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Gary Vee
There is no original ideas. There's no niches. There's no original ideas. There's no originality. People want to be original. I want to break through. I want my own niche. I want my own lane. They're all fucking taken. They've all been done. What's not been done is you. Fully you. This is the GaryVee audio experience. We are live and we are going to answer people's questions. Happy 2026, everybody. Happy hanging out in my office again for a little Q and A session, a little jam session, a little hangout session. Cynthia, great to see you. Dylan Almighty, thank you. Shannon, thank you so much for joining. Really appreciate. Actually, let me see something here. No, no, I don't want to do that. Everybody, Hope you had a great, great new year. Hope everybody's super well excited to answer your 2026 questions. Hope everybody is focused on making this the year that they decide to get really going and living the life they actually want to live. Long island sign Guy, Great to see you. Talk about someone who was really affected. Long island sign Guy. So I'm a big fan of bartering. Like, I think a lot of bartering should be done more. And my dad needed a new sign for his liquor store. And my dad is, you know, cheap. And he's like, I don't want to pay for this sign. I was like, well, let me. I have an idea. Like, everybody wants my business and marketing advice. Let me see if I can find one. Found this gentleman who's in the chat right now. He came in. I did a bunch of consulting for him. He crushed, in my opinion, because I know what people pay for me. But also, you have to kind of value something that's not black and white. He put up the sign, and there's a lot of cost in that. But what he has done is he's actually executed on my advice and has absolutely annihilated Long. Basically. I feel like everybody in Long Island's buildings are now his signs. But he'll answer that in the chat if that's true. Mean man. Thank you. Olivia, great to see you. Boy with the Oz. Good to see you. Wolverine, great to see you. The chat is blocked by that camera right now. Like, that hasn't happened in the past. Can we do something about that?
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Courtney
Yeah, let me just.
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Gary Vee
Yeah. Thank you. The big cheese Belmore says Long Island Sign guy has done sign for me. That's awesome. Anyway, everybody, thank you so much for being here. Everybody. Can we pin my book? I wanna pin the book. That's been very that's been probably the most exciting thing. We do live commerce on this show as well. And a lot of people have bought this book. What's that? Meet me in the middle. Oh, meet me in the middle is pinned right. The kid's book. I got it. You are right, Courtney. Sorry. This has also been. These are the two big massive wins you can see right down below. If anybody has a kid in their life between the ages of 2 and 7, put the number 7 in the chat. 2 and 5. 2 and 5. Put the number 5 in the chat. If you are one of those people or you're an awesome aunt or an unwavering uncle or a grandparent, this is the book to get. This is your opportunity to check out. Do we have a discount or coupon? Nothing like that right now. Right, okay. This is in the shop right down here below. But let's get into the questions.
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Mackenzie
25% off right now.
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Gary Vee
Is it 25% off? I love it. Very nice. 25% off. Let me know if you pick up a book. I can see if you go into the cart. So click it and just learn. This is less about you buying the book though. If you have a 2 to 5 year old I think you should cause it's awesome. This is more about you seeing how live shopping works and then you can do this for your business. So alright, we're here to answer questions. The mics are on. The team is here. If you have a question for me that you would like answered, please ask the question in the chat. Use five question marks also. Join the fan club. You just saw it. Join the fan club. That's the bottom right. Little gift box, right? Yes. At the bottom right of the screen there's a little gift box bottom right. It's the second thing in. There's the share button all the way. And then there's that little right down below that bottom. Pink red gift box. Click that box. Join the fan club. Join, join, join. There we go. I love fan cluby. I like fanny up there. I like fanny over my head all day long. I want fanny over my head all day long. Also I need one massive double tap right now from all 500 of you. Double tap, double tap, double tap, double tap, double tap, double tap. I want the hearts going. And now I need you to actually ask your questions. Fire away. Let's go into it. I'm ready.
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Mackenzie
Let's do it. Someone said currently out of work, would love to know how to get started on TikTok shop.
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Gary Vee
So TikTok shop is 90% of TikTok shop is affiliate and only 10% is what I'm doing right now. Has anybody not bought the book yet? All right, I'm pretty upset right now. I need someone to buy the book just so I can show everybody an example. You need this book to read to the kids. The 90% of it is affiliate work. So you're literally making content for things that people have affiliates for. So I think you need nothing now. It used to be 5,000 followers, now it's much less. There's an approval process. Everybody should go to chatgpt and just type in TikTok affiliate. TikTok affiliate. How do I become a TikTok affiliate? We're living in this amazing world where I used to have to give details here, but now I can just tell everybody, if you actually want to do it, go to chatgpt or perplexity or Gemini. Type in how do I become a TikTok affiliate? In Germany, in America, in Canada? Because a lot of people, there's some places you can and can't, but you're literally just making content for product and then if your organic post sells some of that product, you're making a affiliate fee. This is a massive industry. I think TikTok affiliate is a huge opportunity for people here everyday. People that don't even have a lot of followers. Don't forget how TikTok works. You make one good video, you don't need 15 million followers like me. You can have 800 followers. You make one video around hair care or a fan or a clay playset that you just like. You make a good piece of content. You post it for some ungodly unknown reason, it gets 9 million views and you just print. This is real stuff, my friends. How many people in the chat have made money as a TikTok affiliate? How many people in the chat I made an AI video of a mask and sold 40. Look at that. That's real life. This is real life, my friends. This is real life. I believe the content, affiliate commerce, live shopping and affiliate shopping content thing is the 2012 version of social media content creator. So many of you will have your life changed if you go all in on this and I cannot recommend it more. Please everyone look at trend sniper. I made 17k on December in TikTok shop. Please share more of your truths in here, everyone, so that the people that are saying nah, like a lot of you, how many of you just said no? How many of you were just like, nah, that's not. Gary's wrong. Like that's A pipe dream. Own it. Say I said nah. Nah, I said nah. I need to know that you said I said nah. Because everybody who is struggling on earth is in the business of saying no when approached or presented something of optimism and work. I'm in the business of maybe skewing towards yes. Many people on earth are fully in no. They live in nah, that's not for me. I'm not pretty enough, I'm not smart enough or Gary's full of shit. It's for people. They always think it's only for people that made it without realizing the people that fucking made it were in the business of maybe skewing to yes. That's an article. Matthew, as you join the team, I wanna have a conversation of why no is definitively a loss and why maybe skewing towards yes is a pondering strategy based on practicality and optimism that could change your life. I know for fact that so many people here could change their life by being a TikTok affiliate and live shopping thing. I know that for a fact. I've watched more everyday normal people pop off last year on this and I need more of you in the chat that I know are living this life to actually say what details, what's happening right now. TikTok Shop affiliate is a gold rush right now, similar to social media in 2012. I believe it, I believe it, I believe it. And I think it's one of the best side hustles in the game. I think everyone's capable of making content. Don't forget insecure about how you look. You don't want people to see the bags under your eyes. Good news, you could do this. You could literally be a content creator that does this. Hey, everybody, so it's me, Gary. Obviously the camera's not gonna be very good. Let me just make it. Hey, everybody, it's me, Gary. These new little Gary Vee, you know, replicas of the jersey his mom knitted that are really fun. They're really awesome. I think you'd get a lot of good luck and love from this. As you can see on the link below, it's 9.99. I highly recommend you get one. It will bring you great luck for five years. If you want five years of luck. If you want five years of luck, guaranteed, get one of these things. Literally, Literally the amount of people that can do what I just did is literally almost everyone. What did you just do? Sorry about that. Train's big thumb touch something. I should have just done it myself. Get out of my face, Train. Let Me do this. I'm good. I got it. Don't worry. Hey, everybody. What I just did is something all of you can do. You don't even have to be on camera, Mackenzie. You don't even have to be on camera, Charlie. Jesus. People can make AI content to be affiliate. This is an amazing opportunity, right? And I highly recommend it. I highly recommend it. And I think so many people struggle with the negative feedback. Somebody just said this guy's rude, doesn't understand my humor, my jam. Another one said this guy fell off so many back to back comments in the chat right now. There's so many people that would literally stop screaming by hearing those two things or they would lose their focus and they would lose their energy. I'm invigorated by those comments. Not because I'm like, oh, I'm gonna show you and battle, but because I am strictly here because I am the corner of the Internet that is positive and practical. And I want to bring love to those two individuals who literally feel like communicating negativity is going to make them feel better in a world where I know that doesn't work. In fact, why so many people feel so much tension going into 2026 is everybody is on full tilt right now on like just deciding to be mad about something. People are just looking to find something to be mad about or to be insulted by. And people are talking all sorts of rhetoric and conversations about shit they don't know versus choosing positivity and understanding where they're at. Anyway, nonetheless, great to see everybody and. Oh, interesting. Someone said it's hard to read the comments with my sweater. Interesting. Is that true? Can you guys see that? That's interesting. Yeah. That's so incredible. Good call. Hold on one second. We're always looking for media buyers, you know, by the way, there's always a fucking solution and you can always adapt in real times. So, Ninja, great to see you. What happens if a larger creator steals your idea? No, Stone, there is no original ideas. There's no niches, there's no original ideas. One of the biggest reasons Mona and I, my wife and I were walking on Sunday and we were talking and I actually made a note, which I rarely do, because I want to make a piece of content about this. There are no originals ideas. There's no originality. People want to be original. I want to break through. I want my own niche. I want my own lane. They're all fucking taken. They've all been done. What's not been done is you. Fully you. There's 800 people I can listen to right now live talking about sports. But I pick the person that I like. Their vibe, their energy, their slang terms, their uniqueness, their visuals, their yee haw, their subtleties. My friends, so many of you are not looking to post because you think you need some crazy strategy of originality or niche. They don't exist because the second you create it, someone will replicate it. There's a million Gary Vee's from the shit I did in 2013. You think you knew something original? You think Alex Earle was the first person to ever get ready with me? Thank you. Thank you everyone for that giggle. The fuck do you think is happening? You're the originality. You're the niche. You're it. You. So don't worry about people stealing anything. It's not yours. You stole it from someone. I love these people. What happens if a bigger person steals my shit? You stole your shit. What do you think? You just fucking never consumed everything everyone's affected by everyone? The fuck you think Michael Jackson made up that shit? James Brown? You think James Brown came up with fucking Little Richard? Like, this is just how it works. It's 2026, bad news. You weren't fucking born in 807 BC. You can't be original. It's over, it's a wrap. And people got unlimited, you know, complaints. You're a trust fund kid. I'm sure not. I made my parents trust fund kids because I built a business for them. People gonna look for their all sorts of like, excuses. You don't know my story, bro. I'm the furthest thing from a trust fund kid. You know nothing. This is what, you know, this, you know, this is where people don't, they don't get it. It's so interesting. Anyway, nonetheless, I mean, I'm a trust fund. I'm a perfect mother kid. I got here on the back of my mother being a remarkable parent. That's real. So anyway, ooh, I own a mustard company. I like that. The mustard life. Good for you. Emily. Great to see you. Yeah. Let's go. Let's go into questions for short form.
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Mackenzie
Content. Does niche matter anymore? Or can you just post whatever you want?
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Gary Vee
You can post whatever you want niche wide. Like, I don't understand how people don't understand that everything works. Broad works, niche works. But again, I just talked about it. The reason it works is you're uniquely you. You're uniquely you. You know, I don't understand how people don't get this. Like, name me every person out there Name them all and I'm gonna. Like Josh Hart and Jalen Brunson's podcast. You know, obviously it's niche by nature that they're Knicks players and Knick fans like that content, but there's a million athletes doing stuff.
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Mackenzie
How do I pick one lane and go after it if I'm finding a lot of success in so many side hustles that I start?
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Gary Vee
You don't have to. I have a million lanes too. What's the goal? Is the goal to maximize financial upside? Well, then you pick the lane that has the most financial upside. If the goal is to live your best life and be happy in what you do, well, then you pick that lane. That's what I do. I'm a juggler. The Friends VaynerMedia GaryVee brand fly fish and capons for the VCR group Winetext 5's pickleball Vayner sports VaynerWatt TV and film production. Do you want me to keep going? Like, who does what I'm doing? And I enjoy it. Now, If I put 100% of my energy into any of the companies I just mentioned, would that company do way better? Yes, of course it would. But that doesn't make me happy. You know, that doesn't make me happy. So that's it. Let's keep it going.
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Mackenzie
I'm feeling paralyzed by over analysis. Okay, what are the first couple things I can do to get out of it?
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Gary Vee
By realizing you're just insecure. The reason people overanalyze is they're scared to do. They're scared to do because they might lose. Like ppl3 just said, how to be confident in camera by being willing to go in front of the camera and get one view. Like, nothing hurts my feelings. Like nothing scares me. Right. We just had 1,000 viewers. Now we're down to 733. Because for some reason TikTok algorithm thought I did something. Somebody comes on goes, this guy has 15 million followers. Why does he only have 723 viewers? That doesn't affect me. Me, I don't understand why everyone's so affected by optics. Most people lease a car that they can't afford because they're worried about what people are going to say about their used car. I don't know what to say. You know, I really don't know what to say. Like, the reason you're over analyzing is you're. You're scared to do. You're using analyzing as the excuse to not play. I'm a perfectionist. You don't get it Gary. I'm a perfectionist. I'm like no, you're fucking insecure. Life is basic. Confidence, insecurity. Confidence, insecurity. Confidence, insecurity. Pessimism, optimism. Pessimism, optimism, Pessimism, optimism. This is why your youth is so impactful. Your framework of how you see the world is so impactful. But this is also why accountability is so impactful. Because if you blame your parents or your circumstances and you're 25 years old, when the fuck are you a grownup? Friends, can everybody answer? Can everybody answer in the comments right now on when you become a grownup? What's the official number?
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Courtney
18.
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Gary Vee
You think it's 18 court? Yeah, I mean you're allowed. I mean you feel like no, no, I know legally. When do you think I'll say it different Court. When do you feel like it is time to stop blaming your parents and everybody else. The government, the world. And you can say I can maneuver around it no matter what shortcomings I'm dealing with. Like I am capable. Like there's so many people crying. Rich people. I love it. Mandani, move, move so or like like but that's like politics. Let's talk parents. Let's talk like I'm not capable cause of my parents. When does that stop? When do you think? General number just for fun. Everybody please answer in here. What age are you like actually a grown up and it's time to shut your fucking mouth. By the way it doesn't mean you're wrong. This is the part that I don't think people understand. Like I have unlimited things I would love to tell you about what I'm mad about how I've been wronged by my family and others. I just don't think it's good. Energy therapy, good. Meditation, good. But crying around people all day long on social media and you're loser of friends or that one person that's an enabler of you because they love you. Nothing changes. So what age is that in the world that you need to make that line in the sand be like no more crying, more accountability and adjusting. What number do you have? We'll go reverse. What's your number? Real talk. 24. Cool. 21. 22. 21. 22. Kenz.
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Courtney
25.
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Gary Vee
25. 22. 22. 22 22. Naraya. 16. 16. That's fine. Raghav. 25. That's so funny. I actually this may surprise people. I'm actually on 25. I'll tell you why I think 16 to 22 for most people, you're still really transitioning from a child to a grownup. And I kinda wanna give grace to everybody for a couple of, like, I'm talking about me. You guys know me. I'm talking about my level. Like, shut. Like, no complaining, none. Zero. It even shows up in how I play basketball, right? Like, you know our pickup games, like when someone call. Like, you have to literally murder someone with a gun to get maybe a foul call when we play, like, it's my favorite thing. I join pickups that call unlimited fouls. And a year later, like, through my life, no fouls. No fouls. I like 25. Cause I think it gives people 22 to. It gives them 36 more months to be a bitch. And I like that because then you can be like, okay, but you're 25 now. You know what I mean? So I like 25. Ooh. Appeal approved. Let's go, let's go. This is a big day. 2026 is off to a huge chart, everybody. My appeal was approved, improved. We're gonna start growing. Everybody double click and hit the share button. We're back, everyone. We figured out the algorithm, you know, so I'm a big fan of 2025. I really. Excuse me. Of 25 years. I was a big fan of 2025, but I'm a bigger fan of being 25. This is only 14.99. Yes. Yeah. Oh, everybody, real quick now. I feel good about this. I need you to literally buy this. If you have a two to five year old in your life, put the number five in the chat. Tino Toys. Kenneth Orlok Van Lok jmail thank you all for buying this book. Thank you all for buying. When it says number two and number 10, is that their number purchases in the history of the store?
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Courtney
That's a great question.
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Gary Vee
I'm not sure. Find out for me.
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Courtney
No, it's Tino Toys purchased the number.
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Mackenzie
I think it's the product that's in the store.
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Gary Vee
Got it. Okay. Got it. Everybody, please check this out. All right, let's keep it going. Let's answer questions. You can go to anything. Go train. Can we go back to the age of. Yeah, becoming an adult. Finish that thought. I just think that 25 gave you, like, I wanna get everything out of the system. Like, I feel a bit. I view it as a cancer. And like, if you get most of the cancer out, but there's still cancer cells, God forbid, right? I feel like 22 to 25 is a great number because at 25, I feel like you have those last three years of, like, wah wah ing it out. Hey, everybody. Hope you're enjoying the podcast right now. Make sure you follow the podcast. That's why I'm interrupting. Let's keep going on this show, but follow the podcast. It'll make my mom super happy. And, like, 25, you know, there's a lot of research around the brain developing. You've kind of lived in the real world. You're in such a fantasy land if you go to college. Like, you're not in real life. Like, look what's happening to so many people that first year after college. Especially now with what's going on in college. We have, you know, McKenna's obviously got a huge degree. Like, I'm watching a lot of content right now. Like, like somebody was trying. There was a college football thing where, like, University of Georgia fan was making fun of the other fans, like, their degree, and I was like, fuck Georgia. Like, Ivy League students are, like, realizing, like, everything's shifting and, like, whether you're a great student, a poor student. Like, for both of us, 22 was like, whoa, new regime, right? And for me, that was great because I was horrible. Didn't even understand the system. Didn't know how to thrive in it. Others really know. Fuck, man. We lived through 50, 60 years where if you knew the school system, you were fucking coasting into something very cushy that you understood. I always say this. This is a good opportunity for me. I do not look down at great students. I don't look down or think that people that have good educations are bad. My big rant for the last 10 years was I was just worried that it wasn't guaranteed for two different groups. Definitely the one that I most talk to, which is if you collect debt and you're entrepreneurial and. Or creative. Yikes. And then if you're not going to a specific field, nursing, legal. Right. Those kind of things. That a generalist in a top school was coasting, but I thought was walking into an era where it was not as obvious. And I think we're there. I think historically I've looked right on this issue, and that doesn't mean anything to me, per se, but it's just an interesting observation. And so in general, I think we can win something here, especially with everyone here who's under 25 in the chat. Put under 25 in the chat right now. Everybody, please. I think everybody under 25 realizing two things. You know, how, like, at 18 to 22, back in the day, you knew you were going to get married you knew you were going to go to college, all those things. I actually think the healthiest thing we can do is actually make a big deal about 25 being the year you're now grown. No more complaining. Kind of like, I think for Everybody who's under 25. Could you imagine if it was that accepted by 8 billion people that 25, when you turn 25, you're now grown and shut your fucking mouth. Don't you feel in some weird way that would help everyone? Yeah, right, right. It'd be like. Then you could, like. Cause I feel like a lot of 22 year olds kinda know they're complaining, so they feel shitty about themselves. You see, McKenzie.
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Courtney
I was gonna say, I feel like it would take the pressure off.
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Gary Vee
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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Courtney
I feel like it would take pressure off because I feel like people come out of college and they're freaking out.
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Gary Vee
Like, I don't get together, I don't know what to do. Correct. Which is insane.
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Courtney
Beating me. But if you felt like, all right, I got till 25 to feel like what I am without a syllabus in my life.
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Gary Vee
That's right. Then you could. It gives a little grace. And I will say this, like, too many people are caught up into. I don't have a significant other, I don't have a child, I don't have cash. Right. Let's talk about the 20s more. What's fucking up 20s? I don't have a significant other, I don't have a child, or I don't have. And child's kind of now pushed into 30s. But don't get it twisted. There's a lot. How many people here live in a culture, whether it's your own house or your neighborhood where you're a woman and you're expected, there's social pressure to have a child in your 20s. How many of you are there? Say, that's me. So I think there's. Again, not in LA and New York, but look, look. Right. You know, there's a lot of people that feel that. So you've got a. Everybody, I think, feels in their 20s, especially as they get older. I don't have a significant other. I don't have as much cash as I wanted. Some add another thing. I don't have a child. My other friends have children. I don't. So we got these three things that are really there and, you know, I wish we could. I don't have anything to say on that. I have one thing to say on something much more narrow. When you're 25, all the things you're upset about, money, significant other, anything else. That's the year you can't blame your parents anymore. That's the rule I think we can establish. You can't blame your parents. You can't blame the system. Like, that's what's. Look, this happened in the 60s with the hippie movement, and it's happening again right now in youth culture. Everybody wants to blame the boomers, the government and corporations, and it's not gonna work out. Cause they always exist, and they're everywhere. Like, what are you gonna do? It's like trying to eliminate competition. It's a human trait. There's going to be government, there's going to be corporations, there's gonna be politicians. And my big thing that I don't understand is the people that have been crying for 10 years in New York City. I can't wait for Mandani's four years to work out. I have no clue how good or bad of a job he's gonna do. I just don't know him well enough. It's a huge job for a young dude. I wish him nothing. I wish everybody, by the way, wish everybody well. Why wouldn't I? Why would I not wish someone to do well? Right. I'm aware that people see things different, but here's my simple question. At the end of these next four years, there's gonna be a lot of people that voted for him that are gonna be complaining, just like there's a lot of people that voted for Trump that are complaining right now. Trump's had six years now, so, like, politicians, you know, parents. I just like 25 being the year where you're like, I can do it all. That is, yes, your parents are fucked up. By the way. One of the great mistakes of my life is trying to change a parent. I've spent 25 years of my life. Excuse me, 35 years of my life trying to change my dad. Big mistake. I've learned real talk. I've had a great positive impact on my dad, but the energy put in. And I would do it again, but I would do it more thoughtfully. I would do it in a manner of, like, it would be less looking for an outcome. And I'm bringing that to work, too. Like, I'm trying to be a little bit more thoughtful. I have way too much of a superhero therapist syndrome in me, which I'm proud of. It makes me very likable, but it doesn't necessarily bring as much value to the individual as maybe my ideology has thought. And it's come at the detriment of me emotionally at times. So I don't know, it's super fun but I think this 25 year old non blame thing is really powerful. It doesn't mean that society's not fucked up. Like America or New York City has 17,000 things wrong with it but so does every other corner of the world. It just depends on what you want to think is fucked up. I think 8th place trophies is fucked up and leads to deep depression. Most people don't believe that. Now it's starting to get a little momentum. So War boy said I finally stopped. Hey, actually that's a good one. Anybody here who's under 50 who stopped blaming everyone at some point in their life and it changed their life dramatically, like in a real, real way. Can you please give that story real now in the chat while I say hi for a minute. Hi, Kevin Foray, thank you for joining. Josh 2.0, thank you for joining. Patrick Gen Z, thank you for joining. Tina E. Thank you for joining. India, thank you for joining. Coach Andy, thank you for joining. Next. Thank you for joining. Install. Tanya Lurz, Colleen Hunter, everybody, thank you for joining. I'm Gary Vee, I'm an entrepreneur, I'm a content creator. I'm extremely excited about being here with all of you. Savage Fiji, thank you for I'm good train. Thank you though because I'm gonna go to something else. Everybody, top left corner, in the top left corner of your screen right now. If you click my face, top left, full top left. If you don't follow me on TikTok, please click my face and follow. But more importantly, hit the bell. Hit the bell, Hit the bell. So you get notifications. Who here has just joined for the first time, who's never seen me before, doesn't really follow me and is enjoying themselves. Who's here for the first time and enjoying themselves. It's either your first time ever seeing me or you don't really follow me and you're enjoying yourself. Say first time and enjoying say first time and enjoying. For all of you, top left corner, click my face, hit the bell, Hit the follow button. The bell will make sure that because I'm gonna go live a lot on TikTok this year and I wanna hang with you. Miki, thank you so much for that. Megq, thank you for joining. Jim, thank you, thank you. Not first time. Thank you. Tinker sports dweeb. I'm Gary Vee, first time entrepreneur, businessman, content creator.
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Courtney
I changed my answer from 22 to 25.
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Gary Vee
You did?
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Mackenzie
Yeah.
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Gary Vee
You Liked my logic?
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Courtney
Yeah, because I think. Because, I mean, like, me personally, like, I stopped complaining at 25. Well, ish.
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Gary Vee
Ish.
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Courtney
Have stopped complaining at 25. And I think, like, that rule would have helped me stop complaining more just by getting great.
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Gary Vee
That's, you know, when you give grace to yourself and when you realize this is a big one for you. Court not to call you out. But I just. I want this for everyone. And it's a big one. It's a huge one for my dad and sister, too. And it's the thing that I got lucky, that I really understood naturally. And I didn't understand a lot of things. I made a lot of mistakes. When you realize you can only control how you react to someone else's energy, like, that changes everything. And especially if you're lucky enough. You were lucky enough to have someone like me saying, hey, don't worry about XYZ or xyz. You can come to me if you can control, like. Cause you don't. None of you. Matt, you just joined the team. None of you really know why someone's doing something. You've made up a narrative to why they're doing something. They're trying to get closer to Garrett and take my job. It's all that stuff, but you don't really know. And I think, like, for example, why my life is happy is I just default into they're hurting or. That's not even the intent. I'll give you a great story. 90 out of 100 times in incidents in my career with my father in the liquor store, something would happen. And I would say, Ricky wasn't coming from a bad place. And my dad would say, Ricky was coming from. From a bad place. Got it. Hundred things happened. My dad says, Ricky's coming from a bad place, trying to get us. Trying to get us. I'm coming like, no, no, no. He's not even that smart. It's all just good nature to just right. 90 out of 100 times I was right. My dad hangs his hat on the 10 times he was right. I didn't even care the 10 times that someone was trying to do something wrong. Cause I was in control of how I'd reach Act one of my best friends at wine library, a kid that, like, I'll give you the comp. The Tyler of Wine library in shipping figured out a very minuscule loophole and stole almost a half a million dollars worth of product and money from our company over 18 months. My dad wanted to put him in jail immediately, and I wanted to know what was wrong with him? Punchline of the story was he hurt his back at the store and he started taking pain medicine. And then he got addicted to pain drugs. And then he needed to fund his drug habit, so he blamed the store. Got it right. That's just a story of life. I reacted to that gentleman with love, even though he directly to my face. The Tyler, not the train who's new, right? Not the Charlie who's the Tyler of Wine. Library stole that. And company can't really afford all that stealing. It's a low margin business. I'm in control. You know. Louder, Raghav. When you said that he would change your dad but not do it based on the outcome, how would you do that? The way you did it with me the other day. Raghav, the other day you and I had a meeting and you said, gary, I want you to be less passive aggressive and razzing. I don't think your whole life is in me being less passive aggressive. I think you'd like me to be more canderous. You think it's gonna be good for the team and where we're going. But I don't think you're like, whole. I think you'll deal with me. First of all, I'm a pretty good guy. Like, you know what I mean? I think there's a lot of good that comes with me. Sorry, Rockhort, like, but like, you were like. To me, my whole life was wrapped up in getting my dad happy. And that's just too big of a task for a child. Plus, you can't be a full. Like, you can't even be a great. Even if you are naturally a good therapist, you can't be the therapist of your father. Like, there's too many dynamics. There's too much baggage. My dad says anything about my mom, I'm gonna fucking destroy his face. You know, that happened a lot. So, you know, like. Anyway, Nonetheless, you see what I mean? A little bit like, Raghav, you know this in business. Why am I a gangster? I'm detached. I'm detached like people come in here. Gary, you're the goat. Detached, hence I have humility. Gary, you fell off. Gary, you look old. Gary, you suck. Gary, you're a scammer. I'm detached. Thus I have confidence I can keep going. But with my father, I wasn't detached. With clients, with employees, I'm detached enough. I do fall in love with my team, but, like, I can be detached. It's not my father. And so there's. It makes it palpable. Makes it easy for me to navigate. You know what I mean? If I don't deliver for your request, Raghav, as an advancement of my role, you have the ability to quit. But if I was your dad, you don't quit your dad. Even when you no longer speak to a parent, a sibling or a child, you do not speak to them. You have not spoken for 10 years. You didn't quit them. They're in your mind all the time. Who here is unfortunately in a situation where they have not talked to a loved one for more than two years. Please say in the chat who that is and how long. Cause I'm gonna use you chat to help everybody else. There's a thousand of us in here, you know, which is really tough. Airstrike. My dad five years, my dad three years. My mother 26 years. For everybody who just answered with times. Can you also tell everybody that you haven't completely, like, you're not completely detached? It's still there. It's still there. You may not be physically talking, but it's there. Right? And a lot of people, by the way, for a lot of you who just answered, a lot of you are keeping that poison and pain in your body. You being the bigger person. Even if you're 100% right on the conflict. And texting them and saying I'm sorry, I miss you and I wish you well will liberate you. It's not them winning the fight. It's you winning a happier life. Poison is bad. You've drawn a line in the sand. In fact, most of you are similar to the person you canceled. Cause it's too detangle. I've been wronged plenty. I just had the emotional capacity to be the bigger person and swallow my pride. Cause it's not that serious. It's really not even like even some of the scary shit. Here's my thing. Some people fight over money, like literally money or like pride, ego. There's people that have been able to forgive their parents for real heinous shit. Heinous. Heinous. Do you know what kind of emotional strength and grace and humanity you have to have to forgive a parent that has done the stuff that I'm not even gonna say out loud from an energy standpoint, like the heinous stuff. Heinous. There are humans that have been able to forgive with leaning on religion or therapy, have been able to forgive heinous acts. And you haven't talked to your cousin for seven years because he tried to hook up with your girlfriend and you haven't talked to your mom because she stole 500 bucks from your bank account. You're hurting. You don't see it. Forgiveness, my friends, I'm going to end with this. Everybody, please click top left corner, click my face, follow. I'm going to be on tonight. I'm going to be on tonight around 8pm so please click top left corner. Hit my face. Hit the bell. When this ends, there'll be a screen for you to get notifications. So as soon as this ends, you can click the middle of the screen and get notifications. I'm going to end with this. Forgiveness and humility. Oh, I like that. Fu. The fu, my friends, the FU is the great opportunity for joy in life. Forgiveness. Right? And what was the other one? Humility. Oh, humility. It's fh. Fh. My break, guys. This is why I got bad grades. Humility and forgiveness. Yeah, I get it still, but it didn't work out the way I wanted anyway. Nonetheless, listen, my brain broke in the end here. The FH opportunity is tremendous. If you lean. If you lean into forgiveness and you lean into humility, your life will be remarkable. Thank you for this ghost that's pulling my face, my confidence, my conviction, my competitiveness, my energy, my charisma, my smarts, all of it is garbage compared to my forgiveness capability and my humility. I stand on the shoulders of my mother's DNA and parenting that allowed me to be a monster at forgiving and a monster in humility. All the other stuff is amazing, but I promise you, those two will matter. So love you guys. Everybody, if you enjoyed this podcast, please go back and look at the prior episodes. They're loaded. I appreciate your attention and thanks for being part of this journey. See you later.