Gary Vee (32:30)
That's, you know, when you give grace to yourself and when you realize this is a big one for you. Court not to call you out. But I just. I want this for everyone. And it's a big one. It's a huge one for my dad and sister, too. And it's the thing that I got lucky, that I really understood naturally. And I didn't understand a lot of things. I made a lot of mistakes. When you realize you can only control how you react to someone else's energy, like, that changes everything. And especially if you're lucky enough. You were lucky enough to have someone like me saying, hey, don't worry about XYZ or xyz. You can come to me if you can control, like. Cause you don't. None of you. Matt, you just joined the team. None of you really know why someone's doing something. You've made up a narrative to why they're doing something. They're trying to get closer to Garrett and take my job. It's all that stuff, but you don't really know. And I think, like, for example, why my life is happy is I just default into they're hurting or. That's not even the intent. I'll give you a great story. 90 out of 100 times in incidents in my career with my father in the liquor store, something would happen. And I would say, Ricky wasn't coming from a bad place. And my dad would say, Ricky was coming from. From a bad place. Got it. Hundred things happened. My dad says, Ricky's coming from a bad place, trying to get us. Trying to get us. I'm coming like, no, no, no. He's not even that smart. It's all just good nature to just right. 90 out of 100 times I was right. My dad hangs his hat on the 10 times he was right. I didn't even care the 10 times that someone was trying to do something wrong. Cause I was in control of how I'd reach Act one of my best friends at wine library, a kid that, like, I'll give you the comp. The Tyler of Wine library in shipping figured out a very minuscule loophole and stole almost a half a million dollars worth of product and money from our company over 18 months. My dad wanted to put him in jail immediately, and I wanted to know what was wrong with him? Punchline of the story was he hurt his back at the store and he started taking pain medicine. And then he got addicted to pain drugs. And then he needed to fund his drug habit, so he blamed the store. Got it right. That's just a story of life. I reacted to that gentleman with love, even though he directly to my face. The Tyler, not the train who's new, right? Not the Charlie who's the Tyler of Wine. Library stole that. And company can't really afford all that stealing. It's a low margin business. I'm in control. You know. Louder, Raghav. When you said that he would change your dad but not do it based on the outcome, how would you do that? The way you did it with me the other day. Raghav, the other day you and I had a meeting and you said, gary, I want you to be less passive aggressive and razzing. I don't think your whole life is in me being less passive aggressive. I think you'd like me to be more canderous. You think it's gonna be good for the team and where we're going. But I don't think you're like, whole. I think you'll deal with me. First of all, I'm a pretty good guy. Like, you know what I mean? I think there's a lot of good that comes with me. Sorry, Rockhort, like, but like, you were like. To me, my whole life was wrapped up in getting my dad happy. And that's just too big of a task for a child. Plus, you can't be a full. Like, you can't even be a great. Even if you are naturally a good therapist, you can't be the therapist of your father. Like, there's too many dynamics. There's too much baggage. My dad says anything about my mom, I'm gonna fucking destroy his face. You know, that happened a lot. So, you know, like. Anyway, Nonetheless, you see what I mean? A little bit like, Raghav, you know this in business. Why am I a gangster? I'm detached. I'm detached like people come in here. Gary, you're the goat. Detached, hence I have humility. Gary, you fell off. Gary, you look old. Gary, you suck. Gary, you're a scammer. I'm detached. Thus I have confidence I can keep going. But with my father, I wasn't detached. With clients, with employees, I'm detached enough. I do fall in love with my team, but, like, I can be detached. It's not my father. And so there's. It makes it palpable. Makes it easy for me to navigate. You know what I mean? If I don't deliver for your request, Raghav, as an advancement of my role, you have the ability to quit. But if I was your dad, you don't quit your dad. Even when you no longer speak to a parent, a sibling or a child, you do not speak to them. You have not spoken for 10 years. You didn't quit them. They're in your mind all the time. Who here is unfortunately in a situation where they have not talked to a loved one for more than two years. Please say in the chat who that is and how long. Cause I'm gonna use you chat to help everybody else. There's a thousand of us in here, you know, which is really tough. Airstrike. My dad five years, my dad three years. My mother 26 years. For everybody who just answered with times. Can you also tell everybody that you haven't completely, like, you're not completely detached? It's still there. It's still there. You may not be physically talking, but it's there. Right? And a lot of people, by the way, for a lot of you who just answered, a lot of you are keeping that poison and pain in your body. You being the bigger person. Even if you're 100% right on the conflict. And texting them and saying I'm sorry, I miss you and I wish you well will liberate you. It's not them winning the fight. It's you winning a happier life. Poison is bad. You've drawn a line in the sand. In fact, most of you are similar to the person you canceled. Cause it's too detangle. I've been wronged plenty. I just had the emotional capacity to be the bigger person and swallow my pride. Cause it's not that serious. It's really not even like even some of the scary shit. Here's my thing. Some people fight over money, like literally money or like pride, ego. There's people that have been able to forgive their parents for real heinous shit. Heinous. Heinous. Do you know what kind of emotional strength and grace and humanity you have to have to forgive a parent that has done the stuff that I'm not even gonna say out loud from an energy standpoint, like the heinous stuff. Heinous. There are humans that have been able to forgive with leaning on religion or therapy, have been able to forgive heinous acts. And you haven't talked to your cousin for seven years because he tried to hook up with your girlfriend and you haven't talked to your mom because she stole 500 bucks from your bank account. You're hurting. You don't see it. Forgiveness, my friends, I'm going to end with this. Everybody, please click top left corner, click my face, follow. I'm going to be on tonight. I'm going to be on tonight around 8pm so please click top left corner. Hit my face. Hit the bell. When this ends, there'll be a screen for you to get notifications. So as soon as this ends, you can click the middle of the screen and get notifications. I'm going to end with this. Forgiveness and humility. Oh, I like that. Fu. The fu, my friends, the FU is the great opportunity for joy in life. Forgiveness. Right? And what was the other one? Humility. Oh, humility. It's fh. Fh. My break, guys. This is why I got bad grades. Humility and forgiveness. Yeah, I get it still, but it didn't work out the way I wanted anyway. Nonetheless, listen, my brain broke in the end here. The FH opportunity is tremendous. If you lean. If you lean into forgiveness and you lean into humility, your life will be remarkable. Thank you for this ghost that's pulling my face, my confidence, my conviction, my competitiveness, my energy, my charisma, my smarts, all of it is garbage compared to my forgiveness capability and my humility. I stand on the shoulders of my mother's DNA and parenting that allowed me to be a monster at forgiving and a monster in humility. All the other stuff is amazing, but I promise you, those two will matter. So love you guys. Everybody, if you enjoyed this podcast, please go back and look at the prior episodes. They're loaded. I appreciate your attention and thanks for being part of this journey. See you later.
