Jared Freed (0:00)

I know you're angry. It's Tuesday and it has no feel. The weekend was fun. You still hungover from the eating and next weekend is too far away. What will you do with your day? It's time to get ticked off. Complain with your gripe right now youw friend Uncle J Train is here to tell you that you're right. It's a ticked off Tuesday. Ticked off Tuesday. You're angry and you don't even know why. Enjoy this podcast. It'll help you get to Friday. Hello and welcome to the J Train Podcast. This is J Train Jared Freed coming live from Tulsa, Oklahoma. That's right, every Tuesday. It's a ticked off Tuesday. Do you have a complaint? Are you angry? Right into the J Train podcast. J train podcast gmail.com title it ticked off Tuesday and we will complain together. That's how this whole thing works. You complain about anything you want and I will find the complaint you didn't even know you had. That's my talent. I'm in a tick tock. I'm ticked off. I'm, I'm warning you. I'm in a mood. I, maybe I've been in a mood the last like month and if, if it's made this podcast bad, I'm sorry. If it's made it better, okay, I hope it has. I strive for this to be a good show. I'm just annoyed and it might be that, you know, with the special taping and I'm just not handling the pressure correctly. It might be that this run of road dates have been a little bit wearing. I'm going to get into my first complaint. One of my complaints today is about something that happened last night. And if you are a Patreon subscriber, you, you get first dibs on ticked off Tuesday. I have Patreon complaints. So if you want to complain, if you need the complaint read, sign up for patreon patreon.com Jared Freed and I do a coffee with J Train every Friday and I met two coffee with J Train listeners while in, well, here in Tulsa. They were the nicest people, I gotta say. So anytime I meet someone who's like a Patreon subscriber, I don't know, I guess we just align. I, I, I guess we're just like you guys just are good people. I don't know what I did. I don't know what genie I made a wish to and I mean that wholeheartedly. Cuz I'm annoyed. I'm, I'm, I'm ticked off Right now as I tape this and. And by the time this comes out on Tuesday, I'll be less ticked off. Uh, you don't have to message me. And I. And give me a virtual hug. I'll be fine. Can I just start with the moisturizer in the. Okay. The moisturizer they give you at. There's three ways the moisturizer comes at a hotel. It's either the big pump. Fine. I like that. I'm okay with that. It's either an ace or it's a circular mini bottle. Like it okay with it. Good. Or. And I'm looking at it right now, and it's the one I'm dealing with now. It comes in a small, square, rectangular bottle. That one is garbage. Garbage. I tell you. I don't know. You have to have the hand strength of a freestyle mountain climber to squeeze that moisturizer out of the rectangular mini bottle. I don't know who it's made for. I understand. Maybe it's just a look. And they haven't gone to functionality. They are looking for look over functionality. And that is a decision that. Listen, I'm an economics major. These are choices you make with your product. We're going to sacrifice function for look. That is like getting. That's a Mazda Miata. I don't know why Mazda Miata. Maybe I just like saying Mazda Miata. That's just the first one that comes to mind. That is a, you know, a Porsche. Not very functional. I mean, it's functional for a different reason. It goes fast. You can, you know, feel your. Your cock grow as you drive it. I get it. But it's not going to get you in the. Get you through the snow. This rectangular mini lotion. I. Listen, I have trouble with it. I don't understand. Are people having their partners, you know, jump on it to get the moisturizer out? I have to readjust it in my hand to make sure I press it. And then I have to really press. Sometimes I don't know if I go to hands. If I do, I know it's more work than any of the other. I. So I just don't understand. I guess the look. You're in a hotel, you opt for the look, the rectangle. I have never seen a rectangular mini body lotion and thought, whoa, am I at the Four Seasons? And I've never seen a circular mini body lotion holder and thought, look at this dump I'm staying in. That's my first complaint. Second complaint. Okay, we got rid of the little shampoo and you can tell I just took a shower just based on my complaints. But I was annoyed when I got in the shower. And then these two complaints just came to me. They say a lot of your good ideas come in the shower. I understand that your mind is elsewhere, but it's at like a. That kind of makes sense to me. The idea that you would have thoughts. Shower thoughts. And this is an. I'm sure there's a study out there that is beyond me that I won't read. Okay, we have moved away from the mini body wash body shampoo or the hair shampoo and conditioner. We have moved away from that. I think that's garbage. Someone needs to write out garbage for me and maybe I'll make that's garbage T shirts. Take out the garbage. It is garbage. The more I say it, the less appealing that word becomes that we are forced to get rid of our mini shampoos. Mini moisture or mini, mini moisturizers have kind of have lived on the mini shampoo, the mini conditioner, the mini body wash. Okay, I don't think that's our responsibility. I don't think that's like helping the earth. That's my opinion. That's my flat earther. I think we all are entitled to our one conspiracy theory. But fine, we have moved to a big Costco sized shampoo conditioner body wash world. If that's where we live and stand, fine. I am okay with that. Here's the issue though. With every action there's a reaction. I have noticed since the world has moved from mini body wash shampoo and conditioner to the big Costco jugs that are hanging from the wall in the hotel shower more often than I'd like to have happened. I am. They are out of the one of the products. They. They and you are not most people. Me, and I'm going to assume you, Mr. Or Ms. Mrs. Listener, are not checking the shower to make sure all the. The soaps and shampoos are at their levels. You're not going to the phone? Hey, can you send someone up with more? No, no, no. This should be on the to do list of housekeeping. Topping off the shampoo, topping off the conditioner. It should never be below halfway if we're going to get rid of the minis. And the reason you never had an issue with the minis, because that was on the list. Put out the minis. Now. This has been so we. We've said, okay, we're going to make the world a better place. We're going to get Rid of these mini, the, all the waste that comes with the mini shampoo bottles, the mini conditioners, the mini body wash. If you're going to do that, those bottles, the Costco bottles on the wall should never be empty because I got in the shower just now and you know, pushing the top, nothing coming out of the body wash. Now I'm shampooing my body, which again, I just said you're only entitled to one conspiracy theory. I don't think there's a big difference between shampoo and body wash. I think that's garbage as well. But it just, it is crazy that those are, they're even a little bit empty every time you clean the room. Check on those, on those, on the shampoo, the conditioner and the. You're not going to get out of the shower. Oh, no. Stop everything. Let me go. Call down and I'll wait. Wet on the bed. We have two sponsors this week, Herobread and Lumen. Both are to help you live a healthier life. This is the time of year where you're going to go crazy at Thanksgiving and you're going to eat and then you're going to have a family member. Oh, you put on a little weight. If I'm you, Hero bread is a purchase I would make today. It's delicious. It's just it. It's bread. It's bread. Do you want bread? These ads are unhinged. Holiday season typically means a whole lot of carbs. Don't stress out this year. Just make the swap for Hero bread. You'll be good to go. Hero bread is not only delicious, but it keeps your health and fitness goals in mind. With 0 to 1 grams of net carbs, 0 grams of sugar and lots of fiber, you'll be able. You'll be all set for any sandwich, French toast, casseroles, or stuffing. The sal this season breaks. Listen, you want bread and you just want bread that isn't going to affect your body in the way that you know bread can. You know you want. If you could have bread that has more fiber, that has less sugar, you're going to opt for those that bread, if it's all the same, and I'm telling you right now, Hero's delicious. They have croissants with just 2 grams of net carbs. It's great. You're going to love it. Here's your free money. Hero bread is offering 10% off your order of their new recipe. Go to Hero Co. Use code J train at checkout. That's J train at H R O Co. Now I have complaints. It's. It works into a story from the show. Let's get through Lumen. Lumen Limen has been really a added benefit to my life. I was a step tracker. If you're a step tracker, you're going to love Lumen. Lumen is the world's first handheld metabolic coach. It measures your metabolism through your breath so you can stay consistent with your goals. So if you're someone who has kind of gamified your steps, you're gonna wanna do that with your metabolism as well. And Lumen is a fun. Yeah, I use the word fun way to do that. It's another app to check that isn't you looking at social media, which is, I think, a bonus. Just breathe into the device first thing in the morning and you'll get all the info about what's going on in there and whether you're burning mostly fats or carbs. Breathe it after meals and workouts to get a look at how things are going in real time. So if you want to stay on track with your health goals this holiday season, go to Lumen Me. That's Lumen Me J Train. Lumen Me J train to get 15% off your lumen. That's L M E N Me JJ train for 15% off your purchase. Lumen makes a great gift, too. Thank you, Lumen, for sponsoring this episode. Great gift for your step trackers in your life. Okay, those two sponsors are in the description of the episode. I have three ticked off Tuesday complaints in front of me and then I have another one of my own. Yeah, I mean, I'm not. I'm not mentally. Mentally. I hate the. Everyone's using the word mentally to make their problems sound worse than they are. I'm fine. I'm just annoyed. I'm in a mood. I'm in Tulsa. Shows did not sell well here. Listen, I didn't come to Telsa thinking there was going to be like this huge fan base here. I didn't have that expectation. But Friday late show got canceled due to numbers. That is hard to not personally feel like a kick in the balls. That feels awful. Awful. I love doing standup. I am a standup comedian. It is difficult to not get bitter doing stand up because stand up is like the other thing mostly. Like people find you through this one thing that they like and then they come to your show. And I honestly, when people come to my show, it is very important for me to. For them to have a good time. If you go listen to last week's coffee with J Train or this coming Thursday, I'll explain this whole Friday night show because last night's show was actually wild as far as what went on and the interruptions I had to deal with. But I will get to that story because it's less of a complaint. But my complaint relates to something that happened. My complaint relates to something that happened at the show. Now, I received a D. I received a text from my brother. My brother received a DM. Here is the DM he received. And I don't know this person that DMed him. Okay, I'm finally going to see your brother live. Let me know if there's any weirdly specific heckles I should do. That's the message he received. Okay, now, I have gotten messages like this, I will be at the show you're putting on. I would like you. And then there's a number of different ways this goes. The heckles thing is usually like a joke, but it's also a joke I don't want to hear. I. Well, I sound like a dick. It is hard to. It's a joke that's difficult to respond to because if I play along, oh, can't wait. Yell this, yell that. Now I'm like saying to yell at me and. Or if I go negative, hey, I just want to let you know, don't. And they're like, I'm just joking, man. Stop taking yourself so seriously. So if you respond to it, hey, don't heckle me. You're too serious. If you respond in joking, okay, you've just agreed to this, you know, heckle that you're going to have to deal with. And this is the thing. I do a show. I'm ready for anything that can come up. I And. And listen, I'm ready to pat myself on the back more than most comedians are. I hosted at the Comedy Cellar for six to seven years. I hosted most. A lot of comics don't host. They don't want to host. Hosting invites variables. You're the first one on stage. You say, hey, welcome to the show. And you have a room full of people who all have different ideas of how this night is going to go. And the host job is to make sure that they are on the same page as quickly as possible. How do you do that? You do that by doing some crowd work. Hey, where are you from? What do you do? Welcome to the show. What brings us out tonight? You do it by doing your own material, getting the crowd used to jokes, the pace, the. The cadence. Because most people go to one comedy show like Their whole life. Like most people aren't going to stand up shows. And I am one of those people. So I have a lot of empathy for someone walking into whatever show they're walking into and being like, let's see what happens. I don't know what's going to happen. Let me, let me, please take me on this journey of the show. And I totally get that. So this message comes every now and again. Hey, can you wish my friend a happy birthday? Hey, my friend is from this. Can you make fun of my friend? People DM me this all the time. This person who knows my brother, somehow I think he's a camp connection. They work together at the summer camp we all went to or something like that. But you know, when I see this message, I'm finally going to see your brother live. Let me know if there's any weirdly specific heckles I should do. They're also asking for the worst possible thing you could ask for. Because when you're asking for a weirdly specific heckle, give me something that only I and Jared would know. In a room full of other people who paid for a ticket to a show where they might not know myself and Jared. Do you see? Do. Am I imparting how annoying that is? So now if, if the, if my brother was to be like make fun of, you know, I don't know that he has one leg an inch and a half longer than the other. Hey Stumpy. I have to then respond to hey Stumpy. Okay, this is an example. I'm not saying to yell hey Stumpy. At me. Good merch idea. Hey Stumpy. Stuff the stumpies. This could be fun. Table it. I always feel better when I do this show. I have to say thank you guys for listening. If someone yelled hey Stumpy, I here's my job as a comedian. Address the hey Stumpy. Find out what he's talking about. Cause I'm in the dark at this point. Then I have to make a room full of people know that I have an inch and a half leg long the other and make them laugh. So do you see how difficult this become if it's hey, fuck you. Now we're all on the same page. There's not a lot of translation I have to do. Yelled fuck you at me. Now I am free to make fun of this person. The power dynamic is clear. They are. I am comedian. I am allowed to go off at them. That is not always so clear with a heckler. That's the problem with heckling. There's different kinds. Sometimes the whole room can't tell that someone's being an. And now you're just being a dick to someone for no reason. So you see the issue here with the heckler. It's not so simple. It's very gray. So this person is asking for something that will hinder the show. It will. Listen, I might save it. I might make a funny thing out of his specific heckle, but that's a variable. And again, some people come to comedy shows for the variables. Listen, I'm. I'm up for that challenge. But I do believe the best type of, you know, crowd interaction is natural, not created. So this person wrote to my brother, I'm finally going to see your brother live. Let me know if there's any weirdly specific heckles I should do. Now my brother knows the position. I can tell by my brother's answer he's doing what I would do. And maybe we're both wrong, because I don't know the correct. I. What I would do is go super professional. And my brother did the same thing. You. You know, because. And he's probably dealt with this as my brother. He writes back, have fun. I'm sure he'd prefer no heckling, Just the opportunity to do the best to make the crowd laugh. He went super. My brother could have been chat GPT on that response. He could have been the automated answer from a company that you wrote to with a complaint, which I appreciate. Thank you. He understands my plight. He knows I don't want this guy yelling out. Listen, if someone yells out, and it's natural, which did happen last night and was fun. It. It's fun. It's fine. I'm not mad at that. I get that this, to me, annoys me. And here's the other thing. What happens when I get this message, the thing that really drives me crazy. Hey, my sister's coming. Can you make sure to make fun of her on her birthday? I come in with my own plan, and the plan is with the goal of making the crowd laugh when you write to me with this. And then I, like. It becomes a secondary thing for me. And then I sit there the rest of the night, and then I don't hear from the person ever again. I'm like, man, did I ruin their night. They were. They had the ability to message me before the show to let me know that they wanted to yell a heckle at me. Did they not have fun? I, again, I bec. I become doubtful of my own. My own of myself. Okay, have fun. I'm sure he'd prefer no heckling. Just the opportunity to do his best to make the crowd laugh. At that point, it's hint, hint, don't heckle. Go have fun. This guy does not get it. That's such a mature answer. He writes, I know he will do a bit of crowd work. So I meant more an answer that would make him do a double take of, like, how does he know this? Ha ha ha. I'm like looking off to a camera that doesn't exist with how angry I am at that response. I don't know. I would love some. I would love to hear from you, the listener, if you're, if you're getting as angry as me. He's not getting it, and now he's wanting me. I'm sure he's going to do some crowd work. You don't, you don't know fucking shit. You're not sure of anything. You're coming to the show. You have no idea what I do or you've seen the special. Am I talking to the crowd in the special? It's on Netflix. It's there. It's waiting for you. Here's my, here's my rebuttal to myself. Maybe he's only seen Instagram and there's a couple things on there where I'm talking to the crowd. Let's, let's, let's. I am unsure of everything in my life. That message gets me angry to the, like, the nth degree. I know he will do a bit of crowd work. You don't. You know, what are you, my manager? So I meant more of an answer that, like, hey, what do you do? What are you going to answer if I, if I said, where are you? What do you do? I work. If he said, I work at the summer camp. You want to. That's, I guess, the only answer you could give. And maybe wait on that. Make him do a double take. How does he know this? Haha. So my brother writes back. Why don't you just introduce yourself to him after the show? Harry. Harry handles this with such grace. I don't even know the fucking meaning of that word. And he's right. Go say hello. Hey, I know your brother. I would, I would like, be like, how do you know him? That's so cool. Great. Thank you for bringing your friends. I would thank him. I literally. That's what I do. I do, and I do appreciate it. He writes back to that. Again with the maturity. Yeah, I'll just do that. Hope you're doing well, old friend. Well, this person is no Old friend of mine. So last night. So that. That's the dm, that's the interaction. He was just told, hey, just go say hi after the show. Have fun. He's there to make you laugh. That's how I read it last night. A bunch of wild things I got on stage. Within a minute of me getting on stage, a few things happened that I'm like, now juggling. And in the first minute, especially at a club where we are, the second show has been canceled due to lack of interest. The first show I'm at, there's 60 people in a room that could fit 300. So credibility for me is at an all time low with a group of people if I'm in the crowd. And again, I am harder on myself than most. And as you are with yourself, if I walked into a half, you know, a third, not even a third, a fourth, full room or whatever, I'm like, is this guy any good? I hope he's good. I hope this show is in garbage. And so that first minute becomes pivotal. The host goes up and she does a good job and the crowd seems okay. And then she brings me up and I'm like, hey, everybody. And all of a sudden, variables start happening. And I'm going to talk about that on Coffee with J Train on Thursday. It'll be like a little bit of a repeat of the story, but not really. And then in the middle of me, like talking to one person and talking to another person who's shouted out and trying to get people on the same page, this guy. And I. This guy yells out, your brother told me not to yell at you. And I'm like. And I'm brought back because my brother had sent me these screenshots like last week. And I'm like, I think that's the guy that my brother literally told, just go say hi after the show. Also, his heckle now is, hey, my brother. Your brother told me not to heckle you. That's. He's literally doing exactly what he was asked not to do. And he's aware of it. He's not yelling, hey, I know your brother. It's, hey, your brother specifically told me to not do what I am doing now and then. And I. So I make fun of it. I kind of play up how annoying everyone is. I kind of make it a bigger thing to make it funny. I to me, Jared, again, let me get my hand and pat myself on the back again. It was a great show. It was a great show. Due to my experience in standup comedy, when someone Yells out and then the comedian makes the whole room laugh. That is not the person who yelled out that did a good job. It is the comedian who did a good job. If you're listening right now and you're like, jared, you cocky piece of shit, I don't give a fuck. I think you're wrong. We disagree because it. Who's good? Who's good at the video game? Is it Donkey Kong throwing throw, rolling out the the barrels? Or is it Mario who's jumping barrels? Who? Wow, Donkey Kong's pretty good at throwing barrels at Mario. No, no, no, no. Mario is good at jumping over barrels. That is what a heckler is. Here's a fucking barrel and you gotta just jump over it in a way that makes the audience laugh. Last night, your boy J Train was Mario jumping barrels. And I made it funny and moved on with the show. And we got through it and I did an hour and 10 minutes of comedy where there were laughs every 10 to 15 seconds. Did my fucking job fine. Throughout that job, this person spent the show going to the bathroom talking with their friends. Their other friend interrupted at another point. They were bad audience. Bad. Rotten. I love that word, rotten. I like to call someone that person's rotten. It's a fun word to say. Give it a shot, bozo. Rotten. Dumpy. We. There's a discussion on you podcast this week about calling someone dumpy or frumpy. And it's a fun discussion that started at the Cellar with friends. And I would love for you guys to weigh in. Dumpy or frumpy or middle aged, which is the most offensive. So they were just not great audience. Everyone else, honestly, there was a guy in the crowd that yelled out that he's been following me since TFM and he was awesome. And then he tweeted at me. He was really nice. And I just. The show was as fun as a. It was work because I would say this person, but it was. So here's my complaint. I haven't even gotten to my complaint. That's. This isn't even the complaint. This is all to let you know what the complaint is. After the show. I do pictures. I would love to take a picture with anyone that's listening right now. Would love to shake your hand. I'd love to say hello. I would love for you to say, hey, I wrote in a ticked off Tuesday and you read it and I can connect with you. These are all the pleasures of doing this job. So I said at the end of this Mario barrel jump. I just did. I go, hey, Everybody, thank you for coming. If you want to take a picture, I'm going to take a five minute break. I'll come out, we'll line up, there's a step and repeat. We can take a picture. I would love to meet you. Good night, everybody. I go off stage, I come back, and everyone's lined up after the show to take a picture. You know, whoever wanted a picture is lined up. And I come out, I'm like, hey, everybody, come on over. Like, you know, nice to meet you. This group, which I think they were a group of five, it was the guy who DM my brother and his, like, maybe six. One of the guys who interrupted the show. Later in the show comes out to me and starts. It cuts the whole line. He walks in front of the line. He goes, hey, man, you know, that was really funny. Oh, my God, you did that joke, you know, Enjoy Tulsa, you know. And then he brings up a joke that the opener did. He's like, oh, yeah, that center of the world, you. You gotta go, you didn't visit. You visited the center of the world. I was like, no, I didn't. He goes, you didn't visit the center of the world you talked about on stage. I was like, I didn't talk about that on stage. I think the opener did go, she's right over there, go talk to her. And then. So he does that in front of the line that's already formed. And then he goes, well, good show, nice to meet you. And he walks off. And then the guy who knows my brother walks by me and starts walking out. And then he looks back from like 15 yards away and he goes, sorry, man. He didn't even do the. And this is my complaint. Come over and say hello. Come over and say you met, you know, my brother. Come over and tell if you want to apologize. If you really are going to own, why don't you come talk to me so I can say to you, what the fuck was that? He just. That's what bothered me. Not the yelling, not the, you know, listen, the dmi. This all bothers me. Come up and be a mensch and say hello. You claim to know my brother, you claim to know me. Hey, man, that was a lot of fun. I just want to let you know, and I'm sorry, you know, I kind of lost myself. And listen, all is to be forgiven at a certain point. Unforgivable to not come over and say hello when you seem to know someone enough. And what gets me a little bit, what I'm self conscious about is like, did him and his friends come because they were doing me a favor? No favor was done. You think you're like, this is why the idea of support, oh, I'm there to support you. I can understand if someone's like, I like the podcast. I want to see what he does on stage. I've been listening forever. I want to, you know, I want to go support. Fine. The support ends when you walk through the door. Now we have a exchange of goods for services. Ticked off Tuesday. Send it into J train podcast@gmail.com. we are far into this pod. I mean, I've ranted, I'm 31 minutes in. There'll be more on that show on Patreon patreon.com Jared Freed Also, I'm in Dania beach this weekend and then the Tarry Town show and then we're going to be in Batavia, which is an hour outside of Chicago. I mean, that's going to be. Batavia is going to be like new, new, new, new new material. Then Phoenix. If anyone's a golfer in Phoenix, I would love a hookup. Portland, Oregon. And then we're going to Australia. New Zealand. Australia. New Zealand. Sydney, Melbourne, Perth, Newcastle. Jared free.com for the tickies I ticked off Tuesday. In an age of streamlining, why in God's name am I still getting emails from websites that I've ordered products from saying you have a new message regarding your order but without the message included in the email? I agree. I hate this. Why do I have to click click a link, then use login information. Then use login information has long left then use login information has long left my psyche to find a message like, that's like, hey, we're preparing everything for you. We'll and we'll let you know when it ships. So annoying. I hate any email that brings you to a messaging center. And I guess with banking, banking is the only one where I kind of understand it. Like there might be some like personal. If there's no personal information, send it in the email. Hey, our terms and services have changed. I don't need to go find my password. Go into your website. And honestly, I don't trust it. There's a piece of me that's like, you're only doing this because like you want to sell ads on your website too. Is that what it is? Do you need the click through rate? Is this, is this getting counted on your numbers? Is this in your bookkeeping? Is this what you tell your investors and it's just emails that you force us to look at because we want to make sure that the T shirt that we ordered shipped. It's horrible. I just. Here's the other thing. Give us a month before you email us. If we order from your company, if we order something from you, there should be an agreement. We ordered it, we gave you our money. Let's take a break. In a month you can come back and go, hey, we got this other type of T shirt you might like. That's fine. Can you at least. The idea that these companies don't have the ability to like give us a one month snooze to receive emails from them is crazy. These are from Patreon. Those two are. This is our second one from Patreon. My ticked off Tuesday is my best friend is the worst at choosing a place to eat or grab a drink. That's annoying. Well, it's all in how the if. If I had a friend that was like I'm bad. I like when someone like knows they're bad at something. They just go, you know, I'm that I'm the worst. I suck. I'm a loser. Don't even ask me. We are both relatively new to our city. Also that's annoying. We are both relatively new to our city. So we are still figuring out the best spots. But when she suggests dinner, she will give me two to three options that are all basically small restaurant chains. That's the complaint. Really. Corny seeming bars that will have full families with kids there or college like bars with where everyone is blackout in 21. So they don't even like they're not even like it's like. So they choose everything wrong. So it's either restaurant chains, corny bars with families and kids, or college like bars where everyone is blackout in 21. Here's the thing. Of those three, the one I would have most empathy for her on is the corny bars with full families. This is a three bear situation. You can tell if it's a blackout 21 year old bar. Fine. You should know that chain restaurants if you've seen a commercial for it. We don't want to go. Families with kids could be at any place. So I'll give them. But you're right. We live in a major city with tons of local and interesting offerings and I'll ask around or do research to find a spot that seems authentic and fun to try. As we are in our late 20s. I feel bad shutting down her ideas every single time. I hate that too. Hey, let's go to Arby's. No. What I Don't want to go to Arby's. We live in Chicago. We can go get like a French dip somewhere that like makes a homemade au jus. What are you talking about? Now you're like a big dick. I get it. So I'll let some slide. But it's to the point where it gets kind of awkward vetoing half our ideas. Hope you can relate. I can totally relate. If you say, hey, let's go get dinner and they're like, hey, let's go to Applebee's. The response should be really? I would do a lot of. Really? You would want to. You're. You're looking to go like a chain spot. Like, I mean, we're going out. We go out once a week. Where let's go somewhere new, exciting. Don't you think? I'd also just take the decision making out of their hands. They have proven themselves to not be. Have no ability in this skill. To me I would send, you know, you said you're in a major city. I totally relate. Here's the thing. When I go to. I'm in Tulsa right now. My first move when I go to a city that I've never been to or a city that I'm visiting. Eater, Eater. And I Google eater Tulsa. And I have gone to some unbelievable. The food in Tulsa, cheap and really well done. The places I've gone to, I have gone to some really great places. This diner, I just had breakfast at the Dilly Diner. So cool, so awesome. Great vibe. They got a board with all their cocktail specials. I can't, I can't. I went to this place called the Bull in the Alley. This was like a steakhouse that had a piano behind the bar. And it's like eater just always does it right. And you why I like Eater the most? They're eater like places to go lists. They're written really thoroughly and thoughtfully. How about you send this to your friend? Say to your friend, I wrote in about you. You're annoying. Listen to this guy and he will tell you how to pick a restaurant from now on. Because eaters should. And this is what's annoying about your friend. It takes like one second of thought. And if you don't care about where you go, just say that. Don't give me a half effort where you're suggesting that we go to Chili's because you saw on TikTok that they do a mozzarella stick. That, that's those mozzarella stick. I don't know. The reference I'm doing right now is right now on TikTok Chili's is like having a moment because one woman ate a mozzarella stick with where the cheese pulled cool like this is what food recommendations are happening on that app. That's, that's, that's for a 22 year old who just graduated who doesn't have a job yet. You want to go somewhere nice, somewhere interesting, somewhere thoughtful. You want to get a good cocktail, you want to get food that you know is someone's art. That's. Those are the places I want to go to. I know that someone put artistic integrity into each dish. I went to place called Mr. Kim's last night, which was delicious. Last one ticked off Tuesday. Hi, Jared. Love the podcast. I'm writing in about an issue at work. This is my third year at this office job and when I first started here, I had four co workers who spoke a language other than English. Okay, so third year and when you first started for co workers who spoke a language other than English, they would chat with each other in front of me in the other language about both work related and non work related topics. That's tough. It bothered me, so I spoke to them and they were receptive and apologetic. Yeah, this is like the episode of Friends where I think Rachel works at Bloomingdale's or something and she's like not getting ahead of work because she doesn't smoke cigarettes like the boss and another person at the company like, smoke cigarettes. So they keep having these great cigarette talks. And because she doesn't smoke, she's like losing out, similar to the other language I could understand. You're like, wait a minute, I'm missing out on this, like inner office, like commingling that's going on when everyone's speaking another language the second year. And also here's the other thing that's tough. I do think there's this, like, we live in a world where everyone kind of where not everyone let me just the idea of punch up, punch down. So when you're saying, speak English, I understand what you're saying and I agree with you. It doesn't sound. Someone could take your vulnerability and use it against you. You're saying, hey, I don't speak another language. I don't want to like miss out on what's going on here at work. But then someone else go, oh, look at you, Mr. Speak the language person. Right. That person kind of takes off the asshole who also wants people to speak English. And you are very. There's a. I think it's not a thin line, but I could understand how someone could use this against you. So I could understand why this is uncomfortable for you to bring up. This time, the second year, another two co workers join, one of which also speaks this other language. This time I brought it up to a supervisor. While she seemed empathetic to the situation, it was never addressed to the co workers. Right. Well, I can understand the supervisor is like, I don't want an HR thing. I don't want to be a. Speak English. This year, one more person was hired. So to keep track in this office, two of us speak English, but the other six speak a language other than English. That is difficult. I'm assuming this office is located in the United States. They speak, they constantly speak in the other language in front of us with no regard that we don't understand anything they're saying. I find it frustrating for two reasons. One, if they are discussing work related matters, we can't jump in the conversation to add to it and maybe try to help or answer a question. The second is that I just find it beyond rude to do this. The workplace constantly touts the inclusivity rhetoric, yet my issue is not addressed or resolved. Right. And this is one of those kind of annoying things where when we try to like make sure we don't sound bad, we fall behind and lose out. I can side note the other co workers who join the second year. We actually share a common second language and have just become passive aggressive to speak our language in front of the others. See, this is what happens now. We are not talking, we're not communicating. And we have two teams that have evolved from this. To me, this is like, now you have two groups that are not talking to each other that probably hate each other and are speaking in two different languages about each other. And I do understand the discomfort. I do understand the discomfort with like, hey, speak English, saying speak English to someone. Because I also do understand that someone could be a total piece of shit for telling someone to learn the language. Two things can be true. And this is, this is horrible. I, and I don't like that you and this other person, again, you have handled this and they, you tried to handle it. Now the office, the powers that be, the people in charge have now let this dissolve into, you know, you know, kind of like a passive aggressive team situation. Some would say this is a, this is kind of a metaphor for what's going on in the country. Like because I travel all over the country, I meet people from, I run into people from all spectrums, places where political affiliations most people really do agree on all the things they think they disagree on. Like, they. Like they are so much closer than they want to believe. And the minute you're told, well, that person's evil and you're good and you kind of go to your side of the ring and you only talk to the people that speak your language. And this is kind of what's going on here. Yeah, this sucks. Ticked off Tuesday. Happy Thanksgiving to all. We'll be back tomorrow with chitchat Wednesday and back next week with another ticked off Tuesday. Boom.