldn't do and say. So now she's going rogue and just saying how she feels. Well, guess who else is. Don Lemon. Because he tore her ass up for saying what she said. Don Lemon. Okay, look, I'm with him when he. Right, I'm with him when he write.

[B]

Okay, when he write.

[C]

Don Lemon said he got online. He said, this is the quote. Let me just say to Megyn Kelly on my. On. Let me just say to Megyn Kelly, on my 30 something years as a journalist and on my 50 plus years as a person of color, go fuck yourself. And that's when Don Lemon said. Okay, is there to say that's what Don Lemon said. And that was a reference to remarks that Megan Kelly had made towards Joe Scarborough and Micah Bri after the two of them visited President Trump and Mar? A Lago shortly after his visit, after his victory or whatever. And so Don Lemon said, you know, you remember I told you Megan Kelly, who looks like somebody slammed her face in a book. She said that that Joy Reid was the worst person on television. So Don Lemon said that she was the worst person on television. He said the first. He said the worst person on television was fired from NBC and the Today show a few years ago. And that's Megyn Kelly. He said that's the worst person who's not on television anymore.

[B]

It's you.

[C]

He said. So hurrah for that. NBC did something good with that. Yeah.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

Give it to Don Lemon. Yeah.

[A]

Lord Jesus.

[C]

So that's it this week, y'. All. It was just a couple things that needed to be brought to our awareness, and I feel like they're there now. Thank you for listening. And we'll be kept abreast throughout the rest of our year through updates like this. So thank you.

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[A]

So this week in Wellness, I mentioned earlier in the show that y' all really stepped up for me in a way that I did not expect. And I should know. I mean, this is a global show. There are a lot of listeners from all walks of life. Of course, we have insurance adjusters listening to us who were very real with me and said, listen, at the end of the day, our job is to save the insurance that we're working for, to save them money, not you. But because this isn't their case, they were able to kind of bless me with some things that would be helpful and I really, really appreciated that. I'm actually not going to mention your names because I realized that that might not be helpful. So thank you. You know who you are, and if you do want me to mention your name, just reach out and let me know. But you know, we gotta look out for each other. But I want to thank y' all because a few of you reached out and the gems y' all shared were similar, but a lot of them were so helpful that I was actually able to use them in my investigation. And it was extremely helpful. Y' all know that I own the car. And when you're totaled out, one thing that the adjusters that hit me up that our listeners said is we're not paying you for the like the how much you owe on the car, right? That's not our concern whatsoever. Our concern is the value of the car in the market. Now that's the jig, right? Because it could have been something else when you bought it. You know, markets change and we already know cars are depreciating assets. So I wasn't necessarily expecting to get it on the dime, but I was just prayerful because the adjuster, when he came, even said that sometimes people get more than what they have left, and you end up using that money to put towards your new car. But that is not what happened for me. I ended up owing on it. By the grace of God, I will say, in comparison to some of the amounts a lot of y' all have hit me saying you ended up owing. It wasn't that much, I'd say. What would you say? It was like, 98% of my amount was covered. But I was like, even if it's only 2%, I shouldn't be coming out of pocket.

[C]

This is my fault.

[A]

So the adjusted listeners and even those of you who had been through this were like, do you have GAP Insurance? Do you have GAP insurance? This is what's so crazy. I never heard of GAP Insurance. No one had talked to me about it. I don't remember it. When y' all were saying it, it was actually angering me. Not because y' all were saying it, but just the fact that you have to have a double insurance. Like, if I'm paying this money every month, hundreds of dollars for my insurance, why would I not assume that that's going to cover all of my needs? Like. And then as you really get into this insurance game, you realize that you need an insurance for every goddamn thing. And your initial insurance, for real. And because, like I mentioned, I'm paying for that rental feature where if you get into an accident or your car is stolen or totaled, you can get a rental with their partners while the investigation is going on. So you're good. Literally, they gave you the rental for less than a week. Here's why I got blessed and why it's so good to just be good to people. Not in a transactional way, but just as a way of life. The girl from the rental place was me. Her had clicked. Like, we just had good energy. She remembered me from when I had rented when we first came here and didn't have a car. And we just clicked. We just had, like, a fun, playful connection.

[C]

Yeah.

[A]

And when I came to get the car, me and her were talking about what happened. I was showing the video. Like, we just had that thing, you know, Sometimes you just have that thing.

[B]

With people, Frank, you know, I know.

[C]

That thing, you know?

[A]

You know? You know that thing. So she hit me and said, I hate this, but, you know, your insurance hit us and said that we gotta take the car back. Like, you gotta bring it back already. She's like, this sucks because I know what you're going through and you're not done. So you know what they did? They extended it for me. And they're gonna eat the cost.

[C]

Wow.

[A]

Not the insurance rental place, which is. Which would never happen.

[B]

Like, I mean, never happens.

[C]

Damn, friend. Blessings.

[A]

Here's. That's blessing number one. I'm so, so, so, so grateful to her because.

[C]

Wow.

[A]

Because. Wow. Then blessing number two. My partner is at his church. They have a men's group that meets on the weekends. He's talking to them because, you know, they catch up on, like, things they're experiencing. They do prayer. He's telling them. One of the older men at the men's group has done really well for himself. And he tells them, yo, I have so many cars that are just sitting. If you let me give you one for now, so that you can use it until you guys get your next. Get your next vehicle. So you don't have to be paying for a rental for God knows how long. And you don't have to feel rushed to get a new car either because of the money. That's, you know. And so it's funny because it's a F150 and we're watching Yellowstone.

[C]

Yeah. Yeah.

[A]

Like, this is so.

[C]

Yes, yes.

[A]

Also funny for me because I'm like, not me driving a F1.

[C]

How do you like that? How do you like that full size pickup, friend?

[A]

It's a different feeling. I have to, like, jump up.

[C]

It's fun.

[B]

I love it.

[A]

Huge, massive wheels. It's cool, though. It's his landscaping car for a business. So it's real rugged and, like, it's. What. It's funny. I just was so grateful, you know what I mean? We went yesterday to pick it up, and he said, don't even trip about it. Don't worry. Drive it as far as you need it. So, like, we were covered with the rental. Didn't have to come out of pocket. We're now covered with a car that we were lent. Not going to have to come out of pocket throughout the month. And then what I told y' all right before we record or while we were recording, the people from the dealership hit me and say, you do have Gap insurance.

[C]

Thank you, Lord.

[A]

When they were scanning my. Because I asked them to scan my invoices for, you know, to go towards the. The final payment. I was like, some things count. You know, I need all that included. Can you scan the invoices they're sending me? The guy and I once again, have a really cool relationship. Him and my partner actually really, like, they play Golf like they clicked, clicked, which helps when you connect with people outside of what they can do for you, then they treat you differently. Because he wasn't doing nothing for us. We just clicked and they would ha out and he just text us and was like, y' all have gap insurance? Like, I don't know. Y' all didn't know that? I'm like, I don't know how I didn't know that. I never heard of it. I don't remember. Apparently it's like a one time payment that we did. I don't even know.

[B]

You just said yes to cover your bases.

[A]

Thank you, God.

[C]

Thank.

[A]

So that's gonna come. And for those who are unaware. So apparently gap insurance, if your car stolen or totaled or damaged it pays the gap.

[C]

Essentially the difference between the difference right.

[A]

Between the payout and what's left so that you are not underwater in any way or upside down, as they say. So that made me want to cry. Yes, friend, because now that means that amount that we were sitting there like, what the fuck? Even though it wasn't exorbitant, but it was something that we shouldn't be paying, we felt because we had no fault in this whatsoever. But of course insurance don't give a. So that's covered. Shockingly.

[B]

You know what, friend? You mentioned some very key pieces in there and I just want to touch on you having those small interactions with those people, building your ecosystem without even trying to like, like, I mean, friend, you were going through something that you're in a city that you are not from. You have.

[A]

I don't have no friends.

[B]

But just having a conversation and you were probably, you know, just as present that first time you're at the rental spot. That's why the girl remembered you and was like, oh, like, that's why you were able to do that. You know what I'm saying? That makes me think of. I just saw on Twitter and I wish I had the reference and I don't. I'm sorry, but there was a young lady who was talking about how she has gotten every job she's ever applied for, interviewed for. Because basically whenever she would have an interview, she. It wasn't an interview. She said the five minutes before the interview I would always, you know, make small talk or whatever with them. And then from there it's like, oh, we were just two people hanging out and I would pretty much always land a job. So it's not that. I mean, this is a tool. Yes. But at the same time, it's just a life skill and just that being present. There's just something about whenever you're having interactions with people and there's a genuine. Because you're going through something so heinous, you didn't use that time to abuse others. You know what I'm saying? People willingly came to you and was like, yo, like I've been through, like they were able to relate to you and help you. And look, you covered your. And luckily something crazy happened to you. It happened to you now for you. But luckily you already had yourself covered. Even when you were in a situation where you didn't know what to do.

[A]

I probably didn't even know.

[B]

Again, look at you, queen, having your self covered. Like having your backside future self covered.

[A]

And I just felt so, you know, you feel like such a child sometimes because you feel very grown adult things that you're like, I didn't know about that and why didn't I know about that? And then you feel dumb and you're like, you feel like they were sponsored.

[C]

You ain't dumb.

[A]

But I didn't. Well, apparently not.

[B]

You ain't done, right? Like, look how smart you are. Actually.

[A]

Yeah. Like I just felt like, damn, how did I not know about Gap Insurance? And it's still kind of blowing my mind because I'm like, how the. I don't remember having that conversation. I really don't.

[B]

But God, I'm telling you, friend, I know the type of person you are. And that was one of the boxes.

[C]

Yeah.

[A]

You know, I probably was like, I needed to have all the, the bells and whistles that will keep me safe on the road.

[B]

Whoever was doing they were like, you need this and you was like done like you probably didn't even have the conversation because we talked about the Apple Store, how you one of those that, oh yeah, give me everything on the.

[A]

Thing, all the protection for once this really worked out. And one of the tips too, because I know there might be people going through this or God forbid, people that will go through this. Two of the tips I should say that the adjusters gave me is that when you, when the adjuster is deciding the amount of to pay you out, make sure you also include your maintenance costs, which is something I didn't know. Like they were like your maintenance cost. Any money that you put into that car goes toward the, goes towards that because that means you were keeping the car afloat basically for the market value as well as any add ons like customizations. And that's something I didn't know. Yeah. So that's something that I didn't know. Of course, the adjuster wasn't to going go tell me that. But the listeners of the show were able to. To bless me with that. So, of course, I had to let y' all know because that in itself closed the gap for me. You know, like, we had tents, we had gotten, like, a chrome finish so that when we wash the car, it just kind of slides right off with more ease, and it makes the car look shiny, you know, for, like, five years. Obviously, the customizations that I had done, like, blacking it out, like, you know, like, things with the rims and tires, all that combined all the shit I did to make it look super cute, like, yeah. Ended up working on my behalf because that went towards. It went to close the gap. And I didn't know that, and I didn't know that until y' all reached out to me with your DMs and your messages. And so when I. Man, let me tell you, when I circled back with the adjustments, Buster. Oh, lo and behold, he was like, oh, yeah, send me all of that. Really? So you just were not going to tell me that? When he saw me damn near in tears at the amount that we had, we were gonna have to pay, I just didn't like, how does he not think. But then I have to remember, he's not working for you. He is working for the insurance.

[B]

So now you know that. Oh, yeah, man. Like, oh, yeah, now you're closing my bottom line.

[A]

And it was really overwhelming because, you know, I'm going back and forth with him. I'm going back and forth with the dealer about the car. Then there's this company that's blowing me the up because I guess they're the ones that come to get the car. So, like, the insurance and they're calling me every day. And the girl was so cool, too. I can't even lie. Of course, we got into a combo because I was like, yo, you're blowing me up. And she started. I said, I'm so damn stressed, girl. And you called me every single day, and I don't want you to take the car because I don't know what's happening, and I need the car to be here. And she just started laughing. She was like, listen, I understand. I don't want you to feel this way. My job is to call you every day. I'm not going to call you for at least a week. You know, like, she was like, I'm going to let you breathe. Because it was a lot. It's almost like they. They like, overstimulate you on purpose so you can make shitty decisions and maybe sign off quickly. Like, them taking the rental now, the people to get the car. And I had to think about it too. Like, wait, there's customizations that I need to get off the car, but if they come get it, I won't have access, right? Like, you know the little lights on your door, when you open the door, it has the emblem of the car. Like, all those little things, I want my shit.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

My partner yesterday was with his screwdriver taking shit off the car. And those are things I wouldn't have known you need to do because, like, they try to make you rap. Wrapped this shit up so quick. And I'm like, but that's our stuff. We paid for that, you know? And like, God, it's just like. Like, people, like, I just kept saying, let me breathe. Like, I have to think, I have to think. We have to think. And then on top of that, we had taxes in the middle of taxes. So here's my tax, my accountant hitting me and be like, hey, friend, checking in. I was just like, I wanted to cry. It was too many people hitting me up for needing really important things. And so my weekend was horrible. But then at the same time, look at all these beautiful silver linings.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

And this, it ties into that community conversation, right? Like, and these aren't even people I know like, that, you know, but because I just showed them general human kindness, respect. And I am one of those people that it don't matter who it is, like, I'm gonna be present. Like, Asante just said, I'll talk to you. There's always a respect. Honestly, we be joking. Like, that's just my personality. And it really just blessed me deeply because we could have been upside down in a way that I wasn't anticipating or even ever ready for, because who the fuck wants to deal with this because of someone else's shit? And so on last week's convo, when I was asking, like, why does God do this? Why does God do this? I still don't love this lesson.

[B]

Right?

[A]

It felt like a massive rug pull that I just was like, whoa. But what it did bring to my awareness was, like, how loved and supported. And even in a new city where I do sort of feel like I don't really have community here, I don't really have friends, which is a lot of my fault, because I also haven't put in the effort. For real. You're still in the blood. I'm still covered. Yeah.

[B]

Yes. Friend.

[A]

The old man, though, that lent us his whip. Like, he's so good. So cool. And he's like this older cool ass man that played basketball in college. And you could tell, like, he's had, like, he had on like, a Nike tech suit.

[B]

Is he looking out, too?

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Looking at y' all like, damn, these cool ass folks.

[A]

Yeah. And he was like, yeah, I don't want y' all to be upside down, you know? Like, he was like, that ain't right. Like, he was just so cool. Gave us the keys to his car and said, just whenever y' all are done, this says the car don't even use, so don't even worry about overstaying nothing. Like, do what you got to do until y' all are good.

[C]

Damn.

[A]

And I'm just like, real.

[C]

He was for that.

[A]

No, like, for real. And that's all because my partner has this men's group that he's connected with. You know what I mean?

[C]

So it's like, thank God for you all making those strides to kind of. To kind of form and develop a social circle in a city where you don't know anybody. Thank God your partner was unafraid to join that church and join the group.

[A]

Right? I'm really connecting with these men in a beautiful way. And just the way that they have, like, lifted us and even their prayers, like, I feel it. I feel like that's a big part of why we're getting through this with such ease, you know? That's my favorite word. And I cried out all that I needed to cry. And then now I sort of feel like I just feel very wrapped, you know? Like, it's like, yes. Feel the feelings of, like, how up this is. I was angry at her. I was, like, ready to go to her job. And then I was like, let me feel all of this and kind of, like, let it pass and then move on to the next phase, which is now people are showing up for us and showing us, yes, they're fucked up people going through shit, but there's also, like, people left.

[C]

Yeah, yeah.

[A]

That are here for you. And that was a great reminder, because it's easy to get.

[B]

You about to make me cry, friends.

[A]

It's easy to get stuck on the fucked up people because it's such an impact, you know? But then I'm grateful for the reminder of the good, too. And that is the. The light. That's a paradox, right? It's like you're gonna get the good and the bad, and you just gotta, like, flow through with all of it as it comes. And I'm just. I had to put that out there. Not only the tips from the adjusters, because I do think that's extremely useful if anyone needs that, but also just the life lessons that are like, rolling in for me with this weird ass month that I have had.

[B]

The way you wrapped up that little part with the. At the end, like, like everything. Fire, friend. May God continue to deeply bless you, friend, because you're one of the most. Both. All of us. I was about to say both of y' all are two of the most beautiful people I've know. I know you know what I'm saying. So when I think about.

[C]

I get that. Thank you. You.

[B]

Only from the waist down, apparently.

[C]

But.

[B]

I will not have anyone old twerking at your funeral. Nothing. I'm sorry. I will be the one like. Sorry, you're gonna have to. To sit down. I just think that it's dope, friend. Because I'm in a new city and it's hard for me right now to feel like I'm in a position to want to embark on anything social. I just want to be like a. Out. Like I'm resetting my. Like, being as a human. I know at my core that I'm a good person. I still treat people well. So that does come with that. But when I was outside the other night, because the fire. I told you it was like one, one something, two something in the morning. I only had one person I could really call. And luckily they were. Luckily they were in walking distance sense. But, you know, I know she picked up. Well, she didn't, so. Well, so look, she didn't pick up because I didn't call because, you know, I'm that friend. I don't like to call unless things get serious. So if the building was. Actually, I didn't call, but her friend, who I'm cool with, had texted me because they live in the same building. She was like, as you or her called me. She. Her friend called me because. So they live in the same building.

[C]

As you or as a fire.

[A]

As each other.

[B]

As each other.

[C]

Oh, her and the friend.

[B]

Yes, I have. The fire was. The fire was at my building. Her and her friend, they. That their building is in with walking distance. Everything. Literally a stone's throw. So she heard the alarm from my building. That's how loud it was. So she texted me and she was like, just checking to see if everything's okay. Like, hit me if you need anything. Like being really active at 2, some, 3 some in the morning. And I was just like, lord, because I literally was standing outside. I was so thankful just for that one. That one person reaching out in that moment where I was like, I have one person. I felt like Tyra Banks, one phone call. And like, I was like, I didn't want to make it because, you know, I know she had to work in the morning. I didn't want to stress her out. But the fact that someone was active and had me on their mind, a newer person, and it could have been about anything, you know what I'm saying?

[A]

And enough to reach out because we could think about someone and reach out.

[B]

And extend their services because, you know, they still, like, heard the alarm, seeing some of the smoke. Like, you know, if you need anything, let me know. I gotta. And I've been to their space and I would have been like, yes, girl, I need to come over, but I have to do that. But yes, just everything that you're saying, friend, is so important and it's so amazing. And I'm not trying to just light you up just because you're talking. But it was so beautiful at the end when you said that the life lessons were also part of it, outside of the adjustment, the insurance adjustments, because again, you're prepared from every angle, even you're insulated. You don't even see it, you don't even understand it sometimes. And maybe sometimes things have to happen, happen for you to realize that maybe they are to prepare us for other things because this was a situation with your car, heaven forbid anything else happened. But this might be a signal for somebody else in a different situation. They need to be looking at insurance for a house or something like that. You know, the way we've been talking about parable and all of those things happening, you're just giving us other ways or you're providing us other ways to look at helping ourselves. And I appreciate you for that deeply, friend.

[A]

Thank you. And I. And a lot of people did reach out saying, like, yo, I'm in the process of like, the same, the same. And so to hear someone else talking about it just provided some kind of relief in some capacity where they're like, maybe they're going to be able to gleam something from it through our conversations, you know? And yeah, we never want the lessons to be hard, but if something comes of it, then, I mean, I guess it is what it is. And I did, because you mentioned neighbors. I did want to shout out my neighbor, we've had a strange little relationship. But I will give it to her. She's the one that immediately sent me the video as it was happening so I could give it to the cops. She also reached out to me after and was really apologetic and said that she has been kind of hitting herself in the head at the fact that, like, knowing where black people dealing with cops and the situation, she said she should have gone outside. And she was like, I've been trying not to beat myself up. Up, but I should have gone out there. I should have made sure, you know, as a white woman, that was moving.

[B]

The way she should have.

[A]

Was moving. Yeah. And she was like, and I should have. And I just want to apologize to you that all I did was send you the video and then kind of stay in my, like, cave, you know, like, away from it. But she did also tell me that she spoke to a cop friend of hers. I'm like, you know, white women go. White women, okay. And told them about the protocols that were not followed. And she put in for an independent review. I mean, she, like, has been going ham in her own right. And I said to her, glad that you're doing that, because you should be doing that. Like, because if we do that, it'll have different ramifications. But you were there. You witnessed it. You have the video of the whole interaction. She can do with that when she needs to go ahead and push that to the full extent.

[C]

Hell, yeah.

[A]

Yeah. Like, that's literally your job. And the irony. We had had this convo in an episode a couple weeks back about white people stepping up. We talked about this.

[B]

It's Black History Month. Y' all better do more. These are the times where y'.

[C]

All.

[A]

Yes. So when she told me she was doing that shout out to her. Yeah. It made me laugh a little because I was like, okay. But at the same time, I was like, do what you got to do. You know what I'm saying? And even her feeling this, the need to step in in that capacity, you know, so just had to put that out there because, Lord, this has been a doozy. But at the same time, it's been a lot of beautiful things that are.

[B]

Thank you for sharing, friend.

[A]

Thank you for listening. And I hope that helped somebody out there that is in a similar frequency and is trying to just, like, figure out. And I ain't even there.

[B]

And I felt it.

[A]

It. That's it for this week in Wellness.

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September 5th.

[B]

This Week in music, we are talking about just a couple of things. The first thing I want to talk about is have you ever heard of a group called blackpink Pink?

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

Right?

[B]

Yes. K pop. Korean pop. Shout out to blackpink. There a black blackpink.

[C]

Whoa.

[B]

I don't know what I thought I said or what I did say, but blackpink is what I'm trying to say. They're a Korean girl group. K pop girl group. Girl groups historically go solo, do individual projects. Blackpink is one of those groups where a couple of girls have given us solo offerings. As of now, they have solo projects coming. There are four members in blackpink right now. I don't know how many. There always are, but there's Lisa.

[A]

That seems low.

[B]

It does seem low, but it does seem familiar. Like, I remember seeing blackpink perform at coachella, and I think there were only four of them.

[A]

Oh, Lisa's from black.

[B]

Lisa is from blackpink.

[C]

So she's everywhere right now.

[A]

I mean, she's getting the treatment. You already know the Beyonce treatment.

[B]

Well, Lisa and Jenny are getting the treatment. And I want to just talk about those two young ladies as of today. There's also.

[C]

There's one of them on the white lotus.

[B]

I don't know. One of those.

[C]

One of those girls on the white lotus is from. All jokes aside, I know y' all think I'll be playing, but one of them girls on the white lotus. The new season is from.

[A]

From a k pop group.

[C]

Yeah, from one of them groups or whatever. It's our first time, like, acting.

[B]

I mean, that. That could track. You know, that's not.

[A]

Oh, wait. And. And I remember one of them was on the COVID of, like, what's it when they put all the actors in, like, vanity fair and people were angry because they felt like. Yeah, like, she hasn't been acting that long. And they felt like that was a favor because apparently she's dating, like, some rich person's son. I don't know.

[B]

Oh, wow.

[A]

So I feel like it was Jenny or maybe Lisa.

[B]

No. So it is Lisa.

[C]

Lisa is on the show.

[B]

Lisa makes her acting debut on the third season of HBO's the White Lotus.

[A]

I still haven't caught up, so.

[C]

And that's for all you hoes that thought I was finna talk.

[B]

I am.

[A]

Count me in that number.

[B]

Hey, it's a whole lot of. Is it a whole lot of club? I'm over here on my.

[C]

Natalie.

[B]

Well, the two young women have been giving us musical offerings. The two young women being Lisa and Jenny. From their solo debuts, their solo projects to becoming. I don't know if they're debuts, but I'm assuming that they're debuts because they've been in this group this long and now they're giving us solo offerings. So, yes, Lisa gave us a single two weeks ago called born again featuring Doja Cat and Ray.

[A]

Oh, oh, oh.

[B]

You heard about this friend?

[A]

Oh, what?

[B]

There's a video and everything?

[A]

Yes, I missed that.

[B]

Yes. Lisa has given us a visual and now Jenny, as of a couple of days ago, has given us a visual. She has a song with dochi out called extra. So I just wanted to mention that the K pop girls are linking up with the American girls of color and they are not playing because both visual offerings are. I mean, they're both amazing. One thing, one thing I've always loved about music videos and just the way that people show themselves. I've always loved playing with that. Whether it be through fashion, whether it be through choreography, whether it be through, you know, CGI or technology and whatnot. The way that the K pop girls showcase their fashion and choreography and just their creative lenses and how they produce things has always been interesting to me. And I've always been a fan. So I love the fact that there's this like push right now with the girls working with, you know, the girls that I with, you know, who Lisa gotta work with, who she gotta work with.

[A]

I'm scared ass.

[C]

Lisa, Lisa.

[B]

I'm glad he was still mid swallow when he said that.

[C]

And her and Lisa. Lisa need to do something together. Lisa, Lisa, Lisa.

[B]

But which Lisa will be first?

[C]

That's one.

[A]

Me. That's three.

[C]

Lisa, Lisa, Lisa. They should do that. I think they should do it.

[B]

Lisa, Lisa, Lisa. Like, how would you. Okay. Anyway, so, yes, I just wanted to mention that the blackpink girls are going solo. We've often talked about girl groups and how I enjoy when they go solo and I also enjoy when they come back and work as group. I don't know if they're going to be come back work as a group because it's still early. I mean, you really. Why Would they? I know that they're successful outside of the music anyway, outside of the acting. That. Because again, they. Is her debut, I think Jenny or Lisa or maybe both. They have their own label or something like that. So. Yeah, so it's like the girls are really. They're gonna. They're gonna be fine. What do they name our label?

[C]

Listen, Lisa. Come on. Listen, Lisa. L. Kids. Yeah, that's dope.

[B]

Lalisa is her real name. Oh, yeah. In 2025, on the White Lisa.

[C]

Her daddy was at war. The war or something.

[B]

I'm giving you more ammo and I just need to cut it out.

[C]

No one is Black Pink got a black daddy. That's Lalisa.

[A]

I can't. When I first saw Lalisa, I was like, interesting. Where did that come from, girl?

[C]

Okay. Lovely Mimi. Is she on her. Lovely Mimi, Black Pink. Okay.

[B]

Anyway, Jenny, this is actually her third single that she released the song that she. The video that she has out with Dochi. The only reason, again, that these young women. No shade. The only reason that the blackpink girls are on my radar is because they have these features with Doja and Dochi, and that's why I paid attention and that's why I'm mentioning them. Dochi is the new hot it girl right now. She has been it for a while, if you've really been paying attention. We've been talking about her for some time now. Not gonna take any credit to her success. All her success is her own to, you know, have. And we love that for her. Another thing that we love for Dochi is just seeing her out now. And I want to just give her flowers because she's been gracious, she's been growing, and she's still very early in her career. So I feel like it's important to support artists, especially when they're doing positive things and they still haven't given us, you know, I. I don't feel like Dochi's given us, like, that full, like, final form of herself and. And she hasn't because it's still, again, super early. So when you try to pit artists against each other, it's super counterproductive. Whether you're a fan of the artist, them, or the other artists you're trying to pit them against, it's always going to be counterproductive. So I just ask for certain fan bases to stop, and I'm gonna just leave it there. Actually, I was going to start off really chaotic and toxic. I'm glad I landed this entire conversation right there. So that's all I'm gonna say for Music man segment, I feel like there was something else I want to talk about, but I feel like I talked for a long time. I just want to shout out Quavo too. Quavo has a visual out for his rapper Trapper song.

[C]

He sure do got a visual out. And I ain't talking about the video of the rapper Trapper. I don't know if you've been on the blogs.

[A]

I have not.

[B]

I have not. Dustin, please.

[A]

But I'm picking up what you're putting.

[B]

Down, Phyllis and Dustin, that's if.

[C]

He need to remake that Victoria Monet song. Cause I wanna know.

[B]

Is that it for your the report?

[A]

What did he say, mama?

[C]

I said, damn, Quavo. I. I didn't know. I thought I was on my Whitney Houston.

[B]

I didn't know. I didn't know.

[C]

I was unaware that he was doubled up like that. As soon as I seen him, all I heard was nipy double up. That's all I heard as soon as I heard him, man. Got to check the blogs for that.

[B]

Go ahead. I'm gonna Mitchell one more artist to cleanse the timeline and then to get to the songs playlists lately. If friend, if you want to get that ready. Last artist I would like to mention and I would like for you all to check out their visual and support this artist as well is Coco Jones. Coco Jones has a new single out called Taste. Taste samples Britney Spears Toxic. I'm going to be completely honest with you. Taste is a cute track. The visual is cute, but it's not for me.

[A]

She deserves more.

[B]

She does deserve more.

[A]

And I'm only being with that visual.

[C]

Talent.

[B]

I mean, we know that we're gonna support Coco Jones and so I want you all to go watch for yourself. Listen for yourself, because it might be a song for you. You might see the vision. I see the vision and I understand it. For me, I am also a Britney Spears fan. And it's not that I even take the sample part of it personally, but it's not a song that I'm going to revisit, especially in the, you know, sample culture that we live in today. It's not a track that I feel like I'm gonna need to revisit so.

[C]

Well, you know, I ain't like it, so you know what I'm saying? I with Coco Jones, I think she's so talented and beautiful and I think she's got all that she has. She is literally the total package. That's little triple threat.

[A]

There's nothing missing she can ask.

[C]

I thought it stunk on ice and. And the sample was the worst part. I thought if you take the sample out of it, it would actually be able to do something a little bit. Because she was hidden all her marks in the video with the choreography or the Jocelyn could have been used better.

[A]

I felt it's not a bad sample. I just think it wasn't.

[B]

I didn't like how it was done.

[C]

I think song's called Taste, and I thought it was nasty. Personally.

[B]

I just hate the fact that the production isn't. I mean, the, like, the beat itself, it. It didn't suck. But every time I heard the sample, I didn't like it. And I like again, I love Britney Spears and I love Toxic. Like, Toxic was a whole moment for me and my young, you know, gay childhood. And then.

[C]

Ain't nothing wrong with that.

[B]

Yeah, not at all. But I will say Black History, you.

[C]

Talk about it this month.

[B]

And what I will say is for Black History, I love that. That Coco Jones is a chocolate woman. The love interest. He was chocolate as hell. It was a great look. There were just a lot of opportunities, and I had a lot of notes, and I just didn't.

[C]

Well, ran some of them. What was some of your notes?

[B]

I. I've ran. I've ran a lot of them. I love the chocolate, you know, male interest. I just feel like some of the way that the video was done, I don't know if it could have been improvement of. Of like. Like little things. I'm gonna just talk about the little things because there are big things that could have. I could talk about, but there were little things that bothered me, like certain angles. But like when she was in that glass and then you saw the smudges on the mirror and stuff, and then on the floor, like little details like that will really, like, elevate and experience and then like some of the. Some of the angles when she was doing the choreo too, like, little things like that. But there were other things that. That were happening that I was really trying to, you know, be forgiving of. And so even some of those too. But again, I love Coco. Taste doesn't need to continue to be sampled or we don't need to keep sampling those types of songs. I don't know. But Coco Jones, I'm still gonna press play on whatever the next song is. I was rocking with you for Christmas on a project that was Christmas inspired, you know what I'm saying? Like, you brought me a little holiday sampler, and I was like, okay, Girl, I'm with you for 2025. So we're starting off a little rocky, and I hate to say I feel like I sound like one of those people, and I hate that, but I just did not, like, taste. And I'm still here for you. I'm still.

[C]

I don't feel no way about not liking it personally, because I love her, and that's right in question. I just don't like that song from her. There's Mary J. Blige songs that are not my favorite, you know what I'm saying? But she's my favorite. There's future songs that are not my favorite. Like, I didn't like a lot of the music on her latest project at Gratitude. I didn't like a lot of the music. I didn't like the singles. I felt like they were underwhelming. And I've seen her do a lot better. You know, I think she's looking better than she's ever looked. Shout out to her team. They got her. Right? You know what I'm saying? She's up. She's definitely up right now. But as far as the music, the production, I think she can do much better. Mary J. Blige is literally a vocal treasure as far as black music music overall is concerned. And when you sample, when you. Yeah, when these producers work with her and you know what I'm saying, that you should be able to hear the reverence that they have for her contribution to music with what they give her to work with. And these mundane, forgettable album filler tracks that are being, you know, positioned and released as singles. Just ain't it for me now, coming from a person who had first singles like Just Fine and Be without you, you know what I'm saying, and Reminisce Love no Limit, you know what I'm saying? Like, these are hits. Even some of the newer music I am, you know what I'm saying? Set Me Free and. And I'm thick of it, you know what I'm saying? Like, there's so many new songs, new songs in her later catalog that are worthy of the Queen. So I was underwhelmed. So I say that to say I don't feel no way about saying Coach Coco Jones new song stunk, you know what I'm saying?

[A]

And I always wonder when. If this is like, label mess, why can't I get the word out?

[C]

They could be mad meddling.

[A]

Jesus.

[C]

It could be, you know, when labels.

[A]

Start meddling, like, trying, oh, this is.

[B]

What you should do to be doing.

[A]

To have more global appeal when they.

[B]

Start to be sexier.

[A]

Yeah. It's like that can really you up as an artist if you don't stay in your ground. And I understand a lot of artists don't feel like they can because they're so early on still. And it's just. And I can kind of smell label all over this for sure.

[C]

And there's a way I'm. Now maybe I'm over speaking because I'm not an artist right. In that I'm not a musician, but I think there's a way to take what those people are trying to say about crossing over Dochi. To me, that's exactly what Dochi just did.

[A]

Yeah.

[C]

Like, Dolce's project is so the Alligator Bites Never Heal, which is a mixtape, not even an album that won best rap album at the Grammys. Okay. So, like.

[A]

But.

[C]

But her is such an original. People can try to say she sounds like Nicki Minaj all they want or whatever, but that's an original concept album. Not album, but mixtape. That is cohesive, sonically. That feels fresh and new and original. And it got the attention of everyone. And now here she is. There's a way to Mary J. Blige. Hell are we speaking about it? That's a person who has evolved into her final form. You know what I'm saying? But she stayed true to herself authentically when it comes to who the fuck she is. So I think there's a way to do it and. And just there's a way to do it at the same time.

[B]

Yeah, yeah, I hear you. I feel you, and I get you. And I agree with you. And that's it for the artist to mention, because I am trying really hard just not to mention artists that I don't. I don't want to mention. It's really hard because when we. I. I think about Dochi and just how cool her looks. And I remember early on, even I had some comparison thoughts to her and I was like, you know, she. Her sounds are kind of remind me of xyz, so I can see how that can.

[C]

I mean, to cut you.

[B]

Oh, no, no, not even.

[C]

I feel like, what's the problem? Why not even. Why do people make her having. Even if Dolce was influenced because the conversation. And people are saying that Dolce has adapted Nicki Minaj's style as a rapper, which I can understand based on some of the cadences that she raps in. But to me, that can apply to anybody that raps fast like that. And even if she was influenced by Nicki Minaj, who is literally one of the best rappers. Not even female rappers. Rappers of our time. Okay? What's wrong with being influenced by her, right? Why does that now de qualify her? Nullify her validity in some way if that were to even be true?

[A]

And most artists come from, like, a vocal tree, right, where you can hear who they were listening to. You can hear what they picked up, how they blended. You know what I mean? Like, that's. That's what happens when you get off.

[C]

Of her alligator bag music.

[B]

Unfortunately, Dochis had comparisons even to Azealia Banks earlier on, and now Nicki Minaj and yeah, and Doja. So it's like, yes, like, there's a sound or there are sounds and there are eras, and sometimes those errors and sounds reappear in different forms and fashions. But everybody's story is different. Everybody's story is unique. And I feel like Dochi's doing a great job of telling her story in different ways or cooler ways than we've seen in a long time in a while. And that's fresh and that's fun. And we should all be able to enjoy that by saying, like, oh, she gets to talk about drugs, but if she talked about them, she will be canceled. Okay, cool. She got to talk about drugs. Like, one thing about music, I feel like everyone's gonna pick and choose when they want to care about whatever it is they want to care about. It's hip hop. People are gonna talk about drugs. Some people don't want to talk about drugs and rapping. Some people want to be Christians, rappers, anyway. I digress. I just feel like it's important to just enjoy the music that you want to enjoy and not give light to the music that you don't enjoy if you don't want to enjoy it. Here me talking about Coco Jones, I didn't enjoy the song, but I still love her as an artist, and I enjoy her as an artist, and I want to see more offerings from her as an artist. I'm not going to sit up here and talk for 10, 15, 20 minutes about how I hate taste and talk about everything that was wrong with the video. X. No, I'm just going to talk about little light points because, you know, I do dislike you're trying to tear her down, but I don't want to tear her down. I don't want to compare and say she should do her stuff. Like these people. Like the blackpink Girls. Like, the blackpink Girls have been doing this for however long. I have to work however many hours they did in the studio to get to Coachella, and they've been able to be fruitful and now have their individual lanes and get these cool features that can give them even more country in the American market. Because that's how their business is working. That's what they're out here to do do. Dochi's just trying to rap because she wants to be a rapper and make money along the way and make cool visuals and make even doper songs. She's not trying to shut down the game and put out and xyz, she's a girl. Stop trying to do that for whoever your fave is unless that's what they're trying to do and you want to be that person. I can't help you. But I just want to support who I want to support and I urge you to do the same in a productive way. And that's it for that part again. And I'm so mad that I still ended up talking about what I didn't want to talk about or who I didn't want to talk about. But that's how annoying she is on my filters. And I don't understand how she's been getting around my filters. I miss the old Twitter. But that's it again, I'd like to get to listens lately so we can get up out of here or get to the next portion.

[C]

Friend.

[B]

What have you been listening to lately?

[A]

So this has been my mood today.

[B]

We're gonna play oh, I'm scared now. Oh, we gonna play.

[A]

Mob Deep Sugar Ones, Part 2.

[C]

Ain't no Such things. Word up, son.

[B]

This has been my move for the killers and the what? To all the killers and the hundred dollar billers.

[C]

You know that's one of my favorite songs of all time. Yes. Check it out.

[B]

When you what that be like, universe? It's like. It's like embedded.

[C]

Rock you in your.

[B]

Face stab your brain with your nose box. You all alone in these streets, cousin.

[C]

Every man for themselves in this land we begun it and keep them shook crews running like they supposed to they come around but they never come close to I can see it inside your.

[B]

Face sitting in the wrong place Cows.

[C]

Like you just get their whole body laced up.

[B]

Your simple words just don't move me you're minor we major you all up.

[C]

In the game and don't deserve to be a player don't make me have.

[B]

To call your name out we cool as featherweight My gunshots to make you.

[A]

Levitate I'm only 19 but my mind.

[C]

Is when the things get for real my warm heart turns cold enough going off like that.

[A]

That's where I've been.

[C]

You starting off with gospel music today. Inspirational.

[A]

I also been listening to Elevators by Outkast.

[B]

Wow.

[C]

I'm playing Outcast today, too.

[A]

Huh?

[B]

One for the money, yes, sir. Two for the show. A couple of years ago on Headland and the low. What's the starter? Something good where me and my ro. The through the hood Just trying to find that hookup now every day we looked up at the ceiling Watching ceiling fans go around Trying to catch that feeling I'm instrumental Had my pencil and plus my paper we caught the 86 we making the crowd move but we not making no GS and that way no which was the I'm playing that little rock to banging say, mother, mother that plaguing they pagan we staging Lancash done made it with them big boys up in this industry Outcast yeah, them, they making big noise Over a million so to this day, take it like the 96 gonna be that year that all y' all play guys.

[C]

Your mama and your cousin, all y' all hoes.

[A]

And then lastly, cell therapy Goody mob.

[B]

Wow.

[C]

Come on now Shout out to Damon Ross to force me to listen to all this I was a young boy like as the scene unfold I knew the whole song when I was little Come on.

[B]

In this new world alter.

[C]

Them experimenting in Atlanta, Georgia United nations overseas train assassins do search and seize Ain't knocking.

[B]

Like me Pull white trash like they tricks like us yeah.

[C]

Listen to me now believe me later on in the future High breaks hotel moments.

[B]

Tale until that tight bit still off Despair them say expect no mercy fool, you should be my least worries Got.

[C]

A deal with W2 1099 or more.

[A]

Black helicopter swoop down so these are my comfort zones.

[C]

If we don't get prepared, people, it's gonna be a slaughter My mind won't allow me to not be serious. That's my shit.

[A]

This one made me want to put on a shiesty and just drive.

[C]

You know what? You on timing right now.

[A]

That's what you are.

[C]

You on timing.

[A]

But we could, you know.

[B]

All right, we'll put the black forces away.

[A]

Okay, those are my three for this week.

[B]

Dustin Ross, what you got for the people?

[C]

I'm about to play an Outcast song, too. This was already on my list, so this just show how in sync.

[A]

That's crazy.

[C]

Wow. Joy for tone. But anyway, this song. This song right here is by Outkast. It's called Vibrate and no, it's not about a roll.

[B]

The song is beautiful and dark.

[C]

The wag.

[A]

He was in the mood this week.

[B]

I love it. Like hard tours in 100. That's going off.

[C]

The best you can vibrate. Next song is by Yolanda. Be cool. This song is called segunda featuring John John.

[B]

Okay. All right. I mean.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

Yeah, he back.

[B]

Go ahead.

[C]

That's a good one, right? I like that. And the last song I want to play I played on the show before, but I love it. And I want to congratulate this artist for just getting her third and fourth platinum certifications this past week. Ice me out by Cash Doll was certified platinum. That was her third platinum plaque after the platinum success of for everybody and so good. The collab she had with Big Shine, I had no idea she just got a platinum plaque for ice me out, which is another solo track of hers. So that and for everybody, that's all her. And then she also got a platinum plaque this week for her song no lames featuring Summer Walker off of the Stack project. So shout out to Cash dog this song we're gonna play, which I always knew you had it in you, girl. The next song I'm gonna play is called nothing new by Cash Doll off her latest album. The last.

[A]

I seen her, Asian dog threatening her online.

[C]

Yeah, that's it for me. Me this week.

[B]

Shout out to you, Cash bringing Pisces season, right?

[C]

And reading online.

[B]

Yes, I would like to add to the outcast train. I would like to throw in my offering of two dope boys in the Cadillac. Also off of atl.

[A]

Come on.

[B]

Here we go. From the bottom of my lungs gonna be blowing spitting this game Coming up on you from the south the atligans ain't changed Cooler than most players claim to be it get it from the eight town Caesar home of the banking bound Came to road in other city streets Enough of the brality fallacy but if we speak nonfiction people are pulling your guns Slicking at Jerry curl juices every time I rhyme For y' all I'm looking to prove a point Kicking a freestyle every now and then but mostly after joint See I smoke good cause see it go good with them flows why nigga the big like Tony Rich nobody knows why but me and my folks Cause y' all like the joker I'm sick of these whack ass rappers Like I'm tired of holding the Chokers.

[A]

2 dope boys and a Cadillac.

[C]

Fun fact, fun fact. That's Condoleezza Rice on the piano.

[B]

All right. And the next song that I will be playing is by Nia Smith.

[A]

This song getting ahead of it.

[B]

This song is called Reckless Soul. This is the alternate version. It came up in my shuffle and I like liked it. And here's how it goes.

[C]

Come on.

[A]

Away from my slumber and I don't know who's gonna pull me back I know I've been distant But I'm not gonna know what the time goes Go quickly Time is against me I hold.

[C]

My breath Is she white?

[A]

She sound like she's not. She has that white soul. Is she mix.

[C]

Like a white grip? She sounds good though.

[A]

She does Pretty.

[B]

That's Nia Smith.

[C]

All right. Mia.

[A]

Oh.

[C]

All right. Nia.

[A]

Nia, you sound great.

[C]

I sing like a dale. Oh my God.

[A]

You know Asante you put us on to Times it by 2 right by Annie Tracy. Was that you?

[C]

Annie Tracy came from me.

[A]

It was you?

[C]

Annie Tracy came from me.

[B]

Okay.

[C]

Yeah.

[B]

She was Harris.

[C]

Harris's vocal coach, that song.

[A]

So. Okay, I retract that. Dustin, you put us on to times it by. Too bad. That is such a pretty song I play. I. I realized that I played a lot like I'm like, damn, that was such a good.

[B]

I love how we be playing them songs for like on our things like we come up. We all have some really good like music.

[A]

Yeah. I love getting put on.

[C]

I got no, you put me on the easel.

[A]

They're getting put on.

[B]

Oh my God. Please don't.

[C]

Tuning by Esau changed my life. That song brings me this year. Everyone that I shared it with. One of my friends ended up firing her like, like. Well, my friend's friends. Excuse me. My friend's friend styled her and everybody that I've exposed that song to, it's been like a life changing thing for them. I love you so it's an experience.

[B]

That was some good ass music.

[A]

A good one.

[B]

Last song that I'm gonna offer to add to the pressure of an amazing like that. The last. Actually no.

[A]

All right.

[B]

Actually, last song I want to play is since we. I play R B and I talked about somebody R B. I'm gonna make up for it by highlighting another R B singer. How about that? Money Long is still making music as she should be. She has a new single out called Slow grind and I missed Money Long. Even though she's been here. I'm still here with you, girl. Here we are.

[C]

I love Money Long.

[A]

Me too.

[C]

Yeah, so do she.

[A]

Don't miss.

[C]

Why she going off like that?

[A]

The only time I really wanna one Time.

[B]

I wanna talk right baby all night I wanna talk so baby that's right. I wanna so baby all night. Yes. So that's it. Money Long is still here.

[C]

Go check her out.

[B]

So you can slow grind on your own time. Dustin Ross. And that's it for the Music man segment. Thank you all for tuning in. Let us know down below what songs you were feeling and what songs you're listening to yourselves.

[A]

The car.

[C]

And the car was driving right on, right into the goddamn tv. It should be sirens. Every intro. Every time I talk, they should just have the sirens come on and get away. TV land. This week we're going to talk about two things. Number one, the Real Housewives of Potomac reunion part two. This has in fact been one of the best Potomac reunions.

[B]

Absolutely.

[A]

I forgot they inside I need to watch.

[B]

Absolutely.

[C]

Funny as hell, touching on real issues. Pacing is excellent and chock full of. Of must see moments. So go on, Peacock, because you can watch it uncensored. You can hear the cuss words. Parents. Yeah, well, you know, everybody looked nice except Mia. And damn, well, Jacqueline was pregnant, so that don't really count. Everybody looked nice except for Mia. Yeah.

[A]

Okay.

[C]

And Giselle looked great. It's the best she's ever looked, ever.

[A]

Really?

[B]

Yeah, Giselle looked amazing.

[A]

Oh, I need to look that up because they always on her neck about her.

[B]

Her hair was really nice.

[C]

Yeah, she looked good. This is a good reunion though. So watch that. Well, we can talk about cross on LA Beans, but yeah, watch those. And then beyond the Gate started this week. The new black soap opera on cbs. I see. Big budget soap opera, lots of good talent in it. The first episode yesterday, of course, I watched the Dupree family and guess who was in the first episode?

[B]

I already know.

[C]

Karen Huger. Oh, the embattled, embattled. Real Housewives of Potomac star Karen Hugo. The embattled house. There's your title. The embattled Housewives of Photonics. But the embattled star of Rhop, Karen Huger was in there. She had a cameo. But it's a great soap opera. Watch it. Why wouldn't we support this? It's drama every single day.

[B]

What does it come on?

[C]

2:00Pm on CBS. 2:00pm on CBS and you can stream it on Paramount. Plus you can stream it on Paramount. So you can just set your DVR or whatever, record it every day. It's an hour drum every day.

[B]

Just have my TV on for that. And I feel like I'm a man.

[C]

Of a certain age, you know, I can watch soaps, right? So you know what I'm saying? Yeah, I'll watch soaps and have me something to eat, you know? Yeah, sweet roll, maybe orange juice.

[A]

Oh, my God. Are we there?

[C]

Yeah, I'm watching. Watch my soap. So this is officially my stories so y' all can watch beyond the Gates on cbs. And that's all I got to say.

[A]

And that means that's all we got for y' all this week. Don't forget to join us on Patreon for the live stream if you've made it this far. On Wednesday, 8 o' clock Eastern, 5 o'. Clock. I was gonna say Piston. I need a nap. You know what I was doing? PST at Eastern. Y' all know where we at.

[B]

And then you got pissed.

[A]

We love you guys.

[C]

Raining a little bit. Thank you, Lil Kim.

[B]

Check your magic.

[A]

See you guys next week. We love you guys. Bye.