How to Stay Confident When No One Believes in You | Tea with GaryVee Ep #79 PART 2 - The GaryVee Audio Experience

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[00:00]
A
This is a question from Daniel, who's 28 years old. He says, Literally two days ago, my girlfriend broke up with me because she claims I'm financially irresponsible. In my eyes, I'm investing in a career that I want. I work a steady job as a freelance videographer and make anywhere from 2k to 5k a month, depending on the clients and workload. My success is definitely coming in a lot slower than I'd like, or better yet, she would like. But I'm determined and I communicated that I don't plan to stop. Also, for more context, this is my second time dumping money on a passion project this year. We're not even talking about last year. Lol.
[00:32]
B
Yeah, I mean, look, the answer is both of you can be right in this scenario. Like, there doesn't have to be someone who's wrong or right. Like, she's allowed to make a subjective opinion if she thinks your strategies on how you handle your money don't work for her for the kind of financial partner she's looking for in her life. She's allowed, you know, and long term, she may regret this decision or it might be the best decision that ever happened. You're also allowed to not conform and get a regular job or do something. You are not in a place where you have to make a certain amount of money or do a certain thing to appease a partner either. There are unbelievable amounts of women in the world that will love you for what you do, for how you do it. Financial, what is financial success? It's different to everyone. Is $100,000 a year enough to make to, you know, for many women and men, it is. For many women and men, it's not. I don't judge what people are looking for. They're gonna have to live with that. If a woman is only looking to marry a man who makes a million dollars a year and she breaks up with a couple of guys along the way that treated her better at 62, she may regret that. Maybe she doesn't. She's allowed. Same for men. Same for men that mar. I mean, do you know how many. We always love to say women are gold diggers. You know, many men are gold diggers. There's a lot of men who are trying to marry rich girls or girls that have rich dads or like, there's a lot of shit going on in the world. The answer to this question is all of it works. Neither are necessarily right or wrong on surface level. Both could be wrong in, like, in real life. I just don't have all that context, but it will all play itself out. But I would say, but what I would say is, you know, like, don't cry. Like don't cry for. Don't cry when someone leaves you. That's where I'm. That's, that's the I'm about. Do not cry when someone leaves you. Be self reflective. Think about if there's something you want to do different and be better. Be accountable. Like be accountable, but don't cry. There's. I don't know if you guys know there's 8 billion people on Earth. There's literally 8 billion people on Earth. If you are broken up with, there is a high percentage chance that the next partner you're going to have is better for you. If you are fired, there is a good chance that your next job is going to be more fun and pay you more. Stop being scared of adversity. Being ghosted, being dumped, being fired are often the best thing that ever happened to you. Everyone has just decided universally that it's the worst. The end. You like that one, Mike? That one hit you a little bit. I know you. That one hit. That one. That one hit for you. You're happy, right? That was good, right? I actually felt that on you right now. Good, good. Shit. And Mike's huge garage sale coming up this Saturday or he's fired. We all know that. Oh man, I'm in a really good mood. I love doing this show. I'm gonna do this show a lot. Brandon o', Neal, my girl cheated on me. Good, Brandon, that's good. I'm being serious. I know everyone like a bunch of youngsters work here. I'm looking at all of you. Who cares? My point of view on that is you got lucky that you got to the truth. Now you get to make a decision. How about this? I wouldn't even judge you. And if you've decided to forgive her and get. Everyone's allowed to do everything. Everything's allowed. Who the fuck are you living by? What's the. Do you know how many people right now have lived happily and successfully and prosperly and happy for the last 50 years after one of the spouses decided to forgive the other spouse for an infidelity that's profound. Who the fuck makes the rules? Good for Brandon that she cheated on him. It's given him clarity of the option. By the way, some of you need to get cheat on to kick you into gear. A lot of on this show this morning need to get cheated on to wake them the up because they're taking their partner for granted because they got lazy. They need to wake the up. By the way, this show puts me in a very different mood, right? This show puts me in a very different mood than my normal self. All right, let's go to the next question.
[05:16]
A
Okay, this question is from David. I'm 32, single, a CPA, MBA, and I feel like I've wasted the last decade.
[05:24]
B
32 or 42?
[05:25]
A
32.
[05:25]
B
Oh, here we go. Go ahead.
[05:28]
A
I've wasted the last decade addicted to weed and just surviving. I'm finally ready to change and build something meaningful. I've said it before, but I have no choice. What's your number one advice to someone trying to reinvent their. Their life from scratch, for real this.
[05:40]
B
Time, by realizing that 32 is 22. I'm pumped for this guy. What's his name? David. I'm so proud of you, bro. Here's what I would say. Like, when you're 90, you'll be like, yo, 22 to 32 was fucking epic. I smoked weed every second. Like, you're going to be fine. Like, yes. You haven't, you know, like, you. You over. You know, you misplayed certain parts of your life. I'm sure there's certain parts of your life that you've done well with. And good news, you're 32. You're a fucking kid. Like, you know, you're. You're a child. And by the way, when I was answering that question about 32, somebody in the chat on whatnot said, what about 47? Same thing. Here's my thing. If you're 47, 57, 67, and you're like, what about me? I've blown my whole life. Here's my point. There's never a bad time to start doing good shit. Like, if you're 67 and you're like, well, it's too late. I fucked up everything, and you're destined to live to 92. You're telling me. You're like, you know that you can make the next 25 years a hell of a lot better and enjoy it. Do you know how many teams are losing in the fourth quarter? Do you guys know sports? Do you know me? Teams are down 287 going into the fourth quarter and win. We're all a sport. We're all a team. Life is. Life is sports. And you as a human, are a team. And there are many fucking teams. Do you know what those pieces of shit in Indiana Pacers did? The Knicks were fucking winning by 12 with 1 second left and lost. I'm literally going to Oklahoma City tonight to sit courtside to boo the Pacers. You'll all see me tonight. If you watch the game. I will be courtside tonight booing the Pacers. Those motherfuckers were dead and pulled it out in the last second. You could be 90 and a piece of shit and a fucking loser your whole life and pull it out in the last three years and reconcile all your relationships. Have some fun. And what is this? What about 47? What is this? What about 32? And you motherfuckers under 30 you? I'm gonna kill all of you. What are you worried about? Nothing is bad. You've got unlimited time to make everything awesome. What are you crying about? And you know what you're all crying about. But I'm a 29 year old girl and my friend Heather is already married and just had her first. What the fuck does Heather's life have to do with you? Next question.
[08:14]
A
Okay, this question came through your text. It's from Samantha, who's 25 years old. She says, I'm an actor and my life is not going in the direction I want it to. The reason for me reaching out is to ask if you offer life coaching sessions. Listening to your videos has been giving me so much inspiration and motivation and sometimes I even feel like you're speaking directly to me. I started disconnecting from friends I grew up with lately because I no longer feel connected to them. I've realized I want to hang around people with big ideas and who see me and my ideas as a possibility. I don't know. I thought I'd reach out and see if I could get even like five minutes with you. I guess I feel like I am directionless. It has been feeling. Feeling like no one gets me in my dreams. Not even my family.
[08:52]
B
Samantha, I'm so pumped. I'm so proud of you. You said as a 25 year old. As a 25 year old you have realized one of the great lessons of the human life. I'm about to change thousands of people's lives in this moment and millions of over the next three decades that. Watch this clip. If you are unhappy, you must do the following. You must audit and limit and replace the people and the content you are consuming. Who you spend time with and what you listen to is the fundamental reality of your emotions. My friends. If you were unhappy, you must break up, quit. Or if you love your mom but she's a negative Nelly and you guys talk twice a day. You need to move to Twice a week. You must cut out or limit. I'm not saying you gotta, like, never talk to your dad again. But if your dad, every time you call him is like, dad, how are you doing? My back. My boss, I think I have cancer. Like, how's your idiot boyfriend? If that's the convo, you need to get the fuck out of there. You need to go surface level. You need to start thinking about therapy. You need to start consuming positive content. My friends, you are only unhappy because of who you spend time with. Let me give you an example. When my homies tell me they're unhappy with their job. Yo, bro, like, this is real life. When a friend of mine's like, yo, I hate my job, I go positive. I don't. I'm not that friend. Like, all. All of you are the same kind of friends. Most of you are not me. Most of you are enablers. Your buddy's like, yo, I hate my job. They're like, yeah, that boss a dick. No, no, no. I go to like, let's take a step back. What can you do about it? And then I remind them, you got a beautiful fucking daughter who's an Olympian. You've got a fucking, like, great wife. You're going on vacation for two weeks next week. You love your softball team. I just go positive and then I go accountable. I'm like, you can quit, but we're just in this culture of fucking enabling everybody here. I actually, what I'm feeling right now is something I don't say often. I'm asking if everybody's ready to be a better friend, please put in the chat, better friend. If you're ready to stop enabling your dwelling, unhappy loser friends and are willing to do what I'm doing on this show for you every morning to your friends, I get that you're homies, but you can't just be like, yeah, you're right. When your girl's like, oh, Rick's such a dick. He, like, went bowling too late last night. You need to be like, karen, shut the fuck up. Rick's a good dude. Rick's better looking than you. Rick's providing. Let the fucker bowl. Not like, yeah, Rick's a dick. Do you understand? Enough enabling. Next question.
[12:09]
A
Okay, this is from a comment on one of your YouTube videos. Does passion really build billion dollar brands? Or do you need to be a little obsessed like vee friends to pull it off? What's your take? Heart or hustle?
[12:20]
B
Both. Passion is often the reason people go out of business because they just think, I'm passionate about this golf business. It'll do great. And it fails. Passion is fuel. But your business is the car, and you have to know how to drive it. Ooh. Shit. Yeah. Whoa. Clip that. Whoa. Yeah, that was. That was it. That was it, y'. All. I got that one. Passion is the fuel, right? The business is the car. You have to be a great driver. So passion is just one of the elements. But I do believe that passion allows you to get crazy. Like, I think a lot of people build very nice businesses because they just want the money. Oh, I know I can sound. I'm good at math. I can start an accounting firm. I'm not passionate about it, but I'm gonna build a $10 million business, and I'm gonna make 800,000 a year, and I'm gonna have this good life. And that's fine. But I think that blows for me. For me, I think it's wonderful for others. But not having passion, not waking up and being pumped, that's what leads to unhappiness. I'd rather make. In fact, I do make so much less money than I could because I choose happiness, and I do that now. And people are going to be like, well, you can now. That's what my number one passion and happiness from 22 to 30 was building a company for my parents. You guys know how I feel about my parents. It makes more sense to you the more you get to know me. Like, I love my parents different. I got lucky. And I think everybody else who has remarkable parents loves them like that, too. But we were also immigrants, and we went through it together. You know what I mean? I was born in the old country and all those dynamics. So that was my passion. That was financially horrible for me. I started this company at 34 in another company's conference room because I had no Money. I was 34. I had no money. I'm gonna say it again. I was 34. I had no money. Cause I was living my passion. I was happy as shit doing it, and then I wasn't. Then I wanted to build some more monetary gain for me, and I changed my mind and I started my own company instead of building my dad's for him. So, you know, to answer, no, passion is not the only thing. Like, I'm passionate about. I'm passionate about being a professional athlete. I. Gary, I'm passionate to be the quarterback of the New York Jets. I am more passionate to be the quarterback of the New York jets and win a Super bowl than I am in anything I do in my life. I cannot pull that off. I do not have the talent or capability to do that. Nor did I ever have that talent or capability. I have the talent, capability to potentially buy them one day. That I believe.

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Summary of "How to Stay Confident When No One Believes in You | Tea with GaryVee Ep #79 PART 2"

Published on August 8, 2025, "The GaryVee Audio Experience" episode titled "How to Stay Confident When No One Believes in You | Tea with GaryVee Ep #79 PART 2" delves into personal struggles, resilience, and the pursuit of passion despite setbacks. Host Gary Vaynerchuk addresses several listener questions, providing motivational insights and practical advice to empower individuals facing challenges in their personal and professional lives.

1. Navigating Breakups and Financial Disagreements

Listener Insight:

Daniel, a 28-year-old freelance videographer, shares his recent breakup, attributing it to his partner's view of him as financially irresponsible. Despite earning between $2K to $5K monthly, Daniel feels his career progression is slower than desired and has experienced financial setbacks with passion projects.

Gary's Response:

Gary begins by validating both Daniel and his ex-partner's perspectives, emphasizing that relationships often involve subjective views on financial stability. He asserts, “Neither are necessarily right or wrong on surface level. Both could be wrong in real life” (00:31).

He encourages resilience, advising Daniel not to conform to societal or relationship pressures regarding income. Gary highlights the vast possibilities in life, stating, “There’s literally 8 billion people on Earth. If you are broken up with, there is a high percentage chance that the next partner you’re going to have is better for you” (04:30).

Notable Quotes:

“Stop being scared of adversity. Being ghosted, being dumped, being fired are often the best thing that ever happened to you” (04:10)
“Don’t cry when someone leaves you. Be self-reflective. Think about if there’s something you want to do different and be better” (03:50)

2. Reinventing Life at 32

Listener Insight:

David, a 32-year-old CPA with an MBA, confesses to a decade-long struggle with weed addiction and a sense of stagnation. He expresses a desire to pivot and build something meaningful from scratch.

Gary's Response:

Gary responds with unwavering support, challenging societal notions of aging and success. He emphasizes that “there’s never a bad time to start doing good shit” (05:40), reassuring David that reinvention is always possible regardless of age.

Using sports analogies, Gary likens life to a game where comebacks are always feasible, saying, “Life is sports. And you as a human, are a team” (06:00). He underscores the limitless potential at any age, motivating David to seize the opportunity to transform his life.

Notable Quotes:

“You are a child. And by the way, when I was answering that question about 32, somebody in the chat on whatnot said, what about 47? Same thing” (05:24)
“Nothing is bad. You’ve got unlimited time to make everything awesome” (07:10)

3. Overcoming Directionlessness as an Actor

Listener Insight:

Samantha, a 25-year-old actor, feels her life is off-track and disconnected from her peers. She seeks guidance on finding direction and fostering meaningful connections.

Gary's Response:

Gary applauds Samantha's self-awareness, noting that recognizing the need for change is pivotal. He advises conducting a personal audit to assess and modify one's environment, including friendships and content consumption. “What you listen to is the fundamental reality of your emotions” (08:40).

He stresses the importance of surrounding oneself with positive influences and those who share big ideas. Gary encourages Samantha to distance herself from negativity, suggesting therapeutic avenues and the pursuit of content that uplifts her spirit.

Notable Quotes:

“You are only unhappy because of who you spend time with” (09:10)
“If you’re ready to stop enabling your dwelling, unhappy loser friends and are willing to do what I’m doing on this show every morning to your friends, I get that you’re homies, but you can’t just be like, yeah, you’re right” (10:15)

4. The Role of Passion in Building Billion-Dollar Brands

Listener Insight:

A viewer questions whether passion alone is sufficient to build billion-dollar brands or if an obsessive hustle is necessary. The query contrasts the concepts of heart versus hustle in entrepreneurial success.

Gary's Response:

Gary asserts that both passion and hustle are essential, using a compelling metaphor: “Passion is the fuel, right? The business is the car. You have to be a great driver” (12:20). He explains that while passion drives individuals to persevere, practical skills and strategic execution are crucial to sustain and grow a business.

However, Gary also warns against passion without strategic planning, noting that “passion is often the reason people go out of business because they just think, I’m passionate about this golf business. It’ll do great. And it fails” (12:20). He emphasizes that without the right skills to “drive” the business, passion alone cannot guarantee success.

Gary shares personal experiences, highlighting the balance between pursuing passion and ensuring financial stability. He underscores the importance of choosing ventures that align with both one's interests and market viability to achieve lasting success.

Notable Quotes:

“I do believe that passion allows you to get crazy” (12:05)
“I'd rather make...so much less money than I could because I choose happiness, and I do that now” (12:35)

Conclusion

In this episode, Gary Vaynerchuk provides robust support and actionable advice to listeners grappling with financial disagreements in relationships, personal reinvention, feelings of directionlessness, and the entrepreneurial journey. His candid and motivational approach encourages resilience, self-reflection, and the strategic pursuit of passion. Through relatable anecdotes and empowering messages, Gary emphasizes that confidence and success are attainable even when faced with doubt from others.

Timestamps

00:31 – Gary discusses financial disagreements in relationships.
03:50 – Advice on resilience post-breakup.
04:10 – Embracing adversity as a catalyst for growth.
05:24 – Reinventing life at 32.
05:40 – No bad time to start making positive changes.
06:00 – Life compared to a sports game—always room for comebacks.
07:10 – Unlimited time to achieve greatness.
08:40 – Importance of auditing personal influences.
09:10 – Connection between relationships and happiness.
10:15 – Stopping the enablement of negative friendships.
12:05 – Balancing passion with practical business skills.
12:20 – Metaphor of passion as fuel and business as the car.
12:35 – Choosing happiness over potential higher earnings.

This summary encapsulates the essence of the podcast episode, providing listeners and non-listeners alike with a comprehensive understanding of Gary Vaynerchuk's insights on maintaining confidence amidst doubt and pursuing one's passions effectively.

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[00:00]
A
This is a question from Daniel, who's 28 years old. He says, Literally two days ago, my girlfriend broke up with me because she claims I'm financially irresponsible. In my eyes, I'm investing in a career that I want. I work a steady job as a freelance videographer and make anywhere from 2k to 5k a month, depending on the clients and workload. My success is definitely coming in a lot slower than I'd like, or better yet, she would like. But I'm determined and I communicated that I don't plan to stop. Also, for more context, this is my second time dumping money on a passion project this year. We're not even talking about last year. Lol.
[00:32]
B
Yeah, I mean, look, the answer is both of you can be right in this scenario. Like, there doesn't have to be someone who's wrong or right. Like, she's allowed to make a subjective opinion if she thinks your strategies on how you handle your money don't work for her for the kind of financial partner she's looking for in her life. She's allowed, you know, and long term, she may regret this decision or it might be the best decision that ever happened. You're also allowed to not conform and get a regular job or do something. You are not in a place where you have to make a certain amount of money or do a certain thing to appease a partner either. There are unbelievable amounts of women in the world that will love you for what you do, for how you do it. Financial, what is financial success? It's different to everyone. Is $100,000 a year enough to make to, you know, for many women and men, it is. For many women and men, it's not. I don't judge what people are looking for. They're gonna have to live with that. If a woman is only looking to marry a man who makes a million dollars a year and she breaks up with a couple of guys along the way that treated her better at 62, she may regret that. Maybe she doesn't. She's allowed. Same for men. Same for men that mar. I mean, do you know how many. We always love to say women are gold diggers. You know, many men are gold diggers. There's a lot of men who are trying to marry rich girls or girls that have rich dads or like, there's a lot of shit going on in the world. The answer to this question is all of it works. Neither are necessarily right or wrong on surface level. Both could be wrong in, like, in real life. I just don't have all that context, but it will all play itself out. But I would say, but what I would say is, you know, like, don't cry. Like don't cry for. Don't cry when someone leaves you. That's where I'm. That's, that's the I'm about. Do not cry when someone leaves you. Be self reflective. Think about if there's something you want to do different and be better. Be accountable. Like be accountable, but don't cry. There's. I don't know if you guys know there's 8 billion people on Earth. There's literally 8 billion people on Earth. If you are broken up with, there is a high percentage chance that the next partner you're going to have is better for you. If you are fired, there is a good chance that your next job is going to be more fun and pay you more. Stop being scared of adversity. Being ghosted, being dumped, being fired are often the best thing that ever happened to you. Everyone has just decided universally that it's the worst. The end. You like that one, Mike? That one hit you a little bit. I know you. That one hit. That one. That one hit for you. You're happy, right? That was good, right? I actually felt that on you right now. Good, good. Shit. And Mike's huge garage sale coming up this Saturday or he's fired. We all know that. Oh man, I'm in a really good mood. I love doing this show. I'm gonna do this show a lot. Brandon o', Neal, my girl cheated on me. Good, Brandon, that's good. I'm being serious. I know everyone like a bunch of youngsters work here. I'm looking at all of you. Who cares? My point of view on that is you got lucky that you got to the truth. Now you get to make a decision. How about this? I wouldn't even judge you. And if you've decided to forgive her and get. Everyone's allowed to do everything. Everything's allowed. Who the fuck are you living by? What's the. Do you know how many people right now have lived happily and successfully and prosperly and happy for the last 50 years after one of the spouses decided to forgive the other spouse for an infidelity that's profound. Who the fuck makes the rules? Good for Brandon that she cheated on him. It's given him clarity of the option. By the way, some of you need to get cheat on to kick you into gear. A lot of on this show this morning need to get cheated on to wake them the up because they're taking their partner for granted because they got lazy. They need to wake the up. By the way, this show puts me in a very different mood, right? This show puts me in a very different mood than my normal self. All right, let's go to the next question.
[05:16]
A
Okay, this question is from David. I'm 32, single, a CPA, MBA, and I feel like I've wasted the last decade.
[05:24]
B
32 or 42?
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A
32.
[05:25]
B
Oh, here we go. Go ahead.
[05:28]
A
I've wasted the last decade addicted to weed and just surviving. I'm finally ready to change and build something meaningful. I've said it before, but I have no choice. What's your number one advice to someone trying to reinvent their. Their life from scratch, for real this.
[05:40]
B
Time, by realizing that 32 is 22. I'm pumped for this guy. What's his name? David. I'm so proud of you, bro. Here's what I would say. Like, when you're 90, you'll be like, yo, 22 to 32 was fucking epic. I smoked weed every second. Like, you're going to be fine. Like, yes. You haven't, you know, like, you. You over. You know, you misplayed certain parts of your life. I'm sure there's certain parts of your life that you've done well with. And good news, you're 32. You're a fucking kid. Like, you know, you're. You're a child. And by the way, when I was answering that question about 32, somebody in the chat on whatnot said, what about 47? Same thing. Here's my thing. If you're 47, 57, 67, and you're like, what about me? I've blown my whole life. Here's my point. There's never a bad time to start doing good shit. Like, if you're 67 and you're like, well, it's too late. I fucked up everything, and you're destined to live to 92. You're telling me. You're like, you know that you can make the next 25 years a hell of a lot better and enjoy it. Do you know how many teams are losing in the fourth quarter? Do you guys know sports? Do you know me? Teams are down 287 going into the fourth quarter and win. We're all a sport. We're all a team. Life is. Life is sports. And you as a human, are a team. And there are many fucking teams. Do you know what those pieces of shit in Indiana Pacers did? The Knicks were fucking winning by 12 with 1 second left and lost. I'm literally going to Oklahoma City tonight to sit courtside to boo the Pacers. You'll all see me tonight. If you watch the game. I will be courtside tonight booing the Pacers. Those motherfuckers were dead and pulled it out in the last second. You could be 90 and a piece of shit and a fucking loser your whole life and pull it out in the last three years and reconcile all your relationships. Have some fun. And what is this? What about 47? What is this? What about 32? And you motherfuckers under 30 you? I'm gonna kill all of you. What are you worried about? Nothing is bad. You've got unlimited time to make everything awesome. What are you crying about? And you know what you're all crying about. But I'm a 29 year old girl and my friend Heather is already married and just had her first. What the fuck does Heather's life have to do with you? Next question.
[08:14]
A
Okay, this question came through your text. It's from Samantha, who's 25 years old. She says, I'm an actor and my life is not going in the direction I want it to. The reason for me reaching out is to ask if you offer life coaching sessions. Listening to your videos has been giving me so much inspiration and motivation and sometimes I even feel like you're speaking directly to me. I started disconnecting from friends I grew up with lately because I no longer feel connected to them. I've realized I want to hang around people with big ideas and who see me and my ideas as a possibility. I don't know. I thought I'd reach out and see if I could get even like five minutes with you. I guess I feel like I am directionless. It has been feeling. Feeling like no one gets me in my dreams. Not even my family.
[08:52]
B
Samantha, I'm so pumped. I'm so proud of you. You said as a 25 year old. As a 25 year old you have realized one of the great lessons of the human life. I'm about to change thousands of people's lives in this moment and millions of over the next three decades that. Watch this clip. If you are unhappy, you must do the following. You must audit and limit and replace the people and the content you are consuming. Who you spend time with and what you listen to is the fundamental reality of your emotions. My friends. If you were unhappy, you must break up, quit. Or if you love your mom but she's a negative Nelly and you guys talk twice a day. You need to move to Twice a week. You must cut out or limit. I'm not saying you gotta, like, never talk to your dad again. But if your dad, every time you call him is like, dad, how are you doing? My back. My boss, I think I have cancer. Like, how's your idiot boyfriend? If that's the convo, you need to get the fuck out of there. You need to go surface level. You need to start thinking about therapy. You need to start consuming positive content. My friends, you are only unhappy because of who you spend time with. Let me give you an example. When my homies tell me they're unhappy with their job. Yo, bro, like, this is real life. When a friend of mine's like, yo, I hate my job, I go positive. I don't. I'm not that friend. Like, all. All of you are the same kind of friends. Most of you are not me. Most of you are enablers. Your buddy's like, yo, I hate my job. They're like, yeah, that boss a dick. No, no, no. I go to like, let's take a step back. What can you do about it? And then I remind them, you got a beautiful fucking daughter who's an Olympian. You've got a fucking, like, great wife. You're going on vacation for two weeks next week. You love your softball team. I just go positive and then I go accountable. I'm like, you can quit, but we're just in this culture of fucking enabling everybody here. I actually, what I'm feeling right now is something I don't say often. I'm asking if everybody's ready to be a better friend, please put in the chat, better friend. If you're ready to stop enabling your dwelling, unhappy loser friends and are willing to do what I'm doing on this show for you every morning to your friends, I get that you're homies, but you can't just be like, yeah, you're right. When your girl's like, oh, Rick's such a dick. He, like, went bowling too late last night. You need to be like, karen, shut the fuck up. Rick's a good dude. Rick's better looking than you. Rick's providing. Let the fucker bowl. Not like, yeah, Rick's a dick. Do you understand? Enough enabling. Next question.
[12:09]
A
Okay, this is from a comment on one of your YouTube videos. Does passion really build billion dollar brands? Or do you need to be a little obsessed like vee friends to pull it off? What's your take? Heart or hustle?
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Both. Passion is often the reason people go out of business because they just think, I'm passionate about this golf business. It'll do great. And it fails. Passion is fuel. But your business is the car, and you have to know how to drive it. Ooh. Shit. Yeah. Whoa. Clip that. Whoa. Yeah, that was. That was it. That was it, y'. All. I got that one. Passion is the fuel, right? The business is the car. You have to be a great driver. So passion is just one of the elements. But I do believe that passion allows you to get crazy. Like, I think a lot of people build very nice businesses because they just want the money. Oh, I know I can sound. I'm good at math. I can start an accounting firm. I'm not passionate about it, but I'm gonna build a $10 million business, and I'm gonna make 800,000 a year, and I'm gonna have this good life. And that's fine. But I think that blows for me. For me, I think it's wonderful for others. But not having passion, not waking up and being pumped, that's what leads to unhappiness. I'd rather make. In fact, I do make so much less money than I could because I choose happiness, and I do that now. And people are going to be like, well, you can now. That's what my number one passion and happiness from 22 to 30 was building a company for my parents. You guys know how I feel about my parents. It makes more sense to you the more you get to know me. Like, I love my parents different. I got lucky. And I think everybody else who has remarkable parents loves them like that, too. But we were also immigrants, and we went through it together. You know what I mean? I was born in the old country and all those dynamics. So that was my passion. That was financially horrible for me. I started this company at 34 in another company's conference room because I had no Money. I was 34. I had no money. I'm gonna say it again. I was 34. I had no money. Cause I was living my passion. I was happy as shit doing it, and then I wasn't. Then I wanted to build some more monetary gain for me, and I changed my mind and I started my own company instead of building my dad's for him. So, you know, to answer, no, passion is not the only thing. Like, I'm passionate about. I'm passionate about being a professional athlete. I. Gary, I'm passionate to be the quarterback of the New York Jets. I am more passionate to be the quarterback of the New York jets and win a Super bowl than I am in anything I do in my life. I cannot pull that off. I do not have the talent or capability to do that. Nor did I ever have that talent or capability. I have the talent, capability to potentially buy them one day. That I believe.