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Isabel Brown
men all over the Internet are making videos joking about beating their wives with furniture.
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Co-host or Guest Reacting
What did you say?
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Isabel Brown
And then saying that they are actually the real victims because their women are just so emotionally abusive to them. It's horrifying, it's scary, and actually it's not true.
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Podcast Host or Narrator
Yeah, they had us the first half.
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Isabel Brown
I'm not going to lie, because in reality it's women making these videos, joking about beating up their husbands, their boyfriends, their fiance. And hundreds of thousands of people are liking videos about this on TikTok. TikTok laughing because it's men in the victim spot. The TikTok women are out of control this week, but this latest trend has me legitimately terrified for how bad we have affirmed insanity thanks to the therapy industry in America. Everybody makes mistakes. Everybody has those days, including Taylor, Frankie, Paul. Apparently it's Hannah Montana reunion day. Did I watch it this morning at like 5:30 in the morning? Yes. Will I be binge listening to all of the Hannah Montana everything today with my daughter, who is loving Rockstar in particular? You betcha. What a time to be alive. Nostalgia. I am here for it, but that's basically where the realm of my knowledge related to television starts and ends are reunion specials of my favorite children's TV shows. If you guys know this about me, if you've been following me for a long time, you probably already know. But if you don't, here's a little lesson into Isabel Brown. I don't watch reality television.
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Co-host or Guest Reacting
What?
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Isabel Brown
I just don't. I'm not interested in it. It doesn't appeal to me. I have seen one episode of the entire Bachelor universe. What do we even call the Bachelor metaverse The Bachelor verse. I have no idea of all of the different versions of the franchise. Seen one episode, all of it. And it was years ago when I was working at Turning Point usa. All the girls used to go to the office once a week to watch the Bachelorette or Bachelor as it was coming out. I think that year it was the Bachelor that I watched. I don't even remember. And it was the finale episode and I had just moved to Arizona. I was looking to make new friends. I'm like, sure, what the heck? For kicks and giggles, we'll go watch this trash tv. I just want to pat myself on the back for a moment that I predicted the crazy twist ending that everyone laughed at me when I walked in the room and I said this was going to happen, they said, no, we've been watching for 15 weeks. There's no way that's gonna happen. He's not gonna leave the expected girl to go to the other girl. That's exactly what happened. How exciting. Shocking. I know all of that to be said. I had no idea, really, who this Taylor Frankie Paul person was minus occasionally seeing videos of her on social media until a few days ago. I have now been given the rundown by all of my friends who do watch reality TV that this former Secret Lives of Mormon Wives star, now cast as the Bachelorette, has been ostracized from society. And the who of the Bachelorette has been canceled because of a video that leaked a few days ago related to domestic violence perpetrated by her against her ex. Ex. Husband. Ex boyfriend. See, I don't even know any of these details. Producer Jess comes in handy. I know. Baby daddy, ex husband and baby daddy. There you go. And although I know nobody's perfect, this is actually, like, really, really bad. Like, really bad. So bad. I can't even begin to tell you how bad. I've actually not watched the full video of all of this. I've only seen shorter clips about social media. So this is my first time watching the entirety of this insanity. Do you think this was justified for the Bachelorette season to be cancelled? If domestic violence is something that is really impacting you in your life, I'm not usually one for trigger warnings, but just a heads up on watching this video.
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Co-host or Guest Reacting
Yeah, yeah. Look at you. Look, look. Yeah, look. This is called physical abuse. Yeah, Yeah. See, Taylor, this is all you do. It's the only thing you know how to do is hurt me. Huh? And you think this is okay? It's not okay. Holy.
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Isabel Brown
I don't give a.
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Co-host or Guest Reacting
Let me go Stop, dude. Leave me alone. Oh, my gosh. Your daughter is right here. Oh, my gosh. Oh, my.
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Isabel Brown
Wow, that's hard to watch. Apparently, this happened in 2023. And again, if you're like me and you're like, who the hell are these people? Like, why am I watching this? This mom was launched into international stardom because of a reality TV show that became super popular over the past few years called Secret Lives of Mormon Wives. As you will find out, none of these lives are actually secret. They are out there like the Kardashians. Every second of every day is recorded. And these people are not actually really Mormon. But we could get into that a little bit later. This happened in 2023, where she was repeatedly attacking her ex and her baby daddy. She did plead guilty to aggravated assault from this particular situation, and then later on, several years later was cast to be the bachelorette as her next round of reality TV stardom before this video ended up getting leaked to the public via the vehicle of tmz. And immediately the season was, of course, canceled. Now that the video has come out to the public, interestingly, she has also reportedly lost custody of her kids, at least temporarily, over this horrifying incident, naturally. So I would be shocked if that didn't happen, frankly. But what's most concerning to me of all is not that there's some crazy celebrity woman out there beating up her boyfriend and doing it in front of her children and that her children are taking strays from this. That's horrifying on its own. There is now a TikTok trend all over the Internet of women siding with this other woman and basically saying all men deserve to be beat. Women desperately need better role models than all of this. Is like one of the biggest lessons I'm learning from this. And so do men, by the way, in a totally separate conversation. If you guys haven't had a chance to check out my friend Pavel's new show here with Daily Wire, you have to see it. It is so, so good. Frankly, now I'm like, even more motivated to make a version of this for women because of how psycho women are. Our new Daily Wire show, Be a Man with Me, has Pavel, who runs all of our productions behind the scenes in front of the came first time, which is a real treat for all of us doing like the super manly things in society that we need to make our culture run. He's on farms, he's climbing electrical poles. He's going to get tased at the police department. It's the best thing I've seen in a really long time and truly so creative. Desperately needed in the creative space. Please go check out his channel and go subscribe if you get a minute. Today, women have come out of the TikTok sphere to side with Taylor Frankie Paul who apparently have this similar desire to harm their own husbands or ex husbands as some version of female empowerment. Wait, what? Yeah, insane. If you go to versions of this original video that have been clipped on TikTok, the comments are incredibly alarming. People saying nah, what did he do first though I really need the context to see what he did prior to this. Or even just as simple as Good job girl. And then out of comment sections people are making their own videos justifying beating up men in our lives simply because they are men. Watch this one. Scrolling past the Taylor Frankie Paul hate because I too think men need to be beat sometimes. FBI this woman says I've hit my baby daddy with coffee mugs, candles, a pack of ground meat, shoes, remotes and the good old one two. What does that even mean? Fit. Oh nice. See, this is how sweet and innocent I am, shielded from reality tv. I could even laugh about this though. I've hit him with the good old one two a few too many times. But if I told the first half of those stories, he'd be in prison for his whole life. So yeah, I'm supporting Taylor Frankie Paul. How about this woman? Things I Wish I had Done to My Abusive Ex Caption I'm gonna get canceled for this. Lol. I I don't even know what to say. I'm speechless.
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Co-host or Guest Reacting
I'm speechless. I don't know what to say.
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Isabel Brown
How is this a trend on the Internet? And it's sparked a much larger conversation about the concept of reactive abuse, which feels very therapy coded language to me. Never spent a day of my life in therapy, but it feels like something a therapist would say. As you're laying on a velvet couch sipping a cup of coffee, react to all of your feelings and internal emotions.
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Co-host or Guest Reacting
Oh yeah, unzip me. It's all coming back. It's all coming back. I hate you.
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Isabel Brown
Janela tweeted this hey, so reactive abuse is a thing. His tone, him recording, him hiding behind the child. There are two sides. I think it's weird. People attack this girl when they wouldn't be able to survive what she's going through. We don't know everything so let's move on and let the courts handle. I guess. Recording a video of your ex wife throwing a bar stool, a metal chair at your daughter's head Makes you the abuser now, according to the Internet, rather than the person beating you up with a chair. And TikTok seems to agree. This gal eating her cute little salad says, I would have thrown a stool at him too, sis. Reactive abuse. Want to start recording? After mentally abusing me, I will give you a show. This video has almost 25,000 likes. Thousand likes. And the comments are equally as horrifying. I've been recorded. Thank God I didn't have a platform. Ooh. No, because reactive abuse is a very real thing. I would hate to see what I looked like said and did while being actively abused. You don't get it until you're in this situation. If you're being provoked, then made to look crazy. It's an insane feeling. So the entire Internet lore of women is essentially saying the real abuser is the man in this this situation who's being actively attacked with a metal barstool because he had the audacity to record the video. And who's being made to look crazy is the actually physically abusive woman who has already pled guilty to aggravated assault and lost custody temporarily of her children as a result. What in the upside down is going on here? Let me tell you, these people need our prayers a whole lot more than they need another minute of therapy affirming these type of delusions. And speaking of our prayers, you guys know we are are very, very close to the end of Lent. This Lent has completely flown by and next week already is Holy Week, the most powerful week of the year. This is our moment to walk with Jesus through his suffering, his death and his resurrection. Don't let this moment pass you by. I have been using the Hallow app to make prayer a normal part of my daily routine for the past several years, and it has been totally game changing for me and my family to start and end every single day with a guided prayer or a meditation or listening to a podcast episode or even binge listening Gregorian chants. Oh yeah, we play those all the time around our house at nighttime. And it's been incredibly powerful this last 40 days in particular during Lent to just center our lives around Jesus and prepare for the passion. Even if you haven't been joining us on the Pray 40 campaign this year for Lent, Hallow has a new challenge for you to finish Lent in these next few days. Strong with more prayer, more intentional fasting, and more generosity. Start with with prayer. You can download Hallow today and commit to something daily in your prayer life. There are, as I mentioned, thousands of guided prayers, passion meditations and Worship tracks to help you actually slow down in your life and hear God's voice in the middle of a noisy and busy and chaotic world. Next, you can fast from what's distracting you for the next several days. Maybe it's food, but maybe it's also social media or constant doom scrolling negativity, gossip or just your phone in general. Remove whatever is blocking a deeper relationship with God in your life. Then give not just money, give your patience, your grace, love and kindness to those around you, especially when it's inconvenient. Because that is real Christian charity. Whatever you're carrying, broken relationships or family, stress, anxiety, fear, whatever you're dealing with this season of life, bring it to the cross because you don't have to carry it alone. Jesus died for you personally. Lent is our chance to respond in kind. Download Hallow today, commit to daily prayer and get three months free@halloween.com Isabel let's finish this season with purpose then. This is being taken to like a whole other level of abusive language and comments against men just because men are men, I guess. Here's this one. In my opinion, Taylor Frankie Paul didn't whip that man's bad enough because he would have learned to STFU like my ex did. Is this an admission of guilt? Again, almost 40,000 likes on this video with comments like girl same or just smiling memes and pictures all throughout the comment section. What's that song in Spanish where if you can't hit him with your hand, hit him with a pan. Yeah go Taylor. Smiley face. Could you just imagine for a moment, close your eyes as I'm saying this and do some deep introspection. Especially if you are a woman who finds herself justifying anything that you saw in that original video. Imagine in your mind for just a second what this would look like if the genders were swapped. If a man had the audacity to be hitting his wife, girlfriend, fiance, whoever it is, with a metal high chair, bar, stool and their daughter ends up getting hit in the head as a result of this. And then the entire Internet says actually the abuser in that situation was the woman. Why is this okay? And this type of rabidly violent language against men accepted. Just because a man happens to be in the victim position in this particular situation. And women are literally saying that by the way, it's not even just alluded to in some of these videos. Women are literally saying on the Internet I don't feel bad at all because he was a man. Listen to this.
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TikTok Commentator or Guest
I'm so pro woman that when I saw that video of Taylor hitting her man. I was like, good. He probably deserved it. I wonder what he did to make her act like that. I did not feel bad for that man. Not one bit. The only people I feel bad for are her kids that are having to see this because why was he even recording? That was so weird. It's so weird. Like, look at him. She's hitting me like. Like, you're so weird. Nobody feels bad for you, Loki. They shouldn't have canceled the Bachelorette because it would have been men just lining up to get beat. And that's a good plot.
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Isabel Brown
I. I am not cut out to watch reality tv. You guys must all have heart attacks every single day. Are people all this psychotic in reality television? No wonder everyone's stress levels are so high in society. How did we get here? So she doesn't feel bad. Doesn't feel bad for Dakota at all because he was a man getting beat. Oh, and by the way, I wish they kept the Bachelorette on the air because at least then I would have gotten to watch. How many men compete? 22. 20 something men get beat in the by a woman. That's a good plot. We should put that on television. This video. A hundred thousand likes. One hundred thousand likes agreeing with this girl who says the only people she really feels bad for are the kids. Having to watch this. Not because mom is hitting dad. That's not enough reason to feel bad, but because dad had the audacity to record it. And as this trend continues to blow up and take over my social media feed and I've had to do the pain painstaking research of understanding who all these people are, I'm realizing that there are videos like this. Not just talking about exes saying I didn't beat up my ex enough or my ex was so horrible I wish I hit him with a chair. Women are actually making what they think are funny videos. Pretending to hit their current boyfriends fiance's husbands in the head with chairs, thinking that this is somehow funny. Caption for legal reasons, this is a joke. Me, after I clean the whole house, load the car, pack for everyone by myself while he naps. Look, ladies, I get it. Men are helpless. Sometimes you have to do the lion's share of prepping the family when it comes to laundry and cooking and getting everyone out the door to go to the zoo and packing your kids for summer camp and making sure lunch boxes are full with ice packs in them. I get it. It's frustrating. I share those frustrations in no way, shape or form Is it ever funny as a result of that stress to make a joke video? I guess for only for legal reasons. Is this a joke to abuse your husband? It's not funny. Maybe I'm the minority who thinks that. I certainly seem to be the minority on TikTok, where hundreds of thousands of people are liking these videos. But ask yourself for a minute, what would happen if the sexes were reversed? What would happen if a man made this video with the caption, for legal reasons, this is a joke, joke pretending to beat his wife with a chair. That guy would probably already be in prison. For the record, like, there's no questions, ifs, ands or buts about any of that. He would have been treated with a legitimate threat, prosecuted for it, and probably been in prison. But what's really interesting to me about all of this is not that reality TV is psycho. We already knew that. Hence why I don't watch it. It's the reality that this seems to be a cultural manifestation of how we are treating legitimate mental illness and like psychotic breaks in people. Not just famous celebrity who are on your TV every day and dominating Instagram culture and influencer worlds, but normal people who now think this is also funny and justifying it on social media. The Free Press did a really interesting deep dive a few days ago about the women in Secret Lives of Mormon Wives. Basically making the case that the danger of modern therapy and therapeutic conversations we're having with psychiatrists is that it is actually frying people's brains through the affirmative care model into affirming their delusions. 24 7, 360 and I think most people hear affirmative care. They think gender transition and pushing people into castrating themselves. That's probably the most extreme version of this. But if you really do a deep dive into modern therapy, it is so obvious to me that people are just being told everything they want to hear from their licensed psychiatrist who wants to affirm them into thinking they are the center of their universe and create an entire generation of malignant clinical narcissists. The way they open this article is amazing. By the way they said this. Voltaire famously joked in the 1700s that the Holy Roman Empire was neither holy nor Roman nor an empire. A similar critique could be made of Hulu's show the Secret Lives of Mormon Wives, which just dropped its fourth season classic. The nine women who star on this incredibly popular show, a group of online influencers styling themselves as Mom Talk, don't lead secret lives at all. They're almost pathologically incapable of privacy. They mostly aren't wise. Well, the show often lists their partners as baby daddies or exes, and while most of them grew up in the Church of Christ Jesus Christ of the Latter Day Saints, they're not really that Mormon like Taylor Frankie Paul, who before being cast as the Bachelorette was one of the more controversial figures on this show for being a soft swinger, basically hooking up with people outside of her marriage, which is the most Christian Mormon thing you could possibly do. But they do a deep dive into Taylor Frankie Paul and all the other women on this show in this article that I highly recommend. We'll put the link for you guys in the comments. Comments that blew my mind about how the worse her behavior gets, the more unhinged this woman becomes, the more therapy inflicted her language has also become. She seems to justify everything that she's doing which we see on TV because her whole life is filmed all the time with terms like boundaries and the narrative. She diagnoses other people with so called mental health conditions. She says it's time to break the cycle of generational trauma. Just like four seconds after screaming at her mom on tv. TV who rips off her microphone and walks away in tears. And she's not the only woman doing this. This seems to be an epidemic of the reality TV stars on this show who are using terms like putting in the work, setting a boundary, holding space for something. And I love how they boil down the essence of this deep dive into this Every conflict is framed through the therapy. Speak language of boundaries and trauma and every terrible decision arrives with its own pseudo scientific justification. So reactive abuse is completely justified because it's just a trauma response. It's you drawing boundaries against someone who is inflicting emotional abuse on you. You are always the victim because everything in life is always happening to you. Therefore there are no consequences of your actions because you're just responding in kind and holding space. One of my favorite journalists, which I know is a hot take to say, but she is a legitimate journalist. Abigail Schreier covered this years ago in her book book Bad Therapy, basically making the case that therapy today does not serve the purpose it was originally intended to serve in society, but instead is just affirming people's mental illness further into that thing. And a lot of that does have to do with the affirmative gender care model that we've all bought into as a society. When someone says I'm dealing with gender dysphoria and we say yes you are, guess we'll help you cut off your penis and your breasts today to make you feel more like yourself. We've basically copied the same mentality into oh, you're depressed. Yep. Cool, let's make you more depressed. Oh, you're anxious. Yep. Cool. Let's affirm that a little bit more and make sure you know that you're being heard. Let's hold space for that and now we have essentially fried the brains of an entire generation, mostly of women who are regularly going to therapy and using this therapy speak, who now are taking to the Internet to justify abusing their boyfriend's fiance's husbands simply because they're men. Men are the aggressor and you're just responding in holes, holding space for how you should react to set boundaries to generational trauma. This makes me never want to go to therapy a single moment in my life, even if someday I may actually need it. But maybe it's a good wake up call sign for all of us to see how horrifying the end result of this constant affirmation actually is. Maybe it's time for all of us to reevaluate what role we actually allow therapy to play in society. So, new rule for life. Stop joking about beating your husband on the Internet. It's not funny. It's not cute, it's not feminist. It's abusive actually, and just evil. And maybe quit your therapist if you find yourself remotely agreeing with or justifying this behavior. I am still continuing my boycott of reality TV after this. This just totally cemented to me. I never want to watch a single minute of any of these shows. I would much rather pray. Frankly, these women need our prayers. But it begs the question, is therapy and maybe reality TV as part of it, frying people's brains, particularly women? Let me know your thoughts in the comments.
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