Mary Kay McBrayer (20:57)
There's not a lot to be found about Honora Kelly during her early childhood. Most of it is anecdotal. Still, those sources all report similar things. She was a really hard worker, she was a fast learner, and she could tell a hell of a story. So even though she was only 8 years old, 3 years younger than the standard age for a child to be indentured out of the Boston Female Asylum, the staff signed her over. I don't know why they thought that was all right. To be honest, eight is a lot different than 10 or 11. Because even though the Boston Female Asylum was a sanctuary for girls with no home, it was still an orphanage. The fact was, if the wards didn't land an indenture when they turned 18, they really were out on their ass. And who could tell when the next opportunity would come? You might have surmised that a lot of this part of the story is my best guess. Let me reiterate that I don't want to misrepresent anything here. I don't know the hard facts of this part of Enora's life and I looked for them hard. So what I'm telling you now is my best guess. But it's an educated guess. It's based on the most likely instance that I've deduced from the facts that I could find. So like I said, She's 8 years old. Eight is a lot different than 11. And the woman who indentured Honora Kelly seemed to know that by all accounts, Anne Toppin was an evil bitch. I mean, a pretty common kind of evil. At that time, though she would have probably been seen as normal then. She was middle class, but she wanted to seem wealthier. She seemed to live by a phrase that circulated at that time in New England. Either you have a maid or you are a maid. And when an entitled lady couldn't afford a live in maid of all work, she could always turn to child labor. So that's what happened. Ann Toppan indentured Honora Kelly from the Boston Female Asylum. Because this was an image thing to begin with, Ann set her expectations immediately. Honora was to call her Auntie. And naturally she had to change Honora's name. She couldn't have her friends scared that an Irish person was in her house. There was a lot of anti Irish discrimination at the time. As I mentioned, Irish people were stereotyped as drunk, dishonest and dangerous. So Auntie thought the appropriate thing to do was to change her new servant's name from Honora Kelly to Jane Toppan. She told her so immediately. She Also told Jane that she had a daughter. It was Jane's job to take care of Auntie and her daughter and the house. By the way, you think keeping house is hard work now add to it doing laundry by hand, building fires, and cooking every single thing from scratch on a wood burning stove. Granted, Jane might not have been expected to do all of that right away as a little girl, but ultimately her workload would have expanded to include a lot of that. Jane was just happy to have her own room, even if it was in the attic. Remember, this is the 1870s, no climate control. I live in Atlanta, but if you walked into my attic right now, for instance, the intensity of the heat would melt your eyelashes together. In New England, it would have been more livable. But the attic apartment was the one that was the hottest in the summer and the coldest in the winter since there was barely any insulation. So that's where this eight year old lived. There did seem to be a bright spot for little Jane at Auntie's house. At first, Auntie's daughter, Elizabeth. Elizabeth was more than 20 years older than Jane. It seems like she was already married to the church deacon, Oramel Brigham, by the time Jane moved in, even though she still lived with her mother. It's possible that she and her husband actually both lived there since Auntie was a widow, although there's no real documentation of that part. Regardless, we do know that when she moved in, Jane looked up to Elizabeth and she took it to heart when Elizabeth tried to befriend her. This could have been a really positive relationship for Jane, but Auntie wasn't going to let that happen. She didn't like the mixing of classes. So even though Elizabeth treated Jane like a foster sister, and even though she tried to defend Jane, if Auntie thought she stepped out of line, it didn't work. Jane was constantly in trouble. Despite being very eager to please and very hardworking, Auntie's spite poisoned the well. By her teens, Jane did not see Elizabeth as even a friend, let alone a sister. I'm not sure how conscious Jane was of the jealousy or bitterness that she harbored against Elizabeth, but I imagine it felt a lot like when someone you work for thinks you're a great friend, if you've been the employee in that situation, then you know you're not a great friend, you're a great employee. You know, like your boss might confide in you about some personal hardship for an hour and a half and then make you stay late to make up all the work you missed while she was blabbering on that kind of one sided relationship, that kind of I'm her best friend, but she's not my best friend relationship. Jane did have a lot of friends though. Everyone loved to be around her. She was fun. She was entertaining. One of those friends was James Stewart Murphy, which isn't relevant yet, but just Dog Ear that name for later. Part of what earned Jane those friends and got her in trouble the most was her mouth. She wasn't disrespectful. She liked to tell stories. She'd have a whole picnic in rapt attention with some tale she was weaving on the spot. Everyone loved Jane's company and liked being around her. But as soon as they got home, Auntie would beat her for telling lies. Plus, Jane was Irish, so Auntie hated her for that reason too. Auntie even told her guests and friends that Jane was probably Greek or Italian. That's really all we know of Jane's childhood. Jane got out of the frying pan to jump in the fire, basically. But there is one consistent rumor that no one has been able to really corroborate. Some sources say it is absolutely true. And some say it's just a lie Jane told later. It's really specific to be a lie. Jane fell in love with an office worker at a local textile factory. His name was Tom Higgins. An apparently nice Irish boy. I imagine this was a fun slap in the face to Auntie. So bonus. And Tom proposed to Jane and she had one foot out the door and then he fucking ghosted her. This is a tale as old as time, but it never gets less infuriating. Like my man. Why don't you just be honest? Some people say the reason Tom ditched her is because he'd gotten some other girl pregnant and had to marry her and move one town over. So no one was scandalized by their existence. These Victorians, y'all so constantly scandalized. You know, they're the reason why table skirts exist. Yeah, the legs of tables were too sexy. It's also why we call poultry light and dark meat instead of breast and thigh. Because watch out for this seductive chicken. Okay? Anyway, I can only imagine that must have been devastating for Jane. Imagine how helpless that would have made her feel. Abandoned again with no explanation at all. I hate that. I hate the effect it probably had on Jane. So with that potential option just eliminated. Jane stayed on at the Toppan house after she turned 18. She got her contractual $50 for over a decade of labor. And it seems like she started earning a small wage in addition to room and board. But none of it would have been enough to strike out on her own. Not if she had to leave without a reference, which, knowing Auntie, would probably have been the case. And then Auntie died. At this point in history, there was a whole glamorous ritual around funerals. This is the era of widow's weeds and black bordered calling cards when the body would sit up in the parlor of the home for visitation. It's actually the reason we rebranded the parlor the Living Room, so people wouldn't associate it with only death. So the only mother that Jane had ever really known died. Elizabeth was a mess. So Jane likely had to handle or carry out a lot of the preparations for the funeral. Coordinating, breaking the news, that kind of stuff. Plus the etiquette for this time was intense. Like I said, very particular. Some funerals even hired professional mourners. Jane did all of this in addition to her own grieving, because even if Auntie was a mean spirited old hag, she was still Jane's mother figure. And then everyone gathered in the parlor for the reading of the will while Jane served them. I should mention here that even though Auntie made Jane change her first and last name, she never adopted her. She didn't even mention Jane in her will. And that did not sit well with Jane. Common practice or not. It pissed her off even more when Elizabeth told her that Jane was welcome to stay on at the Toppan House for as long as she wanted, as the help, of course, doing the same thing she'd been doing since she was a child, toiling away for the same unappreciative family. So finally spinster Jane said, I'm out. Actually, she did stay on for a while, but then she rallied and she got her ducks in a row and she actually said something like if no one else is going to help me, I'm going to help myself. But the way Jane decided to help herself was pretty unorthodox.