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Valentine’s Day Dilemmas - TICKED OFF TUESDAY - The JTrain Podcast w Jared Freid
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Uncle J Train
I know you're angry. It's Tuesday and it has no feel. The weekend was fun. You're still hungover from the eating and next weekend is too far away. What will you do with your day? It's time to get ticked off. Complain with your gripe. Right now your friend Uncle J Train is here to tell you that you're right. It's a ticked off Tuesday. Ticked off Tuesday. You're angry and you don't even know why. Enjoy this podcast. It'll help you get to Friday.
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Jared Freed
Hello and welcome to the J Train podcast. This is J Train Jared Freed coming alive from Boca. That's right, every Tuesday is a ticked off Tuesday. You, the listener, write in your complaints and I complain with you. A complaint duet of sorts. That's all you gotta do to be a part of this show. This iteration. The the Tuesday episode. TikTok Tuesday. Are you angry? Do you got something to get off your chest? Well, your complaint is valid here and it shall be heard. If you want to be a part of today ticked off Tuesday, you got to sign up for Patreon because they're using their membership. With your membership you get first dibs at ticked off Tuesday. I have three ticked off Tuesdays in front of me. They are long, they are girthy, they are thorough. I love it because they're long and they've got a lot of complaints. We, we kick out the the freebie people but so if you want to sign up for patreon patreon.com Jared Freed. You comment on coffee with J Train with your ticked off Tuesday or you send it into J Train podcast gmail.com or you Instagram DM J Train podcast. That's how you be a part of today's show. Other announcements Sign up for the YouTube. There is a such a fun clip on YouTube for of crowd work from the comedy seller. I watched myself and giggled. Yeah, I'm embarrassed of that. I'm not proud that I'm watching a video of me and giggling alone. But that means if I giggle at my stupid seller yourself, you're gonna love it. So subscribe to YouTube. Every Saturday night we're putting out new crowd work clips of varying lengths. This is a seven and a half minute clip. Not a lot of people are doing seven and a half minutes of crowd work. I'm just letting you know. Okay. Went really high on the voice on that one. Lastly, I'm heading to Alpharetta, Georgia this weekend. If you're around the Alpharetta area, come jared free.com and then I'm heading to New Zealand Auckland. If you're around the Auckland area, come the Alpharetta of New Zealand Auckland. I'm going to Melbourne. There's tickets available. Adelaide, Perth, Newcastle, Brisbane and Sydney is sold out. That's right, your boy J Train is an international star. So Sydney, you're out of luck. S O L Other than that, Rochester and Nashville. I'll be coming back stateside for those shows. Three ticked off Tuesdays, including my own ticked off Tuesday. And then we have some ads so I'll read. Our first one is with Hero Bread. Hero Bread I am such a fan of. If you have the choice between bread that's good for you and fills you up and satiates you or just regular bread, you're gonna take the the better bread. That's what hero is. Live your best life and eat some bread. Already a hero bread makes it so you can have your favorite meals without destroying the progress on your health goals. Herobred makes bagels, rolls, croissants, burger buns that all fit into your lifestyle. 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And I hate to be this guy. Here's the thing. Let me just give you my review of the super bowl. I am 39 years old. I am. I mean, I mean I'm in the. I'm in my prime. I'm turning. I'm turning 40. It. I can't even believe I'm being careful Saying this, it wasn't a great super bowl event, a halftime show. It wasn't great. I think if you're a Kendrick Lamar fan, you're very happy today. You got to see a Kendrick Lamar concert. If you don't know. I know his music. So I'm not a music guy, as I've said many times on all my airwaves, not a big music guy in the sense that, like, I like hearing music. I knew every song he did just in the popular culture. It's. I knew the background of him and Drake only because I listened to the podcast, the New York Times podcast, where they kind of went through what the deal was. I think it was the Daily did it on. On their Weekend edition was all about. The Saturday episode was all about what. What led to Kendrick Lamar becoming the artist of the year, which he was. He has all this music that was birthed from. From their podcast. From what I understand, it birthed from Drake kind of poking the bear and that. This guy is a wonderful artist and he's a poet and he is a rapper who has, you know, some say the best rapper of all time. The. And. And he's, you know, been, you know, he's kind of championed by Dr. Dre, who is also known in those similar words. So, like. And again, I'm saying that with not very much music knowledge, admittedly. But here's the problem. The super bowl is a show for the whole country. The halftime show is forever. It's the highest watch thing. This isn't just a football game for certain people. This is. It is a national holiday. And you have to do a show. And. And here's the thing you'd say, Jared, well, you know, you know, who are we serving the ads is. It's weird that all the ads are for. Are inclusive. So the point where money needs to be made. And so the ads. And I don't think this is going to delve into, like, what I'm annoyed about societally. But the ads, you wouldn't. You see them. You notice not a lot of young people. Martha Stewart still in the ads. We've been doing Martha Stewart jokes for now, 25 years. Oh, she's old, but she still Fox. She's old, but she's put on the sneakers and she can do a flip now. And it's like, this is kind of the issue that we have to acknowledge is that we have an age issue. We have an age war going on. And it's. It gets me annoyed because I've done the whole idea of, like, oh, it's the extremes. They're just the left and right are just like each other. And that may be true, but I think the left and right do not leave out or do not acknowledge that this age thing is something we have to deal with. 65 today is not 65 of yesteryear. You know, when I was growing up, if I'm. When I was, you know, 15, the 65 year olds were out of the conversation. They're not who we were making ads for at the Super Bowl. We were making ads at the super bowl for the boomers. And we continue to make ads of the super bowl for the boomers. So we have to acknowledge they are also watching this Super Bowl. So when you have a halftime show that doesn't acknowledge a whole an age group? Because I am 39. And again, it honestly, the super bowl shouldn't be about me. It should be younger than me, but it's not. These demos are changing. Like, I think there was one ad with Jake Shane in it. The Thunder pussy guy. What the fuck is his name? Yeah, he's an influencer. There was like one ad with a bunch of influencers, but they were background to the ad. They, you know, he did a Super bowl commercial. Was he Pound that puss. Pass that puss. Yeah, he was in a suit. Jake Shane says it was the best day of my life to be in a Super bowl commercial. He was along alongside Alex, Earl and this guy from Love Island. Look at, they got so many pop up ads. Get the fuck out of here. Mirror, whatever. So I'm saying like he's in an ad, but like only to be noticed by someone who's a fan of his and everything is, you know, everyone's in their own silo entertainment wise. And when the silo breaks loose. Now we're in a yearly thing of this age weirdness. It's like we came together at Thanksgiving with our older family members and now we have to actually hear what they think. So then, so then my dad texts me and he's like, that was horrible. And I was like, yeah, I didn't think it was like, I'm not gonna sit here to defend a Super bowl show. It should be good. But there's no again when it comes to ads. You gotta make your money, you gotta sell. So we're gonna have it broad. We're gonna include everybody. When it's the halftime show, there's nothing. There's no money to be made. We've already made the money. No one's gonna not watch next year. So it kind of felt like the halftime show where the kids getting up at Thanksgiving for all the. For the whole family and then doing a dance and then telling us we don't get it because we have to understand the lore involved. And you go, I don't wanna. Halftime shows are not to be nuanced because then it comes out. There's all this symbolism. And, you know, you see the tweets, if you didn't get it, you know, this and that, and it becomes this politicized thing. And I'm so fucking annoyed it's politicized. I'm so annoyed that, like, the right, right, righty riderson is like, this is what the country want. This was what we told you. Don't list. You don't listen to the country. And then you have a lefty leftist and making you evil going. You didn't get the symbolism because you're a big fat fucking racist. It's like, I thought this was the halftime show. Where's I so. And I saw Tyler Cameron posted, and I'll. I'll name names because I just think this is like the. You know, you have people telling you what the problem is while being the problem. To me, the halftime show is a show. It should be fun. It should be. You know, it should be visually. Oh, my God. Look at who's there. Oh, my God. That song that he's doing with this person, that, to me, is a halftime show. Tyler Cameron posted that. He was like, it was the worst. And then like, Jeremy Jacob Witz, who's brunch boys. And I like Jeremy, but he posts, you're gonna regret this take. And it's like, why would he regret it? He didn't like it. You should have saved that one. It's like. And it's like, I gotta say, it's like the right calls everyone pussies and the left makes everyone evil. And it's like, how about a halftime show? And again, like Kendrick Lamar, a deserving halftime show participant. The show was made for a Kendrick Lamar fan. And, you know, if you're saying today, if you're like, well, you didn't get the sim. I didn't get it. I'm sorry. I watched at a bar at my parents club and sat there and watched and was, like, waiting for something to happen that wasn't just a concert. And maybe I'm expecting something different than maybe you're expecting, but I don't know. I think people are allowed to go. But again, I understand. There's this. Again, we get pushed to teams and it's so annoying. This is me complaining. This is me. This is my ticked off Tuesday. Cuz, you know, I just don't understand. I do understand. It is all actually fraudulent political activists. Bad actors use this as their launching off point to make their point that they keep trying to make, you know, over the years and make money from politicians, make money from saying, look at what the left has done to our super bowl halftime entertainment. Like, fuck off, stop bothering us. Then the, you know, the, you know, the left wing person, oh, you don't get it. So you, you don't want to get it. It's like no old people are watching this. You know it. You, you know it. The ads are for them. They're including them in the ads. Excluding them. And again, you can't sit here and go, well, that was a halftime show made for the audience that watches the Super Bowl. You can't. It's a big, huge audience. That means it's a big shoot. That means the halftime show should be as big as the audience, a huge spectacle. Beyonce, you know, I, and I don't want to, to me because Kendrick Lamar, like, he's a, he's a huge star, he's very good. But also we have to admit that Martha Stewart is still in the commercials. Is that, is, is it too long to have Martha Stewart in the commercials doing flips in her sketches? I guess not. And you know, again, it felt like it was, you know, this divide, it's, they're trying to make an age thing a political thing is really what annoys me. I'm 39. I had to like, I had to study up to understand even a little of what was going on. And I did. And I still watch it when. This isn't a halftime show. This is a Kendrick Lamar concert. Ticked off Tuesday. Send them in. J train. 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And a plant pot with a flower coming out of it that looks like it's trying to start its own cult. What is going on here? And then there's the endless sea of decorations, small gifts and chocolates. I'm talking two row full rows of plastic junk and crappy chocolate that no one is ever going to buy. It's like, I like that this person's complaining about the things at CVS as if their Mr. Or Mrs. CVS. CVS is just playing a game of how much holiday crap can we shove into one aisle? It's all going to end up on a landfill, right? Honestly, I don't even know why this holiday nonsense is still happening. It just feels random, unnecessary, and a little too much at times. Sounds like someone single on Valentine's Day to me. Yeah. What do you've taken over my cvs? Get all this nonsense out of here. It's waste cvs. Maybe just stick to the basics next year. We don't need all this extra stuff. I just want my toothpaste from. Don't hate the holiday, just hate the waste. Okay, well, I. Listen to me. Okay, I. You Came to ticked off Tuesday with your complaint and I appreciate it. The angle you took, not my angle. I do understand seeing all this stuff invade cvs. You're like, enough. I do think it's like one of those things. You're like another place I gotta look at all this Valentine's Day crap. And it does look like crap. Here's the real issue. And again, this goes back to something I just talked about with my ticked off Tuesday. The world is changing. CVS is an unnecessary place. Honestly, we need CVS to be a closet. We need CVS to be like, just literally like Mr. Ed. We need one person working with their head poking out that can be a pharmacist and get us like, you know, a cvs. Honestly, the. The need we have for CVS is the same need we have for the shop at the. In the lobby of a Fairfield Hotel or what a Courtyard by Marriott. We need maybe some, you know, nail all emergency items because anything the CVS sells we would get online. Like, you went there for toothpaste because you were probably in a pinch for toothpaste and that brought you to a cvs. No one goes into a CVS like, like, oh, let me drop by the CVS today to pick up all my supplies for the month. Like, that's just not happening anymore. So now in response to that, CVS is like, we got to make our money where we can. So we got to bring in overpriced tchotchkes for the guy who didn't prepare for Valentine's Day. So CVS is really kind of become this like last ditch resort drug dealer who's like, oh, look, you always go to CVS when you're most in it. Like, I went and got a car the other day for my dad's birthday. It looks like the apocalypse has happened in that cvs. Everything's locked up, there's shit on the floor. All your Valentine's Day decorations are just everywhere and there's not even someone working the thing. It's a automated checkout. So it is annoying that CVS exists almost as like a reminder that we are living in like end of times. Like, CVS is honestly a reminder of what we used to have. Used to walk in, there was a bustling place and you'd go and get your toothpaste and everything was priced right now everything's through the roof because they got to keep these walls up that they can't really afford. They got to sell you a bunch of garbage that you need last second. So CVS is Really an eyesore and a reminder that it is not 22,003 anymore. CVS is a tattoo we got in better times of our lives. I. And I think this is where your complaint kind of is kind of highlighting. You're like, you're walking into this place that you don't want to be in the first place. You should have ordered extra toothpaste online. Now you're paying way more than you ever anticipated for toothpaste. Like you, if you compare the price, you'd go crazy because CVS has a bunch of walls. They got to keep up. They got to keep the, you know, the, the AC running. It should. Honestly, a CVS should be one door, a hat, one of those half farmers door. Someone pops her head out, you go, here's my. I need my prescription and need a, you know, a nail clippers. Forgot to get those and I need them now. Yeah, cvs. I'm trying to think of a better way to put it because it's like, it's almost like it's. It's just this like really annoying reminder that we have left those times and all those that crap in there. Even you, you're saying it's waste. You don't even. You think no one's even gonna buy this stuff. Like that's how few. How little hope you have for cvs. That's part of your complaint. You're saying, look, this is all this how all this Valentine's Day is going to go to waste because who would ever go into cvs? I'm only here because I didn't get toothpaste this week. So I. You're complaining. I. We. I am with you on your complaint. There. There's no reason for a cvs. And you kind of semi wonder like, when does this all go down? You know, when does this go away? Like a lot of these places, you know, they're going through bankruptcy. You go, well, what happens to like, you see a mall? It's like seeing a mall. You go, what happens to the mall? Like, what are the CVS is going to become? Jtrain podcastmail.com Jtrain podcastmail.com One more sponsor Indochino looks aren't everything, but it doesn't hurt to look amazing. Indochino suits will make you look and feel like a million bucks. Customize every detail to your style. Pick the fabric, the buttons, the lapel shape and more. All this is just a fraction of the price of other companies. Here's the thing. Indochino is going to fit. You make clothes that are that are meant for your body. You are not off the rack. You are a special snowflake that has its own nooks and crannies and you want to go to Indochino, give them your measurements and they're going to make a suit. It's going to fit you like a million bucks. And if you're with someone and you have a partner that needs something, it is such a great gift. It is something. 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We have been, we've had some really great times together. I really like them, spend a lot of our free time together and even talk about Valentine's Day coming up, which I was actually really excited about. I love Valentine's Day. I know it's cheesy, but I've always enjoyed it. I've made it clear to him it's a day I look forward to. Like doing corny classic V Day things. Good for you. You. Here's what I have heard in this message. In this first paragraph, I have established my standard for Valentine's Day. To my boyfriend of three and a half months, I How healthy can you be? Now fast forward to today. Valentine's Day is two weeks away and I casually bring it up to again to confirm plans, hoping he'd ha want to have a fun date. And then out of nowhere he casually mentions that he has plans with his guy friends that night. Oh it might even go upstate for a dude's weekend that is the complete opposite of what are we doing this weekend? What? Seriously? This is the same guy I've spent so much time with and now he's telling me he'd rather hang out with his friends than make any effort for Valentine's Day? Oh, I'm beyond frustrated because for the first time I was direct with a guy about how I feel. I. You, you. I just acknowledged how healthy you were. I just told you that the first paragraph was a 23 year old woman acting like a woman. Like, you did everything right. I've communicated what I want, simple as that. I told him Valentine's Day is important to me and I wasn't asking for anything crazy, just that we spend some time, some of the day together and make it special. I feel completely let down and I'm not sure what to do next. Guess I'll just be my own Valentine this year. So. I love this. I love the complaint aspect because you're right. You. This is annoying. It could be. Honestly, you could say that March 21 is an important day to you, and this would still be a similar letdown. You have stated, I like this day. I am acknowledging this is kind of like a thing for me. And then two weeks away and you're like, so, what are the plans? And he's like, I might go to upstate with the dudes and, you know, drink some Budweisers. And it's like, dude, did you hear? You think I was just making this up? You think I want to go around saying I'm a Valentine's Day fan? You think I'm a big fucking loser? You think I want people to know that this is something I'm into, but it makes my tummy turn a little bit and gives me butterflies and I do like it. So how about you? If you're my boyfriend, that's kind of what goes with the territory of me. I'm with you. I'm ticked off because. And you're right, I'm beyond frustrated because it's the first time I was direct with a guy about how I feel. You're right. That's frustrating. I mean, here's the thing. Is this worthy of breakup? Um, well, there's two things, and I don't mean to make you even more upset. If someone doesn't acknowledge Valentine's Day, they're not acknowledging the relationship. So. Three and a half months, guys. 25. This very well could be the breakup coming. And I, I'm laughing because it's like, oh, you, you, you know, you did nothing wrong. It's just what happens. So I, he might be ending it with you as you're frustrated that he's not doing the right thing by you, which you have. You should be. I would say to him, I, I think you got to bring to me, you bringing it up to him is not ending it. It's you saying, I'm really annoyed. I think you got to read this last paragraph directly to him. Hey, I'm beyond frustrated because for the first time I was direct with you with a guy about how I feel, and I communicated exactly what I want. And now you're going upstate. Valentine's Day is important to me. I told you this. And now you're just skipping out of it all completely. When you're 25 and you can do a dudes weekend at any time. Why should, how should I feel about that? I would ask him when I specifically told you to me, if my partner tells me something, I circle it in the calendar and I, and I, and I, and I, and I live up to the standard again. I didn't say every day of the week is Valentine's Day. No, no, no. I'm saying I am a Valentine's Day fucking nerd. And I've established that. And now this is. And I think that's what you have to say to him. And you're angry now if he's avoiding Valentine's Day altogether because this makes you guys a more serious couple at three and a half months, you're going to feel that very quickly if this guy says, you know, I, I, I heard what you said, and I didn't really think about how important this was to you. Let me. I'm going to reassess and he comes back with a plan. Okay? Let that plan happen. People deserve redemption. And if he does nothing, he doesn't plan it. Yeah, then you got to start going. Okay, I'm trying to work with you here. Is this the boyfriend? You are my. Because three and a half months, you find out who the boyfriend is a little bit more than you did a month in. Ooh, I pray for that guy. He's done. So. Last one. Ticked off Tuesday. Jared, I'm so ticked off right now. I'm really confused. They all. And I figured this would be the perfect ticked off Tuesday submission. Or maybe mailbag Monday. Well, you're here on a Tuesday. Anyways, here's the deal. I just broke up with my boyfriend of three years a couple months back. The breakup wasn't dramatic, but it was a long time coming. I figured, hey, it's Time to have fun, try something new. Just enjoy my life for a while. Good for you. So a couple of weeks ago, I started hanging out with a guy from my old job. Let's call him Jake. He's nice and we've been pretty casual. Just a fun no strings attached thing. And honestly, it felt exactly what I needed. I told him I was in the mood for zero emotional investment and he was totally on the same page. But a month of this, but a month in of this fun, he's asked me out on a real date. And not just any date. He wants to take me out for Valentine's Day next week. It sounds like he's emotionally invested. Valentine's Day? Seriously? What happened to our no strings attached thing? He's been texting me all sweet, asking what I like to do on dates, talking about going out for dinner, maybe even flowers. It's making me so uncomfortable because I was clear with him from the start that I wanted nothing serious. Listen, it doesn't. You can't tell. Listen, you know the. You know the rules here at J Train Industries. As I've always said, you can't tell someone how to feel. To me, this is breakup time for you. Now I'm stuck because I don't want to hurt his feelings. I. Listen, I'm sorry to let you know and I don't want to make your ticked off Tuesday anymore. Ticked off? But like you have been told that someone is on a different page than you. You are going to be underperforming for what they're looking for. And that's when I tend to end a relationship personally. Now I'm stuck because I don't want to hurt his feelings and I feel out of practice of the dating game and how to approach this. Also, I can't help but feel pissed that he's trying to change the dynamic. No, you can only be pissed when it goes the other way. This you can be upset. I get. Now I'm telling you how to feel. I'm not going to tell you how to feel. I understand you're mad and I get why you're mad. You lost a good thing. What do they say? Don't be mad it's over. Be happy that it happened at all. I don't know. I don't want to be that girl who leads someone on, but at the same time, I'm starting to feel like I've been misled about his intentions. I know I can just say no to the date, but I'm mad that I'm in this position in the first place? Should I let him down easy? Or maybe he just wants to do a casual date. Is that a thing? Let me know, Jay Train and Happy V day to you. Feeling like I should have just stayed single for a while longer. Here's the thing. You're validated. It's ticked off Tuesday. I get it. I'd be mad, too. Hey, we're having this great time doing this one thing. You. You know, there's a Woody Allen quote where relationships are like sharks. They either swim forward or they die. So this kind of, like, fits into that. This guy is trying to move forward. He likes you. He's like, why would I listen for. For. I understand why you're mad, because you're like, this was comfy. This was fun. I told him I didn't want to get carried away, and now he's getting carried away, and it's like, you can't control someone else's feelings. You. The. The problem you have is that you wish you just didn't know. You know, if he had played the. He could have played the I have feelings for you thing closer to the vest. But he's probably playing it big to let you know that it's changed for him. The reason he's doing Valentine's Day is he's like, I gotta let her know. Like, this is a little bit more to me than it is a no strings attached thing. So that's why he went so hard. And I just know that, like, you know, you couldn't. You could write this email to Ticked off Tuesday. No matter who you are, if a guy wrote this in, a billion women would be rolling their eyes. Yes, I have a billion listeners. A billion people would be. Women would be rolling their eyes at him. This is a complaint that you could only really have openly, you know, from the female side. Like, if I came on here, I was like, oh, this girl was. I told her, I just want to fuck and do nothing. And now she wants to, like, have a relationship with me. And it's like, yeah, Jared, that's what happens. I do think there's a time limit to most no strings attached things. There's a point where you go, you got. Let's just be happy you got it. If I'm you, you got to end it. If I'm. If you. If I was talking to myself, I would be like, jared, this girl wants to do Valentine's Day with you and wants to make it special. You do not want that with them. So you have to, like, back away and let them get over you. And I would say. That's what I would tell you. You have to let this guy kind of get over you. He. You can't go back because you'll feel guilty every time you hook up. He'll go, no, no, no. I was just. I was just seeing if maybe you wanted to do something more. Yeah. Yeah, we can go back to hooking up. And then you will. And you'll feel bad, and he'll try and do this again. And it. And here. Here's the thing I will say to you. Feeling like I should have just stayed single for a while longer. You can find this. I know this is an annoying thing to hear when people are like, you just go to a bar and, you know, fuck. I'm not saying that. I'm saying you can find this. This scenario with someone I know. And I know it's. Here's what you're so annoyed about. And here's what I would. I would. I would say is, you're right. You found someone who sexually made you feel good, physically made you feel good, who was safe, who wasn't gonna take advantage of you, was gonna be nice, who's gonna do the right thing. And now you have to let that go to go back into the great wide world of who the fuck knows. So I. You are validated. But if I'm you, I'm ending it. Happy fucking Valentine's Day, dad. That's ticked off. Tuesday back next week, boom.