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Episode 92: Accountability and Optimism: The Only Two Things You Need To Win | Tea with GaryVee

Date: November 5, 2025
Host: Gary Vaynerchuk

Episode Overview

In this hard-hitting and high-energy episode of "Tea with GaryVee," Gary explores his core philosophy for success—accountability and optimism—and their fundamental role in both business and personal growth. He takes candid questions from live listeners, riffing on AI's disruption, content creation burnout, resilience in the face of rejection, and why taking extreme ownership of your life is non-negotiable. The episode is packed with signature GaryVee tough love, practical mindsets, and memorable moments that challenge listeners to stop playing the victim and start playing to win.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. The Reality and Opportunity of AI in Creativity

• AI’s Impact: Gary addresses concerns about AI diminishing creativity and emotional resonance in content. He insists the fear is overblown and adaptation is essential.

  “AI is fucking coming. It’s here. Like, we’re going to have to adjust to this… Stop trying to come up with excuses. Don’t go on some weird ideology and understand we’re fucking here and we’ll get through this and people will adjust.” — Gary (01:28)

• Both/And World: Gary predicts that while AI-generated content will dominate, there will always be demand for genuine human expression. People will value both, just as we value unplugging after being on our phones all day.

  “It’s like the world is now. We like the phone… we also like unplugging… It’s going to be both.” — Gary (02:34)

2. Radical Accountability: You Are In Control

• Ownership Over Excuses: Gary rails against externalizing blame—whether it’s the labor market, employers, politicians, or even algorithmic fate.

  “The number one thing that will change everyone’s life is understanding they’re in full control. Full control.” — Gary (07:01)

• No One Owes You Anything:

  “Nobody owes you shit. Figure it the fuck out.” — Gary (03:40)

• Family & Content: Using his brother as an example, Gary reminds creators not to worry about oversharing online—people (even family) will self-select what they consume.

  "If I post a lot, I’m worried that my family will get sick of me. Your family’s in control of what they consume.” — Gary (08:15)

3. Judge the Judger

• Navigating the Job Market with Nontraditional Experience: Gary advises a young entrepreneur to focus on who is judging—traditional business may not see your value, but that’s not your problem.

  “Judge the judger. That is the greatest piece of advice of all time… You don’t want the job that’s judging you for being contemporary.” — Gary (11:04)

4. The Power of Perseverance Over Rejection

• Stop Making Lifetime Decisions on Minimal Data:

  “People have made unlimited ironclad decisions based on two to three pieces of feedback… I need 67 trillion nos in a row before I’m like, maybe I’m not built for this.” — Gary (14:25)

5. Investing in Your Business Over Lifestyle

• On Small Business Scaling:

  “When you’re a real fucking gangster and you’re building shit, you’re putting it back into the business. The business is getting the money, not you.” — Gary (15:49)

6. Expect Nothing, Avoid Cynicism

• Managing Disappointment in Career Setbacks: Gary consoles a listener who feels stuck after being let down at work.

  “You want something big, get the fuck out of the expectation business… The reason that Dermot got caught is he had expectations.” — Gary (17:47)

• Optimism vs. Cynicism:

  “Do not become a cynical, negative, dark bitch… We’re going to make a bad guy in VeeFriends called the cynical, negative dark bitch.” — Gary (18:45)

7. How to Win in 2026 and Beyond

• The Only Three Skills You Need:

  “AI, AI, and AI. 1, 2, and 3.” — Gary (22:11)

8. Insecurity, Self-Esteem & The People Around You

• Why People Stagnate:

  “Because you’re insecure, Karen… It’s because you’re insecure and that’s okay. I think therapy is a good idea… the thing I’m most proud of about this show… is it gets people’s day in the right mindset: accountability and optimism.” — Gary (22:19)

• Influence of Your Circle: Hanging with negative people shapes you negatively—choose your influences with care.

9. The Core Message: You Can Help You

• Beware of Politicians & Gurus:

  “I can’t help you. You can help yourself, period. End of story. Cut the bullshit.” — Gary (25:44)

• On the Power Within:

  “You are in control. No matter what you cry about right now. You’re in control. Please start listening to more positive and optimistic things. Please lean into accountability and optimism, Ayo. And your life will be better.” — Gary (35:16)

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On AI & Excuses:

  “AI girls on OnlyFans are making trillions. Let me ask you a question. What the fuck do you think AI girls are doing? They’re evoking emotion and erections. You can’t get an erection without emotion.” — Gary (05:26)

• On Disillusionment with Rejection:

  “People out here like, get one strike and they’re like, they go back to the bench and sit down and fucking pout, let alone three.” — Gary (14:43)

• On Self-Talk and Victimhood:

  “As if there weren’t enough hate around gender and race, we decided to do age brackets. That’s my favorite new shit the last 10, 15 years. As if we didn’t find enough things to not like about each other…” — Gary (34:10)

• On Opportunities:

  “There’s never been more opportunity for people. Literally, you’ve got Gen Z fully believing they’re fucked because of one post on Instagram… There are more millionaire 19 year olds created this week than when I was 19.” — Gary (33:44)

• On the Episode’s Theme:

  “Honestly, that might be it. I’m retiring. It was a good run… I just feel like that’s it. That’s the actual answer, man.” — Gary (28:45)

Important Timestamps

• AI & Creativity/Job Market Reality – 01:07–05:26
• Content Burnout / Family & Consumption – 06:20–08:18
• Nontraditional Resumes, Judging the Judger – 10:19–14:43
• Scaling Business, Investing in Growth – 15:02–17:13
• Handling Betrayal & Breakdown, The Expectation Trap – 17:11–19:54
• Live Streams & Scaling Digital Products – 19:54–20:54
• Blending Accountability with Optimism (“AO” mantra) – 22:14–25:44
• Societal Negativity & The Power of Choice – 28:44–35:16

Conclusion & Final Takeaways

• Accountability and Optimism (“AO”): Gary distills his worldview into two actionable principles: own your outcomes and nurture hopefulness, regardless of adversity.
• Cut the Victim Mentality: No one else—not bosses, politicians, nor content creators—can change your life. Realizing this is the lever that unlocks progress.
• Adaptation is Survival: Whether facing AI disruption, career pivots, or market skepticism, adjusting early and often is critical.
• Invest in Yourself and Your Business: Reinvest gains for future growth before indulging in personal gains.
• Seek Meaningful Advice: Evaluate the source—a judger stuck in the past isn't worth your energy.

Gary closes this episode with characteristic bravado, humor, and a raw, urgent call: Only you can change your life. Accountability and optimism are the keys, and the rest is up to you.

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