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Number two, serve fewer things. Now, again, you might love serving all the things. You might have a holiday gathering situation where everybody brings something. So the variety is, like, part of the fun. It is the plate that looks like an artist palette with all the, like, dobs and dabs of different variations of potato on your plate. But if that is not something that typically happens at your gatherings or you find the amount of holiday dishes to be complicated and stressful, simplify by serving fewer things. You don't need three kinds of potatoes. One is great. I mean, so is three, but one isn't any worse than three. Where might you simplify the amount of dishes you serve? You can make some of them store bought or you can just make more of the things that everybody really, really loves. There's going to be enough food. Just make fewer of the things. Now, I won't be hosting this year because we will be in New York watching Sam march in the parade. But for the last few years that I have hosted for my husband's side of the family, we've just kept the hits and just repeat them. Like, I don't add anything new. It's like, don't fix what isn't broken. So we have turkey, stuffing, mashed potatoes, Mac and cheese, green beans. My harvest salad that I just throw. There's no recipe. I just throw it together every year. It's always a sleeper hit. Everybody loves the salad and sister Schubert's yeast rolls because why mess with something that's already amazing? Now you might be like, that's a ton of things and it is. But it's also the bare bones of a meal that feeds 13 people who love eating Thanksgiving food. I have been to Thanksgiving gatherings and holiday gatherings where there were no less than 15 dishes available. And that is a lot. It is not bad, especially if you love doing it, but it is a lot. So if you don't want a lot, you can serve less, serve fewer things. It's okay. Number three, use your local bakery. If you have a local bakery that makes holiday pies or desserts or breads or whatever, please go buy them. Unless you love baking pies or desserts or whatever, which I personally do. You for sure can like make your delicious pie, but you could also turn to a professional who does this as a small business and they love it and then just like enjoy the fruits of not having to do the labor. Local bakeries are often the smartest around the holidays. They're offering not just like breads and desserts, but sometimes breakfast stuff and like sweet rolls for the next day's breakfast. This is an incredibly valuable resource, you guys, that I think a lot of us forget about. Use your local bakery or let's say you have a friend who is like a really good baker. They love to bake and they're not currently overwhelmed by their own holiday schedule, you could hire them to make some pies. Like, that's a fun way to also get the homemade aspect without having to do it yourself. Side note, I will say, you know, not everybody has to turn what they love into a business. That's crazy. But if you, for example, make like, a really good apple pie, a really good pumpkin pie, and you want to do this in your margins, you could 100% text your friends, like, your phone contact list and be like, hey, I'm making 25 apple pies for the holiday weekend. They can be baked from frozen whenever you like. First come, first serve and charge people for the pies and just watch the text roll in. Are you kidding me? If somebody offered to make me a delicious apple pie that I did not have to make, even if it wasn't Thanksgiving, I think I'd still buy it. So that could be a really fun way to earn a little money if you are the baker, but also, like, help your friends by doing something that you love doing that would make their holiday celebration a little easier. Okay, number four. I love this one. Only have one to two ornery things. Okay, now, I mainly mean food here, not humans. You cannot really always control how many ornery people you get to be around. But as far as food goes, especially if you are hosting, but even if you're bringing things, please don't have more than a couple of ornery items. Now, what do I mean by ornery? Well, that dish that is only good for the first, like, five minutes it comes out of the oven is ornery. The thing that never seems to cook as quickly as you'd like, but it needs to go all the way in order to be good is ornery. The recipe that is less forgiving and it needs to be babysat is ornery. Mac and cheese, for example, is not ornery. It can be made ahead. It could even hang out in the oven for a little longer without causing much of a ruckus. It can sit out. It's fine. It's great. Kind of. No matter what. A turkey, believe it or not, is not terribly ornery, especially if you use my turkey recipe. Now, sure, it needs to be cooked, and it can be a little stressful because it's like the centerpiece or whatever that a turkey also needs to rest once it's out of the oven. So, like, as long as it's cooked, it can wait around. It's fine. Ornery foods do not wait around. Ornery foods need more dishes and ingredients and attention and Perfection. And if you have too many of them, if you have too many ornery foods, you're gonna have a stressful holiday gathering. And we're trying to simplify that stress, not add to it. So for whatever you're cooking, you're doing, only have a couple of ornery things. Let the rest of the stuff be easy. Number five, pad your timing. Pad your timing. All right. One of the hardest things about having a holiday gathering where you are hosting, right, or you are attending even, is getting all the food done at the same time. Now, some things can survive just fine at room temperature. Like I said for the Mac, like, the Mac and cheese is great, but for the most part, you kind of want everything to be at, like, peak deliciousness at the same time. Y', all, that math is really hard to pull off. In fact, I think that's one of the most stressful things about a big meal with a lot of dishes on a regular weeknight, you probably just. You're making one thing out of one pot or pan, the meat in three. Life seems to have moved on for most of us. We're not doing that every single night, and we're not. We're just not serving multiple things at once on, like, a Tuesday. But for holiday gatherings, there are so many things. Multiple things. That's the name of the game. We love to have all the things. Just today, just today, I was driving carpool, and one of the kids, who is not mine, was sharing what they do as a family for Thanksgiving. And do you know what they talked about exclusively? The food. They listed out all the food that will be eaten. And it was many things. Turkey, gravy, stuffing, deviled eggs, green bean casserole, mashed potatoes, corn pudding, Mac and cheese, several kinds of pie. The list didn't end. This kid did not really get to the end of the list as much as just, like, did like, a little bit of an ellipses and just stopped talking, dreaming about the foods. Like, we love all the foods, of course, but timing them to be all done at the same time, it's tough. It's really tough. So you need to pad your timing. Now, you probably know the drill of, like, balancing foods that can be served without needing to be bubbly hot. Right? You're just trying to have a mix of things so it doesn't all have to be done at the exact same time. But even so, as you create your oven math or your meal math, or you help someone else think through theirs, pad your timing. I feel like the chances of a meal being ready at 1 o'. Clock. If you say 1 o', clock, it's slim, man. You're not gonna make it on time. There's always something waiting to be done, and then everything else is kind of waiting around, which could be fine. That's fine. But I think it's the waiting around after the designated meal time that can create the stress. If you're hosting and you say to everybody, you're eating at 1 and it's now 1:20, and not everything is still ready. Like, that's stressful. You know, it's okay. But you also might feel responsible that everyone's raiding around while you scramble around to get these dang potatoes cooked. But what if you were to pad your timing and plan the meal, do all your math as though everything was gonna be ready at 12:40? You know, what if you padded it by 20 minutes? You can still say to everyone else, we'll eat around one. But almost certainly the kitchen math is gonna struggle to meet that. I don't know that I've ever eaten at a holiday gathering where everything was done on time. So by padding your time, by giving yourself 15, 20, or even 30 minutes in your planning to anticipate things that are running behind, it's so helpful. And even if. Even if everything is ready and even ready early, everyone's already there, right? You can just be like, hey, our meal's ready. Let's get drinks and gather around. You know, pad your timing. Give yourself a cushion. It just so much less stressful that way. All right, number six. Play Overrated. Underrated. Okay. Sometimes the conversation around a holiday table, it can be a bit tricky, right? It could be that a lot of these people, you have not seen them in months. You might not have seen them since last Thanksgiving. It could be that there are divisive things that not everybody wants to talk about, but somebody does. It could be that your family loves each other, that doesn't really talk about personal or vulnerable things. So the entire meal feels like a long string of, like, horrible small talk. A super simple way to enjoy conversation with the entire group that also inspires everyone to want to actually talk and share is to play Overrated. Underrated. So there is an actual game you can buy that's called Overrated. Underrated. Or you can just play it without cards or scoring or whatever. The basic idea is you say something like sweet potato fries, and you let everyone say if you. If they think they're overrated or underrated. The actual game has, like, a point system. You can even try and Guess what the person thinks about sweet potato fries. But also as just a general conversation starter, it's so easy to just say a thing and then let everyone around the table say what they think about that thing. We played this like casual version with, with just pulling out the cards out of the box and no points or whatever. We played this at a recent group din. It was so easy and fun. I would just pull out a card out of the box so I didn't have to think up ideas, you know, of like words to debate or whatever. And we all just said what we thought. And the good news about this game is it's. It like allows people to have an opinion around super low risk topics. Like, I have really strong opinions about crosswalks. I have been told I can be quite entertaining when I get riled up about crosswalks. Strong opinions about unimportant topics. It's a fun hang, man. It's a good time. So if you are looking for a way to keep things rolling at the holiday table with a group that might be a little hard to wrangle sometimes, just drop it into the next moment of awkward silence. It's like, hey guys, what do we think? Let's. Let's play Overrated. Underrated. What do we think about the Grand Canyon and just let people go to town. The game itself is not expensive. It's a great addition to your game collection. But again, you could just throw out things randomly. Overrated. Underrated is an underrated game. Okay, number seven. Embrace. Yes. And you've heard that phrase, right? Yes. And it is a foundational concept in improv comedy where your response to another player's idea in a sketch, it is always yes. And you always agree with whatever someone says or does and then you elevate it with another thing. Okay. Yes. And it's why for any office fans out there, it is why Michael Scott in the office was hated in his improv group because he never used yes. And he always became a spy with a gun or whatever and ended every scene his own way, no matter what. He wasn't listening to what other people were doing. Well, during holiday gatherings, especially when those gatherings involve family, a great way to simplify the complication of like family roles and patterns and conversations that can be uncomfortable is for you personally to embrace. Yes. And now I'm not saying to put yourself in the path of like, unkind words from other people. Not at all. But I know that I've gone into certain gatherings and immediately put my guard up. Like I'm in a constant defensive posture. And that posture often leads to an energy of no, but instead of yes. And so when it's appropriate and emotionally safe for you, think about having a posture of yes. And if your grandmother, who is retelling the same story as she does every single year, and that kind of irritates you and she starts telling that story again, don't be a no but person and stop her because she's already told it and you're annoyed by the repetition. Be a yes and person. Let her tell it. Listen. On a much lighter note, be a yes and person when people ask to do something that is not in your plan. If you had plans to serve dessert right after the meal around the table, but then somebody suggests waiting and eating it outside, unless there's like a huge reason to say no, be a yes and person. It's like, sure, let's do that. Maybe we can even light a fire outside. Generosity of spirit is one of the best ways to simplify just about anything, even if it's just within yourself. That yes and posture really smooths out the potentially emotional complications of holiday gatherings. Okay, number eight. Lighten up your gratitude. Now, this might be a bit more for Thanksgiving gatherings, for sure, but for some reason, the forced like, what are you thankful for? What are you grateful for? Those conversations seem to be, as the kids say, or at least used to say, very cringe to me. Not everybody wants to share what they're grateful for in a crowd. Some people feel put on the spot. Sometimes you're doing it in a room of people you don't actually know very well. So if you have any say in the gratitude portion of the evening or day, lighten it up a little. Ask something like, what is something everyone is grateful is on the table today. You know, like, start out with a favorite food situation or ask what is something everyone is grateful for About Grandma. Turn the focus onto a single person who would probably really love that attention. Or ask something specific, like, what is something everyone is looking forward to before this year is out? You could even have categories written on pieces of paper in like a little bowl. And a person draws out a paper and says what thing from that category they're grateful for? So, like an event, a day of the week, like, listen, I love a Friday food, a friend, a hobby, a song, a TV show, a piece of technology, a class in school, a project that's finally done. It's a long list. You can still offer opportunities for people to share about themselves and access their own gratitude without it being full of, like, typical Gratitude, pressure. Lighten up the gratitude so that it scratches the itch of the people who do care about that kind of thing and maybe even the tradition of that kind of thing. But it's separate enough from that energy that someone who is uncomfortable or kind of eye rolly about that approach can still participate without a lot of, like, pushback or pressure. Okay, number nine, Ask great questions. One of the most complicated parts of a holiday gathering is the conversation, right? We've already had a couple of tips about that can just feel like a minefield. Which is why we are trying to like, lighten up the gratitude and play overrated. Underrated that you can also have a slew of questions ready to go that get things going for you and the table without it feeling too forced. I mentioned this a few weeks ago in episode 437, 10 Things I Always Do When I have People Over. Actually, that's a really great episode to listen to if you're hosting anything over the next few weeks. But in that episode, I shared the concept of magical questions. Not the magic question, which is one of our 13 lazy genius principles. What can I do now to make something easier later? Magical questions are something that Priya Parker came up with. She is an expert on gathering. Her book, the Art of Gathering is so very good. But she presented this idea of magical questions, which are questions that everyone wants to answer and hear the answer too from everyone else, which is, honestly a tough ask. It is. That's why having a few great questions in your pocket can help keep things rolling and connective where everyone feels seen and important. Plus, it's also a lot of fun. At my mom's birthday a couple weeks ago, I, you know, we're gathering around the table and I asked, I asked her what some of her favorite songs were and it led to like half an hour of playing favorite songs over the Bluetooth speaker. It was really fun. So even a simple question like that, it can spark a lot beyond it. If someone has a hard time answering that kind of question, like, what's your favorite song? You can make it more specific by asking, like, what was your favorite song in high school? Or something like that. Or what's a song that when it comes on, you have to dance, Right? Other questions you could use. What's a movie that if it's on tv, you have to finish it no matter what? For me, it's World War Z. It doesn't matter. It doesn't matter. I'm finishing the whole dang movie. What posters did you have on your wall? As a teenager. I used that one at a group dinner recently, and it was a fantastic conversation starter. It was. It lasted a long time and it was hilarious. Another question. What is an anti pet peeve? Something that's so small but brings you enormous joy. What's the worst fashion choice you ever made? What's your go to karaoke song? How do you like your eggs? If you were gonna sail around the world, what would be the name of your boat? Just ask great questions. Have a little list on your phone log. A good question when you hear it from someone else. Like, not even around, like a holiday gathering. Like, if you hear a really great question, build up a little stockpile for yourself. Great questions simplify complicated conversations so well, and they actually lead to warmer connections between people. And then finally, number 10, be thoughtful, not impressive. This is not at all surprising coming from me. And while it's not the most, like, nuts and bolts practical idea, it is one of the greatest perspectives that you can carry within yourself whether you're hosting or not, in order to simplify this gathering. Be thoughtful, not impressive. So what does this look like? Well, being thoughtful is you thinking ahead about the other person, the other people and their needs, their experience, their preferences. Being impressive is you thinking about how another person is going to think about you because of what you already thought about. So the focus of the two things could not be more different. The behaviors might look identical, right? Cleaning the bathroom and lighting a candle in there and maybe having, like, obvious extra toilet paper and poop spray or air freshener or whatever. Having all of that available, that's a behavior, you know, that's something that you're doing, doing that thoughtfully towards someone who doesn't want to poop at your house but has to, and making it comfortable for them, versus doing all of that so that someone will say to you, man, you really set up that bathroom really nice. Like, in fact, that could be a lovely litmus test for your own posture. Being thoughtful does not require anyone to say anything to you about what you did. Being impressive absolutely requires someone else saying something to you about what you did. If you try and be impressive and no one comments on it, you're gonna be in a funk immediately. But thoughtfulness is not about that. It's not about you. It's about them. So be thoughtful, not impressive. So to wrap up, as you enter into a holiday season that will likely have some gatherings involved, remember these 10 things, especially if any of these things simplify something that feels already complicated to you. Let the food be your table, decor cook fewer things. Use your local bakery. Only have one to two ornery things. Pad your timing. Play overrated, underrated Embrace yes, and lighten up your gratitude. Ask great questions and be thoughtful, not impressive. And those are 10 ways to simplify your holiday gathering. This episode is sponsored by Kanopy Skincare. Experts and dermatologists have long said that indoor humidity is the secret to healthy, glowing skin. And a not so fun fact. Dry air can start wreaking havoc on your skin in as little as 30 minutes. That's why Canopy exists. Canopy is a completely reimagined humidifier. It helps your skin stay hydrated, your sinuses stay clear, and your space feel more breathable. 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Code names is a great time for a group of people, especially as a way to like forge connection where it might be hard to find. So one person, if you've never played before, one person tries to get the rest of their team to identify the code names on a big board with one word. It's almost like. It's almost like the New York Times Connections game but with like higher stakes. It's so much fun. It's so much fun. Codenames is great for a group. Another game I love with a group is hues and Q's. This is a color guessing game. You have this huge board, a ton of colors, like gridded in rows and columns. It's like this giant ombre rainbow. Each person tries to get the rest of the group to guess their secret color that they chose by using just one or two word clues. And then those clues cannot themselves be colors. So if you have like a green on your card and you see the grid, it's like a 34 or whatever you might set. Your clue might be grass, but there are so many greens on the board. It's a great game with kids too. Surprisingly fun. It's just. It's a solid one. It's one of our favorites. We pull out all the time now. I will die on the hill of Taco cat goat cheese pizza. If you have kids at your house during a holiday gathering and they are getting a little bored, one of those kids, they're going to know how to play pull out. Taco cat goat cheese pizza. It's like war, but with silliness. With, like cats and pizza with eyeballs. And you also like slap if you have. I forget when you slap, but it's like you slap as well. It doesn't matter. It is so fun. It is so much fun. We bring it with us to restaurants sometimes, like as a family, because it's always a hit. It's always a hit. Okay. Of course. I'm a huge fan of Bananagrams. I've mentioned that several times. It's one of my favorite games to play. It's like making your own crossword puzzle as fast as you can. I was undefeated. I'm no longer undefeated, but it's because I drew two cues and there were no use or eyes on my board. And so I just had to keep peeling letters while everybody else built their board waiting for Q's and eyes. And they didn't come for a very long time. So was a Bit stressful. So I've only. I've only lost once, though. Okay. Another great word game that kids love, at least mine do, is just one. Okay? You have one guesser, and that guesser has to guess the correct word from a card. They don't see the words on the card. Everybody else sees the word, but the guesser does not see the word. What they have to do is they choose a word from the card. There's five words, so the guesser might be, like, number two. The number two number. The number two word. And everyone else, the whole group, they write down one word, just one. Right? One word. That will be a clue for the guesser to guess that word. The only thing is that if anybody in the group writes down the same word, like, if they have duplicate clues, then those words cancel each other out. So then the. The guesser is looking at, like, if the word, for example, was mountain, somebody might write tall, somebody might write rock, somebody might write Everest or something. And so that person would see tall, rock, Everest, and they go mountain and guess mountain. It's really, really fun, kids. It's great for all ages, too. And if a kid is the guesser, and this is what we do with Annie, because she doesn't know every word on the card, we're just like, don't choose 1 and 4, and then she'll choose 2, 3, or 5, and then we'll play. So it is just a really, really fun game that also helps with, like, making connections with words and writing and just the comfort of, like, sharing the, like, language development with little kids as a group. Like, it's just a great. It's a great game. We've been playing it for a long time. Okay, I have two more. Another one that we love, especially Annie. Annie loves this game. What do you meme? And there's a family version. Basically, you have, like, you have a deck, a card deck of captions, and then you have a deck of crazy images, and they have to match them. It's almost like apples to apples, but for memes, where somebody has a card and you submit what caption you think is the best one, and if yours gets picked, then you get the points or whatever. It's so fun. It's ridiculously silly. Great for a crowd. And then one final game that is a sleeper hit that requires nothing except a stack of post it notes is the post it note game, where you write a person's name on a post it note. You stick it to your head. Well, actually, you stick to someone else's head and then they have to guess. I have to ask yes or no questions to try to guess who the person is. It is so silly. It's so fun. It's so easy. So you could play that game. Now, you might already know about all of these games, but even if there's one that you haven't tried yet or you haven't heard about, you will be in luck. Games are just so much fun to play. You also might be reminded of a game that you already have in your cabinet that you haven't played in a while. And you're like, oh, this would be great to pull out for our next holiday gathering. But also, you can bring games with you when you go to someone else's house for a gathering. Even if it's just like checkers and chess, a deck of cards, Scrabble, Rummy cube, like those classics, those are on people's shelves for a reason. So anyway, games all day long. Those are some of our favorites. And that's today's a little extra something. And now for the Lazy Genius of the week. This week, it's Claire Da Silva. Claire writes, Today I had an inspiration about how my family will celebrate Thanksgiving this year, and I just had to share with you. My spouse is a physician and it's his turn to take the Thanksgiving holiday call shift at the hospital. It's always a bit of a bummer when he has to work on a holiday, especially now that our kids are older, 4 and 7, and really notice his absence. I realized I was feeling unmotivated to host extended family, cook a big turkey meal or travel without him. This year I felt guilty about my lack of enthusiasm and just uninspired overall. Then it hit me. We already have a decide once meal for nights when dad is working. We call it spinner dinner, a mix of finger foods, charcuterie and handheld leftovers served on a divided, lazy Susan. We graze together with toothpicks and my kids absolutely love it. It makes what would be an otherwise sort of disappointing dinner time. No dad jokes. A fun event with little effort on my part. And then I realized my family's favorite part of Thanksgiving has always been the appetizers. Anyway, so this year we're going all out with gourmet no leftovers, a Thanksgiving spinner dinner feast. Our own fun, meaningful twist on the holiday that will no doubt become a family tradition. This is just a beautiful idea. This is a great example of how routine during the regular parts of life can inform and even enhance the special busy times, routines and decisions and things that find Their deep grooves over time, they allow for life to remain just as meaningful, even when pivots are necessary. So I just love this. Claire, congratulations on being the lazy genius of the week. Okay, let's finish with a mini pep talk for when you hate everything. So I was gonna say that the last couple of weeks have been crazy, but I feel like I've been saying that for, like, two months now, and I think I have. Some seasons are just extra in every way. I'm in one of those now in that weird space where my kids are old enough to have a lot of things going on, but not old enough to get themselves there. They are independent, but they still need me all the time. But. And then there's the fact that I have, I don't know, a job and a spouse I love and friends and family and hobbies and rest and all kinds of things that are competing for my time and energy, of which I feel like I continuously have less and less, especially right now. That's how it feels right now. So recently, in a text to my pal Emily, Emily Freeman, I said something I think we've all said before. I said, I hate everything. But then immediately I was like, no, I definitely don't hate everything. My life is so rich and full, and even though there are aspects of it that I would like to be different, I don't hate everything. Not in the slightest. And I bet you don't either. I bet you don't either. But what we probably do hate is everything at once. Everything at maximum capacity, everything that needs juggling and managing and getting in the right order and place to make it happen. Now, that's a spectrum, right? No one is organized in everything all the time. Literally no one. You pivot, you adjust, you make plans and hold them loosely. You remember how valuable it is to notice the people and energies around you rather than try and make everything fit into some logistical puzzle. Like, we know this intellectually, but I know I still struggle sometimes to embrace it internally, especially when life just feels really busy. It's easy for me to be like, I hate everything. So here's your reminder today and mine. Everything at once is not how we're made. Everything at once is not a sustainable practice. The reason you hate everything is because your body and brain and soul are not equipped to deal with everything at once. And when you're in a season where you have to, it's easy to just make a blanket statement that everything is too hard, everything is the worst, and everything needs to stop, and you just need a huge vacation for your life that if you shift that sentiment to, oh, wait, I don't hate everything. I don't. I'm just in the middle of everything at once. And that is not doable. Now, you can lament that season if you need to. I know I have and do. And then alongside of your honesty, you tell yourself the truth. You do one thing at a time, and you let something go. You do something with less excellence than you would prefer, but it's something that doesn't matter as much, and it's getting done right. Making those kinds of choices is good. It's wisdom. So in this likely season of Everything at Once, remember, you're not made for that. The fact that you hate everything is not because you're not good at life or at planning or at juggling everything. The fact that you hate everything is a natural response to a pace you were never made to keep. Within a culture that doesn't have your needs and priorities in mind. We live in a culture of greatness and optimization, rushing toward an imagined future that we think that we can control. That is not our life anymore, pals. We are whole people here today. Our goal is not greatness. It is to be ourselves where we are, no matter the circumstance. So hold fast to that when you hate everything and you'll probably see far more of what you love. And that's a mini pep talk for when you hate everything. If this episode was helpful to you, or if you've been looking for a way to support the show, it would mean so much if you would share this episode with a friend. Go ahead and like click that little arrow on top of the box and just text the link to somebody who would enjoy this episode. We appreciate you sharing it with people. 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