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The Interview
Demi Moore Is Done With the Male Gaze [Re-Run]
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In light of Demi Moore's recent "Best Actress" Oscar nomination, we are re-sharing an episode that we originally published on Sept. 14. The actress discusses how her relationship to her body and fame has changed after decades in the public eye.
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Lulu Garcia Navarro
Hi there, it's Lulu Garcia Navarro. This week we're going to be re airing an interview I loved from last year, a conversation with Demi Moore. When we talked, Moore's movie the Substance was just about to open in theaters. At the time, I noted that she was already getting awards buzz for her performance, and just this week she received her first ever Oscar nomination for Best Actress for that film, making it a great time to revisit this convers. Don't worry, we'll have a new episode next week, but for now, enjoy my interview with Demi Moore from the New York Times. This is the interview. I'm Lulu Garcia Navarro. It is hard to describe Demi Moore's new movie, the Substance. On the one hand, it's a dark comedy about the horrors of getting older as a woman in Hollywood, but it's also a literal body horror film. The basic premise is that Moore's character takes this strange elixir that allows her to create a younger, more perfect version of herself, and you can see that creation in bloody, visceral detail. It's a movie that challenges us to look at what drives our celebrity obsessed culture and the damage it does to our female stars. Moore is already getting awards buzz for it, and even though I'll confess I was kind of grossed out watching it, I also couldn't look away. I've been mesmerized by Demi Moore my whole life. One of her first big films, St. Elmo's Fire in 1985, made me want to go to where it was partially set, Georgetown University, which I eventually did ghost with. That famous scene of her making pottery with Patrick Swayze made me want to live in a New York loft that, alas, never happened. Her later films, like Few Good Men, GI Jane and Decent Proposal were basically the metronome of my younger life. Along the way, I grew to admire her chutzpah as she became the highest paid actress in Hollywood, as well as an early advocate of Pay equity more broadly. Long before the issue was part of the national discourse. And after a stint away From Hollywood in 2019, she penned a smart and revealing memoir about her tumultuous childhood, her iconic roles, and her high profile marriages to both Bruce Willis and Ashton Kutcher. Moore is now in her 60s, and she tells me she's finally grown comfortable in her own skin and is upending expectations about what it means to be an aging woman in the industry that both embraced and judged her her whole career. Here's my conversation with Demi Moore. I see we have a special guest.
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Demi Moore
Yes, we do. Pilaf the little mouse.
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Lulu Garcia Navarro
Pilaf the little mouse. And just because people won't be able to see you, you have Pilaf in a sling.
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Demi Moore
Yes. Generally, she likes to be close up to the heart.
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Lulu Garcia Navarro
Right?
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Demi Moore
That's her job. She regulates the heart.
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Lulu Garcia Navarro
I'm a dog person, so I'm just like, we're just gonna have her be here. And I'm very excited about that. All right, let's talk about the new movie.
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Demi Moore
Okay.
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Lulu Garcia Navarro
I haven't stopped thinking about it since I saw it. You play Elizabeth Sparkle, which is a fantastic name. She's an aging actress turned celebrity fitness instructor. Why did you sign on to star in a movie about a woman who's aging in Hollywood and at war with her own body? Because obviously it felt very meta watching you do this.
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Demi Moore
Well, first of all, let me say on one hand why it was easy for me to step in and do this is because I don't feel I am her. You know, this is a woman who has no family. She's dedicated her entire life to her career. And when that's taken, what does she have? And so I feel like, in a way, I had enough separation from her, and at the same time, a deep internal connection to the pain that she was experiencing, the rejection that she felt. And I mean, I knew it would be challenging, but potentially really important, important exploration on the issue.
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Lulu Garcia Navarro
Tell me what you sort of understand the issue to be because there's so much in this film.
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Demi Moore
Well, I think when I really look at it, for me, what was the most powerful is that it's not about what's being done to us. It's what we do to ourselves. It's the violence that we have against ourselves, the lack of love and self acceptance. And that, you know, within the story, we have this male perspective of the idealized woman that I feel like we as women have bought into.
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Lulu Garcia Navarro
I mean, you. The movie starts with your character sitting down with a male Executive and being told, when you turn 50, it's over. Is that something that you heard a lot working in Hollywood?
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Demi Moore
I feel like it's less overt. It's less overt and a little bit more of the unspoken perception that your desirability. And I think it's. There's a line in the film that, you know, says it's like your desirability as a woman is done with your fertility, which for me is. It's. It's. Again, it's a perception that's been bought into, but it doesn't make it the truth.
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Lulu Garcia Navarro
You know, I was watching you, and there's a real vulnerability to your role, which is you're naked in a lot of the film. And I was thinking about what it meant for you to be so exposed now in your 60s, as opposed to your 20s, because you have this duality here, Right. You're playing with Margaret Qualy, who is, you know, supposed to be the younger version of you. And I was wondering, are you more comfortable? Less comfortable?
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Demi Moore
I mean, you know, going into this, I knew, like, this is not about me looking great. And in fact, you know, it was on one hand, to be honest, there was a certain liberation in the role that wasn't having to be perfect. And it's not that there aren't shots in it, like, where I go, ugh, my ass looks awful. But I'm also okay with it. I'm in acceptance of it. And I think part of what was interesting is that Elizabeth is being rejected. And it's not that I look that bad.
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Lulu Garcia Navarro
You look unbelievably fantastic.
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Demi Moore
But it's not like.
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Lulu Garcia Navarro
But you can see that you're not 20 exactly.
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Demi Moore
But, I mean, I. Look, I certainly went through very thoughtful consideration about all of it going in, you know, knowing not only that, knowing that there were going to be shots and angles and things done to actually accentuate not looking good. But I think that there was great beauty in that. You know, I've struggled with letting my vulnerability be seen in my personal life, even though I know that our greatest power is our vulnerability, and yet I fight against it all the time.
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Lulu Garcia Navarro
Hmm. You know, I watched you in that scene where you're standing fully naked and you have a closeup of your backside and all of it. And I thought, that's incredibly brave. And then I thought, I'm not happy that. I feel that that is brave.
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Demi Moore
That's an interesting thought. I think that the idea that it related to being brave is because we all know that we age. And so it's not as plump and robust and tight. You know, it's not. It's those things that are parts of the body that we don't necessarily always want everybody to see when it's not what it used to be.
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Lulu Garcia Navarro
And they make it a really big feature of the film. I mean, you get all the close ups of Margaret's body and I don't know how old she is.
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Demi Moore
20 something.
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Lulu Garcia Navarro
20 something. Yeah. And she looks it. And so you're seeing it in comparison. What were you thinking when you saw that, that comparison?
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Demi Moore
What's interesting is, you know, like, I mean, it goes back again to that male perspective of the idealized woman, the one that's being rejected because it's the ass isn't as plump and as high and as tight. And, you know, this other that's celebrated and, you know, I guess, you know, in looking at it outside of the first knee jerk of like, oh, like, I didn't love my butt, it was really more, for me, the import. Like, I felt more proud of the power between showing the two, the vulnerable part and the part that has yet to experience. Like, she's like, newly born. She doesn't know yet what life is. So the question is, would you trade your wisdom for a tight ass?
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Lulu Garcia Navarro
And where do you land on that question?
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Demi Moore
I would like to not have to choose. And I think part of, for me, the liberation of doing this film was in a way of realizing that I'm here to define who I am at almost 62, and I don't need to play by any rules that have existed up until now. And I don't know what that is because I haven't been here before. You know, it's like the idea I remember long, long, long ago somewhere, like, you know, hearing in passing that at a certain age you shouldn't have long hair. And I think unconsciously, there was a part of me that didn't buy into that, that said, well, who made that rule? And so somehow, after I had shaved my head for GI Jane, I just started to let my hair grow. I don't know if it's a part of me that's a bit rebellious or that's also just trying to challenge the question. Just because that's how it's been, that doesn't mean that's how it has to be.
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Lulu Garcia Navarro
Do you think all women should shave their heads at some point?
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Demi Moore
Well, I would say that there is a very powerful experience with shaving your head. And I probably never felt more naked than when my head was shaved. It was Quite life changing, in fact, because not only did I, you know, I realized, like, we as women, when we have. We have our. We kind of move through the world. We go like this. Whereas men move very direct and very forward without apology.
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Lulu Garcia Navarro
You're moving your hand, like undulating.
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Demi Moore
Yeah. Like, we move side to side kind of, you know, and when I didn't have that, I sat in myself in a very different way. I feel like I took and had a strength. And you see the length of my hair. It's not how I wanted to, you know, go forward with having a shaved head, but it was very empowering.
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Lulu Garcia Navarro
You sound like you've gotten to some degree of acceptance about where you are in your life. And after struggling with self image for such a long time, after struggling with being in the public eye and being judged. I do want to ask you about, though, what you think about discussing this stuff openly. Is it better to talk about it and normalize it, or is it better to keep it private and say, it's none of your business what I do?
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Demi Moore
I don't know. This is kind of a tough question. I've lived a life that's both been extremely private and public, and it's been. I've had a huge learning curve with that. You know, I had talk about feeling unsafe like that to the point where I felt like my life had become almost agoraphobic and I never wanted to leave my house. And so there's. You know, I don't know if there's any one right way, but I think it really is about the individual.
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Lulu Garcia Navarro
I mean, your book is an incredibly open memoir. I mean, it is one of the best celebrity memoirs I've read.
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Demi Moore
Oh, gosh. Thank you.
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Lulu Garcia Navarro
And it's also very revealing in a way that is at times shocking in someone as well known as you are and clearly deeply emotional. It came out five years ago. I'm wondering what it feels like now that it's been out in the world for a while, to have revealed so much of yourself.
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Demi Moore
I was very thoughtful about what I shared because there's a lot more life that's lived than is in the book. And I think for me, the personal catharsis was in really exploring the essential question that I had, which is, how did I get here? Like, how did I get here? Like, coming from where I came from on paper, like, the life that I've lived. Like, it was growing up poor with.
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Lulu Garcia Navarro
An extremely dysfunctional and stable household.
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Demi Moore
Yeah. No education, no guidance, no safety net. Like on my own at 16. And to really like the places I've been, the people I've met, the opportunities of things I've experienced. And it was like, how did I get here? Wow. And then the other part, obviously, is I start the book with my life really, like, having exploded. And so then the question was, like, how the fuck did I get here? And so looking at the parallel of those two things allowed me also to be able to really see the gifts within all of the challenges that occurred. And, in fact, it gave me a deep compassion for my mother, because I thought, if I can't find compassion for my mother, an innocent being who came into the world just as we all do, how can I expect my children to have compassion for me, for my failings?
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Lulu Garcia Navarro
That very difficult relationship with your mother, who was an alcoholic and bipolar.
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Demi Moore
Yes.
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Lulu Garcia Navarro
And this very difficult upbringing that you had, it did send you on this journey of trying to control your body in different ways. Through disordered eating, through excessive exercise, through drugs and alcohol. You became sober, we should say.
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Demi Moore
Yes.
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Lulu Garcia Navarro
You know, in your 20s, when you were starting out in the industry, it must have been pretty common to have those issues. Do you remember talking to other young actresses about that stuff, or was it kept kind of private?
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Demi Moore
I don't know if I ever had. I mean, I. I can't think of anything specific. I mean, I think there was a general kind of sense about, you know, certain expectations. But I mean, I look in particular coming out of the 80s and the 90s, where there was, I think, a greater pressure for perfection that kind of existed. If you look at any advertising, everything was very clean and perfect, and there wasn't any body inclusivity. There wasn't, you know, there was a more extreme standard of beauty that existed. You know, and I did, as I wrote in the book, personally, experience being told to lose weight on quite a few films before I ever even had my. My children. And again, those were humiliating experiences. But the true violence was what I was doing to myself. The way in which I tortured myself, did extreme, crazy exercise, weighed and measured my food, because I was putting all of my value of who I was into how my body was, how it looked, what. And again, giving other people's opinion more power than myself.
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Lulu Garcia Navarro
When did you realize that that was having such an enormous effect on you, that the outside gaze, not only just of men but of everybody, was really damaging your own sense of, like, who you were?
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Demi Moore
I think after I finished GI Jane is when I had a huge shift because I think I had manipulated my body. I had changed it over multiple times through just Pure force and discipline. And when I finished that film, I think I was so kind of worn down in this battle that I had been in that I finally surrendered. And I feel like I just started to ask to be my natural size because I didn't know what it was. I literally couldn't go in a gym. I couldn't, like, control food in that way. And I really experienced the gift of surrender. Not giving up, but surrendering this idea that I was actually in control. And I moved into probably what I would say was almost like a spiritual awakening of really knowing what it is when you accept yourself exactly in that moment, even if you don't like it.
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Lulu Garcia Navarro
Was part of that to do with the fact that you had transformed yourself so much for that role and it had been not well received and you were getting a lot of criticism. It was coming off of the back of Striptease as well.
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Demi Moore
Mm.
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Lulu Garcia Navarro
That it just turned off that spigot that you just were like, I'm not gonna listen to this anymore.
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Demi Moore
I mean, even before any of that happened, I think that I. I truly was physically worn down. I mean, I finished that film with a shaved head, and I was 138 pounds. And for me, that's a lot. And I felt like I didn't. Like, I. I felt like this. It's not that I was a different person, but I didn't know who. Like, it was just this thing where. And, you know, I think on a personal level, you know, I finished that, and then not too long after I finished, my mother was dying. My relationship was starting to kind of disintegrate. And so I think I had. I think it was all just mounting. It was like I needed all of that happening at once, actually, to get me to the point of surrendering and letting go.
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Lulu Garcia Navarro
I mean, you were someone who. And especially at this point, you were one of the most famous women in the world. A lot of interest in your personal life, and just this sense that you were being too well paid, you were too powerful, you were too much.
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Demi Moore
Well, I think I can look back and I. On one hand, with Striptease, it was as if I had betrayed women, and with GI Jane, it was as if I had betrayed men. But I think the interesting piece in that is that when I became the highest paid actress, there was something, if you really look at collectively, why is it that at that moment, the choice was to bring me down? And again, I don't take this personal. I think whoever it had been this may have happened to, but because I did a film that was dealing with the world of stripping and the body. I was extremely shamed. And I think anyone who had been in the position that was the first to get, you know, that kind of equality of payment would probably have taken.
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Lulu Garcia Navarro
A hit at that moment. Your husband Bruce was getting paid a huge amount of money for doing films. Did you compare yourself to him? Did you talk about it with him? Did he understand that you asking for equal pay was fair? I mean, cause you were married to a fellow actor.
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Demi Moore
So I mean, I never really spoke about it because again, for me it wasn't. I wasn't in competition with anybody else. It was about my own competition with myself to see what's the best that I can do.
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Lulu Garcia Navarro
You didn't understand that it had significance for all female actors?
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Demi Moore
Oh, 100%. I knew that a new baseline being set, that for me was the greatest gift of all of it. But inside myself, it wasn't about comparing myself to him. I had like, yes, I saw what they got paid. It was really more of about just like, why shouldn't I? If I'm doing the same amount of work, why shouldn't I? And you know, it's no different than when I did the COVID for Vanity Fair pregnant. Like, I, I didn't understand why it was such a big deal to, you know, why women when they were pregnant needed to be hidden. Like, why is it that we have to deny that we had sex? That's the fear, right? Is that if you show your belly, that means, oh my gosh, you've had.
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Lulu Garcia Navarro
This is of course the Vanity Fair cover shot by Annie Leibovitz that broke the Internet before there was the Internet of you naked and pregnant. And this is the thing, there are these moments throughout your life and your career where your physical self has been at such the forefront of culture and has been really pushing the boundaries all along and you yourself were feeling terrible about yourself.
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Demi Moore
I think that's one of the misconceptions, is that when I did things like this idea that, oh, I love my body so much versus what the truth was, is that these things were coming along. Obviously I was choosing them. But I think that it was all in service to helping me try to overcome my issues, my self loathing, my feeling of not being enough and to help build my confidence, actually not because I was confident.
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Lulu Garcia Navarro
It's kind of like a fake it till you make it approach.
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Demi Moore
Oh, that is my primary university.
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Lulu Garcia Navarro
That's funny. I'm wondering what you make of this moment now where everything is being reassessed. You Know, we look back at how women were treated in the 90s and the 80s, and I'm wondering what your thoughts have been on watching the culture shift.
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Demi Moore
I'm excited to see the shift. I mean, it's like, what can I say? I think it's a natural progression of women stepping in and taking their place. Like, that's it. We're not. I mean, I look at my daughters and there's, you know, there are things they would never question that, you know, about what they can and can't do in ways that, you know, were perhaps limitations that existed in my time at their same ages. Sorry, Mouse, I'm. I was talking really big with my hands and I interrupted pilaf. Sleep. Sorry. Does that make sense, by the way, what I was just saying?
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Lulu Garcia Navarro
It does. It does. I also am wondering, with the cultural shift, isn't it just, like, you're pissed off? Like, you had to go through all that and now the culture's finally caught up with you?
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Demi Moore
No, because why would I waste my energy being pissed off? I remember sitting down with my team and. And saying, you know, I had done G.I. jane. Like, I really wanted, like, kind of like an action kind of film. I felt like that was, like, something that, you know, I would really love to explore and kind of being looked at with these polite faces. But, like, you're crazy. And I can look and see. Well, since that time, actresses of, like, that next generation down, where that started to open up. And I don't need to be pissed off. I can feel disappointed that, like, that that didn't happen for me, but I feel equally in, like, celebration that. Thank God it is. Thank God it is.
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Lulu Garcia Navarro
I don't want to end without asking you how Bruce Willis is doing. Obviously, there's a lot of interest and.
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Demi Moore
Concern, of course, I think, you know, I think given the givens, where he's at is in a. In a beautiful, stable place, and, you know, you really just have to take it one day at a time. I'm so grateful that our collective families are so close and, you know, that we spend time together, that we are in such support, and it's not something I would wish on anyone. But as I've said before, one of the most important things is that you really meet them where they're at and you let go of any attachment to what they were or what you would want, and you really take the joy of all of the moments you have with where they are, which is so sweet and loving.
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Lulu Garcia Navarro
After the break, I called Demi back and asked her about Getting sober for the first time when she was 21, and what it's been like for her to experience the world as a sober person.
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Lori Leibovich
Now I can go into a room, a gathering, and if I'm uncomfortable, I don't need to try to take the edge off it. I can actually just go, oh, wow, isn't that interesting? I'm a little uncomfortable right now.
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Demi Moore
Hi, this is Lori Leibovich, editor of WELL at the New York Times. Everything that our readers get when they dig into a well article has been vetted. Our reporters are consulting experts doing the research so that you can make great decisions about your physical health and your mental health. We take our reporting extra seriously because we know New York Times subscribers are counting on us. If you already subscribed. Thank you. If you'd like to subscribe, go to nytimes.com subscribe. Hi, Lulu.
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Lulu Garcia Navarro
Hi.
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Lori Leibovich
How are you?
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Demi Moore
I'm good.
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Lulu Garcia Navarro
So I came away from our first conversation thinking about how, in all these different ways, you were ahead of the culture. You know, you were an early champion of pay equity. You were an early champion of sex positivity. And the other thing we didn't really talk about is sobriety. And I'm someone who has been a year and a half sober myself.
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Lori Leibovich
Congratulations.
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Lulu Garcia Navarro
And I was wondering if you'd talk about your sobriety journey, if you feel comfortable with that.
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Lori Leibovich
Yeah, within. Within certain reason. It's. You know, I feel like I'm so grateful to be sober. The majority of my adult life, I've been sober, and it's so much more natural to me. And, you know, I really fit a profile of it being genetic. It's in my family. And as challenging as the moments that were low, I have to say, I wouldn't. I wouldn't exchange that for the quality of the life I have. Most importantly, because it's given me emotional sobriety.
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Lulu Garcia Navarro
Oh, explain what you mean by that.
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Lori Leibovich
Well, I mean, I think everyone understands the idea of being sober from drugs, alcohol, sex shopping, those kind of externalized things. But, like, what it is to be emotionally sober means how I'm choosing to live my life. The quality of how I interact with people, my ability to show up and suit up for others, that's all within my emotional sobriety because all the things that are used to medicate. And it's not just drugs and alcohol. There's many things.
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Lulu Garcia Navarro
Food, food.
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Lori Leibovich
I mean, you know, and when you no longer have that knee jerk to numb yourself out, yes, life can be a. A little edgy. But I actually now I know I can go into a room, a gathering, and if I'm uncomfortable, I don't need to try to take the edge off it. I can actually just go, oh, wow, isn't that interesting? I'm a little uncomfortable right now.
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Lulu Garcia Navarro
Not reacting to the things.
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Lori Leibovich
Yeah, I mean, I think what I know now is when you're numbing yourself out, your discernment for things isn't the same. So I know if I'm at a party, let's say I know when to leave because I'm not going to be on the same level anymore with other people, and I'm okay with that. Like, I recognize I have two speeds, go and go faster. And so, you know, like, drugs and alcohol just aren't a right fit for me.
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Lulu Garcia Navarro
You know, reading about how you became sober, which was during St. Elmo's fire, and the director basically having an intervention and saying, you have to go do this. Lots of people who've struggled with addiction have had those moments, but you kind of stuck with it. And I'm wondering, looking back now, why you think that was.
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Lori Leibovich
Well, I think at that time, I remember being sent to this place and they wanted to check me and for treatment and me saying, well, I, I can't, because I'm going to start a film. And they said, what's more important to you, the film or your life? And I said the film because that was my only sense of self and value. And so the incredible gift, like, I really feel like it was divine intervention, is that by them sticking their neck out for me to stay in the film, under the circumstances, gave me something more than me to want to. And I. And in a certain way, it was my fear. It was my fear of losing this. This thing that I was pursuing that was really meant everything at that moment. I didn't have enough of myself to do it for me. And I think it really kept me sober. But I want to just clarify, just so that I'm, you know, being transparent. I, I, I did step out. I did a detour, and I had almost 20 years of sobriety. I had a detour, and now I have over 12 years. And the detour, I think, you know, I was really young when I got sober. I was not yet 22. And I think, you know, as much as there's one part that says, boy, it would have been nice not to have to open that door, but it solidified without any question for me which path I wanted to take.
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Lulu Garcia Navarro
Was it hard to get sober again?
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Lori Leibovich
I think when you have that much time and you Open the door.
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Lulu Garcia Navarro
It.
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Demi Moore
It.
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Lori Leibovich
It's difficult because there's a part of you that feels like you. You knew better.
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Demi Moore
You. You. And.
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Lori Leibovich
And so that you want to prove that you can manage it. And managing it is just not in my makeup. It's not in my chemical response to alcohol, but I sure gave it a hell of a shot.
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Lulu Garcia Navarro
Okay, a few more questions, and then I will let you go. There have been reports of a St. Elmo's Fire reboot. True or not?
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Lori Leibovich
There are some discussions, yes. It's kind of early. Early stages, but from my understanding, I think pretty much everyone from the original cast is in or at least open and interested, which I think, you know, it would be. It would be really fun. There was something, you know, such. It was such an important time for us as young actors. And when Andrew McCarthy just did the documentary, I was just in New York and went to the screening and sat on a panel. Ally Sheedy was there. And I realized I hadn't seen her probably in, I don't know, almost 30 years. And that was crazy. But yet I. I can't. Like the feeling I had when I saw her. I was. It just like, I felt my heart expand in that way, because I think we were all just so young, and it was kind of exciting. And this. This, like, shift that was occurring, you know, in our industry of films being made about things that were happening in our lives, it just was just. It. I don't know. So I. I think it would be really. It would be fun.
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Lulu Garcia Navarro
You know, something that stuck with me is that you said in our first conversation that there was a period in your life when you became almost agoraphobic and didn't want to leave your house because of the burdens of fame. You know, at this point, you've been famous for decades, and I'm wondering what your relationship to fame is now.
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Demi Moore
Well, it's interesting.
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Lori Leibovich
I'll give you an example. I think that the time that I was talking about was feeling, like, how I was experiencing and holding, like, with being out on the street and paparazzi popping up, and I fe. Felt that I was in a battle with them, and my privacy was being invaded, and. And I felt unsafe. And what I realized is, you know, our bodies don't know the difference between a gun and a camera. All we know is we're being, like. We're being gone after. And so I didn't know. I. I hadn't really processed how to regulate that feeling of somebody trying to take from me. Somebody was, like, in a sense attacking me. And I feel like now my relationship with it is I, I experience it with ease and grace. Like yesterday, my daughter Scout and I were going to a friend's surprise birthday and we were walking from the car where we parked and out of nowhere two guys popped up. And the difference is now I don't hold it as that they're taking anything from me, that I am under siege. And that doesn't mean I like it. Like, did I like that they popped out of nowhere. But, you know, it's, I just, I don't. And so I don't know. That's the only part I can think of, of fame.
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Demi Moore
Because I guess in.
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Lori Leibovich
General, I don't think about it very much, actually.
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Lulu Garcia Navarro
Thank you so much. I've really, really enjoyed this. Thank you for being so open.
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Lori Leibovich
Oh, my pleasure. And really well done. Bravo for the year. That's amazing.
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Lulu Garcia Navarro
Thank you. That's Demi Moore. The Substance Oak opens in theaters nationwide on September 20th. This conversation was produced by Seth Kelly. It was edited by Annabelle Bacon, mixing by Sophia Landman, original music by Dan Powell, Elisheba Etoupe and Marian Lozano. Photography by Devin Yalkin. Our senior booker is Priya Matthew and our producer is Wyatt Orme. Our executive producer is Alison Benedict. Special thanks to Rory Walsh, Renan Borelli, Nick Pitman, Jeffrey Miranda, Jake Silverstein, Paula Schuman and Sam Dolnick. If you like what you're hearing, follow or subscribe to the Interview. Wherever you get your podcasts to read or listen to any of our conversations, you can always go to nytimes.com the interview and you can email us anytime at the interviewy times.com it.