Your Exact Game Plan for Career & Business Success l Tea with GaryVee

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The GaryVee Audio Experience

Episode: "Your Exact Game Plan for Career & Business Success | Tea with GaryVee"

Host: Gary Vaynerchuk
Date: October 2, 2025

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Overview

In this episode of Tea with GaryVee, Gary Vaynerchuk hosts a live, unscripted Q&A where he delivers straightforward, passionate advice to listeners navigating career growth, self-doubt, business challenges, personal branding, and life transitions. Gary’s signature candor, humor, and motivational fire shine as he fields questions ranging from personal setbacks to scaling businesses. This session centers on actionable strategies, self-awareness, and the tough love often missing in mainstream career and business discourse.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Personal vs. Company Brand (Julio's Question)

• Julio shares that he and his family hit the road to support family-owned restaurants, documenting their journey and offering free content as a way in the door for his agency. He asks whether to focus on building his company brand (Foodies Forward) or stick with his personal brand (Julio de Furio).
  • Gary’s Advice: “Both.” (03:56) Don’t overthink the split; focus on where the value is, and prioritize making good content.
  • Algorithm Misconceptions: Gary dismisses the notion that the algorithm is sabotaging creators and stresses it’s about content quality:

    “Everybody has this weird dream that the algorithm is fucking them up. When it’s them fucking themselves up.... The algorithm is the content good?” (04:18)

  • Own Your Output: Gary recounts how his content struggled because his team was “mailing it in,” but once they brought energy and thoughtfulness, engagement rebounded.

    “We just weren’t fucking good enough. And miraculously…my shit’s hitting hard. Because we have a refocus.” (05:37)

2. Chasing Dreams with Adult Responsibilities

• Question: “What do you suggest I do to become a theater actor at age 46 with a family and full time job?” (07:37)
  • Gary’s Tough Love:
    • Spam every theater in your area, DM/email, and ask to audition and rehearse.
    • Responsibilities come first—if you have kids and family, you owe them, but nights and weekends are not “off limits.”

    “If you decide to have children, you need to take care of them. I don’t know what to say.... What do people want from me? You’ve made decisions. You need to live in those decisions.” (14:37)

    • Critiques the modern entitlement to instantly “live your dream,” saying reality involves sacrifice.
    • Calls for self-awareness—most think the rules don’t apply to them.
  • Wisdom for the Younger Listeners:

    “I’m yelling at all these fucking kids 18 to 30 right now and telling them to go fucking chase their dream BEFORE they have responsibilities.” (14:01)

3. Breaking into Public Speaking or Improv

• Chris Leap asks about promoting himself for public speaking and leveraging his personal story.
  • Gary’s Playbook (16:59):
    • Use ChatGPT (which he nicknames “Chatty”) to find speaking gigs—search, email, offer to speak for free.
    • The first 25 speaking gigs Gary did (besides his first paid) were all free.
    • Mix brand-building via social content with direct outreach:

      “It’s always brand and sales.” (20:20)

  • Prompt Engineering Tip: Gary prefers voicing prompts to ChatGPT for more natural language.

4. Confidence Among Successful People

• Adi’s Question: “How can I be confident among successful people even if I’m not yet successful?”
  • Gary’s Unfiltered Take:

    “By not giving a fuck what they think about you.... My success has nothing to do with any of your confidence or insecurities. Do not put people on a pedestal.” (20:54)

  • Wealth is not a valid reason for reverence; real confidence comes from within.

5. Dealing With Shame and Overcoming Public Mistakes

• Anash’s Question: “I did something bad under the influence, people are taunting me and I’m struggling with my mental health. How do I get past it?”
  • Gary’s Formula: Extreme ownership and public accountability.
    • Make a public apology video, own all of it, and give grace to yourself after.
    • Self-forgiveness is foundational—if you master it, you’ll become less judgmental of others:

    “Having accountability AND grace yourself, I think matters. If you’re able to learn to forgive yourself, you’ll forgive others.” (23:40)

  • Explains why people judge others—it’s rooted in their own dissatisfaction.

6. How Older Adults Can Start Over / Social Media for Seniors

• Umar (70-year-old woman) wants to make money for retirement and is learning AI/social. Where should she start?
  • Gary’s Encouragement:
    • Begin by telling stories on social media; you have a life’s worth of wisdom.
    • Trend prediction:

      “Within the next 15 to 20 years, five of the 10 biggest influencers in the world will be over the age of 70…. Wisdom’s gonna be hot.” (28:20)

    • Personal branding at any age is potent and the world is ripe for more “elders” in the influencer space.

7. Conquering Failure, Imposter Syndrome & Momentum (Robert’s Story)

• Robert shares: He was inspired by Gary to leap into improv, and found personal joy and growth. He’s successful at work but struggles with imposter syndrome.
  • Gary’s Response: Imposter syndrome = normal human insecurity, shaped by upbringing and circumstance.
    • Even “confident” people have fear and anxiety; just keep building momentum, small wins compound.
    • Positivity and optimism beat constant exposure to negativity in media and social.
    • Takes zero personal credit—attributes his mindset to parental upbringing, especially his mom.

      “All I was, was insecure as a kid. I was scared of everything… All I’m doing for all of you is what she [my mom] did for me. I’m an empty vessel.” (36:02)

  • Robert’s Advice to Theater Hopefuls:

    “I have a wife, I have a kid, a full time job… I was taking comedy classes on weekends, my nights to work on my craft… Connect and connect… Nights and weekends are not off limits.” (38:24)

8. How to Get Your Company to Try Live Social Shopping

• Jonah’s Question: “I want my company to go big on live social shopping, but nobody is convinced. Advice?”
  • Gary: “Conviction over convincing.”
    • Don’t try to persuade—just do it. Run a test, make a sale, and show the results.
    • “We need to get out of talking and we need to get into acting.” (39:16)
    • Older generations are sometimes less eager for the new; prove with results, then scale.

9. Scaling a Marketing Agency While Maintaining Quality

• Zach’s Question: “How do you scale an agency and keep quality?”
  • Gary's Simple Formula:

    “Hire good people…. You hold them accountable, you fire bad people, you hire more good people, you take care of good people, you’re there for them however they want to be there for [money, recognition, WLB]… That’s it.” (45:18)

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On the Algorithm:

  “Do you know what the algorithm is? The algorithm is a system that puts content in front of people. And when the people in the beginning… don’t fuck with it, the video doesn’t get seen as much.” — Gary (04:18)

• On Adult Responsibilities:

  “You’ve made decisions. You need to live in those decisions. And then you have to realize you have tons and tons of opportunity.” — Gary (15:10)

• On Thought Leadership After 70:

  “I predict in 21 years, five of the 10 biggest influencers in the world will be over the age of 70… I want my shit to wrinkle up crazy. I want to be like Pruni V and out here.” — Gary (28:58)

• On Confidence:

  “Why the fuck is their success creating insecurity in you? …You know who’s the last person we should be putting on a pedestal? Someone that has made money.” — Gary (20:54)

• On Accountability and Forgiveness:

  “Full, full accountability… being able to forgive yourself is a powerful thing. If you’re able to learn to forgive yourself, you’ll forgive others.” — Gary (23:40)

• On Proving Your Concept:

  “Conviction over convincing… don’t talk about it, just do it.” — Gary (40:00)

• On Losing and Competition:

  “When that game ended, I wasn’t like, ‘oh, I learned something.’ …I wanted to punch Zach in the fucking face. …Just leave me alone.” — Gary (34:27)

• On Scaling Business:

  “You hire good people, you hold them accountable, you fire bad people… you’re there for people. So you have retention. That’s it. That’s it.” — Gary (45:18)

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Timestamps for Notable Segments

• Julio’s Question: Personal vs. Company Brand — 02:11–07:30
• Algorithm/Content Quality Rant — 04:18–05:37
• 'Chasing Dreams with Responsibilities' Discussion — 07:37–16:14
• How To Break Into Public Speaking — 16:51–20:35
• How to Be Confident Around ‘Successful’ People — 20:48–21:59
• Dealing With Shame, Reputation, and Moving On — 21:59–28:02
• Older Adult Starting on Social / Age & Influence Prediction — 28:02–31:02
• Robert’s Story—Improv/Career Growth/Imposter Syndrome — 31:02–38:59
• Convincing a Company to Do Live Social Shopping — 39:03–45:13
• Scaling a Marketing Agency While Maintaining Quality — 45:13–end

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Takeaways

• Don’t overthink platform or brand—just make good content and test on both personal and company channels.
• The “algorithm” is about resonance and value, not magic tricks—focus on user attention and reaction.
• Responsibilities aren’t excuses; if you want something, give it your (remaining) all, sacrifice accordingly, and own your choices.
• Confidence shouldn’t be tied to others’ wealth or status; build internal validation.
• Own your fuckups publicly, learn, and move forward—apology and intent matter.
• There’s massive untapped power in older creators and wisdom-driven storytelling; age can and will become a superpower in the influencer era.
• The only way to prove new ideas at work (like live shopping) is by doing and demonstrating value.
• To scale, relentlessly focus on bringing in, taking care of, and setting standards for good people.

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Gary’s tone throughout is unfiltered, compassionate, humorous, and blunt—a blend of encouragement and pragmatic, sometimes expletive-laden, reality checks.

Transcript

[A]

Podcast nation.

[B]

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[A]

This is the GaryVee audio experience. Good morning. Good morning. Good morning, everybody. Welcome to another episode of Tea with Gary V. I am Gary Vee. Let's go to the video question first. Julio Garcia. Julio, how are you?

[C]

Hey, Gary. Good morning, man. How are you?

[A]

I'm good, brother. How are you?

[C]

First thing, man, just before we get started, let me let you know that I'm part of the 50% of the poll from yesterday that you're.

[A]

You're part of the what, my friend?

[C]

Oh, part of the 50% of the poll from. From yesterday. So you.

[A]

You peed your pants in school. I love it. This whole club. Now we got to start a whole revolution. All right, my man. What's. What's the question?

[C]

Hey, man, so just. Just to let you know, and if you see, I'm actually outside my rv, just about a month ago, my family and I packed up all our stuff, we sold everything, and we decided to go on the road to travel across all 48 states to simply follow our dream. And our dream is just to support Family owned restaurants make them free content, share their stories and we are faith based so we also pray for their business and just part of what we do, the way that we are currently making end meets, it's through my social media, my social, my digital marketing agency where I offer services for small restaurants. And I've been following literally your advice on, you know, with, with the book that the Jab jab right hook, basically that one has been how I bottle my, my services. And part of this is giving value to, to these restaurants, giving them a free content without asking anything in return. That gives me the option, you know, the opportunity to get in the door, get them to, to talk to them, get to know them and then we offer them our services. That's how I've been, been, been doing it and that's how basically we are making a living now. Makes sense with this new, with this new venture. I want to make this into a national brand, you know, where people can see the, the company is actually called Foodies Forward and that is, you know, the, the main thing. But I'm just using Julio the Furio as the face of the company. Right, okay. So my question is, would, would it be better to start focusing now more on 40s forward or continue to do it with my personal brand, which is Julio de Furio?

[A]

Both.

[C]

Because on, on, on Footy's Forward, I'm not even really doing any content there yet. Try to do a few podcasts and place like that. But on Julio the Furio is where I'm doing all these stories and you know, sharing the businesses. And another thing that I'm doing a little bit different, which I don't know if it's messing up with my algorithm or not.

[A]

Stop.

[C]

I see.

[A]

Like, stop with that. Stop with messing up my algorithm. You're. I'm telling you, everyone's caught up in this game. Listen, the algorithm matters. But again, when you've. Everybody has this weird dream that the algorithm is fucking them up. When it's them fucking themselves up. The algorithm is people's attention. Just so you know, the algorithm is not some weird Elon Musk, Mark Zuckerberg, wizard of Oz, something dynamic. Do you know what the algorithm is? Julio the Fudio, do you know what the algorithm is? The algorithm is a system that puts content in front of people. And when the people in the beginning of seeing that content on the other side don't fuck with it, the video doesn't get seen as much. Okay. Everyone's got this weird fucking thought of what the algorithm is. The algorithm Is just, is the content good?

[C]

Okay, makes sense.

[A]

So you, you using this account or that account? People like, my algorithm was fucked up too. Three months ago, for a whole couple months. You know what it was called? Me and my team fucking sucked.

[C]

Get better at it.

[A]

Yeah, we were using old fucking content with not a lot of fucking thought going through the fucking motions. I was busy. The team was not hitting on cylinders. We just weren't fucking good enough. And miraculously, the last couple months or last couple weeks? Month, last four, five, six weeks, my shit's hitting hard. Because we have a refocus. We're thinking more thoughtfully. We have better strategies. The thumbnail's better, the hooks better. The first three seconds better, the 10 seconds in is better. My copy's better, our energy is better. You know, I see some of my teammates, you know, Pablo specifically shaking his head. He's been here, he was here. Not Danny who's just shaking his head because he likes positive affirmation. He wasn't here, but Pablo shaking his head because he was here. And he knows that the energy, the effort, the thoughtfulness, the debate. They were mailing it in, I was mailing it in and we had a bad fucking several months of my content.

[C]

And you even prove it, right when I remember when you did the, your other account that it was getting a lot more views than, than, than your main account just by answering random people's question. I think that was kind of like a proof what you did.

[A]

Ah, you're talking right, you're talking about this where I showed that on my TikTok, one of my TikToks, I created something called, you know, Gary V's answers and I replied to somebody's TikTok and that video got more views with two hundred and eighty four followers than my fifteen million dollar. Fifteen million person account. That's right, bro. It's the content. Yeah, it's the content. All right man, get into that mindset. Try to make good content.

[C]

Thank you, Gary.

[A]

You got it. Stay well. Of course, my man. All right, Pablo, what do you got?

[D]

Terry asks, what do you suggest I do? What do you suggest I do to become a theater actor at age 46? I have a family and a full time job and kids in college. What do I do?

[A]

Spam? I think he's just spam every local theater within a two hour mile radius driving of him and say that I want to try out, I want to act. I mean you're 46, you want a theater act. There's only going to be so many theaters around you. Maybe you live in New York City, but that's obviously the toughest game in town. I think you need to go out for rehearsals, and I think you need to ask for rehearsals and that's it. I mean, as far as, like, you've got kids, you got a family, you know, Dustin. Dustin Lee says not use social. Dustin, I don't know if Arizona is so hot that your brain is not as sharp. When I say spam, what. What do you think? I mean, of course, social dm, people on social, email, you know, I'm not sure what's going on in Arizona dust, but you might be. You might have too much free time on your hand out there riding your bike and shit, you know? Yeah, I understand. You just try to help elaborate. I love you. I miss you a lot. So look, I think. And by the way, what's Dustin doing up right now? Is it 6, 10 in the morning there? You need to go ask and take it. I think the second part of the question is, how do I afford that? I guess providing for a family. Like, look, life has responsibilities. Like, if you decide to have children, you need to take care of them. I'm. I don't know what to say. Like, you know, like, the amount of people that are coming to me being like, gary, but I got kids. I'm like, hey, dick, you know, pull your dick out and don't have kids. Like, I don't know, like, what do you want from me? No shit. You have kids. You've made that decision. Fucking take care of it now. Like. Like, people are 48, 6 and trying to, like, like, I'm sorry that you have kids. In fact, I'm so happy that you have kids. But, yes, I understand you need to now provide for them. Sorry that you can't go play theater. Why the fuck do you think I'm yelling at all these fucking kids 18 to 30 right now and telling them to go fucking chase their dream before they have those responsibilities. What do you think we're doing out here? I'm not fucking sitting here making jokes. I'm not out here trying to make you laugh. I'm not out here modeling. I'm not trying to have you look at me and want to be like me and, like, fascinate over me. I'm not out here shooting buckets and throwing 99 miles an hour. I'm not trying to have you put a poster of me in your room because you think I'm a great athlete. I'm trying to talk about real fucking shit here. Why do you think I'm fucking trying from the bottom of my heart on mornings in the late summer to get people to understand what the fuck life is about? In your early years, you need to go all in on your dreams. This gentleman wanted to always be a theater actor. Feels like he didn't get it out of his system. Sounds like he didn't in his 20s go to the big city and have 8,000 auditions and then by 30 be like, okay, I got that nut off. I'm not that guy. Why do you think I'm telling all of you kids not to take the job your parents and society are telling you to? Dead fucking curious what this dude did from 20 to 30. Did he take that job that he thought he was supposed to take? Did he take a job that paid a little bit more so he had a little bit of better apartment and could go and live his life? And now at 46, like, oh shit, life's really about joy and enjoying it. And by the way, people have confusion on joy. I don't want to go sailing and on vacation. Clearly. Look where I am this morning. This is my joy. I am more happy to sit here and spit this old man wisdom on all of you then be sailing this morning or teeing off at a country club. I understand a lot of people like to do that. I love that for all of you. Oh, by the way, Sportus, I'm not saying I'm old when I say old man. I'm saying since I was fucking 13, I've been spitting wisdom. I've been on this 88 year old talk track since I was 18. Go talk to my high school and college friends, ask them what shit I was spitting. I get that you have responsibilities. You guys chose that. How do you handle it? You get into good physical and mental health so that you can actually slip sleep six hours a day. That gives you 18 hours a day. In an 18 hour day you can get a lot of stuff done. All of you are fucking brain rot scrolling, playing video games, watching Netflix, doing other. Most of you are golfing and sailing and playing video games and watching Netflix to escape not enjoying what you do. Does everybody understand this game is reverse? People do all this other stuff and spend all this money on stuff to fix the fact that they don't like their 9 to 5. Yeah, I mean like I think you got to give up your weekends and your nights. You have a full time job, come home, kiss the wife and go out and fucking audition. And then when you know, like I don't know what to tell you, like, I don't understand how nights and weekends have become off limits. I think we got fucked up. You know how, like we overcorrect. Like, we went, we go to left and now we go to right and then we're gonna go to. Like, people don't know how to find the middle in this world. Where from 2007 to 2012, it was awesome to be like, hustle. I was fucking one of the faces of it. Hustle, go hard. Don't forget the 2008 financial crisis fucked everyone up. Smart ass kids with good degrees for the first time ever couldn't come out and get jobs. They're like, what the fuck is this? While Facebook and Twitter were exploding, YouTube shit was changing. We overcorrected. Like, people are like, gary, do you know how many popular. I mean, you may know this because you're my shit. How many people are like, gary, I get going hard, but like, I gotta live my life. I'm like, motherfucker, live your life. You're in debt. The fuck are you talking to me about? Ibiza, when you're in debt. This instant gratification. Where the fuck is like, I see Chris leap behind right now. He'll be on next. He's got some gray hairs. When him and I grew up, people didn't think that it was supposed to be awesome every day and fucking party every. Like, people are com. Like, the entitlement is ravaging us. I think his situation's easy. He's got kids in college. Like, clearly he's talking about like, I want to do this full time. How do I afford to pay it? You don't. You're not a good enough theater actor. That's like me coming on this show and be like, yo, listen real quick, I don't trust Justin Fields. How do I become the quarterback of the jets and win a Super Bowl? The answer is, you're fucking delusional. Gary, shut the fuck up. You're almost 50 and you're not that. And you're not athletic. And by NFL standards, you're a piece of poop. The are you talking about? We are just not self aware, not accountable. And, and this is all love for this dude. This dude's got it good. Audition at night, act on the weekend. What's he. If he was on screen, would he come in? Yeah, but my wife, like, okay, then pick your wife. I don't. Like what, like, what do people want from me, Pablo? The fuck do people want from me? You've made decisions. You need to live in those decisions. And then you have to realize you have tons and tons and tons of opportunity. Like, you can easily act. What do kids in college have to do with anything? What do you want me to tell you to quit your job and go be Liberace? Chris Leap.

[E]

Yes, sir.

[A]

How are you, my friend?

[E]

Outstanding. So for Mr. Pablo, I do act and I do a lot of improv and everything like that. And you do have to sacrifice.

[A]

Don't blame Pablo. Pablo just asked the question. Don't kill the. No, no, no, no.

[E]

I'm blame him. But yeah, if you want to be an actor, it does take a lot, a lot of time. That doesn't even count. Doing the lines. You got to run the lines all day long. So.

[A]

Of course.

[E]

But my thing is, is I do a lot of lives where I'm answering questions about medical stuff and everything like that. And my history is I've lost two children and gone through all of that. And one of the things I want to do is really get more into public speaking.

[C]

And I know the social.

[E]

But with my copy, do I just keep putting that on the end of the copy of everything I do? Just hit me up and let's do something.

[A]

And again, I think it goes to what I said there. Like, if I'm you, I'm chatgpting and googling public speak, public events where speakers in my area and I'm. I'm literally emailing them and saying, hey, I'll speak for free. I think I'm really good. I think I'm next. I think I got it. You don't have to charge me. The first. Besides my first speaking engagement, which I got paid, which even made me aware that this was a business mine. After my first event speaking where I got paid because it was a cold outreach, I would say the next 25 speeches I gave were for free. Okay. You know, when nobody wants you, your cost is zero.

[E]

Outstanding. And I don't even care if I.

[A]

Yeah, I could tell. I could tell. Yeah, that wasn't for you. That was for everyone. Right. Like, I hear from a lot. I could tell that from your temperament. Like, I think the answer is just reaching out to as many events, including if you have the capacity to travel and if you have a genre or an area. For example, improv. If I'm you, I'm going to chat CBT right now. And can you give. Literally, I'm. I'll do it right now just for fucking effect. Here we go. Oh, by the way, I call chat cbt. Chatty. Hey, chatty. Can you give me A list of 10 public events, conferences, speaking events that are around the improv industry that are happening in next 90 days. Can you also give me a link to them? In fact, if you can find the email on the website, that would be even better and save me time. What I'm looking to do is I'm looking to speak on stages, but I don't have a big name yet. Look, I'm no fucking Gary Vee, for example, you know, and so I'm looking to get on stages and I need to email them and offer my services for free. So for the rest of the calendar year or into Q1 of next year, I'm looking to get knowledge on some events that are going on specifically around improv, where I have some knowledge, knowledge where I could reach out to them. So can you give me a link to six events in the next 180 days with link to the website of the event and their emails if you can find it. Okay, a couple things. One thing that is exciting, everybody on T with Gary Vee. I hope you saw like this is how I prompt engineer. I think for a lot of you, you're probably like me. You don't communicate as well in written form as you do in voice. I only voice my prompts.

[E]

Okay, yeah.

[A]

See what happens here. All right, here we go. Countdown. Improv Festival 2025, Tampa, Florida. August said that already passed, so did something wrong there? Applied Improv Network event in Safety Harbor, CA.IO Fest 2025 in Chicago, IL. Hold on one second. Yeah, I looked at. Hey, Chatty. You do understand that there is no time machines And I can't go backwards. You just gave me a bunch of events that already happened. I don't know if you're on some future AI shit where you think I can go backwards. In fact, if you are on some future AI shit, can you tell me why you believe time machines exist? And in fact, can you tell me which company is going to be the leading company in time machine technology? Because I'd love to be an early angel investor. Notwithstanding that insanity, can you please tell me events that are coming up? Because what you just gave me is not actionable. Thank you.

[E]

Okay, so mine is not only the social media, but the direct contact, like hitting these places up.

[A]

That direct. It's always brand and sales. The brand, right? The brand work you're doing is the social media content, the reading, the reaching out directly. Right, okay. That's the way to go.

[E]

Okay, Yeah. I mean, and as far as my payment, if one person doesn't self checkout. That's my payment, so I love it. That's outstanding.

[A]

All right, my brother, I wish you well. Stay well. All right, Pablo, next question.

[D]

Adi asked, how can I be confident among successful people even when I'm not yet successful?

[A]

By not giving a fuck what they think about you. The fuck are you talking about? Confidence around successful people. Why the fuck is their success creating insecurity in you? I had not become successful in my twenties. I hung around with nothing but rich people drinking wine in their 50s. I didn't give a fuck that they were winners and I hadn't been yet. Confidence has nothing to do with other people's success or your lack of. You like that, Liz. Right? Like, I don't know why putting someone else's success on a pedestal makes any sense. Like, my success has nothing to do with any of your confidence or insecurities. Do not put people on a pedestal. You know who's the last person we should be putting on a pedestal? Someone that has made money. I really hope none of you fuckers watching right now look up to me because of me being able to be good at making money. I really hope not. If that is why you look up to me, stop. So anyway, I don't know. That was a very easy question. Keep going. All right.

[D]

Anash asks. I've been struggling a bit with my mental health as I did something under the influence, which was objectively bad.

[A]

Let me just. Let me just help you. It was definitely bad. Keep going.

[D]

The people around me looked at me differently and taunted me, spreading rumors about me. How can I deal with this? You say you shouldn't care about them, but when you die, isn't what people think of you all that's left?

[A]

No, it's what you think about yourself. You know you did something wrong. That's what's happening here. You are upset with yourself and I'm proud of you for that. This is a beautiful question. What's this gentleman's name?

[D]

Anash.

[A]

Anash. I'm really proud of you, Anash. Scorpion official says if they make rumors, cut them off. They're reacting to his shit. Nobody would be talking about anything if he wouldn't fuck up. Under the influence. Like, I don't understand. Like, again, are we really gonna blame people for talking shit because you were under the influence and did something wrong? Like, please make a video right now on your social and fucking completely own it and say you're sorry and it won't happen again, and you've learned from it, and then you can move on. Blow yourself up. Go naked, own it. Make a video. Go right on your video right now and be like, yo, what's good? It's an ash. Listen, here's what's happened. I snorted some lines that I fucked up, or I popped Somali and I did this, or I fucking thought I was getting a little gummy action. There was a little more in there than I thought. And I lost my shit, and I acted a fool. And I'm incredibly embarrassed. I embarrassed my parents, my friends, my loved ones, and most of all, I embarrassed myself. And I apologize. That and for all of you, my homies, my acquaintances, the people I know that have been talking mad shit, I get it. If I didn't do this dumb shit, you wouldn't have anything to talk about. So I apologize to y' all as well, and I hope that you're never in the position that I'm in where you fuck up. I apologize. I'm gonna try to move forward. I know this will linger. This stain may last forever. I just want you all to know that I own it. It's on me. It's 100% my fault. And if this lingers in the air for the next 10 years, I have no one to blame but myself. But I'm gonna act better going forward. And over time, I think this will be a blip, an anomaly, and a side joke amongst us all. Because it was that one time that I got caught up. Instead of it being a consistent narrative of who I am, that's what I believe today. Obviously, if I do it three, four, five more times, it's who I am. Even though my intent wasn't good. I love you all. Sorry. I'll see you next time. There was a great gentleman on my team early on, Steve Unwin, one of my first team Gary Vee teammates. And he said something profound to me. I'm obsessed with intent, as I think you know, I'm obsessed with intent. But he challenged me one day in a meeting, and he said, yeah, Gary, but if you don't act on your intent, what's up? And I said, you're right. Said, you're right. Now, my belief is that most people's intent, like, it's broken, like, it's. You're gonna show up wrong because your intent was wrong. But I. I value intent, and I think humans make mistakes. I think in hindsight, that moment, what I realized was I couldn't articulate the concept of having grace for yourself. Having. Having accountability and grace yourself, I think matters. If you notice what I Did there, that's full, full accountability, you know. So being able to forgive yourself is a powerful thing. And I'll tell you why, my friends. If you're able to learn to forgive yourself, you'll forgive others. Your obsession with judging. Here's what's happening in the world right now. What we are in everyone else's business because we're looking for people to trip up so we can shit on them to feel better about what we're struggling with. You like that Mike, you felt that one, right? I saw your head go. That's what's happening. Like you give fucks about Taylor Swift and Kelsey and have your two cents on it for one reason. You're not feeling good enough about yourself. I could give a fuck about those two other than I want nothing but for that love to be awesome. Oh, I actually do care. I want their love to be awesome and they're great people and go blah blah. I, I do hate Kelsey though. He's a chief. And they fucked us on that Monday night game. That bullshit flag late in the game, pass interference call is straight shit. Everybody watched the fucking refs rob the jets of that win. I never blame refs. Cause football's tough. I, I actually don't fuck with it, but fuck every football team but the Jets. I hate all of you. The Dolphins, I fucking hate you. The Bills, Patriots. Oh, you guys, you three, I fucking hate the most. Next, all AFC teams. The fucking Bengals, Browns, fucking Steelers, you know, and Ravens, you motherfuckers. Next, the south, the Texans and the fucking Jags and the Colts and that whole bullshit division, all four of you team, the Titans, you guys. And then the west, the Raiders, Broncos, Chargers, Chiefs. Fuck you guys. So fuck all the AFC teams. Now to the nfc. I don't fucking, I don't bother with you guys over there too much. But like first the Giants. All your fans are entitled. Fuck you guys. You've won four Super Bowls. I don't want to hear you crying. And Jack's darker than a stink. Even though I love that kid as a kid. But now he's a Giant, I hate him. I like the Eagles, Cowboys and Commanders because they hate the Giants. So they're probably the three teams I like the most after I don't even really think about the rest of the NFC. I like the 49ers a little bit right now because Yudkin and Marcus, two people I love, love them. But now the coach Salah, who I loved as the jets coach, is back defensive coordinator. I'll root for them and I like the Vikings owners and Mike Vacanti, my trainer, is a Vikings fan. So I got a little love for the Vikings, but fuck every AFC team. Next question please?

[D]

Umar asks. I'm a 70 year old woman and I want to make some money for my retirement so I'm not struggling for my expenses. But I don't know where to start and what I can do to start something on social media. I'm eager to, eager to learn AI as well, which I'm doing. What advice do you have for me?

[A]

I think that most people that are confused need to just go on social and start telling stories. You're a 70 year old woman, you're loaded with stories. We touched on this yesterday. This is becoming a thing. I might build some content around the concept of just telling, telling stories like she's got. I'm telling you right now, I'm positive about what I'm gonna say and I think it's gonna work out for me. I believe, and I've talked on this, everyone, I believe that we've been on a pendulum swing in the last 15 years where we put youth culture on a pedestal, right? Youth culture. So everyone wants to act younger. Everybody's, you know, the kids know everything. They're young, they're smart, and that's been the wave again back to society. I think we went through a wave where instead of being purple and in the middle, we went to left. Everybody canceled everybody for fucking everything. And now I think we're going right. I don't know if anyone's paying attention, but hate is out of control. Like we need middle. Same with youth culture. We went super youth. Everything's good. Youth, new technology, young kids, everybody fucking get fucking plastic surgery and look 20 instead of 40. Like blah blah, blah blah blah. I actually think in the next 20 years we're gonna be at a place where wisdom's gonna be hot. I predict that within the next 15 to 20 years, five of the 10 biggest influencers in the world influencers will be over the age of 70. I'm 49. I predict in 21 years, five of the 10 biggest influencers in the world will be over the age of 70. And so honestly, I actually think my greatest era of popularity, fame, influence will be when I'm over 70. Because on that note, I'm not gonna be in this in between anymore. I'm gonna be in this like, nice, like you're fucking Yoda. In fact, I told Mona, I'm not even doing like face care or like skin or fucking anything. Like I want My shit to wrinkle up crazy. I want to be like Pruni V and out here and just like, I'm doing nothing. I'm just, like, doing nothing. I'm trying to look old. I'm trying to be like my dad. My dad's 71. He looks 90. I'm on that kick. I'm trying to be like fucking. Because it's just going to really, like, reinforce where I'm going, you know, Like, I'm going fudgeing like Yoda. Like, I might even live in a cave for a year. I talk about this a lot. I might even do that Obi Wan shit and just wear a cloth Like, I'm a fucking sandman. Like. Like, just like fucking. And I'm just gonna be out there like videos. Be like, you fuckers. I've been saying this shit for 50 years, you know, Like, I'm really. Robert Coyne. Hey, Gary.

[F]

How's it going?

[A]

I'm good. How are you? Good. Good.

[F]

Hey, just real quick, just want to say thanks for all you do, man. Thanks for all the good messages. It's helped me really push myself this last year. One of the things I started doing, really believing in myself and starting off, someone was talking about theater, acting. I've started improving comedy this year because I just started doing it, stopped being afraid of it, started doing it. And I've really found a love and passion for it. So that's been a great saying. Really glad I've been doing that.

[A]

That makes me so happy, bro. Honestly. What. So what you're saying, consuming my content made you realize I've been living my life for other people's judgment. Those people have absolutely nothing to do with my life. And if I don't jump now, when am I going to jump? You then jumped. You realized, in fact, when you jump, 8 out of 10 people are cheering for you and smiling, and you've learned how to kind of deal with the two that. Out of 10 that are not. Yes, 100.

[F]

100. And once I got in and it wasn't that scary. And part of that failure in doing that has taught me to, you know, it's not. When you really. It's weird because, like, at my job, you know, you have a failure, you feel bad about it, you want to do better, but when you fail in something that you really feel a passion for. I don't feel bad when I fail. I feel good knowing I've learned something out of this. And now the next time I hit this, the next time I can find my mark, I Know where I can go in the next.

[A]

And by the, and by the way, this whole concept of like, like feeling good or learning from failure, let me say where I'm at. I think that's true, but that's only 5% of how I feel when I lose. When I lose, I'm angry and pissed and fucked up. Like me, Courtney, Xander and rips lost yesterday. Five straight games of 4 on 4 basketball to Andy, Jay, Tyler and Zach. Right? And the teams, like, weren't in our favor. Like, all four of us were smaller. They're also pretty tenacious and didn't want to let us win. We're better looking, but other than that, like, we were in a tough spot. When that game ended, I wasn't like, oh, I learned that maybe I should have passed to Courtney in this move. Or, oh, like, that was a good run. You know, I'm almost 50 years old. Like, I had really good cardio. I got some nice workout. Or like, oh, like, you know, damn, I could have done this better. I learned from that. When we lost, I'm like, I hope that Tyler dies of a heart attack right now. Like, right now as he's walking to get water. I hope he falls over, it's dead and never to be alive again. I'm sorry. I want to be authentic with everyone. I'm in a very dark place when I lose. I know everybody in the comments will be like, what the fuck just happened? Incompetent. Now, let me make this clear for the people that don't know me. Of course I don't really mean that, but I want people to understand that when you lose, there's all sorts of energies that come right. Nft. Nft. Katie says, Glad it's not just me, right? This isn't something, bro. Macho shit. Nft. Katie, the best, sweetest girl. She also loses her mind when she loses. Like, it just is what it is. I don't really. Again, before everybody gets all caught up, no, I do not want that. Tyler's one of my favorite people on earth. I wouldn't want that to someone I hate with all my guts, Tyler, for that to happen, let alone someone I love. But in that moment, I wanted to punch Zach in the fucking face. I wanted to, like, break Andy's leg. Like, I'm angry. I hate everyone. I'm not looking to talk to anyone. Don't fucking. Luckily, like, Jay and Guy are new and they think, like, it's okay to, like, dab after the game. Like, everyone around me knows, like, if I lose, don't come near me. I might bite your shin. Cause I'm always sitting. Like, I might bite it right off, too. I'll fucking take your skin off your fucking leg, you. That's where I'm at. Just leave me alone.

[F]

Another question for you, Gary. So I've. I've been a fairly high. And this is, you know, trying to be humble about it, but I've been a pretty high performer in my job. Really started finding my footing. I'm 33 now, really finding my footing in. And my most recent job at 5 last year, had my latest performance review. Not a single thing negative.

[A]

Okay.

[F]

Not one bad thing.

[A]

Okay.

[F]

So I'm realizing I'm performing at a higher level. Realize that I'm doing well. I'm engaged. What I'm trying to do is bridge the gap from where I'm putting my efforts in my job and how I can translate that into more things for myself. So taking that same time and attention that I'm giving to my customers, that I'm giving to my management and. And taking that same energy and really feeling it more for myself. I love problems I have is. Is with my job. Is. I sometimes feel a little bit of that. And I hate to use the term, it's overused, but imposter syndrome.

[A]

Right.

[F]

I've kind of found my way.

[A]

But hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on. That makes sense because you started this conversation, bro. You know what I think about imposter syndrome? We have to eliminate that word, the word. Sometimes in your job, you feel insecure. That makes sense to me. You started this with saying you feel insecure at times. That's okay. It doesn't. It doesn't sound like it's merited.

[C]

No, no.

[F]

And, you know, like I said, I.

[A]

The way. The way you were parented, the neighborhoods you grew up in, the DNA that you were given, your circumstances led to you having some level of insecurity. We all do. Every person, even me. And I talk about my confidence is crazy. All I was, was insecure as a kid. I was scared of everything. Riding a bike, kissing a girl, swimming. I mean, I literally avoided the doctor and dentist at all. Do you understand? A needle, a shot from 3 to 25 years old in my life would be like, you telling, like, I don't know, like, getting a shit, like, getting killed. I was like, fuck it, kill me. I don't want the shot.

[F]

Absolutely.

[A]

Oh, yeah.

[F]

And then that's how I was with public speaking for a long time. And I, you know, my late 20s started to get over that.

[A]

So anyway, I mean, I honestly. You just got to chip away at what you're doing. Clearly, consuming my content has given you more confidence and clarity. There's other people that do that. There's people in your life. There's other content creators. Robert, you're good, bro. Honestly. Just keep building the momentum. Positivity. What's working for you is what works for everyone. Do you know who I am? I'm the byproduct of a mother that fucking instilled nothing but positivity, optimism, and accountability. Just so you know, I'm nothing. I'm just a vehicle that's extending what my mom did for me to all of you. That's it. I'm an empty vessel. Just so you know, all your accolades, all your goat emojis, all, you're the best. All, you're the best of all time. All. You're awesome. You're this good news. I feel none of it. It passed through me and goes to my mother. All. All I'm doing for all of you is what she did for me. The reason things are better, Robert, is you've decided to listen to me instead of watching fucking CNN and Fox News or follow other social media people who've got nothing but negativity or judgment. Take every tragic event like we had in Minnesota, which is devastating. And you know, here is how we decide to react to that. Why don't we spend all our time and energy fucking hating each other. Other. There we go. That's a good. That's. That sounds logical, right? Rips? That's a good idea. Let's take some darkness and hate and let's take that as a human and then spend the next eight hours on the Internet hating everybody else. That seemed productive. You. You idiots. The are you guys doing.

[F]

That's true. And to the guy who wants to be a theater actor. I have. I have a wife, I have a kid. I have a full time job. I was taking comedy classes on Saturdays and Sundays. I was taking my nights to write sets and work on my craft. I mean, find people that are in that sphere and. And connect and connect and connect and talk to all the people that you want to talk to that you can talk to in there. Because they're not only going to, of course you push yourself, but they're gonna. They're gonna be through the same thing and you're gonna have people that you can talk to that are doing the same thing and keeping motivated. So, of course you're right. Nights and weekends are not off limits. Man.

[A]

Not off limits.

[F]

Thanks for everything you do, man. I really appreciate it. I love you myself.

[A]

Love, love you, brother. All right, go ahead.

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So Jonah asks, I'm pushing live social shopping in my company and getting zero traction. To clarify, I want my company to start doing live social shopping. Heavy. Any advice?

[A]

I mean, you know what I think about this? I think conviction over convincing when you don't have the leverage, right? If Mike V Wants me to do something he doesn't have the leverage. I'm the decision maker. He. Him trying to convince me isn't going to work. Often it's not. But him showing me, him going and doing a live show and being like, yo, Gary, I'm fucking Mike v. I have seven followers. You have 15 million on TikTok. I went on and I sold $98 worth of stuff, Legos and this fucking pen. Like, I really think you should do it. His actions got me going, right? So this. What do I think this person should do? I think this person should go and do a show, sell some random shit around their house, walk into the office and be like, I sold $900 worth of stuff. This company can sell $9 million worth of stuff. We need to get out of talking and we need to get into acting. This is a generation. And by the way, when I say generation, I do not mean Gen Z and young millennials. I mean the people older than me, the boomers. You know, us Gen Xers, we don't even get talked about. It's as if we don't even fucking exist. Which, honestly, on some real shit makes me realize. Like, I'm like, I think this will make sense to all of you. Like, that's why I think it's good. Like, you know what I mean? I, like, like it that way. Like, yeah, like, we're not old enough to be on full defense, which is where boomers get a bad rap, because they're on defense. Everybody loves the jungle and merit. It's like, it's a jungle out there. You gotta, like, fucking compete. But then you become 70 and you don't wanna compete anymore. And you're like, no, no, let's take the money we made from the jungle and pay politicians to make rules to make my fucking old ass fucking good. Fuck that shit. I'm like, fucking Obi Wan Kenobi. Like, I'm gonna be out here, like, fucking doing it. And then, like, when I'm not good enough, fucking Darth Vader's gonna kill my ass. Like, I can't wait for young entrepreneurs to destroy me. I'm not gonna try to let that happen. I'm on some. I'm gonna be 82 and have more energy and fucking dominate you young fuckers. But if, for God forbid, I slow down, I'm not trying to use my power and my money to fucking cozy up to bullshit politicians to make it better for me to change the rules. I'm trying to be out here and get killed. I'm trying to be out here and get killed. Trey. What I mean by that is I love the game so much. I believe in merit so much. I believe in competition so much. I believe in it is what it is. So much. Even at my own expense, when I'm not good enough, I should lose. I just am not scared of you weak, young luck little fuckers. I'm just not even. I'm not even worried about it. To be honest though, that's the good part. I just think at 82, I'm gonna have more humility and hunger and fucking tenacity. I just don't know what else to say. I just don't see people outworking me. Just not scared of you. Really not. The best part is I'm not Kobe. My body isn't gonna break down and I can't do it anymore. Sports is tough. The fuckers that have my mentality have to retire. The body breaks, it just is what it is. 23 year olds are a problem. I'm really lucky. It's like God really smiled down on me. He's like, you know what, Gary? Not only am I gonna make this all awesome for you, with the gifts of what I'm going to give you, I'm going to decide that when you're going into your prime, and even past your prime, I'm going to create a generation of entitled bitches. You know that whole thing of like, like, you know, do you think like one, you know, Israel Adesanya can beat like 300, you know, like pumpkins. And they do that simulation. I feel like it's like, Gary, do you think you can? You vs 10,000 Gen Alpha entrepreneurs who will win? I'm like me. They feel, they feel. They feel like people care about their feelings. Do you know why I can't lose, Pablo? Because I know no one cares about my feelings. By the way, I blame no Gen Z or Gen Alpha kid. The culture fucked them up. We tricked them. Now I blame all of them. Now that they heard, now I blame all of you. Now that you've heard me say that, now it's on you. Okay, And. And what? Because News Alert, the amount of Gen Alpha and Gen Z kids making paper and dominating is higher than any generation before it. It's called the Internet and social media. 22 year olds that are here making paper. So what are you crying about? Kai Senet Sanat. Excuse me, I apologize. He's not making this kind of money. In 94, in 72. Mr. Beast isn't making this kind of money. Alex Earl isn't making this kind of money. Alex Cooper isn't making this kind of money. So what's your problem? If the boomers fucked it all up for y', all, the fuck happened to clicks? Why didn't he get fucked up? Well, I don't know. Because he fucking streams for 15 hours a day and has his mind right? Has natural talent, found his thing, you know? One more from you, Pablo.

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Zach asks, how would you scale a marketing agency while maintaining the quality of service and production?

[A]

Hire good people. I don't, I don't know. How did I do it? Everyone's like, but they want me, Gary. I'm like, they don't want you more than they wanted me, right, Pablo? That's the follow up for everybody. Everybody wants, you know, Gary, but they want me to work on the account. How do I scale? I'm like, motherfucker, they don't want you more than they wanted me. Everybody. The only reason people have been hired, Vayner, for the first, oh, I don't know, every year is because of me. How do you scale? You hire good people, you hold them accountable, you fire bad people, you hire more good people, you take care of good people, you're there for them however they want to be there for. Some people want more money, some people want recognition, some people want work, life, balance, you know, you're there for people. So you have retention. That's it, that's it.