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Episode: Why Staying Too Long at the Wrong Job Kills Your Career | Tea with GaryVee Ep #82

Date: August 28, 2025
Host: Gary Vaynerchuk ("GaryVee")

Episode Overview

In this "Tea with GaryVee" episode, Gary dives deep into career stagnation, modern work expectations, entrepreneurship, navigating difficult work environments, personal resilience during hardship, and the power of community—through passionate Q&A with callers and the live chat. With characteristic candor, empathy, and humor, he unpacks the real reasons people stay in the wrong jobs and why letting go—or moving on—is essential for growth both professionally and personally.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Cutting Your Losses in the Wrong Job (00:02–01:51)

• Andrew (question): After 3 years at Walmart with no promotion, is it time to move on?
• Gary’s Advice:
  • Staying too long at the wrong place kills your momentum; getting new experience elsewhere is how you know if it’s truly the employer—or your own performance.
  • Multiple data points (e.g., working at Target, Five Below) clarify whether it’s the system or you; if it’s always the same, perhaps it’s the wrong career.
• Memorable Quote:
  • “People think putting a couple years into a job is cutting the loss. It's not cutting loss. You had an experience.” (GaryVee, 00:16)
  • “If you're over four, and every store says you suck... maybe retail is not your career. Maybe you need to be in camp counseling or a chef.” (GaryVee, 00:45)

2. Finding Flexible Work as a Parent & Embracing Entrepreneurship (01:51–05:48)

• Allie (question): Stay-at-home mom needing a flexible, impactful job, feeling stuck.
• Gary’s Advice:
  • Modern expectations are at odds with reality: we “want more” (flexibility, time with kids, money) than prior generations.
  • Reality check: Not all companies can be flexible, and “asking for too much” is an honest part of today’s labor challenges.
  • Alternative: Become entrepreneurial—flip items on eBay, Facebook Marketplace, Whatnot. Anyone can learn to make extra income this way given time and commitment.
• Notable Timestamps:
  • Gary’s “asking for too much” segment: 02:08–04:07
  • Flipping as a solution: 04:28–05:48
• Highlighted Quote:
  • “My actual answer… is to buy shit at thrift stores... post on Facebook… sell shit on ebay. You can make $1,000 a month easy flipping, after three to four months of learning.” (GaryVee, 04:28)

3. Online vs. Brick and Mortar for New Products (06:04–07:06)

• Caller: Should new brands prioritize physical stores or digital sales?
• Gary’s Advice:
  • Start online for traction and leverage; brick-and-mortar stores want proof (heat) from social and live shopping before they’ll stock products.
• Quotes:
  • “Get your leverage online first… They [retail chains] are looking for momentum in sales and heat from social.” (GaryVee, 06:26)

4. Most Underrated Growth Tactics for Small Businesses (07:10–08:50)

• Question: What are small businesses overlooking in 2025?
• Gary’s Tips:
  • Live social shopping and IRL streaming (e.g., Twitch, Kick).
  • AI-powered content creation to scale without huge teams.
  • Local influencer marketing: Use Instagram search for your town, DM micro-influencers, and offer free product/services for posts.
• Quote:
  • “Every local business… should go on Instagram, search their town… find local influencers and DM them to collaborate.” (GaryVee, 07:19)

5. Navigating a Narcissistic Boss (08:50–11:19)

• Question: How to handle a narcissistic boss if you love the job?
• Gary’s Insight:
  • "You don't love the job, because his job includes the narcissistic boss."
  • No unique jobs; look elsewhere for the same tasks with a better boss.
  • Personal branding (posting your expertise on LinkedIn, social media) creates future opportunities.
• Highlighted Quote:
  • “You do not love a job if you don’t love the boss. And if you’re using the word narcissistic, you’ve now done enough homework to understand what that is. A narcissist is a very tough human to interact with. It’s a non-winning game.” (GaryVee, 09:11)

6. Grief, Work Ethic, & Being Honest at Work (11:19–14:23)

• PK (caller): Dealing with family illness and declining work productivity.
• Gary’s Guidance:
  • Grant yourself grace during grief; communicate openly with your employer about your situation.
  • Some need work for escape, others need time off—it's highly personal.
• Notable Moments:
  • Empathy and validation for taking a productivity hit during hard times.
  • The importance of not compounding stress by hiding one’s struggles at work.

7. Regret and Starting Over (14:27–17:28)

• Question: Advice on missing windows (didn’t sell company at its peak), now restarting at 36.
• Gary’s Philosophy:
  • Don’t dwell on regrets; avoid starting from a negative, cynical place.
  • He’s made “a million mistakes” — forward motion is everything.
  • Sports analogy: Too many compare life to a game where they’re “down 14-9 in the first quarter and already crying.”
• Quote:
  • “Looking backwards is not good for your neck or your soul... Yesterday’s over. Learn from it and forget about it.” (GaryVee, 14:37)

8. Teachers, AI, and Monetization Beyond the Classroom (17:32–21:51)

• Darian (high school teacher): Loves teaching AI to students, wants to monetize his knowledge.
• Gary’s Playbook:
  • “Teachers come in all shapes”: Monetize by building a brand outside the school system—live social/video teaching, courses, speaking, books.
  • Give away a massive amount of valuable content for free to grow community before selling anything.
• Memorable Advice:
  • “The classroom… is not the place to monetize for teachers. … If you’re asking me about monetization, you must live elsewhere.” (GaryVee, 19:30)
• Practical Tip:
  • Repurpose classroom content for short-form videos on TikTok/Instagram/YT to draw attention and create future monetization paths.

9. Loneliness, Community & Trust (22:04–37:43)

• Damon (caller): Struggles with loneliness when distancing from negative circles, and when hustling with side gigs.
• Gary’s Deep Dive:
  • Distilling the difference between “limiting contact” (not cutting off) and seeking new, positive communities—be they in sports, fandom, religion, or hobbies.
  • Trust Issues: Many struggle to find or accept new supportive communities due to past trauma and trust issues.
  • The journey:
    1. Slowly reduce time with negative people (don’t sever family completely).
    2. Increase time and courage to connect with interest-based communities, both online and offline.
    3. Recognize that building trust is a muscle; practice and incremental growth are necessary.
  • Powerful Quote:
    • “Once you realize that no one’s better than you and that no human should be put on a pedestal, even the ones you most admire… then it really gets going.” (GaryVee, 33:56)
  • Action Step:
    • Damon shares his Instagram & Whatnot handles; Gary encourages the supportive VeeFriends/Whatnot community to connect—but only those who are "at their ultimate great place."

10. Year-Round Business & Content for a Seasonal Industry (37:49–43:25)

• George: Runs a Christmas lighting installation business, wants to grow off-season.
• Gary’s Answer:
  • Create helpful, themed content all year (“Christmas lights in July?”) to build brand and client pipeline; people plan year-round.
  • Leverage the universal affection for holidays to create shareable, engaging content—there’s always an audience.
• Notable Advice:
  • “People love to plan, bro. People love to plan... Start making Christmas lighting content 365 days a year.” (GaryVee, 41:11)

Notable Quotes, Moments & Lessons

• On Career Stagnation:
  “You need multiple data points. Some people are not being seen, and some people stink at their job. You don't know until you try.” (GaryVee, 00:34)
• On Modern Expectations:
  “We just want more. Our parents were willing to take an L in certain categories. We want more.” (GaryVee, 02:31)
• On Toxic Bosses:
  “A narcissist is a very tough human to interact with. It’s a non-winning game.” (GaryVee, 09:11)
• On Regret:
  “Yesterday’s over. Learn from it and forget about it. You cannot give weight to yesterday.” (GaryVee, 14:37)
• On Trust and Community:
  “Notice how no one disappoints me? I don’t put anyone above me. We are only disappointed by the ones we put above ourselves.” (GaryVee, 34:04)
• On Building Community:
  “This is a community that’s built on this foundational truth: strangers become acquaintances, acquaintances become friends, and friends become family. VeeFriends.” (GaryVee, 37:33)

Timestamps for Key Segments

• Cutting Losses & Job Hopping: 00:02–01:51
• Flexible Work for Parents / Flipping Hustle: 01:51–05:48
• Online vs Brick-and-Mortar Sales: 06:04–07:06
• Underrated Small Biz Tactics (AI, Local Influence): 07:10–08:50
• How to Handle a Narcissistic Boss: 08:50–11:19
• Grief & Work Ethic: 11:19–14:23
• Regret & Restarting Career: 14:27–17:28
• Teachers Monetizing AI Knowledge: 17:32–21:51
• Loneliness, Trust, and Community: 22:04–37:43
• Year-Round Seasonal Business Content: 37:49–43:25

In Gary's Own Words

The episode is classic Gary: direct, practical, and deeply empathetic—urging listeners to face hard truths, break stagnation, leverage new platforms, and above all, relentlessly build community and self-awareness. Whether you’re stuck in a job you hate, struggling with expectations, or building your own tribe, every answer is peppered with actionable strategies and real talk.

Signature GaryVee Tone:
“Love you, bro. That was real fuckin’ shit. Damon's life is forever changed. Not just because of me, but because of this community.” (43:00)

Final Takeaway

If you're feeling stuck—whether in career, life, or community—the solution is movement: try something new, experiment, build your online presence, seek out like-minded people, and don’t let regret or self-limiting stories hold you back. And above all, remember: community is everything, but only you can take the first step.