Honesty or Betrayal? Sterling K Brown & Paradise Cast Tackle Running Into Your Partner’s Past

Summary

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Episode Overview

Podcast: The Latest with Loren LaRosa
Episode: Honesty or Betrayal? Stories About Running Into Your Partner’s Past
Date: April 8, 2026
Host: Loren LaRosa (with co-host Brandon, guest DJ Oso)
Theme:
This episode dives into the thorny topic of honesty versus betrayal in relationships, focusing on real-life and TV-inspired situations where people unexpectedly run into their partner’s romantic past. The conversation is spirited, personal, and full of relatable anecdotes, as Loren and her guests discuss radical honesty, what to do when secrets come out, and whether omitting the truth is the same as lying—especially when awkward introductions happen.

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Key Discussion Points and Insights

1. Wellness Check and Work-Life Stress

• [04:15-07:21]
  Loren and Brandon start by catching up. Brandon shares concern about his health (high blood pressure), which sparks a larger conversation about industry stress, sleep deprivation, and the mental shift from survival mode to living fully.
• Quote:
  • Loren: “You’re so used to being in survival mode, it’s okay to now, like—like, you’ve survived, girl. It’s okay to live now.” (06:56)

2. Paradise: The TV Show and Podcast Setup

• [09:00–11:19]
  Loren sets the main topic: a scenario from Hulu’s "Paradise" (with Sterling K. Brown and Ryan Michelle Bathé) where a man’s wife is unknowingly introduced to his former flame (now his therapist). The hosts review a related debate from the couple’s podcast, “I Have a Difference of Opinion.”

3. Honesty vs. Omitting the Truth in Relationships

• [11:22–22:52]
  Should you tell your partner about your connection to someone before an introduction? Or is not telling—omission—a form of lying?

  A. Should He Have Told His Wife?

  • DJ Oso:
    • “You build a better bond at home by just being honest.” (12:12)
    • “Hiding the truth is also a lie.” (12:29)
  • Brandon:
    • “Eventually that conversation will come up, but right there in the spot, tell me how that should go down.” (12:32)
  • Loren (on women’s intuition):
    • “My mind instantly goes to: so, you didn’t tell me—number one, you think I’m dumb because I know my man in and out. I can tell just by y’alls interaction there was more.” (12:59)

  B. Being Blindsided

  • DJ Oso: “I wouldn’t want to be blindsided. So let me go ahead and pay that respect forward so that, you know, she understands that’s how we operate.” (14:09)
  • Brandon shares a personal story: His girlfriend didn’t reveal past history with someone until after a group interaction. He felt “blindsided”—a common thread in these situations. (15:00-15:22)

  C. Real-Life Example from DJ Oso

  • [16:47–21:01]
    DJ Oso recounts meeting a cool colleague, Rick, telling his girlfriend about him, then going to Rick’s cookout—only to find out she and Rick dated, exposed by another partygoer. The betrayal of being left out and the feeling of being "played" led to the relationship ending.
    • “So I started feeling like, nah, this had to have been a spot. I think these people playing in my face. And that actually deteriorated that entire relationship.” (17:56)

  D. Trust, Transparency, and Relational Trauma

  • Loren emphasizes the pain and mistrust that come from having the truth withheld—especially for people with past relationship trauma.
    • “If I close my eyes and my ears right now, and you take over the wheel of my car, I know I’m gonna get home safe. I can’t trust you with my eyes and ears closed.” (18:03)
  • Openness, even about minor flings or interactions, is essential—especially when operating in the same social or professional circles.
    • “Even stuff like that matters, especially if y’all are working in the same arenas. I just rather put everything out there because I want to know everything—like, I don’t want no surprises.” (21:54)

4. Reading the Room: Intuition and Body Language

• [22:21–23:41]
  Loren and DJ Oso talk about how women can read signs and energy—the way their partner introduces someone, tone of voice, or even the way they answer the phone. Small cues reveal more than people realize.
  • Loren: “If I’ve been with you ... this is not my first time where I’m with you and you introduce me to someone of the opposite sex—I can tell the difference.”
  • DJ Oso: “The energy of the call definitely leaks by the way you communicate.”

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• Radical Honesty vs. Protecting Feelings:
  • DJ Oso (12:12): “You build a better bond at home by just being honest.”
  • Loren (12:31): “Hiding the truth is also a lie. Thank you!”
• On Being Blindsided:
  • DJ Oso (14:09): “Let me go ahead and pay that respect forward...I wouldn’t want to be blindsided.”
• Women’s Intuition:
  • Loren (12:59): “I can literally see the way that you’re breathing and know if your woman is really your woman for real.”
• Trust and Betrayal:
  • Loren (18:03): “Relationships are supposed to be like, if I close my eyes and my ears right now and you take over the wheel of my car, I know I’m going to get home safe. I can’t trust you with my eyes and my ears closed.”
• Unspoken Tension:
  • DJ Oso’s cookout story (17:56): “I was playing the fool...that actually deteriorated that entire relationship.”
• Body Language Cues:
  • Loren (22:52): “I can just tell. Yeah, I can watch people’s interaction just in, you know, an interview or from across the room.”

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Timestamps of Major Segments

• [04:15–07:21] — Wellness check, industry stress, transition from survival to living
• [09:00–11:19] — Context: "Paradise" and the podcast scandalous therapist scene
• [11:22–15:22] — Should you tell your partner about your connection before an introduction?
• [16:47–21:01] — DJ Oso’s real-life story: unwittingly dating someone’s ex; how omission destroyed trust
• [22:21–23:41] — How intuition, body language, and energy betray secrets
• [23:41–24:03] — Closing reflections, gratitude to callers

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Tone and Takeaways

The conversation is lively, candid, and peppered with playful banter—“homegirl that knows a little bit about everything” energy. Loren shares personal insight on trauma and trust, while the guests offer both vulnerable and humorous perspectives. Throughout, the group affirms the importance of transparency and self-reflection in relationships:

• Honesty—no matter how uncomfortable—beats being blindsided.
• Little cues matter: Trust is shaken by omission, and partners often know more than you think.
• Finding your comfort zone: Set your own rules for relational truth, but remember that history tends to come out.

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Summary Table: Who Said What and When

| Timestamp | Speaker | Notable Quote/Story | |--------------|------------------------------------------------|-------------------------------------------------------------------| | 06:56 | Loren | “You’re so used to being in survival mode, it’s okay to now, like—like, you’ve survived, girl. It’s okay to live now.” | | 12:12 | DJ Oso | “You build a better bond at home by just being honest.” | | 12:29 | DJ Oso | “Hiding the truth is also a lie.” | | 12:59 | Loren | “My mind instantly goes to: so, you didn’t tell me—number one, you think I’m dumb because I know my man in and out. I can tell just by y’alls interaction there was more.” | | 14:09 | DJ Oso | “I wouldn’t want to be blindsided. So let me go ahead and pay that respect forward so that, you know, she understands that’s how we operate.” | | 17:56 | DJ Oso | “So I started feeling like, nah, this had to have been a spot. I think these people playing in my face. And that actually deteriorated that entire relationship.” | | 18:03 | Loren | “If I close my eyes and my ears right now and you take over the wheel of my car, I know I’m gonna get home safe. I can’t trust you with my eyes and ears closed.” | | 21:54 | Loren | “Even stuff like that matters, especially if y’all are working in the same arenas or same areas. I just rather put everything out there because I want to know everything...” | | 22:52 | Loren | “I can just tell. Yeah, I can watch people’s interaction just in a, you know, an interview or from across the room.” |

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Final Reflection

This episode of "The Latest with Loren LaRosa" explores the delicate dance of honesty in relationships—how secrets, even accidental ones, can undermine trust; why transparency is the safest bet; and how intuition always seems to cut through. The stories and insights are raw, funny, and often uncomfortably real—perfect for anyone grappling with where to draw the line between honesty and betrayal.

Transcript

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[Lauren LaRosa]

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[DJ Oso]

Let's get to it.

[Brandon]

Time to do it.

[Lauren LaRosa]

I'm the homegirl that knows a little bit about everything.

[Brandon]

And everybody knows you don't lie about that, right?

[DJ Oso]

Lauren came in hot.

[Lauren LaRosa]

Hey, y'. All, what's up? It's Lauren LaRosa. And this is another episode of the Latest with Lauren LaRosa. This is where we do all things pop culture, entertainment, news, and all of the conversations that shake the room, baby. So today joining me, we have Brandon.

[Brandon]

Thanks for having me back in.

[Lauren LaRosa]

So before we get into our episodes, here on the Latest with Lauren LaRosa, we always check in behind the scenes of the grind back on the ground. And sometimes I don't do it when I have guests on the show. But I mean, I should, right? Because I should want to know. Brandon, how are you doing?

[Brandon]

I'm good, but the doctor said I'm not good. I went to the doctor.

[Lauren LaRosa]

You okay? What's wrong?

[Brandon]

My blood pressure is crazy.

[Lauren LaRosa]

Oh, just your blood pressure?

[Brandon]

No, but when doctors go off blood pressure, they look at me like, how are you still alive?

[Lauren LaRosa]

Well, what are you seasoning your food with?

[Brandon]

I don't think it's food because, you know, I bring a lot of My own food. My food is relatively healthy.

[Lauren LaRosa]

I'm just glad it's only blood pressure. When you say your doctor.

[Brandon]

Stress and lack of sleep. I don't really sleep that much. That's really what it is.

[Lauren LaRosa]

Well, our job doesn't really allow for. I feel guilty when I go to bed before 10 o'.

[Wheezy]

Clock.

[Lauren LaRosa]

I feel like I'm slacking at my job and at life. When I go to bed before 10 o' clock at night, yo, I be trying but like, man, it'd be a good 12. Last night I went to bed at midnight and had to be up at. My first alarm is at like 3:45 and then our second one is at 4:05.

[Brandon]

Yeah, he was like, if you were older, we would not let you leave today. Like, damn. So I got to stop stressing. That's my goal for the upcoming weeks, months.

[Lauren LaRosa]

And what are you stressed about?

[Brandon]

I don't know. I think they get easier. Like, I don't know. You see people's life that's like a little slower and like, are things going to ever slow down and get a little easier?

[Lauren LaRosa]

I know what you mean. Like, I feel like, I think that that's the thing that's coming with like age. It's like we work in a very fast paced industry and I'm always trying to figure out like, what does comfortability look like in it? Like, I mean, it's good to see other people who have achieved a level of family and success or whatever. But still I look at friends of mine who are successful in other job lanes and I'm like, yo, at this age they have kids, they're able to like, everything's like on a schedule. They take vacation at the same time, they're home at the same time. They like. I've thought about that as well too, but I just can't imagine my life any other way than doing what I'm doing right now. Because all of my passions are like things that stretch me and like, I don't want, I don't want to say regular job because I don't want to downplay anybody's job. But all of my passions require a lot of non traditional. Right? So I think about that all the time. Stress about it though. But I do think about it because now I'm getting to the point where I'm like, all right, in a good two years, like I want to start kids and how do I do homework with my kid?

[Brandon]

When I was like early 20s, you could just like, I felt like sleep was optional. I could drink and wake up and go play basketball. And I get like this. Things were just, like, different with my body, but now I guess sleep is not optional and eating healthy is not optional and all the good things. So you gotta make sure you're taking care of yourself.

[Lauren LaRosa]

I think it'll be good for people to hear this because I think it's not even just an age thing, too. I think it's like a mental shift of your mindset of going from survival to living life. Like, that's something I talk to myself about all the time. Like, Lauren, you're so used to being in survival mode, it's okay to now, like. Like, you've survived, girl. Like, it's okay to live now. And what does setting that pace look like for you? Even though it's not traditional, I've had to talk myself off that ledge. Exactly.

[Brandon]

Yeah. So besides that, you know, the focus is just getting, you know, de stress and get my mind right.

[Lauren LaRosa]

Well, I'm glad I could do therapy for you. Y' all niggas be needing. Y' all be. Y' all men be needing to go see the lady.

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[DJ Oso]

Did I lie?

[Brandon]

Did I lie?

[DJ Oso]

Excuse me. That she is my therapist.

[Brandon]

What was I supposed to say?

[DJ Oso]

The jump off that I hooked up with the one time because I thought

[Lauren LaRosa]

my wife was deceased.

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[Brandon]

Why would I do that on the first time that they meet each other? Why would I do that?

[Wheezy]

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[Brandon]

Are you kidding me?

[Lauren LaRosa]

No, child. I would have told her. I told her I was yelling and scream.

[Brandon]

Nobody should do that on the first time.

[Lauren LaRosa]

No, my point is, is that it was. It was the jovialness. This is my therapist. I was like, you are damn lying. All right, now let's get on into this caller on the Line. How you doing, DJ Oso?

[DJ Oso]

Yes.

[Lauren LaRosa]

Am I saying it right?

[DJ Oso]

Yep.

[Lauren LaRosa]

All righty. Whoa. Hi, welcome to on the line with Lauren LaRosa.

[DJ Oso]

Hey, how I'm doing?

[Lauren LaRosa]

Good. So you are one of the lowriders, one of the podcast listeners.

[DJ Oso]

Yeah.

[Lauren LaRosa]

How long you been listening to us?

[DJ Oso]

What was it, January?

[Lauren LaRosa]

Okay. All right, well, welcome on over. I'm glad you enjoying the experience over here.

[DJ Oso]

Thank you. Thank you so much.

[Lauren LaRosa]

So I. I know you got a chance to. And Brandon's here as well, too.

[Brandon]

Yes. Nice to meet you, DJ Oso.

[Lauren LaRosa]

Yeah, I know you got a chance to check out the clip from paradise, the podcast after with Sterling K. Brown and his wife. We'll look up her name, but so I know you got a chance to take a look at their commentary and I want to explain some of the background to you just from the show. Sterling K. Brown and his wife, Ryan Michelle Bath. So Brandon, who's an avid paradise watcher, put me on to what was going down and we had a very passion, angry, but good conversation between our group at work about this. So explain some of the background that led up to this podcast.

[Brandon]

Do you watch the show at all?

[DJ Oso]

No, I don't.

[Brandon]

Okay, so just to add a little more context to that clip, the main character. This is a spoiler alert, by the

[Lauren LaRosa]

way, for those who have Spoiler alert.

[Brandon]

He found out. He was under the impression his wife had passed away, had relations with his therapist, somehow found a way to bring his wife back in his life. And there was a scene where he introduced his wife to the therapist, had a little small talk, and literally walked away and I guess let them. Went on to do something else, but they were still talking. So there was a conversation online and whether he should have told his wife at the time that he had had relations with that therapist.

[Lauren LaRosa]

So what do you think? You think he should have told his wife ahead of time? Because you heard in the podcast episode. Let's take a Listen. So, D.J. also, do you think that Sterling K. Brown's character was wrong for not telling his wife before she met the therapist

[Brandon]

or during that time, during that interaction?

[DJ Oso]

This is tough, but I honestly think he was. You build a better bond at home by just being honest.

[Lauren LaRosa]

Thank you.

[DJ Oso]

One lie, it uncovers so many things. People start to feel like if you lie about a little, you lie about a.

[Brandon]

Yes, but what did he lie about? This is keeping.

[DJ Oso]

Hiding the truth is also a lie.

[Lauren LaRosa]

Thank you.

[Brandon]

Okay, so I feel like eventually that conversation will come up, but right there in the spot, tell me how that should go down. Explain that to me.

[DJ Oso]

So, hon, just wanted to let you know this is not the first time that this person and I have interacted. I do want to let you know we do have quite a little bit of history.

[Lauren LaRosa]

So how old are you, if you

[Brandon]

don't mind me asking?

[DJ Oso]

I'm 46. I don't know.

[Brandon]

I was gonna ask that, too.

[Lauren LaRosa]

How old are you, Brandon?

[Brandon]

I'm 30, but that was a very mature answer there. You got me there.

[Lauren LaRosa]

Because here's my thing, right? As a woman listening and also as a woman that's been in this situation, literally, my mind instantly goes to. So you didn't tell me. Number one, you think I'm dumb because I know my man in and out. I can tell just by y' all interaction that there was more than anything at that moment. I can literally see the way that you're breathing and know if your woman is really your woman for real. Like, I mean, no, you know, the way you breathe, the way you. Anything off, I'm going to catch it. So that's number one. So that's already a slap in the face. Number two, it. Why omit it? Like, it's. It's here, it's happening. It's not your fault that I'm here meeting this woman, right? Like, it's not. Like, was it a Private meetup or were they just in a.

[Brandon]

No, it's like a public setting.

[Lauren LaRosa]

We're in a public setting. You can't control the fact that me and her ran into each other. But just let me know exactly. I think the way that DJ also explained to do it if she's a SAG or Scorpio, you might get a little craziness in the moment. But I got to give it to you that you tried.

[DJ Oso]

Definitely. And see, my thing is just removing the blind side.

[Lauren LaRosa]

Yes. Because D.J. and Brandon, as men. How do you guys feel about your woman ever having you blindsided on something like that? Like men that she slept with and you guys being around them or being introduced to them?

[DJ Oso]

No, see, my thing is this. And thank you. My thing is this. That's. It's not a selfless act because being quite honest and transparent, I'm thinking of me in that situation. I'm thinking to myself, I wouldn't want to be blindsided. So let me go ahead and pay that respect forward so that, you know, she understands that's how we operate. So I'm going to remove the blind side. If it. If it was before or different time, there's no harm in being honest. So that way, that karma always comes back to me. I'm just sowing the seed, basically. Go ahead, Brandon.

[Brandon]

Yeah, I was just saying I feel like I was in a similar situation where ex of mine would be talking about. Like, we have conversations about our old relationship. She's mentioned a name before, and he was still cool with some of her friends, and he had a common name. So we run into him, introduce him. I didn't think nothing of it. When she said the name. I just hit me like, an hour into the party. I said, I guess I never asked him about the interaction.

[Lauren LaRosa]

Did he hug her?

[Brandon]

Yeah.

[Lauren LaRosa]

Now you're replaying the hug, putting in Zach.

[Brandon]

I mean, I guess, like, she did technically mention it, but I was a little mad in the moment.

[Lauren LaRosa]

Why were you mad in the moment, though? Why? What was your feeling in the moment?

[Brandon]

I don't know. Blindsided in a way, because I was like, oh, Like, I didn't even know I was gonna meet him or run into him in this very moment. But.

[DJ Oso]

And I get that. I totally understand that you might not

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[Wheezy]

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[Lauren LaRosa]

What is this your first date?

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[Lauren LaRosa]

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[DJ Oso]

Yes. So I did go to a party with. I met a. I was working with a gentleman. He and I became cool. And I'm telling my lady at the time about him. Yo, I met this guy Rick at the job, so on and so forth. My description of him, everything. He invited us to a cookout. We go to the cookout and she knows, you know, a decent amount of people. So, you know, someone there made a reference to her and Rick, like, oh my God, you guys look back together looking at her and I'm looking at him and he stepped off right quick. And I just felt betrayed because wait a minute, I was playing the fool. One of his other guests there at the cookout was like, oh my God, you guys are back together. So I'm thinking I'm introducing her to him.

[Brandon]

Oh, you know him?

[Lauren LaRosa]

He met him at work.

[DJ Oso]

I met him at work.

[Lauren LaRosa]

And he all hyped like, yo, babe, so now you standing there with a low vibrational plate at the cookout and a red cup in your hand. And then what, what you doing?

[DJ Oso]

So the thing was, he put me on this spot, 2 35th in the city. So, you know, her birthday came around, I took her there thinking, you know, so on and so forth. And she, like you say, a woman knows her man. So I started feeling like, nah, this had to have been a spot. I think these people playing in my face. And that actually deteriorated that entire relationship.

[Brandon]

Oh my God, you said that did what to your relationship?

[DJ Oso]

It deteriorated the entire relationship.

[Brandon]

You guys broke up after that because

[Lauren LaRosa]

he started feeling play with and that's the issue right there. I think when men omit things or even women omit things, you're thinking in the moment. I just don't even feel like the hassle. I don't feel like having to explain. This is probably somebody you ain't even told that person about. If y' all don't went through the who's who's or whatever. Right? Whatever the case may be. But it's like, think about the long term damage that that does to someone's mental. Like, if I'm thinking I can trust you, like you're supposed to, like, relationships are supposed to be like, if I close my eyes and my ears right now and you take over the will of my car, I know I'm going to get home safe. I can't trust you with my eyes and my ears closed.

[Brandon]

She knew y' all work together.

[DJ Oso]

Rick and I worked together.

[Brandon]

No, I mean, your girl knew that y' all two work together.

[DJ Oso]

Yeah, I'm coming home. That's what I'm saying. I'm coming home. And I'm like, yeah, homie. At the job, Rick, he done told me about this spot, you know what I'm saying? A place to eat. He put me on 35th in the city. We're going over there.

[Lauren LaRosa]

She never said nothing. But when they walked in the spot, he said that she was like, wait, how you know about this place? And she was putting the puzzle together, but never said anything.

[DJ Oso]

Right. And she accepted the introduction as if it was her first time.

[Lauren LaRosa]

No, no, no. Oh, my God, that. I mean, I would already be pissed off. I don't like nothing omitted at all, ever. But you act like you don't know the person, you might as well leave with them. I'm causing a scene right then and there.

[Brandon]

So how long after the introduction did that person come up and say, oh, y' all two are back together? That happened in like, simultaneously.

[DJ Oso]

I would say like two months.

[Lauren LaRosa]

It was two months after that that she told you or at that moment?

[DJ Oso]

No, no, no. So I started the job in late March, and the cookout was a Fourth of July cookout.

[Lauren LaRosa]

So that incident happened two months after you started the job. But that person who said to you, oh, my God, you guys are back together, that was right there in the moment.

[DJ Oso]

Right, right.

[Lauren LaRosa]

And then how long did it take her to tell you the truth about everything?

[DJ Oso]

She didn't. Once that happened, I was like, wait, what I could tell about a look on her face, and it was like, oh, y' all got history. Is that, mind you, her Birthday was April is April 18th. He put me on somewhere to take her for her birthday. That was what kind of introduced me telling her about him. Like, oh, yeah, you know what I'm saying? You got Rick. She like, where you learn about this from? This ain't even your box. Homie at work, bro name Rick, you know, say this the one I was telling you about. He cool. You know, he used to do some work for BET in the city, and he knew all of these little spots. And she was like, bet in the city.

[Lauren LaRosa]

And when I started replaying, yes, she definitely knew she. You gave her everything. Freaked out to be like, babe, I gotta talk to you.

[DJ Oso]

I gotta. And mind you, at this time, stories

[Brandon]

about her by accident.

[Lauren LaRosa]

Did Rick ever tell you about any of his exes?

[DJ Oso]

Not really. So how to talk about women a lot, but he wouldn't name anyone in particular. And so on and so forth like that.

[Brandon]

So how deep were they to get? Like, how deep was their relationship together?

[DJ Oso]

I never got into it. Once that happened. We just kind of dissolved. She hit me for a little bit. No, let me talk to you. And you know, I ignored a few calls. And then eventually we just. Just phased out.

[Lauren LaRosa]

You got to know your partner. I'm not the person that you gonna just spring that on right then and there because now the event is over. Like, now it's time to go home. I am upset, but it also depends on how you handle it too, and your interaction with the person. Like, if I don't feel like you did anything that was out of line or you didn't act weird, I probably could still remain cool and we can carry on our night. But if you act weird, if there's anything that's making me wonder, well, why are you, like, acting like that then? Now my mind is wandering and so many other things, and I'm not going to be able to compose my life. Like, my poker face ain't that good. So. But I think it's just the way that I feel about things is as much as I know to tell you, I'm going to tell you. I feel like sometimes. Tell me if you guys have been through this, something might not be a big deal to you, or maybe you briefly interacted with a person or briefly dated or maybe y' all DM'd a little bit. Like, nothing that was worth it for real. And you don't mention that. And then it comes back up.

[Brandon]

Such and such try to talk to me.

[Lauren LaRosa]

Yeah, but I've learned even stuff like. Like that matters, especially if y' all are working in the same arenas or same areas. I just rather put everything out there because I want to know everything. Like, I don't want no surprises. I have a very traumatic, you know, ex situation. So that was one of my rules. Like, be transparent with me because it's hard to gain my trust once I lose it. Like, it ruins the way I look at you and the way I respect you.

[Brandon]

Has that ever happened to you where, like, you were dealing with somebody and then you have to find out they dealt with somebody you're close with?

[Lauren LaRosa]

Definitely somebody that has happened to me. I've been through the experience of being in a public place, being with your person, and somebody walk up that they used to deal with. And I literally, just by the way that he introduced her. He introduced us. It was a little. I gave her a little side hug, and she was like, yeah. I'm like, oh, thank you. She walked away. I said, so who that? And because I knew, I could just tell by how his body language shifted and he was shook.

[DJ Oso]

But, yeah, like, that's happened to you as a woman. Do you know from introduction, by the way we speak or the way we introduce someone that there's some history? There's.

[Lauren LaRosa]

Yeah, a hundred percent. I feel like men, y' all will be trying to do the right thing sometimes and still give it away, or you're just not doing the right thing, like, you're hiding something. But either way, you can always tell. Like, your voice changes, your body language changes. And also, if I've been with you, this is not my first time where I'm with you and you introduce me to someone of the opposite sex, I can tell the difference. Like, I can just tell. Yeah, I can watch people's interaction just in a, you know, an interview or from across the room. But I also, because of what I do for work, I feel like I can read people's body language very well and people's cues. Like, I can tell by how you answer the phone that whoever on that other end of the phone you didn't want to answer, you just did it. Because I'm sitting right here.

[DJ Oso]

Yes, yes. Now that I can. I can definitely do that. The energy of the call definitely leaks by the way you communicate.

[Lauren LaRosa]

Energy of the call. Or this be the one. The energy of the. And what this nigga want now? Now Pizza Hut ain't got.

[Brandon]

Stay calling, man. I'll come back later, man.

[Lauren LaRosa]

No, baby, I'll be like, it's 2:00am Call him back. Let's make sure he's okay with you. Yeah. All right. Thank you, dj. Also, we appreciate you for calling.

[DJ Oso]

Thank you for having me.

[Lauren LaRosa]

Thank you.

[Brandon]

Thank you. This was amazing.

[Lauren LaRosa]

Okay, guys, so that has been another episode of on the line with Lauren LaRosa, which is, you know, where we bring all things pop culture, entertainment, news, and conversation to what the listeners, you know, want to talk to us about and what's actually happening in real time that we can also compare to pop culture. Brandon here with us for another episode.

[Brandon]

I feel like I'm being painted in a better light this time around.

[Lauren LaRosa]

All right, y'. All. So this has been another episode. I tell you guys, every single episode. My low riders. I appreciate you guys for being here with me. Y' all could be anywhere with any old body talking about all these things which I choose to be. Be here. I'll catch you in my next episode.

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