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I know you're angry. It's Tuesday and it has no feel. The weekend was fun. You're still hungover from the eating and next weekend is too far away. What will you do with your day? It's time to get ticked off. Complain with your gripe. Right now your friend Uncle J Train is here to tell you that you're right. It's a ticked off Tuesday. Ticked off Tuesday. You're angry and you don't even know why. Enjoy this podcast. It'll help you get to Friday.

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Hello and welcome to J Train Podcast. Is J Train Jared Freed coming along from New York City? That's right, every Tuesday is a ticked off Tuesday where you, the listener, complain to me, the comedian and then I agree with your complaint in some way or another. I find a way to commiserate with you to make you feel seen. That's the whole show. If you want to complain with me, sign up for the patreon. They get first dibs. Patreon.com Jared Freed the link is in the bio. This episode. Wherever you're listening or watching or wherever you find my stuff, it's in the bio. So 5 bucks a month gets you coffee with J train. Plus you can comment on Coffee with J Train on the Patreon app with your complaint. It will be read here first and. And then we go to the mailbag. You can email your complaints to J train podcast gmail.com. i mean, I'm going to get started real quick. I'm so annoyed. I just posted something on Tik Tok and right now a lot of my complaints are going to come with commenters. I have a bunch of complaints that I have written down. This one just really annoyed me. I. There's. It annoys me the that everyone gets to have an opinion no matter how thoughtless it is. I posted a thing. It's RFK Jr. The guy who sounds like, you know, the. The grably voice, you know, guy. He's the hell secretary. Here's the thing. I am one of those people. I never stay away from politics. When I talk about something, it's because I'm interested. That's the only. I don't. And again, we live in the time of bad actors and rage bait. I see it in comedy every day. There's people I have to go on stage after where I'm watching them do an act that they don't believe in. They're saying these things because they know it will gain a reaction. My. My. The. The. The. What I try to do is speak honestly from where I come from, you can do a straight line from every opinion back to all the other opinions I've always had. RFK posts a video of himself doing pull ups at the gym as some sort of solution to the health problems we have in the country. I think putting a health, putting up a pull up bar in the airport is a dumb bad actor solution. The people in power, whatever political party is in power, whoever gets to make those decisions, you open yourself up to criticism from the people that you represent. I don't care who it is. So if anyone suggested putting a pull up bar up next to the gate in the southwest terminal, I would say you're stupid. You are suggesting this as really not to help. You're suggesting this to get people to disagree with you so that you can always say, well, why don't you do a pull up? You don't think pull ups are healthy. It's not something that's going to happen. That's not a solve. That is the same and I said it in the TikTok as when someone says I'm hungry. And someone goes would you want some fruit? And you're like, no. No one's said they're hungry and then mow down an apple. That's not how hungry works. My dad does that shit to me all the time. You don't want to try the fruit? No. I didn't announce to the world how hungry I am so that I can eat a melon because it's sweet as sugar. No. So I've, I'm. I am a comedian for one reason. I'm sensitive. I hear everything, I feel everything my whole life. My mom says, why you're so sensitive, you notice everything. That's why I do what I do. That's why I'm good at what I do. So when the comment one of now I put this up and the first comment is something along the lines of this, you know, stay away from politics. Like what? This isn't political to me. This is dumb person does dumb thing that I disagree with. Now if it's a person or a team that you've signed up for and that now you find out I'm against your team somehow because I disagree with one thing they just did, you are mentally fucked. It's over for you. You've joined a cult, you know, so that drives me crazy. And then I'm getting, It's just, I don't understand. I put up a thread the other night. So in addition this is on under the subject and again ticked off Tuesday you This is a safe space to complain about anything you'd like. I just don't like the idea of vaguely threatening me. They said, don't, you know, stay away from politics. What. What's the issue you have here that I disagree with some. Something a representative of me did. I can do that. That somehow is related to everything else you've done. This weird black and white thing that simplifies things because you're an idiot. I put up. I was at the bar the other night. I'm sitting at the bar and I was thinking, Man, I'm 40. If I fell in love tonight and got married, let's say at a minimum a year and a half from now, I would be 60 by the time my kids graduated high school. I was like, wow, that's going to be a different life. If that were to happen that way, it would have to happen tonight. So that's kind of a sad thing to tweet, but I thought it was relatable. Here's the. Here's the tweet. Or I call it a tweet. I put it on threads where it really took off. If I met the love of my life today, then I'd be 60 when my kids graduated high school and other thoughts you have alone at the bar on a Sunday night. That was my thread. No biggie. I guess you could take that as said, the responses to it are the saddest, most horrific response. Like I do. I don't put these things up to. I don't know, it is my fault, but I just don't understand the. So then. So the comments just on it are wild. Graduations, long conversations about how to find your purpose in life. Helping someone understand how to do basic shit like. Like set up electricity and sign a lease. Way better for a 60 year old than a 40 year old who miss their 20s and 30s. Plus by the time they want to take you for granted, death is knocking at your door and you're a grandpa. They know they have to visit and can't ask you to go outside your comfort zone. I don't know what the fuck that person's talking about. That's a crazy answer. I work in a high school and it's more and more common that I see parents being late 50s and early 60s when their kids are graduating. If kids are something you want, don't let age deter you. I didn't ask for a pep talk. Hey, just curious, but what bar will you be at next Sunday? That's a funny response. I like that response. That makes me Happy. It is just so sad to me how much I'm affected by, like, I can't just put these out and just go away. Like, I just. I just thought that was a thought. And I've. I'm. And then not a good enough reason to marry a 20 something. Which is where I usually see this convo going. Like, what now? Your sad insecurities about how older men date younger women are somehow on display. You don't have to have kids. Hope this helps. No, it doesn't help at all. I'm not saying I have to have kids. Why would I put that on Threads if I, like, what do you think? I'm, like, making sure that. How about I want to have kids? Why is that so weird? Fuck it. I'm in. Let's go. That's fun. My parents had me in their 40s, and to me at least, everything was amazing. They're the best. Like, now I have someone's happy TED Talk. Our people don't sit at the bar alone. I don't know what that even means. Whose people? A lot of people with kids are like, this. It's the new normal. Like, I don't need new normal. Get out of here. 60 is the new 50. I don't know what this. Like, I don't know. It's my fault. I mean, I put stuff on. On. And then in other complaints about comments, I'll put stuff on on Instagram and then they'll go, what? I love your hat. Nobody put something on Instagram as a comedian hoping for a comment on their clothing. Nobody. And I'm sure women get this worse than men. You know, where they're like, you know, you're talking about one thing, and then it's made somehow about how we should date. And you're like, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. Laugh or don't. Funny, not funny. Move on. Another complaint I have, and I'm. And then we'll get into the listener complaints. I have sponsors. Oh, I got two more complaints this week. It was made. It was a news story that the tuna sandwich at Pura Vida. Pura Vida in Delray I frequent. I like it. It's a great space. They have some really good food options. The Thai chicken salad at Pura Vida, as far as a meal's concerned, it might be expensive, but it is a lot of food and it's filling. I would. I just don't. The news article was that a tuna sandwich at Pura Vita is somehow equal to two Big Macs. Fat wise. And I. I just don't need that comparison done with foods that I'm eating. I don't even eat the tuna sandwich at Pura Vida. But I don't need this to be normalized. Comparing things that you have every day that you've rationalized into thinking that it's a healthy meal that makes you happy, that ooh, this sandwich fills me up and makes me feel good. I don't need to start seeing it on the Big Mac index. I don't need to know that this meal's half a whopper. That one's half a Big Mac, that one's three Big Macs. How about you leave us alone? And I know what they're trying to do. They're trying to say, hey, your expensive healthy place ain't that good. You're a fat fuck. And it's like just get away. Stop bothering people with the things that they like. I like Pura Vida. It's expensive. It's by all accounts looks like a healthy place. It probably isn't a healthy place. How about you just let us live like when we go to the airport. How about you let us sit there and eat all the calories and wear our sweatsuits and be comfy, cozy and not have to look at a pull up bar next to the gate that we could be doing if we cared about our bodies more. All of this feels like we're just all messing with each other. It's all a troll job. It's all bad actor behavior. It's all hey, let me cut you down a bit. Oh, you like Erawan? Well look at this. The Slurpee you get from there is worse than a Slurpee, you idiot. That's all this is. That's all this is. That's the same thing when you compare the food at Pura Vida. This health food, expensive place. And I keep saying it's expensive cuz it is. I like it. You're allowed to spend whatever you want on something you are not. Nobody's going to Pura Vida to make you feel bad for not being able to afford it. They're going cuz they like it. And I think anyone would acknowledge that it's a higher end coffee cafe, but it turns into this. Well let me tell you how actually ugly and fat you're being. You think you're great. That's everything is that right now that feels to be the weather. You want to be healthy, huh? How about you do 10 pull ups at the airport? How about not? How about you go fuck yourself? That is such a bad Actor argument. I keep coming back to this airport thing because it's so wildly unhelpful. There are real health problems. There are real problems in the world. This whole thing of, well, let me cut you down a notch going to the airport. You got complaints about the airport. Well, let me show you this little thing that you'll never fix. And you, you know, you know, it is a way of getting you to shut up. Hey, we'd love some more healthy restaurants at the airport. Why don't you do 10 pull ups? Oh, you won't? Then I guess you don't care that much. That's what they're doing. How about you shut the fuck up about how much you like pura vita? The tuna sandwich is 17 whoppers. Guess you're not so healthy. It's all this like slam dunk thing. That's just disgusting. Jtrain podcastmail.com My last complaint is I'm in the airport. I'm on another airport flying complaint. I'm sitting next to this guy, I'm an aisle. He's in window, there's a middle seat open. The plane is still boarding. He looks at me, he goes, hey, don't worry, the middle seat's open. How about you shut the fuck up until the door closes? How about we not jinx this? What do you think? Because you went on the app and you saw that the seat was open before you boarded. It just stays that way. They do upgrades. Let's sit here, cross our fingers and, and have a moment of enjoyment. The minute that door closes and we see that that middle seat is open, don't ruin my happiness. Climax. I see the seat is open. I'm as hopeful as you are. Let's not say anything that will upset the travel gods. That's like looking at someone going, hey, looks like we're going to take off on time. We're not in the air. I wouldn't say that out loud. Jtrain podcastmail.com, jtrain podcastmail.com we are sponsored. We have two sponsors and I have four complaints from you, the listeners, herobred. 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You can pre order it today if you just search Jared Freed on Instagram. It's called Walking Red Flag. The book was a labor of love and was very difficult. I'll be honest about it. I'll talk more about it as we get closer to the release date. It was difficult to write. It was difficult to open up about dating and my feelings of, you know, again, like I, I have all these opinions on dating. I've been giving them for 15 years on podcasts and, you know, writing and if you've been with me throughout the years, you know my perspective on dating. Again, it's not a bad actor opinion. It is my own honest experience put into hopefully what you find funny and open and, and helpful. So the book is that. But then you're asked to like go back and think of like how you would have done it this time or you know, you go over regrets and thoughts and feelings and it's all in the book. I tried to be as open as possible. It was difficult. But I do think it's a worthy book to buy if you're dating in a relationship. Anyone. It's supposed it's meant to be funny. I'm not being funny about it now, but that it was the goal. Also Orlando, Florida. Orlando. I'M coming. And then San Diego to end the year ticked off Tuesday. December birthdays, just December birthday people turning into tyrants. I, I, I hate birthday people in general. I think birthday people are usually younger. I think that's like a young person's way of getting, you know, the love and hugs that maybe they feel that they're missing out on now that they're out in the great big world and they're not at home with their family. So in your 20s, it feels like birthdays also, birthdays become this excuse to get together, which I do appreciate. But the tyrants, the, the, did I do enough for these people? Dealing with a friend with a huge complex about people hating her birthday and hating her because it is hard to commit to a 14 person dinner in December. Here's the thing about December. Nobody wants to wear a belt this time of year. And as the month goes on longer, the less you want to get dressed and put on a belt again. You want layers, you want to put on the sweatshirt over the T shirt. You want to go to low pressure hangouts where you don't have to be sweating as you're getting into your clothes. I do have a lot of connection between clothing and how you feel in the clothes and December. So if someone's like, hey, I want to have a 14 person dinner for my birthday and then making it, you either come to my birthday and you love me or you haven't come and you hate me, they have put everyone in a position to feel uncomfortable. Yes, it was during finals week and it was hard to celebrate in college, but Also we are 36 now, so we can let that go. No, this person's truly up their own ass. No one hates you. No one, no one cares about you. That's why you're having a 14 person birthday party. If you had people that truly there's a people, there's like four people that really like care about you. And even those people are like, I don't care about their birthday. That's not why they're friends with you. That's they don't, no one wants to feel like they owe someone. That's not a good friendship. If one person can't come, it's a whole tantrum. And we deal with this every year. Big dinners are not fun for everyone. No, big dinners suck. Especially splitting up a tab with 14 people. Who orders. Who's in? No. 1. Look, it would be different if the only way a 14 person dinner works is if the person who's having the dinner takes care of the whole order before no one has to touch their wallet or have to think about how much they're spending or how that person. If you want 14 people to get to together for dinner, you need to make it easy on everyone. You can't sit back and go plan my dinner. Who wants to shout out? Who wants to shout down a table and have half the convers have half conversations with people? Every year I say, hey, why don't we do something special next week? I'll buy you lunch and we will go somewhere. But it's met with such hostility that it makes me dread my friend's birthday every single year. Honestly, it's time for an intervention. That sentence alone. Hey, you've created an atmosphere where I dread your birthday every year and I don't want to have to do that. You're pushing me away. You're not bringing me in the way you're acting with this birthday. Yesterday my kitchen sink stopped working and my landlord said the plumber could not come on my only work from home day because it's his birthday. Did I miss the part where birthdays are the most sacred things in the world? The world can keep going on your birthday. I. So you've combined two complaints about one complaint to create one ma. Like one major complaint of people with December birthdays making it more. I would say the plumber, I don't think is going, no, but he's coming to my birthday brunch, I would assume. But I might be wrong. Here's my whole thing. If you. If you're the. If your birthday is the most interesting part about you, you need to find new hobbies, you need to find new interests. You need to work on yourself. That is not an interesting fact. Oh, my birthday's December 14th. Whoopty fucking doo. We were all born, okay? We all did it. We all have a birthday. Nothing special about it. Here's what you need to do. I would go to this friend and be like, hey, I like you. And this is why we're having this conversation. If it's the last conversation we have, I'm comfortable with that because I'm just giving it to you straight. The way you are about your birthday is pushing me away as a friend, me, don't make it about everyone. Me, I'm getting so stressed out by your birthday that it is actually crazy. So how about you find some therapy and talk to that person about how you're acting with his birthday? And they're probably going to say the same thing to you as I'm saying to you right now find a hobby. Also, we're game to celebrate your birthday. How about you make it an attractive thing to do? Hey, here's how everyone above the age of 18 should celebrate. Well, let me say 21. Here's how people should celebrate their birthday. Hey, I'm gonna be at this bar on this night. I already sectioned off a whole part of the bar. That's just for our party meet up, if you can. That's a birthday party. That's a party I want to go to. A no pressure hang that that person who's having that party is confident enough in their friendships that people will show up. And if no one shows up, yeah, that's fucking sad. But maybe that's what they needed to hear. Maybe they needed to hear that none of these people wanted to be at your hang because they didn't trust that it'd be low pressure. J train podcast@gmail.com jtrain podcast gmail.com it's a ticked off Tuesday. If you're angry, email the show. This is a Patreon subscriber. Jared, I have been in need of a laugh lately and I am happy to listen to your podcast which provides some relief from the day to day stressors. Let's get into it. Thank you. My husband and I have two kids under the age of two. We try to make the daily household tasks as simple and quick as possible. I recently received clothes as a gift from my daughter that I decided to wash before putting them on her. When I checked the tag to make sure I was putting the clothes on the right setting, I have messed up stuff before I realized the new outfits say delicate or dry clean recommended. Excuse me, they write. Yeah, I'm with you. I'm an excuse me land with you. I do not have the time to make sure that these outfits get pulled out for special wash settings every time my child wears them. I want to be able to throw them in with everything else and carry on with my day. Well, that's. That's the thing. Here's their perspective. Let me buy something for their kids that the parents would never buy for them because it's too expensive. That's probably their perspective. My perspective on that is how about you make. We do have functional needs here. With two kids under two, how about some diapers? How about something that could help this family, not something that is making my life harder. I know the person who bought them probably didn't even think to check the required laundry settings before gifting us the clothes. They check the price they Go, oh, this is a high end item that they would. I think that's because that's what how I would think of it as guy with no kids. Let me get these kids something that the parents would never get them. And it's usually like, you know, a bur suit for a baby. And you're going, this is ridiculous. Yeah, of course I'm going to get him a Burberry suit. Like I would do that if my brother had a kid. I would get them stupid like that and not realize the wash settings. And I don't blame them at all because unless you have kids, you're not thinking about the ease of washing kids clothes. Yeah, I wouldn't think of this. I blame the clothing companies for making such ridiculous clothes that have to be specially washed. I'm with you if you're going to make bait. High end baby items because that's where we're living right now. High end baby baby items. That is what the uncle, the funkle, the fun uncle would get for the nephew or niece. I'm like, Because I'm, I'm on the other side of this. I'm not disagreeing with you. I'm just saying I would want to buy something for my brother and his wife's kids that is so ridiculous that they can have fun with it, but I don't want it to make their lives harder. So the companies that you're buying, there's really an opening for in the market for crazy shit the parents wouldn't buy, but we want to buy them. But you got to make it easy on everyone. Like we should all be able to have fun. I shouldn't have to hear that. Like my brother and his wife are, you know, in the laundry room every day or having to go to the dry cleaner to get, you know, the Burberry suit wash that I got for their baby because I wanted to laugh. Companies should make all kids clothing with material that can be washed regularly with everything else. I'm with you. This. You're right. Sincerely, one tired and ticked off mama. This is. Yeah, this is a problem. This is a problem. What the companies are not these baby clothing. Toy companies need to acknowledge that no one that's buying the highest end stuff understands what's going on. So there's no need to make these things dry clean. Only like, I'm not going to look into that. Ooh, it's made with Lycra. I don't care. I'm buying expensive, ridiculous stuff for a baby because I can and because it's not my problem. And I don't need to worry about buying diapers, so they should make these things easy on the parent. And I'm not going to look into. Is it hand sewn? No, just make it one. Make it easy on them and make it easy on me when I'm buying something stupid for a little baby that I get to have fun watching the parents go, whoa, Power wheels. You bought the kid of power Wheels? Yeah, I got the money. Come on. I know you're not going to buy it for them. You guys buy diapers, I get the power wheels. Jtrain podcastmail.com Jtrain podcastmail.com okay, here's a ticked off Tuesday Reddit mind virus ruining podcasts. Jared, thank you for bringing laughter to my days. You're welcome. I don't have social media, but occasionally I will browse Reddit. At first I was trying to learn how to take care of my plants, but then I started reading posts about my favorite podcast. You're going to find some info there. I was aware that Reddit can be a negative place that, that I don't go on Reddit. I don't read the problems of people on Reddit. I don't really believe anything on there. It has been tainted for me. There's a show that to me, Reddit is a place for. It's for. It's victim porn. People write the most. Like even those ask me any things or am I the assholes? Am I? The assholes are always the same to me. It's a story that is so extreme and so crazy and they'll be like, hey, so I was dating this girl and then we're like about to get engaged and we were out in the park and we were talking and I'm about to propose and as I'm about to propose, she stands up and she points at my crotch and she goes, hey, look at his small penis. And then everyone in the park laughed at me. And I was like, but I thought we were gonna get married. And she's like, I wouldn't marry you, you're a loser. And everyone laughed. Am I the asshole? That's what Reddit is to me. It's victim nerd porn for people that never leave the house. It's people who don't want to live in the world, never have to be criticized, criticizing others. It's an easy place to do that. And you can be anonymous. So it's not really a. And it's a place for those people to get together and encourage this madness. So it's not really a healthy place to go to, in my opinion. And listen, I know Reddit can be used in other ways. There's people that use it in a different way. I'm just saying that's the only way I know it. It's like vague stories and you know, a lot of it turns into, well, I never liked that person. I always got bad vibes from them to try and pile on and get involved in gossip that's not even yours. So I'm with I hear you. I understand that this place is like that, but I didn't realize how infectious it could be. For instance, one particular podcast host that I enjoyed unrelated to the jtcu. Thank you for letting me know. Unrelated to the J Train Cinematic Universe was described over and over again as privileged, condescending, annoying with her co host, and out of touch with reality since earning her big podcast money riding on the coattails of her co star. Prior to reading this, I like this person, enjoyed the podcast and never noticed this dynamic. The Reddit comments didn't change my mind about her outright, didn't change my mind about her outright, but I did find them popping into my head while listening and shaping the way I viewed this person. Over time, I stopped listening as much and started feeling a bit negatively towards her. This happened with other podcasts as well. Then I realized that what was going on, absorbing the negative thoughts of others was changing the way I felt and taking away my enjoyment while providing no real benefit to me. Yeah, I get it. It's like saying, oh look, they have a stain on their pants and now you can't stop looking at the stain. Every human on earth has positives and negatives. There are things, and if you're only told about the negatives, that's what you zone in on. I get that. I have since stopped reading that stuff and try to be careful about what influences I allow into my thought space. If our perception is our reality, why not keep it as positive as much as we can? Listen, I'm with you. This is a negative place. Ticked off Tuesday. This podcast is about why. This podcast is about giving you a place that you can complain about anything and hopefully makes you feel better and laugh at the problems you have. So I'm not really one of those. I don't like the space I don't like. I've had things written about me there and then people send it to me and I don't want anything to do with it. It's not my problem, it's those people's problem. I'm not here to be liked. You know, I'm not, I'm not, I'm not here to be unliked. I'm just here to do, you know, I'm here to clown around and entertain. I hope I put out a good show. And it always seems that, you know, sometimes it feels like the Redditors are harder on me than anyone would be on me or in the things I've read, especially like, you know, and I, again, I can feel I've had people say they're talking about you on Reddit. I don't care. I don't, I don't want to know about it. I don't want. The opinions of others are not my business. Is that the line? Also, I've done nothing wrong. I'm here, I'm honest about my opinion. I, it. So you kind of have to remind yourself of that. And I think of the, you know, and again, when you do a podcast, you put yourself out there to be critiqued, and that's fine. That's, that's, that's part of the job. Those comments represent someone else's reality and could. And also, like, I find this with, with the comments I get. It's almost like I'm the human, you know, punching bag of guys people have dated in their past. Speaking out loud. That's kind of how the feeling I get when I get, you know, people coming back at me for dating opinions, especially because I'm like, just saying how I feel and it's like, if, as long as you're honest and I'm not trying to, like, do a hot take where I'm. I think this happens when you try to make someone mad and try to do a hot take. Then those Reddit comments, like, that's what I'm like. I get why someone would hate that person. But like, I'm just sitting here being like, yeah, I've had this happen. I feel this way. So, yeah, I, I have a lot of thoughts and opinions on this and I, I just don't trust the Reddit community. I think that there's a lot of people there that the, it's scratching an itch for them that has nothing to do with, you know, what this is all about, which is to entertain. But that's entertainment for others and who knows if they're even real people these days. I do believe in free speech, so I guess I'm mostly ticked off of myself for letting Reddit temporarily ruin some of my favorite podcasts. Thank you for the safe space to rent. Thank you for the space to vent. I've been enjoying your new YouTube content and got a chance to see your show when you were in Pittsburgh. My husband and I both loved it. Blessings to you and your family. Well, thank you very much. That means a lot. And again, like the, the negative hurts more than the positive. I get a lot of positive. I'm just saying. I don't know if that place. I've gone through breakups where I've had things written about the breakup of people making assumptions and I'm like, it really made me feel bad. It's. It's kind of. It's held me back from some dating stuff in my own life. I've thought about it. It does. It does live in my head. So it's hard to really get around. All right, one more. Jared from Massachusetts here. Love the show. Thanks for giving us a safe space to and be ticked off. Thank you for listening. Thank you for writing in. This is from the the Mailbox. So we got three from Patreon and this is from jtrain podcast@juman.com my sister in law hosts Christmas every year at her home. Everyone always brings a dish to share and her and her husband make the main dish. This is pretty normal for a dinner slash event. The host provides the main dish and guests bring some sides and desserts, right? Yeah, I would assume that makes some sense. Well, when I texted her this to see what we could bring to her house for Christmas, she asked if my husband and I would like to pay for half of the meat she was cooking for the main holiday dish and also asked me to bring a salad and some bread. Sounds like you're bringing the whole meal. For context, my mother in law used to pay for the meat my sister in law would cook on Christmas and she passed away this summer. Okay, so there is precedent. I imagine my mother in law saw this as a way for her to contribute to the meal without having to make a side dish to bring because she was elderly and didn't get around very well. My sister in law sees this as a tradition that she and my husband should carry on splitting the cost of the meat that is top it all off, it's just my husband and I going to her house from our household. She's also hosting her own in laws, her kids and their significant others. My husband and I have hosted her family several times and thought never once crossed our minds to ask her or anyone to supply half the cost of the meat. I know no complaint on tot is too insignificant, but please tell me I have a leg to Stand on about this. About. I know. No complaint on ticked off Tuesday is too insignificant. No, you're right. There's no complaint that's insignificant here. But please tell me I have a leg to stand on being ticked off about this. Supplying the main dish is the cost of doing business when you're hosting. Am I right? Sincerely, the Grinch who refuses to pay for the. Since this is a long sign up. The Grinch who refuses to pay for the who roast beef. Okay, hold on. Sincerely, the Grinch who refuses to pay for the who roast beast served at someone else's house. That's a mouthful. Let me do that again. Because it's. Roast beast is what they wrote. The Grinch who refuses to pay for the who roast beef. It's hard. I, I, I dare one of you to read this. Sincerely, the Grinch who refuses to pay for the who roast beast served at someone else's house. I like that. Now you have create. Let me, let me just. Let me agree with your complaint. I think it's. The complaint to me is that because it has happened this way, it should happen this way. I am not one. Because grandma paid for the meat, now we have this established thing that we have to keep going. It doesn't feel like that's a tradition. It feels like someone goes, hey, we got a loophole here where we have this thing that happened by chance. Like, the grandma paying for the meat doesn't mean they shouldn't have to pay for the meat. They got lucky with something, and now they're trying to turn into this tradition. That's the annoying part. I don't think that it is a nationalized rule that supplying the main dish is the cost of doing business when you're hosting. So I don't agree with that, but I do, I do think it is the job of the host to delineate what will be brought. It feels like you're, what are you doing then? At that point, I guess the host is providing a space for everyone to get together. Also, I don't know if the meat would be more expensive than whatever side dishes I would bring. So I'm not sure if that's. It's a cost thing. You have a leg to stand on. I don't know if it's this whole idea that, like, I think the host gets to call the shots. Hey, we're having people over for Thanksgiving. We're gonna do this. We need you to do that. We need you to do that. That, that to me is the host job, is the. They're Kind of the point guard that they're tossing over all the responsibilities of what they need help with. I think the annoying part is that they've somehow taken Grammy pays for the meat, and they're like, and now we give this long standing Grammy meat position to you. And you're like, wait a minute. What? Did you just invent that out of thin air because you don't like paying for the meat? Don't make something bigger than it is. You guys were happy to not pay for the most expensive thing at the party, and now you're trying to get out of that by making it into this grand tradition. Oh, would you like to take over the meat costs? That only goes to the most special guest in our party. No, it doesn't. That's you trying to put lipstick on a pig and be like, oh, look at you. You get to pay for half the meat. No, don't call this a tradition. Hey, we. We're a bunch of cheapskates who don't like paying for the meat. It's the most expensive thing. You want to help us with it? That's. We kind of. You know, that would be my problem. You know, have a little humility. Yeah. The meat costs a lot of money, and we're having everyone over, and, you know, we'd really like some help with the cost of the meat. Put your hat in your hand and admit to why you want me to split the meat. Don't make it into this. Ooh, Grammys. Meat coupons. Who gets to give them this year now? Jtrain. Podcastmail.com ticked off Tuesday. Back next week, Boom.