Loading summary
NPR Host
NPR.
Darian Woods
Darryl Fairweather's first job after her economics Ph.D. was at a small consulting firm. It was a lot of work, but her boss was complimentary.
Darryl Fairweather
He called me a workhorse and he said it with a smile on his face.
Adrian Ma
Okay, that's a little ominous.
Darian Woods
A double edged compliment.
Adrian Ma
Yeah. After several months of being a so called workhorse, Darryl said she started to feel exhausted.
Darryl Fairweather
I would be working like up to 100 hours a week and.
Darian Woods
A hundred hours a week?
Darryl Fairweather
Yeah. That was a tough deadline.
Darian Woods
That sounds unhealthy.
Darryl Fairweather
Yes. I mean it wasn't like that every week, but sometimes it got to be quite a lot. And I think that all of that stress, it just felt like I should be getting something more in return for how much I was working.
Darian Woods
Darrell had read Cheryl Sandberg's famous book on women in the workforce Lean in. In fact, she was going to a lean in circle support group for professionals. The main message, women should negotiate more. So she decided to lean in herself. Try to get a pay raise. This is the indicator from Planet Money. I'm Darian Woods.
Adrian Ma
And I'm Adrian Ma. Today on the show Bargaining economist Darrell Fairweather just released a whole book on negotiation. It's called Hate the Economic Cheat Codes for Life, Love and Work.
Darian Woods
And getting better at negotiation is important in so many aspects of life. Whether it's getting a raise at work or buying a house. Through to global trade deals, we hear Daryl Fairweather's negotiation lessons learned from her experience and from Beyonce.
Ethos Advertiser
This message comes from Ethos Life insurance made easy. With Ethos, you can get up to 3 million in coverage in as little as 10 minutes all online with no medical exam. Just answer a few health questions. Customize your best rate across their multiple trusted carriers. Some policies are as low as $2 a day billed monthly. Help protect your family's future with life insurance from Ethos. Get your free quote@ethos.com indicator. That's E T H O S.com indicator.
NPR Host
This message comes from Charles Schwab. When it comes to managing your wealth, Schwab gives you more choices like full service, wealth management and advice when you need it. You can also invest on your own and trade on think or swim. Visit schwab.com to learn more. This message comes from Amazon Business Free. Your team from time consuming office tasks with smart business Buying tools enable buyers to find and purchase items fast. Learn more about the technology insights and Support available at amazonbusiness.com Darryl Fairweather's big.
Darian Woods
Lesson on negotiating started that day she asked for her raise.
Darryl Fairweather
I remember Being in my office, like trying to psych myself up to go and ask for a raise. Like, I wasn't happy at the job. So I was really just trying to psych myself up like, well, it's either this or you quit.
Adrian Ma
In her boss's office, Daryl talked about all the extra tasks she's been taking on, how she's been performing at a more senior level.
Darryl Fairweather
And he said no, and that raises will be negotiated at the end of the year.
Darian Woods
That's the policy in her mind. Darryl was giving her boss a take it or leave it deal and he left it.
Darryl Fairweather
I walked out of that pretty dejected.
Darian Woods
Darryl was trying to figure out why she couldn't get that raise. She thought back to a chapter of late 1990s R&B history that is kind of the perfect example. Daryl thought of the pitfalls of this lean in message of always be trying to negotiate for more.
Darryl Fairweather
Yeah, so I think one of the most famous negotiation fails that I know of is what happened with Destiny's Child.
Adrian Ma
At the time, Destiny's Child was a Beyonce Knowles, Kelly Rowland, Latavia Roberson and Latoya Luckett. The four piece broke through with their first number one single, Bills, Bills, Bills.
NPR Host
At first we started at raku.
Darryl Fairweather
Beyonce was starting to emerge as the breakout star, getting all the interviews, getting all of the attention. And they concluded that it was the management, Matthew Knowles, which is Beyonce's father, that was the reason that Beyonce was getting all this preferential treatment. So Latavia and Latoya came to the group and said, it's either us or it's Matthew Knowles. They issued an ultimatum.
Darian Woods
So a take it or leave it deal. Just like you had in your head when you went to your boss.
Darryl Fairweather
Yes, but that's where they made the miscalculation about what Beyonce and Matthew actually saw for the vision of the group, which was Beyonce being the breakout star and that they were more playing this role as backup singers.
Darian Woods
What Matthew had in his mind was Diana Ross and the Supremes, Michael Jackson and the Jackson 5. A History of Artists who had launched super successful solo careers off the back of a musical group.
Darryl Fairweather
I think Matthew Knowles actually had the economics right there because what oftentimes happens in entertainment or other industries that rely on popularity is that there are these superstars.
Adrian Ma
And so what happened is Beyonce and Kelly Rowland decided to stick with Matthew Knowles, while Latavia and Latoya found themselves out of the group.
Darryl Fairweather
I felt empathy for that situation because that's what I was as an entry level employee. I was just a backup backup singer in a sense. Like, I didn't have the standing to go and be negotiating or issuing ultimatums.
Darian Woods
Darryl says we can learn a lot from what Latavia and Latoya and she herself missed, and she has four main takeaways. First, try to identify your negotiating partner's objective.
Darryl Fairweather
Don't be like Latavia and Latoya. Don't be like me, and just assume what your opponent wants. Try to really dig in and understand what they want out of you.
Adrian Ma
Daryl thought back to that workhorse comment her boss gave her when she started. Like, what does a workhorse really mean?
Darryl Fairweather
They get the job done no matter how long it takes, no matter how hard it is, and they don't complain. That's what a workhorse does, and that's not who I am. I'll work hard, but I will, I will. Concerns if I have them the goal.
Darian Woods
Of Darryl's boss was to have employees who didn't complain. The very act of Darryl unexpectedly negotiating went against her boss's goals for his workplace. In hindsight, maybe she should have waited until the regular annual pay discussions. Or really, maybe she should have gone to another job entirely.
Adrian Ma
The second lesson, Darryl says, is to scrutinize whether your negotiating partner might be withholding information from you.
Darryl Fairweather
You know, Matthew Knowles, he might not have been exactly lying to Latavia and Latoya, but I think he probably gave them reason to believe that they were going to be equal members of Destiny's Child, when really it was Beyonce who was the star and my boss. I mean, he wasn't outright lying to me either. But I felt like I was signing up for a job where I would have different opportunities and different job environment than what I got.
Darian Woods
Third lesson, and this one's a classic for a good reason, is to do research on how much you are really worth in the market.
Darryl Fairweather
Just gathering information in general is a good approach. Just understanding what competitive pay rates are, how hard it would be for them to hire someone to replace you, is a good thing to understand. All that can kind of help you understand how the negotiation might play out.
Adrian Ma
In a pay negotiation, maybe that would be by seeing what other people at your experience level are getting paid at other places. One way to do this, and you can think of this as the fourth tip, if you're going to ratchet up the temperature by making an ultimatum with your employer, you could actually have another offer from somewhere else. It's concrete information and also a backup option if your negotiating partner calls your bluff.
Darryl Fairweather
It's typically better to go out and find your next job offer before you make that ultimatum.
Darian Woods
Darrell says this can be especially important for women and minorities who are kind of in this bind where people may underestimate their worth and yet by negotia that can be interpreted as aggressive.
Darryl Fairweather
If women are perceived as being aggressive, they get penalized more than men tend to. Also, just for any any group of people that are perceived to have worse options tend to do worse in negotiations because whoever they're negotiating against just assumes that whatever they give them is the best that they're going to get out there. So signaling what your outside options are, that your outside options are good, is a way for women and minorities to kind of counteract that and to go in armed with information so that you don't let somebody else tell you how much you're worth.
Darian Woods
When the words of Beyonce Knowles you need to get information.
Darryl Fairweather
That's exactly right. Okay ladies, now let's get information.
NPR Host
Okay ladies, now let's get information. Kuda me, you got some coordination.
Adrian Ma
This episode was produced by Lily Quiros with engineering by Kwesi Lee. It was fact checked by Sierra Juarez. Cake and Cannon edits the show and the indicators are production of npr.
NPR Host
When you cause all this conversation, always say gracious. Best revenge is your paper this message comes from Mint Mobile. If you're tired of spending hundreds on big wireless bills, bogus fees and free perks, Mint Mobile might be right for you with plans starting from 15 bucks a month. Shop plans today@mintmobile.com Switch upfront payment of $45 for 3 month 5GB plan required. New customer offer for first 3 months only, then full price plan options available, taxes and fees extra. See Mint Mobile for details. This message comes from Capital One. Banking with Capital One helps you keep more money in your wallet with no fees or minimums on checking accounts. What's in your wallet? Terms apply. See capitalone.combank for details. Capital One NA Member FDIC this message comes from Mint Mobile. Mint Mobile took what's wrong with wireless and made it right. They offer premium wireless plans for less and all plans include high speed data, unlimited talk and text and nationwide coverage. See for yourself@mintmobile.com Switch.
Podcast Title: The Indicator from Planet Money
Episode: The Art of the Deal ft. Beyoncé
Host/Author: NPR
Release Date: May 19, 2025
Duration: Approximately 10 minutes
In the episode titled "The Art of the Deal ft. Beyoncé", NPR's The Indicator from Planet Money delves into the intricacies of negotiation, drawing parallels between high-stakes business deals and the dynamics within one of the world's most renowned music groups, Destiny's Child. Hosted by Darian Woods and Adrian Ma, the episode features insights from bargaining economist Darryl Fairweather, who recently published "Hate the Economic Cheat Codes for Life, Love and Work." The discussion not only explores Fairweather's personal negotiation experiences but also extracts valuable lessons applicable across various facets of life.
Darryl Fairweather begins by recounting her initial foray into the professional world post her economics Ph.D. (00:11 - 00:43). Joining a small consulting firm, she was lauded by her boss as a "workhorse" (00:21), a term that, while complimentary, hinted at the demanding nature of her role. Fairweather explains the grueling work hours, sometimes reaching up to 100 hours a week (00:37), and the ensuing burnout. This relentless pace fostered a growing sense of inequity, leading her to seek better compensation for her immense contributions.
Notable Quote:
Darryl Fairweather at 00:26: “He called me a workhorse and he said it with a smile on his face.”
Influenced by Cheryl Sandberg's Lean In, Fairweather attended support groups emphasizing the importance of negotiation, especially for women in the workforce. Motivated to advocate for herself, she resolved to request a pay raise, embodying the proactive stance advocated in Sandberg's work (00:54 - 01:28).
Notable Quote:
Fairweather at 00:43: “I think that all of that stress, it just felt like I should be getting something more in return for how much I was working.”
Armed with determination, Fairweather approached her boss to discuss a raise. In her own words, she describes the anxiety of initiating the conversation, feeling it was a do-or-die scenario (03:03). However, her request was denied, with her boss deferring any raises to the end of the year (03:20). This left her feeling dejected and introspective about the reasons behind the rejection (03:33).
Notable Quote:
Fairweather at 03:03: “I was really just trying to psych myself up like, well, it's either this or you quit.”
Drawing a parallel, Fairweather references Destiny's Child's internal negotiations involving Beyoncé and the group's management (03:35 - 05:21). As Beyoncé emerged as the standout star, other members felt sidelined and issued an ultimatum to either share the spotlight equally or part ways. However, this approach backfired, leading to the departure of two members while Beyoncé and Kelly Rowland continued under Matthew Knowles' management. The situation highlighted the pitfalls of misaligned objectives and assumptions in negotiations.
Notable Quote:
Fairweather at 04:10: “At first we started at raku.”
From her experiences and the Destiny's Child analogy, Fairweather distills four pivotal negotiation lessons:
Identify Your Negotiating Partner's Objectives (05:35 - 06:17)
Understand what the other party truly seeks. Avoid making assumptions about their intentions or desires.
Notable Quote:
Fairweather at 05:47: “Don't be like Latavia and Latoya. Don't be like me, and just assume what your opponent wants.”
Be Aware of Potential Information Withholding (06:36 - 07:05)
Recognize that the other party may not disclose all relevant information, intentionally or otherwise.
Notable Quote:
Fairweather at 06:42: “Matthew Knowles... he probably gave them reason to believe that they were going to be equal members...”
Research Your Market Worth (07:05 - 07:28)
Arm yourself with data on industry standards, ensuring you have a clear understanding of your value.
Notable Quote:
Fairweather at 07:13: “Just gathering information in general is a good approach.”
Secure a Backup Offer Before Making Ultimatums (07:28 - 08:00)
Having an alternative position or offer strengthens your negotiating power and provides security.
Notable Quote:
Fairweather at 07:54: “It's typically better to go out and find your next job offer before you make that ultimatum.”
Fairweather emphasizes the additional challenges faced by women and minorities in negotiation scenarios. She highlights societal biases that may label assertive negotiation tactics as aggressive, disproportionately penalizing these groups. To counteract this, she advocates for thorough preparation and demonstration of strong outside options, ensuring that negotiators are not undervalued or disregarded.
Notable Quote:
Fairweather at 08:14: “If women are perceived as being aggressive, they get penalized more than men tend to.”
Concluding the episode, Fairweather reiterates the paramount importance of information gathering in effective negotiation. By understanding both one's own value and the objectives of the negotiating partner, individuals can navigate negotiations more strategically and confidently.
Final Quote:
Fairweather at 08:53: “That's exactly right. Okay ladies, now let's get information.”
The Indicator from Planet Money is a production of NPR, offering listeners insightful analyses of economic topics in an accessible format.