Baya Voce is a relationship repair expert who helps couples rebuild connection when communication has broken down and loneliness has taken hold.

With a Master of Social Work from Columbia University and advanced training in Relational Life Therapy under Terry Real, she combines evidence-based therapeutic approaches with the clarity, practicality, and directness of coaching.

In addition to her clinical and coaching work, Baya collaborates with Rick Doblin and MAPS, alongside Columbia University, on research exploring MDMA-assisted couples therapy and its potential to deepen relational connection.

Her TEDx talk on loneliness—viewed more than five million times—highlights the often-unspoken emotional cost of disconnection in modern relationships.

Based in Austin, Texas, Baya works with couples seeking reconnection, greater clarity, or even a respectful separation, grounded in her core belief that genuine repair is the most powerful antidote to loneliness.

Key Points

• Impact of phones on relationship intimacy

• Translation of complaints to growth opportunities

• Relational loneliness vs. solitary loneliness

• Enlightened self-interest in partnerships

• Shifting from "fixing" to self-evolving within conflict Best Quotes

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• "What are the understanding, what are the relationship needs, which are gonna be very different than your individual preferences."

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• "Maybe I wanna be more independent. I wanna feel actually like I can handle the tension of differentiation."

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• "But how, how I look back on the giving is that I'm so all on all the time that as I've gotten older..."

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• "When two people can come into couples therapy and be like, here's the thing that's really hard for me."

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• "We have a culture where phones are a, are a, they're like a third pillar in our relationships."

Why You Have Love & Relationships All Wrong | Baya Voce