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So I guess we're just supposed to be hating our husbands now. And not just hating our husbands. Being viscerally repulsed when they are sick and they need us to take care of them. Learning to effing despise our husbands, according to tiktokers, when they breathe apparently in our house and just give up on our marriages altogether through quiet quitting of our husbands and later on normalizing midlife divorce, which will make you so happy if you are a woman. I for one am sick and tired of seeing this on the Internet and in the mainstream media. Our husbands should never be our enemy. They should be our best friend. And I've got a lot to say about it today on the Isabelle Brown Show. Why was nobody gonna tell me how many women are just being intentionally fueled to hate their husbands? And I don't say that lightly. Literally every video that's been coming across my TikTok, my Instagram, my X algorithm lately is just women bashing their husbands, complaining about when they're sick, talking about how often they fight, advocating for divorce, or just normalizing the very idea of of hating your husband. And in the last week or so, I've come across several articles from the mainstream media arguing the same thing. Basically shoving women right into the cold dead arms of divorce as normal positive pro woman human behavior. In the year of our Lord 2025, I'm newly married. Relatively speaking, I'm in my second year of marriage. With my husband just do we have the occasional blowout fight? Of course, every marriage does. Do we have disagreements? Do we get annoyed with each other? Of course, everyone living in the same house does. But I find this trend from women in the Internet space, the two dimensional world that we live in, of the so called metaverse, in just dragging their husbands through the mud. Not classy, not cute, and really, really destructive to society. A lot of other people would agree with me, which is really good news. I'm glad that we're having this conversation. But as the Internet pushes you to normalize hating your husband, I am begging you, please, can we leave the husband hating and the husband bashing behind in 2025? We're darn close to 2026, so maybe that should be one of our New Year's resolutions. Here is a perfect example of what we need to be leaving behind this year. This gal on TikTok has a whole lot to say on the Listen to this.
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Normalize hating your husband. Like for real, it's okay to go through about a minute, half a day, couple hours, a full day, even a week of just like, I can't stand you right now, but deep down, or in the back of your head, it might be all the way down to your toes at this point. You know I love you so much and I know we're in this together. We're just in the thick of it.
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I don't think actually those things can coexist together. I don't think the deep, deep, deep down, all the way down in your toes. I actually secretly love you. But normalize effing hating you with every passing day. I don't think those two things can coexist. And so I have to beg the question here. Are you guys marrying the right people? Maybe this is a result of us treating marriage not as a sacred holy union, a covenant between yourself, another person and God, but a tax break or a piece of contract paper that you happen to be signing, something that can easily be thrown away in the trash. I don't know. But this normalization of women effing hating their husbands day in and day out is what is fueling these mainstream media articles like this one published just a few days ago by New York Magazine. The women highlighted here quietly quitting their husbands rather than dealing with the drama of divorce. They say more and more women over 40 are just choosing, or are choosing rather to just check out. Written, of course, by a woman, Monica Cochrane. Hazel Harrell. Monica, a journalist and screenwriter who covers culture and relationships. What's the over under on whether this woman is happily or unhappily married. Begs the question. Begs the question. But writes this whole piece about the courageous women choosing to start over after age 40 in the midst of their midlife divorce. We're gonna come back to that term, by the way, midlife divorce. Because this is the same propaganda that's being pushed in front of women living in the UK by the Telegraph. Get to that in a minute. But this is written as like a hero piece. These women quietly quitting their husbands. We're already advocating for divorce all the time on TikTok. We got some more clips for that today on the show as well. But now they're gonna tell you actually that's really dramatic to get divorced. You shouldn't even think about getting divorced. Maybe you should just check out as your way of starting over and redefining yourself in an opportunity of empowerment or for women everywhere. This piece is honestly disgusting. It really is. And I, I feel for this woman because the woman who wrote this piece talks about her parents having so many issues when she was growing up. And my heart breaks for her in that regard. She talks about watching her mom and dad constantly be fighting with one another. Her father emotionally and physically demanded more of her mom. And her mom started to pull back and pull back and pull back. They stopped watching movies together. They slept in the guest room instead of sleeping in the same bed. She stopped looking at him with love and glaring at him across the room with anger. Became the new normal in their house. And so all of a sudden she watched her parents fall out of love 40 years ago in the 80s when the divorce rate was at a historic annual high of around 20 divorces for every 1,000 married women. Lo and behold, her parents did eventually end up getting divorced. So that reinforced divorce and quitting the person that you have committed to in life as a normal human behavior. For this author who grew up seeing that in her own house, that rate sits at about 14 divorces per 1,000 married women today. So still at a very, very historic high. And she says still at parties I hear women hiss their contempt for their selfish spouses. One middle aged friend without kids in a decade old dented marriage recently told me that she now only travels solo to take much needed vacations from my annoying husband. Another one of this woman's friends moved into her daughter's bedroom as soon as their teenager left for college. I can watch old episodes of Broad City. He can look at porn or whatever he does. Doesn't even know what her husband is doing in their own house, she said of her husband. She sounded more than fine with the arrangement, even gleefully about the arrangement. So this author asks in New York magazine, are women in midlife still doing what my mother once did, before she even got divorced? Let's call it subconsciously uncoupling. Of course, we have to rebrand everything to make it seem so cool and new and a fantastic new idea. Rather than sticking out their marriage. She talks about the bump in divorce and what we've seen in the last couple of years and decades in American history. And she's noting that age is a very common pushing factor behind all of this. More and more married couples in midlife, she says, are actually calling it quits. And that's not a new trend. In 1990, the divorce rate was 3.9 divorces per married women who were 50 or older. By 2008, the divorce rate for this group had risen to 11. In 2023, the divorce rate stabilized among older adults at 10.3. This aligns with perhaps other cultural trends for women over 40. We're not lying about our age anymore, or letting doctors dismiss our perimenopause symptoms as hysteria. What is sort of new is the normalization for settling being utterly dissatisfied. It's as if we're doomed as the economy, the climate and our attention spans. What does it even matter, right? Last November, a Buzzfeed headline earnestly stated, she writes, 25 unhappily married people are sharing why they will never get a divorce, and it's genuinely heart wrenching. More than a few women told me that they're too busy to even wrap their minds around separating. I barely have time to talk to you about how I'm quietly quitting my marriage. Planning a divorce right now is out of the question, says one woman who is striving to make partner at a venture capital firm. This covers stories of countless other women's in their 40s and into their 50s, their midlife years. And I'm watching all of this happen with a staggering heartbreak for what we are considering to be normal and pushing as something to almost strive for, for young women in particular as we seek to get married again in society. It's no secret that marriage is not exactly the beacon of female empowerment as we see it written about in newspaper articles or in magazines. It's not talk about by politicians as a beautiful solution to help rebuild our broken society. It's not pushed by female influencers or our favorite TV shows. But now, not only are we not pushing marriage, we are not pushing Happy marriages. We're seeking to normalize this idea of giving up on your spouse and just being okay with that. Everything else sucks in life. The economy sucks in life. Our jobs suck. Our education system sucks. The environment sucks. So if all of those things are true, why should your marriage be great? Why should your most deeply held, important values based relationship, the most intimate experience you will ever share with another person, why should that be good? Is that not sad to anyone else? The rampant selfishness of these women that I'm seeing on the Internet is disgusting. And we need to learn how to prioritize the other people in our lives. And as a part of that process, it's something that's been hitting me really hard. After becoming a mom, I'm realizing that my health cannot just be about me anymore. Me being healthy is about me showing up for my daughter and my husband, being present for all of my daughter's milestones and having the energy to keep up with her for decades to come. That is a totally different kind of motivation and has made me take my health so much more seriously in the last couple of months. But here's the problem. Our healthcare system is built entirely to be reactive. You wait until something is wrong and then you try to fix it. 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I look at this article and I read this as someone who, again, I will say again, still has arguments with her husband, still has an off day. Everybody does. But who loves my husband? I mean, my husband is my best friend. Genuinely, the best part of my day is when my husband walks through the door coming home after a very, very long workday and we have time to just spend time together as a family with my best friend. There will be seasons of life where I. I'm sure I won't feel as close to him as I do right now. That's normal in any marriage over the span of 50 years. But I can't imagine being so conditioned by all of the media that I'm taking in, by all of the articles that I'm reading, by all of the conversations that I'm having with my friends at parties. According to this author, at least to learn to grow, to hate my husband, to normalize, effing hating my husband and then just giving up on having a happy marriage by the time I'm 40 or 50 years old. This is symptomatic of a much, much deeper diagnosis in society. And it's the same diagnosis that's causing a whole host of other cultural issues, by the way. It's that we are making ourselves the main character in our own lives. We are making ourselves the God of our own lives. That ultimately nothing outside of what exists in my own head can matter to me, can be important to me, can be prioritized to me. Certainly not the wants, needs and success of other people. Even if that other person happens to be your spouse, the only thing that matters is you. That's wrong. And not only is it wrong on a societal level and in a marriage relationship, that's wrong for you. Just like basic individual psychology. Jordan Peterson talks about this a lot. But imagine for a minute if you died the version of yourself that existed at 18 years old or at 19 years old. God willing, you have the capacity to die when you're 90 years old or 100 years old. But the version of yourself that existed when you were a selfish, self obsessed adolescent teenager is ideally not the best version of yourself. Ideally, if you are a mature adult, you are committed to working through different chapters of your life to be better than you were yesterday, to be less selfish and more selfless, to put other people first, to gain more patience, to be kinder and softer to other people and not immediately respond in anger. The one institution that is proven throughout human history to be better than anything else at helping us soften ourselves and become better versions of ourselves, to be sanctified, to grow in maturity and patience and love. That institution is family. And now we're just demonizing it as an inconvenient arrangement where you happen to live under the same roof and you effing hate the other person that shares those four walls. That's really, really sad. I said we would come back to this term of midlife divorce because it's the new glossy thing on apparently every magazine and newspaper cover aimed at women in particular to try to convince you that that's going to be very self empowering and exciting. I guess society is realizing that they're losing with young women, that young women are yearning for marriage despite all of the propaganda that they're shoving in front of our faces. So the next best way to destroy society is to go after women who are already married and try to ruin their marriages from the inside out. I saw this article or article from the Telegraph the other day published in the uk. Listen, listen to this headline. This is genuinely insane. Why midlife divorce is good for you as long as you are a woman. I'm sorry, what? That's insane. Like truly beyond the pale. Thousands of walk away wives, they say same as the quiet quitting thing, are calling time on their marriages and discovering new levels of happiness in the process. I mean, this truly breaks my heart. I'm gonna zoom in on this for you guys so you can see it a little bit better. Why midlife divorce is good for you as long as you are a woman. This piece, just like the New York magazine piece, is ridiculously sad. It wasn't just any one incident that convinced this woman, Pat, 55, that she had to leave her husband. Just 25 years of feeling taken for granted. Our marriage was okay while he was working. We both had our separate lives and he was a workaholic and he traveled a lot. But then he retired and he was under my feet. He was pretty lost, I suppose, but he just undermined me constantly. Every day he'd say or do something which hurt. Forgetting something important to me. Not noticing something I had done for him. Being negative, each thing in isolation wasn't that bad, but it built up. I can remember looking at him one day across the breakfast table and thinking, I just can't do this anymore. Given that she is only in her 50s, she thought I might live for another 40 years. There has to be more to life than this. So I told him that I had had enough at that point. He said that he'd be coming to. He'd be open to coming to couples counseling. Something that I had been suggesting for about 15 years. But by then it was too late. When you are done, you are so done. The Telegraph goes on to cover that apparently in the UK there are record numbers of people seeking midlife divorce. People in their 50s and 60s that currently have the highest rates of divorce in the UK and in Particular, so many women, midlife women, are calling time on their marriages saying that you should just be done with a marriage. That's okay. It's not great. It's okay because he doesn't do something for you. But I find it really fascinating that this all seems to be rooted in the same baseline problem. What is my husband doing for me? What is he noticing about me? What is he doing to make me happy today? How is he going out of his way to serve me? And I'll be completely transparent and honest with you guys. Even just in my second year of marriage, I find myself falling trap to that way of thinking a lot because it's constantly what I am seeing on social media and in every single one of these articles that I see every single day, day in and day out. It's what I hear from a lot of other women in my life. My husband doesn't value and honor me. And there are multiple times in this last year that I have found myself getting trapped into that hamster wheel of thinking, even when it's not even remotely true. My husband goes out of his way to serve and honor my life and my family and to boost up every single thing that I am doing. He is my biggest cheerleader and truly, truly, truly does do everything he can every day to serve me. And. And even then I find myself thinking, ugh, my husband didn't do enough for me today. Could you imagine for a minute if we could turn the narrative completely on its head here and maybe put an end to unhappy marriages once and for all? Not by encouraging divorce, not by saying it is in fact all about me. And the only way I'm going to be happy is to quietly quit my husband, or move into the guest room, or wait until my kids go to college and then basically live a completely separate life from my husband under my same roof. But instead to ask, what am I receiving in giving? Maybe my marriage is unhappy because I'm not giving anything to my husband as I feel underappreciated, underserved, undervalued and unhappy. Maybe I can change the tone of the day to day life of this relationship by giving more instead of being upset that I'm not receiving enough. That's true of every relationship, for the record. Your friendships, your relationships with your parents and your siblings. Love is not about receiving. That's a gift. And it is a gift none of us really deserve. We are all imperfect human beings that suck at different points in our lives more than others, but are unworthy of true, unabashed, unconditional love. But if we can give that love to other people, wow. The returns that we get, the returns that we get from our husbands, from our fiances, our boyfriends, our sisters, our friends, our parents. It's about what we can provide to others that will reap dividends on the other end. These women and these authors truly need Jesus. But frankly, don't we all need Jesus? Especially this Advent season as we are preparing for the birth of Jesus Christ on Christmas. 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He's such an inconvenience to me, he makes me so miserable, he doesn't work hard enough. Maybe that level of discomfort should instead be an opportunity for all of us. This is a hot take, I know, to look in the mirror and say what am I falling short on in giving to this relationship? Which then in turn inspires the other to turn around and give more themselves. This goes for you too, husbands. If you're miserable in your own marriage and you're saying, my wife doesn't do this, My wife doesn't take care of me. Why my wife undervalues me. My wife underappreciates me. Maybe it's an opportunity for all of us to say I'm not doing or giving or serving enough. And that's why I'm so miserable in my own level of satisfaction in this relationship. At the very bare minimum, I hope that we can all agree that like when our spouse needs us, when they're sick, when they're out for the count and they desperately need an extra set of hands, we shouldn't hate them. But this tick tocker apparently seems to disagree. She just hates when her husband is sick and is, and I quote, filled with rage. Take this as what not to do in your marriage.
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Am I the only one that's like this? Probably not. But when my husband is sick, he's been puking all night. Even if he has a cold for some reason. The rage inside me is such a fiery rage. And I know there's nothing you can do about it to control it, but it just makes me so angry. It's so ridiculous that it makes me so angry. So he's been puking all night. So I slept on the couch. Cuz he, he just, he like moans and groans. He's like noisy when he's sick.
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Can we be annoyed when they do the man flu thing? Yes, women, and frankly we should. The man flu thing is very annoying. And men, if you think about it for five seconds, you know that you are guilty, you are a culprit of this. That when you have a cold you can kind of push through. But to be filled with an unbearable rage when your husband is up puking all night. Why? This is the end result to being conditioned to hate your husband. Maybe let's have some compassion for our spouse when they are uncontrollably throwing up all night and have a horrible stomach bug. And do what we can to help the person that we promised to care for in sickness and in health. But again, service to the person that we love, which is the single greatest way that we can love them. To show that their priorities, their needs, their wants, their desires are ranked higher on our to do list than what we want to do every day. That is not painted in a glorious light by society, especially in a culture that is making us treat ourselves as the God of our own lives, as the main character of our day to day experiences. Regularly I see trends like this go viral every six to nine months. And this one just came back around again in November. I saw this about a year ago and now everybody's remaking them again, trying to paint married life as this miserable horrible experience. But the things that they're highlighting here are really not all that miserable at all. Watch this. So she throws away an engagement ring in the bottom of the drawer and is physically repulsed, nauseated by the idea that getting married means that she's going to have to plunge a toilet or do a load of laundry or vacuum the floor or mow the lawn. So she just says, nope, no thanks, not for me. Unsubscribe. Marriage is so evil and repressive for women. A million questions here. A Are you not doing those things on your own time ladies, are we not vacuuming our houses or doing laundry or packing up, moving boxes when we move or plunging toilets when we're single? Because if not, I'm genuinely worried for your well being and I don't want to know what the inside dynamics of your day to day life are. I hope that you are taking better care of yourself as a grown woman, but what an honor and a privilege be to do that for your husband. Am I right to do that for your children, for the people that you love? Service to others is the single greatest way we can possibly express love for them. It's why rehabilitation in our society, by the way, generally looks like community service. Because you learn our place in society has to be rooted in how we serve the people around us. That's how we give back to a culture instead of constantly just consuming and receiving everything as gluttonous, sinful, disgusting, evil people where the only thing that matters in our life is ourselves. Life is very very short and I hope and I pray that we can reframe how we are talking to young women to not encourage that type of lifestyle. Because come the end of our lives, whether that's tomorrow or five years from now or 50 years from now, if that's the best that we possibly could have done is unabashed selfishness, God help us in our society. The comments on that video are really telling to me, by the way, because we've normalized the hatred of marriage and the hatred of serving others so substantially that everyone is agreeing with this woman on TikTok. Let me read some of these for you because it's genuinely wild. Top comment with nearly 3000 likes this is exactly how all young women should view marriage. It is in caps spot on with a bunch of clapping emojis. Atomic Starbursts says being a wife is a life of servitude. We have been brainwashed by Disney to believe otherwise. No it's not by the way, just at its foundational level, marriage is about so much more than servitude. And especially being a wife is about so much more than servitude. But also what's so wrong with serving the people that you love? Like I genuinely just can't even wrap my head around that. Am I missing the joy aspect of this? Missing the mark on that? Because I find great joy in serving the people that I love. Not just my husband, but my daughter and everyone else in my life too. Leah says don't forget having to decide what everyone eats at every dinner slash meal for 20 plus straight years. Kristen. This is exactly what happens. And he would just lay on the couch watching TV while I cleaned every Saturday. Then they have the audacity to be sad when you fall out of love. Kimmy, don't forget making his doctor's appointments and making sure that he goes restocking all of his essentials. Buying him clothes. Dancing queen in all caps. Truth. Don't do it. They men want a mother, not a wife. Chocolate marriage, especially for mothers, is a nightmare. Claire says, I wish I did that. Throwing her engagement ring in the trash 20 years ago. Holly going through divorce after 26 years. This is nothing. Don't do it. Don't get married. Wow. I mean, genuinely, this is so sad. It's so heartbreaking because we don't have to live like this. But we keep pushing the narrative. We keep watching the tiktoks. We keep reinforcing the Marriage is awful. Marriage is evil. Marriage is going to ruin your life. Women mentality. Like this tiktoker who wants to point out what women's greatest fear really is. Wow. I'm gonna pull this up and read it again for you guys and maybe we can pull it up on our screen and pause it for you so that you can reread it again because it's a really good one. What women's greatest fear really is. These people have too much time on their hands. I swear, men mistakenly think that a woman's greatest fear is loneliness. You're wrong. The greatest fear for any woman is getting married, having children, becoming a domestic servant, living a boring and miserable life with a wor husband, and then realizing, I've wasted all of my time with you as you dance in your kitchen. What really appears to be a parent's kitchen based on the decorations there from the 90s 90s cabinets and backsplash in a crop top and booty shorts.
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And then her caption on this video is, ever since my frontal lobe developed, I've been continuously relearning. Yeah. Again, we've conditioned women to believe that maturing growing up is realizing once your frontal lobe develops, marriage is awful. It's a waste of time. Men are evil. You become a domestic servant, and it's something to be avoided at all costs. I have no idea where these women are learning all of these ideas beyond just TikTok. I'm sure a whole lot of it is coming from the heart of our college campuses and the gender studies departments that constantly tell you that all men are evil. We all know that college is broken. We have activist professors, seminars that feel like struggle sessions. It's $80,000 plus a year to hear Hamas chants on the quad while being told that America and all men are evil in your classes. So the question is, what is the alternative? There is a new university in Texas that is doing exactly the opposite of most mainstream academia and it's called the University of Austin, or uatx. Here's what really sets UATX apart and why students are turning down the University of Chicago and transferring from Ivy Leagues like Columbia to attend their school. At uatx, students are in small seminars that are taught by amazing professors. They read the great books of Western civilization to learn from them, not to tear down the culture of the West. They build actual companies on campus with real mentorship from a vast network of entrepreneurs and top investors. You can be openly Christian without apology and speak openly about your faith on campus. And when you walk into the main atrium, there is a giant, big, glorious American flag. UATX is admitting students based purely on test scores, so the application takes only five minutes. Oh, and another thing before I forget, tuition is completely free forever. It is funded by American patriots who want to create the Navy Seals of the mind of education, not just another generation of credentialed activists. To apply to the University of Austin, you can visit uaustin.org that's U A U S T I N and God forbid you actually did get married. We need to totally normalize that it's time to get divorced. This tiktoker says that getting divorced should never be something that you think twice about. The second you start thinking any of these things, this is your sign that it is time to get divorced and give up on your marriage.
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If you are an unhappily married woman who secretly contemplates divorce, divorce, this video is for you. And if you're not an unhappily married woman who contemplates divorce, I need you to watch it anyways. Maybe this will help you in the future. Or maybe you know someone who needs to see this video and who you can share it with. Today would be my wedding anniversary, but instead I have been divorced for six years. I am the biggest fan of divorce, can't advocate enough for it, and so I wanted to share some things with you that might be happening that are signs that it is time to get divorced. I once asked an older former coworker of mine who had been divorced how I would know it was time to get divorced and she told me that when you're asking people how to know when it's time to get divorced, then it's time to get divorced. And so that's the first one. If you are asking people when to get divorced, it's time. But here are some other signs that it's time as well. Let's start with the one that I hope is the most obvious. If your husband or spouse, partner, whatever is abusive in any way, shape or form, there are like nine different types of abuse. Financial, physical, mental, all of that. If they are abusive in any category, it is time to get divorced. Aside from that, if you are googling divorce laws in your state, it's time to get divorced. If you find yourself wishing that they would just randomly die, time to get divorced. If you are lying to your friends and family about how they treat you so so that they aren't hated, time to get divorced. If you question whether you're the problem, then it's time to get divorced. If you find yourself saying he's not always like this or they're not always like this, time to get divorced. If you find yourself pretending to be asleep so that you can avoid them, time to get divorced. If you have any signs of PTSD or anxiety, wondering when they come back, if you're hearing footsteps and you wonder if it's them, if you are, you know, hearing a car drive by and you wondering if it's them, time to get divorced. If you just know that your life will be exponentially easier and lighter and more enjoyable without them, then it's time to get divorced. And if you're staying because you're afraid of the logistics of getting divorced, if that sounds overwhelming to you, then it's time to get divorced. If you have stopped dreaming and you're saddened by the idea that your life may forever be the way that it is right now and things may never change, then it's time to get div. Divorced. Now, if you've made it this far, thank you for watching. And if you're divorced, go ahead and drop some others in the comments to help a girl out. And if you're thinking about getting divorced, just go do it. But before you go do it, go talk to every single lawyer, even the most expensive ones, even the ones you can't afford, just so that your spouse can't use them. So I hope this helped.
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Wow. Okay, so ew. First of all, again, my heart breaks for this woman because she's putting on this really loud, really in your face front about how happy she is and how clearly she's the biggest advocate of divorce on the face of the planet. I Think I see right through that. I don't think this woman really is that happy, because she won't be happy until she's convinced as many women as possible to join her in her unhappiness, misery, loves company, and to end their marriages and attack the institution at large. Of course, there are some legitimate reasons to not remain in a marriage, like physical abuse. I mean, these things are important. Abusive relationships and domestic violence and all of these things need to be taken seriously. And anyone with a soul would tell you that that is the case. But did you notice how she snuck in some really quiet ones in the middle there? It is time to get divorced. If you find yourself randomly wishing your husband would just die randomly, who did you guys marry? That is my literal, worst nightmare. Literally, that is what I bring up in arguments in the middle of an argument with my husband when I'm like, why are we even fighting? This is stupid. Life is short. You could die tomorrow. I don't want this to be our last conversation. I'm sorry. Let's move on. And that feels really real, by the way, in the last three months, more than it ever has been with the death of Charlie. Are you guys just randomly wishing your husband would die? I think that speaks volumes about where your head is at and what your emotional priorities are. And again, an opportunity to look in the mirror. But I digress. She snuck in also there. If you find yourself thinking your life would just be easier, your life would just be easier, you would have less to think about. You don't constantly have to be worrying and thinking about another person, then it's time to get divorced. What a sad, shallow, pathetic message to be sharing with women as a message of empowerment. By the way, do we really not have the capacity to grow and mature and flourish as human beings by welcoming challenges into our life? Challenges like, how do I get beyond my own needs, wants, desires in the next five minutes? To put the needs, wants, desires of another person above my own in an act of selflessness in my marriage, that's bad for you, that's wrong. That's a reason to run away from the person that you have committed to love, honor, and support. For better or for worse. It's a shallow, narcissistic, ugly message that is attempting to normalize evil. And I don't say that lightly. Evil behavior in our culture, because the truth is as hard as it is for us to say. Because everyone we know has been divorced. Everyone we know has a divorced family in their lives. People's parents are divorced, their siblings are divorced. Their friends are divorced. Maybe they are divorced because it's been so normalized in society that roughly half of marriages are ending in divorce. It's really hard for us to say the honest, hard truth that divorce is wrong. It is a sin. It is based in evil to give up on the commitment, and not just commitment, but the covenant, the holy agreement that you made with that person standing up there on the altar on the best day of your life, whether that was five minutes ago or five decades ago. It is wrong to give up and to say I matter more than you. It's why it's something that's never been accepted generally in society up until very, very recently in human history. And I think it speaks volumes that the minute we have started normalizing this, we are now letting all of this spill over into countless other areas of American culture that insist the only way to be fulfilled as a woman, the only way to be happy as a woman, the only way to be healthy as a woman is if you shove everyone out of your life and the only thing that matters is you. It's the exact same narrative that we see on TikTok videos and trends like the Girl with the List tied to having a baby, when we are seeing endless videos over and over and over again about the constant, infinite reasons to never get pregnant, experience childbirth, or welcome children into your life because it is going to ruin your very existence as a woman. Making us think, creating the narrative, setting the normalization standard, that the average pregnancy is going to literally kill you, right? How many times a day do we hear abortion is safer than pregnancy, which is not true remotely, by the way. Don't ever go through childbirth because you will literally die. Pregnancy is going to destroy your health, and it certainly is going to destroy your mental health to have children, your relational health to have children, and all of your hopes, wants and dreams, when in reality, the average pregnancy isn't terrible, the average pregnancy is beautiful. It's just the craziest people with the loudest microphones screaming their misery into the void while the good people who had their good experiences remain silent that now creates this cultural narrative scaring you out of the good, the true and the beautiful in our society. And just like the average pregnancy isn't terrible, the average marriage isn't miserable. Having the occasional argument with your husband is not a reason to get divorced. It's an opportunity for sanctification, for us to humble ourselves, to say, it's really not about me. It's not about me being right. It's not about me winning the argument. It's not about me trampling on the person that I love the most. Maybe it's about me saying less of me, more of God, less of my desires, more of serving my spouse, less of my selfish wants, and more of emptying of myself into others in an act of selflessness. I just find it profoundly sad that our culture is so hell bent on the irony of telling you that your greatest purpose and meaning and fulfillment is going to come from complete narcissism. And a lot of that is led by the pro divorce crowd voices here that are constantly shoving this in your face. You were not intended to exist on an island. You were not intended to exist alone. We have to grow and challenge ourselves and change, and we're worthy of experiencing love and intimacy and growth, things that we could never accomplish unless we experience the sanctifying process of true relationship building over decades and decades of our lives. Whether that's with our parents, our siblings, our friends, and most importantly, our marriages and our children in adult life. I'm not ever going to lie to you and say that every single minute of being married is sunshine and rainbows and like running around in a My Little Pony episode. It's not. Sometimes there are really challenging aspects of marriage, but that alone is what makes it worthy and beautiful and fulfilling. Because it's an opportunity for each of us to ditch the evil, selfish part of our lives and instead embrace who we have the capacity to be. To run away from sin and to embrace sanctification, to learn how to be holy together, to hold hands and walk towards heaven together, and ultimately share that experience and that example with our children for the next generation, too. I don't know who y' all are marrying, and maybe that's an indictment on our lack of discernment as a society in marrying the wrong people, which is a different conversation we should have for a different day. But at the end of every day, even when you've had an argument, even when you're exhausted, even when the dishes are piled up in the sink and you didn't get to go on a date night this week and you're feeling overwhelmed with work and with your kids, and you haven't slept in three months because of your baby, at the end of the day, my biggest prayer for all of us is that we can fall in love with being in love again, that it's okay to normalize, that your husband is your best friend and the love of your life and the one person you constantly want around because they are the best thing that ever happened to you. I love my husband. Brock. If you're watching this, I love you and I hope that what we can do with our family and what we can do in American culture moving forward is to normalize praising your husband. Normalize. Not bashing your husband, especially all over the Internet, and normalize the American family again. That's not evil. That's not regressive. That is the most progressive, pro woman, joyful narrative we can possibly share with this next generation. Question is, am I off the mark here? Did I totally miss this? Are we supposed to be hating our husbands? Am I just this naive 1950s housewife? I promise I'm not. I'm regularly attacked on the Internet for not being trad enough. Believe it or not. But what do you guys think? Think about this bashing your husband thing. Are you seeing this all over your feeds? And what's the solution? What can we do about it? Drop your thoughts in the comments of today's episode. So excited for a very fun Friday edition of the show with you tomorrow, but I gotta jet off to the White House Christmas party this afternoon, so we're gonna leave it at that. Don't forget to subscribe to the channel and leave us a five star review on whatever podcast platform you listen to the show every day on as we continue to grow and help change the narrative to speak the truth to this next generation tomorrow and every day thereafter. We'll see you on the next episode.
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They say that Merlin is mad. They say he was a king and dovey the son of a princess of lost Atlantis. They say the future and the past are known to him. That the fire and the wind tell him their secrets. Let the magic of the hill folk and druids come forth at his easy command. They say he slew hundreds. Hundreds. Do you hear that? The world burned and trembled at his wrath. The Merlin died long before you and I were born, Merlin. Emrys has returned to the land of the living. Vortigern is gone. Rome is gone. The Saxon is here. Saxon Hengist has assembled the greatest war host ever seen in the island of the Mighty. And before the summer is through, he means to take the throne. And he will have it if we are too busy squabbling amongst ourselves to take up arms against him. Here is your hope. A king will arise to hold all Britain in his hand. A high king who will be the wonder of the world.
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You stand as one. Great darkness is falling upon this land. These brothers are only hoped to stand against it.
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Not our only hope.
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