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Lauren LaRosa
This is an I heart podcast. Guaranteed human.
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Wheezy
This is wheezy. WTF from Decisions, decisions, ladies. Let's talk about taking control of our sexual health. That's grown woman energy. You may think HIV affects someone else somewhere else, but the truth is it's impacting our community. And some of us are being hit harder than others. Black women make up just 13% of the women in the US yet account for nearly half of new HIV diagnoses amongst women. Taking care of ourselves is community care. Know your options, ask questions, and protect your peace and your body. That's using your power. Sponsored by Care for the Culture from Gilead Sciences.
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Dr. J. Barnett
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Superhuman Podcast Host
Imagine an Olympics where doping is not only legal, but encouraged. It it's the enhanced games. Some call it grotesque. Others say it's unleashing human potential. Either way, the podcast Superhuman documented it all. Embedded in the games and with the athletes for a full year.
- [01:33]
Superhuman Athlete
Within probably 10 days, I'd put on £10. I was having trouble stopping the muscle growth.
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Superhuman Podcast Host
Listen to Superhuman on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.
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Lauren LaRosa
The story I told myself can then shape my behavior, and that can lead me to sabo, the possibility of connection
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Debbie Brown
this mental health awareness month. Tune into the podcast Deeply well with Debbie Brown. If you've been searching for a soft place to land while doing the work to become whole, this podcast is for you. To hear more. Listen to Deeply well with Debbie Brown from the Black Effect Podcast Network on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast.
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Lauren LaRosa
I'm the homegirl that knows a little bit about everything and everybody know she don't lie. That right, Lauren came in hot. Hey, y', all, what's up? It's Lauren LaRosa. And this is another episode of the Latest with Lauren LaRosa. This is your daily dig on all things pop culture, entertainment news, and all of the conversations that shake the room. Baby. Now we're gonna Check in real quick behind the scenes of the grind. And I am really, really excited. I am here in Miami experiencing the Accelerate her conference for the very first time ever. And I'm just really happy that I decided to come. It almost didn't happen because I thought, you know, I couldn't get out of work this week. And just being out of the studio and not being in the studio, when it comes to Breakfast Club, I try to prioritize that. And then all of the, you know, the rich aunties, the OGs, called me and was like, girl, what is wrong with you? You need to be in this room. And I'm so happy that I made it down here. I'm going to be bringing you guys some audio from my here, so stay tuned. But what I'm gathering thus far is, you know, the, the, the Global Leadership Conference because it's not just a gathering of all of the beautiful and most powerful black women in the world. It is a leadership conference. So you're learning. What I'm learning is that as you walk into these new rooms, it is very important to have tribe. And your tribe can look like people that have been in your life from the very beginning of your life. People that you met along the way, who were there before, a lot of the things that you're walking into, but also people that you met who are doing, doing more, doing even the same as you that you meet while you're doing these things. People have so many conversations about women and, you know, the competition with us. And they're only being room for one and being lonely at the top. And I'm meeting mad women down here who they're doing it all. They got the family, they got the coin, the investments, the big jobs, like they eating it up. So I am inspired and I'm gonna be talking about this, so you guys will be too. So let's get on into the latest now. I have a special guest here with me on the latest today. And my special guest is here because I talked about this on the Breakfast Club some days ago. She is, you know, on the other side of this Chris Brown Usher tour conversation. So we talked a bit about Chris Brown responding to critics who had something to say about people going out to support his tour. So what he. Here's what he had to say. The funniest and weirdest shit ever to me is the fact that people have option to come to my tour and the option not to. I know everyone who is a fan of me and Usher will definitely be in the building and it will Be packed just like last year. Then he continues. But I'm scrolling through instant TikTok and I come across rage bait pages or these fake woke stand up for nothing pages. Bashing people for wanting to come out and have a good time. The dudes hating. And I can understand that thinking we going to steal your girl. But the Karen and the self hating hoes be making me laugh. I can't wait to rub this in your face. And then he put three laughing emojis right now. This tour is kicking off in the next month or so. They're headed to like it's like over 30 cities that they're hitting. I mean, and it's Chris Brown and Usher. I have seen Chris Brown in performance and it's breathtaking. And I've also seen Usher twice. I saw Usher at the Vegas residency, which was like, it was a. I've never experienced showmanship like that and just the way he is on stage. And I also got to experience the tour version of that show when he did his tour and he was giving the cherries and doing all the things. Now, my guest on today's episode is not one of the self hating hoes that are on TikTok. She is on the side of getting a little pushback because she's going to the tour and she's a Chris Brown fan and she got a man. Welcome to the episode. Our editor, I talk about her all the time. Ms. Taylor made it. Hi. So first, okay. Talk to them about, you know, where you're going to see the tour and how long you've been a Chris Brown fan. Chris Brown. Usher. Just Chris Brown that you're a fan of.
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Taylor
Both of them. Okay, sure. Actually, interesting enough, Usher I think was like my first like celebrity crush as a kid.
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Lauren LaRosa
Really?
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Taylor
After his song you skipped like Bow
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Lauren LaRosa
Wow, the rest of us started.
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Taylor
I wasn't there yet. I'm talking about like first hearing music. Like when I heard. When I saw him on my way, I was like, who is that? And I'm like, I don't know, maybe. How old am I? Maybe eight or so. I don't know either way. And then I'm a huge fan of Chris Brown and I just think he's super talented. And both of them actually super talented.
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Lauren LaRosa
Like, this is.
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Taylor
This is a tour I've been waiting for. Because even when it came to them putting songs out, I was like, why are they not putting more songs out? So I'm super excited. So I'm doing. I'm gonna see them in New Orleans. Me and my Bestie. So I'm looking forward to it. Good food and a good concert.
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Lauren LaRosa
So I know BAE is not the happiest about that. And I mean. Okay, so I was telling Taylor, right? Like, I know men, because even Charlamagne and Envy, they be like, our wives are not gonna go see Usher by themselves. Like, it's just not happening.
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Taylor
But it's. I mean, I don't. Usher's Marry Joe, like, first of all. And second, too, like, Chris Brown don't want me either, like, if we're gonna be for real. But I also am not also that girl to be, like, risk it all and go chase it. Because it's kind of crazy if I did that. If you think about it, like, all the celebrities, we meet up here, and, like, it's. It's kind of crazy. I wouldn't do that, I think.
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Lauren LaRosa
Okay, so here's what I was telling Taylor, right? Like, you know, as we're navigating the space, because. And I can't speak for women who don't work in the industry.
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Taylor
Yeah.
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Lauren LaRosa
I can only speak for on the other side, because that's what we're experiencing. Like, even though you're not typically on the mic or typically in front of the camera, you are in the industry. You have been for some years. You work with real really notable and respected voices and everything that you do with imaging and your own production company. Right. So you can pick up the phone and make some phone calls. So I think for bae, this was. I was telling her it's a thing of, okay, it's already a girls trip. And the guys be slick hating when it's a girls trip. Now you can't find your passport. And, you know, the babysitter didn't anonymously. Anonymously canceled because baby been like, say, tell her you can't do it. Right. All these things are happening because he doesn't want you to go because it's a girls trip. Right. But more so it's just. It's the thing. You could pick up the phone and end up backstage with the Usher, backstage with the Chris Brown. And I know you, so I know, like, that don't mean nothing to you. Like, you could care less. You see those people all the time throughout the Breakfast Club. But I'm wondering how many people are also going through this in real life. Because when Chris Brown put that, I thought that part of it was like. That was like, the joking part of it. Yeah, I know people that are upset that people want to support Chris Brown because people still think that he should Live in all of the consequence of, you know, the issues with Rihanna from some time ago and then, you know, the things with KRUE and all of that. But, you know, so any. Even female artists when they do songs with Usher. I mean, Usher, when they do songs with Chris Brown or It's a thing when they stand up for him. I remember Kelly Rowland had that moment where she, you know, stood up for him at the. I believe it was the BET Awards. Yeah. They get pushed back. It is a thing. But I didn't know in real life, it's a thing of guys being like, oh, no, you're not going there.
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Taylor
You know, it's crazy. He came with me to. This year.
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Lauren LaRosa
He's with you. It's different. Because not only. It's not just about Chris Brown, Usher, and it's Taylor gonna, like, go be a groupie, and we know you're not going to do that. But it's also like, I feel like men go to those type of concerts too, looking for women who are there that are by themselves that are single. Because, I mean, duh.
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Taylor
Yeah. Like, if I'm a man, don't think women aren't paying. Even if guys are coming like that, I don't feel like the women are paying them any mind. At least I wouldn't if I was single. Like, I'm like, okay, you. You like Chris Brown, Usher, too. I'm not looking at them, like, trying to holler at all.
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Lauren LaRosa
I understand it, but I also. I. I understand his side. Not to the point where, like, you should feel like you shouldn't go. You also, I mean, both of y' all just recently had a baby, but the baby came out of your whole body. You deserve a little breaky break. Thank you. I. I brought my guests on today, guys, because y' all know I'm always getting, you know, close to the source, close to the problem, and close to the exclusive. I wanted you guys to hear in real time the girls are out here getting the pushback about going to go see Chris Breezy and Usher because the booze. The boo's a little upset. I didn't. I didn't know it was real. Especially because you be having women at Usher's concert who are there with their man.
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Taylor
Yeah.
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Lauren LaRosa
Doing the whole cherry challenge. Yeah.
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Taylor
Mommy would not allow that.
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Lauren LaRosa
I know one. I was about to say, I know one thing. If Usher even blink your way with a cherry, saying, girl, during the cherry part, put your drink down. Sober up a bit. Don't try. Don't. I used to always tell My mom. Oh, my God. Older people are so stubborn. They just do things they're not supposed to do. I used to tell my mom when she was like, kind of like a bed rest and she would be trying to do stuff, whenever I was leaving the house, I'd be like, please, no gymnastics. Don't. Don't be out here trying things. Not today. Taylor, when you go to that, no gymnastics. Okay?
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Debbie Brown
I wouldn't.
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Taylor
I would know where. I don't think my seats are, like, right in front for even that.
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Lauren LaRosa
See, but even that could change one mention or one. Oh, Usher's coming here, you know, to Breakfast Club. Or I said here. This. This is not Breakfast Club, but Ushers coming to the Breakfast Club to promote. And then we all, you know, are having conversations, and it's like, that's. That's normally sometimes how, like, we end up even going to the shows. It's like, once we over on the Breakfast Club side or even here with the podcast sometimes, too. Like, when I'm in contact with an artist team that is interested in me, like, you know, interviewing the artist or whatever, a lot of times I'm like, if you want me to talk about something I like, I don't just say yes. Because artist is a celebrity a lot of times, especially with the Latest with Lauren LaRose of the podcast, I like taking you guys into the real. Like, come with me to the concert. So I'm bringing y' all back audio from the concert. I'm doing all the things. Yeah. So they. They look out, they make sure that the tickets are right and all that, because they know that that's a part of the experience that I deliver to my audience. And you're a part of building audience here on the podcast at Breakfast Club. So, you know, you never know what the seats may end up being.
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Taylor
But listen, my baby has nothing to worry about.
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Lauren LaRosa
You're allergic to cherries. You heard that?
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Taylor
I am, actually.
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Lauren LaRosa
I really don't like them. You heard that, right?
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Taylor
Right?
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Wheezy
This is wheezy. Wtf. From Decisions, Decisions. You know, a lot of us grew up not fully trusting the healthcare system. And honestly, the system has given us plenty of reasons to feel that way. But now it's time for us to take control of the conversation, to take control of our sexual health, learn the facts, ask questions, and advocate for ourselves. That's how we start changing the story. So let's talk. We like to think HIV is something that affects other people, but it is hitting our own community hard. Black women make up about 13% of women in the US but account for nearly half of all new HIV diagnosis around women. And being proactive doesn't mean you just don't trust your partner. It just means you trust yourself enough to stay in control. So know your options, ask questions and protect your peace and your body. That's real power. Because protecting yourself isn't embarrassing, it's responsible. Sex is normal. Protecting yourself should be normal too. Actually, it's kind of badass. Taking control of your sexual health is grown woman energy. Sponsored by Care for the culture from Kelly AD Sciences.
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Dr. J. Barnett
What's up everyone? This is Dr. J. Barnett and I am the host of just heal with Dr. J. It's hard to believe that the first phone call ever happened over 150 years ago. Just think about that. I also want you to think about. What time is it? It's springtime. It's time to get outside and enjoy this beautiful weather. Hang out with some family and friends. Listen, I tell you who I'm going to connect with. I'm going to connect with myself because it's my birthday month. Yes, I am a spring baby. I'm gonna take me some runs, I'm gonna take me some long walks. I'm gonna probably go get some brunch too. You know, a little birthday brunch. And you know what I'm saying? Over all of these years and phone calls, AT&T has been there, connecting people in meaningful ways. This is more than just a story of technology and innovation. It's a story of human connection. And listen, with over 150 years of connecting, I just want to take this opportunity to remind you to call someone that you care about, because that's what it's about. Connecting.
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Lauren LaRosa
Connecting changes everything. AT&T.
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Superhuman Podcast Host
Imagine an Olympics where doping is not only legal, but encouraged. It's the Enhanced Games. Some call it grotesque, others say it's unleashing human potential. Either way, the podcast Superhuman documented it all, embedded in the games and with the athletes for a full year.
- [15:42]
Superhuman Athlete
Within probably 10 days, I'd put on £10. I was having trouble stopping the muscle growth.
- [15:48]
Superhuman Podcast Host
Listen to Superhuman on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.
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Iris Palmer
I'm Iris Palmer and my new podcast is called Against All Odds. And that's exactly what the show is about. Doing whatever it takes to beat the odds. Get ready to some of your favorite entrepreneurs and entertainers as they share stories about defying expectations, overcoming barriers and breaking generational patterns. I'm talking to people like award winning actress, producer and director Eva Longoria.
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Iris Palmer Guest
I think I had like $200 in my savings account and my mom goes, what are you going to do? And I was like, I'll figure it out. We had a one bedroom apartment for like $400 a month and we all could not afford. Like I was like, how am I going to make $100 a month?
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Taylor
Month.
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Iris Palmer
I'm opening up like I've never before. For those of you who think you know me from what you've seen on social media, get ready to see a whole new side of me. Listen to Against All Odds with Iris Palmer as part of the My Cultura podcast network, available on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcast, or wherever you get your podcast.
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Lauren LaRosa
Right. Well, I mean, speaking of the bae, the family and all of the news. So Taylor recently became a mom. Baby Patrick Jr. It's how old now?
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Taylor
Like nine months.
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Lauren LaRosa
Nine months? I was gonna say eight. I wasn't too far off.
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Taylor
Yeah.
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Lauren LaRosa
So I saw this post with Serena Williams that I wanted to do here in the podcast, but I'm like, this isn't something I could do by myself because I'm not a parent yet, but I do have some feelings. So Serena Williams got on X and she has her daughter with her husband, Alexis. And she said, I told my daughter to go to bed. She did not. Therefore she missed out on her sleepover. She cried. But what she did not know is I cry harder. I hate when she cries. And she put a broken heart emoji discip. Sucks. But sometimes it's important.
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Taylor
Yeah, it's true. I mean, my son's not there yet. I don't know how old her, her daughter is.
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Lauren LaRosa
Let me look it up.
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Taylor
But I don't know though. It depends what I'm disciplining. Like for me to cry, that they're sad or whatever.
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Lauren LaRosa
It will have to, it will have
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Taylor
to depend on something because if there's something they did, I'm mad and I don't care about your feelings. Like go to bed crying. Doesn't matter.
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Lauren LaRosa
Serena has two daughters. Believe she's talking about her youngest. Yeah.
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Taylor
Oh, when did that happen? Thought it was just one.
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Lauren LaRosa
I thought it was one too for some. Why do I, Why do I only remember? I feel like cuz we, I feel like her first daughter who's now 8 years old. We were, we were so heavily invested because it was like, oh my God, Serena Williams is having a baby.
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Iris Palmer Guest
Yeah.
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Lauren LaRosa
But yeah, so her first daughter is eight years old, that is Olympia. And then her younger daughter, Ardera Adira was born in August of 20, 23. She is 2 years old. So from the. The photo that they put on this blog, it's a photo of her and her younger daughter. So I'm assuming she's talking about a younger daughter, but both of them are young. I. So here's my thought. And I see little Mo seeing her little Mo in the comments of this post. They posted this over at Neighborhood. They posted this over on Hollywood Unlocked. So in the comments of the post on Hollywood Unlocks Instagram, Little Mo says, girl, you from Compton. Since when you start crying over discipline? Knock it off. Y' all still black. Tell that baby go to bed and get some rest. And you go lay down, too. I. So my. My first instinct when I read it, I'm like, serena Williams got soft on us. Like, what you crying? Cause she can't make her sleepover. And then I was like, wait, I
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Taylor
don't get it, though, why she couldn't make her sleepover? Because she didn't go to bed.
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Lauren LaRosa
I think that was her punishment. That's what I figured. Yeah. So she says, I told my daughter to go to bed. She did not. Therefore, she missed out on her sleepover. So. And so she punt. Like, basically for not listening to her. She didn't allow her to go to the sleepover. Yeah, right. And when I read little Most comment, I'm like, that was kind of my first thought because I'm like, listen, my old school before Serena Williams is 44 years old. My mom, my aunts, my. Even my older cousins. Like, I have older cousins that. Cause my mom's a lot older than Serena, but my older cousins, who I call aunt, they're like, Serena Williams age. So, like, 45, 46, 50. They still whipping some behind, I'm sure, because they still come from that generation. I feel like our generation of parent independent. Because I know envy and charlamagne. Like, I've heard people talk about, like, not beating their kid, but I feel like our generation of kids, I mean, our generation of parent, they don't. They. We don't put our hands on our kids. Like, yeah, they. And that's what Little Mo want Serena to get busy.
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Taylor
I'm gonna be honest with you. I'm gonna get busy with my son, too. Well, I'm gonna let the father handle that more so when he's out of line.
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Lauren LaRosa
But I don't even know if I. I tried it. I tried to raise my voice at my niece one time, and I couldn't. I couldn't find myself to do it.
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Iris Palmer
I.
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Taylor
And. But that's the thing, though, with my. My parents, like, I was a. Like, yell at me. I'm gonna start crying. Like, I did not like being yelled at. And once they did that to me, they got me.
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Lauren LaRosa
Like, I was the drama. Like, I feel like me and my mom gave my brother a run for her money, but at different times in our life. Like, I think when I was younger, I was a little bit more mischievous just in the household, but I was always the one that was good outside. So, like, school stuff. Like, my mom never really ever had to come to the school and all that. My brother, yes. Complete opposite. What people didn't even believe we went to the same high school. I remember people always used to be like, it's no way. I grew up in the same household because he was just so different than me. My mom would be at the school all the time. His dad would have to come to school all the time. And, you know, my mom, I got. We got beans, like, up until a certain age where, like, she couldn't anymore. But here's an example. I was watching the Michael Jackson movie. And in the movie, there's a scene where Michael Jackson gets beat with a belt. And I remember in my mind, I was like, dang, I haven't heard nobody talk about beating her kid with a belt in so long. Like, it's just not a normal thing anymore. But when I was young, that was so normal. Yeah. And then I was thinking about how I felt watching it. I felt like, oh, my God, no, Stop hitting him. Just a little. Baby, why are you hitting him? But when I was growing up, it was so normal. So now that I think the times have changed, it's not about, she don't know she's black. The times have just changed. Like, we've been conditioned a lot differently now and been allowed to, because, I mean, Serena Williams is a very much softer life. And of course, so do her daughters.
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Taylor
Like, but I think when it comes to certain, like, I know for my cousin, like, she was just ended up taking stuff away from her son and would see that that would. That would hurt him a lot more than a beating, in a sense. Like, my mom, I remember she told me that when my brother was acting up in school, my mom went to all his classes and just stood in the back and that's like, this embarrassment for him. So, like, finding other tactics to just, like, try me again. And I think that. I think that's helpful. I don't think being necessarily is always the right answer either.
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Wheezy
Yeah, but this is wheezy wtf from decisions, decisions. You know, a lot of us grew up not fully trusting the healthcare system. And honestly, the system has given us plenty of reasons to feel that way. But now, now it's time for us to take control of the conversation, to take control of our sexual health. Learn the facts, ask questions, and advocate for ourselves. That's how we start changing the story. So let's talk. We like to think HIV is something that affects other people, but it is hitting our own community hard. Black women make up about 13% of women in the US but account for nearly half of all new HIV diagnosis around women. And being proactive doesn't mean you just don't trust your partner. It just means you trust yourself enough to stay in control. So know your options, ask questions, and protect your peace and your body. That's real power. Because protecting yourself isn't embarrassing, it's responsible. Sex is normal. Protecting yourself should be normal too. Actually, it's kind of badass. Taking control of your sexual health is grown woman energy. Sponsored by Care for the Culture from Gilead Sciences.
- [24:07]
Superhuman Podcast Host
Imagine an Olympics where doping is not only legal, but encouraged. It's the enhanced Games. Some call it grotesque. Others say it's unleashing human potential. Either way, the podcast Superhuman documented it all. Embedded in the games and with the athletes for a full year.
- [24:24]
Superhuman Athlete
Within probably 10 days, I'd put on £10. I was having trouble stopping the muscle growth.
- [24:30]
Superhuman Podcast Host
Listen to Superhuman on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.
- [24:36]
Iris Palmer
I'm Iris Palmer and my new podcast is called Against All Odds. And that's exactly what the show is about. Doing whatever it takes to beat the odds. Get ready to hear from some of your favorite entrepreneurs and entertainers as they share stories about defying expectations, overcoming barriers, and breaking generational patterns. I'm talking to people like award winning actress, producer and director Eva Longoria.
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Iris Palmer Guest
I think I had like $200 in my savings account and my mom goes, what are you gonna do? And I was like, I'll figure it out. We had a one bedroom apartment for like $400 a month and we all could not afford. Like, I was like, how am I gonna make $100 a month?
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Iris Palmer
I'm opening up like I've never before. For those of you who think you know me from what you've seen on social media, get ready to see a whole new side of me. Listen to Against All Odds with Iris Palmer as part of the My Cultura and Podcast podcast network, available on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast.
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Lauren LaRosa
Why is everyone obsessed with romance right now? Like everyone your co worker who quote unquote doesn't read. Is reading romance your mom?
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Tyler McCall
Book talk the entire Internet.
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Lauren LaRosa
I'm Sanjanah bhasker. I'm Tyler McCall and this is Radio831, a romance podcast. The books, the tropes, the adaptations, the drama, the discourse, and what all of
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Tyler McCall
it says about how we actually love, yearn and obsess.
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Lauren LaRosa
We're going to Wuthering Heights, which for
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Tyler McCall
the record, is not a romance novel.
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Lauren LaRosa
And yet it has haunted the romance genre for 200 years.
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Tyler McCall
We're getting into dark romance age gaps, certain Russian hockey players and sentient objects
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Lauren LaRosa
in love, which is a thing.
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Tyler McCall
That's the kind of conversation we're having every episode. Listen to the Radio 831 podcast starting on May 7th on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts.
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Lauren LaRosa
I always think about, like, when I have kids and I'm excited to bring kids into a world that will be a bit softer and will allow them to be a kid.
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Taylor
That's thing to you.
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Lauren LaRosa
My mom did a really good job of no matter what the circumstance was. Like, I had a great childhood, like, even great, like high school, all of that. Like, even when we were dealing with things, my mom made sure, like, we were, we, we had a really great upbringing surrounded by family love, all of that. But I still got to see like, okay, I bet I gotta work because my mom needs some help. Yeah, I'm growing up in the city for real. You know what I mean? Like, we always were lucky we didn't have to move houses. My mom owned her house. But I, like, I remember being young and having friends who moved houses, like a lot within a year and it was because their mom was trying to figure out affording things. And I used to always ask my mom, why don't we get the move? I want to move because, you know, like, as a kid, you're like, oh my God, a new house, right? And now that I'm grown, I'm like, oh, no. My mom provided a sense of stability for me when a lot of moms who were in our neighborhood couldn't figure that out and she was doing it by herself. So I just think about, you know, what my child's upbringing is going to be like and how different it'll be. Even though mine was great than mine. But I also just want to make sure my child is like, aware of what's of what's real and what's really happening in the world. Like, I see sometimes with kids in, you know, our generation raising kids, and I have friends that are raising them, and I'm like, these kids are growing up in, like, delusion, and it's beautiful on one instance to see a black kid, you know, have a soft life and, you know, all of that. And I love to see it. But then on the other hand, it makes me worry. I'm like, when these kids get in the world for real, like, anything gonna break them.
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Taylor
Yeah. Well, I would say, like, so for how my parents raised me, like, I was raised in the suburbs, but my dad always made the point, like, for me to also visit my cousins that were also somewhat in the hood, like, just so I could get different. Yeah. Backgrounds and understanding of.
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Lauren LaRosa
I used to be the cousin that was in the hood. But we had a good. We had a good career. We had a good setup. But, like, I remember some of my cousins, since I even been allowed to spend a night at my house just because their moms didn't like them being in the city. Like, you know what I mean? Yeah. And then going to their house, and even though they didn't live in the biggest houses and, like, they. Their moms weren't rich, they just didn't live in the city. So it was. It was a little different.
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Taylor
Yeah. But I don't. I would say, like, oh, well, from. With Philly versus the suburbs.
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Lauren LaRosa
Yes. Yeah. I mean, it's kind of like that with. With. If you're from Delaware. Anybody listening? It's like, Wilmington, where I grew up would be, like, living in Philly in certain parts is like. It's like. So I would say certain parts are like, how y' all got North Philly, South Philly, West Philly. So certain parts of the city that, like, you can find okay neighborhoods, okay blocks, but then in certain parts, where you, like, yo. Like, in a block that I grew up on. So it's a cross street. The cross street was cool because it always led to the highway. So the businesses is there. The bigger homes are there. That's where I lived at the. The street going the other side of my house. That's where, you know, everybody was on to come hang out. You didn't want to be down there. They were shooting, like, you know, like. So I. It's weird. Like, I had such a dual upbringing in my grandmother, like, her block. You don't want to be over there still to this day, I'll be like, my grandma loves sitting on her porch, I'd be like, my mom, it's the summertime, it's too much going on out here, but everybody in the neighborhood, nowhere. You know what I mean? But like, so I, I really. And then outside of my home upbringing, I had again, a lot of families. So I'm going to visit them and they're living in the suburbs. My mom is sending us, you know, to my. I had family living in LA at one point. We got to go there for the summer. Like, my mom made sure we got the experience of everything. And she was very real and very honest with us and she disciplined us in a way where it was like you understood consequence, you know, even though I tr. We tried it, we tried my mom, like, when we got older, we tried it. But I just, I don't know. When I see things like what Serena Williams is posting, it's like I feel for her. And I'm not nowhere near as successful as her, so I can't imagine the bubble she herself lives in now. Right. And then you're raising kids in that. But I also, it's like I'm always trying to figure out from my parent friends. That's why I'm glad you're here on the show today. Like, what is that balance and how do you realistically have that balance? Because even if you're not a celebrity. Right. I have friends that are just doing well for themselves and jobs outside of entertainment.
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Taylor
Yeah.
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Lauren LaRosa
And their children are living different lives than they grew up in. How do you keep the balance?
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Taylor
I think it's always to have a conversation and showing them too, though, like I said, like, with my dad, he made sure to, like, just show me different. I don't, I don't want to say it like that, but like, I will visit my cousins and they, they lived, I don't say live different life, but their surroundings weren't my surroundings in a sense.
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Lauren LaRosa
Right.
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Taylor
Like, I grew up in all white schools, all that stuff. But I hung around my cousins enough to get, I feel like a little, A little spunk, if anything. Or just like, I don't know, like. But when it comes to discipline, though, I don't think my. Well, my dad says that I didn't get disciplined enough because I could be brought sometimes.
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Lauren LaRosa
Yeah, that's fine. I think you're so well behaved. But you might act different around your mommy and dad, though.
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Taylor
You.
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Lauren LaRosa
Spoiled is what he said.
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Taylor
I was spoiled. Yeah, I was spoiled, too.
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Lauren LaRosa
I feel like me and my brother, even though my brother will argue so different, I feel like we were spoiled too.
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Taylor
I remember one time I was supposed to, like, she wanted me to fold laundry. And I think I was just stressed out over something as I'm throwing the fucking clothes and I got grounded and that was it. Like, I didn't. They just. I just couldn't go anywhere.
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Lauren LaRosa
Nah, you. I. I was a bit much. Like, it was when I got a car, got a little boyfriend, started feeling myself. Like me and my mom used to have it out. Like I was, I was, I was disrespectful. Like, it was bad. Like, really? Yes, me.
- [32:25]
Taylor
I'm gonna hear you're disrespectful because I got caught. I snuck out the house and I did. My parents took my phone away. Like, I couldn't had my phone, like at night time, but I had it like during the day going to school, but I couldn't go nowhere. And they just were trying to keep as much tabs on me as possible. But I was 17 at that time too, though, so I was about to be on my way to college, so
- [32:52]
Lauren LaRosa
it was around that time for me too. It was like 16, 17. Like me and my mom just weren't seeing eye to eye.
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Taylor
Me too.
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Lauren LaRosa
I also do though, you know what I. What I always think about with like, moms, especially, like black women and their moms. My mom really didn't know how to be a mom. Like, she was a great mom, but. Because I'm not gonna say she didn't know how to be a mom, but she went through a lot of. And still has a lot of trauma from her relationship with her mom. And I feel like because of that, I feel like I got the brunt of that a lot of times from my mom, like, in the way that she would speak to me, the way that she would react to certain things. It's like on one end she was super loving, great mom, but on the other end, it's like she didn't know how to be a mother without the chaos and without inflicting certain things that I used to always be like, that's not needed. And the older I got and the more I was doing on my own, I was like, I'm not taking this. So that's where we bumped heads at a lot. And. But I was in it and it got, you know, a bit dis. Like we used to argue. Like two people that didn't know each other on the street. Like, it was bad. Like, it was. It was very disrespectful. And when I went to college, not even like my first year, I think it was maybe toward the end of my first year, my second year of college, I remember just something just flipped for me, and I. It just made me appreciate my mom so much.
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Taylor
Fonder.
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Lauren LaRosa
Yeah. Like, even though me and my grandmother have always been close, me and my grandma have always been friends. And I feel like my grandmother treated me like how she should have treated my mom. So how she parented me was what my mom didn't get. So I got the back end of that from my mom, but my grandmother made up for that because she came in and. And was trying to, like, make up for what she didn't do with my mom. But, yeah, when I got to college, it flipped. And it was still not the best, but it flipped. But when my mom went through, like, her cancer journey, and, like, we spent. I think that was probably, like, in my adult life, the most amount of time we spent together, because I'm not, you know, in your adult life, you don't realize it, but, like, you working, you living your own life, y' all spend the time together as family, but it's not the same. Yeah. During that year, I was like. It was just me and her. So that made it to a point where, like, I kind of understood her a little bit different. I think I got to really see my mom as, like, a person.
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Taylor
Yeah.
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Lauren LaRosa
For the first time, versus my mom.
- [35:01]
Taylor
I'm seeing that now. Now with my mom, like. Well, I always saw it, like, my mom definitely was always a mom to me. Like, she never was, like, one of my little friends. Nothing like that. She Even still now. I think my mom, though, has a hard time just talking to me and relating to me, in a sense. I have to get her, like, drunk to, like, really chill out.
- [35:29]
Lauren LaRosa
See, my mom don't drink. My mom and my brother are smokers. My mom don't drink.
- [35:32]
Taylor
My mom. But my mom could be so. But she could just be tense sometimes, like, where she just needs to relax.
- [35:37]
Lauren LaRosa
Yeah.
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Taylor
But, you know, it's a work in progress. Me and my mom are much better than, like, you were saying, like, in high school, me and her. Like, my mom still looks as a rebellious child because I have an older.
- [35:50]
Lauren LaRosa
I have an older daughter. I feel like my brother is older daughter. Oh, you're the youngest.
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Taylor
I'm the youngest.
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Lauren LaRosa
Yeah. Yeah.
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Taylor
Okay.
- [35:54]
Lauren LaRosa
Yeah. The youngest always get that. I feel like my brother got that. I'm not the rebellious. I think I'm the one that kind. I mean, like, I'm the one that, like, my mom. My mom calls my brother for A lot, too. I would say, like, I'm the. I'm the one that, like, even though I didn't do everything right, I'm the one that did everything right. You know what I mean? Like, I went to college, like, all that stuff. My brother gets to, like, rebellious, do things his own way. But I will say, like, one of the things that I appreciate it. Appreciate about the fact that, like, me and my brother are very opposite people, is that I. When things get really, really crazy, he is so much better at, like, just keeping his cool and knowing it's gonna work out and kind of being that type of strength. Yeah. I'm the type of shift where, like, I'm a freak out, but, like, I' ma figure it out.
- [36:35]
Taylor
Yeah.
- [36:36]
Lauren LaRosa
He might not figure it out all the way through, but he knows it's gonna work out. Yeah. So I've learned to, like, appreciate our opposites a lot, especially in crazy moments where, like, no one would understand but him. Like, when my mom was going through all that with her cancer journey, it was like we. Me and my brother kind of got a bit closer in that because no one understood what we were feeling but us, because it's our mom. You know what I mean? So that kind of changed the dynamic, and it made me appreciate how, even though we used to find it, like, it used to be such an issue. Like, he'd be like, lauren spoiled and y' all care more about what she does and blah, blah. And I'll be like, they give you more leniency. They let you, like, what? My mom was charging me rent when I was staying in her house. You get to live there for free and all this. Like, I appreciate those differences. I feel like it raised us where, like, we kind of complete each other. So, like, I mean, she beat us the same, though.
- [37:27]
Taylor
I think if balance helps, like, even when it comes to just my mom and dad, like, my dad's a way more chilled, chilled partner than my mom is.
- [37:36]
Lauren LaRosa
Like.
- [37:37]
Taylor
Like, she's learned. I. I feel like, to. To calm herself.
- [37:41]
Lauren LaRosa
Yeah.
- [37:43]
Taylor
Just from experiences with stuff. But, like. Like, when my grandma was, you know, saying her last goodbyes, my mom was super calm. Like, then what? And I guess so she prepared herself for it. And, you know, it was coming eventually, but I was. I thought it was gonna be because her. My grandma and her were, like, close. Close. Yeah. So I know it's still her piece for her, but she told me, like, she still feels. Pete, she feels peace because she knew she did all she can to have her last years.
- [38:16]
Lauren LaRosa
Like, that's how I felt about my mom. And I thank God that she's still here, But I had to get myself to a point where I was like, you know, as long as. God, I know I did everything I could to have her, give her a fighting chance. Right. It's so weird how the rules reversed in that time of, like, me taking care of her and just making sure she had everything she needed to do. Well, yeah, that's kind of like how your parents are. It's like, you know, whether they're disciplining you or whatever, like, they're giving you everything you need to do well, because once you get out in the world, it's nothing they could do. I feel like, you know, when my mom was going through her cancer journey, I'm like, look, I'm gonna use all the resources I have. Imma use social media to get information I need and get help. I'm everything and whatever I can do. And I do the same with my grandmother, too. Like, it's like, I just want y' all to have everything that you need so you can live this life. And they still be wanting to make things hard. I'll be like, yo, I will buy your groceries every month, instacart it right to your door. I want to go grocery shop.
- [39:10]
Taylor
Why? Because it's their normalcy. Like, it's a normalcy.
- [39:14]
Lauren LaRosa
They want to go grocery shop, talk to random people. Now I'm on nervous they letting people bring their groceries to stay home.
- [39:22]
Taylor
But you have to remember, too, though, like you said, the roles are reversed, but they had a life when he was a baby, like, so they just
- [39:30]
Lauren LaRosa
want to relive that. Yeah, I get it. Well, thank you for joining me, Taylor.
- [39:34]
Taylor
Wait, we did. The more the story is with discipline
- [39:38]
Lauren LaRosa
is I think it's to each his own.
- [39:40]
Taylor
Yeah.
- [39:40]
Lauren LaRosa
And I think. I think it's to each his own. Every household is different, but I do think you do have to have a level of, like, sternness with a child, because I think they got to know that there's a line, but there should be a converse.
- [39:51]
Taylor
I think I feel like the older generation forgot about it, too. About, like, just knowing their child's feelings, too, though, like, know why they felt this way or did that, or, like, have that try to have a conversation with them, know why they were. Are getting punished and everything else. Like.
- [40:10]
Lauren LaRosa
Yeah, I agree. I agree. Well, thank you for joining me, girl.
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Taylor
Of course.
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Lauren LaRosa
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