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Man, what a great way to start. All right, first, I am so glad that Furley Stopped planning for a season. For someone who is wired like a planner and loves order and completed tasks, as I know Furley does, because I'm also an enneagram one, this, like, this is huge. Genuinely so, Furley, I'm just really proud of you and anyone else out there who chooses to not plan during a specific season because you need the permission to let go. Like, oh my gosh, I love it so much. And I also get the confusing on ramp back to the path of planning thing. I get that I've gone through seasons where I didn't make a single to do list and then I was like a little disoriented when it was time to start back up again. I deeply understand. Okay, so Furley asked help me find the slow on ramp to where I was before. I think this is the key phrase from your question, Furley. I don't think your goal should be a slow on ramp to where you were before. I wonder if it's a slow on ramp to what you need right now. It's easy to think that when we get back into something, whether it's planning, meal planning, movement, chores like what have you, that we need to get back to where we were before. We have a standard in mind, which is normal because it's what we know. But if we make that standard the goal right out of the gate, I think we'll be overwhelmed and not know where to begin. Hence Furley's question. So my response is to just do what you need today. You don't have to make sure that whatever you choose today is going to fall in line with what you do tomorrow and the next day, and that by next week you're going to be, you know, like back in the saddle. You might need to ride a different horse altogether. So if you're going from nothing to something, make this something small and just start today. Now, since I know you have a playbook for elite, let's start there. Flip to the end of January. Go to the page titled before moving on. You know, so before moving into February, remember that place is where you can answer questions that, that help sort of center you exactly where you are before you start getting locked into planning energy. So maybe just start by answering those questions of what's making you feel like yourself right now. Is there anything you're being really hard on yourself about? What do you need to remember before you start thinking about planning this month? Like on a soul level? Just be where you are. Like, be a person. Answer those questions and then if you're up for it, you can make a small list of essentials for today, like no planner or playbook needed after today. You might step into the February section of your winter playbook and see what happens. Now, instead of starting with the brain dump pages, especially if your brain is like kind of fairly calm after a season of not planning, just start with a page called Notice and adjust. Think about where you are in February, what you're excited about, what your limitations are and what matters to you that can ground any small step of planning that you choose to do next. Something I've been reminding myself of lately is that I'm gonna. I'm gonna do this forever. I'm gonna plan and tend home and love my family for the rest of my forever. So I don't really need to be in a rush. I don't need to get it right, whatever that means. I don't have to like handle every single day the same way. I can go slow. I can take my time, notice and adjust and be okay, not always getting back to where I was. Sometimes seasons leave us somewhere different and that's good. I hope that helps. Furley, thanks for sending in your question. Okay, I'm going to read these next two in tandem. While the questions are like specifically different, I would give a similar answer to both. So I'm going to read both. Here we go. First we have Trish. What do you do when you think you are killing it at being a lazy genius, but then your spouse doesn't agree with what you are being lazy about? He thinks that I should be a genius at this thing. Example, dinner. It's always dinner. How do you adjust? I feel like I'll have to be a genius about everything and can never be lazy. Yes, I know. That's an absolute statement. This makes me irritable and feel defeated. Okay, that's Trish. The second one is from Renee. It has come to my attention that I am not on top of general house tasks like preventative maintenance, seasonal tasks, et cetera, looking for a system that is genius but feels lazy to make this routine, have everything ish covered and be able to co own this system with the other adults in the house. Please and thank you with a smiley face. Okay. I am not going to assume that Renee is also feeling irritable and defeated like Trish and it's just trying to hide it behind perkiness. But I've also done this long enough to know that that could be true. The phrase it has come to my attention is the key phrase here. Along with the co owns the system with the other adult in the house. Okay. The through line that I see in both of these questions is that there is something in the home that one person cares about more than the other that is so deeply normal, so common. We even have an entire episode about it. If you're in this situation, you can go listen to episode 235 when you disagree on what matters. We also have episode 325, 235 and 325. Same numbers, flip them. Dealing with differences on how something is done. Right. We have whole episodes. This is a whole thing. Now, I cannot give Trish or Renee practical answers here on like how to care about dinner more or how to like regularly change the air filters. Well, I mean, I could. Trish, if your husband cares about dinner, he can help make it happen. Like if he says he has a job and can't, my guess is that you do too, even if it's one at home. So there could be a lovely partial solution here where he makes something slightly Sunday night, that's for Monday night's dinner. So that's one night that's like a dinner that he enjoys. And then maybe you pick another weekday where you do focus more on dinner. It's more like a meet and three situation. And then the other days are lazier. So that's like a partial solution that your husband can be part of. Renee, you could use calendar alerts to ping you and your partner for seasonal tasks and then decide each month, like, who's going to cover what you're supposed to do that month. Like, those are, I suppose those are practical ideas. But the work here for both of these is a conversation. Remember a couple weeks ago when we were talking about becoming a better problem solver? One of the ways you do that is by looking for invisible problems. Trish, if your husband's expectations of you and dinner make you irritable and defeated, you need to tell him that you don't need to google a slew of new recipes. Renee, if you are using your Mary Poppins sing song voice to hide the fact that you have been given a new set of responsibilities on top of the mountain, you already have and you're trying to have a good attitude about it and co own it while you are the sole owner of most other things, you need to have a conversation about the division of labor rather than ask me how to remember to call the tree guy. That reminds me, you could also listen to episode 337, how to Lazy genius division of labor. Now hear me loud and clear, Trish. And Renee, I am using you both as examples of typical male female partner dynamics. I am not coming from your husbands. I'm not saying that they are losers or they don't care. I'm also not assigning feelings to you that are not there. You're simply really, really good examples of something that is extraordinarily common. A woman who is starting to feel permission to not be amazing at everything, and a man who has not yet gotten on board with that idea. So look for the invisible problem first. Listen to those other episodes if you think they will help. And for the practical problems of dinner and household maintenance, both of which are sections in bookstores and therefore big problems that need to be made smaller, try episode 298, how to keep up with Household Habits. Or you could go watch episode three of the Lazy Genius Kitchen video series. That is a video where I help Erin Moon, who is hilarious and lovely. I help her, like, meal plan and make regular dinners on a regular basis. You can find the link to that in the show notes or you just go Google it on YouTube. Just making sure you guys know about those videos. The Lazy Genius Kitchen video series. There are six of them, y'. All. They are so fun. They are so fun. I. When I remembered it, I, like, clicked on it. I was like, oh, there's a video with Aaron. I got sucked in, watched the whole thing. My stomach hurts from laughing. It's just so funny. And also really helpful, as are all the videos. I go into real kitchens of real people, some of whom you know, like Sharon McMahon, Annie Downs, Andy Baxter of Penny and Sparrow. It's just a really, really good time. They're like one of the most fun things I've ever done. And so if you didn't know about them, go watch. You'll have a good time. Go watch my video with Erin, have a good laugh, get some helpful ideas, but don't do any of that. Trish, Renee, anyone who relates to this, don't do any of that as a way to ignore the invisible problems. It'll just stay a problem until you tend to it. So keep an eye out for invisible problems. All right, this next one is a fun one. Heather asks, can you help me? Lazygenies, what to wear. I don't want to do a closet rehaul. I do not have time, energy, or money for that. But I don't know what to wear, how to decide what to wear, and I just wear the same stuff over and over. I'm a teacher mom, perimenopausal woman, and I Literally do not know what to wear. Send help, please. Heather is ready for some help. Okay, first, yet again, I'm going to give you another episode to listen to, y'. All. I have so many podcast episodes. Episode 333 is 7 Ways to Always know what to wear. So just go listen to that. But my immediate thought when I read this question is to do what you're already doing, which is kind of wearing the same thing over and over, but do it with an outfit formula you like better. So let's say that right now you wear jeans, a top, and a cardigan, like, every day, over and over again. Maybe your jeans are one particular shape or fit. Your tops are probably one particular shape or fit. Same for your cardigan. What if you swapped out one of those items for a different shape or fit like a wide leg pant as opposed to slim an oversized blazer instead of the cropped cardigan? Just change like one piece in the formula for a different shape. Or you could go on Pinterest. You can browse something like teacher outfit ideas, because, you know, teachers want to be comfortable. You got to move around all the things you don't want to be fussy. And you could pick an outfit formula that is different from yours that you like, and then just repeat that as often as you repeat what you're already doing. Like, if you already are comfortable repeating, just keep repeating with something new. But I will say go listen to a full answer in the form of that podcast episode, 7 Ways to Always Know what to Wear. Or you can search Lazy Genius Style or Lazy Genius Outfit, and you can find a number of resources that I've made over the years that could help. It's easy to start small, I promise. Okay, this next one is a really tender question from Stacy. Stacy writes. Hi, Kendra. I'm coming out of one of the hardest seasons of my life. Caring for sick parents, losing them both, then going through all their stuff and distributing their estate and selling their house. And now I don't know what to do or who I am and what I enjoy. What matters? Finding my tiny joys? What are some small steps I can take to find them? Oh, Stacy, like, we. We are with you in this. I know that if you shared this in our Facebook group, you would have, like, the biggest onslaught of kindness headed your way. This is real and hard, and I know that there are people listening who are grateful you asked this because they're in the same place. I'm going to offer one thought based on the wording of your question. You asked what Small steps you can take to find small joys. My encouragement is that you replace the word find with the word notice. Finding is more work, and you might not have the energy for that right now, but you might have the energy to notice what's already there. So every day, try and notice one small thing that brings you joy, that makes you smile, that makes you breathe deeply, that makes you laugh. Don't go hunting for them. I don't think that's the best place to start because then you've given yourself a job. Unless you need that job. Sometimes that's the case. But noticing is different. Noticing is just having an eye out for what already exists, not for something you have to go out and discover. If you're up for it, you could keep like a little tiny notebook by your bed or somewhere you commonly go and write down the tiny joy that day before you go to sleep. It could be as simple as, like noticing a really beautiful bluebird you looked at for longer than usual, or a song that came on that you hadn't heard in that made you smile, or a memory of your folks that made you laugh. It's like your own little joy log. And remember that joy isn't the same as happiness. Joy is deeper. It's rooted in what matters, not in what is happening. And I know that what's happening right now is really hard. I would Also, it reminds me Kate Bowler, who a lot of you listening are familiar with. Her next book comes out April 7, which is still a couple months away, but it would be great for this. It's called Joyful. Anyway, this is what the description says. New York Times bestselling author and Duke University professor Kate Bowler offers a profound, funny, and deeply human case for joy that doesn't depend on everything getting better. Stacy, that might meet you right where you are. I know April 7th is a long way, but this is also a lifelong path to walk. And I bet intentional words around being joyful anyway will land well anytime you read them. Appreciate you sharing your story with us. All right, our next question is from Larissa. We live in a small house that is the right size for our family, but becomes too small when we have out of town guests. Stay. Where do I have people sleep when all of the rooms in the house are already maxed out? We have an office that my husband needs available, a kid's room for our two kids, and a bedroom for my husband and I. Okay, my first question is, why do the out of town guests have to stay at your home at all? I mean, I can Imagine, like it's a budget issue for the people traveling. It could be a desire to be hospitable, like you want to be hospitable. Any number of things could, could be why. But I would start there. Like, why do they need to sleep at your house? They could spend the day there, you know, you could spend all day together, but then they go to an Airbnb or a hotel close by for sleeping and then they come back the next day and everybody's refreshed and not stepping over each other. I also wonder if this is a situation where you used to live in a home that could support out of town guests like parents or in laws or whatever, but now you either have more children or maybe you moved into a smaller home. Essentially what used to work doesn't anymore. But you haven't been able to adjust the accommodation expectations of those, those guests in this new season. And you just might need to do that. You know, you can say like, hey, we used to be able to house you here, but we just have so many large children now. We love when you visit, but we need to find another place for you to sleep when you're in town. Now, if that feels too hard because someone's feelings will get hurt or because expectations are upside down, that's another version of an invisible problem. This doesn't need to be a conversation about sleeping bag creativity. It needs to be a conversation about expectations. And this might sound harsh, and I'm not saying this is true of your situation, but for anyone listening who has been in a similar situation, if it is too confrontational to ask your parents or in laws to stay somewhere else because you literally like don't have beds for them, and you know they're going to take it personally or be offended or act passive aggressively or whatever, and they're not going to like, try and repair the situation with you. You can just set a boundary and be done. You can say we love it when you visit, but sadly we don't have the space for you to sleep here. Thanks for being flexible and let us know if we can help with hotel recommendations. Sometimes we make decisions and accommodations for people who do not really want to be in authentic relationships with us. If that's the case, what have you got to lose in setting a boundary? You're not losing much in the relationship if you can't have that conversation without conflict. So set a boundary that you need to set. Be kind and move on. All right, this next question is from Laura. It has the nester written all over it. Laura Asks after I put away all the Christmas decorations, I couldn't figure out what to put back into my living room, dining room, et cetera. So now it's bare. I have lots of options stored in bins in my attic, but most of it's old or outlived its usefulness. Think dusty silk floral arrangements. Or I'm just sick of looking at the same old stuff. What matters? A pleasingly decorated home that's also not too cluttered looking. What doesn't matter? Seasonality. I don't want to have to switch things out too often. Do I just go out and procure all new stuff? Okay, Laura, what is marvelous is that you are doing the exact right thing right now. You are living in an empty room. And according to my favorite home, lazy genius, the Nestor, that is exactly what you're supposed to do first. She calls it quieting the space. And when you do that, you let the room sort of speak for itself about what it wants to be, how it wants to function, where the light comes in, how it can welcome and serve the people who live in your home. So take advantage of the fact that you already have naturally quieted your space. That's, like, so hard for a lot of people because it feels like work, because you have to, like, move everything out. You've already. You're in an empty room. You're magically starting at the right spot. So the nester's actual name is Mikwellen Smith, and her book House Rules is a collection of 100 house rules to help you decorate and enjoy your home. Rule 36 is quiet the house. You're doing that. It will be a wonderful teacher. Rule 37 is, does your room look good naked? It might. It also might not. But you can identify that only when it is naked. Two other rules that you might try are rules 68, clutter your collection, not clutter. Cluster your collections. And 69, the rule of pineapple. Okay, Cluster your collections is taking things you already have that are alike, that you love, or even just like a little bit, bring them together in one space as a decoration. Mercury glass, old green books, globes, whatever. You might have things scattered about that when brought together as one, it could feel really fresh and fun. And then the rule of pineapple is a go to favorite. It has been one of mine for years. Michael Lynn has been teaching this forever. I love it so much. Her advice is that when you're trying to decorate a room and you go looking for something new, look for things that are bigger than a pineapple. You'll get more bang for your visual buck because big things have more impact than small ones in decorating, not in. Not in most things. We like small things more than big things, but not on your shelves. And you're also spending less money generally because you're spending it on one big thing as opposed to like a lot of small things. So Laura, maybe you look at your in your bins that you said you're storing your home decor and look for things bigger than a pineapple. Look for collections or just look for one piece that you love and then go to like a thrift store or consignment store and keep an eye out for something similar to that thing that could start a collection. You might not realize this, but you are just in the perfect position to start decorating your room again. So take your time and give Mike Woolen's book House Rules a try. It's big, beautiful, full of pictures. A Hundred Rules is just the best. Next we have Justine Justine says, I have a really hard time starting life administrative tasks like paying bills, scheduling doctor's appointments, et cetera. It feels like a boulder that I need to push down a hill. A lot of effort to start, but once I do, I'm rolling down the hill with ease and speed. What matters? Batching all or some of the non urgent admin tasks so I can focus and knock them out as I gain momentum. Future me is so happy when these tasks are at least done monthly and not put off until I have quarterly or yearly situations that I have to catch up on. How can I get that going? Man, this is so real. Justine, do you know what I think you should do? I think you should put a monthly admin day on the calendar, but make it fun. My favorite idea is to do this kind of thing with a friend. Like make a date at a coffee shop or just go to one of your homes. As long as they're like aren't a lot of children around who can interrupt. Maybe that would be fine depending on the age of your children. But I love doing admin tasks at the same time as someone else. Or if getting together in person isn't a thing because like your best friend lives in another state, you could do it by FaceTime or Zoom. You're just like body doubling the task with a pal who's doing the same thing. Now since you might not always be able to rely on someone else doing this with you, especially at first, just do something fun when you're done, do all your admin things and then like go get a fun Coffee, browse a bookstore, Watch a movie on your couch. Like mark the end with a little celebration that you stick to. Or you could put something like really special and mark it at the beginning. Like, I know this sounds really silly, but I think when you light a candle, when you start a task is weirdly helpful. It's like I am doing this really important thing and then when I'm done, I get to blow the candle out. Like, I just gotta love using candles when you start something like that. But it is no joke to deal with admin stuff like this. Nobody likes it. So if you know that you'll be happy once you start. I just would make it easier to start by putting it on the calendar so you can't move it around, doing it with someone or having something fun waiting for you at the end. And I would say don't worry about like systemizing this or repeating it just yet. Just try something once this month and see how it goes. Okay, next is Hannah. Y' all are gonna love this. Hannah's energy is so great. Hannah writes. Kendra, please help me wash my hair. I am a full time teacher and mom of three kids aged 4 to 11 and I have no hair wash routine. I mean, I wash my hair, but randomly and begrudgingly. The timing is the problem. I'm up very early when it's still dark out and freezing cold, and I just hate the whole process of getting hair wet at this point, especially as the hair dryer wakes others who do not have to rise so early. I can do it later in the evening after bedtimes, but I find I'm too tired and get frustrated because the zing of the shower and shampoo wakes me up and I don't get to sleep as well after school. I feel like there's other priorities that come first, like making dinner or just spending time with my precious little ones who I haven't seen all day. My hair needs washing about every two to three days and I'd like to have a routine that doesn't feel so painful. Thank you. I'm now off to jump in the shower on this cold, dark morning and just do it. Hannah, listen. I could not understand this more. You used the word begrudgingly. Oh my gosh. It is such a begrudging task. I hate washing my hair. Like, why is it the worst chore of all the chores? It takes so much time and the hair is wet. The hair is wet. Make it stop. Okay, so today I have to wash my hair because it's definitely time and I'm dreading it. Like, I just cannot explain to you how much I relate to this question. Okay, now here is the thing. There are times where I don't dread washing my hair. I do not dread washing my hair when I do it on days that are not rushed. So I usually wash my hair on Sunday mornings. That's one of my locked times. I do it before we go to church. Cause we don't have to leave the house until well after 10 o'. Clock. That leaves me plenty of time to like still be a person and a mom and also someone who has clean dry hair that day. Washing my hair does not feel like a chore. So find a day, one day that is not a chore where washing your hair does not feel like a chore. Maybe it's the weekend. It doesn't even have to be the morning. It could be like during lunch on a Saturday when everybody is like mostly tended to and activities are over or whatever. Like go wash your hair, don't feel the rush. Be excited that it could stay wet if you wanted to without you having to like go into the early morning cold. Or you can run the hair dryer without it bothering anyone. If you do that once a week, that's one hair wash time taken care of. So find one time a week where it's not a chore. Now you can make the second time that you wash your hair every week a bit of a decide. Once you can decide that you will wash your hair one afternoon a week, okay? Cause you said that afternoons could work. But do one afternoon a week and on that day you will have your easiest brainless, crowd pleasing dinner. Okay? Like playing your hot dogs, right? We have that concept like go ahead and pick what your easy meal is going to be. So have a meal on hair washing day that requires no prep or real time so that you can wash your hair and you still have time to be with your kids after you get home from work. So now you've washed your hair twice a week. Sometimes when we have situations like this, we forget that we like what we do. One day does not have to happen every single day. So like on the day that you wash your hair in the afternoon, you'll have a lazy dinner. That doesn't mean that every dinner has to be lazy. On that one afternoon a week you might have like a few minutes less with your kids because you're washing your hair. But that's not the case every afternoon, right? It's one day and you're preventing annoyance and frustration throughout the week, which is Worth eating cereal and eggs for dinner. And then sometimes you'll just take a shower on a cold, dark morning and just do it. But isn't it nice that you have the other options, like locked in each week so that's not what you always have to do. I hope that helps you wash your hair. All right, our next question is from Kelsey. I am a wife and mom to three elementary school age kids and I work part time outside of my home midweek. I also just started a master's program. Mondays are my day to reset the house, do laundry and plan for the week. My struggle comes when my kids are randomly out of school for sporadic school holidays like this past Monday. It always makes the weeks feel like they are starting behind and it's hard to catch up. Now with my master's program, I don't have a ton of margin. We also host our church's college group on Tuesday nights, which means my house cannot be a bomb because otherwise there's nowhere to sit. What matters is making some decide once decisions for those sporadic, weird weeks. So I'm not exhausting myself trying to reinvent the wheel every time those days come up. Even though this is involving like a school year schedule, this concept is very familiar to all of us. Kelsey, I like, I totally feel this Monday is my personal domestic catch up day too. We have our team lazy genius meetings on Mondays. I'll do like a little admin on the computer, but then I'm leaving to get groceries and meal prepping and I'm washing my own laundry and all the things before the kids come home. Why is it that so many teacher work days are on Mondays and it really does feel like it throws everything off. I feel that. So here's what I do. I anticipate those days off. I can see them coming on the calendar, right? So when you look ahead and you see a Monday where there's not going to be any school, I want you to adjust one of two things. Either adjust your domestic day to Sunday, like just bump it earlier, or adjust the amount of domestic things that you plan to do and make it smaller on that Monday where there is no school. Your decision is really about expectations. You know that you can't do the same things on Mondays with no school. So decide ahead of time to think about that day differently. It'll either need to move or the expectations of what you can get done on that day need to change. It's the same when we're suddenly in a different season of life. Or like the earlier question about housing out of town guests. Sometimes something changes, we don't spot it, and then we keep doing the same thing, but in a new situation that doesn't work as well. Your Mondays when the kids are in school will not look the same as the Mondays that they're not. But it's easy to expect that they kind of will. So adjust ahead of time, adjust your expectations, maybe adjust the day if you can. But mostly adjust your expectations and you will have the next Monday to catch up again. Two more this question is from Alyssa. How do I get myself to bed earlier? I like time to myself in the evenings, but teenagers are still in our common spaces until 10:30. I love to sit on the couch and read or watch my shows, but would really benefit from getting off the couch and going to bed. How do I stop myself from just one more chapter or just one more episode? Okay, Alyssa, I'm gonna assume that the thing keeping you from going to bed earlier is that you stay up after your teenagers go to bed so that you can enjoy the living room by yourself a little. Is that right? If that is first, I would give episode 332 a try. How to enjoy your evening hours it speak to this speaks to this a little when we have things to do in the evenings or we just can't rest and play for as long as we'd like. So that episode might help. I am in a similar season of life. I have two teenagers who go to bed between 10:30 and 11 on school nights and even later on the weekends. And like, they're always in the living room. In that time, Kaz and I still have not seen season five of Stranger Things because our kids don't want to see it, but they're always around and I can't stay up until 1am to watch a show. I am too old for that. So I get this. It sounds like the problem is twofold. You want to go to bed at a reasonable time most nights, but you also want to enjoy your books and shows too. So here's what I do. Sometimes I will read in the living room with them, but I will put headphones on, like with white noise so I don't hear whatever they're watching or doing or how they're arguing about the NFL. I am with them and I can respond easily by just like pausing my noise. But I can also just like read my book on my couch. Other nights I will just read in bed. I'll be like, let me mean it. I'm gonna go read in bed now. Come say goodnight to me and Then other nights, it's 11:30 before I go to bed because Kaz and I wanted to finish a movie that we started that the boys didn't wanna see after they initially, eventually went to bed. Now, I don't think that you have to do the same thing every single night. It's kind of like the hair washing question. You don't have to make the decision. Same decision every single night. So I wonder what would happen if you made a couple of specific decisions each week that give you what you're looking. But not every night. So maybe one weekend night a week, you stay up late because you can, because it's the weekend and that's really fun. So you just plan to. It's like, I'm going to stay up late tonight, watch my shows or read my book by myself or whatever. And then maybe one week night a week, you declare, this is Mom's living room. I'm going to watch my show on Wednesday night or whatever. Like, the living room is yours every other night, children. But on Wednesdays, it's mine. Love you. Mean it. See you later. Then on the other nights of the week, you just go to bed because you have a set time to get to do what you like. You don't feel as desperate to fit it in all the time. And you'll be content with like, just one chapter before you go to sleep at 10:30, because you know you're going to have a chance to spend longer later. Okay, our final question is from Susanna. Susanna writes, when I do my brain dumps, there are always a few items that start with decide. Things like decide what to do for fall break, decide what to do for my birthday, decide what to plant in the yard. In general, these items are the heaviest on the list because I can't do anything until I've decided how can I get better about making these types of decisions? Once I make a decision I'm good at, I'm good at getting on with all the things. The decisions really slow me down. And it's not uncommon that I don't decide anything and end up winging it, doing nothing or just bumming around because I never made a decision. So I read this question from Susanna and immediately was like, what would Emily say? So my pal, Emily P. Freeman is one of my favorite humans in all the world. My actual, like, down the street neighbor and an expert on soulful decision making. She will answer this far better than I could. So I asked her if she would, and she said yes. So here is Emily. Hi, Susanna.
