#403 - How I Get Stuff Done When I Don’t Feel Like It - The Lazy Genius Podcast

Summary of The Lazy Genius Podcast Episode #403: "How I Get Stuff Done When I Don’t Feel Like It"

Release Date: February 3, 2025

Host: Kendra Adachi, The Lazy Genius
Podcast: The Lazy Genius Podcast
Episode Theme: Strategies for overcoming procrastination and accomplishing tasks even when motivation is lacking.

Introduction

In Episode #403 of The Lazy Genius Podcast, host Kendra Adachi delves into a universal challenge: getting things done when motivation is low. Building upon insights from previous episodes (#238 "How to Get Stuff Done When I Don't Feel Like It" and #341 "The Real Reason It's Hard to Get Stuff Done"), Kendra offers a personal and practical guide. She shares 10 actionable strategies that have helped her navigate the common struggle of balancing responsibilities with fluctuating motivation levels.

1. Remember How Much I Hate Urgency [02:15]

Kendra emphasizes her aversion to the feeling of urgency. She explains that when tasks become urgent, they trigger negative behaviors such as impatience and shortness with others. To avoid this stress, she prioritizes completing tasks before they become time-sensitive.

"I become really short with people. I'm impatient even if someone is trying to help... Urgency is just my least favorite thing." [02:45]

Key Takeaway: Letting tasks pile up leads to unwanted urgency. By addressing tasks promptly, you can maintain a more pleasant and manageable workflow.

2. Motivation Through a Systemized Home [12:30]

A systemized home provides a harmonious flow that motivates Kendra to maintain order. She likens her household to a song that flows smoothly, avoiding the chaos that disrupts this harmony. For example, her family's dishwasher routine ensures that dirty dishes don't accumulate, preventing the cascade of tasks that lead to urgency.

"I love for things to just roll in a natural way... It creates urgency when things get out of flow." [14:10]

Key Takeaway: Establishing and maintaining systems in your home can reduce stress and increase efficiency, making it easier to handle daily responsibilities.

3. Depend on Systems for Stuff I Really Hate [25:00]

Kendra discusses her reliance on systems to manage tasks she dislikes, such as laundry and cleaning. She acknowledges that while systems can sometimes feel rigid or reminiscent of unhealthy habits, they are essential for maintaining order. For her family, having her husband take over dishwashing and hiring a house cleaner are examples of effective systems.

"I depend on systems to take care of things that I hate doing... The systems themselves weren't the problem. The reason I was using them was." [26:45]

Key Takeaway: Systems aren't inherently detrimental; they become problematic based on the motivations behind them. Utilizing systems can help manage disliked tasks efficiently.

4. Choose Enjoyment Over Distraction When Not Doing Something [35:20]

Instead of succumbing to procrastination through activities like social media scrolling, Kendra advises engaging in something enjoyable and meaningful. By doing so, you fill your time productively, which can subsequently boost the energy needed to tackle the initial task.

"Do something fun, you enjoy as a form of filling your own cup... It gives me enough energy and motivation to now go do the thing I didn't want to do." [36:10]

Key Takeaway: Redirecting your energy towards enjoyable activities can replenish your motivation, making it easier to address tasks you initially avoid.

5. Start Small [45:00]

Facing a daunting task can be overwhelming. Kendra recommends breaking down large tasks into smaller, manageable steps. Whether it's organizing delivery boxes or updating a will, initiating with a simple action can reduce the perceived burden.

"If I'm staring at a dining room full of stuff, I say, okay, I'm just going to unpack the delivery boxes and take the cardboard to the recycling bin." [46:30]

Key Takeaway: Initiating tasks with small actions can overcome the inertia of starting, leading to gradual and sustainable progress.

6. Do Something You Like While Doing Something You Don't [55:00]

Combining a disliked task with a pleasant activity, such as listening to music or a podcast while cleaning, can make the process more enjoyable. This dual engagement helps maintain focus and makes the task feel less burdensome.

"Listen to music or a podcast or an audiobook while you're cleaning or cooking." [56:15]

Key Takeaway: Pairing chores with enjoyable activities can enhance your experience and increase productivity.

7. Do Hard, Annoying Things with My Kids Around [1:05:00]

Contrary to her earlier approach of reserving challenging tasks for times when her children are not around, Kendra now advocates for tackling these tasks in the presence of her kids. She finds that this not only maintains her focus but also teaches her children the value of completing responsibilities.

"Doing the thing with my kids around, it keeps me more focused on the thing. It's sometimes a little more efficient because I'm having to focus on other things that are happening around me." [1:06:45]

Key Takeaway: Engaging in tasks alongside children can provide a sense of accountability and make the process more efficient and less isolating.

8. Set Timers [1:15:00]

Utilizing timers can create a sense of urgency without the negative feelings associated with tight deadlines. Kendra suggests committing to a task for a short, defined period, which often leads to continued effort beyond the initial timeframe.

"Let's just do this for 10 minutes. After 10 minutes, we can stop." [1:17:30]

Key Takeaway: Time-boxing tasks with timers can enhance focus and make daunting tasks seem more approachable.

9. Get Up Countdowns [1:25:00]

When feeling particularly unmotivated, especially due to fatigue, Kendra employs a simple countdown to prompt herself to start a task. This technique acknowledges the difficulty of initiating action while providing a structured method to overcome inertia.

"I'll literally count down on my head, sometimes even out loud. I'll take breaths in between the numbers... get up after I say one." [1:26:15]

Key Takeaway: Implementing a countdown can serve as a gentle push to begin tasks, making the initiation process less daunting.

10. Ask for Help or Solidarity [1:35:00]

Recognizing the importance of community, Kendra advocates for seeking assistance or solidarity when facing overwhelming tasks. Whether it's enlisting help from family members or seeking emotional support from friends, sharing the burden can make tasks more manageable and less isolating.

"Solidarity does in fact solidify us. It makes what was all over the place feel more put together simply because somebody just saw us in this moment." [1:37:45]

Key Takeaway: Reaching out for help or companionship can provide emotional support and practical assistance, enhancing your ability to complete tasks.

Conclusion

Kendra wraps up the episode by reiterating the 10 strategies to tackle tasks when motivation is lacking:

Remember how much I hate urgency.
Motivation through a systemized home.
Depend on systems for tasks I hate.
Choose enjoyment over distraction when not doing something.
Start small.
Do something you like while doing something you don't.
Do hard, annoying things with my kids around.
Set timers.
Get up countdowns.
Ask for help or solidarity.

Kendra emphasizes that these methods are personal and may vary for each individual. She encourages listeners to adapt and build their own toolkit based on what resonates with them.

Additional Content

Beyond the main discussion, the episode includes a Lazy Genius of the Week segment celebrating listener Blake Batura for sharing his approach to managing binge-watching shows through the Meal Matrix concept. This segment highlights the versatility of Lazy Genius principles in addressing diverse challenges.

Final Thoughts

Episode #403 provides a comprehensive and relatable guide for anyone struggling with procrastination and low motivation. Kendra's personal anecdotes and practical strategies, complemented by notable quotes and timestamps, offer valuable insights for listeners seeking to enhance their productivity without succumbing to stress and urgency.

Be a genius about the things that matter and lazy about the things that don't. Listen to The Lazy Genius Podcast for more practical life strategies.

Transcript

Kendra Adachi (0:00)

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This is a universal problem. All of us have stuff we have to do and we just don't feel like doing it. So either we don't do it and get behind or we do it but with much reluctance. Neither option is fun. Like responsibility, to be honest, can be a huge energy suck. But we still have to do stuff. We still have to be responsible. We still have to be disciplined sometimes. Even though it's kind of a drag. So over three years ago, we released episode 238, how to get stuff done when you don't feel like it. That's how you get stuff done. So feel free to go back and listen to that if you want some overarching help. It also might be beneficial to listen to episode 341, the real reason it's hard to get stuff done. Both episodes give some helpful reframes, but today's episode is through a more personal lens. I'm gonna share how I personally get stuff done when I don't feel like it. I had to take the time to figure it out because sometimes we. We just do things intuitively without naming them. And lucky for us, There were literally 10 things when I worked it out. Like, I will never get over when that happens. The roundness of a natural list of 10 things makes me smile. So today I'm gonna share with you 10 things that help me get my stuff done when I don't feel like it. Number one. I remember how much I hate urgency. Now, this is a personal take, obviously. I mean, this whole episode is a personal take. But I do not enjoy the feeling of urgency at all. When things are on a deadline or they have to be, like right now, or else I quickly, very quickly fall into behaviors that I don't enjoy about myself. I become really short with people. I'm impatient even if someone is trying to help. And it takes me a long time to come down from that energy. It's maybe my least favorite physical and mental experience. So because I hate the feeling of urgency so much, I will do whatever I can to not be in that place. It matters a great deal to me to not let things wait until the last minute. Even things I don't want to do. It is rare, if not, like, impossible, for my dislike of one thing that I have to do for it to be greater than my dislike of urgency. Urgency is just my least favorite thing. And that's a pretty solid motivator most days, especially for things that have a natural deadline. So the first way I get stuff done when I don't feel like it is to remember how much I hate the feeling of urgency. Number two, I'm motivated by a systemized home. Now, what do I mean by systemized? I like when things are in a flow, when most of the pieces of the very kind, very soft life machine are working in harmony with each other. In fact, maybe it's like it's less a machine because there's not a kind or soft Machine. Maybe it's like less a machine and more like a song. You know, I like when my home is moving. Like music. It flows. It's mostly harmonious, and it's pretty pleasant to the same degree. I hate urgency. I love flow. I love for things to just roll in a natural way. So I'm motivated to not let things fall off so that I can keep that flow going. Dishes are a really good example. Now, this isn't how it should necessarily be in every single home, but it's true in mine and universally relatable enough to possibly be true at your home too. So people are eating all through the day in our house, right? We are a family of five, and it's rare that we go a day where no one has dirtied a dish. Like, even during the week when all the kids are in school. Like, dishes only stay undirtied when we're on vacation. Now, we do have a dishwasher. So our rhythm of loading and unloading the dishwasher is fairly set. It gets loaded throughout the day by multiple people. We run it overnight on a timer. And then my kids each unload a level of the dishwasher because we have three levels and I have three children every morning, it's in a daily flow. Great. Okay. Now, the dishes that have to be hand washed, they do not have a daily flow because we don't always have daily hand wash dishes. Now, I do not enjoy washing dishes. Like, I'll do it because we all. We all have to do stuff that we don't love. But I don't have any, like, romantic feelings about washing dishes. Unless I'm feeling extra contemplative or I'm listening to something, like, really sad in my headphones. I don't have an emotional connection with the chore of washing dishes. Now I'm in the kitchen a lot each day, so I will see the dirty skillet from last night's day dinner in the sink. Okay? It is unwashed. It needs to be washed. But I don't wanna. So I'll just leave it. It's not urgent either. I'm not. I don't need it right Then when it comes time to make dinner again, though, I just. I just use a different skillet. I just use a different one. Now we're starting to run into a problem because I only have two big skillets, so I'm now. I'm now running out of cooking vessels here, right? That's when the flow starts to fade. If the skillets stay dirty in the sink for Too long. It starts to mess with the flow of cooking dinner, because now I have a chore to tend to before I start cooking. And since I'm already on a tight dinner window because of, like, school pickups and clarinet lessons and random early dinners on Wednesdays because my boys have to leave early for youth group, adding a choreography I really don't want to do to the start of that limited dinner time, it creates, you guessed it, urgency. We are no longer in a flow, my friends. We are rushed. The water has gone from a lazy river to rapids because of two dirty skillets. Now, a couple of things to note. First, washing a skillet does not take long. It sometimes takes longer for the water to get hot than it does to wash the pan. So this is not a huge time thing. But if I wait and I let the dishes build up, it becomes a bigger, more overwhelming chore. It does take more time. That's why tending to things before they become urgent is generally something I like doing. A second thing to note, if you relate to this scenario and you're also thinking, dude, this happens with laundry and bills and the kids rooms and the bathroom too, you have just identified why you might feel even more overwhelmed by the things you don't want to do, because there are many of them and they're all a little behind. So I encourage you to start with one task, one chore, or one area where you decide, you know, I'm really going to try to not let this get to an urgent place. I'm going to wash the single skillet. Even though it could wait. You pick whatever your metaphorical skillet is. But if this energy feels relatable, this situation, you're like, yep, that's my house. Start small with your version of a skillet. Okay, do that thing. The third thing to note about this particular story is that my husband almost always washes the dishes when he cleans the kitchen. Like, pretty much every single time. The dirty skillets are from when I leave them in the sink. And even when I do leave them, he still sometimes washes them. So as I talk about walking past the sink of dirty dishes, please know that I do not expect myself or you to be the only person who is responsible for those dishes. Unless you're the only person in your house. Unfortunately, that means it is yours to do, which is a huge bummer. But don't hold the burden of the urgency and flow all by yourself if you don't have to. So because I don't like urgency and because I do love flow, I tend to be fairly motivated to do the things I don't want to do in order to preserve the flow. The flow matters more than my dislike of the chore. I did not mean for that to rhyme. Number three. I depend on systems for stuff I really hate. I think that even in this lazy, genius space, systems sometimes get a bad rap if you depend too much on them. Maybe you're a robot. Or if you depend on them at all, you're not letting your home just be alive and flawed and human. We've kind of had systems drilled into us so deeply that it's understandable that we all feel a little skittish to use them at all. I feel a similar way about diet culture. I was told for years that walking and moving and watching what I ate would make me thinner and smaller and therefore more attractive. Garbage. Gross. But that was diet culture's message. And also, walking and moving and watching what I eat helps me feel better and positively impacts my mental health and my sleep. I don't care about being smaller. It's not changing my body, But I do care about my mental health and my sleep. So the same behaviors come from different motivations. But if a previous motivation was unhealthy for you, it is understandable that you might want to throw the baby out with the bathwater and drop the behaviors because you don't want to be tied to those old motivations again. The same might be true of systems. If you are a recovering perfectionist or at some point you used control of your life to feel safe in an unsafe environment, you might feel really uncomfortable trying to lean on systems again. You know, you know that that was not good for you. But right now, they're too close to the raw nerve of what you used to be like, of what you used to depend on. And if you don't want to depend on that anymore, the behaviors just go out the window along with it. I understand that and have felt that and will likely continue to sometimes feel that way. Systems were dangerous for me for years because they really did turn me into an unkind, unrelenting, impatient, fiercely independent robot. But the systems themselves weren't the problem. The reason I was using them was. So perhaps, perhaps acknowledging that difference will help you move towards helpful systems again. So all that to say, I do depend on systems to take care of things that I hate doing. I hate doing laundry. I hate it. My system. Well, my husband does it. Praise be. But also, I used to for years do the laundry before he took over. And. And I had a system. I had a Laundry day. You can learn about laundry day in a very, very old episode. Still excellent. Episode 21. 21, you guys. 21. Today's 403. Episode 21 is the lazy genius does laundry. And I had a system then, and it worked. I depended on that system because of how much I dislike doing laundry. The same is true for cleaning the house. Part of our system right now is hiring a house cleaner who comes every other week. Now that is a new thing for us. You know, it's just in the last couple of years and now I will actually make sacrifices of all kinds in order to pay for that. It is so worth it to me. Now I also have three kids who are now parts of my system. Like a lot of mess can happen in the two weeks between our official cleanings. And the messiest room that I hate dealing with the most is the bathroom. I hate cleaning a bathroom. I hate it. I hate it now. Back in the day, before I had kids to help, which they do now, or before I had a house cleaner coming, I had a system. I had a dependable way to clean the bathroom and a specific day that I did it. Now you can listen to that in episode 51. Again, super old. The lazy genius cleans the bathroom. But now I use my kids because I don't want to do it. So the systems change, but the result is the same. The laundry still gets done, the bathrooms still get clean. I hate both tasks so much so they get most of my system attention. So that third way that I get stuff done when I don't feel like it is by depending on systems for the stuff I hate the most. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. We talk a lot about red flags in relationships, right? But what about green flags? The signs of a friendship or a partnership that's truly good for you? 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Just don't do it. Like if you have the ability to not do it, just don't do it. But instead of feeling guilty that you're not doing it and distracting yourself with something that doesn't matter, do something that does matter. Do something that matters. For me, I read or I paint or I play guitar. Like I do something fun and creative that fills me up. I. I try to avoid anything that involves a screen because it's just too distracting. But I do something fun, I enjoy myself, I fill my own cup. Then weirdly enough that filling up it gives me enough energy and motivation to now go do the thing I didn't want to do. Now I still don't really want to do it. That I do feel more energetic and kind of full and alive and like myself. And I don't mind as much as I did before. This was really important. The fourth way I get stuff done when I don't feel like it is to not do the thing, but also instead do something I really want to do. Number five, I start small. This is an obvious one, but it's still so good. Especially when I'm faced with a larger task I don't want to do like cleaning up our dining room that has become the catch all for the last two weeks. Or putting away mountains of laundry that Kaz has been cleaning and folding for me because he's a gym. But I let them build up and I have not put any of them away and he's done many loads and now my laundry is everywhere or more complicated kind of unknown projects like figuring out if our will is up to date and how and when do we actually get it up to date. If I'm faced with something like that, I have to start small. I have to. If I'm staring at a dining room full of stuff, I say, okay, I'm just going to unpack the delivery boxes and take the cardboard to the recycling bin. Or if I'm staring at my mountain of laundry, I'll say, okay, I'm just going to hang up this like small pile of shirts that I will wear often. I'll wear them again soon, so let me hang those up. Or if I'm trying to figure out the will thing, I'll just say, okay, I'm going to contact our financial planner and I'm going to ask her to remind me when and how we made our will and what I'm supposed to do next. Now if you can't tell, that last one is a real thing I don't feel like doing right now. We made a will 15 years ago through legal Zoom or something and we have had two more kids. We have different circumstances than we do then. We have provisions we need to make for the kids like going to college in case the worst thing happens to us before they go to college. Like it's more complicated and because it's more complicated, it feels huge and overwhelming. So I start small. I'm going to email my financial planner and say, hey, I know I should know the answer to this, but can you help me know what the next step is for updating our will? I'm just going to do that. Just do one thing. Start small. So the fifth way I get stuff done when I don't feel like it is to start small. Number six, I rarely do something I don't want to do without simultaneously doing something I do like to do. This is one of the common go tos when getting stuff done. When we don't feel like it, do something fun at the same time. You know, listen to music or a podcast or an audiobook while you're cleaning or cooking. Drink tea from a favorite mug while you're doing administrative stuff on the computer, like looking up your will. Get yourself a fun coffee while you're running errands. Do whatever you're doing with a friend. You know, I do love this as like a mainstay response, which is why it's like the sixth way that I get stuff done when I don't feel like it. It is definitely on the list because this should be a go to. I do like the others as a little bit more of a foundational beginning. But yeah, do something fun while you're doing something you don't like. Okay, number seven. I do hard, annoying things with my kids around. I remember when my kids were younger and more needy and home a lot more. I felt like I needed to save the bigger chores or mental tasks for when they were napping or contentedly playing, which was never very long, or after they'd gone to bed. But those were the times I wanted to do something I enjoyed, not something I'd been avoiding. Still, I had this, like, tripwire in my brain that doing stuff with the kids around was not the best use of my time. I needed to be available to them or not distracted by them or something like that. That and sure, while sometimes that does make sense, like, especially when your kids are very tiny, I think as a default, the opposite should be true. I think we should do the stuff we don't want to do when the kids are around. Let them see the chores, let them be around when we're doing the thing, even if it takes longer with them there. Depending on your kids or, you know, if you have kids or your parenting style or kind of whatever, you might not resonate with this. You might want to be super present and available to your kids, not really doing anything else, no matter their ages, as much as possible. And I think that's great. I think you get to choose that. I also think that for me especially, more of my tasks are interruptible than I give them credit for. Like, as an example, I currently have a task back to the big dining room thing. These are all very real. Uh, I have a task that I've written down like multiple times at this point where clearly I don't want to do it, where I just have to unpack a bunch of packages that I've gotten recently. I have like five from my P.O. box. There's seven others. Maybe seven or eight others from like various things, you know, there's like toiletries from Target and skincare from Sephora and new shoes for Sam because he's growing like a weed. And there's a couple of boxes from Amazon. There's a couple of other boxes from other people. I have no idea what's inside them. There is quite a stack of boxes on our big dining table where we don't eat. Our kitchen tables where we eat. And as much as packages are super fun, as that pile grows, all I can see is the other task connected to unboxing everything. I gotta break down the boxes, I gotta take em out to the recycling can. I gotta put away all the things right that are in the boxes. And some of those things have tags and I have to cut the tags off first and find the scissors. I do have scissors in every room, but this is one of the reasons. But then I have to like pick those little plastic tag pieces off the floor because they always fall on the floor. I basically just see a tiny row of annoying dominoes after I do the fun part of opening the boxes and knock over the line of dominoes. Now it's not going to take forever. The whole thing will probably take 20 minutes, start to finish. But I just don't feel like doing it. I just don't want to. I don't want to now. What's funny is for the last couple of days I keep saying, okay, I'll just do it once Annie gets in bed. Like somehow I need complete solitude and zero interruptions in order to open these boxes. That is hilarious and completely untrue. I can just do the thing when my kids are around. It's not even hard. But sometimes I get tripped up by that old thought that I used to have that the chores I keep putting off will only get done if they get my undivided non parenting attention. And I have actually found the opposite to often be true. Doing the thing with my kids around, it keeps me more focused on the thing. It's sometimes a little more efficient because I'm having to focus on other things that are happening around me. And so I move a little bit quicker. Other times it helps me be a little less precious about the task and the speed of it because it's okay if I get interrupted, you know, it's all right. It's I procrastinated this long. So the seventh way that I get stuff done when I don't feel like it is, I do it when my kids are around. Number eight. I set timers super straightforward, right? But sometimes incredibly helpful in moments of peak lack of motivation. I can say, okay, let's just do this for 10 minutes. After 10 minutes, we can stop. Like, I'm a we. You know, there's two of me. There's the unmotivated task, doing part of me, and then the inner cheerleader, like holding a stopwatch. But it helps. Tasks we don't want to do, they often feel that way because the end seems so far from where we are, right? The task is boring or gross or hard or annoying, and we can't imagine ever being done with it. But 10 minutes, 10 minutes is always just 10 minutes. And then often after the timer goes off, if I'm not done, I kind of have enough momentum going already and a reminder of how much I love flow and despise urgency, that I'll just finish, right? So number eight, I set timers. Number nine is like a little bit weird, but super helpful. Sometimes it is. I do what I call get up countdowns. If I'm super tired and just cannot get up off the couch, but I know I need to because dinner has to be made or the groceries have to be put away or a kid needs help with homework, I'll give myself a little countdown to get up. Like, I'll literally count down on my head, sometimes even out loud. I'll take breaths in between the numbers, and I'm just like, okay, we're gonna get up in 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. And then I get up after I say one. It's almost like. It's almost like I know I can be a grown up, like, I can get up, but it's also okay that it's hard not to. So giving myself three or five or ten seconds to gear up for it sometimes really helps. And finally, number 10, I ask for help or I ask for solidarity. When I'm gearing up to do the thing I don't want to do and I'm, you know, whining about it, or I just can't imagine finishing it, or I legitimately don't see how I'm going to be able to finish it for whatever reason, I either ask for help or I ask for solidarity. I ask for help from somebody to help me do it. You know, now that person might be my future self. One of my kids, my husband, my mom, a friend. If something really needs doing and I'm just not in a place to get it done because of mental or physical health issues that day or a schedule that just kind of went haywire, right? I'LL ask someone else to help me or if I'm just kind of like about it, I will text somebody who I know won't try to fix it but will also like with me. It's usually somebody who feels that same way about the same thing. You know, they just understand. And that solidarity is weirdly galvanizing. It takes my my puddle of emotions and it sucks them up into this tube of understand, which is a sentence I'm not sure anyone has ever said before. But does that make sense? Solidarity does in fact solidify us. It makes what was all over the place feel more put together simply because it happened some somebody just saw us in this moment. Being seen is really quite powerful. So in summary, the 10 ways that I get stuff done when I don't feel like it are I remember how much I hate urgency. I find motivation and enjoyment in keeping my home in a reasonable flow. I depend on systems for the stuff I hate. When I actively choose to not do something for a minute, I fill that time with enjoyment, not distraction. I start small. I do something I like while doing something I don't. I do hard things with my kids around. I set timers, I do get up countdowns. And I ask for either help or solidarity. Now, as always, the purpose of this list isn't to say that you should do or feel the same way as me. We're all different, right? But I do hope it puts to word some things that might be helpful for you as you create your own little your own little toolkit of doing stuff even though you don't feel like it. And that's how I get stuff done when I don't feel like it. All right, if you are listening to this episode within a day of it coming out, the newest, latest lazy letter is landing in inboxes. This Wednesday, February 5th, I'm going to be sharing book reviews of the like 10 or so books I read this month, one of which is almost certainly going to be in my top five of the year. And another that that is by far the scariest book I've ever read that I could not put down. I don't know how high it's gonna be right now. It's number two behind the one I just said would be in a top five. Like two fantastic books that I just read. I will also be sharing how an approach to New Year goals has been working really well for me, like in a way that it never has in my whole entire life. How I have set some peaceful boundaries for myself in recent weeks that are generally working pretty well and then some comically relatable words about kids and movies. If you are new around here, you might not know this, but my kids, they all hate movies. Like as a concept. They they say it's got too much escalating conflict. That's the quote. It's pretty great. But we've actually had like a couple of success stories in recent weeks regarding movies and this feels well worth documenting because a lot of you were like very invested in my children liking movies. So if you would like to get this newsletter, you can sign up@the lazygeniuscollective.com join all right, before we go, let's celebrate the Lazy Genius of the Week. This week it's Blake Batura, and this is a little bit longer, but this is what Blake writes. I have recently been applying the Meal Matrix concept to all the movies and shows that I keep meaning to watch but never actually do. Because by the time I'm actually sitting down on the couch, I cannot fathom making one more decision. So I divided shows and movies up into buckets. A few of mine are stuff I don't really have to pay attention to visually pretty, plotty and exciting when I'm in a funk. Seasonal and Reliable go tos. Then I populated each bucket with a few options, some that I've seen many times before and some that are new to me. Finally, I made two decide once rules for myself. Number one, if I can't or don't want to choose a category, the default is Reliable go tos. And number two, if I can't or don't want to decide within a category, I automatically choose the one below. Whatever I watched. Most recently, I have already watched so many of the things that had previously been languishing away on my list. I can already see so many other places this concept could be. Adapted Games for game night restaurants we've been meaning to try Weekend Adventures Wardrobe Choices so many. This is so great Blake. Again, it's just another example of how the Lazy Genius principles refuse to be put in a box. They are so versatile, so applicable to all kinds of things. You just listed a bunch. You just have to start by naming what matters to you around a challenge that you're having and then try a principle and see how it helps. So this is so fun and a great idea for getting through the shows you actually want to see. So thanks for sharing Blake, and congratulations on being the Lazy Genius of the Week. This episode is hosted by me, Kendra Adachi, an executive produced by Kendra Adachi, Jenna Fisher and Angela Kinsey. The Lazy Genius Podcast is enthusiastically part of the Office Ladies Network. Special thanks to Leah Jarvis for weekly production. Thanks, y'all, for listening. And until next time, be a genius about the things that matter and lazy about the things that don't. I'm Kendra, and I'll see you next week.