The Truth About Your Energy, Insecurity, and That Thing You've Failed at for 10 Years

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Podcast Summary

The GaryVee Audio Experience
Episode Title: The Truth About Your Energy, Insecurity, and That Thing You've Failed at for 10 Years
Host: Gary Vaynerchuk
Release Date: October 8, 2025

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Episode Overview

This episode of The GaryVee Audio Experience centers on energy, insecurity, and persistence in the face of long-term struggles. Gary takes listener questions, offers practical and emotional advice, and is joined by entrepreneur Michael Chernow for a conversation about wellness, investing, and shifting your habits for better outcomes. The episode dives deep into how to overcome internal barriers, the importance of patience and self-worth, and the harsh realities of ambition, all conveyed in Gary’s distinct, no-nonsense style.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Investing in Collectibles and Spotting Trends

[01:57 - 04:52]

• Gary explains his bullishness on rare fictional character trading cards, citing the evolution of nerd culture and the growing intersection between comic con, sports cards, and collectibles.
• Patience in Collecting:
  • Gary emphasizes the importance of patience in the collectibles market, using stories of investments like a Ronaldo rookie card as examples of how timing is crucial.
  • “When you have patience with collectibles and you see something, you know, oftentimes it works out. ... If you’re looking for a quick flip, you know, sometimes it works out tremendous and sometimes it works out terrible.” — Gary, [03:35]
• Thesis: The next wave for trading cards is fictional character rookie cards (e.g., Batman, Spider-Man, Shrek).

2. Entrepreneurship, Crowdfunding, and Creatures of Habit

With Michael Chernow
[04:52 - 13:51]

• Michael Chernow talks about launching a crowdfund for Creatures of Habit, his wellness brand focused on healthy habits and nutrition.
• Gary and Michael emphasize giving the community early investment opportunities, made possible by StartEngine and the democratization of private investing (thanks to the JOBS Act).
  • “All the opportunities I had in investing in Twitter and Facebook... the JOBS Act allowed people to invest in companies.” — Gary, [08:12]
• Michael shares an origin story:
  • He DM’d Gary to pitch an exclusive deal with his restaurants for Empathy Wines, leading to their partnership — a masterclass on taking initiative and creating value.
  • “I’m just here to tell you, take the swing.” — Michael Chernow, [11:10]
  • Memorable Moment: Michael’s story about his son running a museum/gift shop with found objects from the yard, illustrating that entrepreneurial spirit is often innate.

3. Advice for Women in Entrepreneurship

[13:56 - 22:31]

• Gary addresses the double standards faced by female entrepreneurs.
• Key insight: Everyone faces insecurity and bias in different ways.
  • “That men are just as insecure as women? No shit.” — Gary, [14:10]
• Don’t waste energy convincing the ‘broken’.
  • “Anyone who does that to you isn’t someone you want to be associated with anyway. ... Why are you wasting your time on someone that doesn’t believe in you? Who gives a shit?” — Gary, [16:13]
• Entrepreneurship as a great equalizer:
  • “The market decides… It doesn’t know if you’re black, white, Hispanic, or Russian, girl or boy. It’s just a blank market.” — Gary, [21:04]
• Flaws and Fixers: Gary talks about his own tendency to be a fixer, a trait he associates with both men and women.

4. On Insecurity and Loneliness

[22:31 - 27:22]

• Gary tells a listener that feeling alone at a table is a sign of insecurity, not an unchangeable social status.
  • “You need to work on yourself. You’re deeply insecure.” — Gary, [22:43]
• On self-worth:
  • “I do not understand the concept of not being your biggest fan.” — Gary, [23:38]
• Memorable, light moment: Gary uses the example of comparing a listener to George Clooney, explaining that everyone is someone’s type and that personal validation shouldn’t be externally dictated.

5. Pursuing Your Dream Despite Family & Financial Pressure

Conversation with Melanie
[27:22 - 34:45]

• Melanie, a 23-year-old from the Philippines, dreams of being a pop girl group member but feels drained by financial pressures and family expectations.
• Gary calls out her belief that she doesn’t have enough energy:
  • “You’re peddling some bullshit on me… Do you know that you have unlimited energy?” — Gary, [29:36]
• Dreams feed energy:
  • “The dream is gonna fucking feed you. Right now, you’re not being fed, so you don’t have enough energy. You’re mixing it up.” — Gary, [32:47]
• Key advice: If you want a dream, you don’t get to take vacations — dreams are taken, not given.
• Try the dream and work to avoid regrets later in life.

6. Knowing When to Quit

[35:07 - 37:48]

• A listener named Vic asks about persisting after a decade of no progress.
• Gary’s unfiltered response:
  • “You should quit. 10 years, Vic. ... You’ve been failing for a decade at this thing. This thing’s fucking not gonna work. 10 years, Vic.” — Gary, [35:16]
• Memorable Moment: Gary’s humorous side rant about how turkeys and hippos are more dangerous than they seem, blending analogies about persistence and letting go.

7. Scarcity vs. Awareness in Art

[37:48 - 39:05]

• Gary debunks the myth that awareness kills scarcity:
  • “Awareness is required to create scarcity. ... She’s got it twisted. She thinks that awareness takes away the mystique to create scarcity. Scarcity is not a byproduct of awareness.” — Gary, [38:44]
• Memorable quote:
  • “Everyone here who knows what the Mona Lisa is, raise your hand. Oh, weird. Everyone fucking knows.” — Gary, [39:03]

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Notable Quotes

• “When you have patience with collectibles and you see something, you know, oftentimes it works out.” — Gary [03:35]
• “I’m just here to tell you, take the swing.” — Michael Chernow [11:10]
• “Anyone who does that to you isn’t someone you want to be associated with anyway.” — Gary [16:13]
• “The dream is gonna fucking feed you. Right now, you’re not being fed, so you don’t have enough energy.” — Gary [32:47]
• “You should quit. 10 years, Vic.” — Gary [35:16]
• “Awareness is required to create scarcity.” — Gary [38:44]

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Timestamps for Key Segments

| Segment | Timestamp | |----------------------------------------------|------------| | Collectibles & Cards | 01:57–04:52| | Creatures of Habit & Entrepreneurship | 04:52–13:51| | Advice for Women in Entrepreneurship | 13:56–22:31| | On Insecurity & Self-worth | 22:31–27:22| | Melanie’s Dream & Family Pressure | 27:22–34:45| | When to Quit | 35:07–37:48| | Scarcity and Awareness in Art | 37:48–39:05|

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Tone & Style

Gary’s signature direct, energetic, and sometimes brash manner is a throughline in this episode: blunt truths, motivational pushes, and frequent use of analogies and humor ("turkeys are nasty motherfuckers", “Karma... I love business. ... It’s just how the world works.”).

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Final Takeaways

• Energy and motivation are self-generated, especially when tied to pursuing genuine dreams.
• Don’t let insecurity, societal narratives, or external voices dictate your worth or direction.
• Sometimes, quitting is the courageous and strategic move (especially after a decade).
• Opportunities are more accessible than ever, and building winning habits often starts by simply taking a shot or DM’ing someone.
• Awareness creates, not diminishes, value.

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For anyone craving straight talk on energy, insecurity, and the realities of chasing (or letting go of) dreams, this episode delivers the classic GaryVee blend of hard truths and unwavering encouragement.

Transcript

[A]

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[B]

Let's warm me up in Astrano asks Gary at the national in Chicago. You are actively chasing rare fictional character cards. Could you elaborate why you believe this specific niche in collecting will keep growing?

[A]

I don't know if I'm ready for this question. I don't. I don't know if I'm ready for it. You know, I feel like I'm ready for every question. For everybody who didn't understand the question. Fictional characters, Batman, Santa Claus, Cinderella, Betty Boop, Alf, robocop, the four Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles, Shrek, Buzz Lightyear, Cartman at, you know, from South Park, I am incredibly bullish. Sports cards, obviously, it's been in the news recently. Mr. Wonderful and Shine and a couple of masters spent a Lot of money on a very high end. Jordan, Kobe, I think dual card. I'm always looking for things that people don't see. I have a very big thesis that the comic con crew is about to smash into the national and fanatics fest crew. So I kind of think where nerd culture has been is, you know, when you're a Harry Potter collector, you collect the first edition book. When you're a Spider man collector, you collect Spider man comic books and figures. What? You know, I, I kind of, you know, when you're a Star wars big time collector, you collect the action figures. I kind of think that the trading card world is getting so big that Superman, Batman, Spider man and all the other characters I met, their rookie cards are going to go big. So yes, whoever asked that question clearly was paying attention to what I was doing at the sports card national. When I was running around the show and not behind the veefriends booth with my son. I was picking up stuff for him. But then for myself, I was stopping by where I saw people had Fred Flintstone's rookie or Tweety bird's rookie or Mrs. Miss Piggy's rookie or Wolverine's rookie or Green Lantern, Wonder Woman, Tony the Tiger from the serial. I think there's something there, there. And so that's what I'm collecting these days. And I think you're seeing a huge burst, right? I bought a Ronaldo rookie a couple years ago. Then it went crashing down, right. Rips. We were like feeling all sad about ourselves. And then yesterday it went for a lot more. And I think when you have patience in what you collect, and I hope that's what I achieve for everybody with vee friends as we build out our collectible. When you have patience with collectibles and you see something, you know, oftentimes it works out if you're looking for a quick flip, you know, sometimes it works out tremendous and sometimes it works out terrible. If I had bought that Ronaldo and sold it when the market was soft and liquidated, I would have lost half my money. Now I'm at 6x or yeah, 6x my investment on that card. So, you know, that's the answer. Looking for angles. Michael Chair now. Let's get him up here. He collects. This man collects accolades for how good looking he is. You look great, brother. How are you?

[C]

I'm well, man. How are you?

[A]

Good, man. I am a proud investor of creatures of habit. That is what you see above Michael up here. Some of you in my community are aware of creatures of habit. Because we've done stuff together on social media in the past. Some of you are consumers of his incredible product and are on your health and wellness journey. Michael, do you have a question, Question or a statement or what do you need from me this morning?

[C]

Yeah, I, I just wanted to, to just connect with the community and let everybody know that for the first time ever, we've opened up a crowdfund. I've never thought of a crowdfund before, but the community that we've built has been incredible thanks to a lot of, a lot of the stuff that you've done over the years, Gary. The community's solid and strong and I said, why not reward them with allowing them to invest alongside, Alongside, you know, people like you. And so is it cancer?

[A]

It's, it's Kickstarter.

[C]

It's. No. So it's on StartEngine you mentioned. Mr. Wonderful. So it's on StartEngine. We are the fastest funded campaign on StartEngine. We raised over $600,000 in under three weeks and we have the most momentum badge.

[A]

Why don't, why don't you first, because there's a lot of new audience here for you first. Tell everybody what Creatures of Habit is first and foremost.

[C]

Yeah. Creatures of Habit is a lifestyle wellness brand rooted in nutritional, healthy habits. We have a product called Meal One. It is breakfast. It is the, you know, the old school breakfast of champions, Wheaties. We have taken, we have taken center stage and it's, it's a high protein overnight oatmeal. It's packed with 30 grams of protein, Chia seeds, flax seeds, pumpkin seeds, pink Himalayan salt. It's got electrolytes, vitamin D3, a bunch of great stuff in there, but it's super easy to make. You make it in 30 seconds the night before and you open up the fridge in the morning and it's ready to rock and roll. It is really just a super healthy, incredibly delicious meal. We're also launching a protein bar very soon, which I'm fired up about. It is a plant based protein bar, 20 grams of protein. So the brand is really just, you know, it's a, it's a, it's a bunch of great people doing, doing things that are just going to help them be a little bit better on a daily basis. And, and it's a fun brand.

[A]

And where do people go see this if they want to make a play?

[C]

If they want to make a play, just go to startengine.com and look up Creatures of Habit with a K. We actually created a group For Gary, Gary Vee fans we have a, we have a top tier. If you invest 55, 555.

[A]

I forgot about this. You suckered me into like I have to do something right?

[C]

What was that by the way? There's a crew, there's a crew of Gary fans and it's, it's a, it's a, it's a Gary. It's. You're going to be entered into a Gary mastermind every six months for two years. We're going to connect. You get a year's worth of meal one, you get 15% bonus equity incentive shares.

[A]

Mike, on this, on this. Just knowing that like starting in.com and find creatures that have been in this, like can you make this easier for everyone? What's the easiest way, like what's your, what's your easiest way to get a hold of you? What's your instrument?

[C]

Just go to, go to, go to. At Michael Chernow on Instagram.

[A]

Okay, great. Your name is on the screen right now. So it's the name like full straight name right at Michael Chernow.

[C]

Michael Chernow link is in my bio.

[A]

Forget that. Can people just DM you? Can I just, can I just send all this energy whether they want to just be a customer and you know, lose a couple of pounds or kind of change up their habits or if they're a little more entrepreneurial. You know, Obama passed the JOBS act which allowed non accredited investors to invest in companies. So all the opportunities I had in investing in Twitter and Facebook, a lot of my friends at that time because we were all like not very well to do and didn't have those kind of bank accounts. If they wanted to put 150, if they wanted to put $500 into Twitter back then, they couldn't legally because they weren't a credit investor. Their, their personal finances didn't look right. The JOBS act allowed people to invest in companies. That's when you started to see Startengine, Kickstarter, all these Indiegogo. That's when this became real and that's when people could actually go into startups and treat it like buying $500 worth of Nike shares. That's what we're talking about here everyone. So again if, if, if and by the way you should read the chat because a lot of people are educating here. So if you want to a just eat healthier and get into Michael's world, which I recommend for a lot of people because just getting healthy is a good idea. Or, or if you want to be a little entrepreneurial, you're intrigued by what Michael's saying, and I'm sure he can DM you back and give you more details. Go to ichaelchair now, which is on here. C H, R N O W for. Oh, yes. Yeah, that's like. It just kicked in. Sorry. My.

[C]

I also just want to mention that Gary was the first investor in Creatures of Habit, and we've since, you know, been crushing it. And, you know, it's. It's an incredible brand. Yeah.

[A]

But let me tell you why. Let's make this more valuable for everybody. Here's why. I invested Michael. I. I had a couple meals with him so you get to know people, but he also had a track record. He was an incredibly successful restaurateur here in New York. And building a restaurant that has customers in New York City is, I don't know, the hardest fucking thing to do on earth. You know what I mean? Just like the most competition. Super hard, super complicated. And he's an operator.

[C]

And one quick story for anybody who just. It's a quick, fun story. I wanted to get closer to Gary in about. In like 2017, 2018, and we had a bunch of mutual friends, but I just had it. He had launched Empathy Wines, and I had a bunch of restaurants in New York. And this is just a little way to think about how to get things that you're going after. Right. So I knew that Gary had launched Empathy. I said, you know what? Let me DM Gary and see if he would be down to do an exclusive deal with me to sell Empathy Wine exclusively with my restaurants in New York City, because It was a D2C wine business. And I DM'd him. And you're good, you're back. He, he, he got back to me and he was like, yo, this sounds great. Like, let's. Let's connect. We connected. Of course, the two of us are cut from very similar silk. So we. That was it. And I started slinging Empathy Wine at meatball shop and Seymour's all across the city. And we just built this relationship. So anybody out there that doesn't think, you know, you, you, you. You're able to get what you. What you only can dream of. I'm just here to tell you, take.

[A]

The swing and swing, and on that swing, you had something to offer. But there's people like me, there's many people can tell stories where there was nothing to offer on the other side. And I just went on intuition. I mean, I don't know. Yesterday, some PR lady in the middle of nowhere, France, was Looking for like one week to work at Vayner, you know, because she's just trying to expand her network, like literally just randomly in my DMs. And I just saw it. I was like, okay, why not like karma? I love business. I really love business. A little barter, a little trade, a little collecting, a little flipping, a little investing, a little building. Obviously that's the energy here. But I love karma too. And like, there's other nice people out there who are on big platforms like me, who are willing to do random shit, give someone an internship, have a 15 minute coffee with someone. It's just how the world works.

[C]

Last little story that I think you'll appreciate. So my. I got my son's metal detectors. My kids have been going absolutely ape with metal detectors on the property. Just bonkers. Finding old, right? So my older son, look how this. It's in the genes. I'm just telling you. I think people are born with this gene to want to make do and create. So anyway, so they find a pile of stuff, axe head, you know, like pickaxe, all pieces of metal, and they go, dad, this is what we're going to do on Labor Day weekend. We're going to set up a table and we're going to call it the Ghent Museum, where we fought, where we showcase all of the, the things that we found in the ground. Next to the Ghent Museum is going to be the gift shop. This is all him, by the way. How old is. We're going to. He's. He's 11. Or he's going to be 11. We're going to, we're going to, we're going to put a table out with all the toys that we just want to sell. All the toys that we just want to sell. And the way we're to get people to buy the toys is if you buy a toy, they also have a grab bag. So if you buy a toy, you get to throw your hand in the grab bag and pull out a toy.

[A]

Yeah, man, it's all in real quick. Sunstep Spill says, how do I donate to this motherfucker? Your ship, your shit helped me every day while I was grinding. Brother, Go support Michael Chair now because it's going to help you like go to the. Go to his engine. And I, I'm really excited about it. Everybody please, DM Michael Chair. Now that's Michael. As you all know how to spell and then H E R, N O W. If you're not on whatnot and you can't see him and can See his name? Anyway, let's move on. Michael, I love you, bro. Stay well.

[C]

Appreciate you, bro.

[A]

Take care. Bye. Bye. All right, next question. Fire away.

[B]

Kara asks, what advice would you give to women in entrepreneurship compared to men? The world views us differently and it can be off putting when we come off as too masculine or too feminine, even though both matters. What do you suggest?

[A]

That men are just as insecure as women? No shit. That there's different stuff. No question. Let me tell you, from one man's point of view, when I invest or when I support, I don't have the ability to see a gear of different, of guy versus girl. Not because I'm so awesome, not because I'm so progressive, not because, but probably because I have the best mom of all time and I put women on a pedestal from like a gangster standpoint, not from like, you know, they're so. I think they are so awesome. But like you, you know, and then there's other people who are the other way. But there's also people who like, guys get slammed on too. Like I have guys on guys crime. Like very many of my guy older OG people feel like they fucking hate frat boys and like crypto bros and like, like, I just want everyone to hear this. Everybody gets shit on. Like, of course I am. It's not lost on me, the narrative of like women feeling like guys find them inferior. That's because it's true. There are guys that find women inferior. I just need to. For example, let me tell you what my prejudice was. Here's a good one. How about this one? How about from 2012 to 2016, I would not invest in any company that was started by somebody that went to an Ivy League school. I was prejudice against people that went to Harvard and Yale and Stanford because the whole boom had happened and every Ivy League kid school was gonna be the next Mark Zuckerberg. And I realized most kids that are good students that go to these institutions that figure out those systems are incredible number three, four, fives and sixes and suck shit at being a number one because they're fucking robotic system machines. And when something goes awry, they go to grandpa to donate to the school to fix it. And that shit doesn't work in real life fucking business. But I was wrong about that. You can't do that to anything. You can't just say, like, what am I, a fucking dickhead? Like, all kids that went to Brown or Rice or fucking MIT suck. No, that's stupid. So here's where I'm going with this. What do I say to that, young lady? Anyone who does that to you isn't someone you want to be associated with anyway. The world is so fucked up. People are so hurt by people that they don't even want to be associated with. When people hurt me, like when people are trolling in here or when people talk shit about me in real life or are rude to me in person, I'm happy because they saved me time. Time is my biggest asset. Not even now when I'm a big dog when I was a kid. Time is the asset. I don't understand this incredible thirst of the insecure to try to convince the broken. If there is a man who is not willing to invest in a startup because the founder is a female, he's fucking stupid. The fuck are you trying to fix the broken when it has nothing to do with you? If that was your dad, I get the energy. But if it's a random investor, why are you fucking so caught up? And this is a trait, you know, this is just a trait of a human. And it's not. Again, it's not just girl. I have so many female founder friends, I'm an investor in so many female companies. Like when I'm in girl talk mode, if I'm hanging with like four girls business life, but it bleeds into like I find myself in this setting probably occasionally, probably often. By guy standards, I'm probably more often than a lot of my contemporaries. I'm the only guy in a five person table with four other women talking business shit. Inevitably this will make sense to everybody. After we're done with business shit, it just gets into, you know, real life stuff. And like I recommend to all guys to have a group of girlfriends because it's really funny listening to girls shit on guys. It's quite enjoyable actually. But like, like I look at these women, some of the women that I'm referring to right now in the last couple of years in these meetings are just such gangsters in business and are such fucking idiots in relationships. And they figured out in business not to appease a toxic investor or just an idiot guy, but in love, they're just chasing the bad boy like dumb shit. Like women are obsessed with fuckboys in a way that makes no sense other than if you just understand raw human energy, which I do understand. So it does make sense. But it's the analogy I can use for everyone to really get everybody understand what I'm trying to say here, which is why are you wasting your time on someone that doesn't believe in you? Who gives a shit? You know, Gretchen says women are fixers. They think and listen. I'm a fixer. My worst. My worst behaviors as a human is the cliche female fixer thing. I'm a fixer. I try to fix everyone. It's my biggest flaw. I have superhero syndrome. I create entitlement because of it. The thing I hate the most in the world, I create. It's like a superhero shit. Like I literally create through my enable it. The thing I hate the most. You know, I like a good project to fix too, so I understand that fixer energy. So anyway, nonetheless, what was the question?

[B]

What advice would you give to women in entrepreneurship compared to men?

[A]

Nothing different. I really, I mean it. And yes, it is women. News alert for everyone. Women and men are different. The game is different. But it's not different enough that the core answer to her question is and does require a change. Entrepreneurship is kind of really cool. It's like sports, right? I'm looking at a woman right now. Her name is Courtney. We play basketball together a lot. When me and Courtney are on the court, she can tell you whether I'm her teammate or her competitor. I do not treat her any different. Like what my back to advice. Me and Courtney were just in a really rugged five game set the other day where our team was really undersized and like we should have lost. And we did lose all five games, but they were all tight, which I was proud of our team on. But like, when I'm running back after we score, when I'm like, court play D, it's the same way I said it to Xander to play D and the same way that I said it to Rips to play D. Because we're playing sports. That's right. I do foul the same, which is inappropriate. Like, don't tell them about that part of court. But I foul court just as hard as I foul Andy, who's like four times the size. And it's because it's sports. We're on the field now. It is what his court decided to play. And court can play. And that's the same way I feel about a female entrepreneur. You decided to be an entrepreneur, Land. And good news. This is why I think a lot of women love entrepreneurship. Because it does have a level of merit that jobs don't. Jobs are tough. See, what's cool about entrepreneurship is the market decides. Melanie Perkins from Canva has built one of the biggest companies in the world. Many people didn't believe that she could. They were wrong. And there's 8 million of her. So I love entrepreneurship for that reason that it doesn't know if you're black, white, Hispanic, or Russian girl boy. It's just a blank market. And are there people in the world that will judge on that? Of course. I don't know if you've heard. Humans are insecure. When you're insecure, you tear down other people. So if you feel shit about yourself, you think it's all women's problems. You think it's all immigrants problems, you think it's all politicians problems. You think it's your parents are the problem. All of you that talk shit 247 about politics and go on social media and tear down people, you're a. I'm going for dramatic pause because 99 of you just got called a. Because you are a. You're a. Thank you. Next question. We'll get to Melanie V. Shortly, but next question.

[B]

In the chat, Daniella asks, what would you suggest I do in this situation? I sit at a table with 20 people, and everyone has someone to talk to, and I realize I'm alone. Nobody talks to me. What's your advice?

[A]

You need to work on yourself. You're deeply insecure. What do you mean everybody has someone to talk to and you don't? Have you ever thought about the fact that half, if not more of those people were the ones that started the conversation? What are you doing? Go say hi. What are you scared of? Someone's gonna be like, you're ugly. You're a nerd. Don't talk to me. For what? Do you actually believe in a table of 20 people that if you go up and say, hello, you know what's going on? Like, how's your day? Like, what's. What's the deal? What do you think about the jets upcoming season? Like, do you think you will go over 20 and everybody will shit on you? She's scared of people. People are scared of people. People are scared of people when they're insecure. She needs to become a bigger fan of herself. I do not understand this, my friends. I need to say this from the bottom of my fucking heart. I do not understand the concept of not being your biggest fan. I do not understand it. You have to. Please, please. Like, why would you not like yourself? What, you're gonna say that you're not pretty, you're not smart, you don't have money, you're not charismatic? Like, I don't. Like, I'm so many things that I'm not. I can't fucking read. That's like court, do you understand that I can't read? Like, I can, but like, I don't retain it. I have no reading comprehension. Like, do you know how many people have just decided they're dumb and it's over because of that? Like, Mike, sorry that you're not George Clooney, but that doesn't mean you're a piece of shit. You know what I mean? You understand what I'm saying, right, Mike? Right? Get over here, Mike. You might not be George Clooney, but watch this. Do you know how many people. Look at this. Look at this cute fucking face. Give me a smile. Look at this. Hi, guys. I mean, do you know me? People find you adorable. Plenty. Plenty. People are like, nah, that's not my style. But plenty of people, like, literally people are like, yo, I want to date that dude right now. Literally, that just happened. That's how it actually works. I do not understand. I do not understand. Right? Look, Danny producing says I would date Mike. You know, like, I just, you know, people are saying that you're more beautiful than George. I actually believe that. I understand that Most of the 8 billion people on earth will say George Clooney's better looking than you, but it's very clear to me that tens of thousands of people would think that you're better than George. And there's something really important in what I just said. I believe that out of 8 billion people, if I did a hot or not competition, swipe left, right versus old school, like who's better looking? Mike versus George Clooney. I believe that Clooney would win a lot. A lot. Dramatically. 90 percentile. I believe that to be true. Of course, same against me too. But I do believe that there are tens of thousands. Think about this. This is really an important moment. I know people are laughing, but there are tens of thousands of people.

[C]

That.

[A]

Would find you dramatically more attractive. And I think that's the lesson here. Like, I just don't understand this concept of people deciding that they suck. For what? For why, for how. There's nothing good about that. So this woman is deeply insecure, has no self worth. Like is is protecting herself because she's scared that people are going to hurt her with rejection, which I get. But people have to start surrounding themselves with positive content if they can afford it. Start going to therapy if they can afford it. Start investing in things that build up their self esteem. That might be working out, that might be eating better, that might be exercising, that might be reading. I really am very big on surrounding yourself with like real good energy. Like it's very obvious to me that is like as big and real to me as it gets who you're with, you know? You know. So that's what I got. Melanie V. Hello. Hi darling.

[D]

Hi Gary, how are you? Nice to meet you.

[A]

Nice to meet you too. Where are you from?

[D]

I'm from the Philippines. I'm.

[A]

It's amazing. What is your question, darling?

[D]

I'm 23. I dream of becoming a pop girl group member and K pop agencies just want younger trainees and. Wait, let me get my.

[A]

No worries, no worries at all. Take your time, don't worry.

[D]

And there's also my parents expectations because I graduated and they expect me to go to a big company and apply there and they are also overprotective so they want me to work nearby for a couple of months before I work in a far, far place. There's also.

[A]

What do you want to do?

[D]

I want to be a performer.

[A]

A performer?

[D]

Yeah, like a pop girl group member.

[A]

So do it.

[D]

Yeah. But like there's also the need to help my parents financially and high paying jobs are usually draining and I want to conserve my energy for practice. So what I'm current, what I'm currently doing is that I'm doing affiliate outreach part time job remote the. It's $3 per hour and I also tried freelancing in the past and I also love marketing but I guess I'll just go back to freelancing when. When after trying out my number one dream of becoming a girl group member, I've tried freelancing. I offered email marketing for eight to nine months.

[A]

Melanie, I think that the draining part is the thing that I want to most focus on. I. How old are you if I May ask?

[D]

I'm 23.

[A]

I love everything about you except one thing. That draining comment is some bullshit. Melanie, do you know what bullshit means?

[D]

Yeah, I know you're some.

[A]

You're. You're peddling some bullshit on me, do you know that?

[D]

I don't know.

[A]

I know you don't know. That's why you peddled it on me. Because I think you're a very sweet girl. So I don't think you were bullshitting me for a wrong reason. Let me explain something to you. You were 23 years old. Do you know that you have unlimited energy?

[D]

I don't.

[A]

Well I'm telling you you do. And if you're chasing your dream, that's gonna give you even more energy. The reason you don't have. You don't feel like you have unlimited energy right now. Is cause you're debating and you're concerned and you're worried about what to do. You understand? Yeah. So that's draining. When you're concerning, when you look at the dark, when you look at the half glass empty, when you're concerned, when you're worried, you're draining your energy. You understand? Even when you're 23, you find yourself with less energy than you really have because you're giving all the energy to concern and fear. The same reason your par want you to go work at a big company, they're scared and so they think a big company is safe. Even though a big company is often the least safe. You understand?

[D]

Yeah, I understand.

[A]

Okay. So now let's go back to you. This concept of high paying jobs are draining. I think that you can work very hard, very hard from nine to six for nine hours. Very draining, very draining. But if you know that at 7 o' clock you're going to an audition or you're going somewhere to make content to follow your dream, that from seven to midnight is your time to go after what you're doing at lunchtime instead of eating a fucking bologna sandwich, you're running to an audition or you're emailing people for eating. If you're doing the thing you love, if you're chasing, that's gonna give you energy to be able to do the high performing job. You are 23, you are ambitious, you are on T with Gary Vee right now. You've taken that, you're, you're trying, you're putting yourself out there. I think you can do both. And the reason you could do both is when you're doing your dream, that becomes the fuel to allow you to grind the eight hours a day, nine hours a day on the high performing job. You understand? Right now you don't think you can do it because your fucking juice isn't full. Because you're not actively attacking your dream. You're worrying about not disappointing your parents, you're worried about helping your parents because you love them and they've done right by you. But it's actually the reverse. You need to go after your dream and work the job and help your parents and you'll be able to do both because the dream is gonna fucking.

[C]

Feed you.

[A]

Right now you're not being fed so you don't have enough energy. You're mixing it up. When you go first to the dream and know you're doing it, it will feed you. You can do both. You can do both. Easy. Got it?

[D]

Yeah.

[A]

Do you understand or are you still not sure?

[D]

I kind of understand.

[A]

I thought so, too. You can do this. I promise you. If you are chasing your dream, you also have the weekend. When you want to do entertainment, the weekend's busy, so you have the whole weekend. When you want a dream, you're not allowed to vacation. And that's the part everybody got mixed up on. Because dreams are hard. Dreams are not given. Dreams are taken. Regular life is given. But we're talking about dreams, you understand? You have a dream, a big dream, which is a cool dream, and I'm happy for you, and I want that. And I want you to try. Because when you're 50, you'll be happy you tried. You may not get your dream, but the best thing in the world is to chase your dream. Because you will leave no regrets on the table when you become older. And that is huge. You understand?

[D]

Yeah.

[A]

But between 6pm to midnight and between the weekends and between all the bullshit holidays we have, including in the Philippines, you guys are off all the fucking time. You got the fucking. The moon did this in 1800, so we're off today. Like, you know, just dumb shit, you know? Like you. I mean, you've got plenty of fucking time. You understand?

[D]

Yes, I understand.

[A]

All right. Good luck.

[D]

Okay. Thank you, Gary.

[A]

You're beyond welcome, Melanie. Oh, man, I'm really happy we're doing tea with Gary Vee again. We're fucking changing lives out here, Rips. Rips is just trying to sell some fucking plastic figurines. He doesn't give a fuck about Melanie's dreams. I do, though. Rips, you bad guy. Eat it, Melanie. All right, let's keep it going. Go ahead.

[B]

My man Vic asks, how do you know when to pull the plug on something? I've been working to build something for over 10 years, but I haven't cracked it and I'm losing steam.

[A]

You should quit. 10 years. Friends. I'm good for, like, three years of eating shit because you think there's something on the other side. I'm good for three years, which is probably 18 months too much. But I just want to really make sure because I'm always scared of, like, who gave up the week before the shit was gonna pop? What's this dude's name?

[B]

Vic.

[A]

Vic. Vic. You've been failing for a decade at this thing. This thing's fucking not gonna work. 10 years, Vic. Rips, how old were you 10 years ago?

[C]

12.

[A]

Rips was 12. Get over here. This fucking grown ass man was 12 fucking years old when you started your shit. Get out of here. Are you fucking kidding me? Vic, you gotta pull the plug. And I'm like, Mr. Never pull the plug at all costs. I am Mr. Never pull the plug at all costs. Never give up like I'm Mr. You've gotta kill. If we fight, you better kill me. You have to kill. I have to stop breathing for you to win. The tenacious termite, there's the alpha. I'm gonna build that fucking character to the moon. Because I love tenacity and he's little because we also have a tenacious turkey, but that's like big and scary. Turkeys are scary as fuck, by the way. On some side shit, we were fooled by two carrots. I just want to make sure everyone knows this. We were tricked on two people. One the turkey. Turkeys are nasty motherfuckers. I'm glad we eat those fuckers on Thanksgiving. I'm on the record, I'm glad we eat those fuckers on Thanksgiving because turkeys are nasty. You ever see a fucking turkey? Turkeys don't give a fuck. And number two hippos. We got faked with hungry hungry hippos. In that little cartoon. Hippos kill more people each year than sharks. Hippos are gangsters. I'm fucking scared of hippos and turkeys. I'm gonna make a movie called Hippos and Turkeys just to educate. Everyone needs to understand turkeys are nasty. Fucking nasty. Where was I? Oh, Vic. What the fuck, bro? 10 years I'm Mr. Like never give up. You better give up right now. Next thing. Next thing.

[B]

Pablo Kat asks. In visual arts, exclusivity is often what creates value. How do you build awareness on social media without killing the mystique that makes that high end art desirable to begin with?

[A]

Awareness has nothing to do with scarcity. There's 10 seconds left on a giveaway. Over 200 of you did not click it. Are you fucking kidding me? It's free. You came over. No wonder you're broke. You couldn't fucking click the button. No wonder you're fucking broke. You couldn't click the button. But you know who did click the button? Justin Gree. 49578. Looks like a new person. Congrats. Let's clap it up everybody. Good shit. Justin, that is in the mail for you for free.

[B]

So Kat asks, in visual arts, exclusivity is.

[A]

Oh, right. Fucking. I was dropping a bomb there. Awareness has nothing to do with scarcity. In fact, awareness is required to create scarcity. Uh oh. Yep. Guys, I just dropped a fucking gangster bomb, and most of you missed it. She's got it twisted. She thinks that awareness takes away the mystique to create scarcity. Scarcity is not a byproduct of awareness. By show of hands, everyone here who knows what the Mona Lisa is, raise your hand. Oh, weird. Everyone fucking knows. Thank you, Michael. I know what the fuck I'm talking about.