Audience Member / Caller 2 (3:25)

So, got a question from Wayne Adams. How would you handle being the main supporter for your family, but you hate what you do even though it makes money?

Gary Vaynerchuk (3:34)

That's a really good question, Wayne. Wayne, this is just called being a grownup and eating crap for the betterment of your family. I think this is a real grown adult process a lot of us have gone through. There have been many times through my life, especially my life, where I've been really the financial driver for many everybody around me. It's called living life. You know, like our pain tolerance is a direct correlation sometimes to the life we live. I mean, there's so many of us right now that are providing, and you're providing emotionally, you're providing financially. And you know, what I would say is to make sure that you don't create a level of resentment. This is why I've become infatuated with. With people learning how to use this. I'm really happy that CryptoDaddy and Treyway100 just bought this. I hope it helps them. I think that the fact that all of us, if this was 1984 tea with Gary Vee, I'd say, Wayne, suck it up. You're a man. Literally. Because Wayne would have to work 9 to 6 and there'd be no really real way without Wayne taking a high risk of quitting and trying to get another job for Wayne to Set himself up. The fact that we live in a world right now where you can use social media content, LinkedIn especially to produce content or reach out to people via social to create your other job opportunity that you don't need recruiters coming to you, you could be the recruiter for yourself is a real gift. This whole 6:00pm, you know, this whole 6:00pm or even if you want to eat dinner, be with the family, have a little leisure, call it this 9pm to 5 in the morning economy and obviously you need sleep. So five in the morning is a little bit of a hyperbole. But I would say for the people that are unhappy, like Wayne, who's providing for his family but he's unhappy that I would say that 9pm to midnight is one of the remarkable three hours in our society right now. I believe that 9pm to midnight is one of the most important three hours. I could argue, I could argue that 9pm to Midnight is one of the most important three Hours, if not the most important three hours of the unhappy, unfulfilled, struggling concerned in our society right now. Because from 9pm to midnight, between LinkedIn and the other social networks, you can start creating the other opportunities for yourself to get out of the hole you're in. 9pm to midnight might be the most important three hour window in a 24 hour day for those who are frustrated, resentful, struggling, not fulfilled, unhappy. On the flip side, curious, determined, hopeful and ambitious. Because a lot of us have to do things 9 to 5, 9 to 6, 9 to 7 and a lot of us also worry about work, life, balance, some sort of, you know, reality of providing the emotional and time for our spouse, our partner, our girlfriend, our boyfriend, our husband, our wife, our son, our daughter, our parents. So fine, I'm giving you six to nine. But this 9pm to midnight is the three hour window to flip the switch and I highly recommend people get more serious about it. Thank you for picking up the book. If you want to get better at social media, if you want to learn how to get better at social media, if you need to get better at social media content, the book is here. Look at Russ. Look at Russ in the book. Look at Russ making an appearance in the book. Day trading. Attention pinned below. The perfect gift for yourself. Also, if you're a collector who's a Pokemon or Marvel or Disney collector, say Pokemon, Disney, Marvel. Check out the comic books. Next question.

Audience Member / Caller 1 (7:33)

Team how can I tell my mom that is the same age as you that she still has time to build something? She's a kindergarten Teacher and not really happy with her job. I encourage her to post content about parenting, but she's scared of being judged.

Gary Vaynerchuk (7:45)

I mean, it's the same old game, right? Like, you have to get her to listen to my podcast. All of you should be checking out my podcast, GaryVee Podcast. Search that right now on ChatGPT or Google. Make sure you do that right now. How many of you are actually, let's be honest, right now, all 888 of you. Good little number. How many of you are subscribed on Apple or Spotify to my podcast? Say yes podcast. Say no podcast. I need all 900 answers right now. Say yes podcast. No podcast. Here's where I'm going with it. Whether it's the GaryVee podcast, which I would love all of you to get on, or some other. Your mom needs positivity and encouragement, accountability and push in her ears. That's what listen. That's all that life is. All that life is is your mindset, your perspective, how you see the world, the audio that runs through your head. Self doubt, self love, opportunity, cynicism. I'm 50, she's 50. She thinks it's over. I don't even think I've started. That's real. And I don't believe that. A lot of you believe that. I believe that. I don't believe that a lot of you believe me when I say that. I don't feel like I've just started. I'm aware of my accomplishments, but I genuinely feel they've been foundational to what I'm doing next. How many people here are under 40 and feel like it's over? Like they've made their bed, they have to sleep in it. They pick the job, they pick the person. They picked where they live. Like, how many of you under 40? Say, that's me. Say that's me. And then put your age number on the right. That's me. And then put your age number. That's me. I'm 47. That's me. I'm 39. Put that's me. I need all of you to say, yeah. I mean, like, when I see Tiger Josh, say, that's me. And I'm 37. That's me. I'm 39. That's me. I'm39. Like, you could see a lot of 30s. You know, it's crazy to me. You know, at 34 years old, I worked in a liquor store, had never made business content or just started making business content. Like, I don't think people get it. Like, you know, and I know all of you have seen this content for me over and over and over and over again. I don't care if you listen to me. You're not my sister. You know like, you know like when people push back at me, like, you think I care. I care in general. But I don't know you. I don't know saps, Robo, I don't know everyone in here. Like I don't know you like that. I'd like to know you. This is why we hang out on tea with Gary Vee. I'm desperate. This is why I allocate my time, which is my biggest asset, to do this in the morning on December 15th. Like, I do this, I do this, but I don't know how to get you there unless you constantly listen to it over and over until it breaks through. How many people here, no bullshit, please put in the chat, have broken through mentally, have gone from cynical to positive because of therapy? Who you hang out with, who you've cut out, who's had a breakthrough? Say I've broken through. Say I've broken through in the chat because I need people to see others. You see me, Everybody look in the chat right now. Like, people can break through, but to answer to your mom, Like, I need you to listen to my podcast every day, but not me. Not this selfish. Like, listen to my podcast me, meaning someone like me. I don't care if you listen to me or any of the other thousands of people on the Internet that provide positive and practical, accountable and hopeful content. I really don't care. I really don't care. Meaning I'd love for you to listen to me, but I really don't care if it's me or someone else. But I need you to tune out negativity. Like, I don't know what else to say. It is very clear to me what's going on. If you hang out with negative people, cynical people, non hopeful people, non ambitious people, like that OG shit your great grandmother told you of, like you are, who you surround yourself with is true. And the problem is most of you surround yourself right now with social media and mainstream media content that is scaring you. Both sides of the political aisle are doing the same thing. Globally, both sides are doing the same thing. They're scaring you. Everyone's cynical, everyone's become super over coddled. So we're blaming. So you're scared and you're blaming. Do you know that there's actually kids that are Gen Z that actually blame boomers? Like, actually like there's actually random 2734 year olds who are like, it's the 80 year old's fault. That's insanity. It's exhausting. So I don't know, like, what I would tell your mama is start listening to optimistic, offense oriented people. That's why offense oriented orangutan is one of my favorite veefriends. Offense oriented orangutan is really deep. Who's a Vee friends collector here? Say veefriends. It's one of the ones that are super under the radar. If people have been following veefriends for a long time, they know I rarely talk about the offense oriented orangutan. Right. But it's one of my favorite characters. I call him Triple O. Triple O is a beast. Like, who's offense oriented? Like, almost everything that comes out of my mouth is offense oriented. That's it, man. That's what we need to be. All right, let's keep it going. Next question.

Audience Member / Caller 3 (13:04)

Okay, this question is from Rochelle. How do you find work life balance while you have anxiety that you're not.

Gary Vaynerchuk (13:09)

Doing enough by giving yourself grace, by realizing there's no such thing as work life balance? This morning I was actually thinking, I was like, you know, we're at that time. You know, I'm like, was 25 a good year? Like, do I feel good about it? Like, how do I feel like I did? Reality is, is like, there's no perfect year. Like, in hindsight sometimes, like, for example, I might in seven years look back at 25 and be like, oh, that was a good year. Right? I started doing live. That can be one, right? You know, there's a lot of ways to think about it. I'm just in the business of loving myself. Like, real talk, but holding myself accountable and not being delusional. It's this really interesting balance of, like, I know I'm trying and that is enough. Like, I know I'm trying and that's enough. And I want all of you there. Like, if you're really trying and you're coming from a good place and you've got a balance of, like, trying to do right by you and your family, but also care about others. Like, even just how nice I am in public, like, opening a door, saying hi, or smiling at people makes me feel very fulfilled. Makes me feel good about myself. Makes me feel like I'm trying to leave a positive deposit in a world that's passionate about doing the reverse. But I don't get delusional. Like, a lot of, like, you could like yourself, you can be nice, but laying on your couch all day and, like, watching porn and, like, you're probably not being productive. You could be, like, laying around and just gambling on polymarket and, like, DraftKings and fanatics betting and, like, that's probably not productive. You could be, like, laying on your couch and your mom is giving you money and you're just watching like, Elf for the 15th time in the last two weeks. Like, that's probably not productive. So there's a level of like, like loving yourself but also holding yourself accountable. I don't know why so many of you struggle with the balance of loving yourself, but holding yourself accountable. Because I feel like when people hear holding yourself accountable, they hear it in their mind of, like, shit on yourself for sucking. Like, when I talk about patience, people get all shook. Like, Gary Vee. Like, I see the comments. You guys see it, right? This advice. Isn't it like, you gotta go hard. Like, motherfucker, I'm going harder than you. There's no one who's left a comment that says, gary's wrong. You have to go hard. Has gone harder than me. I. I feel it. Not one person. But I think people are struggling with the balance. So how do I answer this person? Very easily. And by the way, yesterday is over. If yesterday you sucked, if yesterday was a bad day, if yesterday you were like, I blew this whole year. I blew my whole life. It really doesn't matter. Today's always day one. Today's day one, y'. All. For example, no mas Michael Sicilian DeMarcus Collection and Acton Prompting all bought this book probably to day one. Next year they're gonna read it and they're gonna get better at social media content and they can start winning. All right, next question.

Audience Member / Caller 2 (16:09)

Alex Asky. I'm 23. I'm 23 and I'm struggling to figure out my career. I want to build something for myself, but my girlfriend of four years mostly get married and move out soon and expect me to work on a traditional job. I don't know what to do.

Gary Vaynerchuk (16:22)

Any advice? 9pm to midnight. You could do both. I don't understand how people don't realize you can do both. You can work nine to five and then you can work in the evening. Now, first of all, your girlfriend since you were 18, and now you're 22. You guys are young. I know that's how they did it in the old days. And you might be immigrant life, and that's how you still do it. I get it. But I would just say outside Pressure is always wrong. You can't live your life based on what your girlfriend, fiance, future wife wants you to do. Even if you love her more than breathing itself. Because there will be resentment that builds from that. I'm about to drop a bomb this morning. Many of you that are peeper pleasers must protect yourself from resenting those that you're pleasing and then blaming them for it. I'm going to say that again. Many of you that are people pleasers must protect yourself from resenting those that you're doing the people pleasing for, only to then blame them for it when you decided to do it. This has been a vulnerability of mine through my life's journey. You are deciding to please someone else. Your mom, your dad, your husband, your wife, your boyfriend, your girlfriend, your child. You've decided to please someone else and not from a place of insecurity. You just have a lot of warmth in your heart. I don't. People please. Cause I want you to like me. I actually don't give a fuck if any of you like me. I like to. People please. Cause I'm in a good place and I like fulfills me. Yeah, I get it, J. Chapp. But it's really, really important, you know, like, you're absolutely right. That's what so many people can get caught on. Like, I'm telling all of you, you have to be very careful. And this is why we're talking about it. I like you too. The man. I need all of you to understand this. You can't blame others when you people please and then you resent them. You must be accountable. You must be accountable. That's it. Accountability matters. A lot of you have to check yourselves. We need more humility, more self awareness. I really hope this helps someone this morning. I really hope this helps someone this morning. This is real stuff. A lot of you pointing fingers when it's actually thumbs. All right, I'm gonna talk to the chat for a little bit. Just talking to the chat a little bit. Everybody in the chat. Chrissy says, wow, I've never looked at it like that before. See, that's what I'm here for. See, Christy just made my whole morning. And these little angles, like, all life is is how you see it. All life is is how you see it. That's all. There is no life besides how you see it. People think there's right. I laugh at this. People think there's right and wrong. People think life is black and white. How many of you struggle with wanting life to be black and white? How many of you see life black and white? How many of you see, think life is black and white? How many do you, how many people here want others to see life black and white? How many say black and white in the chat? If you're one of those people, I need it. I need it. I need you to own it. It's easy behind the screen, own it. How many people here are disappointed by other people? Other people disappoint you. JoJo says, wow, Gary, you look tired and stuff. No, no, no, Jojo, it's just I'm 50 now and I don't use face cream and I'm not doing the, I'm not doing the facelift thing. I'm not doing it. I'm not doing the plastic surgery. Look, you'll never believe it. Like I can make myself look better, but I just not where I'm about. How many of you are disappointed by others? I'm telling you, I'm telling you, be careful. Too many expectations, too much insecurity. If you're constantly disappointed by people, there's too much ego. There's too much insecurity. That's you. If you're disappointed by others, it's not them, it's you. Cool, let's keep going.

Audience Member / Caller 1 (20:37)

David asks. My girlfriend and I have totally changed our lives in the last three years. We hardly drink, don't take drugs, just bought a house and had a baby. Recently we feel like all the friends we accumulated being young and crazy are dwindling as we're living a better life. But we haven't yet found our new like minded friends. Is it still worth trying to make an effort with our old friends even though it seems like we have less and less in common as we're growing?

Gary Vaynerchuk (21:00)

You know, friendship comes in different levels. I think we can all agree with that. Right everybody? You all agree like, right? You have like super deep friends that feel like direct family. Then there's the next tier underneath that. They don't feel like family, but they're like really good friends. It's awesome, it's light, it's good. Then there's that next tier of like it's kind of in the middle. Then there's one lower that I would call is borderline acquaintance and service level. But you're always thrilled to run into them twice a year and be like, yeah, right, that's it. You know, maybe those friends that were drugs and party and nightlife were used to be deepest when you were in the same shit together. And maybe they can convert into light. You can see them Once or twice a year, reminisce. Old stories catch up. Maybe because you're in a stronger mental place, maybe you can become that for those friends, maybe you can become the North Star. Maybe you can talk through how you got there. Maybe you can call them out of like, hey, like, cut the cocaine out of your life. Like, maybe you can be that person. So that's how I answer that. There's layers to relationships. Again, this is back to black and white. Some people are like, either, like, I know a lot of people in my own life. If you're not like best friends and deep and it's like deep, then it's nothing. And I'm like, fuck, man. Where the layers. A lot of people are like, man, if I can't be authentic and real and like deep with a friend, then it's zero. It's like literally 100 or zero. And those people tend to have no friends. I'm a little bit more like. There's different levels to the game. 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. 5, 4, 2 and 1. By the way, I hate when you evaluate employees or other things. Random thing. You have to get rid of the number in the middle. If you evaluate employees, managers, if you have like an evaluation system of like 5, 4, 3, 2, 1, get rid of 3. Everybody evaluates at 3. Get rid of the 3, force them into a 4 or 2. Little side thing while we're here. All right, let's keep going.

Audience Member / Caller 3 (23:09)

Question from Michael. How would you handle working two jobs while trying to get a business off the ground? Some days I just don't have the physical energy because my body will literally shut down. And I want to ensure that I'm taking care of myself health wise.

Gary Vaynerchuk (23:20)

Patience. Like, there's plenty of times where my body's tired and I go super hard and I go to sleep. I love a good go to sleep at 9, wake up at 8. I think I've slept 11 hours twice in the last 30 days. 11. You like that brain? Yeah. You didn't see that coming, huh? Yeah, man. I listen to my body all day. I have unlimited ambitions. But I don't get this, like, when do people think it's over? Everybody just wants it too fast. Lack of patience. This is why I talk about patience all day. All right, let's keep it going.

Audience Member / Caller 2 (24:00)

Clark is asking what is more important to you as a leader? Challenging your employees with new tasks to grow or making sure to give them tasks that they excel at?

Gary Vaynerchuk (24:09)

The answer is, and both of those things matter to me, the most. Players in a position to succeed, create paths to stretch them, to learn about them and get context of what they're good and not good at. By the way, when I give new employees new tasks, different things to do, I don't necessarily need them to be great at it. I want to create opportunity for them for career growth, and I want to get context on their ability. But I'm not disappointed. They do not lose when they fail at new tasks. And sometimes I'll go back to the same person and give them a third up or second or fourth bite at that apple. Got it. So, employees, if you've got a great boss, if you fail at a new task, sometimes it's not a bad thing. All right, go ahead.

Audience Member / Caller 1 (25:00)

So last week on LinkedIn, we did a poll that said, what is the number one reason that you would leave your job for work, life, balance and difficult boss, salary or other? After 10,000 votes, the number one answer at 48% was a difficult boss. Any reaction to that?

Gary Vaynerchuk (25:15)

Makes a lot of sense to me. Like, I mean, to me that's exactly right. Like, I think most people leave jobs for a difficult boss or more money somewhere else. That makes sense. That's the way it should be. Right? Finances matter and happiness matters. It really kind of makes a lot of sense. And so, in fact, a lot of how many people in the chat have left a job for more money, got there, didn't like the boss as much, and then went back to their prior job for less money than their new job for the old salary or maybe an increase from the, like, something in between. How many people have done that? Say boomerang. Say boomerang. How many people have done that, had a job, left for more money, and then realized, wait a minute, this is unhappiness. And then went back, look how many people. Look at all these boomerangs. Look at that. And someone said, never go backwards. I actually don't think that's going backwards. I think that's going forward. I think that's you realizing your day to day happiness is more important than a couple more dollars. Dollars is not the only thing. Money's not the only thing in life. How many people think money's the only thing in life? Even people trolling, I feel hopefully won't say this in chat because then the gods of karma are gonna strike them down. Like, nobody believes that, you know, money matters. Please don't misunderstand what I'm saying. Money enables a lot of opportunities. But I mean, you know, someone said, never go backwards to that. I view that as forward. If you go through an experience where you go, that job is not as good and then you go back, back to the same amount or in between the two numbers. Or fuck, man, some people might have gone back to, you know, Jove, says a rich person. I love that. The number one weapon of like money doesn't matter. Oh, says the rich person is the number one loser shit to say in life just gonna go right at and poke you in the heart. Loser talk. It's just like it's weaponizing a lack of depth. Anyway, let's keep it going.

Audience Member / Caller 3 (27:31)

Okay, this question is from Vinit. In the coming era, organic social is a bang on thing. But apart from building your brand organically, what do you think will be the highest growing asset someone can own digitally right now? Especially with all the AI and Web 2.0 buzz happening?

Gary Vaynerchuk (27:44)

The highest asset is attention. You know, the highest asset is attention. Biggest asset in the world is attention. Amassing, it creates opportunity, right? Oh, Corso says pee with Gary Vee. I could do this show from the bathroom. Could be huge. Oh, this might be a good time to announce my new show. I'm launching a new show in 2026 called no Whining with Gary Vee. No whining or whining. What did I call it? Winding. No, I was thinking about winding down, but then I like no whining. Right? Where I taste a wine, it's gonna be a mix of AskGaryVee tea with GaryVee and Wine Library TV. It's gonna be basically this. But I'm also gonna be drinking a wine, reviewing that wine so that people can learn it, but then really being on like the no excuse kick. So anyway, I would say there's so many things. Let me break this down for everyone. Couple things to think about for everyone here. One, I highly recommend all of you focus on self awareness, right? Like self awareness. Self awareness, self awareness. What I mean by that is so many of you should focus on written content. So substack LinkedIn photos on Instagram with very long written captions. Audio. Some people are scared of video. Should be on audio, right? You know, like as I get older with the bags under my eyes, the comments are like, oh, you look tired, Gary, you look bad. I'm worried about you because people haven't seen me a little bit. Gray bags for a lot of people, that cripples them, makes them stop wanting to be on video. I'd like you all to go through self esteem building and be able to go up and persevere through that. But if you can't. You could still make content by doing audio, right? You could do audio or video. So I think for this person, you know, there's a lot of ways to attack this, but written word, audio and video are all. I do have a podcast. Who's the boss? Everybody please. Google or ChatGPT. GaryVee podcast. It's the GaryVee audio experience. It's on Spotify and Apple. Please subscribe. Let me know if you subscribe to my podcast during this show. Let me know. Let me know if you did that. All right, let's keep it going.

Audience Member / Caller 2 (30:05)

Donna's asking. I'm 66.

Gary Vaynerchuk (30:07)

66. I wish they were 67.

Audience Member / Caller 2 (30:11)

Worked two jobs for 24 years. Looking for suggestions to supplement my Social Security after I retire next year in July. Is something online really possible for another person?

Gary Vaynerchuk (30:21)

Yeah, of course. I mean, live social shopping is the answer. My number one thing for everybody who's watching right now as we go into 2026, I do believe the biggest opportunity for most of you, for the thousand of you that are watching right now, I believe the number one opportunity, number one opportunity is live social shopping. TikTok shop. TikTok affiliate whatnot. Twitch District, which is an app that lets you do live shopping. I'm an enormous fan of live shopping. This is QVC on social media. If you know what live shopping is, say live shopping. If you don't know, say don't know. In the chat. I need all 1000 of you to say it. Say live shopping or say don't know. I need all of you to learn this. I need all of you to try this. For everyone who's saying don't know, you just go into chatgpt or Google and type in what is live shopping. Live shopping is literally QVC or affiliate. TikTok has an insane affiliate program. The TikTok affiliate program is bananas. I highly recommend all of you figure out TikTok affiliate. This is where you literally get product in the mail. By the way, my comic books are gonna be part of the affiliate. You guys need this. You guys need this. You need to figure out what's going on with comics. Let me know if you picked up a veefriends product. The answer to that question was for that 66 year old woman is live shopping. Who here thinks they're a good salesman? You've worked retail, you've been a waiter and you were good at upselling. Who here thinks they're a good salesman? Say salesman. Who here thinks that they're a good salesman and does not know what live shopping is. Say sales but no live. Say sales but no live in the chat. These are people I want to talk to right now. Sales but no live. David Arugla, Mary hall, the Royal Family, Daniel J. Charles. I'm about to change so many lives right now. Every single person that said sales but no live has to Google and ChatGPT what live shopping is. You need to go live and start selling on TikTok. TikTok live shopping or on whatnot. You've got to figure this out. Everybody. Dana Tello says, I don't want to go live. You don't have to. Charles says, what do we sell? Anything. There's a ton of things in the affiliate store. You can do a garage sale. Every one of you can do a garage sale. Now again you're like, I don't know how. Just search it. Plus we're going to make a deck on like Live Shopping 101. That's a big focus of mine for January. All right, go ahead.

Audience Member / Caller 1 (32:54)

My son grew up wanting to be a YouTuber. First Gaming. I was always very supportive. He's 22 and refuses to try the software. I got him to record his gameplay. I know he probably needs someone to sit with him and figure out the software and encourage him, but I'm a woman of few words and honestly, it's more like nagging at this point. Can you give him a message of encouragement to make his dream a reality?

Gary Vaynerchuk (33:14)

Yeah, bro, stop being a. You're a. I don't know what to do, Aaron. I'm trying. I don't know, like clearly loving, you know, like, you have to understand like this is what the old school, like mom, dad dynamics. Why created such a good earth? There's the naturing and there's like, you know, like the push. Like you can't have two parents or two mentors who both just. We're good, we're good. Are we still here? Everybody, are we still here? Alright. That was weird. That was interesting. Are we back? Was that a phone call? You got that changed? No, something weird. Okay. We're fine. I mean, I feel like even TikTok algorithm didn't want me to give the real advice. I feel like the Matrix just now tried to stop me from helping everyone. Did anybody just see that? Like, I feel like I'm giving the real shit and they don't want it. They don't want it. Like we're so over coddled right now that people don't want the. Like, you're a bitch. Is the best advice for someone who's been over coddled. Mommy's been trying to help you, dick face. And you're not doing anything about it. And to the mom and to all the parents that are over coddling your kids, stop. If you've given them a year or two of money and love and coddling and a roof over their head and taking care of fucking everything, cut them off. Here's the encouragement. You're a fucking bitch. Get off your fucking ass. Cause fucking crying about it and pointing fingers and being like, I'll never be. Clicks. He got lucky or Mongrel got lucky or Marlon got lucky or Lacy got lucky or Faze Clan got lucky or I can't do it. No. Stop fucking crying and fucking man up. You're fucking 22 years old. Fucking. Here's words of encouragement. You're a fucking bitch. Stop bitching. I don't know what else to say. Like, right, Gus? I mean, I don't know, like, you know, like saps, robots, right? Like, I don't know. I don't know what to say. Like, we want people to win and like in this scenario, I'm just following the question. If someone. Now if this question was like, hey, I've been calling my son a bitch for two years. Do you have any words of encouragement? Say yeah, tell him you love him and he's the best and he's capable. This is the yin and yang. But like when you're all in on one thing, over coddling, love bombing, you gotta go to the bitch and fucking like, throw him in the snow. Go shovel some fucking snow today, you know? So they gotta find the middle. I don't know. Alright, let's keep going.

Audience Member / Caller 3 (36:22)

Okay, this question is from Matt. On a recent podcast you said sadness comes from insecurity, which I really vibe with. I'm a creative filmmaker and entrepreneur and imposter syndrome is really loud for me. I know you believe that imposter syndrome is really just insecurity. So how do I start becoming more secure?

Gary Vaynerchuk (36:38)

By losing more. I don't think people get it. Like, you start getting comfortable with by losing more and loving yourself more. It's two extremes. Again, using a. You know how bridges pull hard from both sides and they help you get across to the other side. There's a real analogy there, right? I'm trying to get people to cross the other side. And the way I think you do that is by two extremes. By loving yourself unconditionally and not putting anyone else on a pedestal. Just. You're fucking good. I just need all of you to Know you're good. All of you are awesome. Like, real talk, all of you are great. Real talk, you're great. And you're a little bitch. Like, that's it. I don't understand how this is so hard. You're the best, and you suck at most things. That's good. And definitely this. So I think there's something there. Trying to get people to the other side of happiness, they need to cross the bridge. The bridge comes from pulling from opposite directions, right? Which is you're awesome and you suck at many things. And they can coexist, everyone. This is that whole black and white thing that all of you are struggling with. If you read this and you do it, you will grow on social media. You will grow. Things will happen. I know that to be true. Lacy Adwan, Francisco, Michelle. They all bought the book Court. Do you know how positive I am that 2 out of 4 of them are not even gonna read it? People think buying it is the action, then some of them are gonna buy it and read it, and then you know how many are not gonna do anything with the information? 4 out of 5. Now what? That person has to make fun of themselves. How many of you are the classic do all the things except the real thing? Like, you buy all the right equipment, but so many of you do that, right? Like, you do the checkbox. You posture that you're about it, but you're not about it. You write entrepreneur in your title of your Instagram, but you're not an entrepreneur. You talk about going hard, but you know that God knows that you don't. How many of you, let's call ourselves out this morning, how many of you are full of shit? Say full of shit in the chat, you posture to make everyone think you're about that life, but you're not. Don't say me, say full of shit. I need you to own it now. I need all of you that say this. Yeah, and I blame my adhd. I'm adhd. All right. It looks like you can't say full of shit. Probably in the chat. It's probably so fos. Everyone say fos. You posture. You talk about it. You look the part. You fos. This is step one, y' all look at all these. Foss, man. And they all know it. This is the world now. Here's the key. Foss. Foss. Don't be sad, don't be mad. If you're fos, I need to know how old you are. Foss. What's fos? Full of shit. You posture. You buy all the equipment you bought. How many people just here's a big one. I need you to say me with, like, a bunch of exclamation points. I need this so bad. Josh, it might be you. Kerry, it might be you. Rush power. It might be you. How many of you just bought this book and you know you're not gonna read it? I need it. Say me with all caps and across the board. Say me with all the way. I need it. How many of you just bought the book and you know you're not gonna read it? That's the Foss, right? That's how many of you have hired the trainer or paid for a fitness thing and don't live that life. Runners are huge. They get the nice sneakers. People live that life. So enough. But don't beat yourself up. It's hard. Being disciplined is hard. Being disciplined is hard. How many of you are very disciplined in one part of your life and very not disciplined in another? That's everyone's right. We all know. Everybody just raised their hand here. The whole crew. Aaron did, Raghav did. Braden did. Naraya, Courtney and Train. All of us did it. All of us did it. Me too. I tried to eat discipline this weekend. Lost all three days. I'm like, I'm gonna kill Friday, Saturday, Sunday. Lost all three. All for three. Over three. Even on bad weekends, I'm like, one for three, two for three. Like, when over three, I'm like, I'm gonna crush over three. I get it. The reason I can talk about this is Cause I get it. We all get it. But I'm telling y', all, you gotta fight. If you're unhappy, you gotta fight. If you're unhappy, you gotta fight. Alright, next question Jared asks.

Audience Member / Caller 1 (41:55)

I know how much. I know that you talk about how much your mother's support meant to you. If you could envision that your mom had been strongly opposed to you starting your own company and your adventures, what would you have done to overcome that?

Gary Vaynerchuk (42:07)

I would have built that company and stuck it to her face. My mom is my hero and she pushed back on me on a lot of things and I stuck it to her. She pushed back on me on school. My mom grounded my ass. Every single report card and progress report. By the way, when I talk about my mom and dad the way I talk about them, I have a funny feeling for the people that are hardcore that follow me. They have the script confused. You don't think my mom, my dad did unlimited things wrong and my mom did some things wrong. I just choose not to Dwell on it or talk about it. I don't empower the things they did wrong. I empower the things they did right. Uh oh. Some of the hardcore Gary Vee fans who've been using, well, Gary had a good mom as the excuse to why not? Might have just got caught. I live my truth. I focus on good. What would I have done? I would have built a huge fucking business in her mouth and said, now what, bitch? I've done? Eric said, caught. Yeah, Eric, like a lot of you have chosen to say, well, Gary got lucky that he had a good mom and he came from little, so that made him unstoppable. No, no. Gary has chosen. Instead of dwelling on what my parents did wrong or what was done wrong to me in my little inner family, my brother, my sister, my parents, most of those people feel bad for me. They know a lot more than you all know. I just. Yeah, Katie. What? No way. They feel bad because my parents feel bad that they child labored me and broke my back and I had all these physical issues. They feel bad because they held me to a standard that they didn't to my other siblings. Like, they feel bad that I'm the emotional and financial stability of it. Like, yeah. Here's the secret though. I don't feel bad for me. I like being a gangster. I like taking the last shot and missing and having the whole crowd boo me. I like your judgment. I like your judgment. That's the thing that I always laugh about is people that want to hate and troll don't realize that that makes me happier. I feel so bad for my haters, man. I would hate to be a Gary Vee hater if they knew how much juice that gives me and how happy I get. It would break their fucking little soft insecure heart. It would break their little fucking soft ass bitch soul. It would hurt them. They feed me. So that's it. That's it. That's the game. And I believe everyone can get there. I believe. It's crazy. What I actually believe I know this. Zachary, thank you so much. Actually, how many people have met me in real life? Said, met you in 2018. Great guy. You know what's so funny? I have such a nice Persona and then I still stun people in real life. Cause you're able to be more like, you know, like. Let's keep going. Next question.

Audience Member / Caller 2 (45:52)

I've built my business to 6 million followers on TikTok and 1 billion views. And now I want to build my personal brand. But I'm a torn between the expectations I grew up with and the person I know I'm becoming. I come from a very traditional Mexican TikTok family in a small town where being silly, loud, or saying bad words is considered disrespectful. Two questions. Should I separate my personal account from my business? 1 and how do I handle the fear that my family, your people from my hometown, will judge me?

Gary Vaynerchuk (46:19)

You can separate your accounts now. Everything's about the individual piece of content. So I'm not scared with people creating separate accounts to separate. I'm also not scared for you to blend it in your business account. Both work. If you do a separate account at first, the views will be smaller, but you can still make content that gets millions of views. That's amazing. As far as judgment, my friend, you're being judged now. For everybody who's scared to jump, like this gentleman, Gilbert, I've got a crazy one for you. I got a crazy. I've got a truth bomb that's gonna blow your face off. Finally. Third time's a charm. All right, here's a secret that's gonna. This is actually. I'm actually about to change many people's lives right here on the spot. I've never said this out loud. For everyone who's scared to be judged by the conservative and fearful and reserved and classic in your friend group, your family, your neighbors, and it sounds like this whole town. I've got a secret for you. You are actually being judged. Currently, the 1 to 3% that are winners are judging you for being a pussy. So most of you right now are scared because you don't want to be judged by the 97% that are scared and conservative, but you're silently being judged by winners for being a bitch and having it. I judge and I try not to judge, but I judge. I don't really judge. It's so funny. I tried to force it. It's the greatest gift. I don't fucking judge. It's such a gift. I am so blessed. It's so funny. I couldn't even hold that. I don't know how to judge. The truth is, I am desperately sad and empathetic and sympathetic and sad for those that I see are winners who aren't jumping. You could call that a version of judgment. My friends, you're being judged. You're just being judged by winners. I know. Jennifer Wright. That was a game changer. I've never. I know. That's a. Was that a fucking bomb? Holy shit. You're scared because you're being judged by the conservative and the losing. And you're like, I don't like judgment. And meanwhile, the silent winners of the world are judging you for being a bitch. Oh, my God, that is so big. Holy shit. That's big. You're actually being judged by the winners and the greats. Yeah, Katie, right? That is a dang. Everyone's scared to jump and be their true selves because they're scared of the judgment, of the losing. And yet they don't know it. Because the winners aren't telling you. Losers are telling you because misery loves company. Winners are just fucking cooking because they're focused on their own shit and building. They don't have time to tell you. I can't believe that just happened. That is like a crazy secret. Holy fuck. Whose life just completely. Who was just like, f. I'm a little bit like, fuck. I'd never put it to words. Holy shit. That's a big deal. Fuck me. That is such a problem. Holy shit. That is such a big deal. You're always being judged regardless. But you're not going to live your happiness and your joy and your winning because you're valuing the judgment of the loud losing. And you didn't realize that the silent winning is judging you even more. Holy shit. You stay being judged, my friends. Now the question is, who do you want to be judged by? Did someone's brain just break court? You. You got hit by that. It's a good one, right? Hmm. Cooking this morning. Wow. That was big, man. That was real. Let's keep it going. I judge myself sometimes. Friends, when you judge yourself, you've been instilled judgment by others and you think it's you. You're not judging yourself. All of you naturally love yourself. This is wild. Here's another one. Who here shits on themselves and judges themselves? Whose relationship here? Ah. I need everybody. I need everybody. I need absolutely all 1300 of you. We're all answering. Ready? Here we go. If 100% is where I. I feel like I'm 95 to 100. If 95 to 100% is full love of yourself, full support of yourself, but holding yourself accountable, you got this incredible bounce. You're not like, fucking delusional and narcissistic and egoed out. You got this nice balance. If 100% is 100 and 0% is like, you dislike yourself so much, you're ready to take yourself out. Like the worst of the worst. What percentage are you this morning? I need to know, where are you right now? Gary was handed $3 million wine business yet Claims to be like us. I wasn't handed anything. I never owned that business. I don't own that business. In fact, my dad had a $3 million a year revenue business that made 100,000 in profit. And I built up the 65 million for him. Left. Started VaynerMedia in a conference room of another company. Cause I didn't have enough money to have rent. I was that broke at 34. I don't claim to be just like you. I claim to be better than you, dick face. Cause I built something for my dad. Cause I had it like that. And I knew I was a fucking gangster. And I knew at 34, I could start from fucking dead. 0. After giving 12 years of my life to my family. I don't claim to be like you. I'm better than you, bitch. You claim to come up with an excuse that isn't true. How about that, dick face? Now what, bitch? You like that trait? And I still got love for that person. I'm not even mad at them. I'm just tired of people coming up with excuses. I didn't get handed shit. I fucking built a business for my father and mother. Cause I loved them so much. Left with nothing. Real talk. Why do you think I tell all of you that I think you can do it at 34 after fucking bleeding and breaking my back and working 100 hours a week for 12 years straight and giving up my entire 20s and all that? Yeah, okay. Get your fucking history right if you got something to say. All right, going back to the percentages. I need percentages, y'. All. I need percentages. I need percentages. I know the explanation is not necessarily Soc, but a lot of people here don't know who I am. And a lot of people feed into excuses. And they need them. They need them. I am the bubble hockey guy. All right, for Everybody in under 50%. I'm telling you right now, of course, Raj. I'm reading the chat. I need all of you. I need all of you to hear this. I need all of you to hear this. If you're under 50% in your love towards yourself, you need to know that that judgment was put inside of you. If you shit on yourself, who hears shits on themselves, say poop in the chat. Who hears shits on themselves, say poop in the chat, say poop. Okay. For all of you, you need to know it's not you shitting on yourself. You love yourself. You just believed someone who was judging you and took it as your own. Often a parent, sometimes a sibling, sometimes A random friend. You've got to get good with this. Next question.

Audience Member / Caller 3 (53:57)

Okay, this question is from Jonah. How do you pursue projects to discover your passion when you have to work a full time job you don't really like? I currently take care of and support two of my younger siblings. Can't afford to work less hours, but never seem to have the time or energy to work on projects that might get me out of my job that I don't like.

Gary Vaynerchuk (54:15)

9Pm to 12, that's the big takeaway here. This is gonna be a platform I wanna play on next year. 9pm to 12pm is your time. And if someone says I'm too tired, well then that's that. Then live in it. How many people here are living in this room? And then everyone say, me. How many people here are living, doing certain things that they wish they weren't, but they feel obligated for family reasons or just living a life? Who feels obligated? Say me. Me. Okay. I have a funny feeling every single person's gonna say me. There's not one person on earth. There's not a single. It's called being grown. It's called you're not seven anymore. And even that. Fuck, man, I lived that. That's why I got comfortable with it. I hated school. I fucking. You know why I'm ready for life. Cause I hated school. I lived my whole childhood. Waking up Monday morning, be like, this Monday. Well, this Monday, back in the day, I was pumped because I was like, Christmas fucking breaks a week away, motherfucker. You know? But like, man, the Monday that's coming up on the back end of Christmas break, Monday, January 7th. Shoot me. I was like, fuck this. What is this? Of course you don't have time. Of course you're taking care of siblings. You're a normal human being that has responsibilities. Who here has no responsibilities? Who here in the chat has no responsibilities? Say no. And you know what's funny? Someone who has no responsibilities as a grown up is the most oppressed because their mommy and dad are taking everything for them and they feel like losers. What are we talking about in here, friends? Life is about enjoying the unenjoyable. Life is about enjoying the unenjoyable. Feel pride in what you do for everyone else. 9pm to 12 in the morning is not enjoyable for most to get out of it. But that's what this is about. Get out of it. By using social media. We got lucky. Your grandma was stuck, your grandpa was stuck. They didn't have the Internet, they didn't have Social media. You motherfuckers can make one video, and at 10:15 tomorrow night, that changes the course of your life. We have nothing to complain about. If you're on fucking TikTok at 10:16 in the morning watching my ass, you need to shut the fuck up. I can't be doing this. I can't be doing this. I can't do what all 1300 of you are doing right now. I can't just watch some random fucking dude at 10:16 on a weekday for enjoyment or value. I don't live that life. I haven't done that shit since I was fucking 18. So you're fucking good. You won. I don't know what the fuck you're doing right now, but I don't know how the fuck you're doing it. You won. You have a smartphone. Yeah. Motherhood. Damn is right. You're winning, man. I'm pumped. Who's pumped this morning? Are you like. Do you understand how good this is? Andrew says I'm watching this at work. Yeah, but you're not working. You're watching this. I know where the fuck you are. I ain't crashing out, B. I'm getting hyped. I'm watching this at work. No shit. But when I work, I work. I don't watch fucking gary vee on TikTok. Yeah, you guys are winning. You guys are winning. Today is one of the biggest opportunities of all time in your life to change your life. And thank you for being with me this morning. I am desperate out here. I'm going into desperation. In my 50s. I decided 50 to 60. I'm going desperate. I'm desperate for all of you to figure out this is real. I can't believe this shit's real. I can't believe how life is so good. I can't believe live shopping is here. You could sell. How many of you have dumb shit in your house? How many of you have a bunch of dumb shit in your house that you don't need anymore? Clothes, electronics. Who's got dumb shit? Sell it on an auction site or here, like, live shopping. This, by the way, you don't want to buy this pinned, garyvee. Mm. Attention, Gary. You gonna be in more movies like Tron? I might, Joel. I might become a huge actor. By the way, with AI coming, I think I'm gonna be a huge rapper. I think AI music is gonna be for every. I think everyone's gonna be in the music business with the way AI is going. And I have a funny feeling my words translate. I don't know what I'm gonna do, but I'm gonna do it. Oh, I like that. Right? I don't know what I'm gonna do, but I'm gonna do it. That's good. I've never said that before either. I have no clue where. Like, if you think I thought I was gonna act, I didn't. But I'm gonna do everything. Cause why not? What are we doing out here? We have it so good and yet everybody wants to think it's so bad. I want to do standup comedy. I agree. Mind and mood. You know what's funny? I have a good sense of humor and I'm very good at improv. I think there's a lot of work for me to be good at stand up, like, doing jokes. I'm not sure. I gotta really think it through when I give keynotes. I can, like, mix it in. And I've got tendencies. I've got stand up tendencies, but I don't have stand up discipline. Yeah, yeah. Like, you gotta really work at it. But I might do some standup. I don't know. All I know is that you guys, life is good and you got it good. Alina says you'll get better. You're damn right I will. I fucking pumped out 70s this weekend on the fucking flat bench. 70s five times and fucking dominated it. That's a nice number, right? You guys are bigger. Like, what do you do? What do you do? Yay. Well, your chest looks humongous. Like, right? Yeah, bro, I'm fucking and like fucking seven years ago, like, 25, I was dead. Yeah, man. I had no muscles like, you fucking put in work, like, and that shit doesn't come natural to me and I'm not naturally built for it. You're naturally thicker than I am. It's hard. Like, I'm thin as shit. I don't have a natural fucking chest. You came out the womb with a fucking chest. Trained. All right, let's keep going.

Audience Member / Caller 2 (60:25)

I saw your recent post about social shopping. Is it really realistic to make that kind of money? You said. And what is the best way to start?

Audience Member / Caller 3 (60:32)

You're the best, Gary.

Gary Vaynerchuk (60:33)

The best way to start is to find something to sell and to go live and do it. It's fucking real, man. Live shopping is gonna be massive. All of you are gonna be super pumped. Lando, big shout out to you. You're all gonna be super pumped. I remember listening to you on Uber eats seven years ago, Mr. Beats. Thank you. Like, this is real. All of you can do this. The book's available in Asia. Pursue Grace Samantha French. Thank you. I'm telling all of you, you can all do this. You can all do this. Live shopping is gonna be a monster. Live shopping is a huge opportunity in 26, 27. But it takes discipline. It takes work. It's. You know, it's there, but it's hard. But friends, every single thing that is worth it is hard. Love is hard. Relationships is hard. Being healthy and strong is hard. Making money is hard. We have to fucking fall in love with hard. How the fuck do we not understand this?

Audience Member / Caller 1 (61:35)

Go ahead, Johnny asks. I was fucked over by my mom about the inheritance of her apartments. All my plans of having passive income or crutch. I'm 37. How do I recover from this knockdown?

Gary Vaynerchuk (61:48)

Easy. Take that anger and despair and negativity and turn it into positive fuel. Hold no resentment towards mom. Move on and just go cook. You're a grown ass man. Being mad about something you didn't even earn is some crazy ass shit. So this is on video forever. Anyone who cries and bitches and moans and complains about inheritance is a fucking bitch. Crying and complaining about something you didn't even earn. What does he need to do? Man the fuck up. You're 37 and you're a kid. You could do this. Fucking do whatever. The person that was going to leave you, I can't tell if it was the grandpa or the grandma or the mom. I don't know the details here. Do what the person that fucking earned that real estate did and earn your own shit. Rely on no one but yourself. Are you serious? People crying and mad at people for inheritance? Are we really at that place where we're crying and mad at people for some shit we didn't even do? I need to be yelled at every morning like this? Healing peace. Thank you. I'm not even like. I'm just. You know what's so funny and you know me. What's the person's name?

Audience Member / Caller 1 (63:15)

Johnny.

Gary Vaynerchuk (63:16)

Johnny. Johnny. No judgment. I'm not mad at you. I don't think you're a loser. That was me giving love. That was love. Johnny, how you crying like if Johnny was my best friend. Get over here, Ragha. Just get over here. I'll just reenact if Johnny was my best friend and we were just. We're just hanging and you're like cry about it. Be like, damn, my mom. Oh my God, my mom. Like, dude, I'd be like, dude, you didn't earn that shit anyway, Johnny. Why the fuck were you entitled to that in the first place. You got this, bro. You could do this shit. Fuck that bullshit. Stop crying. All right, all right, good. That's it. Like, what are we talking about? We're crying about shit that we didn't even earn. That's some. That's some. One more question.

Audience Member / Caller 3 (64:03)

Question from Sarah. I'm 31 years old. I work a comfy corporate job that I don't mind.

Gary Vaynerchuk (64:08)

How old?

Audience Member / Caller 3 (64:09)

31, young, great pay and benefits. But I am very lit up and passionate about real estate investing. I want to do that full time. It's not even about the money for me. I just love it. I have a 3 unit rental property and have successfully flipped one house. That made me 30k.

Gary Vaynerchuk (64:24)

Wow.

Audience Member / Caller 3 (64:24)

I'm about to flip another one. How do I know when to make.

Gary Vaynerchuk (64:27)

The quit my job now you're 31, you can go back and get a cushy job in the future. If you fail friends, you can always get another job. I know everyone's trying to scare you and say AI is taking every job. AI is not taking every job. People that use AI are taking every job. Just like people that used a computer in the 80s and 90s became more valuable employees than ones that didn't. Could you imagine trying to be an employee in a company right now where you don't use a computer? How about the people that took jobs in the late 90s, early 2000s, people that used a computer and the Internet? Could you imagine the audacity to walk into here at Vayner on my team and say, you don't use a computer. Next. Use a computer, but you don't use the Internet? How about next, the mobile device? How about what do you think would happen if you came here and said, I want to work with you? You know how we work. But I don't use mobile devices. How do you think that would work? That's all AI is doing. At least in the short term. AI is pretty big. There's more to come. But you could always get another fucking job. She's ready. You know, a lot of people dream she acted. She's already sold and made a 30k profit. She's got another one brewing. She's 31, she needs to jump yesterday, she needs to quit today. Her resignation needs to happen now. Everybody, I am jumping off right now. You never miss one of these shows I don't want you to miss. I'm going crazy. In 2026, we're gonna be doing this. Every time I'm in New York in the morning, I'm gonna be midday streams. I got this. No whining with Gary Vee Wine show in the evening. I'm going crazy on live streaming in 26. Say goodbye, everybody. If you enjoyed this podcast, please go back and look at the prior episodes. They're loaded. I appreciate your attention and thanks for being part of this journey. See you later.