The Jefferson Fisher Podcast: How My Parents Raised an Expert Communicator

In the episode titled "How My Parents Raised an Expert Communicator," hosted by Jefferson Fisher of Civility Media, Jefferson invites his most influential guests yet—his parents, Sherilyn and David Fisher. Released on February 25, 2025, this heartfelt and insightful episode delves into the foundational principles and practical strategies that Jefferson's parents employed to cultivate his exceptional communication skills. Through candid conversations, the episode offers valuable lessons for parents and individuals aspiring to enhance their interpersonal interactions.

1. Foundational Principles Before Parenting

Jefferson begins the episode by posing a crucial question to his parents about their main themes, thoughts, hopes, and prayers before having children. Sherilyn Fisher passionately shares, “I've always wanted my children to love the Lord and to be respectful and kind” (02:44). She further reveals a personal prayer for Jefferson's charisma, which she believes has been abundantly blessed:

“That God would give you charisma. And I feel like he answered that in spades for you.” – Sherilyn Fisher (02:43)

David Fisher echoes the importance of intentional blessings:

“I pray so, dear God, give Jefferson wisdom and always be his friend.” – David Fisher (07:11)

2. Early Communication Skills and Charisma

From a young age, Jefferson exhibited remarkable communication abilities. Sherilyn recalls his early verbal milestones:

“He was born talking... By 15 months, you were saying sentences.” – Sherilyn Fisher (04:25)

Jefferson reflects on his natural charisma and warmth, attributes he attributes to both his parents:

“You are always very caring, like, to listen to them.” – Jefferson Fisher (03:48)

3. Transition to Big Brother and Mediation Skills

As the oldest of four, Jefferson seamlessly transitioned into the role of a protector and mediator for his younger siblings. Sherilyn highlights his inherent kindness and responsibility:

“You were always very kind, very protective of them.” – Sherilyn Fisher (09:58)

Jefferson adds how this role nurtured his ability to mediate conflicts, a skill integral to his communication prowess:

“I found myself a lot of times in the role as the mediator very early on.” – Jefferson Fisher (36:00)

4. Teaching Kindness and Respect

A cornerstone of their parenting was fostering an environment of kindness and mutual respect. Sherilyn emphasizes a zero-tolerance policy for unkindness:

“I wouldn't let you name call or any of that. I would say, no, you are going to be sweet to each other.” – Sherilyn Fisher (12:03)

David underscores the importance of respectful communication:

“I think that plays a big role in how long the argument lasts because if you just... you apologize.” – David Fisher (16:23)

5. Conflict Resolution and Apology Culture

Jefferson and his parents discuss the family's approach to handling conflicts privately to avoid placing emotional burdens on the children. David reflects on modeling healthy conflict resolution:

“You both agreed we're not going to have that kind of argument in front of the children... They need to see mom and daddy holding hands... to know that you can argue and still love each other.” – David Fisher (16:36)

Sherilyn adds that swift apologies were crucial:

“You just need to tell... 'I'm sorry I was wrong.'” – Sherilyn Fisher (21:09)

Jefferson agrees, highlighting the importance of admitting mistakes:

“It's admitting when you're wrong... That's where the insecure people can't say, I'm sorry and I was wrong.” – Jefferson Fisher (22:04)

6. Discipline and Consistency

The Fisher parents maintained consistent discipline strategies to teach boundaries without breaking their children's spirits. Sherilyn recounts Jefferson's strong will as a child and the consistent yet compassionate discipline employed:

“You had a zero tolerance for unkindness... and to defend each other and to be kind to one another.” – David Fisher (32:02)

Jefferson shares his childhood experiences of being disciplined consistently, which fostered his respect and adherence to family values:

“You were a very strong-willed child... You wanted to please us.” – Jefferson Fisher (33:38)

7. Emotional Intelligence and Empathy

Emotional intelligence was another pillar of Jefferson's upbringing. Sherilyn notes his ability to read and respond to others' emotions effectively:

“You were always confident... very kind and caring.” – Sherilyn Fisher (37:36)

Jefferson connects this to his professional life, emphasizing how emotional intelligence enhances communication:

“Some of the most excellent communicators are those that can have high emotional intelligence and can read emotions and others' faces.” – Jefferson Fisher (38:55)

8. Modern Communication and Social Media Presence

Transitioning to the impact of modern communication platforms, Jefferson discusses his rise on social media. His parents express pride and understanding of his natural communication skills aligning with today's digital landscape:

“Your followers have just increased exponentially. But you being a good communicator does not surprise me.” – Sherilyn Fisher (23:02)

David adds enthusiasm for the positive influence Jefferson has achieved:

“Good see, and it took off much farther than you ever anticipated.” – David Fisher (25:15)

9. Balancing Assertiveness with Kindness

The conversation shifts to balancing assertiveness with kindness—a trait Jefferson exhibits both as a child and as a parent. His parents recount how they encouraged him to express himself respectfully while maintaining kindness:

“He was always very assertive... with a cheerful disposition.” – David Fisher (31:07)

Sherilyn emphasizes teaching children to value others and communicate respectfully:

“Don't allow your children to name call each other... It teaches them not to use verbal abuse as a weapon.” – Sherilyn Fisher (42:10)

10. Expressing Love and Building Confidence

Central to the Fisher family's communication philosophy is the consistent expression of love and pride. Both parents share how regular affirmations fortified Jefferson's confidence:

“You're proud of me.” – David Fisher (45:38)

Jefferson reflects on the lasting impact of these affirmations on his ability to connect with his own children:

“I try to talk to my kids and to get their attention to look me in the eye and just say something that you feel is significant.” – Jefferson Fisher (45:35)

11. Creating a Safe Communication Space

The episode concludes with a focus on creating a safe and nurturing environment for open communication. Sherilyn and David stress the importance of making children feel loved and secure to foster honest dialogue:

“If the child feels love, then to me, it's a safe space for them to be able to communicate anything to you.” – Sherilyn Fisher (46:39)

“They should feel safe to speak their mind. As long as it's respectful, then they should be able to say anything to you.” – Sherilyn Fisher (47:51)

Jefferson echoes this sentiment, emphasizing the role of parents as accessible and loving confidants:

“I want to be that. I don't want to be where they're trying to hide it from dad, her mom, and not do that.” – Jefferson Fisher (48:15)

Final Reflections

Jefferson closes the episode with heartfelt gratitude towards his parents, acknowledging their profound influence on his communication skills and personal growth:

“I couldn't imagine ever having any other parents. So I want to let you both know I love you very, very much.” – Jefferson Fisher (49:30)

Sherilyn reciprocates the love and pride, reinforcing the core message of familial support and effective communication.

This episode of The Jefferson Fisher Podcast serves as an inspiring blueprint for effective parenting and personal development. By sharing intimate family dynamics and timeless communication strategies, Jefferson and his parents provide listeners with actionable insights to enhance their own communication skills and foster meaningful relationships.