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You are listening to the Kristin Boss Podcast. I'm your host, Kristen Boss. As a bestselling author and performance coach, I'm on a mission to share about sustainable and purposeful approaches to both business and life. Each week, I bring relevant topics that I believe are necessary to create a life of purpose, significance, and meaning. Entrepreneurship is about so much more than growing your bottom line. It's about who you are becoming in the process and building a life that is truly extraordinary. Entrepreneurship is really just the beginning. Hey, friends. Welcome back to part two of the Pivot. If you haven't listened to the previous episode, I suggest you go back and give a listen because it'll give some context to this particular episode because it is a continued conversation from last week. All right, first, let me say a very sweet and special thank you to the response I have received since the last podcast went out. You have sent such kind and meaningful and thoughtful messages. Messages. And you guys have shared how much it has resonated with you and really spoken to where you are in your current season of life and what you needed to hear. And so I am, I'm delighted that the episode resonated with you and spoke to you. I will say, man, vulnerability, there's such thing as a vulnerability hangover where you just feel, you kind of let people in, let people see you share, you know, share, you know, a part of yourself, and then you kind of want to go into hiding afterwards and, like hide under a blanket. And I always call it like a vulnerability hangover. It's like the, oh, did I say too much? Did I give too much? But it's. I have found that vulnerability is the pathway to creating meaningful connection with anyone in your life. I don't know about you, but sometimes I've had people who would say, they are my friends, but I never know what's actually going on behind their perfectly polished smile. Like, I never know what's actually going, going on in their life. It's like I never hear them struggle. And I'm like, I can't really develop a great friendship and relationship with you if your life is always perfect, because I know that's not real life. So I always find vulner is how we create connection and community. So thank you for being a part of mine. So we're going to continue this conversation about the Pivot first, first thing, so I want to answer a couple questions because I know some people have asked questions either to my coaches, my community, or just asking me. And so the first thing I want to answer is like, oh, with Kristen doing this pivot, is this reflective of her, you know, belief in the industry, or is it reflective of my belief in the industry? It still being a great place to a great business model? The answer is a resounding yes. That has not changed. I still firmly believe in this business model being a really amazing approachable way for people to add streams of income to their home without having to go back to school, clock in, go to a 9 to 5. I find this to be an incredibly approachable business model. I'm going to stand on that. And I still think there's so much possibility. I think the industry, as it continues to evolve, I think it's going to continue to attract younger generations. And so I still am optimistic, hopeful, and a believer of the industry. I also want to remind people I am not a network marketer, meaning I am not affiliated with a company. I am not. I do not sell a physical product. I'm an educator for the industry, and I provide education for network marketers. So even in the shifts and the pivots, you know, it's not like I'm not like, oh, I can't tell lip gloss anymore. That's not what this is about. Like, reminding you guys that I am, I'm an educator and I've been educating for quite some time and coached hundreds and thousands of people. And I've seen and notice it, noticed some patterns and some things that I'm, I, I'm seeing in the industry where I'm like, oh, man, I think there's, there's other things at play here. And so I talked more about that in the last episode, so I encourage you to go give that a listen. So if you had some questions about that being like, oh, well, what's Kristen's stance on the industry? You just heard it from me. That is my stance. It's still, I still believe in it as an amazing way to diversify income streams, to close income gaps in your home. And it's very approachable and accessible. So. And I still think it is the ultimate gateway to entrepreneurship for people that are wanting to, you know, figure out is online business for me is entrepreneurship for me. And I can't think of a better training ground and starting place than with social selling. So that said, having answered that, what I want to talk about is the nature of a pivot, because some people have been asking, you know, about their own pivots or how to know when to pivot. So I'm not, this isn't really going to be a podcast about me giving you advice on your pivot, but I'm going to share with you a little bit about the psychology behind mine. And you know, I was just thinking of this as I was driving today. I was like, how often do people get to see someone kind of give a behind scenes look at a business owner making a pivot? How many times do people see that? Or do we, how often do we actually see this really polished? Like they've been doing it behind the scenes for a really long time and all of a sudden, out of nowhere they make this pivot and then they're on to the next thing and it's bright and shiny and curated and they talk about it. Hindsight. Like, oh, hindsight. Yeah, it was really hard, but they protected people from seeing behind the scenes. And I'm like, well, you know, I, I think of like Alex Hormozi, who has, it's his, he wants to build a hundred million dollar portfolio. And I think he already has. I think he's getting there. But he decided to document his journey to get there. Sharing the process, sharing how I was doing, that was like, wow, what if I, what if this is actually a documentation of my evolution and my pivot? And so many of you have followed and listened to me for a long time and you know, maybe you're not surprised by the pivot. Maybe you're like, oh, I've been waiting for this. Some of you might be like, wait, this feels like it's out of left field, what's going on? So what I actually want to share with you is just about because, what, what pivoting is, because I think a lot of people can perceive a pivot as quitting. What's the difference? So I'm just going to share with, share with you from my space, from my lens and my experience, but just, I'm just going to call it changes and evolution and why people, I think, are afraid to pivot or try something new or do something big, whether it's starting an online business or changing their business or maybe leaving a relationship or quitting a job that they're unhappy at. It's really changing the status quo. And I find that when we choose growth, what almost always coincides with growth is grief. There is a heaviness to it, there's excitement, but at the same time there is this heaviness, there's this sadness because oftentimes you are closing a Chapter or you're letting go of something that has been a part of you for a long way and you have for a long time and you have oriented your life around that chapter or that version of yourself. And so grief and growth, I find it's this complex thing where people are like, why am I so afraid of changes? Like, probably because of what you have to let go of in order to go through the change. And letting go of things, I believe is, is a form of grief. It's grieving, it's saying goodbye, it's thinking that peace, that person, that thing for, how it shaped you, the lessons it taught you, why you're glad you had it, and why it's time to let go. That is hard to do, especially if you are somebody that has maybe had a lot of change in your life and change feels very unsafe for you. And you're like, my whole childhood, like I live in a very, in a city that has a very strong military presence. And so just down the way from us, we, there's a elementary school that I would say 80% of the kids at that school are military. So they see a lot of churn and transition. So there's always families coming in, like making new friends or moving every three years. And so maybe somebody that comes from that context, they're like, they get into adulthood and they're like, no, I never want to change again. I, I, I've, I said goodbye every three years to schoolmates, to classmates, to friends, to family or whatever it is. And I was telling the student this, like, when there's enough pain with something, we end up making a subconscious agreement with ourselves to protect us from that pain again. So an agreement might be like, I'm never going to, you know, move again to protect myself from the pain of saying goodbye. Or maybe, maybe that's not you. Maybe there's other changes that you experienced in your life that felt traumatic, that felt so hard. And so because of that, you know, you have made an agreement with yourself that change causes pain. Change is bad, change is unfamiliar, change is hard. And so we create these agreements within ourselves unknowingly that we think is self protection. We think is like, no, what I'm doing is I'm keeping myself from pain. Well, maybe short term pain, but there might be a bigger vision to your life that you're also keeping yourself from. Like we say we want to change our lives, but I would say, what are your real thoughts and feelings around change? Because it's not easy, it is so hard. Like I can't tell you how many tears I have cried knowing, like, okay, this is. This is for a good thing, but letting go is still hard. Even you even letting go of a good thing in pursuit of a great thing, man, that's so hard. Because I think, I think this is what a lot of people do. I think this is why people are complicit with what's going on in their life. Because they're like, it's good, it's good. And they talk themselves out of great. Because I think they're afraid of what great might cost them in short term. Because in the short term, the pursuit of great might cost you what feels good today. That's a hard trade to do. So in this idea of making a pivot, making a change, evolving. Um, I'm going to share with you, this is from 10x is easier than 2x with Dr. Benjamin Hardy. I had him on my podcast, I think, a year ago. And I think it's so funny. I'm coming full circle to that podcast and that conversation I had with him. And I'm realizing, oh, man, I'm doing exactly what we talked about in that podcast, just not in the way I thought it would look. But I'm still giving up the 80% to 10x my impact in the world. And I'm. Apparently, I'm a really stubborn person. And I'm gonna share with you how that showed up for me with my own aversion to loss, because I think it's easy for you maybe to hear this podcast episode and be like, wow, Kristen just embraces change so well. And no, no, I went with this like a kicking, screaming toddler throwing a full blown tantrum in the toy aisle of Target. Like, I went through the five stages of grief with this guys, like, anger. No, I don't want to shock. No, no, this. This can't be denial, you know, acceptance, negotiate. Guys, I would say, like, I hung out in the negotiation stage of grief for a long time, like, negotiating with myself, with God, with my business, because I really, that pivoting and evolving is also a posture of surrender, letting go of what we know. And I think of the song in Frozen 2, like, into the Unknown. While that's a catchy song, Good Lord, into the Unknown is a real scary place to be. So I want to talk to you about why we have a version to change. Because I don't want you to hear this and be judging yourself and be like, gosh, if I was braver, if I was stronger, if I was all these things. No, just Cycle. Psychologically, we're not wired to want change. Because why? Because our brain sees change as unsafe. It is unfamiliar because we have psychologically created safety in what is familiar for us. Even if it's a, if it's a toxic form of familiar or it's not, if it doesn't serve us in the best way. But at least our body and our brain know how to adapt in this environment. But suddenly going into the unpredictable, our body and our brain are like, absolutely not. This is terrible. And so we see that we're naturally averse to risk and change. We interpret change or pivoting or evolving as risk to our current way of being. And not just our current way of being, but how we see ourselves in the world. Guys, that's big. Changing how you see yourself in the world. Well, you know, for me it led to a full blown panic attack and identity crisis where I, you know, ended up going to a four day intensive retreat center. Like, but this is normal. Like, it's normal to experience this like upheaval of identity. At the same time you are deciding to stop playing small in your life because your status quo has to be challenged. Nobody wants to challenge the status quo. So here's psychologically why we have an enormous aversion to loss. We as humans, we are psychologically, we fear and avoid loss more than we seek gain and loss. Aversion primarily manifests itself in these three specific forms. This is from Dr. Benjamin Hardy of 10x is easier than 2x. Okay, so the first one, how we, how loss aversion show up, shows up for us is sunk cost bias. What does that mean? It means continuing to invest in something unprofitably simply because you've already invested in it. Let me translate it is when you're saying, but I've already put so much time, so much effort, so much energy. I've been here for five years, I've been here for 10 years. I've been doing this for 15 years. This is how I'm known. Like we see our investment, our prior investment as why we have to keep it even when it's underperforming or we know it no longer aligns lines with who we are, what we want or where we're going. I saw this happen, sadly with quite a few, like business acquaintances where I saw them continuing to invest in businesses because it was their baby, they had emotional attachment to it, or they put so much time and effort and energy to it, or they kept putting money into it hoping it would just turn around. And I feel Like, I was watching ostriches put. Sticking their head in the stand. Just be like, it'll turn around, it'll turn around. And the sunk cost bias. Like, I saw them go bankrupt because simply because they're like, I should. Or this is why people stay. This isn't just a business thing. This is also why people stay in unhealthy friendships, relationships, marriages. Like, oh, but we've built so much together. We've have so much history. For me, like, I even had that with a friend who was in my life for 20 years, and I felt like I owed it to our history. I owed it to our childhood. I owed it to all of our shared experiences that we had in our 20s that we should stay friends. Even though she was an incredibly unhealthy person for me to be around and my mental health suffered in, like, 10 minutes of being in her presence, My husband could always tell. He's like, oh, my gosh, why do you hang out with her? I'm like, I don't know why. Sunk cost bias. Because all of these years, our history and all this, we do this with our businesses, we do this maybe with our homes, with, you know, with other family members that we know. Like, oh, I. I know I should put in a boundary or I know I should, you know, remove myself from this or, you know, really unhealthy jobs, you know, where it's a really toxic environment and it's, you know, taking a huge toll on our mental health. It's like, yeah, but I've been here for five years and I'm almost. Or 10 years, and I'm almost up for my tenure or whatever it is. And like, to our own detriment. That's sunk cost bias. That's loss aversion number one. Sunk cost bias. Okay. Loss aversion number two. And trust me, I have been guilty of every single one of these. Okay. Number two is overvaluing something you own, believe, or have or have created simply because it's yours. This is known as the endowment effect, tending to overvalue something simply because you created it and it's yours. This happens a lot with. I saw this happen with, like, online course creators or coaches or businesses. And I see this, like, sometimes on. On Shark Tank, you see people come and like, they have this, like, again, this emotional attachment to this thing they've created. It's their baby, it's their business. And so therefore, they tend to overvalue it because they've. They've attached their identity to it. And they're like, yeah, but it's mine, it's my thing. And they, they have a very emotional history with the thing. So when they're selling the business or making a decision, they're like, you know, the business might actually be valued for, you know, a million dollars, but the business owner, because of how much they've put into it, and there's a lot of emotion behind it, they're like, well, I'm selling it for 3 million. Okay. We tend to have our own bias. So it's overvaluing something you own. This is. Could also be like putting your house on the market. It's just being like, oh, no, we've put so much time, like, it's almost like based on your happy memories, you're going to up the price of your home simply because it's yours. So we have this endowment effect, this idea of like, overvaluing or keeping something too long simply because it's yours. Okay, here's the third one. And this one is a doozy. I hope you're ready because this, this one hit me like a gut punch. And I had to do a lot of work around this. And you'll understand why when I unpack it. This is known as the principle of consistency number three. The principle of consistency. Continuing to do something you've previously done in order to be viewed by yourself and others as consistent. I will read that again. Continuing to do something you've previously done in order to be viewed by yourself and others as consistent. Excuse me, who's been in my diary? How many of you are like, oof, I heard that. I heard that. And it hit me like a gut punch. This is, this is Keel. I think it's. I'm gonna say it wrong, but Kial Dini's principle of consistency states the following. Once people make a decision, take a stand, or perform an action, they will face an interpersonal pressure to behave in a consistent manner with what they have said or done previously. Here's the thing. Consistency is great in driving in actions that compound to give you the desired result. But this is where I think we stall out in life. And we do not give our self permission to evolve. Because if I have to be consistently seen as this person who does these things, that'd be like, okay, you perceive me as somebody who drinks my, you know, triple grande latte every single day with my skim milk and sugar free vanilla. And every day you can count on me being at the coffee shop at 7:00 with my coffee order. And now imagine you suddenly have this desire to try A different coffee, like a gingerbread latte. And you show up to your Starbucks and your barista is like, oh, I already knew you were coming. I already made your latte. Here it is. And now we have this interpersonal pressure of like, oh, I don't want the barista. I'm not going to inconvenience the barista because I'm changing things. I'm changing things up here. I'm creating a state of chaos because I'm now no longer the consistent customer they perceive me to be. That's on a very, very basic, non threatening level. Some of you are like, it's totally fine, but let's take this to an emotional level. Let's take this to not feeling like you are allowed to evolve and change as a person because people, your loved ones, because you're afraid of how they will perceive you. That's not who you are. Wait, no, that's. You've never done that. You've always been this person. Why are you doing that? Why are you. Because suddenly you are becoming unpredictable to them. And by the way, this is why people can have such a strong reaction to you evolving. Because before they could predict your behavior and therefore orient themselves around how to predict your behaviors. But when you become unpredictable, they now feel unsafe because they don't know what your next move is. And if they are not a self aware person, they're not realizing, oh wow, what I'm actually feeling is high levels of discomfort. And that's a, that's something for me to work on. What they end up doing is projecting and making you wrong for how they're feeling about your different behaviors. And so a lot of people, because they don't want to, you know, ruffle feathers, you know, upset people around them, they live in this. I have to be who everyone expects me to be to keep the peace. This is a form of plain small. Now you can imagine how this felt like a massive gut punch to me of. And where I really believe it's this one right here. Number three, where my panic attack became full blown because I'm like, I felt like I was not allowed to evolve or change because oftentimes when we evolve, some people perceive your evolution as a betrayal. To them, you've changed. And they take that as a betrayal or even a form of abandonment. I want you to think of a time when somebody in your life maybe moved on to something else, something bigger, and you felt a sense of abandonment or betrayal. Was it a church pastor? Was it a teacher, Was it some guide that you looked up to. And they're like, I've loved serving you, and now I got offered this bigger job or this thing over here where I get to have a bigger impact. And it felt like your abandonment wounds just got ripped open all over again. And suddenly this person evolving feels like the deepest betrayal of their relationship with you as a guide or as a mentor, as a person. How interesting. And so in order to protect the peace, we shrink ourselves being like, okay, I'm just not going to evolve because I don't want to make waves. And I made an agreement with myself that I wasn't going to shrink myself or downsize what I meant to do in the world, because some people might have thoughts about that. It's also why I was really clear in the beginning, like, hey, here's my stance. I still believe so much in this industry. I love it so much. But I'm feeling called to something bigger. I'm feeling called to a bigger impact, bigger audience. And yeah, and what's interesting is, and I've listened to people say, like, there are going to be some people in your life that aren't going to listen to anything you have to say because they want to just have their thoughts about you and there's nothing you can do to change that. I'm already having to decide ahead of time, like, okay, of course there are going to be some people that will never listen to these podcast episodes, will never read my emails, and they're going to have this concrete belief about me and spread that around or believe these things. And I have had to surrender, realizing I cannot control what people think about me and being somebody who cares deeply about serving others. It's a weird tension to sit in, like, oh, I really, really want to serve people. Oh, But I also really, really don't want to be misunderstood. But then I've had to realize I've always been misunderstood. It's just some people are going to be louder about it than others. Okay, so I want to talk about this idea of evolution because maybe you are feeling your own sense of evolving, or maybe you've had a fear of growing and we're just naming some of the reasons why. You know, the sunk cost bias, the endowment effect, the consistency principle, the idea that evolution to some people is perceived as betrayal. I want to actually read you the definition of evolution. To evolve as a person means to gradually develop and change over time, becoming a better version of yourself by learning, growing, and adapting to new experiences, perspectives, and challenging challenges, often involving increased self awareness, personal growth, and a deeper understanding of Your values and beliefs. Essentially, it's about actively working to improve yourself in all aspects of your life. I will say this. I feel like when you have a deeper understanding of your values and beliefs, the very next step of you having an understanding of that is realigning any part of your life that feels out of alignment with this new understanding of your values and beliefs. I think every time we evaluate our values and our beliefs, we naturally orient parts of our life to ensure that it's in alignment. And suddenly the things that we were okay with start to grate on our nerves or we become uncomfortable with. Why? Because we have a better understanding of ourselves and our values and our beliefs. And we. And that's when we start noticing when things are out of alignment. And that's when discomfort really starts to rise up until we pay attention to it being like, wow, I'm so uncomfortable. I can't ignore this anymore. And I described that in last week's episode. For me, there's a few key aspects of personal evolution. One is self reflection. Just being somebody who examines your thoughts, your actions and behaviors to identify areas for improvement. We should always be doing this. We are never like, I've arrived. I've. I've done all my personal growth. Now, I'm not sure if you've heard this, but, like, that's why we call it a personal growth journey. It's not like a, hey, personal growth destination. You know, hop on this podcast and we're going to arrive, and then we're all going to be these shiny perfect humans that never have negative thoughts or stories about ourselves or pain in our life. No, no, that's not. That's not how this works. Right? We're always in the work of self reflection and self evaluation. The second one is learning and growth. I love this. Actively seeking new knowledge, skills, and experiences to expand your perspective. I see that. I hear that. But then I see and hear people that are like, I'm totally open to hearing new thoughts and perspectives. But then as soon as they're hearing someone else's perspective, they're immediately. They're not active listening. They're moving into, like, just shut up and stop talking so I can tell you my perspective. So I feel like this. This learning and growth requires us to have this beginner mentality and requires us to be like, all right, I'm willing to learn some new things. Next is adaptability, embracing change and adjusting to new situations with flexibility. Talking about that. This next one. I love this, guys. This is the work. This is the work right here. Emotional intelligence, developing a deeper understanding of your own emotions and the emotions of others. And then your. And then lastly, your ethical considerations, reflecting on your values and then acting in accordance with your moral compass. That's exactly what I was talking about. When you realize, when you have a deeper understanding of yourself, your work in the world, your values, what's most meaningful, the natural next step is to bring in your actions and bring them into accordance with this understanding of yourself. And of course, there are going to be people who do not like watching you evolve. And I find it's a couple reasons. One, your evolution, depending on the relationship, can challenge the power dynamic in that relationship. So if someone has power over you when you are playing small, when you decide to evolve, to grow, to change, to put in a boundary, to have a voice, what you're doing is you're challenging the power dynamic. And people that thrive on power because they have their own work to do, they will suddenly start to look for ways to reestablish and gain the power back. So it could be form of abuse, gaslighting, telling you that you've changed, showing a lot of displeasure for your growth, talking you out of it, making you wrong for growing. So that's one. Okay. Another one is because you have decided to take agency in your life, meaning, I cannot keep waiting for good things to happen to me in my life. The only way my life gets better is if I get better. If I change how I go about this life, what happens is, is you make somebody who, who has chosen a state of chronic helplessness in their life. You, them watching you become your own agent of change brings a level of awareness to them where they realize, like, oh, maybe I'm not helpless and I'm choosing that. And that's a very hard thing to see because I find, especially people that have watched you change and grow over many different seasons. Watching somebody grow. I don't know about you, but for me, when I see somebody grow, it always challenges me where I have to ask myself, where am I holding myself back? Or where am I playing small in ways that they have chosen to overcome? So I find someone else's growth forces us into one or two, one of two places. One, into comparison, where I feel like, that's a shame narrative, like, what's wrong with me? They have it so much better than me. You know, it's because they have all these other resources and things that I don't have. And maybe there's some truth to that, but I. I have very rarely seen somebody say they have resources that I don't. And I've very rarely seen a person with that mindset decide to go out and become resourceful. I usually see that mindset lead to, because I don't have, you know, I'm not afforded those privileges or whatever. And I'm not talking about socioeconomic and racial context right now. What I'm just talking about is in, in the simple day to day of like, because it's not easily and readily available to me. I am therefore helpless. And so what I'm saying is like with this comparison thing, when I see shame, take the narrative, helplessness inevitably follows. This, this, this is my fixed state in life. And that's where I see somebody waiting for their life to change. And it's 10 years down the road and they're looking at their life and they're like, nothing in my life has changed. Every year is the same. So comparison is the one response to watching someone change. And if the shame is loud enough, resentment will creep in like, I hate you for how you've changed and you've left me behind. The second one would be inspiration. Well, if they can change, if they can become resourceful, if they can do scary things and maybe I can too. You can give somebody else permission to evolve too. I find when we grow, it forces other people to look in the mirror if they're self aware. Otherwise they like to point the finger and be like, here's all the reasons why your growth makes me really uncomfortable and why it's your fault that I'm feeling uncomfortable. And I want to remind you of that. Like if you're growing, if you're doing big things in your life, of course people that are uncomfortable with your growth are going to make it a you problem. It is not a you problem, it is a them problem. Because they're not self aware enough to realize, oh, what this is revealing to me is my own work. Where I've been playing small, where I have been negotiating with myself, where I've been choosing to be helpless in situations where I don't have to be, where I've been sitting with the sunk cost bias or the consistency principle, or I've been living my life so I could be perceived a certain way by everyone around me so that I can keep the peace. And the cost of becoming somebody who has to keep the peace is they rob themselves of inner peace at being at peace with themselves. So this is kind of the anatomy and the hard parts of a pivot growth, grief, evolution, betrayal, are natural aversions to loss. Now I'm not done announcing and talking about the changes that are coming. There's going to be maybe one or two more podcast episodes where I'll be sharing more. But what I want to do is I want to wrap up this episode with a couple quotes from this book, Courage Is Calling by Ryan Holiday. I really like Ryan Holiday, and this is about all growth is a leap, okay? All growth is a leap in the dark. If you're afraid of that, you'll never do anything worthwhile. If you take the counsel of your fears, you'll never take that step or make that leap. The coward waits for the stairs that will never come. They want to know the probabilities. They want time to prepare. They want assurances. They hope for a reprieve. They're willing to give up anything to get these things, including this moment of opportunity that will never, ever come back. Florence Nightingale reminds us this rather 10 times die in the surf, heralding the way to a new world than stand idly on the shore. You are here for such a brief time on this planet, in this job as a young person or whatever, how do you want to spend your life? Like a coward? If fear is to be a driving force in your life, fear what you'll miss. Fear what happens if you don't act. Fear what they'll think of you down the road for having dared so little. Think of what you're leaving on the table. Think of the terrifying costs of playing small. The fear you feel is a sign. If courage is never required in your life, you're living a boring life. Put yourself in a position that demands you leap. All right, friends, courage is calling. I hope you answer the call. We'll catch you in the next episode.
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Podcast Summary: The Kristen Boss Podcast – Episode 226: The Pivot: Part 2
Podcast Information:
In Episode 226, titled "The Pivot: Part 2," Kristen Boss delves deeper into the concept of pivoting within the entrepreneurial journey. Building upon the discussions from the previous episode, Kristen explores the psychological underpinnings of making significant changes in business and personal life. She emphasizes the importance of vulnerability, the challenges of evolving, and the profound impact of embracing change.
Kristen begins by expressing gratitude for the heartfelt responses from her audience following the last episode. She introduces the concept of a "vulnerability hangover," describing it as the aftermath of sharing personal truths and feeling exposed. Kristen emphasizes that "vulnerability is the pathway to creating meaningful connection with anyone in your life" (00:20).
Addressing questions from her community, Kristen clarifies that her pivot does not reflect a loss of faith in the network marketing industry. Instead, she maintains her belief in the industry's potential as a viable business model for diversifying income streams. She states:
"I still firmly believe in this business model being a really amazing approachable way for people to add streams of income to their home without having to go back to school, clock in, go to a 9 to 5." (02:30)
Kristen distinguishes herself from traditional network marketers by positioning herself as an educator and coach dedicated to empowering others within the industry.
Kristen explores the essence of pivoting, contrasting it with the misconception that pivoting equates to quitting. She shares her personal experience of grappling with change, likening it to taking a leap into the unknown—a process fraught with fear and uncertainty.
"All growth is a leap in the dark. If you're afraid of that, you'll never do anything worthwhile." (35:10)
She references Dr. Benjamin Hardy's concept from "10x is Easier than 2x," highlighting the psychological barriers that prevent individuals from embracing growth and change.
Kristen delves into the psychological factors that fuel resistance to change, emphasizing the role of loss aversion. She outlines three primary manifestations:
Sunk Cost Bias: The tendency to continue investing in a failing endeavor due to the time and resources already invested.
"I've been here for five years, I've been here for 10 years, I've been doing this for 15 years... I saw them go bankrupt because simply because they're like, I should." (22:50)
Endowment Effect: Overvaluing something simply because it is owned or created by oneself.
"We tend to overvalue something you own. This is why people stay in unhealthy relationships because we've built so much together." (27:30)
Principle of Consistency: The desire to act in ways that are consistent with past behaviors to maintain a stable self-image.
"Continuing to do something you've previously done in order to be viewed by yourself and others as consistent." (29:10)
Kristen shares her personal struggles with these biases, recounting how they caused significant emotional turmoil during her pivot.
Kristen defines personal evolution as the gradual development and change towards becoming a better version of oneself. She outlines key aspects essential for growth:
Self-Reflection: Continuously examining one's thoughts and actions to identify areas for improvement.
"We are never like, I've arrived. I've done all my personal growth."
Learning and Growth: Actively seeking new knowledge and experiences to broaden perspectives.
"This requires us to have this beginner mentality... I'm willing to learn some new things."
Adaptability: Embracing change and adjusting to new situations with flexibility.
Emotional Intelligence: Understanding and managing one's emotions and those of others.
Ethical Considerations: Aligning actions with one’s moral compass and values.
Kristen underscores that evolving necessitates realigning one's life to match newfound values, which often brings discomfort as previously acceptable elements may no longer resonate.
Kristen discusses the ripple effects of personal growth on relationships, noting that evolution can disrupt established power dynamics and lead to perceptions of betrayal. She illustrates how others may react negatively when someone they know begins to change:
"When you grow, it forces us into one of two places: into comparison or inspiration." (34:50)
She explains that while some may feel inspired by her growth, others might experience feelings of shame, resentment, or inadequacy, leading them to project their insecurities onto her.
Concluding the episode, Kristen emphasizes the necessity of courage in the face of fear to pursue meaningful change. She shares motivational quotes from Ryan Holiday's "Courage Is Calling," reinforcing the idea that:
"If courage is never required in your life, you're living a boring life." (38:10)
These insights serve as a call to action for listeners to embrace their fears and take decisive steps towards their personal and professional aspirations.
Kristen Boss (00:20):
"Vulnerability is the pathway to creating meaningful connection with anyone in your life."
Kristen Boss (35:10):
"All growth is a leap in the dark. If you're afraid of that, you'll never do anything worthwhile."
Kristen Boss (22:50):
"I've been here for five years, I've been here for 10 years, I've been doing this for 15 years... I saw them go bankrupt because simply because they're like, I should."
Kristen Boss (27:30):
"We tend to overvalue something you own. This is why people stay in unhealthy relationships because we've built so much together."
Kristen Boss (29:10):
"Continuing to do something you've previously done in order to be viewed by yourself and others as consistent."
Kristen Boss (38:10):
"If courage is never required in your life, you're living a boring life."
In "The Pivot: Part 2," Kristen Boss provides an in-depth exploration of the complexities associated with making significant changes in one's entrepreneurial journey and personal life. She candidly shares her struggles with loss aversion and the psychological barriers that impede growth, offering valuable insights into overcoming these challenges. Kristen's emphasis on vulnerability, self-reflection, and courage serves as a powerful guide for entrepreneurs seeking to navigate the uncertainties of pivoting towards greater impact and fulfillment.
Listeners are encouraged to embrace their fears, engage in continuous personal evolution, and recognize that growth often requires stepping into the unknown. Kristen's authentic storytelling and practical strategies aim to inspire and equip entrepreneurs to create purposeful and meaningful lives.
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